a coming out video

[@sharkpaw]

I'm a trans guy who was brought up with really conservative beliefs and it's so refreshing seeing guys like you express themselves the way they do. When I came out as trans I was so scared that if I'd have anything that's slightly feminine people would instantly go "HAH! I knew you weren't *actually* trans" and so seeing you and guys like you gives me so much hope for the future that one day I can allow myself to like the things I like without the fear of getting judged

[@ashlynonline]

“im a man also a woman, also im neither. but also im both. im a boy who is a girl, but also a girl who is a boy. also the fiery hot surface of the sun, also the idea of thunderstorms, and also the universe of monsters, also all of the cryptids and also Gerard way.” LITERALLY ME. i’m genderfluid as well and relate to this so much.. i’ve felt this way even as a kid but didn’t have the words for it. i remember telling my mom i wanted to be a boy and she was like “what???” so i never brought it up again. but over the years since then i’ve always never felt like /just/ a girl. i always felt both or neither. i’m so glad theres other people like me out here

[@charley_161]

same!

[@pumpkinpumpkin235]

Same!!

[@waffulz]

As if Gerard Way isn't a cryptid

[@padisleiero]

ALSO ME SUCH A MOOD

[@barostakuk1058]

omg yay, this quote is something I'm starting to share with friends to get me better. I felt pretty alone with my understanding of my gender but I'm finally finding people like me and it's so relieving!! Hiii everyone heehee!

[@yukio-kei]

the amount of nonbinary people that have been negatively impacted by klarences videos is ASTOUNDING..... i denied being genderless for like YEARS because of him and his fanbase. it only took up until quarantine that i finally began to accept myself and discover things about my gender that i wouldve never even thought to have explored. i used to be so dysphoric just by wearing nail polish but now i wear it every single day to the point where its a part of my gender expression. very happy for you man

[@butallislost]

(Chucky voice) gendah fluid

[@butallislost]

I meant to write a nice supportive comment but this is all I got

[@murdocniccalsbinder]

@@butallislost trust me, dude - it’s perfect

[@EUREKKA11924]

0:57 YES OMG TELL THEM KING!!!!!!

[@anuarnazarov7225]

congrats on coming out 👍 i myself identify with the demiboy/nonbinary guy label, but for everyone who knows me i am just a trans guy, and the reason they don't know is because i don't have energy to describe what it means and it might be confusing, so i totally relate. your videos are cool, keep up the good work!

[@DinosaurNick]

I used to think I was a demigirl because I was so set that I must be a girl since I was raised as one. I know the struggle it is explaining how you can be half a gender. I'm Agender (Amasculine) ^^

[@aeneidos]

ok but the skirt look? that's a steal

[@lga7134]

I’ve found the resurgence in using the term transsexual really neat, seems like a reaction to confusedly woke cis people using the idea that “sex≠gender” to group trans people in with our birth sex, like calling for AFAB bathrooms because they think that’s somehow more inclusive. Transsexuals r based

[@eli_liguz]

I once had an (ex)friend get angry at me cause i told them I identified as non binary and as a gay trans man. That really threw me for a loop and tho I knew they were wrong to police me, it was hard to not have that experience compound my shame. I feel like most trans folks I’m close with have identities that can’t be summed up in one word or from one angle cause experiences of gender differ so much from day to day, hour to hour for so many people whether they realize it or not. Thanks so much for everything you’ve shared!

[@DinosaurNick]

I had a random internet stranger tell me "How can you use he/him pronouns if you're non-binary? That defeats the purpose of being non-binary."

