A Fix For Transphobia | r/LGBallT

[@Jammidodger]

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[@goopnoop]

I love you Jamie, you are the most wholesome and amazing creators on here! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@SevCaswell]

you said Scentbird was available in the US and Canada, but you're a UK based channel. I really think it is a bad move to take sponsorship from companies that don't provide services in your own home country.

[@Monoprismatic]

The link doesn't work in mobile Firefox, but it works fine on Chrome or in desktop mode - just in case anyone needs to know

[@spookat3909]

May you please stop leaving out Omni when you talk about multisexual identities bi and pan are not the only ones.

[@Draglox]

What is a woman

[@SpringStarFangirl]

I'm laughing so hard at the bi and pan comic because my brain automatically read "smooching noises! smooching noises! these are the noises of smooching!" in OT's voice.

[@taylor_green_9]

Same! 😂

[@youdontownme08]

As a pansexual I can confirm. I had a relationship with two bi people. ❤️

[@pur3chao56]

I READ YOUR COMMENT IN OTS VOICE! WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?!

[@taylor_green_9]

@@pur3chao56 OT is too powerful. We can't resist!

[@alexelion7084]

I‘m pretty sure the person who made this watches OT, this is too accurately him to be a coincidence

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

As an ace/aro, I am constantly TOLD that thats a mental illness and that I'm straight but being difficult or frigid or refusing to conform. How many times can you tell someone I'm not attracted to you at ANY level except maybe platonic? Why does that make me the inhumane and unnatural one? Plenty of others that ARE straight, go pester them. I just wont share my cake with you!

[@liesjelualockse6377]

Uhg aro here, same. Ppl scrutonizing my past relationships saying it is all trauma and/ar selfishness... Anyway, here to give out the virtual hug queerball suggested.. if you want it ofc! 😉🌈🤗

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Here's a cake and a hug if consented ! As i have been named "cyborg" by a TEACHER for this, i feel it hard. (It was years ago, i dont care anymore)

[@saraquill]

What we do is let substandard garlic bread go stale. Then we pelt the aphobes with rock hard bread until the stop moving or pestering us. Whichever comes first.

[@SilverGallowglass]

I seriously don't understand some people. Have they just never had a good quality platonic love for someone? It's very fulfilling. Friends or QPP, either way, it's great. ❤ I mean, not even just that. You can be whole and fulfilled from self love, love for your community, love for nature and the world. I mean people make jokes about being married to their job, but it's always framed in the lonely, doesn't have good relationships way. If your job brings you joy and you are getting your emotional needs met, there is nothing wrong with that. A lot of people are lonely and want connections and as long as their pursuit of connection doesn't hurt them or others, why does it matter who or what form those connections takes? Edit: But yes, if they can't be polite they don't deserve cake (eat it all right in front of them) and should be pelted with stale garlic bread (although, how the bread remained uneaten long enough to get stale is a mystery even if it is substandard).

[@akira_ariga]

People just out here unable to comprehend a life without any sort of attraction While I’m not aro, I’m ace, and people still find it bizarre that I don’t get sexually attracted to people and it does get annoying when they try to like “talk you out of it” I feel

[@DarkBangle]

So I have a cute and funny story related to the last comic. I have a bi friend that tends to lean mostly sapphic in her affections. After quite a while of dating pretty much just girls, she met a sweet young man at a ren fair kind of place and they started dating. Some years later, the egg cracked. When my friend's partner came out to her, her response to her girlfriend was to stare blankly for a moment and then say "goddamn, maybe I really am just a lesbian". Turns out this is not the only person she has dated that turned out to be a trans woman not yet out of the closet. However, it did turn out to be the last. They are now grossly adorable wives that practice swordplay together and live with their big orange tom cat.

[@IWillNeverReadYourReply]

Ok but that's sooooo cuuute

[@TransmascWantsChickenStrips]

that story is so sweet im lowkey tearing up rn

[@brookedickson4118]

And they say fairytales don’t exist.

[@Ri_F]

I think that something similar happened to Abigail from PhilosophyTube. Some ex-girlfriends later came out as lesbians, lol.

[@blake4144]

That's really cool! Guess things really do work out well sometimes. 🙃

[@F_Karnstein]

I had known someone for a year who had then identified as a lesbian girl (who was with a bi girl) but later came out as a trans guy. As I later said to him "so that means you're actually straight" he looked at me in utter surprise and said "Holy shit, you're right! I gotta tell my girlfriend!" which was adorable 😂

[@candyplays6343]

Me, a lesbian who's with a bi (demi)girl and questioning if I'm trans, cis, or genderfluid: 👁👄👁

[@Dragonlover-kz7mk]

OMG THAT HAPPENED TO ME At first I was a lesbian cisgender, then I was a lesbian bigender (she/he), then I came out as trans. And my friends are like: Wait a damn minute… If you’re a guy, and you like girls… YOU’RE STRAIGHT!

