A Few Things I Have To Say - addressing trolls, my childhood, coming out, and Tracey

[@dkmfwtx]

I'm an old straight Texan and I enjoy your channel and always figured you were gay and never cared.

[@rwatts2155]

That's the way it should be.

[@Chahlie]

I think many of us 'oldies' just appreciate young people who are living their best life. I actually get a kick out of the rainbow haired young people in my local shop. As long as they are happy and healthy!

[@anireseegam6128]

Well said mate!

[@seeletsanenthobatsang4550]

Lovely 🙌

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you!

[@c0987791]

I’m a heterosexual middle aged African American woman who enjoys your channel very much. Just wanted to leave a positive comment and to let you know that your channel/ content is appreciated. I especially enjoy tea ware displays and info. You are admired by many near and far.

[@TheMichelex20]

Me too lol. I love him. I’m about to invest in my first tea set.

[@vanessapnash5033]

Ditto👩🏽

[@saraG100]

Wouldn't it be lovely to just spend tea time together, with a beautiful tea set....

[@starsaligned4917]

You are lovely and kind! I enjoy your channel. Ignore the trolls. You know that you are appreciated and loved by your fans. Keep being you! We are here for you!🦋🌸😊

[@SoothingSoundsGL]

Absolutely agree❤️

[@edwardg.5212]

Never address trolls, it's exactly what they want. Deny the attention they crave, it will do their heads in.

[@deboramccallum3987]

The thing haters dislike the most is ignoring them nuf said

[@JolovesDecor]

So sad that people make you feel you have to explain your life, and economic background. You’re loved, accepted and adored. I’m happy that your life was a good one. However, telling your story about your being gay may help others who are afraid. You’re a precious person, and never be anything but you. ❤️ a class act.

[@sylviekins]

Well said!

[@a.phillips6892]

@@sylviekins I agree.

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you! x

[@skc3753]

I agree it’s no one’s business what or who you are as long as you’re true to yourself.

[@ElizabethBobin-w8j]

Thank you for bringing such calm.....and reminding me to be more stylish.

[@cookingartguy2170]

Nicolas, the only thing I don't like about you is that you are more mature and advanced and well-adjusted at 30 than I am at 66. LOL. You're a dear young man. Your parents must be very proud of you.

[@Twinklez63]

He's an exceptional human being 💗

[@rwatts2155]

Frank, he IS a wonderful young man, isn't he?! I'm 66, too, and he is an inspiration for me. I wish I'd had parents like his, but then I wouldn't be who I am, would I? I'm sure his parents ARE very proud of him. They SHOULD be !!!

[@cookingartguy2170]

@@rwatts2155 I actually teared up a little listening to his story, not only because I was very happy for him, but mine was very different. I had a very dysfunctional and abusive upbringing with no love whatsoever. Grammar school and high school were a nightmare. I was beaten with baseball bats and called vile names and the abuse lasted for years. It took me many years to get over the scars, and that is not self pity it's just reality. I had no support system whatsoever. I'm so glad Nicolas didn't have too bad of a time of it in school and had a loving and supportive family. I especially liked his message to young people to hang in there, that everything will be "okay."

[@rwatts2155]

@@cookingartguy2170 I know what you mean. Same here. I was kicked out of my parents' home when I was 13. Very abusive alcoholic father and the text book definition of a facilitator for a mother. Actually, being kicked out of their house was the best thing that could have happened to me. I became a survivor. After 15 years of intensive therapy and double that to put the therapy to work for me and having kissed a lot of princes who turned into frogs...I found my partner in life and we have been together for 27 years so far...and counting. He's my family. I am so happy Nicholas had a much different experience. Sure, he had difficulties but he has handled them well and he has a beautiful life ahead of him! I want the young gay people today to understand that they have infinitely better lives than we had in the 60's and 70's. And that we sacrificed so much and fought like HELL so they...our young gay men and women.. can have better lives and easier, happier lives than we had. They stand on our shoulders just as we stood on the shoulders of the gay men and women of the 40's and 50's and the shoulders of STONEWALL. And I pray that the gays of today develop shoulders for the gays who follow in their footsteps. People like Nicholas and his parents give me hope for the gay children of tomorrow. He and the many gay people like him are making the world a better place!