[@monothephantom]

My gender is pretty hard to explain too so I usually just go with transmasc/nonbinary. But if I were to get into it, theres a lot. My gender itself is pretty solid, it's a core that holds itself mostly still in a strange space that's hard to explain. Some random person on the internet once said something like 'he/him like the little stray cat that you see' and that resonated with me. I am a boy but in a sense that's not really a boy. My gender is a little gremlin boy and it's very chaotic and funky, but it's pretty solid. My gender expression is all that little gremlins chaos leaking out. It's an ectoplasmic goo that surrounds my core and breaks all the rules other than being in one way or another boy. Could be a little boi, a bossman, a femboy, a dude bro, and more. My gender expression is fluid almost like ooblek or cats. It's a goopy thing that's slides into all sorts of shapes and holds my gender identity core in its heart no matter where it goes. Hard to explain but fun to explore, and I'm happy being me. The stray ghostly gremlin boy. Woah big gender many words Anyway, it's really nice to hear from other people who have a similar experience with a funky little gender. especially from people who typically just stick to a basic label and dont get to explore their gender outwardly as much. Pretty epic to know an awesome role model of mine has even more in common with me than I thought. I hope to hear stories like this more often, I want more people to be able to explore and feel comfortable expressing themselves like you've shown here :] Okay I'm tired and told myself I was gonna go to sleep hours ago, bye bye

[@DinosaurNick]

Your gender sounds interesting! I feel you on the exploring yourself!. I basically had a rollercoaster to discover me. I tried being feminine and was raised as a girl. But it never worked for me. I got labeled as a tomboy, and told to be more ladylike. One day I yelled "I'm not a lady!" and that started my whole journey. I was like. I'm not a man... so what am I? I was never comfy with my chest or women's spaces but didn't know why. So the last couple years of my life was me discovering myself (I started at 38 I'm 40 this year in July) Genders I went through: Demigirl Genderfaun Libramasculine Agender And I hit so many pronoun combos.

[@nateyyboy]

DUDE...... YOU LITERALLY... JUST MADE ME FIGURE OUT MY GENDER.. TY

[@AddilynneLastname]

klaerance is basically the becky white of trans guys

[@waytoobiased]

Becky Blanca, you mean?

[@NoahzPlayz]

@@waytoobiased no i'm pretty sure they are refering to Blair white

[@waytoobiased]

@@NoahzPlayz I know

[@AddilynneLastname]

@@NoahzPlayz lol I'm pretty sure that's who they meant but in code to keep the pattern and not give her the attention, blanca is white in spanish

[@SkyeID]

I call him Khaki Garage instead of Klaerance.

[@leviisaac9506]

Okay I recently found Theo’s videos and I absolutely love them. Xe is doing a great job, and is DEFINITELY an “anti-Klarance” channel. I’m so glad I found xem, and I’m glad to be learning more about their gender!

[@superdrwholock]

Sorry for the long comment! Hey Theo, I defo agree that the cis idea of gender is crazy, I’ve always found it weird even as a child when my parents wouldn’t let me have short hair and threatened me when I said I’d cut it myself lol, it’s so weird these expectations we put on children before they’ve even discovered who they are or their personality or anything like that. And it’s pressure for cis people who don’t conform to gender norms too. And it’s especially weird to me that some cis people will call it sexualising kids to say they can be LGBT+ and in the same breath be fine insinuating that their kid is cis and straight, and putting them in clothes like ‘ladies man’ lol. Also, they’re defo the kinda people who called me homophobic slurs in school for not conforming to gender norms. And I agree with the Klarence stuff, I am guilty of being a former fan and feeding in to that rhetoric. I’m a binary trans guy but this doesn’t mean that people who aren’t within the binary are somehow invalidating my own experience, and it’s weird to me that I used to genuinely believe that lol. He did a lot of harm to the community, from spreading the idea that you have to medically transition if you can to be trans (which I think that rhetoric actually leads to more detrans people because they feel pressured to conform to these standards to be seen as a ‘real trans person’), to insinuating that trauma can cause you to be trans (which to me is like saying trauma causes gayness lol, I don’t get it. Could be wrong, if anyone has any insight on that which isn’t transphobic then let me know). I have trauma in my past that led to me invalidating my own experiences based on his views, I’ve had lots of therapy and turns out I’m still trans and it has nothing to do with what I experienced because I remember feeling dysphoric years before the incident I’m talking about. But when my parents dismissed me when I came out at 13, I just went back in to the closet for a few months, then came out again, it was a crappy cycle until 18. I’m so lucky to still be here tbh, I was miserable and feel like my childhood and most of my teenhood was stolen from me because I was so miserable and it was preventable with a simple haircut and a few different words, so I am working on healing my inner child by being kinder to myself and letting myself enjoy childish things. Maybe Klarence changed nowadays I don’t know but he definitely contributed to a lot of negativity in the trans community, especially the trans mascs. So it’s cool that you have tried to be a more positive and open influence to people questioning their gender and/or sexuality. Anyway sorry for the long ramble comment I know it’s probs a pain to read, I’m fine nowadays better than I’ve ever been, and I really relate to when you said in one of your T updates how it’s crazy that cis people don’t just feel this much euphoria over their bodies matching who they are lol

