A different way to view Trauma | The Courage to Be Disliked

Let's talk about trauma and memories from the past, feeling stuck in habits and behavior, and Alfred Adler's etiology vs teleology, with the book The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
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The Courage to Be Disliked | Book Therapy with Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga by Corey Bennett Boardman
Hi, I'm Corey. 👋 I am a writer/actor/comedian based in Los Angeles. I have dealt with mental health issues since the fifth grade. Now I want to laugh with them. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Anxiety Disorder, and Depression. I'm not a doctor, but that’s exactly why my brother said I should talk about it.
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[@FreimannMusic]

Thank you for this amazing video Corey! Understand you completely, that’s exactly how I feel all the time. Having same problem with feeling guilt and responsibility for other people. Slowly learning to embrace and accept that. Respect to you for being so brave talking about that openly!

[@coreybennettboardman]

Thank you so much for the message Vlad. Feeling guilt and responsibility for other people is described in this book as taking on other people's tasks. Adlerian Psych looks hard at separating what is our task, and what is not. This is hard for me to embrace too. Because we want to be supportive, to be a good human to others. And at the same time, we can't MAKE them feel or do anything. This makes my head spin lol. It seems to match the Serenity Prayer of releasing the things outside of our control. I looked back through some of my notes from the book and found this: "But while the principle of the separation of tasks is easy to grasp, putting it into practice is difficult." I'm slowly learning too, friend!💛

[@JaysonT1]

Awesome! Nice job. Great seeing a new video. Unlocking that kind of stuff is crazy difficult, painful and time consuming. A year ago, in counseling, I uncovered something about myself that I was completely blind to but now looking back it's so damn obvious.

[@coreybennettboardman]

Thank you Jayson! More videos on the way. Thank you for your continued support. Glad to hear that you've been able to uncover understanding within yourself too. It sounds like it's helped, even through the time and pain. 🙌

[@metadoran]

I feel flattered to think that maybe I made at least a small contribution to this video by having discussed this topic with you before. Watched it with my wife, she nodded in angreement the whole time and showed me a thumbs up.

[@coreybennettboardman]

Yessir! I'm very grateful to be able to work out nuanced topics like this with friends like you. Humbly glad to hear about you watching it with your wife. Thank you both for the support. 👍👍👍

[@GreenPerla9]

Just discovered your channel today while looking for Anthony De Mello’s videos on KZbin. I got caught watching your videos one after the other and i want to thank you for being who you are …. It is not about the information you are sharing but more about your sincere PRESENCE in delivering this information. Thank you Corey. Btw did you check any of David Hawkins work? You mirrored a lot of pieces in my own story and i would like to suggest the book “ Letting go: The pathway of surrender” by David Hawkins; a great life changer specially in regards of anxiety and depression. Sending you sunlight from Egypt ☀️💚

[@coreybennettboardman]

Thank you very much for this message. Really and truly. I've added it to my cookie jar because it means a lot to me. 💛 I haven't read David Hawkins yet, so thank you very much of the recommendation. I just purchased it! Looking forward to exploring this book. Hello to you and Egypt and sending the sun right back from Los Angeles!

[@GreenPerla9]

@@coreybennettboardman Beautiful synchronicity! Enjoy your reading … so looking forward to watch your video on Hawkins’ concepts and teachings

[@coreybennettboardman]

✨Thank you! Looking forward to learning his teachings!

[@markuslaczko]

"core memory unlocked" - 😂great moment

[@coreybennettboardman]

Lol. Thanks dude! 🙌

[@alialqaraghuli]

This is a really good video

[@coreybennettboardman]

Oh hi! Thank you Ali. Now just to keep improving like you!!

[@ProCoachEnglish]

Hi there! Hope you’re ok. Are you still making videos? Haven’t seen you on here for a while

[@coreybennettboardman]

Thank you Richard. I truly appreciate your message. You are very thoughtful. 🙌 I took a step back from creating my own content for now. But I am considering what it could look like to come back to it. Hope you're good . Rooting for you too.

[@ObaiDotMe]

"All of this is Done .. It's Over" With intentional practice, I find myself getting better at accepting that and focusing on the future .. But some days it's just not possible .. And getting stuck on past events (happy or tragic) is inevitable! What can I do during these days?

[@coreybennettboardman]

I wonder if it's just that, Obai? That we get better at accepting and refocusing. Over and over. Yes. There will be days where we get lost. But then we come home again. Thank you for the message, friend! ✨

[@owensheasby]

@@coreybennettboardman 'iT's ParT Of ThE JoUrNeY'. Seriously though we are all constant works in progress I believe. As Joe Rogan said 'there's gotta be the days you push through'.

[@coreybennettboardman]

@@owensheasby We keep going! 🙌

[@owensheasby]

take the lesson, then move on. Oh and I can always be one of your' iT's PaRt Of ThE JoUrNeY' guys

[@coreybennettboardman]

Glad to have you on this journey! 🤝