[@cookingartguy2170]

@@rwatts2155 I'm glad things turned around for you eventually. Some don't make it, I've known many unfortunately. My only regret is that it took me so many years to overcome the damage, not that I had a real choice in the process. I don't know how I didn't become an addict, but it just wasn't in me, I always wanted to improve myself, it just took so long as I said. I always felt dumb and worthless, but I've discovered late in life that I have writing and artistic talent, and I guess my regret is that I wish I had discovered it earlier, though I truly believe it's never too late. Glad you found happiness, at least as much we can hope to have in this world.

[@svonkie]

Middle-aged American straight dude. I like discovering KZbin stars before they go parabolic. My money is on you. I love your delivery and your style. Very calming. As an ASMR fan, I appreciate it.

[@jiggyfun807]

He's really solid for tv work in the u.s. There was a star several decades named lynette jennings with an asmr voice, he has this in spades!!-, if feels very natural watching him. (Anyone else you think we should check out ???!)

[@ziggy33399]

Me 2 ❤️

[@bryanambition]

@@jiggyfun807 OMG someone else who remembers Lynette Jennings! Yes!

[@jeanoliver3784]

I was also surprised to see the comment about Lynette Jennings. I used to go home on my lunch break and video tape her show to watch later. She was very special and began my love for the finer things in life and in home decorating interest.

[@NicolasFairford]

I have only just seen this comment - thank you so much, and apologies for the delayed response X

[@blondeenigma3882]

My eldest son told me he was gay when he was 14 ! I'd wondered if he was going to be from as early as 3 years old, the signs were all there even then. He's 29 now, living a great life with his partner of 7 years, and he's been the most wonderful son a mother could wish for !

[@letsplay1965]

And you sound like you’re a wonderful mother. He’s a lucky boy

[@tutnetam]

Sad story, sorry about your situation 😢

[@samanthakupie6311]

I can’t believe anyone would have an unkind thing to say about you. What a beautiful soul you are, Nicolas. Keep on doing what you love, authentically.

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you! X

[@JimmiAlli]

It was so lovely that your dad said ‘oh that’s fine, you didn’t need to wake me, you could have waited until the morning’. Such a great reaction.

[@DeltaStar777]

❤

[@elizabethkosmetatou5367]

People who have a problem with you have a huge problem with themselves. Your channel is fabulous, congrats!

[@teresafriend1733]

If only the whole world could be as sweet and humble as you.

[@davidrigsby4828]

Yeah the first time I saw about 2 minutes of a video, I jumped to the conclusion “do I really want to watch a rich British guy decorate?”’ Sadly…and stupid me…judged a book by its cover. I was so far off base, now that I’ve watched this video of him, my first. Hopefully one day I’ll learn. Wish me luck.

[@susanjackson6521]

A little mystery is a good thing. No one needs to know everything about a person

[@maurawhelan3530]

How right!

[@vintagegal5616]

I don’t know why being gay is still an issue with some people. You seem like an enjoyable person to be around. I love your videos and your apartment is decorated so lovely. I look forward to seeing you every week.😀

[@jeremynv89523]

Religion. That’s the source of 90% of it.

[@stephaniestanley8041]

I agree. We must get to the place where we are just who we are. No questions and no explanations.

[@alexandraeverafter1015]

Unfortunately, it is in my hometown, and it is a shame. Nick, you are a lovely and delightful person and one of my favorite YTers! 💕😊

[@edithreiffen5560]

That is so wonderful. That you came out to your parents early. Miserable people are always going to insult and make other people feel bad. That's their issue. But, dealing with situations make people feel stronger. I can see that you are very strong and happy and that's what matters.🐒😘

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you!

[@ProfessorThascales]

I'm gobsmacked that you actually have trolls! No matter, people with little to do and little minds.

[@kaiak3520]

As the mother of a fifteen year old lesbian, I love hearing about other parents who are so accepting. All parents who accept their children regardless are amazing 💜

[@aj32384]

Kudos for being a great Mom!

[@not-even-german4892]

Jeezzzzzz 😂😂😂😂😂

[@gwendolyn7462]

Get your daughter to a psychologist--there is still hope for her at age 15: DO IT NOW! before it is too late

[@jat6547]

If u love your daughter, you'd point out in the bible that that lifestyle is an abomination in God's eye's..... Save her soul ! It's not ok !!!!! Now I'm not being mean, so settle down !!!!! This is not my opinion,,,,, this is biblical..

