Sorry For Being Homophobic | r/LGBallT

[@Echomur]

My fiance started dating me when I wasn't out as a trans man and he was so proud when I came out and decided that no, he was not straight, he was demisexual, because it wasn't that he was attracted to my body, nor was he attracted to my gender, he was attracted to this person he knew and loved. And that made me love him all the more.

[@olympeseverine8613]

Really beautiful story! I’m really happy for both of you! ❤😊💙💗✉️💗💙

[@freddiefishton]

Don’t see the appeal to being a guy, but if it works for you I won’t mind May your relationship be eternal and happiness forever (Note: I’m trans fem)

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@freddiefishton It's not about appeal. People are who they are. They can't change that.

[@ambriasaunders1869]

Aww! That's so sweet! 💜 You found a very good man!

[@brisingr0962]

@@freddiefishton While prettypshychoqueens point is true. I can’t help but agree.

[@AIHumanEquality]

It's really weird how much phobics need to gaslight and strawman in order to not only convince others but also themselves.

[@kiedisboughen5318]

​@@trevorchester4439psychology and biology would like to have some words with you

[@LemonAid82]

​@@trevorchester4439bro, stop existing on these videos please

[@katyamcadams]

​@@trevorchester4439hello person who has actively supported pedophilia and genocide

[@ob2kenobi388]

Huh-it's almost like they don't have any actual evidence to support their beliefs, and they're just making up reasons after the fact because they don't want to accept that they're just hating a minority because they feel like it!

[@beesforbreakfast]

Phobes all out here refusing to embrace their identity as corncobs

[@ILoveYou-rv3pd]

I’m an asexual trans man. I’ve always had almost no sexual drive. When I started testosterone, it did not go up. When I started antidepressants, the tiny sex drive I had went away, and I don’t miss it. I care about people. I love my friends. I’m not really into romantic relationships, even without sex. I’ve had romantic relationships, but not in a long time, and I have turned down my share of people. Ace/aro is a thing, and it has nothing to do with mental health.

[@kktam5236]

I'm pretty sure that sex drive and sexual attraction are separate, right?

[@gone_mad-tryagainlater]

Never seen it written as ace/aro. Seems like a bit odd of an order

[@AIHumanEquality]

It does have to do with mental health. I think you meant it's not a mental disorder. Which I agree with.

[@katyamcadams]

​@@AIHumanEqualitycorrection, it *can have to do with mental health, such as ptsd (I know this because of a very close friend of mine). However, some people are naturally asexual and/or aromatic and their sexuality/romantic attraction has nothing to do with their mental health.

[@starwarriorterra8373]

It's worth still recognizing that it *can* have to do with mental health, but also remembering that being naturally ace/aro is just as possible! In general, it's just important to listen to people when they talk about how they feel.

[@sugarrainbows]

“Glare at the homophobe” Jamie must be protected at all cost he is precious

[@KatherineLewis597]

Yes he must be protected at all costs

[@katyamcadams]

​@@chrisbfreelanceany evidence of your claim, or do you just want to kill trans people?

[@_hellojarofdirt]

I, an ace, got a little teary eyed at the poor ace ball that had an allergic reaction to the garlic bread 😭 It’s so cute but so sad.

[@1th_to_comment.]

So this is a tragic video? Darn, I thought this would be happy.

[@anoukduboisbe]

As a gluten intolerant ace, right in the feels 😅

[@timnewman1172]

Oh no!!! This cis/ace guy will eat their garlic bread and they can have my piece of cake, LOL!!!

[@AlexintheGarden]

I'm aroace, and I can't have garlic or gluten. Garlic bread is sadly near impossible ):

[@dashielleonard7842]

My aunt has that problem! I feel soo bad for her!

[@ApexBrachydios]

I've heard the "you're only asexual because of your medications" and I'm like: 1) no 2) I'm going to take these for the rest of my life so even if you were right I'm still ace

[@rynzlrthesynth5758]

Heck yeah. You’re ace, and that’s a fact. Sending virtual garlic bread :)

[@ApexBrachydios]

🧄🍞

[@DaniElleRF]

I’ve heard the, “you haven’t met the right person yet” and I’m like sexuality can change, but you have no right to tell me how I feel

[@1th_to_comment.]

​@@rynzlrthesynth5758 Intercepting garlic bread... ... ... ... Interception complete!

[@unbekannternutzer25]

​@@DaniElleRF even if you only haven't met the right person yet, it just means you were demi all along 💁

[@Amy-oo7mm]

I've been playing a lot of Starfield lately. I colored one of my ships with pink, blue, and white and named it Agenda. It's my... flag ship. I'll see myself out.

[@ShinTriAce]

I'm sure it'll transport you wherever you need to go.... ...* also sees self out *

[@UndecidedASMR]

so jealous of you having starfield, but nice pun

[@nincure]

😂😂😂

[@FleegleFazbeagle]

(Bah dum tss!)🥁

[@EllieM552]

I freakin’ love queer humour

[@Milo-hp9fw]

I now have a binder!!! Just wanted to share that! Also I crocheted a bee in the trans flag colors and named them Barnabee. And I love this series!

[@mazzy_ivy]

YAY BINDER!! just remember never wear it to sleep :) 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@artheenbyrogue804]

Congrats with the binder!!!! That's awesome! Just make sure you don't wear past a maximum of 8 hours and that your breathing is okay. Also, make sure it isn't constricting your ribs! And barnabee sounds adorable!