[@Burning_Soup]

Lol i feel you! I'm a transmasc enby and use he/they/dea. I kinda present like a mix between a 15 year old cis boy and a 40 year old dad in front of the grill cooking burgers. I get gendered as a guy which is nice, but it would be nice to not be bolted down to "man" by society. The way i understand my gender is like a rain frog. Masculine like... I'm a little silly boi rolling around and digging in the sand. Feminine and masculine in the sense of little boi.

[@TJ_Sauce]

I just rewatched the trans tips video again after a long while and decided to check in and see what your channel looked like now. I identify myself almost the same way you do now, which is quite funny to me. The boys who are girls and girls who are boys (who are also the concept of,,, anything honestly) always end up finding each other even if we don't know it yet. On a more serious note, thank you for being a positive, inclusive figure in the trans-space. It's cool that I can SEE an emerging group of trans people embracing gender anarchy. We're helping to undo the damage that klarence caused bit by bit. It's heartwarming to see. I'll definitely be sticking around in the future, I'm loving your energy! :^]

[@Asher44139]

It really resonated with me what you said about the cisnormative expectation that genderfluid people switch between being wholly one gender to wholly another. I'm genderfaun and it's actually so rare for me to only be experiencing one gender at a time; really I'm a pie chart of gender that just keeps changing in how many genders and how much of each gender. Also, a lot of my gender identities cis people would think contradict each other (like being an agender guy) but in reality they make so much sense (it's fun really- I'm a guy but I don't care about how people perceive my gender or feel dysphoria because I'm also so far detached from binary maleness). And I guess that like you I am meant to have a male presenting body to express my gender with so I am a trans guy but it's like you said... I think of having a male body as my canvas rather than my painting; I need the right canvas to display my gender rather than having a male body making me a binary man like cis people would assume. Thanks for the relatable gender update :)

[@TheosGhost]

oh my god my body is the canvas not the painting IS SUCH A GOOD WAY OF EXPLAINING IT WOAH

[@batbrainbat]

I- Yes. This. All of this. Gender anarchy. Xe gets it 👌 This video brings so much peace to my soul

[@moo...imacow1637]

I've never had anyone so perfectly describe my relationship with gender. Thank you for making me feel less alone 💖

[@twigzbatteryacid]

this is actually how i feel! my femininity and masculinity don’t go away, they just kinda move around

[@thecamoguys888]

Xe is such a mood. The thunderstorm thing is also relatable. Gender fluid/pulp lol

[@lycaptain]

i genuinely love the way you described your experience with gender!

[@boyinspace49]

the skirt look is amazing, i shall steal it one day :D

[@berrysnowyboy5251]

Dude... Congrats!!!!!! 🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊 (From a fellow enby trans dude)

[@waytoobiased]

Based, except for the Sonic Riders model in your pfp /j

[@mortifer9322]

HOLY F*CK!!! thank you. I feel like the more I learn about gender and people and biology, the more gender is just a concept that has so few uses and doesn't feel real. I think peop.e find comfort in labels and so do I. For example finding a group of people that feel similar to you is comforting. Like the hole wanting to feel fem in a "boy" way ahhhh yesssss. Sometimes just snails feel like a gender but to so many that makes no sense. I like he/they for me, he in a cryptid way and they in an andro way and more haha

[@amaram4217]

Most relatable gender description yet

[@Exsangui-nate]

Important question: is gender pulp the unstrained version of gender fluid?