[@regrunberg1095]

" if you want to date me, you have to be friends with him too" that's why we love you. Manners and sassiness.

[@bradleynoneofyourbizz5341]

Didn't The Spice Girls have a song about that?

[@rwatts2155]

Says a lot about Nicholas and his friend. I think Nicholas will one day understand that he and his friend are still family. All relationships change. Sex is important but it comes and goes. Love and commitment make a family. Now Nicholas and his friend will eventually bring others into their family and those people will have to understand that they love each other and always will. And if the new people want to be part of their lives they will have to be mature and secure enough to love the other as family, too. We are ALL the product of our experiences and whom we have loved. Just because a relationship changes doesn't mean you can't love the person. After all, they are still basically the same person we loved in the first place.

[@mrchasetopher88]

I’m a proud, married, gay man from California who has absolutely loved your videos from the very beginning. Cheers to you and continued success!

[@tutnetam]

Sad

[@stephenholmes5362]

When I discovered I was gay 57 years ago there was no one like you that a young gay person could watch and know it’s alright to be gay! Young gays are lucky to have people like yourself doing this kind of videos. Thank you. Much luck and success to you and never mind the “trolls” the only thing they will ever be good at is envy and it’s a very sad color to have to wear!

[@VinOnline]

[@bethycateyes1000]

You are a lovely, inspiring person. Everyone deals with criticisms and difficult people. I admire the fact that you handle any naysayers with such grace. Keep being true to yourself and sharing your beautiful take on life.

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you so much x

[@tc7486]

Sounds like you’ve had a charmed life. Gay or not that’s a blessing. And you obviously had wonderful parents. ❤️

[@NicolasFairford]

I have been lucky in my life - being mostly surrounded by amazing people x

[@tc7486]

@@NicolasFairford ❤️

[@lovetruth5733]

Just remember only GOD is good, you don't know anyone behind closed doors.🤔

[@ron4501]

I grew up in a small apartment with my parents. we were far from wealthy. I have been successful in life and feel a sense of pride that nothing was handed to me. I applaud you for making your own life and enjoying the better things in life.

[@sasha-stone]

Troll!? Who is trolling my darling Nicolas! Whomever they are, they are simply jealous of how successful you have become and how much your fans enjoy your work. Nothing cheers me up more than when you post a video. You have soothed my weary soul. It makes me angry anyone would bother you.

[@Doctorandergraun]

I love how real and humble you are Nico❤️

[@beeplusdee928]

Totally second that! 👍👏

[@Doctorandergraun]

@@aidasa3791 :) me encanta este canal

[@itsalmasparks]

@@Doctorandergraun omg no way 🥰💕🤎

[@Stas95]

I agree with you Lakabra.

[@murielmichalopoulos195]

A

[@DebWHNP]

I love how gentle you are, even with those who are unkind.

[@c.m.7734]

I read once, "It is better to create something that others criticize, then to create nothing and be critical". Has always stayed with me. Keep shining bright. The other jealous ones will hopefully find their own way out of their bitterness.xo from Canada

[@larrygraysmith8411]

That's from Ricky Gervais.

[@NicolasFairford]

I love that! Thanks for sharing!

[@c.m.7734]

@@larrygraysmith8411 YES , I think that's right. I couldn't remember. Thank you!

[@larrygraysmith8411]

@@c.m.7734 You're welcome

[@sarsol19]

Agree! Found this channel a few months back and I'm in love. Thank you, Nicolas, for your sharing your style --definitely my aesthetic! Love from the Philippines. :)

[@requiemforadream4430]

There is nothing wrong with wanting to have beautiful manners and lovely and polite gestures ! You're such a classy person Nicolas ! Such a breath of fresh air !

[@ericaj.m.1780]

Here here 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@808OnMyMind]

Nicolas, as a mother of four sons and three grandsons, I would be honored to be your mom. You are a treasure I am sure, to your parents. Although this may have been a difficult video for you, this video was thought-full, caring and very well done. Sending wishes of kindness your way. 💜

[@princepeterwolf]

Trolls? You're one of the most gracious human beings on earth. Who the heck would troll you? You're very loved

[@davispatricks5453]

The nature of trolls is to disturb the peace. Since Nicolas' channel exudes calm, peace, and kindness, it sadly makes him a tempting target for trolls.