[@pipi-caca]

​@@Dragonlover-kz7mk Get well soon 😔/j

[@Pianovania]

Two things: The trans ≠ straight things has happened to me, I told my mom I had a lesbian friend and she was so confused because the friend was also trans. She was also *concerned* because I had had crushes on two trans people?? And then! Recently, my aunt came out as trans, and it's super sweet, my other aunt is super supportive and they still have such a sweet relationship, even if the cis aunt struggles with getting things right 100% of the time

[@neuralmute]

That's happened to my BFF and I too. She's a trans lesbian, and I'm a trans-masc pan. We were already close friends before either of us came out, and now we joke that we've just traded genders. It's also frustrating that people wonder why we haven't hooked up already. It's like, dude, she's more or less my sister! And I'm not a woman anymore!

[@garyrandom7512]

@@neuralmute Transwoman are male or female?

[@neuralmute]

@@garyrandom7512 It's right in the name, dude. Trans women are women.

[@garyrandom7512]

@@neuralmute My question is not "Are transwoman woman?" My question is are transwoman male or female?

[@desireeramosreiner1855]

@@garyrandom7512 trans women are born as men but are now women like they always were( just now physically and mentally)when people call ot an illness they are evil.

[@sineadcarty7256]

My brother and his friend had a running gag that his friend was gay for years because teenage boys. Then she came out to us as a trans lesbian and we were really like "SO WE WERE RIGHT!". We love her

[@Jane-oz7pp]

I mean, trans and gay aren't synonymous though

[@sineadcarty7256]

@@Jane-oz7pp I absolutely agree but she's a trans lesbian now

[@IceFoxPlaysActual]

@@Jane-oz7ppshe is trans *AND* gay, kinda like that song from the legally blonde musical, where the guy is gay *AND* European, people can be multi faceted

[@marxandengelsgodandangels8634]

fyi, women don't have penises

[@squeaktheswan2007]

​@@marxandengelsgodandangels8634 They do, actually.

[@amandalong4492]

My daughter is a lesbian and I've had people say, "she could still change her mind." Like, nah, I've known since she was 10.

[@mizzmatrix]

When people ask me and/or my wife who "the man" is in the relationship, we respond; "we are both "the girl" in the relationship, that's kind of the point" 😉

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I also recommend: "hey, but I'm confused about your relationship: who wears the dress, and who wears the other dress?"

[@CarMedicine]

@@unapologeticallylizzy "What about the dress wearer?" "We already have one." "You have one, yes. But what about the second dress wearer?"

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@@CarMedicine Precisely.

[@animeartist888]

I've actually flipped this around by mentioning the old boomer stereotype that the woman really runs the relationship. So "the man" is actually the woman of the house in most straight relationships. Teehee

[@Me-wk3ix]

I remember a long time ago the chopstick meme helped get that. LOL, silly but it worked for me!

[@BluetheRaccoon]

I've always imagined that gaydar would sound like a soft, questioning "heeeeeeey?" and the closer you get to the gay person it would be a loud, positive HAAAY! (like an enthusiastic one you'd shout at your friend when you are surprised to see them)

[@spooky6703]

What I was looking for, the gayest sound is just "Heeey~"

[@TitularHeroine]

😂😂😂that's too cool!! Best suggestion yet

[@gregorywiederecht]

I imagined a whole bunch of little "yassses"

[@cottencandykitten]

​@@gregorywiederecht same 😅

[@IMightBeVanny]

"HEY GIRL HEY!"

[@laurayn9703]

I recently found out that I am also one of the asexuals who often don’t get the sexual meaning of things. My grandma kept talking about the nice man who moved in with their neighbor, played with her daughter and helped around the house. I thought for over two years that he was just living there. Turns out he‘s the neighbors boyfriend.

[@Alicia-zf3nq]

*OT voice* And they were roommates!! I'm sorry, I'm also an oblivious aroace who didn't even realise two of my housemates were dating for half a year. It just was too fitting not to make that joke

[@christinewalker7242]

All throughout high school, when someone would say someone was cute, I got confused as why are you seeing them that way (I associated cute with dog or other small innocent furry, feathery or scaled animal). Whenever the word hot was used, I thought they were talking about someone having a fever, but always thought that didn't make sense based on the context of the conversation so my brain just decided to ignore it because it couldn't figure out it was an aesthetic attraction thing that I just don't experience. But yeah, I am also one of those aces.

[@dragonles]

I like the name-changing booth idea. Before I knew I was trans (FTM), my brother and I would spin and it even had a whole theme song about changing names. When you wanted to change your name. We'd hold hands and spin around, and after a couple spins your name was magically changed singing: " at the name changing plaaaacceee". I had always hated my name. He is still amazing and we are very close. I am lucky.

[@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241]

I can understand the “technically or biologically” thing, although I ultimately disagree with that way of thinking about it. My fiancé is from a totally different culture than mine, so the topic of transness was pretty unfamiliar to him. He’s also REALLY analytically-minded. At first he did not understand why a trans guy would be gay if he likes guys and not straight because he’s like “well trans men and men, but being homosexual is about sex not gender” but when I compared it to adoption he understood perfectly. Because being a parent or being someone’s child is biological, it can also be social like with adoption. SOCIALLY they are parent and child and nobody is going to bring up biology because it’s irrelevant and hurtful to do so. They ARE parent and child. The same can be said about gay trans people. Why would we bring up a trans person’s biology every time their sexual orientation came up? That’s just rude and weird. We call them gay because socially, they are.

[@noelleswartz7443]

That is actually a really good way of explaining it to someone who doesn't understand, but is still curious. Gold star.

