9 SUBTLE Devaluations & Signs COVERT Narcissist TOP SIGNS EXPLAINED!

9 SUBTLE DEVALUATIONS & SIGNS COVERT NARCISSIST [TOP SIGNS EXPLAINED!]// In this video I will explain the 9 very subtle signs of covert narcissism and the 9 very subtle devaluations of a covert narcissist. Covert narcissism in relationships and discuss what is a covert narcissist? There are different kinds but the covert is more subtle and sly in their abuse. This video will explain covert narcissism examples, and covert narcissist personality disorder. This is the beginning of how to spot a covert narcissist as it isn’t as easy as spotting an overt narcissist. You may be watching this if you’re wondering “how to spot a covert narcissist” or “how to identify a covert narcissist”. There are different ways to recognize a covert narcissist and their subtle devaluations and this video explains those ways.”
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[@Spiritual36]

Took me a long time to figure out I was being abused. No name calling or insults. Lots of snide remarks and sarcasm, but with a smile. Even after leaving I questioned, was it really abuse? For years doubted my gut feeling. Listening to you has taken the doubt away. He did everything you mentioned and more, hiding my things and saying he hadn't seen them, wiping my usb stick of family photos, breaking things, ignoring me in public but being so sweet when people were looking. Then back to the silent treatment once they weren't. I honestly felt as if i had gone crazy. The not using my name I could never really understand why. Makes so much sense now.

[@roseb743]

Everything you talked about, I've experienced with the Narc. I fell for the hover recently. A week later we stopped talking because I called him out. I told him how everything with him was repetitive. He came back with the same games and the rules only apply to me. I will not allow this to happen to me again.

[@sarahpacaro]

Great! Seeing it is the beginning! Good for you! Stay with your truth & strength to know & refuse to tolerate that!

[@Lauren-uc8ev]

I’m so glad you said they don’t use your name. It was the first thing I really noticed was off. He would dance around using my name. I thought maybe he wanted to remain emotionally detached. I asked him why he wouldn’t say my name. Then he started overusing it almost awkwardly too much. This isn’t mentioned enough. It was one of those first red flags to note. Avoid the heartache if something seems off, it most likely is.

[@narcfreekeekee9168]

I never noticed this. However thinking back this is true. Mines wouldn’t even store my name into his new phone Probably hiding me from his new supply.

[@redsquirrel1086]

Coverts take subtlety to another level. Mine was never directly aggressive or insulting but she had the ability to cut deeply. I didn't realise much of this at the time because I was besotted with her. It's only since the relationship ended that I have developed the clarity of thinking to realise that I was constantly being emotionally abused.

[@sarahpacaro]

Yeah - that's when you have time and room to breathe and think and see things much more clearly!

[@imooyeohiolebo5047]

I think trust in a relationship is overrated. When my husband started getting frequent night calls , i would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant. At a time i could take no more of his lies, i decided i deserve to know what was going on. A friend of mine referred me to this great ethical hacking team( Cyberhackingsage@gmail ) who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch the device. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity and how he planned on using this pandemic to get back to me. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage, GPS location , WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages (both deleted and incoming ones) with a remote link to a programmed App on my phone. I’m here in Florida and able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. If you need help or that little bit of closure, i advice you get in touch with them Via Gmail ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text and WhatsApp them on [phone]...........thank me later.

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

Yes! I remember how his EXTREME PDA and sweetness of character switched PDD (Public Display of Disdain) and open contempt. He would not only stop holding hands and hug, he would avoid me in public in a very cold way: walk away fast and make sure it looked like we were not even together, as if he didn't know me, without saying a word. And when I tried to scream back: "wait, please. Where are you going? Is everything ok?", he would be so far away that I'm not too sure if he heard me or pretended not to hear..... This happened so many times. He'd invite me to go out only to go cold on me and literally walk away and not talk - just ignore and show disgust at me right in the middle of the street, then walk away. These incidents would happen in the middle of a good day, with no arguments and no fighting prior: no any kind of conflict, smiles all day. I would be so friendly to him and his attitude switch was shocking every time, leaving me alone in tears. There's nothing I could do more to show love. Maybe he got offended because I sweetly and politely talked to him, but he wanted more: maybe I could have kneeled down and say "your magnificence", then bow my head all the way to the floor and kiss his boots in a slave-like manner? Maybe he wanted to be worshipped? I don't know, but I was hurt and shocked so much! Eventually, I (politely again) explained that I could not be in a relationship any more because I feel too unhappy and that I just couldn't continue.....I broken up with him, then cry for 6+ months in the bathroom, trying to accept the sad reality. He, on the other hand, had never shown remorse nor sadness. The day I broke up, he said nothing, and he went into a permanent discard of me: he never smiled, never frowned, never said a word, never looked at me, and never dropped a tear or anything. I felt like a piece of garbage...... I hoped that we could at least have a friendly "it's over" conversation and hug as friends for the last time, get a decent closure, forgive each other. I still feel strong physical pain in my chest remembering him.....2.5 years after the break-up.

[@lisakaler4121]

When you call them out for not wanting to hold your hand which is something they used to do they will accuse you of being to sensitive or needy. Then you start thinking you are those things which I'm not. It's a total mind freak. They love to keep you in a state of doubt and confusion. Great video, thank you.