[@Axolotl_e]

Congrats on getting a binder!! Just remember to follow the safety rules and take binder breaks!! I'd probably list off the binder rules for you, but I won't because I don't really remember them tbh. I don't bind, I use kt tape and trans tape lol

[@SonicfanFhWcCt]

Nice! I got my binder last Christmas! I’m trans FtM

[@satellite.gl0w]

I LOVE IT

[@Z0E_Z0MB1E]

My girlfriend crocheted me the lesbian ball when we first started dating 😂 Edit: so yeah she is gonna teach me how to crochet on our next date 🥺

[@mr_televisionn]

soulmates frfr

[@TransGuyShane]

Oh that is sooo cute ❤

[@jamestown8398]

That’s adorable.

[@katphish30]

Eeeee, that's adorable!

[@AIHumanEquality]

I misread crocheted as crouched.

[@Mango_TN553]

As a gender fluid I can confirm I make a “plop” noise when I fall into water :)

[@olympeseverine8613]

Kit Connor and Joe Locke! I love them, the other actoresses of Heartstopper, Heartstopper, Alice Oseman and the osemanverse! ❤️😊🏳️‍🌈

[@silver5776]

Really? I make a sploosh

[@humblerum_2641]

Thats a good one. Lol

[@PansyPops]

@@silver5776I feel like I’m missing out now, I only make a slosh.

[@MattTOB618]

I somehow make a "chirp" sound; what're y'all doing that I'm not!?

[@dragondoodles78]

I live with pretty queerphobic parents, they don't know I'm Non-Binary. But a few years ago, I started playing an online game and made some amazing friends. One is gay and I have never felt so comfortable talking to someone, he is so kind and he was the first person I told I was NB and he was the first to call me by my preferred name.

[@natanoj16]

Hello "insert prefered name" hope you are well! (Also dont give me any names we are on the internet!) But have a nice day "Prefered name"

[@missnaomi613]

💛🤍💜🖤

[@dragondoodles78]

@@natanoj16 Thank you!! I'm all teary eyed now, its great to hear someone go "preferred name" at me, thank you for making me smile

[@supermangarritano6636]

I will always say our lives are not up for debate 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

[@ahi7502]

@@trevorchester4439 mans name is trevor

[@FloridaManEvolved]

and... the reason you are homophobic and transphobic is?@@trevorchester4439

[@supermangarritano6636]

@@trevorchester4439 only say that if it’s true because the Trevor project is extremely important

[@freddiefishton]

@@trevorchester4439no your not

[@kiedisboughen5318]

​@@trevorchester4439you're with the cuck project, not the Trevor project.

[@SilverWings_008]

5:14 Flags on the left ball: - Trans on the right -Gay man on the left - Demiboy (a gender identity only partially masculine) on the right horn - Apothisexual (microlabel in the asexual spectrum for sex-repulsed people) on the left horn I hope it helps

[@yangeldorf]

thanks ❤

[@BoredzRed]

The apothisexual flag is so badass ngl

[@angelcollina]

Thank you!

[@nightmareondrugs3324]

This took forever to find D:>

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

As an Aro/Ace, I accept the Sunset flag, Ace Flag AND Aro Flag equally. I have all three as little keychain buttons.

[@pineapplefrostyfruits9225]

I am Aro but not Ace, so I like being able to use a flag that captures me but doesn't intrude on something that doesn't apply! Also all 3 flags are great colour palettes.

[@TexTheGuy]

there's another one I think I don't remember where I saw It was like the purple of the ace and the green of the Aro at the bottom and top respectively

[@NotNochos]

Sonic and tails flag 😭

[@TexTheGuy]

@@NotNochos i'll take that i like sonic

[@SeptemberMeadows]

I'm a transgender aroace, I totally don't get the plotting and cake tropes about ace?

[@bani3134]

hey jamie, probably a little late but please don't promote better help :( they are pretty shitty to both their patients and therapists

[@YellowLeaf_17]

Yeaaaaah ^^’’

[@dietotaku]

yeah whatever happened to his sponsorship with pride counseling?

[@xd._.28234]

​@@dietotakuprobably got messed up by some asshole boss or sth or to lurk lgbts and then fuck them over with their shitty sessions ig

[@arielc8584]

​@@dietotakuPride counselling is owned by better help.

[@w1nterdays]

@@arielc8584this

[@kooskoos1234]

as an ace person, i can confirm, i'm definitely NOT taking notes to plot anything. totally. promise.

[@Axolotl_e]

5:07 *DEEP INHALE* Okay, I'm not 100% sure I'll get everything right, but I'll try my best! Just in case anyone didn't know these flags :) So, the green, blue & white side of the ball is the gay flag, so just any non-women loving non-woman. The blue, pink, & white side (🏳️‍⚧️) is the trans flag. The purple, white, & red flag with the black X (💜🤍❤️✖️) is the sex-repulsed/apothisexual flag. And the grey, white, and blue flag (🩶🩵🤍🩵🩶) is the demi-boy flag (EDIT) 8:59 The ball that's cupid with the grey, purple, white, & pink flag (🩶💜🤍🩷) is cupiosexual! Correct me if i got anything wrong!!

[@mazzy_ivy]

ohhhhh its sex repulsed!! i googled it and youre right :D i didnt even know we had a flag :D

[@greybey4385]

yeah these are all correct, no worries! :)

[@Axolotl_e]

@@mazzy_ivy mhm! Honestly I don't know how I remembered it was sex repulsed, I just did somehow. I also had to look it up for the full name lol (apothisexual)

[@Axolotl_e]

@@greybey4385 thanks for letting me know that all of them are correct, I mainly wasn't 100% sure about sex repulsed/apothisexual lol

[@dietotaku]

wow, i hadn't heard of sex repulsed being an orientation

[@j.apenrose7896]

So, came out to someone at church yesterday as non binary. It went remarkably well!! Let's hope that continues to be all good and safe and accepting!

