A Brit 🇬🇧 Reacts to Bollywood 🇮🇳 - 'TUMHI MERE MANDIR' from the film KHANDAN

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An analysis of number 35 on the 100 Greatest Bollywood Songs on BBC Asian Network -
'TUMHI MERE MANDIR' from KHANDAN, performed by Sunil Dutt & Nutan :)
With the stunning vocal performance of LATA MANGESHKAR!
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[@FairyAngel111]

As a 1st generation Aussie of Indian parents, I grew up listening to these songs from the 60s and 70s. This is an all time favourite. I didn’t even know this song was controversial because she loves her husband with such purity and devotion. I have always found this song to be deeply moving and still gives me goosebumps. To love anyone with such a pure heart and devotion is to experience God, because ultimately God is love. Excellent review as always. Nutan the leading lady was known for her acting and you noticed the power of her acting abilities in the subtle way she manages to express it alongside Sunil Dutt who was equally an amazing actor 💖

[@rehan2118]

I love Kangaroos

[@rehan2118]

@@britonsnazis1236 I was being sarcastic

[@nehagc]

As hero doesnt feel worthy enough due to his some shortcomings , she is trying to pull him up and let him know how much he matters to her 👍

[@samirabouyachi4432]

Goshhh look at Nutan she's amazing

[@NightRider0101]

Are you blind? She's pretty average in looks.

[@NightRider0101]

@Parth Do you know how to use just dial?

[@sanakadikkumara4500]

Just stumbled upon this video on KZbin. Such love and devotion towards their husbands is still very common across Hindu women even in 2022. It is neither a rarity nor something special. Nor it is imposed on the wives, it's very organic and natural. What is shown in the song will not seem at dramatised if you've ever been in a traditional Hindu family in pre-internet era. I've seen such devotion in my grand mother for my grandfather and in my mother for my father.... every single time. It was heavenly feeling to even see and experience so much of love ❤️

[@AvaniVee]

Love your reaction as always! And I wholeheartedly agree with your review of this song. I think whoever has criticised the lyrics of this song has completely taken it out of context, and it's lazy criticism in my view, because this person is overlooking so many aspects of the relationship that is shared between these two people - Nutan and Sunil Dutt. There is a gentleness between these characters, and a deep understanding of each other, and also an acceptance of one another. She loves him unconditionally, and sometimes you need to let somebody know what they mean to you, and this is being conveyed poetically through this song. If her husband was abusive, derogatory or dismissive toward her and she felt this devotion for him, then that would be deeply problematic indeed. But that is not the case here. I've always loved this song, and I will always love this song! Oh and btw... Sunil Dutt is Sanjay Dutt's father and Nutan is Kajol's auntie. Thank you for your lovely and on-point reaction! 😍

[@edneusadasilva3189]

Nutan é tia de kajol?nunca sei

[@kirannautiyal1450]

If anyone watches this full movie then will understand why she is saying all these words to him.... He is shown as a handicap person with step mom who every time criticise him.... He lost all his confidence on himself and thinks no girl will like him.... But fate brings luck and a girl became his friend and then circumstances make her marry him..... She was determined to evolve self confidence in him.... So she is saying that you are no less than God to me.... I love you so much that wherever I see I see you only.... I may have forget some story line because I have seen this movie many years ago....May be he had step mother or his uncle family I don't remember correctly

[@akhilamadhavan8286]

Hi, exactly, it is love and appreciation of her husband. Watch the movie, two of the finest actors. She is trying to explain her feelings to her husband how she feels about him. the strongest, most powerful feelings of vulnerability and love. He doesnt understand her devotion because of his own sense of disability

[@ankushjangral2507]

Extreme form of love and appreciation exactly❤❤❤❤

[@aminmeghani6819]

Loved how you unpacked the song....all on point!

[@TheCamerad]

Thank you! :)

[@jennymarai4959]

Every time I listen to this song makes me feel so soft inside

[@RehmanKhan-re2ok]

STUNNING SONG FULL OF LOVE N DIRECTOR DID CREAT LOVE SCENES OF HUSBAND N WIFE LATA SINGER IS D MOST MIND BLOWING SINGER SHE DID SING SO MANY UNBLV ABLE TOUCHY SONG EUROPEAN CANT FEEL DT THING

[@yashsrivastava4527]

The love shown in the video is just divine nobody in today's generation could match the innocence and dedication of the love its just sad

[@trinaasghari1082]

Love this song absolutely beautiful composition 💕💕

[@tapotimukherji4608]

Nutun was a great actress & great matured person. She had never acted in any hanky panky films. Sunil Dutt was also a very respected actor.