[@jvseventeen]

I love collecting explanations like this, for I am cursed with many people in my life who simply do not understand and my brain doesn't always have the capacity to make the metaphors make sense. This one is doubly perfect because I am in fact adopted😂 Thank you so much for sharing!!

[@HunsterMonter]

Even then biology is a lot more complicated than people assume. After a while on hrt (not that you need it to be valid), your body appears and behaves a lot more like the "opposite" sex, so calling trans women/men "biological males/females" is inaccurate.

[@jadelinny]

This is a good explanation, I like it a lot. But also, I would argue that being gay IS about gender, not about sex. Very few things related to human interaction are actually about sex, the exceptions being reproduction and some health issues.

[@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241]

@@jadelinny yeah, I was kind of thinking about that as I was typing it out. They are kind of both about gender.

[@mirandarensberger6919]

Matt Walsh recently made a video on aces and aros where he said literally all of the phobic stuff in that cartoon. It was the first time I've personally experienced arophobia so blatantly (yes, I know I'm lucky). But I figure if I'm pissing off Matt Walsh just by existing, that's a win, right?

[@marvelous971-j6m]

Matt Walsh should look in his bible. Because Jesus in bible was clearly an ace and an aro.

[@IWillNeverReadYourReply]

It's a big win 🎉

[@1th_to_comment.]

Map Walsh is a piece of garbage who deserves nothing.

[@tjenadonn6158]

Being wrong about things is pretty much the only thing Matt is good at. Well, the only thing he's good at which is legal.

[@pranays398]

Nah u loose

[@Chaos__incarnate]

As pan person the nonstick pan joke was amazing

[@FBJack]

yeah lmao

[@neuralmute]

Agreed. I was thinking 'Ohhh, maybe *that's* why I can't get a long term relationship to work out right...'

[@userbunny14]

I herd that one and went DAMN. That one smarts but also made me laugh. I need to scratch off my non-stick coating!

[@neuralmute]

@@userbunny14 Does this mean we need some hardcore exfoliation routine or something?

[@Elithrae]

RIGHT? Like, honestly, when I was younger and people asked me if I f***ed cookwear, it got tiring, but these days I just embrace that shit, and the "non-stick pan" was honestly well thought out and punny as hell!

[@Arcane_Archer]

That last one with the couple reminds me of the Magnus Chase series by Rick Riordan (who wrote Percy Jackson - it's like that but Norse mythology)! *SPOILERS* There's a genderfluid character, and their love interest (who'd assumed he was a straight guy) ends up kissing them in both boy-mode and girl-mode and going "Oh, I guess I'm not as straight as I thought", it's so wholesome. Really recommend that series!

[@MrDoggoCraft]

fierrochase fan I see cant wait for the sun and the star book as well the riordan verse is amazing

[@SpringStarFangirl]

FIERROCHASEEEEEE

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

Heyyyy spoilers! I hadn't finished that series yet!

[@upliftothers4599]

Yes! I love that series! I'm currently obsessed with blizstone.

[@theforgetfulalchemist]

YES, Magnus being the maybe bi, maybe pan, definately not straight cousin was everything

[@everennington5994]

Fun fact: Defenestration is a word for the act of throwing something or someone out of a window.

[@anaeelstarnin4358]

LGBallT is just so adorable :D Also a Gaydar would definitely sound like a frog

[@determinedhelicopter2948]

Those fricking chemicals

[@koivunen2489]

Wouldn't the bi-fi connection noise be a frog-like? For gaydar, I keep imagining a handheld fan unfolding aggressively, and I blame Roly for that.

[@starparodier91]

@@koivunen2489 I can hear this so clearly 😂💜

[@luv.lala_xoxo]

I imagine very aggressive cartoon sparkling

[@pieberrpie2080]

turn the freking frogs gay

[@NuraCalise]

That last one really hit my heart. My late wife was straight and when I came out she struggled for a bit about what it meant to be a straight woman who was in love with a woman, but came to the conclusion that I was still the same person and she still loved me. We had planned on going out on a date together as a same gender couple once COVID had calmed down, but then she succumbed to the liver disease that had lain dormant in her for years.

[@dragonzrsick2543]

Aw, I'm sorry about your wife. Sending love

[@NuraCalise]

@@dragonzrsick2543 thank you

[@mirandarensberger6919]

I'm so sorry. She sounds like she was an awesome person.

[@ryntaylor7129]

I’m so sorry

[@NuraCalise]

@@mirandarensberger6919 thank you

[@zxidenbel7000]

LGBallT is so entertaining and adorable.

[@nerdysuccubus7855]

Yes!!!

[@thatfroggyguy]

Yes

[@Incognito-rf7vd]

I agree

[@rebeccasatterley1542]

This is one of my favorite types of videos!

[@lillie3029]

@@Incognito-rf7vd hey what is the flag on the left of your pfp?

[@JuMixBoox]

The smallest things he says about the asexual balls like "I get it" feel just so meaningful and good. Thank you, Jamie!

[@sparklydonut7129]

I am Scottish and I am still proud of my country for supporting trans people.

[@BlueTressym]

I'm English and furious with the all-round awful government here! 💙💓🤍💓💙 Love you, northern neighbour!