[@j.apenrose7896]

In other news, a different person just outed me to someone who then outed me to someone else, so yay for straights not knowing how outing works

[@amandarose861]

Hey Jammi(?), I hope you find time to research about your sponsor. They’ve done some damage to customers and I don’t want you to land in the middle of any trouble! ❤

[@moonlitspecs]

I was gonna say the same thing lol. Love how you worded your comment though (/gen)!!

[@Clairymoo]

^^ this

[@Spaceyyboyy]

Replying to boost this comment to the top !

[@AIHumanEquality]

What exactly have they done and what's the source of these claims? The reason I'm asking is cause I like to verify claims and not just believe rumors.

[@Verydeadbarbie]

These are like the worst sponsors 😅

[@LeftyLlama]

15:44 I like the little touch that the battery on the phone is the aroace flag, presumably because it is a double A battery.

[@AdventureGirl-zn4wc]

That's so cool!

[@BrownBlue2Eyess]

They should make stress balls, based on LGBallT designs

[@missnaomi613]

YES!

[@ProtoV33MK1]

I'm sure you could find a site that does small runs of custom stress balls, and just upload the design yourself

[@BrownBlue2Eyess]

There are sites like that, but the ones I looked at so far all require you purchase them in bulk. Stress balls are fun, but I only need one, not 150.

[@ProtoV33MK1]

@@BrownBlue2Eyess damn, I would've thought someone would do small runs. Does Zazzle do them? I know their whole thing is small run custom products

[@Melody-k7n]

@@BrownBlue2EyessI would totally buy them if you did purchase that many & decided to sell the excess.

[@lucykitsune4619]

You know, maybe I should rethink my stance on children. Being transparent can come in handy in lots of ways... Just gotta make sure to remember trans day of visibility

[@DefectiveDictionary777]

The most telling thing about the whole starfield outrage is that Baldur's Gate 3 came out like a month before it and also had inclusive character creation options. Yet anyone outraged at that just got completely smothered by the sheer positivity from the D&D community at large. Whereas Starfield brought out the more neckbeardy "gamer bros" and the media just lapped it all up.

[@xd._.28234]

Plus.also gay love and also lesbian(?) Because if u choose whatever character u can make him gay with the white hair vampire guy that is hot I feel also there's some love with women if your character is a woman

[@serPomiz]

baldrus gate had both a generic and focussed fanbase behind, which was already positive, or at least true neutral, toward lgbt+ starfield had literally nothing but gamers due to be a generic space setup, which are against everything by design in the first place

[@kaitlyn__L]

Also every trans person I know who also loves Bethesda games (which... is like 90% of them) nevertheless got so burned by Fallout 76 and Elder Scrolls Online that they wren't even interested in Starfield. They kept playing Skyrim or Oblivion or Morrowind. Meanwhile Baldur's Gate _did_ appeal to quite a lot of them. Basically I'm saying I think a higher percentage of Starfield's customers were gamer bros who weren't extremely salty about ESO and F76.

[@AIHumanEquality]

I mean it was like a handful of people screeching. It wasn't exactly an impact on the gaming community as a whole.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@kaitlyn__L What's wrong with ESO? I know Fallout 76 was apparently pretty bad but ESO has been a decent MMO.

[@abigailkaterbergcolibaba]

I just had a relative come out to the family as a trans girl and the majority of the family discussion was helping her find feminine clothes that fit her AMAB body. I'm so happy for her

[@Liggliluff]

(4:15) Several people have said that Better Help have homophobic therapists, and some have even said their therapist suggested conversion therapy. So it is kinda ironic that you promote homophobic therapists and then saying you don't like homophobic therapists.

[@xd._.28234]

He probably doesn't know

[@bigenderlyric]

well, there's no other way to learn by someone telling him here, yeah?@@xd._.28234

[@dietotaku]

@@xd._.28234 probably a good idea to do a little research on the sponsors you decide to accept

[@xd._.28234]

​@@bigenderlyricofc, didn't say they shouldn't What I meant is that considering how he is, doubt he'd recommend it if he knew beforehand So I also hope he reads these messages so can warn about it

[@flikkeringlightz7472]

Fun fact: 'star crossed lovers' means that they are not fated to be together, like, you know, Romeo and Juliette. They could have been together but it was not fated, soooo... that cupid's shady af!

[@AIHumanEquality]

Where did you get that from? I'm pretty sure it's just a phrase from old astrology.

[@katyamcadams]

​@@AIHumanEqualitywell, it was literally used in Romeo and Juliet (Shakespeare), but I'm not sure where exactly it was originally from.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@katyamcadams According to what I looked up it has both meaning of love ending in tragedy and meant to be together. It doesn't seem like anyone knows the origins of the phrase star crossed but it's meaning has changed over time.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@katyamcadams According to what I looked up it has both meaning of love ending in tragedy and meant to be together. It doesn't seem like anyone knows the origins of the phrase star crossed but it's meaning has changed over time.

[@Vahlee-A]

Hi Jamie! Every since coming out as trans I've had a spike in anxiety when around men or male-presenting people, especially in small spaces. I used to enjoy riding busses but I don't anymore, and now I have to sit in the back of the bus to be able to see everybody else. Does anybody else have this or am I being a jackass?