[@Potted_Plants_]

Congrats on coming out :). Btw I love that lightning McQueen in the background lol

[@darkanddorky7630]

You've definitely helped me a huge amount.. I'm 14 on testosterone and a transmasc/genderfluid and u've helped me so much with getting the courage to come out as not completely binary, and not fully ftm, tho I definitely want everything that comes with testosterone still. You've helped me hugely with realising I'm more gender fruity than I thought, even before this video by just having long hair and stuff. I've had short hair for like 2 yrs now, and basically purely u and Gerard way having long hair and pushing gender boundaries etc has made me explore a bit and made me realise I actually want long poofy hair and want to use he/they again and she/her but only in the gay campy way like "I luv that for heerrrr" and I don't actually want sum things everyone's been telling me I wanted like bottom surgery. I've just been made to think I do by the cis idealised versions of trans people.

[@shunriee4325]

so glad to see people undoing the damage that umm Klarence done

[@corvidayyy]

thank you for talking about this, i think this kind of stuff is really underrepresented. i'm genderfluid + transmasc myself and related to a lot of what you said. it's always comforting to know there are more people who have similar experiences

[@rainways7586]

Honestly the most wholesome coming out video ever. I absolutely adore your expression of gender and explanation and I love how you view your gender and identity.

[@ineptsoliloquy4522]

i have never felt so seen and amazed in terms of gender. thank u

[@evil-mascot]

its been just two months after realising i am trans, and yes my head does hurts when i think about gender for too long 😭 i don't know if i should be sad or happy cause heteronormative society doesn't make sense to me anymore

[@evil-mascot]

and becaude we live in a real world and gender norms still important in here, i've been thinking no, the way we behave and the way we dress is just a little things that impact on our gender identities. The main thing i think is that how we present ourselves in society and how people treat us? Again, my head hurts 💀

[@waytoobiased]

I don’t think it’s possible for gender to fully make sense. Personally, the idea of reveling in the absurdity of it all, whether cis or trans, binary or not, seems pretty cool to me

[@zacharee605]

omg 3:58 to 4:24 …ME. i swear i never realize this stuff until someone else points it out and then im like “OH SHIT! i can do that?!”

[@lunagoldschmidt7903]

I had the same exact thought!! Idk if I’ve ever related to something more 😂

[@frawnzpawnz162]

I love hearing this so much. I’ve had to explain to cis people multiple times about not caring about what bathroom I use and how I don’t have to appear masculine 24/7 and it’s so exhausting

[@what5475]

I love how much freedom and joy comes with exploring concept of gender, sense of one's gender identity. i love being queer

[@shimazuam]

i really like the way you put this ! this is totally how i would see genderfluid as well. i'm really glad you're starting to get more and more comfortable with you're identity ! i've been subscribed to you before you started T, and i love they way you're explaining your journey. you're so sick, dude ! keep being you >:)

[@Weewoo60]

Bro your hair looks so cool

[@SATALIT3]

Congrats on coming out! 🌻 I can't find the thumbs up emoji so have a sunflower.

[@jaybirdvlogs7279]

I love theo, xe is an icon. I honestly feel like i often get new ~gender ideas~ from xem. Xe is always saying things my subconscious has been wanting to express for a while. (Sorry I’ve been talking in third person, im curious about using xe/xem/xyr pronouns for myself, so I wanna practice using them whenever i can lol)

[@jam-zr5wv]

are we gonna get a third transmasc tips? is it gonna be a yearly thing? please? I've been here since (about) the one last year, so I'd like to see another one

[@TheosGhost]

im probably gonna do something adjacent to the transmasc tips this year don't you worry

[@etherealbirdy]

I really appreciate this video. Even though I try to research and like, "find myself", I didn't really know you could be a trans man AND genderfluid. I think Gender fluid gets a reputation of, in my opinion, being the least understood and misunderstood term in the LGBTQ+ community. For me right now, what you're identifying as practically matches how I'm feeling. So thank you, you're the perfect youtuber for me and I literally found your channel yesterday. Thank you so much for teaching me and any other queer person that you can be anything and Gender is chaos.

