A Case for Active Listening: Jason Chare at TEDxTokyoTeachers

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[@clarachare2280]

This is my husband Jason Chare. He passed away on June 19, 2021, one day before Father’s Day. He was diagnosed with a blood cancer in 2018 which he fought bravely without taking time off nor complaint. After making this video, Jason continued this work in Canada. He worked for the Crisis Line Association of BC and then was instrumental in forming Crisis Services Canada as the Director Operations. This allowed people to call one number from anywhere in Canada. 150,000 calls were answered since its start. He has left a legacy of compassion and kindness and care in the mental health industry. He is survived by his partner of 20 years and his two young sons. RIP my love.

[@lydiarhiannon624]

Oh I feel your sadness. This is such a beautiful talk and I feel so many people could benefit from hearing it, he seemed like such an open man and easy to talk to. My heart goes to you, i hope you may be able to feel my love for you and your family. May he be at peace knowing he helped so many thousands of beautiful souls, leaving behind a legacy for many to follow in his footsteps and admire the path he walked and the life he lived ❤ Rest in peace Jason ❤

[@blablabla936]

❤ I am so sorry

[@bernadettgaramvolgyi1781]

I watched this as advised by my teachers at a crisis call centre that I'm training at - then I saw this comment. Broke my heart. Your husband seemed like a wonderful man. I'm so sorry for your loss. May his legacy live forever.

[@nayni72]

I am energetically sending you a massive hug and best wishes whilst you navigate this difficult journey.

[@maatlam4607]

RIP to him❤ god bless you

[@iziahmontgomery1271]

RIP Jason. Thank you for your services towards humanity.

[@yandahamilemba]

Awesome: 1. Empathetic listening (no judgement) 2. Reflecting emotions

[@patrickdelaneyzzz3385]

This person is worth listening to. He is filled with deep practical wisdom. He is also an amazing speaker who delivers a powerful message (He doesn’t need any props or PowerPoint-He has Person-Power) Thank your so much for your valuable insights

[@jenyeefa]

Takeaways for me... - it’s so much more about active listening than talking. - Others might be seeking advice, but what’s more valuable is the time and space afforded to unpack their own perspective. - Silence and listening is the playing field. Once we have silence, can fill it with Unconditional Positive Regard - don’t judge others - don’t form opinions when listening to others - reflecting feelings: that is where you work. You reflect it back to help them with clarity and movement - before you give your opinion, take a deep breathe and start listening for the feelings

[@alicelama2034]

Am a volunteer for the Samaritans in England. Your talk says everting that we were taught in six months. Will play it each month just to reiterate best practise. Thank you.

[@meteyazici2725]

Thank you Jason and TELL for highlighting the importance of a skill which so underestimated in our lives. Jason, my friend, Rest in Peace. It was an honor to know you. For those of you who listen to this video from now on, please share it so that Jason's message gets heard by many people around the world.

[@mwebb4949]

An under-rated talk by a great speaker. Share this one with your friends and family and help improve their relationships.

[@tamakikano]

I spent a lot of hours looking for an article or clip that explained "non-judgmental listening." You're a gem, Mr. Jason Chare.

[@bobdawson1030]

So sorry to hear of Jason's death Clara - my heart goes out to you and the kids - what a beautiful legacy he has left us. I look forward to carrying on as a distress centre volunteer (should my application be successful) in his honour .....

[@marylynnswanger6788]

I found this video to be very informative and actually listened to it several times. Exercises like these are used in the mental health field to really hear what someone is feeling, not just how they are feeling. Thank you.

[@anjali28897]

An impressive talk on the importance of listening. Love the way how he broke it down to silence and empathy and validating feelings. Prior to this, I used to think feelings are just distractors and that what we are taught. Loved the way he said "what is true is what you feel".Listening is clearly underrated. Reminds me of what my grandma used to say to me "Make a proper use of your two ears when you are with me".

[@catherineevashuk1767]

So inspiring. A good reminder we can all help each other.

[@leventakses1185]

I have just given the time just by chance to listen to this. this can save lives instead of thinking about telling people this is the right way to think as im guilty of in a fair way its about listening more ok ill try this method it might help the people that im trying to help feel more comfortable i thankyou sir for your gift of knowledge xx

[@ChristieLePage1]

Thank you! Please keep sharing this amazing message.

[@michelezitiello358]

Thank You

[@adnanshamsi4894]

That’s a great point @6:03

[@gomapoudelsharma6599]

May your soul rest in peace Jason!

[@susie2063]

Such a beautiful presentation. Thank you for sharing :)

[@HannemannTraining]

great talk - outstanding among all the talks about active listening. thank you. will now listen again.

[@beautyforashes8964]

I loved this am doing counselling in Cpcab great talk very easy explained thank you 😊

[@danielmontealegre7604]

it would have been funny if at the end he said thanks for listening and thanks for the advice

[@brin2928]

This video is *amazing*

[@julianchosun]

This was really interesting; glad to catch some of the history to the practise.

[@danynget1006]

that is great idea( Cambodain Teacher)

[@ezry1846]

I disagree - Sympathy has little to do with pity. Sympathy is more to do with understanding someone else's situation - you resonate emotionally with them - even if you have not experienced what is upsetting, or distressing, to them yourself. Which is different to empathy. Not sure why sympathy is under attack. It's probably too late to save it from it's original meaning now though, as pity has been so closely tied to it, nowadays it has now taken on a new identity.