[@Worldwide505]

*_English Translation Of This Song._* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tum hi mere mandir, tum hi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god* कोई मेरी आँखों से, देखे तो समझे koyee meri aankhon se dekhe to samjhe *if some one was to see from my eyes they would know* कि तुम मेरे क्या हो, कि तुम मेरे क्या हो ki tum mere kya ho, ki tum mere kya ho *what you are for me, what you are for me* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tum hi mere mandir, tum hi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god* जिधर देखती हूँ, उधर तुम ही तुम हो jidhar dekhti hoon udhar tum hi tum ho *where ever I see, it is just you* ना जाने मगर, किन ख्यालों में गुम हो na jaane magar kin khayaalon mein ghum ho *but you are lost in, who knows what thoughts* जिधर देखती हूँ, उधर तुम ही तुम हो jidhar dekhti hoon udhar tum hi tum ho *where ever I see, it is just you* ना जाने मगर, किन ख्यालों में गुम हो na jaane magar kin khayaalon mein ghum ho *but you are lost in, who knows what thoughts* मुझे देखकर तुम, ज़रा मुस्कुरा दो mujhe dekhkar tum zara muskura do *look at me and smile a little* नहीं तो मैं समझूँगी, मुझसे ख़फ़ा हो nahi to main samjhungi, mujhse khafa ho *otherwise I will think you are angry with me* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tum hi mere mandir, tum hi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god* तुम ही मेरी माथे की, बिंदिया की झिलमिल -2 tum hi mere maathe ki bindiya ki jhil-mil *you are the twinkling of the dot on my forehead* तुम ही मेरे हाथों के गजरों के मंजिल -2 tum hi mere haatho ke gajro ki manzil *you are the destination of the flowers in my hands* मैं हूँ एक छोटी-सी, माटी की गुड़िया main hoon ek chhoti-si maati ki gudiya *I am just a small clay doll* तुम ही प्राण मेरे, तुम ही आत्मा हो -2 tum hi pran mere, tum hi aatma ho -2 *you are my life, you are my soul -2* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tumhi mere mandir, tumhi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god* बहुत रात बीती, चलो मैं सुला दूँ -2 bahut raat beeti chalo main sulaa doon *it is late night come let me put you to sleep* पवन छेड़े सरगम, मैं लोरी सुना दूँ - 2 Pawan chhede sargam main lori suna doon *the wind will start the tune, I will sing a lullaby for you* हममऽऽऽ humming तुम्हे देखकर ये, ख्याल आ रहा है tumhein dekhkar ye khayaal aa raha hai *looking at you the thought comes to me* कि जैसे फ़रिश्ता, कोई सो रहा हो -2 kee jaise farishta koyi so raha ho *as if an angel is sleeping* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tumhi mere mandir, tumhi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god* तुम ही मेरे मंदिर, तुम ही मेरी पूजा tum hi mere mandir, tum hi meri pooja *you are my temple, you are my devotion* तुम ही देवता हो, तुम ही देवता हो tum hi devta ho, tum hi devta ho *you are a god, you are a god*

[@abdoumbaye6545]

Nice lyrics ❤❤❤

[@Remy4556]

Nice work 👏 👌

[@shaillendrakumarpancholi7589]

Very very sweet song.

[@varshamitha5403]

Bless you for reacting on the best of the best olden day music ❤

[@sadashivchoudhari2128]

Actually she is trying to forget him disabilty and keep him happy.Because he is feeling very guilty about his condition so she encourage him through song . In song she is saying that you only my worship and God.

[@siwipradiantie1549]

It is seems like the woman is overworshipping her husband, but to me it's a form of loyalty and unconditional love because she's not leaving her partner when her partner is in the non ideal condition. It's a story of something rare these days, where many people seeks perfections on other people without thinking that anything can happen anytime, including the sudden event that cause a physical impairment 🙂

[@vs9324]

When devotion is voluntary it is love. When it is forced it is oppressive.

[@AbhishekSharma-le5zc]

Nice songs

[@diptanuchakraborty8493]

When this was practiced in the world it was a better place to live in families had virtues soo lyrics are not that bad and even religious texts encourage it be it any religion

[@vanivinayak1092]

Great film good story great performance.

[@shashankshekhar6608]

Your reaction while listening the song is 😍 love

[@Worldwide505]

6:47 *To **7:03** Best Part Of This Song.* 👌👌👌👌

[@charanjitsingh1208]

This movie is superb, two brothers live in combined family system, they got separated under greed of one's wife. Story about love before separation and anxiety after separation. Other songs also best and touching, one more song sung by Rafi. is Kal chaman thaa aaj ikk sehran hua...... thanks dear.

[@Shrivara132]

Let people think this to be overworship . They have never really loved. You merge your sense of identity with the beloved . That is why there are people who kill themselves or go insane when they lose their beloved . Though this self sacrifice need not be seen always in romantic love. Our parents do a lot for us , at the cost of their own happiness. In this world of instant gratification most of us will not understand it till we have children.

[@sadashivchoudhari2128]

This song I would like to see your both reaction (couple).

[@khaldrago1980]

Hey Please react to pyar kiya toh darna kya song from movie mughal e azam(1960),it is one of masterpiece ever created

[@ashoks5317]

This shows how husband and wife relationship in Hinduism is inseparable.