[@tripwire202]

I might move to Scotland -- I love snow I want to live in a country that's safe.

[@allyedowd]

​@@tripwire202 It's mainly rain, to be honest.

[@owencolbon2400]

​@@allyedowd jokes on you I love the rain. It's very calming

[@user-burner]

​@@dustygania2425bit of a nitpick, trans men exist. Also, chill, please, you are not ok.

[@storyspren]

I'm guessing the name shoppe thing was that the clerk went "really? That one again?" because Lily really sounds like it'd be real common among trans women, right up there with Lilith and Luna Don't worry girls I love that name too, I have a Hunter: the Reckoning character lined up whose name is Lily and I didn't even think of that when I wrote her. She also goes by Lilith when performing so I'm double dipping into that "popular trans girls' names" pile lmao

[@hannahk1306]

Now you mention it, I know a trans Lily 😆

[@jvseventeen]

If you pause it on the list, lily isn't on it. It's also got a couple hidden "jokes" as well lol

[@storyspren]

@@jvseventeen "Sorry we're all out of Lily" 😂

[@inuyasha1014]

@@hannahk1306 I've met like, five trans Lily's lol they're everywhere and growing in numbers as we speak

[@SomniRespiratoryFlux]

I don't hang out with... well, anyone really, so I don't know many trans women personally, but just in terms of KZbin I can name two trans women named Lily (plus one Lilith) so this tracks. Was checking the comments to see if anyone else thought this was what that joke meant, glad to see I wasn't totally off base!

[@uhh666]

I'm trans myself (mtf) and I get so much crap from my customers no matter what I do but have learned there's nothing anyone can do to stop me from being me ❤

[@I_DoThingsSometimes]

Don't worry, we support you 🙂

[@poison-LICKTHEPOISON]

Blahaj supports you❤

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

fellow mtf person, *BLAHAJ*

[@Nikodraws149]

This is a dumb story but I just remembered. I'm ace. And I was talking to a friend about TV shows I don't remember the specifics but he said. "There was a Bone Scene." and I got Excited because I thought he meant there was a scene in which the focus was Bones for some reason and after I got excited he had to clarify that he meant a Sex Scene because he knew there was no way I suddenly got hype about a sex scene. I don't usually think about being Ace very often but that was one of the very few moments that I became Painfully Aware of my Ace-hood.

[@Xanderj89]

My friend doesn’t know I am not cishet, and the things people will say when they just, expect that, always trips me up. Like no, I was not even considering how their gender related to physical compatibility, I completely forget that people will just experience sexual attraction right away and start talking about it, like my guy I was thinking they would be fun to hang out with i was not picturing their crotch and mine and jumping to scenarios or judgements related to that

[@Bugged_Out0329]

10:44 As someone who's name is Lily, I feel honored that someone likes the name enough to choose it for themselves, but be prepared for it to ALWAYS be spelled as Lilly.

[@Not4Lime]

My last name is the same. It's Lemons, and I constantly have to say "like the fruit." Otherwise they always spell it Lemmons for whatever reason.

[@crypticlol]

Fun Fact: Lily can be also spelled as lili, which is the toki pona word for "small" so lily = small cute woman

[@n3mo1123]

I started T three weeks ago, going to my parents' house tomorrow with a friend to tell them I'm trans after hiding it for 8 years wish me luck. cute video as always Jamie

[@mirandarensberger6919]

I hope it goes well for you!

[@darometheman]

Best of luck

[@Quinn3151]

Real talk though People are assholes We need to EXPAND the community NOT DESTROY it from within

[@BENBOIONYT]

Preach my fellow humanoid creature

[@alyssaharris9809]

as someone who identifies as pan, i would in fact love a panda and i DIED laughing at the non-stick pan one 🤣

[@maxlikestodraw96]

When I was younger, I imagined a pan having a relationship with scrambled eggs

[@KindaSickOfLife]

God I love the ace jokes they make in LGBallT! It makes me as happy as when I eat cake!

[@mailyak442]

They’re great!! Almost as good as garlic bread 😉💜

[@KindaSickOfLife]

@@mailyak442 yes

[@ave_maria323]

Cake and garlic bread with tea is good

[@iamnolongerhereanymore]

just wait until you’ve tried garlic bread flavoured cake

[@thatcatthatalwayseatsyourchees]

@@iamnolongerhereanymore 😂

[@Lilee177]

When I came out to my friends as NB, they all told me "oh yeah, we already knew, we were just waiting for you to be ready to tell us" and it honestly made me cry 🥺

[@mimikyuuss]

@Science Bear ...wrong comment???

[@lizl5836]

The last one reminded me of my wife and I. My wife is a trans women, when we were in high school our friend group called her a lesbian. It was just a joke at the time, now she's a lesbian. She told me that she actually liked that joke because it was gender confirming at a time before the egg cracked. Also when I came out to my mom about my wife being trans, she assumed we would break up. I was like "hell no what!? 🤨"

[@ItsJustTim]

Hi Jammie with the help of you this morning I came out as "Non Binary" and I originally found out about your channel from the original r/LGBallT and I'm happy that on this day you posted this, It makes my day. 😊

[@missnaomi613]

I hope it went well for you!

