A Chinese Kid Calls My Child Ugly: Life as a Biracial Family in China

[@elongaabigail8636]

They learn it from their parents

[@islandsun8235]

Having half-breed is a problem for the kids.

[@lhynnperaz84]

Well said

[@BettyThompson-qn7cl]

Exactly

[@QrannBadal-j2b]

Please protect the mental health of your child please

[@SelenaKnight-n7h]

They see ''ugly'' where others see beauty.

[@tonyajohnson372]

They are beautiful children!!

[@thebonesfamily]

Thank you! 😊 We feel so lucky to have them.

[@sandyderoche1082]

​@TheBonesFam guys can you do vids on how to move to China? Can you retire in China, attractions in China, cost of living videos like that they are lots of people looking to leave the west.

[@Am_Manasa]

He has hair like a girl

[@thebonesfamily]

@@sandyderoche1082 Thanks for the suggestion!

[@thebonesfamily]

@@sandyderoche1082 Thanks for the suggestion!

[@Wuzzam812]

Kid is jealous. Your boys are all very handsome.

[@lhynnperaz84]

Yes so adorable 🥰

[@marki7901]

please, ugly and beauty is not a standard, is a personal feelings. those kids knew nothing. all i saw is lovely cute kids and family.

[@florence-1470]

They are beautiful kids ,who told that child he was handsome that child will go somewhere one day and réalise the word doesn’t look like him

[@Fernwehexpat]

I am sorry loves that you all have experienced this. I personally have lived in China almost 4 years previously as a black American family with two young children. Having this conversation about ignorance vs racism is important for children of color. As Americans, our parents help us to understand how and why these things might occur. They give us the framework to continue to love ourselves despite encounters while also how to navigate a world that doesn’t look like you while loving yourself. We gave grace in China because it is not coming from the same place. I would have open conversations with my friends when they would ask questions, touch hair, take pictures. I understood the difference between curiosity and ignorance. However, this situation was different. My mother was a spit fire and might have gone and spoken to the mother and shamed her for her teachings in front of the child. China is big on saving face and while it is not your responsibility to educate all; I do believe that you have to become comfortable with these redirections when your children are involved so that they can understand when it is okay to speak up and how to appropriately do so. Also we never want our children to internally someone else’s feelings. Father I can tell someone has said hurtful things to you. Silence becomes acceptance at times. We can teach redirection in love.

[@micheleeelyse]

This is the painful reality of being Black almost anywhere in the world. It can be such a beautiful compound/city/community, but the evil words will tend to rear their ugly head. I’m so proud of how he handled that and learned a lot from his response. It’s difficult to balance worries about safety and also counter idiotic statements, actions and behaviors… but he showed me another way. Thank you. Many blessings to you and your family.

[@shayb.3450]

It's only a reality if the person allows it. I personally have not experienced racist behavior. But no one should have to experience racist behavior. Unfortunately all racist go through it and it is sad.

[@KoKoTheSagittarius]

Why didn't you say anything when it happened. I understand if you're not confrontational, but at least remove your child from being bullied. The older he gets, the more intense it will be. He needs to know that you will protect him and speak up for him as his mother. Very sad to watch.

[@AshantiOwoahene]

Seriously men have strong character to deal with issues ❤❤and I'm sad when he said people insult me too not only the kids it is well 😢

[@chukwudichieji5702]

children naturally are innocent. but what he said to yoour boy originated from his parent. its good you handled it well.

[@celiacovington7985]

I just came across your video, that’s why kids need their fathers in their lives. I love 💕 the way you explained racism. Your kids need you to help them cause as a black man we grow up with racism. Watching from America 🇺🇸 ❤❤❤

[@thebonesfamily]

Thanks for your comment! It’s so important for kids to have both parents involved, especially when it comes to tough conversations about racism. Sending love from our family to yours! 💕

[@book_worm22]

And you blk American males also give racism, including to your own women

[@imgrateful7142]

Just ignorance. Your children are clearly beautiful. 💗

[@connieo3927]

3 boys, omg😊. Boys are so rough, but I wouldn't have it any other way ❤. Your family is so beautiful.