[@princepeterwolf]

@@davispatricks5453 your words today helped me so much. Thank you

[@davids6898]

As a gay man in a long term relationship of almost 11 years with my wonderful boyfriend I must say you give me some inspiration. And ways in which to incorporate traditionally feminine colors and textures into our decor. I appreciate you do not accentuate your sexuality into every video. By doing so you demonstrate how normal being gay is and that homosexuals and men in general can appreciate the softer, more delicate aspects of life and not let that define who they are.

[@katiasaporta2250]

You are absolutely right, being gay is normal, but unfortunately there are still situations of prejudice and great ignorance in this world., when sexual orientation is another characteristic of the person out of many others who make that person who he is . One of my good friends is gay, and he is one of the most wholesome persons that I know, I learn from him everyday. Greetings from Chile.

[@davids6898]

@@katiasaporta2250 Exactly. Living near Los Angeles it is easy to forget that there still is ignorance throughout many areas of the world. Thinking about it even my boyfriend grew up in a Mexican household and if a man was anything less than “macho” he was ostracized and outcast by his community. So he naturally gravitates to not expressing his homosexuality to the fullest. Nicolas’ videos have shown me many ways to incorporate some design elements into our decor that would soften the more cold and masculine elements that exist due to his upbringing in a “macho” and rather homophobic environment.

[@tutnetam]

@@katiasaporta2250nothing normal about this and you know it

[@trinaneveri]

Your dedicated audience loves you Nico!

[@iVenge]

What a dear and elegant man you are. I wish you the very best.

[@-HRH]

*Why would anyone troll this lovely, calming, elegant, down-to-earth dude? I like him and I will defend him.*

[@Carorawoodlands]

As a mother of a 1year old i just cried at your beautiful coming out story. I want to be just like your parents no matter who my daughter and future kids are. I’m so glad i found you on here and cant wait to watch you grow. You’re so handsome and talented xxx

[@not-even-german4892]

😅😅😅😅😅

[@tatygonzalez8664]

You are lovely, naturally talented and such a gentleman. Such a beautiful soul. Thank you for giving so much of YOU to the world. 🙏💙🌺🌹🌈

[@tarab9254]

I feel like you have been transparent about being on a budget and doing DIY to save money. I am glad that you shared with us bc it is interesting and I'm glad you are strong and able to be a role model to others. It's baffling to me how anyone could find something negative about such a sweet beautiful channel.

[@ericaj.m.1780]

Isnt he wonderful

[@veronicaalmeda8014]

When you have good taste it shows broken or not lol. He is a resourceful person and I love that about him!.

[@sabaha2010]

Yeah it’s really weird when people associate taste with money/class. Very simple minded.

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you so much x

[@tarab9254]

You give so much of yourself the least I can do is let you know how much it's appreciated and enjoyed! You have really provided a wonderful place for people to relax and enjoy!

[@heatherstephenson5710]

Nicholas please don’t feel you have to explain yourself to anyone. There is so much love out there for you. I have never once watched you and thought you are trying to be someone your not, you have said from the start that you came from humble beginnings. This world would be such a better place if everyone had a heart like yours. Xx

[@nancystaggs8605]

Your fans are just that fans and we LOVE you for who YOU are.

[@NicolasFairford]

I love you too x

[@1965mdp]

US viewer here. So sorry you had to explain all of this. It's really nobody's business who you were or who you are off camera. Bravo!

[@lindycarol3365]

✌️🤟😍🦒💫hugs for everything working out so well!

[@NicolasFairford]

I wanted to make it clear that I am totally unbothered - this is about all the other people reading these mean words, which might affect them in some way x

[@sarahr.6840]

I could listen to you speak for hours on end; everything about this channel is perfect.

[@lynnandrews5313]

Happy people don't have the inclination to be mean, so whenever someone says something unkind we immediately know they must be very unhappy. I guess we should be feeling very sorry for them.

[@teresa9516]

That is good advice for us all. I never thought of it that way.

[@NicolasFairford]

Absolutely. This is why I don't feel hurt or upset by these people. I actually worry more for them x

[@larrywakeman4371]

...or they are jealous at his success! Kimberly

[@teresa8116]

My sentiments exactly!