[@kahlilbt]

Congrats Tim! Sending you some fellow nb love

[@ItsJustTim]

@@missnaomi613 It went well ☺️

[@kahlilbt]

@Science Bear you sound REALLY fucking sane rn, gorg 😂

[@leothebackgroundsheep3010]

3:27 I'll just take the OT approach: Gaydar noises. Gaydar noises. Gaydar noises. These are the noises of a gaydar.

[@baguette.childd]

10:16 “transphobia fuckoffous” i love this so much 😭

[@saxy85]

3:36 “gaydar noises, gaydar noises, these are the noises of a gaydar” ala OneTopic

[@mordred6903]

Really needed this video today, being reminded why you've cut off certain ppl in your life always hurts. Glad I chose peace of mind and self respect over false harmony. I refuse to let others make me doubt who I am. Thank you Jamie!

[@missnaomi613]

You deserve to be surrounded by people who accept and support you! 🙏❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@MomAmiAndKiddoKelsi]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Jamie’s farts

[@annierapoza8607]

Thank you , you are to ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@sumthngcool4221]

Thank you!!! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

[@goopnoop]

Yay!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@timothyisstupid]

Thank you :)

[@noahluppe]

3:20 If I learned ONE THING from OT, it's sounds, so it clearly makes: *gaydar noises*. *gaydar noises*. *these are the sounds of a gaydar*. Edit: And now it's also in the video...

[@Rikrobat]

Ace woman giving lots of love and hugs to all of my LGBallT buddies. You are incredible and valid and I wish you all the good things in life. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@liesjelualockse6377]

❤🧡💛💚🩵💙💜 thank youu! Aro ball here, wishing you all that + the hug we need after those negative comments hitting our balls 🤗

[@mailyak442]

Ace love! 💜

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Demi-pan, poly and librafluid ball here! 🤗❤️🩷🧡💛💚🩵🩵💜🩶🤍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ All the love and hugs to you all!

[@ItsJustTim]

Non Binary ball here wishing you the best aswell! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

[@jessicab831]

Oriented aroace tomboy! Support for you and everyone else! 😊🖤🤍💚💜 ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Melody-k7n]

My cousin came out to me as MTF & I was just like "ok, &?" I kind of felt like I didn't give them the reaction that they were looking for. But my muted response was from confusion because of all the build up. It felt like it was going to something along the line of "I just found out that I have an inoperable brain tumor & will be dead within 12 weeks." & then all that it is is that you are trans?

[@Yourlocaltrashgoblin]

9:35 reminds me a lot of my rabbi I had always worn a dress to synagogue (I was allowed a suit or anything as long as it was dressed up) but after not going for an entire summer (and coming out and slowly gaining acceptance w/ fam) I showed up in a button up and slacks, he pulled me aside after service and was like “is your name still *deadname*?” When I said no and he confirmed I was a boy (I’m now aware I’m enby-ish) he lectured both mom and I about how scholars are reviewing and realizing the Torah isn’t homophobic and stuff. I was very sweet 💜💜

[@adzdrawss]

2:04 this reminds me when my friends were playing egyptian war (or russian war. i’ve heard it both ways). one rule is if it’s a joker then you can slap it immediately and you get the cards. a lot of us would hit the aces because at first glance they looked like jokers. so after a couple times of that happening i said “the aces are very slappable” and my friend (who i’ve come out to) fake slapped me. i was confused for a couple seconds then realized she’s slapping me because i’m ace and yk lol. i still find it so funny. good memories.

[@starparodier91]

2:17 This is so painfully accurate and I just sent it to my best friend (trans) and my partner and now we’re all laughing 😂 I even asked my friend if she made it because we’ve had talks just like this 🤣

[@xraven_shadowx]

disabled enby panesxual here, me and my mom have been watching you for years and your more precious than i can explain. i'm so happy we can all say aww with you and at you it truly brightens my day

[@xraven_shadowx]

@Science Bear i think you may be looking at the wrong post, although if something i said was homophobic i apologize i was just happy to support a creator Iv like for years

[@xraven_shadowx]

@Cal Alaera thank you so much

[@Adm-is-a-god]

That last one reminds me of when I came out to my boyfriend almost 2 years ago. He is straight, I am a trans guy. He asked me what I wanted to do with transition and I told him I only wanted top surgery and hormones. He sat on that for a while before asking if I wanted bottom surgery. I told him I didnt because the results that I've seen just look like they'd give me more dysphoria. "I think we can still make this work. I'm not into guys but I still love you and that will never change. If you do decide you want to get bottom surgery I will break up with you, but i will always be here for you and take care of you during recovery". I still don't want bottom surgery and we are still together. It was awkward at first because he wasnt all that comfortable with calling me his boyfriend. But almost 2 years later that's all he calls me. Anytime he says my deadname is when I specifically ask him to, other than that he only ever calls me Adam or an asshole hhaa. Hes not sexually attracted to men, I understand that, but I am so happy he found it in his heart to still love me even though I'm a guy

[@Deas-Mhumhna]

I was told in my childhood I wasn't feminine enough and was constantly shoved into dresses I hated. Now I came out as trans male (still a process😅) and have happily given my dresses to a queer friend of mine who loves them. Can't wait to get my new wardrobe of male clothes😍 Screw my parents. I've been much more mentally stable and stress less since I came out cause I know where they stand.