[@user-nn6iu5nc2u]

Your husband handled that really well, so your boys are sorted with him as their father figure They will know how to handle situations like these 😢❤ Oh and you live in a really nice estate

[@Angle_99]

I hope the little boy’s parents see this video and realise how disgusting and unacceptable his behavior was toward your children. It seems like he’s acting out of jealousy because your kids are absolutely beautiful. This kind of behaviour likely reflects what he’s exposed to at home, but it should never be acceptable for a child to see someone different from them whether in appearance, ethnicity, or race and respond with hurtful words. sending lots of love and prayers to you and your family.❤❤

[@FaysalHaroun]

No need To Feel Bad, even People from Your Own Race can Call you Ugly or even Black if your not of a Lighter Colour, no worries, just don't make the kids feel Bad about themselves

[@EverPurple-m2y]

When and where? don't make things up.

[@mariekimbi]

Yes you 💯 right. I live in Africa Cameroon and I was bullied in school for being too dark in complexion. I was considered one of the ugliest in class. Over here when a man marries a light skinned woman everyone say he married a white women signifying his wife is extremely beautiful as to them white means beauty. When you have fair skin kids everyone look at your kids with such amusement as they are considered extremely beautiful because they are light skinned. This is why so many are bleaching their skin and even their kids. Trust me the racism in Africa is on another level due to mental slavery.

[@tonirowe1975]

@@mariekimbiWow I’m so sorry for your experience but again some of these things are taught by the parents and in the culture for some reason they see being white is beautiful and that’s self hatred at its finest and that’s why so many people feel the need to date lighter skin or white it’s all self hatred and low self esteem, I have not for one day wished I was another color or lighter I see dark skin brown skin light skinned people that just as beautiful sometimes we truly have to look with in , some think curly hair light skin makes you beautiful and that’s where we have to truly look at ourselves and learn to love ourselves no matter what society teaches and we truly have to learn to be different it’s ok I truly hope you have found self love acceptance in yourself

[@tonirowe1975]

One thing I learned you have to see yourself as you want others to see you ❤

[@aaleyahsanez2552]

​@@EverPurple-m2y just because you don't hear or know about it does not mean that this is not a thing I would assume by this person's name they are maybe from India Pakistan Bangladesh or something of that sort and things like that do happen for example I have a friend in Pakistan and his brother calls him the N word not knowing that it's a derogatory term because in the following countries that I have mentioned it's used as a racial slur if you will to people that are darker skinned they use it as an insult and the crazy thing is my friend for him being Pakistani he's actually very fair/pale

[@carsv.2501]

Thanks G for a dad like you. Kids can be a bit mean. Your kids are Beauuutifull.❤

[@annafarr582]

Those are some beautiful little boys. ❤😍🥰

[@TRUEkcctv1384]

That african man and those babies are handsome and very beautiful

[@martinechongkan3705]

Your children are absolutely gorgeous! I went through the same racial abuse as a child. My mother is of Chinese Jamaican Scottish descent and my father is South - American - Chinese. This journey has made me more resilient today to comprehend the ignorance & bigotry in society and particularly among the chinese community. I was called horrible names... portrayed as an animal ( Monkey)... a Mongolian child with facial defects and much more in which I do not want to list due to the sensitivity of this subject. Those who are well travelled or educated have a better understanding and acceptance of racial/ culture diversity. In Jamaica our motto is " Out of many, one people" . 😊❤

[@cindyheyward2404]

The father needs to man up and assured his boys he has their back by standing up for them, instead of brushing it off like it’s normal and acceptable ‼️ It’s not going be easy for them in school and probably will be physical attacks as well. This will make their childhoods very difficult and abusive if he can’t protect them emotionally and physically he needs to move out of that racist environment into a nontoxic level neighborhood or country💯

[@cheechiuditaleung6832]

It's always a real pleasure and very rewarding to watch your family videos.