[@davidduaneh]

Thanks so much for sharing these personal stories, Nicholas. I’m a 67 year old gay man in San Francisco, and I know from my life experience that regardless of how far we’ve come, the coming out process is still not an easy one. But as you recount, it is ultimately a freeing and emboldening experience. I believe most of us end up stronger as a result. I was inordinately touched by the personal photos of your family and friends at the end of the video. I’m sure you thought twice about including those, but they added poignancy and authenticity to your words. As you say, you are normally dealing with beautiful things, appearances and surfaces. Thanks again for this video. It touched me.

[@coriwatson3380]

You are a breath of fresh air. I admire you totally.

[@curlew-3592]

To be happy Nicholas mix with like minded friends, anyone else doesn’t matter 😊 I mix with people who fill their cupboards with balls of wool and fabric remnants ‘just in case’, but it makes us happy 😂😂 A tip from a grandma 😊👍🇬🇧

[@carolynramos7180]

Me too ❤ x

[@NicolasFairford]

I always have and always will x

[@peruvianauthorities1739]

One thing that I really like about you - is your character - how you are protective of people in your life (even from your past)! That's a great quality!

[@pretzeltime3900]

Hello Nicolas. I know it’s been a while since you’ve posted this video, but I would just like to say that I am so very proud of you. Proud that you are living your life as you like, and especially that you have the courage to share your story with all of us. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and love. So happy that I found your channel.

[@williamfrench9973]

I see many comments saying that “you don’t need to explain yourself.” And quite right - you owe no one an explanation as there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. But I feel what their point fails to account for is perhaps your ability to hold your head up high and tell your own story - removing the ability of others to tell and perhaps alter that story for their own devices. Well done sir!

[@susannah1948]

Well said

[@heathermiller9707]

Beauty and culture is for everyone. Bravo for reminding us.

[@beeabser]

You are one of the most “real” people on this channel! I love, love, love your videos! You are an inspiration to everyone! Let’s keep our lives “beautiful and happy”!

[@doro8856]

Nicolas: I really like that if someone wants to date you, they have to get along with your ex. Good for you. Don't let anyone break the lovely relationship you've had with him all this time. The best to both of you.

[@viviennemargaretprescott9717]

Dear Nicholas, anybody with a modicum of sensibility and intelligence can see the pleasure you feel in sharing the beauty in the things and places you share with us. Love from Italy xxx

[@janemulvenna9598]

I’m a middle-aged northern Irish woman living in Texas and love your channel. We all have our own paths to follow but much to share and love about each other. Those of us that can own who we are will always accept others and be happy. All we can do is pray that those who haven’t been able to do the same will find the strength to do so. The core of hate is fear and lack of self.

[@chacha-oy5sb]

Thanks for this reflexion.

[@Onlyonekittycat]

I think no one should ever feel compelled to “acknowledge” anything so personal such as intimacy, orientation etc... but since we’re living in this poor minded society... I guess at least you just did that the most different and elegant way ever. And wether you were raised in a castle or a cabin doesn’t change the quality of your work and the singular and so charming personality that is yours. 💖 Every time you post a video I feel delighted and I regret not having friends of your kind.

[@hoops8534]

👏👏👏 Yes!!!

[@timriehl1500]

Exactly; someone is more than who they sleep with. And I really don't want to think too much about the private lives of two consenting adults. I enjoy concentrating on his videos that improve our quality of life. Beauty is available to everyone and should be appreciated. I like how he enjoys beauty.

[@patsyjohnson3963]

And now that everyone knows all about your life, let's get on to enjoying a afternoon tea.

[@davidrigsby4828]

Hear hear!

[@MsLorriedee]

“What other people think of me is none of my business”. My favorite quote by my favorite person Louise Hay. ❤️

[@brianexplores285]

“I’ve known since you were four years old.” How sweet.

[@FunmiOladipo]

Stop eeeet! 😏

[@janelem3448]

I agree that you do not have to explain yourself, Nicholas.

[@keepingourhome7271]

The world so very much needs more positive people, like you. Cheers from🇨🇦

[@tek5692]

Thank you for this warm, honest, vulnerable and heart-warming interview. Peace, blessings, and support to you from an 'honorary uncle:' a 42-year old, gay, American vicar with childhood-onset Anglophilia. I love your videos, and each one inspires me to live a more beautiful and elegant life. 💝

[@GeminiPurPower]

Lord, I’m so tired of cruel, mean people. Can everyone just relax and just enjoy the presentation of a video blogger. His personal life is none of anyone’s business. Nobody is entitled to his inner thoughts and feelings. I really wish he would keep his life private. Divulging information just gives trolls more to snicker and gossip about and in turn he will eventually get to the point where he can’t take it. They all do! Words have intent and the moment they leave your mouth it starts to create its own reality.