[@VenomousIntent]

That's super cool. Honestly I never realized you were the anti-klarence until this video and that's earned even more respect from me. I'm binary ftm, so I don't relate with the complexities of nonbinary genders, but I love y'all and I keep trying to learn how to be a better ally ❤️

[@jayson6222]

omg u ate!

[@saladsparrow848]

eyo im genderfluid too, ur a slay man

[@kcthegr8]

Oh my god... I can relate so much!!! My experience with my gender is so similar (especially the gerard part haha) and I've also struggled coming to terms with my own identity due to exclusionism. Can't wait to see more from you! ❤️

[@piercethemase]

just watched one of ur videos from a yr ago when u were pre-t and now came to this one and your voice genuinely scared me a little because i wasn’t expecting it. i am so happy for you bro, congrats on coming out

[@jayberg02]

I’m a genderqueer guy and I relate very much thx

[@jessicacortez6777]

I love your channel. Makes me feel less alone in my gender

[@emoharpsichord]

HEEEEY ME TOO!!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS THEO!!!!!! :DDD

[@Johnny_T779]

Congratulations Theo! 🎉 🥳 Welcome to the "confusing for the cis" side of gender! Yes, it's easier to say you're just a man, because you have better things to do than explaining all the time 😝! I'm an androgynous man, and as I intend to keep my chest I feel my gender is "Baphomet" or "Vishnu", it feels right for me to be a guy with breasts 🤷🏽‍♂️. Also, the lack of a proper boyhood always makes me feel weird around the term "man"... I feel more like a boy because I'm now living the teenage years of my body! See, we're all weird in here, thank you for making me and others feel less odd and alone! 👍🏽💜🖤💙!

[@Meeko4eve39]

Everyone else has already said so many good things with relating to you and what not. So I just wanna add: Heck yeah! I'm along for the ride! Looking forward to see where this is going 😃 Happy New Year, Theo!

[@radi0-pass1ve]

me too, i’m excited to see what theo decides to do next!

[@Meeko4eve39]

@@radi0-pass1ve If I were to take a guess, I think vlogs and videos like the MCR video might be part of it 🤔But I'm honestly open and ready for anything! Also, good to see you again ;) Hope you are well!

[@radi0-pass1ve]

@@Meeko4eve39 I am well, thanks. I think he might go into more vlog and scripted video essays like you said, yeah.

[@Meeko4eve39]

@@radi0-pass1ve Good to hear you are well :) I'm alright, too. Let's see what the new year brings, then ;)

[@alexrose20]

Very cool on your gender identity but I can't stop looking at your hair! It's so pretty 😩

[@Lucas-it7iv]

GREAT VIDEO can't wait to know more about the anti klarence agenda

[@lycaptain]

it’s so odd how cis people police trans people on like “not being trans enough” or something. like i feel deep down that i’m a man, or male aligned and i have dysphoria, but i still like stereotypically feminine things. they’d never tell a cis boy that he wasn’t a man just because of his interests.