[@thebonesfamily]

Aw, thank you! That really makes our day! 😊 We have so much fun making these videos, and it’s awesome to know you enjoy watching!! 💖💖

[@Zeeh_Ntumbeza]

New subscriber ,You guys are such a beautiful family ,May your family be blessed and your You tube channel grow beyond your expectations ❤️❤️❤️watching from South Africa 🇿🇦 🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@mgsagaa1361]

"Africa doesn't have winter"? It real upsets me when someone instead of mentioning his/her own country and they just say Africa...I'm from South Africa 🇿🇦, our winters snow a lot, and we have all the seasons ...so just mention your country brother, Africa has 54 countries

[@thebonesfamily]

Just to clarify, after I said 'Africa has no winter,' I followed up with, 'well, my country has no winter,' to avoid misunderstanding. I appreciate you pointing that out, as Africa is diverse in its climates. My brother lived in South Africa and said winters there can be really cold!

[@kaylahliam6940]

Blessings from newzealand 🤍😊 beautiful boys 💙

[@tademolade1629]

Just teach the kids self assurance, confidence along with boxing to protect themselves.

[@BettyThompson-qn7cl]

You have beautiful children.

[@blackdiamond696]

First time seeing your video. Your kids are absolutely beautiful. I will subscribe 😊❤

[@cleanings1]

it is sad when anyone is racial and its wrong, but we must remember that the children are innocent, its the adults who plant the negative seeds. Kids will always accept beauty in all races, they never see color or cultures until it's told to them, which is the sad truth. Your children are beautiful.

[@nicoleraheem1195]

This neighborhood looks nice and clean!❤

[@JoelMillersBigToe]

i love interracial couples and mixed kids! i am mixed and my parents were interracial so it warms my heart seeing people being together wether other people accept it or not shows love is still so alive

[@thebonesfamily]

We feel the same way-it’s all about embracing love and celebrating the beauty of diversity. 💖

[@hellenakullu2835]

I'm seeing beautiful mixed race kids, people are wicked. I was called ugly even by my own relatives, 19 years later they crowned me a Miss, now am the most attractive child in my whole village and every girl wants to dress and act like me. But when someone tells me you are beautiful i don't answer back because that thing is still inside my head .

[@thebonesfamily]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s heartbreaking how deeply words can impact us, especially when they come from people close to us. I’m so glad to hear that you’ve found your confidence and are now seen for the beauty you always had. What you went through is a reminder that beauty isn't defined by others but by how we feel about ourselves inside. I hope with time, you’ll be able to fully embrace the compliments you deserve. Stay strong and keep shining! 💖

[@daveliu8959]

here in africa,we usually see may mixed racials cuz am black,i cant called someone ugly cuz of my standards let love each other who we are and the culture love mob from kenya🇰🇪 be blessed

[@AngelaInTheCity]

Just came across your channel! Subscribing now 😊beautiful children

[@chris_manga.5627]

Kids are so mean i was once called ugly by one when i went to pick up my small brother

[@phebeoluwatoyosi9401]

Your community is calming ❤

[@didineerod4371]

Both of you should make a complaint to the chinese authority to have a law to kerb racism. For a stable country government must ensure harmony amongst the citizens. Which mean everyone regardless of race should learn to live and cooperate with one another. China must lead as an example for the rest of the world to follow - that everyone can live harmoniously and cooperate with one another. This is something both of you can do as well with other biracial parents - champion for racial unity and harmony. A lot of prejudice evolved from movies coming from the west portraying stereotype behaviour of non-white race. It is important to break down this stereotype. Understandably education is very important to break down ignorant and prejudice. Never let racism be a limitation but as opportunity to educate, unite and exchange cultural literacy.

[@jomandavrede3000]

What a beautiful family!

[@lyricusx2900]

All your kids are gorgeous 🥰.

[@liveiria]

What a nice community you guys live in

[@cherryirl2]

this bothers me so much, the asian communities need to teach their kids that there are black people in this world & not to spread hate & to love one another. the asian community hate being discriminated against but do it to others.