[@whathappenedtomyYThandle]

Yes responding is never enough, not answers they are looking for, better to just block them from the channel.

[@doratiscareno5856]

ME TOO.... I RUN INTO THESE KIND OF PEOPLE DAILY...NO MATTER WHERE I GO.... IVE LEARNED TO NOT ENGAGE...WITH THESE KIND OF PEOPLE... IF I WERE YOUNGER I WOULD HAVE GONE TO JAIL🤭

[@alaningram]

I am delighted to read so many positive comments below. Well done you!

[@RedRockYouTube]

Nicolas, I have enjoyed your channel for many, many months now. I appreciate you inviting viewers into your life and all the helpful advice you give on decorating, setting a proper, beautiful table, and being a good host. All my best to you.

[@judiebradshaw4368]

“I could just be me.” The basis for a happy life. 💗💗

[@blizhe.k.prirode.]

Hey, Nicolas! I'm from Russia, and as you may know it's the most homophobic country in the Christian world. I used to be like a majority of people (non-aggressive but contemptuous), but in the Academy (while I was getting an undergraduate degree) I had a friendship with a gay that started to change the way I feel about homosexual people. Thanks to YT I just discovered your beautiful channel😍 Absolutely love the way you speak, explain things, your maturity and manners❤️ I wish you to become wealthy really soon! Please, continue to delight us with your exquisite videos😍💖

[@williamrjones5152]

Nicolas, I can't recall when I began following your channel, but I am so happy that I stumbled upon your videos. It has been obvious that you come from a loving and supportive family. The presentation of your videos are very calming and offer many pleasurable moments of serenity. Thank you for taking the time to share your journey, and a piece of your life's experiences. I love your philosophy of "...never complain, never explain." Continue to live your life, and live it unapologetically. There are always "trolls"...people who don't have a life except to attempt to create drama in the lives of others. For those who think you are too much, I have a few words of advice for them, "go find less". Those of us who SUBSCRIBE to this channel, follow your blog are here because of you, who you are, what you do, and what you have to offer. Looking forward to your next installment. ❤

[@KonnieHua1980]

I'm sorry you feel you had to clarify & explain your life because of a few who probably don't have a life. The vast majority of us absolutely love you and your channel, Nicolas. So, please continue to put out your wonderful videos. I've learned so much, thanks to you, and I look forward to seen you on KZbin each week. (P.S. Your parents did a wonderful job raising you. Our world needs more parents like them.👍💖)

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you!

[@elgadzirkalis4993]

I have ordered many of the design books that you have recommended and found them inspiring and helpful as I have just moved into a new home. I love your sense of beauty.....it is rare in such a young person. You show us the importance of living with beautiful things and the profound effect it has on our lives. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@a.phillips6892]

I’ve been in the dance world from a young age, and been around gay people all that time. It never crossed my mind to delve into your past Nicholas. I consider that your personal business. I follow you because I really enjoy the content of your videos, and wish you happiness in your life. Please continue to make them!💓💓💓

[@NicolasFairford]

Thank you so much x

[@Leafygreen123]

Exactly!

[@rakhil1830]

I don’t care if someone is gay or straight I am more concerned about their happiness.

[@beverleydoolittle824]

Thank you for sharing.

[@davidrigsby4828]

Hear hear!

[@missmuffet3874]

❤️

[@martinphillips3432]

I’d echo many of the loving comments below. I grew up in a three bedroom council house in Swansea. I was the middle of five sons, one of whom was my fraternal twin. I feel like I have not just made my own family since going to University in London, but even more so here in New York, where I moved when I was 27. I always knew I was gay, and it gave me the benefit of rejecting norms and expectations and deciding what was right for me. Like you, no one would really guess at my upbringing - not because I wanted to be “better” than my roots, not because I was ashamed of anything or ever thought that I was less than I should or could be, but just because I wanted to be self-sufficient and not be beholden to anyone later in life (even though I have been a corporate slave for many years here in NY). I thought this video was lovely, and like you, got through my early years pretty unscathed, and enjoyed loving parents even though my mother was frankly a petty-minded, bigoted Tory at heart. It didn’t stop her from loving me. Those of us who didn’t suffer in striving to be our authentic selves, should always provide as much of a helping hand to those that haven’t had the harmony we have enjoyed and to those who are suffering on their journey to being their best selves.