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

This doesn’t have anything to do with the video, but I want to tell someone, and it is lgbt related, so why not share it here. I’VE DECIDED TO COME OUT TO MY DAD OVER SPRING BREAK!! I’m so excited and so nervous but (unlike my mom) I think he’ll be supportive because as long as what we do isn’t illegal or really bad he doesn’t care what we do or who we are. Wish me luck y’all!!

[@British_manndem]

GOOD LUCK ☺️☺️☺️

[@upliftothers4599]

Good luck! You got this :)

[@jvseventeen]

Good luck!

[@isabellaakl6794]

Good luck!!! 😍😍😍

[@cyrilltate7065]

Good luck! ❤

[@fishogynist]

I'm very aroace, but I do experience a weird sort of attraction that I just call celebrity crushes. I mentioned to a friend "I feel weirdly attracted to big doofuses named Brad, and aloof bass players named Rob, and Hannah Gadsby," and she, without pause, said, "You're a nonstick pan." Funniest thing anyone's ever said to me, more nonstick pan jokes, please!

[@sirilundgren]

love that OT reference at 5:05

[@F0xtrat775]

Same!

[@SkylerLinux]

As a Pan ball, being called non-stick pan is much better than the usual get in the PANtry/kitchen/etc jokes

[@missnaomi613]

Thanks for letting the rest of us know. I'm bisexual, so I'm just reading the comments all bi myself...

[@Psylaine64]

@@missnaomi613 lol

[@kittin75]

And infinitely better then the "so you are attracted to pans?" One which just.... no

[@crypticlol]

The only pansexual joke I make is a very specific joke about dubstep and pan snares and that's it it's hard to come with creative jokes

[@PhantomFerret]

My demiromantic panromantic asexual FtM trans heart exploding with deligh at seeing Jamie's latest video!

[@v4mp1r3.b0n3zz]

im trans masc aroace gay and ambiamorous, we’re kinda similar 😭

[@Scrungler111]

How many sexualities?

[@matildagriffiths6004]

Hey I have the same sexuality as you

[@Jroobelucios]

Hey we basically the same fr

[@CowKirbo]

Man you've collected like 30 different identities. Gotta catch em all!

[@coelacanthropology]

I use both pan and bi to describe myself, and once my uncle said to me "so if gay people have gaydar, do pan people get panavision?" amd it was the first pan pun that i actually laughed at because it was the first unique one i heard

[@detectivepinkerton3258]

These are literally the best and after the day I've been having, genuinely need the laughter. Thank you, Jamie, for providing

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Jamie’s farts

[@Metica777]

As someone who only realized I am trans 5 days ago, the trans ball wearing the bi mask might just be the most relatable thing ever.

[@-sofi-4738]

10:55 WHAT THE FRICK that's my comic😭i would have necer expected to ever appear in a video omg❤i'm literally screaming

[@meilagreisberg6385]

wow

[@theanxiouswinion]

the amount of times that I've gone to bed crying bc ppl have called me : 'priss' 'prude', and once one that was so bad I am not going to write it here. this is why us aces love garlic bread and cake more than people. Garlic bread doesn't insult you.

[@HistoryandOtherStuffwithBV]

10:49 They don't look mad, just kinda let down. Because Lily is by far the most common name for transfems, apparently. And the name shoppe was hoping for this one to choose something more original.

[@Ratboy168]

Came here to say this! I’m genderfluid and transfem. I chose the name Lilian when I hatched for personal reasons and found out a few months later how common of a name Lily was.

[@birdieblue812]

I needed this, there is a terf touring the country giving speeches and violence breaking out between the transphobes and people in support of humans having rights. I felt the invalidation down to my bones.

[@plutonium429]

4:04 I see this as like “oh wait you weren’t already out-? Oh okay cool 👍🏻”

[@wilgeranium3315]

The gaydar noise would obviously be "I was born this way" by Lady Gaga

[@zayne_the_anime_boy]

I’m actually going to my first protest later this month, which I’m kind of helping organize actually! I’ve actually got a zoom call with the organization today, really hope it goes well and i’m super excited and scared at the same time lil

[@mitigatortish]

My husband (Ace) laughed soooo hard at the "Actually, people are getting colder" one... it's so true! He is wonderfully oblivious sometimes, but at least no longer feels like there's something wrong with him. We're proof that those who are bi and ace can blend perfectly 🥰

[@Arthur5260]

It's uncanny how much you remind me of my oldest brother. (he was a good looking guy, it is a compliment). One of the answers to Transphobia is education. You're doing your part. Good video.

[@kerricaine]

i think the name store with the name lily is just that it's an extremely common choice for transfems. lily or luna seem to be like, the go-to names for so many girls lol so it's kinda like going to a nice restaurant and ordering a cheeseburger. but hey, if that's what you like, go for it!

[@chronoswow]

^ it's like the tyler/kai of transfem people

[@kerricaine]

@@chronoswow i've never met any trans guys named tyler but i know 3 Kai's and like 4 Luna's sooo...yeah xD

[@nope.0.]