[@shabnumtv9097]

Spot on with your commentary! I agree that the lyrics, by themselves, show a self-effacement that is uncomfortable. And the fact that it came at a time when women were beginning to assert their independence and enjoy greater freedoms kinda stinks. But taken in the context of tenderness and affection as an expression of comfort and support for, and most importantly recognition of, another in their moment of doubt and self-pity, this is not subservience, it's strength. You describe it as almost maternal, and it reminds me, as a mother, of my own struggles with supporting medical needs in my family. It absolutely requires a degree of self-effacement, which is hard to understand or achieve in this age of instant and constant gratification. To see the suffering of another, and the necessity of hiding one's own fragilities at times: it's rather ironic, how Indians blithely walk past abject poverty, misery and exploitation on the streets of India, and how this is made much worse by disabilities, but be uncomfortable with seeing non-abled persons up close and personal, or on the screen. You can see here that wealth is no protection from body fascism or prejudice towards otherness of any kind. A lot of people make a fuss over the wife touching her husband's feet, the preservation of culture and all that tosh, but I would like to draw attention to one layer of that performance. Initially, the husband himself seems uncomfortable with his wife's affection, and walks away in apparent shame, with his wife following him, reassuring him. But as he grows in confidence, there is a moment when she walks away from him, and he follows her, smiling. Take from that what you will.

[@restondesi]

It is just that the times are constantly changing. 50 years back, because of patriarchy, the women were trained to treat their husbands as gods, Now in the era of full individual expression, values are different. Who knows, in the coming era of shortages, difficulties, calamities and catastrophes, the values of universal love and cooperation will take precedence over individual love.

[@diptanuchakraborty8493]

I wish to have such a wife if I deserve

[@Remy4556]

Same here....I'd love to worship and care for my husband in a similar manner ❤ But seems like I'm gonna be single forever :))

[@Youtubeshortsno.1-e4b]

But now a days culture changing very rapidly. But we like those old times

[@shantanukurkute2424]

Ek gagn ka raja ek chanan ki rani - song

[@jaikrishnakrishna6911]

Kindy upload Suraj song (Baharo phool barsao

[@vinaydwivedi992]

She is telling her husband that you are my temple, my prayer and you are my Deity, I can't tell you that what you are mean to me....

[@hannahgamadia1828]

Do you understand Hindi language? How interesting you watch l like it

[@pohordebbarma4505]

Watch Padmavat

[@simplegardeningresults7706]

If one want to know ..what is this...mine answer will.be....if you want to know...about this relation..you have to be born in india.

[@vanivinayak1092]

Where is the controversy??? Its quite normal in Hindu tradition to respect and even worship husband ...cultured women still touch their husbands feet to receive blessings .... there are various kinds of worship in the Hindu religion one of the ways and means to achieve God for women is to achieve through the worship of her husband .... Sach women who worship their husband and who are devotee to their husband are called " Sati " it is said that Satis acquire a lot of power by the purity of their mind and their devotion only to their husband.... it is said that no arm can come to the husband of a Sati as long as she is alive..... That besides in the Hindu tradition married women observe a lot of religious fastings to ensure health and success and long life for their husbands.... Also in India being a married woman is a matter of pride because the married woman gets to apply red vermilion on their head and also get to wear colourful bangles and other ornaments which makes the woman complete .... so among the various ornaments of the women are husband is also considered to be an ornament.

[@cleo5793]

I think she is trying to snap him out of his depression because he is paralysed. I'm glad that you appreciate Indian culture but your pronunciation needs major work.. saying that in a kind and constructive manner.

[@manofagoodwill4610]

Can you please react to 👉the lady of heaven trailer? The movie was shown in AMC Theaters in the US and it had a very long and successful run there. The next move most likely is for it to be shown in other countries and soon after that it will have a worldwide release via movie streaming platforms ❤️❤️

[@kritanjalimaltiar4377]

I am glad you understood the context of the song and appreciated it but usually western eyes will criticize because they are biased. This song does not undermine the equality of the relationship.

[@Youtubeshortsno.1-e4b]

In india it's reality that wife worships his husband

[@sahilprasad1754]

This song is problematic because of patriarchy. Husbands are not God. They deserve mutual love and not to be worshipped like God

[@tarangj]

In india in older days it was taught tat ur loyal to just 1 person n love him so much tat u see god in him, husbands are not god true n no one is...but understand indian culture not like tday have sex with many people n love many ....it was like just love one person in tough times too...dont leave him just because he is useless...modernization doesnt mean dont love ur husband...love after certain time becomes divine...for anyone...so pls try n understand indian culture...n wen u dont do tat wat is happening in tdays world we all know. It is said tat if u cant love one person truly then wat is the guarantee tat u will love other woman or man truly?? Another woman or man in anyones life just causes destruction nothing else.itihaas gawah hain dost..so indian culture is very rich n full of good things..the only thing which i was against was sati pratah child marriage n bali pratah...rest indian culture is too good n rich.

[@sahilprasad1754]

@@tarangj So much love I Indian culture that you would never find a husband touching the feet of his wife in history. Spare your gyaan for someone chauvinist dumb ffs

[@bahaar2825]

Goddess Sita was a loving devoted wife who worshipped her husband Lord Ram and idolized him. Mortal husbands or wives may not be gods, but the ones who are genuinely in love, will always see each other as their god and goddess.🙏

[@varshamitha5403]

Agreed to some extent but you need to know the story line of the movie to understand her devotion. His love and respect towards her was mutual.