[@doreennelson4636]

Elizabeth’s Country Shabby and Vintage Dreams

[@simonecherkaoui448]

Merci 🙏🏻 à votre maman et votre papa de vous avoir fait naître dans ce monde. Vous êtes un merveilleux cadeau 💝 dans cette réalité 💐🕊🕊🕊

[@joannathesinger770]

What someone--anyone--does in their private life, including including in their bedroom, is none of my business. And for others to be mean towards others for ANY reason is horrible. Why can't we all just live and let live?

[@joannathesinger770]

@rowan orre You'd be surprised but there's LOTS of folks that think they need to police other people's bedroom habits. Trust me on this.

[@michelez715]

I've said it a hundred times - why can't people be tolerant, or in plainer words, mind their own business. Who gives anyone the right to sit on judgement of others, and decide what's best for others to do? Live and let live, best motto going.

[@sk.n.9302]

Love your mom & the very normal & stable life your parents provided you.

[@wendiedrammeh1527]

What a gorgeous looking family you have, those photos at the end were beautiful as you are inside and out. Manners, being polite and kindness cost nothing, we can all learn so much from you. You are a breath of fresh air. Thank you for sharing such personal things with us.

[@clsachdeva]

The way you explain the sensitive parts of your life to the world is so mature, kind, sensitive and thoughtful. Love the photos at the end.

[@JennygoestoNYC]

Wow. I cried so much. I am so happy to hear that. My best friend has still such a hard time with his parents, that he wanted to kill himself. Your parents are so lovely and I support everyone living their best life. As a friend you can only be there and support as much as possible. Have a good time. Thank you for sharing.

[@danphillips84]

MSN chat! That’s a flashback! I had a very similar coming out story around the same time as you in the early 2000s, the world was a different place to what it is now. In order for us to survive we had to adapt. All credit to you for creating this channel. It may not be to everyone’s taste, but be proud to know that you’ve built a lovely community of people who look forward to your weekly content. Best of luck and keep it beautiful ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@timothyj1966]

You really don't owe anyone any explanations! But, as I have always said ~ for every person that comes out...it makes it that much easier for the next guy. I am glad you had an easier time coming out with family - my family cut me off for 14 years... was tough...but eventually everyone came around and all good and they love my husband. Thanks for encouraging other people Nicolas. As far as being real... you have been forthright and honest from the start, you are not a snob, you have explained that you come from a Working Class, and even if you were an Aristocrat - it would STILL be no ones' business. You are talented, kind, genunine, and creative. Period!! Your'e single... can't see that happening for too much longer --- you are too great a Catch! I did enjoy your VLogs with Tracey she is a lovely person. Looking forward to your new content! Take us through an Antique Store and back to London!

[@anahood1898]

Let me start by saying how I so enjoy your channel! You’re an admirable young man and so transparent. I have a son about your age who is also gay and a very similar story of how he came out! Keep being true to yourself and ignore the trolls, they don’t deserve your kindness!

[@brad3327]

Nicolas, you are a very brave person. The fact that you are comfortable enough to discuss this is helping so many people come to terms with issues they are tackling. You've not allowed negative bullies to shame you. I find you very informative and a very good teacher. You are creating an awesome lifestyle. Keep doing what you are doing. You are awesome. There are so many who support you. Most importantly thank you for sharing your family with us.

[@NicolasFairford]

Thanks so much for your kind words. I was lucky to feel supported and loved in my teens - hoping I can pay it forward for the new generation who are coming of age x

[@timriehl1500]

As an American, I completely understand remaking yourself. Americans do it all the time; we strive because we don't really understand the concept of "staying in your place". Your place in life is wherever you make it. Love your videos.

[@robinorear4307]

To thine own self be true. You are a beautiful, amazing young person. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@oliviacasino8888]

Nicolas, I’ve been a subscriber from early on and my immediate assessment of your character…honest, sincere, bold and delightful, has if anything only increased and confirmed my ‘snap’ judgment. You would make any grandmama (I’m 80 now) very proud and extremely fortunate to have you about in her life. Thank you for this sharing, not only because truth is down right intoxicating but also, because your calmness while speaking so truthfully will help those other’s who might be in more precarious situations deal with their own emancipation. Bravo!