[@persooniemand8346]

Can't really speak about the trans part but just know that you're not a jackass for feeling a certain way. Anxiety is a complicated thing, and while it would be for the best to find out why, and work on it, it's completely valid

[@AIHumanEquality]

Nope I've always distrusted men (mostly cis men) and I think it's pretty common not only among LGBTQ but also cis straight women too.

[@tophatcat1173]

@@trevorchester4439 probably because they present as men?

[@AIHumanEquality]

​@@trevorchester4439It doesn't matter. As long as they're perceived as men the brain will unconsciously consider them threats. It's a perfectly normal reaction in modern society honestly.

[@tophatcat1173]

@@trevorchester4439 if you were really as secure in that belief as you pretend to be, you wouldn't be on this channel trying to provoke people.

[@kyokonightstorm5844]

7:38 "Just admit you are homophobic." I think I was 14 or so when my dad admitted that he does not like seeing relationships where a white woman is with an African-American man. He even said that he knows that it is a racist view, but that the pairing makes him uncomfortable personally. The fact that he openly admitted "I feel this way, knowing it is racist" just made me respect him even more, because at least he isn't trying to lie about it (he HATES liars) or hide it. And he knows it is wrong. My dad lived through the 60s, when that was a very prevalent view, in a predominately white area so I can see where it came from. I don't see this as him being hateful, just as a product of where and how he grew up. Because in other matters, such as me being a part of the LGBTQIA+ community (in several ways), he is firmly an ally. One of the major sort of "Rules of Etiquette" we had growing up was "Don't force your views/opinions/identity/religious preferences/etc. onto others." People just wanting to live openly as a non-hetero person or couple? 100% OK in his book, as that's not really his business anyways. Constantly bash people with "I am [blank] so you HAVE to listen to me" and he will take offense, even on the behalf of others. EDit: An Asexual that cannot have garlic bread!? [Asexual who loves Garlic and Garlic Bread Panic Attack]

[@aceofspades5226]

My own dad once said “I respect people who will come up to me (he’s mixed, Native American + African american) and say ‘I hate you for your skin color’, then move on, than people who behind people’s back to be racist.”

[@mc-rn8ro]

“Constantly bash people with ‘I am [blank] so you have to listen to me.’” So, listening to LGBTQ+ people on LGBTQ+ issues because we’re LGBTQ+ and know what we’re talking about would be considered “bashing,” then? Listening to trans people on trans issues because they’re trans would be considered “bashing?” You seem to have more respect for your out-of-touch racist father than you have for people of differing identities. That’s deeply concerning and you really need to consider if you’re ACTUALLY an ally or if you just want to white-wash bigotry for the sake of defending your family and the way you were raised. “My dad opposes interracial marriage and I respect him because he’s honest about it” is not the flex you think it is.

[@aceofspades5226]

@@mc-rn8ro I think they were talking about people saying like “I am [position of power]”, not on lgtq topics, considering they ARE lgtq, since they are asexual.

[@Lisa_Flowers]

I mean good for him for being self aware and honest about the fact that his viewpoint/feeling is harmful. But i'd also hope he's working on changing it. It isn't really enough to just know you have an conscious or unconscious bias, you have to work through the discomfort until it's gone. Otherwise it will end up affecting how you treat people, even if it's unintentionally. Because really, being aware you have a bias is the actual bare minimum. Working on it is what matters.

[@flyingzombiemice]

3:05 watching british people try to explain thanksgiving as a family dinner is eerily similar to watching homophobes try to explain lesbians as roommates

[@kvasir6945]

Adorable, loved this! I once had a Mormon therapist (ex-Mormon here) try to use cognitive behavioral therapy to convince me that my sexuality is just an intrusive thought.

[@jackwastakenx2]

Bruh (this is all I can say but I want to reply so… yeah)

[@AlphaFX-kv4ud]

That's really dumb, a Mormon therapist of all people should know that people need love and support, they should let God do the judging, instead of just being rude for no reason

[@shouldbewritig]

Jamie making the correction about transparent just made my brain IMMEDIATELY go to the Amazon series. Which has its issues but it is named correctly 😂

[@Themehsofproduction]

Ironically i got a prageru ad saying “ *de* trans the dangers of gender affirming care”

[@notallwhowanderarelost4797]

They actually target these kinds of videos. Council of Geeks has a video titled "How to stop transphobic (or any far-right) ads from running on your channel" giving instructions because youtube doesn't even let content creators know they can do anything about it.

[@w1nterdays]

@@notallwhowanderarelost4797it’s in the google Adsense account not KZbin dashboard settings for anyone wondering

[@notallwhowanderarelost4797]

I found out about that instructional video from a later video they did titled "Dear One Topic... (about those ads on your channel)" about why those types of ads get targeted to these types of videos even though the vast majority of viewers will not be receptive, and the harm they do.

[@FloridaManEvolved]

Here before the homophobes scream at us, and before the aces steal all of my garlic bread. I hope nobody else tries to kill me or steal what I have!

[@SammyLammy1D]

I am non-binary and I will steal your cake. Idk if that's related but still. I also have really bad period cramps, so I might steal your chocolate as well. If you have chocolate cake, you will be my second favourite person in the world.