[@andreawendel2048]

The really truth is, that all this 3 boys are perfectly beautiful. ❤❤❤

[@keenahockey9682]

Beautiful parents ❤ ❤ Beautiful children ❤ 💕 💖

[@millyslife9170]

You both have a beautiful family. ❤

[@angeltruth5808]

Your kids are very pretty 🤩

[@MoonLightMysticals]

lol what? Nothing is ugly about those babies . If my older son who looks like they were around his age heard that , he’d teach them a valuable lesson. 😂 happened many times , I love my son . Stands up for everyone

[@CChinaa]

Your kids are so adorable ❤

[@benjamindienagha5678]

I'm in love with this family 💓, i love love there hair ❤️

[@mixedemotions5847]

I am a black/white mix. The kids are adorable. Aside from the one bad seed, I’m impressed by the kindness of the other kids and adults. This is why it’s important to judge everyone as individuals. But please sir, pick up your feet when walking. In America, the dragging of feet/shoes when walking is a sign of laziness. It’s annoying. ❤

[@CelebsAndNewsTarot]

BEAUTIFUL CHILD!! 😍😍😘

[@lesliemiller7826]

So sad to hear coming from children 💔 You all have beautiful children and you are a beautiful family ❤🙏🏽🥰

[@benjamindienagha5678]

If there's anything as a perfect family, this is it❤️

[@уранаондар-ъ6м]

Красивые дети, не переживайте

[@carmencruzado4746]

Beautiful family the boys are so adorable 🫶🏻

[@CommonLogic23]

I'm sorry but it was upsetting to me that when she heard her son or her husband's son over and over being spoken to in such a nasty way. Why didn't she run or walk to him straight away? If that was my son I would have gone there immediately, and told the boy what he was saying was first of all not true and then I would have explained to my son how there are good kid and mean kids. If he is being mistreated like that again to find myself or his Dad straight away. Not to associate himself with children who have hateful things to say to anyone. Then she waited to tell the Dad after they left. Would she have acted any different if it had been her son? Children need parents and step parents to stick up for them. Not in an aggressive way but in a way to remove them from the abuse. Then speak to them on how it made him feel. Remind them you will be there for him.

[@agnesgyening7571]

They are so beautiful!

[@ChristiSayre]

Beautiful family!!!

[@joethao2161]

Great cute looking kids y’all!!!

[@decoloniz_afro]

Then when they reach age 10 those mean one will start dancing hiphop ruggue dancehall afrobeats etc and forget isnt their culture but to those they are insulting

[@sandyderoche1082]

Hey I was called ugly many times when I was young, kids will say dumb things sometimes, look up Lewis hamilton, and all the names they call him, but look at his accomplements today.

[@AngelaInTheCity]

Beautiful neighborhood

[@Trascendente.]

😢 so frustrating

[@louiseaori]

Beautiful children

[@bonnasingleton2018]

They are Beautiful just like the Parents 💯❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@shariffbrown04]

Those babies are gorgeous... kids learn early to envy and hate

[@GBrooks-u5j]

Children face this around the world unfortunately. I don't know if you are into prayer but I feel, doing that daily with conviction, consistently can really help the day be more kind. ------- What a beautiful neighborhood you live in. I've been in many lovely areas but this one is unique to me.

[@poopbutt6241]

No they don’t

[@AI-Hallucination]

Those kids are beautiful I am mixed race wait until he is older and the hate gets more intense because they jealous of the good looks trust me

[@christiangideon7966]

beautiful family ❤❤

[@LouisLark-by7rb]

Your children are splendid; however-, that was very mean spirited of that disgruntled kid to call your child " ugly." Unfortunately- he perhaps learned that awful word from his parents or other children .

[@perchrichri8608]

What a cute family ❤

[@AncientOne222]

Key points I observed in this video #1 beautiful family, #2 younger children with less social and nationalistic programming genuinely love all human beings, #3 The older child has been exposed to social and nationalistic programming long enough to regurgitate hate. Moral of the story racism and discrimination is a learned social behavior it goes far beyond and individual behavior it is a national behavior. The interaction displayed between the two young children on the playground was human interaction in it's purest form, void of societal discrimination, it was a child that genuinely wanted an interaction with another child.