[@NicolasFairford]

Thanks for being there from the start! x x

[@andreawhite7112]

I find it amazing how comfortable you are discussing your personal life with the world….I applaud you for your courage! We love your videos Nicholas, thank you for being you! Xx

[@ninawaters8632]

I love your channel! I an 80 year old American and I enjoy all your videos. I love all the same beautiful things that you have and share with us. It’s so nice to see a young person who appreciates the things you share.

[@pattyiniguez5431]

“Whatever people think about me is none of my business” …. Gold, pure gold. People love to add unnecessary problems to their lives. You must be quite important to them for them to spend their precious time talking and thinking about you. What a paradox! I love your energy and content and you do in fact bring joy to my life ❤️

[@NicolasFairford]

Thanks so much for your support! X

[@defunct5728]

Style, manners and elegance transcend time and social class. And trolls! Xx

[@diannedutton6127]

I'm a 79yr old female and I enjoy your vlogs. I don't care if you're gay, that's your business.

[@lisamurray1627]

Nicolas the way you see things and do things, that's what makes you so very special. Keep smiling and making life more beautiful with that wonderful sweet smile. Your channel is so uplifting, refreshing, and that's all due to your outlook on life.

[@NicolasFairford]

So happy to hear that - Thank you so much x

[@hearteyesalicexoxo]

It is such a treat to watch your videos every Friday. It gives me so much joy. Thank you for sharing your coming out story. I know someone will watch this and it will help them because they have you to look up to. A little late but Happy Pride 🌈

[@gardenbun]

I have been a teacher for 34 years and love your channel. Sadly, I know all too well how some kids bully the kids who try to better themselves by striving to create and meet life goals. The kids who do the bullying are lacking in self-love/self-esteem and anything they say is only a reflection of how they feel inside. Glad you don't let them get you down! You have over 100K subscribers...you are LOVED!

[@Hessebes863]

Im 16 years old and i’m very alternative yet i find so much peace in your videos Nicholas! You are amazing I love you!

[@mariansmith7694]

I have 3 children, both of my daughter's best friends are wonderful gay men. We should all be who we are. You are an exceptional person... strong & balanced.

[@williambane2712]

Thank you for being so open and honest. This is the kind of thing that builds real camaraderie between you, the host, and we the guests who enjoy following you and the things you bring to the table. It is refreshing when people are authentic about their lives and enjoy who they are. This is an inspiration in so many ways for so many people. Thank you.

[@graceb]

I can’t understand anyone thinking that you are a fake. You are so natural.

[@lovetruth5733]

You don't know anyone because you are not with them 24/7. Remember only GOD is good.

[@melissagreen_]

There is just something about you and your presence that has such a calming effect after a stressful day, that just lifts my spirits! A wonderful escape from an insane world! Thanks again lovely Nicolas. xx

[@davidrigsby4828]

Wow. I hope I can be a person who lifts others’ spirits after a stressful day! Should be all of our prayer.

[@ells80]

This channel was recommended to me and I’ve found the same for me is true- he is delightfully special.

[@mabella3437]

WELL SAID!!

[@Jendromeda]

what a great video !! i watched your videos a few years ago and then lost my favorites list, i am back and watching videos from the past year or two. You are very wise and together for a 32 year old. YOU are incredible !!!

[@miavos3610]

When I discovered your channel quite a while ago I told you that you were a wonderfully unique person. I think this video will make people love you even more than before. You are truly a very special person.

[@redderpom]

You are 100% adorable, charming, and a positive, inspiring soul. You are a role model to everyone, regardless of age, background, or any other identity grouping. Thank you for not being a hyper, shouting narcissist, and simply sharing lifestyle ideas in an inviting, soothing way. You’re going to be big, and will deserve all your success.

[@NicolasFairford]

Such a great comment! Thank you so much x

[@spsk9025]

1- other people opinion is their business, my opinion about them is my business 2- No complain, No explain 3- No shame and guilt in improving your lifestyle, because it comes to number 1, my life my business.. It would be a wonderful world if everyone could get that, but it comes to number 1 again. My mind, My world, my business, I am the only one that need to get what I want them to get.

[@Tunneldreamer]

Nicolas, you are a joy to watch and listen to. So glad that your coming out was a happy one. You obviously have a wonderful, supportive family and I am so happy for you. I look forward to many more videos. Best wishes, Martin.