[@FloridaManEvolved]

No. *keeps the garlic bread* I cooked this for an ace friend of mine! it isn't yours!@@a-random-human-being2311

[@FloridaManEvolved]

Here, how about we split this chocolate cake.@@SammyLammy1D

[@_StarlightRose_]

Give me the galic breb I need the recipe

[@queersoapybar]

Gimme your pans so I can make pancakes

[@momamiandkiddokelsi9027]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈 Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@KitsuneOnPaws-c2q]

Thank you 🌈💕💖

[@_StarlightRose_]

You too

[@KindlyKalen]

Yeah, it’s true through the letters of L G B T Q I AAAAAAAA P

[@AIHumanEquality]

So I'm valid as a Goddess?

[@AlexHigbee-nl1fy]

Jamie is not validated she's a girl who cut off did with surgeries of to which badly she has made videos about her suffering she eats testosterone to make her look slightly like a like a male but there is nothing male about Jamie

[@V_MC]

2:22 I just need to say this here while i still can: As a fellow human being that identifies as genderfluid, i can indeed confirm that yes, this is accurate on my part.

[@bluestar4408]

Not so fun fact: My grampa got polio because he was bobbing for apples when he was younger.

[@rookideetrainer1635]

huh... Good vaccines are a thing now then ^^;

[@intercat4907]

Let's not go back to those bad old days. We all have enough problems.

[@xarfram]

3:07 I'm pretty sure that's supposed to be a turkey, the idea being everyone's gathered for Thanksgiving dinner (an American holiday on the third Thursday of November)

[@krymsonuchiha14]

I am sick, and gender fluid. That first one made me laugh and the cough my lungs out! XD Edit: this is literally a joke. I am fine. I cough and sound like I'm dying, but it's just to get stuff out. I'm not literally coughing up a lung.

[@ashjones-zc5dt]

Are you ok??-

[@krymsonuchiha14]

@ashjones-zc5dt yea it's fine! It's just a bit funny. I've been trying not to laugh but the gender fluid ones get me! Thank you for asking ❤️

[@cardboardking577]

You're literally dying because of that joke ....

[@krymsonuchiha14]

@@cardboardking577 not really? It was just an expression...?

[@krymsonuchiha14]

Hensel the "XD" at the end of it...? Not supposed to be taken seriously.

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

if my old bully apologized, I would not forgive.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Then learn to be better. We don't want hate filled people around LGBTQ communities.

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

@@AIHumanEquality I am not required to forgive people. were they old bullies or even family members, and neither is nobody else for that matter.

[@GayGothPirate]

​​@@AIHumanEqualityas someone who was beaten up every day of my school life I am in no way obligated to forgive the people who actively made my life a nightmare.

[@pineapplefrostyfruits9225]

Nobody is ever required to forgive, but the important thing is to not sit on that hatred/anger and stew in it. You don't need them to 'repay' or suffer for you any more than you need to acknowledge their existence. Just as long as you continue on with your own life, as you wish, and don't focus on them, you are growing and living and doing what is healthy, so hell yeah good on you. Your life is yours, and you don't owe people your life to repent for theirs.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@KossolaxtheForesworn Your lack of self awareness is concerning. If someone's turning themselves over to be better and you're making it worse for them. You're the bad person in that scenario. Someone doing something bad does not give you the right to have a righteous complex.

[@tiny-bumblebee]

Love LGBallT! So glad you are doing it again

[@KitsuneOnPaws-c2q]

Same

[@adidi7789]

Ok but I was doing a buzzfeed quiz earlier, the kind where it's like "eat for a full day and we'll tell you your age" type thing, and I legitimately had a mini breakdown having to choose between bagels and sourdough in the bread round. Can you tell I'm aro/ace lol?

[@heathergupta1057]

When I changed my ways and started educating myself about LGBTQ+ matters, one thing that was hard for me was asking questions. It was hard to admit that I didn't know. I was embarrassed (and still am) that I was so ignorant. I have to remind myself to give myself grace, because learning new things takes time. One thing I didn't know up until earlier this year was that transmen who are only attracted to women are straight, not lesbian. My stupid brain attributed those labels to biological sex, not gender identity. I wasn't being transphobic, I just didn't know. 😣

[@Lisa_Flowers]

I mean kudos to you for admitting your ignorance and being open to the discomfort of making mistakes! Many many people would much prefer to pretend like they are knowledgable about queer people because it is easier and less uncomfortable, even if it is ultimately harmful. The path to learning more will unfortunately lead you to say and do things that are likely hurtful to queer people as you learn what is correct. But it is MUCH MUCH better to say unintentionally hurtful ignorant things in the path to being knowledgable and supportive, than it is for you to continue to have a potentially ignorant hurtful worldview for fear of making mistakes or looking foolish. If more people were like you, the world would be a much better place. Most people are never really taught to learn, and to embrace the messy parts of that process (making mistakes or not knowing or looking foolish), so we all remain in our little silos not understanding each other. Also, at least in my opinion, transphobia (and many other kinds of oppression) don't always have to be intentionally malicious to still qualify as phobia. We all do and say phobic things out of ignorance, or unconscious bias. So what you thought _was_ transphobic, even if you didn't intend it to be. That doesn't mean you are a bad person, because engaging in X bigoted behaviour (especially in isolation) is not necessarily an assessment on indivdiual moral character, but an assessment of a pairtuclar behavuour. You or I or anyone else can be transphobic because we don't know any better or are acting unconsciously from behaviours we were taught. That's why to me at least it's more productive to focus on an action (does a behaviour or assumption or statement stem from transphobia) and not identity (saying or doing something transphobic always means you are a bad person, or a bigot). Focusing on the individual moral character of a person doing or saying a harmful thing can be a waste of time and distract us from identifying very real harm.