[@sarahpacaro]

Thank you!

[@enlightenedone7083]

They completely and utterly neglect their primary supply. But complimentary to everyone else. Worst feeling ever.

[@sarahpacaro]

It absolutely is. It's not worth holding onto though - knowing that's how they are and there's nothing you can do to change them is so paramount & the beginning to healing.

[@maryhoward2660]

All narcissists walk in front of you! fact!

[@Lauren-uc8ev]

Yes he would often show me pictures of a celebrity crush with total opposite everything of me. I was kind of onto all the tactics bc they are kind of obvious mind games when dating. They just subtly try to make you jealous or doubtful of yourself although not all the time. They sprinkle it in with niceness. It’s a very weird dynamic. So many backhanded compliments. Just call them out in the moment. This seemed to catch him off guard and he would make it a joke but usually wouldn’t do it again. It just can’t really work bc they struggle to commit. They can’t give you that much credit.

[@coolcatchmyheart]

The narcissist i was with she had very bad judgment when I mentioned to her after one of her criticisms toward me she looked at me and very calmly said I accept. With a evil , sly look, total back handed compliment, as if to say she judged poorly by being with me. Too funny!

[@Ashbyee]

My ex husband is an attorney. Smug. Entitled. If I said something that he didn’t agree with, he would say: “ I am just a dumb lawyer, help me understand.” It was funny the first couple of times and then it became clear that it was condescending and he was letting me know “he was smarter.” He would say this to service people anyone. He said this early on dating, along with a few other “off” things. Run if it feels wrong.

[@thomasnorman4221]

If people knew who they are their would be nothing anyone could do to affect them

[@sjwillis1137]

Can I just say... you are good !

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Standing in line waiting to order or pay, they will keep a bigger distance than necessary. There’s this huge gap between you and where they’re standing (or sitting) to make it look like they’re not with you, or they don’t know you. Like they don’t want to be associated or seen with you in public. I think it’s to make you feel awkward or self-conscious. Weird.

[@sarahpacaro]

It all makes perfect sense when you understand it. They're not with them, they don't know them, so its no wonder they're not with and don't know you. Have you spent time with you to ask or wonder what gap is within you that has you spend time with someone who make it look like they don't know you?

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

@@sarahpacaro Thank you for that cogent rhetorical question! Spot on.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

@@sarahpacaro P.S. That person is my mother. Some of those same behaviors apply to our nearest and dearest family members, unfortunately.

[@double_down]

definitely agree on accomplishments. no praise or congrats when I graduated with my terminal degree. my narc has no degree.

[@sarahpacaro]

Congratulatins! That's quite the accomplishment and definitely deserves recognition!

[@double_down]

@@sarahpacaro thank you Sarah!!!

[@golondriz3]

Awe Sarah, I missed my consultation. I am going to try to rebook. I’m sos sorry.

[@dianeclayton4936]

My guy would speak for me in social situations, do PDA when others he wanted to impress were going to see. We would go places, like hiking and suggest we split and go different ways...or leave me so he could talk to people (to impress them with his knowledge) while we were on vacation or on an outing. He must have been caught over hair, as he always complimented and noticed my hair. Lol!

[@sarahpacaro]

Yes that's such typical Narcissist behavior!

[@cliffkolsoniii]

...yup yup, ive experienced alot of this.

[@sarahpacaro]

🥺 What have you done when it comes to healing and transforming from it?

[@thomasnorman4221]

They forgot?...what's the big deal?

[@alaysiakayebutler6299]

They don't know what you said to them

[@double_down]

my former narc would support their family and friends over me...easily.

[@sarahpacaro]

They always do!

[@double_down]

ur taken off their FB page about 6 months to 1 yr. and they don't sit by you in social gatherings.

[@rudycamposjr4147]

I hated she would have plans to do something but she needed my help and calls me on the day of

[@thomasnorman4221]

How long will it take to get to the 9 devaluations?

[@sarahpacaro]

Everyone is unique and individual, what I help people with is regardless of how long it takes to get through the devaluation stages, get to the stages of freedom from as quickly as possible. To live the life you're meant to live free from the beliefs developed from the impact of them.

[@thomasnorman4221]

We know where we're AT....we are between the A & T....never end a sentence with a preposition

[@Queen-of-Swords]

6 weeks out of a relationship like this, of 8 years. It was sooooo subtle. For years I did NOT want to move in with him. I knew he was a bit N. But I got into a situation where there was very little choice. OMG. 4 years of having my things broken. I would think how clumsy he was with crockery. Guess what though, HIS things never got chipped. We had many conversations and agreements about things, e.g. who would do what chore, and little did I realise he HATED that, as he regarded it as being told what to do. Yet he seemed happy at the time, and I thought these things were fair. e.g. a deal where I would do the homework with our daughter in the week, and he could do the weekend homework with her. So now she is great at reading, and not so hot on the maths as he never did it. This was very passive aggressive, because he would say he forgot. Essentially by the time we split, I'd been living as a single parent for 12 months or so. Of course he thinks he was being "like a butler".

[@thomasnorman4221]

If you warmed the room you could remove your jacket...