[@waytoobiased]

Cis person here who had those types of thoughts a year or two ago - I think because many cis people probably have trouble understanding trans people, some like the idea of more certainty in genders - so they want to KNOW that someone is the gender they are. Is that transphobic? Of course it is! Is it okay? No! But if you’re wondering why, that might be one reason

[@sourpatcn3620]

IM SO GLAD IM NOT THE ONLY PERSON LIEK THIs ive always tried to express that im not genderfluid as in i switch betw. being male and female i mean genderfluid as in my gender is LITERALLY. a fluid

[@waytoobiased]

and by literally, you mean figuratively. if anyone doesn’t like singular they because they think it doesn’t make sense, they’ve very much missed the boat on trying to make the English language make sense. I’m honestly just glad I’m a native speaker, I feel bad for anyone trying to learn it

[@Johnlocked.on_bakerst]

You look great mate! Congrats! :)

[@amberr_is_dumb]

Ok now we need gerardwaygender. Pronouns are gerae/whaym

[@Icaralhus]

Congratulations!!!! I'M SO HAPPY for you:)

[@kylaxd]

hi theo, im so proud you've been able to come out and express your gender! Absolutely loved the vibe of this video, and the mcr reference XD

[@leviisaac9506]

I used to be a HUGE “Klarance” fan when I first came out, and honestly? I wasn’t a great person. I think this may partially be because of my father being transphobic, and the need for cis validation that I felt. Now, I AM a binary trans man, but I’m so lucky that I found KZbinrs like Noah, Jamie, Sam, Jackson, Miles, and Brennan, and many others and I figured out that…I don’t need to be a toxic “manly man” in order to be trans. I can wear crop tops and makeup and still be a guy. And I’m so so happy that I learned to be a better and more supportive member of the trans community. I’ve found your videos recently, and I really appreciate you making these videos to educate people on the trans spectrum. Thank you for doing what you do ❤

[@diminarchy]

Only a couple minutes in and i already LOVE your channel

[@Pandastra]

Why is your gender such a vibe lmao I used to identify as genderfluid but it didn’t really work for me. I am trans man but NOT a binary trans man but past there idk just a guy with a ✨quirk✨. I don’t understand why people think that gender has to fit in all these labels. The labels are useful to a certain extent to help others understand but does anyone actually fit into these boxes

[@Jor.505.]

Congrats!! 🎉

[@crying_mess]

hey girlie-dick-royal (/endearing)!!! your explanation of genderfluidity made sense so much that I nearly cried. as an FTM nonbiney I feel heard so much, like when I tell my friends to use my neos, and they use them so much it makes my gender fluids boil and evaporate frfr!!! anyways, have a great day!!!

[@waytoobiased]

at what temperature

[@crying_mess]

yes.

[@iloveroblox4761]

can i be both demigirl and genderfluid and demifluid/gen

[@TheosGhost]

OFC YOU CAN BE WHATEVER YOU WANT!!!!

[@chaosbeam4654]

Hell yeah dude! If it feels right, it’s right!

[@sidey9951]

omg he just like me he just like me fr

[@konnichiwaamberdesu7916]

Congrats on coming out! Out of curiosity, is that your real hair? And if so, how long did it take to grow it? Did you use any products? My hair is super short and I'm tryna grow it long.

[@Stachelbeeerchen]

Random person I've never seen a video from before: you are valid. Ok bye.

[@waytoobiased]

as a cis (I think) person watching you describe your gender here, it makes total sense and also absolutely doesn’t at the exact same time…which probably means you’re doing exactly what you meant to. :) Congrats on figuring yourself out!

[@WeirdThingOfDoom]

I am glad that you are out and representing. It took me years to finally start my medical trans journey cause I am not the classic male. I think that representation might make younger trans guys not lose years off their life before doing what would make them feel good in their own skin

[@garfieldweezermug4975]

congrats dude!!!!!

[@DinosaurNick]

Hey, Agender AFAB here. My Pronouns are: they/them per/per nya/nyan it/its vi/vim mew/purr thon/thons dark/darks he/him storm/storm's The kind of stuff I deal with from people is pretty ridiculous. I'm an Agender person who doesn't mind being perceived as a guy but I'm not a transman. Basically, I'm Amasculine. These are some things people have said to me. "Are you a boy or a girl?" "Why do you want called he/him if you're a girl?" "Do you have ?" "Why do you want to get rid of your boobs? I'm sure they're beautiful." "Don't get rid of your boobs. I'm sure they're perfect." "Are you changing your genitals too?" "Are you a man?" "Are you tranny?" "How do you have sex?" "You'll never be a real woman." "You're just a tomboy." "Why don't you pierce your ears?" "You'd look so pretty in makeup." "You'd look nice in a dress." For context I'm pretty masculine/androgynous ... but mostly masculine.