[@3MB3Rx134]

2:31 As a genderfluid person I can confirm that when we touch water it becomes genderfluid as well

[@ChosenOne41]

I thought I was bi, turns out I'm actually just ball

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

I love it when you cover r/LGBallT! When I look at the subreddit myself, I always hear your voice in my head.

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@Matty-man You completely misunderstood my comment.

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@Matty-man Why are you so rude?

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@Matty-man You need to get a real hobby. Being a jerk on the internet is not a real one.

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

@@Matty-man I don’t really have a crush on anyone, but I want to get a girlfriend someday

[@asherytsubasablack3549]

Some balls names (Correct me if I'm wrong) 4:10 Ace/Omni flag 5:22 Gay (Exclusively MLM)/trans flag. Horns: Aphotiosexual (Right)/Demiboy (Left) 9:00 Cupiosexual flag (LOL) 9:15 The sunset aroace flag (Also the song is Cupid of Fifty Fifty) 13:12 (Left to righ, up to down) Genderfluid, Paragirl/queerplatonic/Aromantic (bow), Non-binary/queerplatonic/Androgynus women (bow), trans, demiboy/pan, gay flags 13:16 (Left to righ, up to down) Genderflux, genderfluid, genderfluid (glass), asexual, intersex, trans, demiboy/pan, intersex/Non-binary, intersex/trans (bow), gay flags 13:19 Bigender flag 13:21 Fa'afafine flag 13:25 Hijra flag 16:20 Non-binary/Gay (Exclusively MLM) flag Is late so tomorrow more. Also a like will help. Some of this were hard to find :3

[@BiDisaster327]

Thank you so much!!!!

[@lynixc.]

Thank you so much. Could you post a link to Aphotiosexual, google doesn't show any results for me

[@violetzebra9307]

​@@lynixc.Its apothisexual, and means that you're asexual and sex- repulsed. Hope this helps.

[@lynixc.]

@@violetzebra9307 Thanks :)

[@taiyouscandalous1175]

thanks! I've been looking for the paragirl one without luck. it would be really nice if there was a flag searcher site based on selecting colors.

[@drewmarteny1495]

I think the brown blob was a turkey so maybe Thanksgiving reference

[@notallwhowanderarelost4797]

Yes, that's what I was coming to say. If it was drawn by an american and put out in autumn I'd guess a turkey representing a big family gathering including people who may not be all together the rest of the year.

[@Matilda-kt4ro]

Once in Spanish, because adjectives are feminine or masculine in Spanish, I asked the teacher what we’d say for a gender neutral person. And this girl who no one asked just piped up and said “But if you’re gender neutral, you’re still a boy or a girl” and me and my friend (who is non binary) just stared at each other in shock at the utter transphobia. I hated that girl even more than before then

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

2:48 - Man, I must have seen *lots* of badly drawn kid's art over the years because I immediately recognized the brown splotch as a *turkey* and realized it was supposed to be Thanksgiving dinner. 😅 I'm AAA (ace/aro/agender) and when I found out my BIL couldn't have garlic (or onion) anymore, I felt horrified on his behalf. I love me some garlic bread, and if I developed an allergy to garlic I think I'd cry. I bought "The Bread Baker's Apprentice" _years_ ago... not to bake any bread (it's so hot where I live I rarely use the oven even though I'd like to bake more) but just to look at aaaaaaall the images of bread... so I guess the "pics of bread" comic wasn't far off the mark.

[@j.apenrose7896]

On the "find a Bible and get kicked out of the house" comparison, look, maybe it'll happen one day. I actually wouldn't be surprised. Definitely happens in certain countries, (namely ones where religion is state enforced) but I'm not exactly expecting Australia to do that anytime soon. There would have to be something pretty radical happen.

[@mjamin9124]

when your sample size is in the billions, pretty much every sort of interaction will happen at some point.

[@julzbehr6696]

5:08 Left horn: sex repulsed ace Right horn: Demi-man Left half: mlm, gay male, achillean Right half: trans

[@alyxleaf]

"I was doing so well at speaking." Mood Jamie, mood.

[@xd._.28234]

Even my 69 yo mother understood aro and ace in a span of 15 minutes. If an elder can your young ass can as well.

[@food_u]

Me this morning: Huh, it's been bit sense Jamie did a LGBallT vid... Jamie:

[@Mx_Nebula]

The triple A battery on the phone got me so much, as I am also aroace agender

[@ardellolnes5663]

I've done so many of these I don't even trip....*immediately trips! *hugs

[@kayj7054]

OOH so Jamie is saying my fiance will become a transparent when we get married and she adopts my kids? great :3

[@GavHern]

5:05 the ball is achillean/MLM and trans and the horns are apothisexual (sex repulsed ace) and demiboy. i do expect additional points awarded for this extra credit exercise

[@JadenTSlime]

I love how in the "I made a comic too" thing it not only leans on the habit of making up a scenario, but also the rampant habit of bigots, and religious bigots in particular ime, to just recolor existing lgbtq+ positive comics.

[@thecollector5204]

5:04 The purple, white and orange flag with an X is the apothisexual flag, or the sex-repulsed pride flag. Apothisexual is a microlabel within the asexual community. The grey, blue, and white ball is the demiboy pride flag. The turquoise, white, and dark blue flag is the masc gay flag. Much love! ❤❤❤❤

[@Toni-lo9ms]

The horn on the ball at around 5:00 is sex repulsed (apothisexual.) Edited because forgot the parentheses 13:20 oh my gosh I love the bigender ball that wants two things at once. 😂

[@toadette4x]

I came out a week or 2 ago to my parents as aro/ace and they where super suportive of me and how I feel 😇(and can't feel XD) . Also Yes that one ball around the 9:12 timestamp whas indeed an aro/ace ball 😄.