[@yvetteeuler2123]

Babies are gorgeous ❤

[@QrannBadal-j2b]

The dogs absorb negative peoples energy and they attack babies and small children. Please protect the babies.

[@andreawendel2048]

No wonder this sweetheart felt with this loose yellow shoes. 😢

[@zhane3484]

Nice looking neighbourhood

[@sandyderoche1082]

Just want your channel to do good. Love you guys

[@laram5117]

you guys are beautiful :)! subscribed

[@SecretOnly-e1j]

I am Indonesian, and we Indonesians are used to seeing many different skin colors, and children would play together be it black, yellow, or brown. We have East Indonesians who have darker skin similar to Africans, but we do not recognize them as black, because we don't use the term, Instead, we use their province origin. It is a big No to identify one by skin colour. Anyway. China is a homogenous country, they are not used to seeing other races unless those who travel far enough to know that the world is big.

[@aminaussene7389]

Essa criança é tão mal educada deixa de lado os teus filhos são lindos 😍 fofos 💓

[@thebonesfamily]

❤❤thanks!!!

[@lenjon7478]

Jealousy .. they wished they look half like the little boy. We in h west used to find the hair and the eyes of Chinese people ugly and they them selves find it ugly too as they operate en Mass on their eyes . But now a grew older and understand there is beauty in every type of human.. Hopefully everybody will learn that some day

[@princyraja7346]

The children are so beautiful 😍.how can be this happens to child.. come to south india people hear welcome all races and colours are treated equally ❤....

[@Fatlosrgrl]

I personally learned to deal with it, deal with it here be you leave and it follows you somewhere else.

[@ItsJustJayla]

I would be having a chat with their parents asap lol that’s horrible

[@allennalunkuma8771]

The place is beautiful

[@davidk7441]

I think the problem comes from not having loving parents (overbearingly strict parents) which made the kids (usually boys) who is about to go through (or is going through) puberty to lash out at others who are different to them (out of fear or out of jealousy)... In this case, I think it's both. The kid saw your kids having loving parents and he's jealous, because he didn't have that at home... Hurt people hurt people. Just keep that in mind.

[@naturallybecoming831]

How terrible are parents to treat their kids to treat others like that. That behavior is taught. I think they always discriminate on ppl that are “foreigners “ or if you don’t look like them smh. Just encourage your children with self esteem and confidence no matter what other ppl say.

[@antisocialbarbie1587]

He is beautiful ! How dare that kid 😡

[@Amir-rv6cd]

❤❤❤

[@mspiggymarketing396]

So, it's 2.88K Subscribers as I subscribe on Friday October 18, 2024. Let's follow the growth. 😀

[@yvetteeuler2123]

To beautiful

[@lhynnperaz84]

All country has discriminations All you have yo do is ignore them and let kids. Teach the good things they will learn you know its depend of the parenta how thy discipline their kids .. my self iam a Filipina 🇵🇭 married to an Turkish 🇹🇷 Man iam so thankful that' that may kids i teach them not to do. The bad way... I have two kids all boys .. what ever our color is we need to respect ...

[@mythoughts4975]

Anything different and kids are like that unfortunately. They have a great complexion, nice favoal features, and they're going to be tall and lean like daddy. And they have very nice hair, after mommy . They will be chick magnets, trust me!

[@islyrevans295]

How can u live in a place where people treats you like a curse,it's only gonna get worst sorry to say,anyway i pray for ur best

[@russah24]

Which city is this please, beautiful❤

[@adelaidagotiu7728]

Come stay in Philippines, people are friendly

[@ChizobaIwuchukwu]

I bet those mosquitoes in china don't cause malaria like the ones we have over here in Nigeria.

[@thebonesfamily]

You're right, the mosquitoes here don’t carry malaria, but they can transmit dengue fever, which is also a very serious disease. 😟 We live in Foshan, and this year, the number of dengue cases has been much higher than in previous years, with many people ending up in the ICU. It’s quite frightening. 😢

[@karenmbbaxter]

I'd say the same thing back to them so they see how it feels.

[@fauzianalwoga]

❤❤❤❤😢

[@yacine791]

🥰🥰🥰🥰