[@murdocniccalsbinder]

neopronouns ! /pos as a fellow afab person (though i’m more on the non-binary // transmasc // genderfluid side), i’m sorry you had to endure all that bullshit. your gender identity is valid & i wish you luck on your journey !

[@waytoobiased]

you’re collecting pronouns like a rock collection (/pos)

[@spikedpotatoshots]

Yessss this vid is so relatable 😅

[@ch4lk250]

Congrats on coming out!!

[@osprey3543]

i think im in love with u now. (not actually but this is the only way to describe such an intensity of feeling) tysm for being here so i can watch ur videos ur very cool

[@card1nal_s1n]

I have never seen you before lol, but good for you!!!! I'm a cis girl(bi), but you slay, your eminence!

[@valle5613]

for some time I've been feeling limited and constricted by the label "trans man", seeing this video kind of made everything click. I'm not a man, or a woman, or anything, I'm just me and sometimes I may feel more comfortable with X Y or Z, but I don't have to live by any gender or make myself fit into any box. There's no need to define myself throught the concept of gender, there's so much more to my existance that that.

[@vinkei4521]

I'm a trans man and I used to identify as nonbinary for like the first few months of my gender discovery, but since my understanding of nonbinary was so narrow and I only knew of purely androgynous they/them nonbinary people, I ended up going for the binary trans man identity in the end because while I enjoy androgyny sometimes, they/them pronouns make me just as dysphoric as she/her, and I felt more comfortable as a man with he/him pronouns than as someone in the middle who uses they/them. That said, as I discovered more about myself and different labels and forms of gender expression, and after almost one year on T, now that I feel more comfortable with myself and my body and don't feel the need to seek validation for being myself, I've decided that I am kinda in the nonbinary umbrella, but in a different way. Idk what label exactly to put to my identity, but I do know that now he/it pronouns describe me better because sometimes I'm a man and sometimes I'm nothing and most of the times I'm not even human. I'd describe it as those creatures you see in movies that are clearly far from human but are still clearly distinguishable as "male" so you either use it because it's not human or he because he's a guy. Like, even though I'd like to have the confidence to present femininely sometime in the future, I'm under no circumstances a girl or will ever use she/her pronouns and you'd still be misgendering me if you used literally any other pronouns besides he/it. And the extent of my physical transition will only go as far getting top surgery and taking testosterone. Maybe it's because I'm a furry idk. But I feel like my experiences with being autistic might also have to do with it, since I've always felt separated from the concept of humanity and what is considered human ever since I was a child, because I could empathize with neurotypical people as much as I can empathize with an animal, although I know that clear communication between neurodivergent people and neurotypicals people is possible with enough empathy and desire for mutual understanding, while that complex form of communication is impossible with an animal, but idk it could be possible with an alien species with the same amount of sentience. So maybe I'm just an alien. I know this must sound very confusing for most people and believe me, it's very hard to explain and it was confusing even for myself for most of my life. But this is how I feel and what feels true to my identity, so I don't really care if anyone understands as long as I can just be myself and be happy.

[@EUREKKA11924]

lol i think im genderfaun (genderfluid)

[@soupwithoutcheese]

same.