[@catsmom129]

15:50. I’ve taken some of those quizzes and gotten different answers each time. There’s one that just asks how you’ve felt the last two weeks. Depending on my mood, it rates me as ace, straight, bi, or gay. Ah, the joys of being a bi woman going through menopause.

[@Grymmorot]

Still sad that you are working with Better Help with all the issues around them!

[@xd._.28234]

​@@amthystxxhe definitely doesn't,like he is a cinnamon roll and trans himself and countless of times defended trans. Probably he thinks they're good.

[@SnootDog]

Wait, issues? Like what?

[@jamsistired]

People have been commenting this stuff for a while, I feel like he would have seen and said something at this point not gonna lie

[@waffles3629]

​@@SnootDog sharing confidential information with social media platforms. They got fined by the FTC for that.

[@GaTraCos]

​@@SnootDogNot vetting their therapists, and selling user data.

[@MollyPrewittWeasley]

Sorry Jamie, can't watch a video supporting Better Help.

[@dinosaurs_rule]

What did they do, if you don't mind explaining? Sorry to bother you, I'm just genuinely curious and google is giving me nothing

[@_StarlightRose_]

​@@dinosaurs_rulesomething something homophobic therapists

[@dinosaurs_rule]

@@_StarlightRose_ oh that sucks :( Thanks for telling me

[@_StarlightRose_]

@@dinosaurs_rule np I dont know the specifics myself though

[@GaTraCos]

​@@_StarlightRose_And data selling, and lack of therapist vetting

[@tonyandzippyvids7734]

3:22, the dinner is more specifically a thanksgiving dinner, an American holiday that has a association with very political chats during the dinner. The heart/chicken in the middle is a turkey, an iconic food for the holiday.

[@nanardeurlambda]

15:00 apparently, it's even funnier than that. he started his rant because of a scene in which a character is about to reveal something about themself. He then jumps the gun and assumes it's a trans coming out thing, except it isn't.

[@twiggledowntown3564]

Homophobic therapist shouldn't exist, but sadly they do.

[@86aster]

My mum will still claim my asexuality is due to my meds.

[@Error_sans10]

HELP A HOMOPHOBIC AD PLAYED BEFORE THIS- :sobs:

[@Acesty]

Not joking, saw a PragerU ad right under this video about the "dangers" of gender affirming care.

[@charlequinne]

13:10 THE GENDERFLUID IN TBE TABLE AND THE DEMIBOY BALL JUST BEING HALF A BALL I CANT 😭 it’s so cute I love this

[@Rose_Haw]

5:09 Left horn is apothisexual. Right horn is demiboy. And left is gay.

[@Bunny_Bill]

I live laugh and love for LGBallT Edit: 5:08 Gay (homoromantic), Trans, demiboy, apothisexual (sexrepulsed ace)🤩🤩 Almost me but I'm aro

[@thefrizziestdrycat_05]

5:04 The mini flag on the trans side of the ball is the demiboy flag, I know because I proudly display it on my minecraft skin lol 🩶🩵🤍🩵🩶

[@randomnumber27]

11:56 FINALLY SOMEONE MENTIONED IT !! I HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR SO LONG BUT NOBODY LISTENS 😭

[@yourgodismean4526]

As a feminist cis lesbian, I do not understand why some of my sisters are so hateful of trans folks. Wtf? I feel like if a woman is born in a man’s body n then chooses, by choosing to be herself n transition(in whatever way), to lose all the privilege that male body gave her, n live as one of us….She’s welcome to my space. Of course I don’t think this is the trans woman’s plan-to infiltrate women’s spaces. From what I can tell, trans ppl transition bc they come to a place where they’d rather die than not. It becomes an imperative. Why do TERF lesbians think somehow trans struggles are different than theirs? All of this also applies to trans men by the way. I’m not one of those lesbians who believe we’re losing all our butches to trans men lifestyles(n since when do trans folks have “lifestyles”? Heard this b4 from gay ppl insisting they themselves have lives, not life “styles”)? Anyway, pls remember, not all cis or militant lesbian ppl are the same. Enjoying ur channel, Jammy

[@SylviaRustyFae]

Thing is, these kinds of feminists who see it as an exclusive thing where they must keep out others who arent the right kinds of women... Theyve always been part and parcel with feminist movements; bcuz there will always be ppl among any given class of oppressed ppl who look to their sides and see not a fellow oppressed person; bcuz of so many reasons for why ppl hate. There are pictures of white cis gay men holdin signs in the 50s that read "Homosexual American Males: Our Nations Last Oppressed Minority". Bcuz they will always have some ppl among any group who are in it for entirely selfish reasons and cant see beyons their own struggles Its the same reason why white feminists have disregarded the plight of Black women and other nonwhite women time and time again in major feminist movements This has nvr been new, bigotry has always been like this; they use the exact same playbook every time they oppress us, and its always best to divide us... So ofc theyll keep doin it and there will always be some of our own who will help them, havin got sucked into the bigotry as well. They just have to be taught to see some of their own as not the same as them; as not truly sharin in their struggle, but instd as a threat to such

[@blurredwolf2339]

Dysphoria sucks

[@DrTssha]

I'm sorry, can we get more than one joke for being genderfluid? Like yeah, haha, I'm a fluid...is that all you got? Is there nothing I can relate to here? Can you not think of any wacky scenarios where being genderfluid causes problems that can't be solved with a ladle? (and no, freezing into an ice cube doesn't count) I'm fine with this joke in moderation, but when it's the only joke people know about genderfluid people... * *sigh* * ...it's getting old quick, folks.