Years back on IRC a longtime member came out as trans, she picked Lilian which I felt really suited her, only later did I find it was a cliché. I guess there's also the aspect that lilies are often used as symbolism in yuri manga, so at least some people are carrying that over to their name. That detail occurred to me a week later, so it's probably pretty stealth against most people.

[@kerricaine]

@@nope.0. yeah, Lilies and moon symbolism are often strongly associated with womanhood

[@denizinkayasi]

OMG 9:21 IS MY COMICCCCCC. never thought i would be in one of jammis videos, even if it is in comic form :D (also don't worry, that was one of the experiences i had when i was like 16-17, i'm almost 23, my uncle is still wonderful and my mom is getting there as well 😊) edit: and also yes jammi, that's exactly how i imagine confused but happy trans noises sound like haha

[@j.apenrose7896]

Oh my gosh!! I'm so glad things turned out well for you! I wish you all the best! 😄

[@lemon8283]

Lovely video! I wanted to mention that right now there is a Trans book/author readathon going on in the bookish community! On the week of the 20th of March, people will be reading as many books by trans authors or with trans rep in them as they can and pledging donations to causes that help trans people- specifically in the U.S. right now. If you want some recommendations for this, here they are: Specifically books that include trans rep: Hell followed with us, Her Majesty’s Royal Coven, Cemetery Boys, and Felix Ever After! Plus Jammie’s book of course- Overall queer rep: Our Wives Under the Sea, Priory of the Orange Tree (and it’s sequel), We Have Always Been Here, Swimming in the Dark, Call Me By Your Name, This is How You Lose a Time War, The Binding, The Drowning Empire trilogy, She Who Became the Sun (and it’s sequel coming out in August!!), The Starless Sea, These Violent Delights, The Jasmine Throne, Six of Crows, Song of Achilles, Heartstopper, It Came From the Closet, and Red, White, and Royal Blue. Wow that was a lot to type lol that’s all folks! Have a wonderful day ❤️🏳️‍⚧️

[@thegoosegirl42]

quick correction, the second Priory of the Orange Tree book is a prequel

[@Alicia-zf3nq]

Since you've got Heartstopper on there, can I add Loveless for aroace, pansexual, lesbian and homoromantic asexual non-binary representation. Also, Baker Thief for demi-bisexual and aro-bisexual bigender representation plus a queerplatonic love story. It's also generally a very queernormative world full of neopronouns and subtle trans and other types of queer representation

[@Laura-gb1jv]

Also Magical Boy, which riffs on the magical girl trope. Check Please! Is an adorable gay romance with hockey and baking. A-Okay is another graphic novel with ace themes. Ana On the Edge is a good kids' novel about an enbee figure skater. And after this video, I can no longer write "enbee" without thinking "en🐝" 😹

[@lemon8283]

@@thegoosegirl42 Oops, thanks for the correction!

[@lemon8283]

@@Alicia-zf3nq Thanks for adding those recs! I’ve heard of them but didn’t want to add books that I haven’t read yet. Have a great day

[@MyCatMyca]

6:47 i want a hug from the support team :)

[@data4miya]

A year late, but here's a hug for you anyways ! *hug*

[@kahlilbt]

I identify as bi but every time I hear someone identify as pan I just get all 😍👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 It's like seeing your twin sibling be great

[@justapanpirate]

Yes, this! I’m pan and I’ll cheer my bi siblings on and fight anyone who attacks them.

[@amysofia5783]

I'm a bisexual who married a pansexual. We talked about our identities, understand why we chose the label we chose, and we are both cool with it. I just feel more comfortable calling myself bisexual than pansexual but I totally respect my partner and anyone who feels more comfortable with the pansexual label. It's all love in the end!

[@artemisdagger]

I love LGBallT!

[@annierapoza8607]

I love it tooooo❤❤

[@sprumf]

Same!

[@daminam]

*WE

[@xavigav]

LGBallT loves you too! (sincerely, a moderator of the subreddit :D)

[@MaxAwesom]

Trans guy here- Your always here to pick me up, always uploading videos when I’m at my darkest. thank you! And also off topic, but this is the video in which my YT premium kicked in so this one’s extra special for me :D

[@Hellbornheretic]

The "Lily" one referred to Lily being a super popular and common name in the transfem community. Probably roughly the equivalent of Kai for trans dudes.

[@rosenclosed]

3:14 well can't be that annoying of a joke because we called our local non-binary youth group that. The EnBees

[@KaiPonVisp]

I realized recently at 30 that I am trans. Already knew I was aroace, but it's been quite a journey.

[@hxzel12]

ngl I get annoyed when people are like: your ace? so you don't date people? n o. I am an neptunic asexual..

[@hmmmmnothanks]

what is neptunic if you don’t mind me asking? i’ve heard of it

[@hxzel12]

@@hmmmmnothanks it's attraction to non-male aligned people.

[@hmmmmnothanks]

@@hxzel12 thank you!

[@hxzel12]

@@hmmmmnothanks you're welcome!

[@AddiRockART]

I never thought a ball could be so relatable… goodness. Also: thank you for the hair advice on twitch Jamie! The VO5 got my hair looking great. 🏳️‍⚧️

[@theybybaby-gz7rp]

The nonstick pan joke is perfection.

[@williamswindler105]

11:08 my friend's girlfriend when someone asked if she was cis. She's was like 'Oh, shit! Maybe not!'