[@alex_racoonboy]

Hi theo I love how u explain your gender fluidity 😅 and later to day I'm getting my first gender affirming hair cut and I'm so exited and idk why I'm telling u but I am :D

[@liam.deshuis]

ive been trans for a while now and the more I get trans the more I start thinking that when my medical transition will be over, he/him pronouns won't really suit me aymore, like they're kind of necessary for me now but when ill look like a boy I don't think ill want to be a boy anymore. anyways the non binary transsexual man thing makes a lot of sense to me

[@radi0-pass1ve]

he is such a queen! theo you inspire me to explore my gender and express my masculinity and femininity. i love the way you wrote describing your gender! i definitely like the term transsexual better because personally my gender has always been this way, it hasn’t changed (in the change binary sense, not fluidity) but when i physically transition, that’s me changing sexes. (i think its buck angel)

[@elimark717]

Holy crap you literally described my own relationship to gender perfectly. I honestly feel the same way bc I’ve had the “typical” binary trans man transition for 1.5 years and I don’t plan on stopping or reversing any of that but I feel like only identifying as male is super limiting to my gender so I think I’m a bit gender-fluid too. I just wanted to say that I related to a lot of your video and I’m glad you posted it!

[@thegamemakergirl]

Transfem that's just starting my transition and wow I think this video has awakened something in me...

[@lemonballs]

im so proud of you sis! 🎉

[@pumpkinpumpkin235]

I relate to what you’re saying you feel your gender fluidity is so much (even the gerard bit oops) like dude you stole the words out of my mouth. I usually just say gender queer. It’s queered you guess which ways 7:54

[@leviisaac9506]

Hey! I’m Levi, a binary trans guy, who uses he/him pronouns, and I loved this video! I really like learning about different gender identities and stuff. Thank you for educating everyone on your gender and the craziness of gender!

[@arrepich]

I’ve never related to anything more in my life

[@auggie.6]

4:09 Please correct me if I'm wrong but isn't that word a slur reclaimed by lesbians? At least that's what I've been told

[@Ash___________]

Yup; it sure is (technically a slur for sapphic women - not just monosexual lesbians). If you're a 100% non-sapphic individual - like myself - it's one of those words you should probably avoid, pretty much always. It's like when transfeminine people call ourselves f****t (y'know, the gay-male slur). Technically, I'm neither gay nor a man (being a pansexual enby & whatnot) but I lived as a gay guy for two thirds of my life & got called that word a bunch of times, so I feel pretty comfy reclaiming it to refer to myself. Maybe it's similar in reverse for transmasc folks like Theo?

[@TheosGhost]

I am a lesbian lol

[@auggie.6]

@@TheosGhost Oh my bad

[@alienrat-z3g]

pretty good anti-"Klarence" that guy sucked, but I fell for it you're a way better person and youtuber than him I'm kinda procrastinating on exploring my gender further, since I have way too much going on in my life right now and don't have the time to think about it

[@waytoobiased]

I’m kinda procrastinating, in general

[@brennan-the-python]

Mood bc I'm a trans man, transmasc, nonbinary, agender, demiboy, basically anything that doesn't have to do with a girl, but the percent of what I am fluctuates. Oh yeah, and extremely rarely do I actually even have any clue what those percentages are. Also all those percentages don't always add up to 100, sometimes they're more and sometimes they're less. So yeah, I just say that I'm a trans man who uses he/they.

[@myflippingleafe]

Congratulations on coming out! I support you and I agree go identify what ever or who ever you flipping want to! ^_^ it's your life after all you make the most of it 🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈

[@phantoghost-gamerdemon]

Yooooo, I know this is a year late, but congrats on coming out dawg! Sincerely, A Fellow Genderqueer Individual

[@Invalidcas]

im very confused about my gender, and every time i go to describe how it feels, it changes, or i remember something contradicting it, or im describing something that contradicts my current feelings- so i just say im genderfluid, but i also say im a trans man- so im a genderfluid man- my pronouns are he/him- i usually either want to be a man or dont care- but thats about it-

[@Knoewontheog]

I am also genderfluid! +trans masc- I am very proud of you and you are awesome

[@padisleiero]

yk this is very relatable. hm. especially that part about how your gender is a boy and a girl and gerard way is very much me

[@insanity-plee4235]

😎 congrats on coming out

[@ДаниилАмиров-ь5б]

your disrcribtion of your gender is so good. love it so much! hell yeah gender fckery! also congratulation on coming out)