[@DragonFae16]

That comic with the bi ball and the straight that then realizes its ACE is EXACTLY what happened to me!

[@MrTheta78]

I relate a lot to the last memes as I am a gay person who had crushes with transfemmes and enbies pre transition and I figured this attraction will go away but it didn't and I'm like : guess I'm a bit bisexual now :p Here are hugs if you want some.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I'm femme-presenting AFAB genderfae (fluid between feminine and non-binary genders) and it's funny sometimes dating men who thought they were straight then watching them slowly realise - although I have been informed that being under the genderfluid umbrella means all of my relationships are automatically gay.

[@Cecona]

That last one reminded me of a story about a married couple, where the wife found out she was a lesbian about the same time the husband found out he was trans, and they have been much happier as a gay couple than ever before

[@Deathstorm501]

I can tell you and OT are friends because I see you adopting each other's jokes

[@regulusmasamuneryuku8657]

If I can offer you a glimmer of hope on Trans in politics over in the US. In Nebraska, a senator is fillibusting (using the entire time she can debate to waste time) every single proposed bill in order to keep a bill that would ban gender affirming care from passing.

[@MishaleStarling]

As a trans mom I offer virtual mom hugs to all who need them

[@TjokoCow]

Yay

[@AtagenaofWherever]

Nice to see some heteroflexible rep. For those who don’t know, that means you mostly have opposite gender attraction, but very rarely, you are attracted to someone of the same gender.

[@kingofpenguins4157]

“Yeet that chair” -Jamie 2023

[@MissSirenita]

I am 🖤🤍💜 I get told I’m just not sexually mature yet, I haven’t found the right one, I’m broken, I’m confused, it’s just a phase, I’m mentally ill and that’s why I’m Ace, etc. I kind of just stopped trying to justify myself. Hugs for everybody who wants hugs and smiles to those who hate hugs.

[@zed9256]

Hello fellow ace! You’re valid af!

[@ehrenyu]

I'm Aspec and I've been married for years. So....

[@DanielledeVreede]

7:20 "somewhere over the rainbow 🏳️‍🌈"

[@raquelwalton7393]

Just came out as ftm to my mom & currently hiding in my room, she's ok with it yes, but I'm still scared & your videos have been a huge help, I'm so glad I found you channel, alot of the time your videos always find a way to make me happy

[@Sellswordking]

It’s strange that I’m not bitter; I’m one of the ones that it unfortunately didn’t work out when I came out as trans, my partner was (still is lol) a lesbian and she fought very hard to find her own label and just couldn’t get past me being a man/transmasc to continue the romantic part of our relationship. I think I was the only one who wasn’t mad at her about it, because like…I mean, I get it. It took a lot for me to come to terms with being bi and trans, the relationship I have with my gender and my sexuality makes it easier for me to respect others who draw hard lines in the sand. And it’s not like she didn’t support my transition! She’s still my best friend and my soul mate, we’re just platonic now 😊 it took a while to be Okay, I won’t lie, it’s not like it was fine overnight. But you *can* get past it if y’all really are friends at the heart of your relationship. All that being said, yeah, it *is* a lot cuter when it works out for both parties.

[@blusire]

I did not know you existed until this video got recommended, but oh my God I'm definitely subbing. This has also made me realize that I know very few of the flags despite being a part of the lgbtq community

[@Trixie_Lavender]

Anyone else read the [smooching sounds] in OT's voice? [Smooching noises! Smooching noises! This is the sound of smooching!]

[@88marome]

11:24 As an aroace it’s even more complicated because in my fantasies I’m doing straight things but IRL I don’t want any sex or romance with anyone. So what would that be called?

[@Los_BreadstickMartian]

Still aroace, aroace is just about attraction to real people, nothing wrong with some fantasies

[@koivunen2489]

Here's a *virtual hug* for anyone who needs/wants one

[@BlueTressym]

Yay! *hugs back*

[@Laystaylorsversion]

Thank you 🥲

[@amethystt727]

❤

[@Nortarachanges]

*huuugs from an aroace* ^_^

[@Bee_can_kinda_draw6647]

Thank you so much❤

[@jess_iguess]

I appreciate your support so much!!! Me and some of my friends go to a private Christian school and the teachers are making us all sign a homophobic and transphobic belief statement or else we have to leave schools. I wish we could just be supported😢

[@Just_A_Transperson]

You are awesome!! That kinda sucks though

[@jess_iguess]

@@Just_A_Transperson ty your awesome too!

[@Salt_Master_Queue]

5:01 "Kissing noises! Kissing noises. These are the sounds of two people kissing!" -- OT

[@seritonin_witch1395]

8:12 pun loving pan with a ace bestie, i love it

[@Egg_Sandwich1]

Gaydar is absolutely just the word “slay” echoing

[@dinocatgaming2127]

12:15 accepting your partner coming out as trans does not make you gay. It doesnt invalidate your straightness. It just makes you a good lover.

[@rockthepebble388]

Depends what kind of love. But ya

[@dinocatgaming2127]

@@rockthepebble388 true love should go beyond gender! That's what I think. Like if you suddenly lose interest in your partner cause they came out as trans, did you really honestly love them? Did you? Probably not.