[@rookideetrainer1635]

Sounds like you need to be funnier- (lighthearted teasing) Nah... if it's something that makes you feel sad then try to come up with some new material...? I'm not genderfluid as such (kinda... sometimes more of a guy sometimes more agender don't know if it counts) so I can't really help with content like that

[@eleventh_chicken]

As a person who's attracted to pans, I agree.

[@joshuanorman2]

Given the jokes are just surface deep puns on the word that represents the identity, not really. Kinda milked the fluid thing dry (what a gross sentence). It's like how there's one pansexual joke and like two trans jokes

[@nincure]

​@@eleventh_chickenI got asked if I was attracted to pizza. I love pizza! 😂😂😂

[@aceofspades5226]

@@amthystxx gendergas, gender-fluid, gendersolid, and gender plasma, these are the four gender masses

[@MysticMindAnalysis]

As a top-hat wearing enby, the melting enby ball was perfect XD

[@svenhendrickx2783]

God damn it, now I'm wondering what sound a genderfluid makes when they fall into water XD Small edit: I invited a genderfluid friend for a walk tomorrow, will update with the results

[@SylviaRustyFae]

The answer is gonna entirely depend on three factors rly: Temperature, Time, and T-Composition Liquids make differin sounds dependin on the temp at which they hit a surface, includin another liquid; which is how you can tell if the water comin out of a tap you cannot see is hot or cold based on the small diff in sound caused by temp. Note, this is similarly also true of solids but itll vary a ton based on makeup and how long it has been solid and how cold it has gotten... And gases will also make their own sounds when hittin a surface, tho not sure actually if heatin the gas more will change the sound before reachin an ignition pt or other reaction pt. Onto the second T, Time. The slower or faster an object, regardless of its state of matter, hits a surface; thats gonna entirely change how it sounds And the final T, T-Composition, obvs what any object is made of is gonna play a huge part in the sound made when collidin with any other object If you drop liquid genderfluid into liquid water, both at room temp, then dependin on the genders that make up that genderfluid; that will let you find out what that genderfluids sound is, well, in that one exact case ofc. Gonna have to drop them into a lot of diff liquids and while theyre at diff temps and while pourin at diff times. Ooh, and maybe exp with diff accessories on your genderfluid and see how that affects sound There are many fun new dips comin in genderfluids future :3

[@svenhendrickx2783]

@@SylviaRustyFae unfortunately, I only have one gender fluid friend that lives adequately close to me to partake in the experiments. And I'm afraid I might be able to convince them twice, so that would seriously limit my sample size or I'd have to make it into a decade long study to not ruin a friendship. Doubt me yelling "for science" will negate the fact that I'm pushing them into water XD

[@svenhendrickx2783]

@@SylviaRustyFae first test result: outside temperature 14 °C, medium deep puddle about 50 cm, initial sound pre splash "smeerlap"(Dutch for bastard), splash was a mix of water and mud splash, leaving the puddle was with a satisfying muddy schloorp

[@kierstenburtz8442]

Hearing Jamie pronounce the r in party deadass made me do a double take lmao

[@cecile436]

I feel so validated by this ace ball allergic to garlic

[@amandamcquade1272]

🫡🥲🙃🧄 Condolences, I think? I don't want to interfere with the validation. It's just that it would be hard for me to do without garlic...but you do you.😊

[@cecile436]

@@amandamcquade1272 I'd rather do without garlic than being sick after eating some. Easy choice for me.

[@amandamcquade1272]

@@cecile436 🫡 Of course. I wish you healthy and contented! (I somehow got confused by "validated". Now I don't know what I was thinking??. Time for me to log off now, I apologize.)💜

[@charlequinne]

15:50 omg i just noticed the triple A battery on the phone that is adorable i love ❤️

[@Finnley-supports-translives]

Nothing like having a shitty day but having a youtube parent to come to

[@ShinyTillDawn]

A bi & trans parent no less!

[@SylviaRustyFae]

Im almost certain that the "pride flag" shown at 6:11 that the homophobic ball is complainin about is not actually even a pride flag My vexillology nerd is certain this flag reminds her of some random entirely unrelated to pride flag; i just cant think of how to search it to figure that one out

[@atree1394]

Hi jamie! Just thought id say, at 5:05, the foreground (left) horn is Apothisexual, which means you're repulsed by sex, and the farther one is Demiboy! and the other half i'm petty sure is mlm (man love man)

[@sirreadsalot6654]

I think when people apologize for past phobia its mostly for them, which in my opinion is good for their healing and growth

[@Milo-hp9fw]

The flags for the left ball at 5:04 are: Gay 🐊🐍🐚🐟🐾 Trans 🐬🐙🐚🐙🐬 Demiboy (partially but not wholly feeling male) 🕷🐬🐚🐬🕷 Apothisexual (sex repulsed asexual) and idk how to do that flag with emojis

[@eurydice5890]

The emojis are cute

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

I love these comics. They cheer me up immensely.

[@ranting2damax]

I’m trans and abrosexual (the one flag that has the colors of a watermelon) and seeing not really well known flags in LGBallT is SUPER cool, cuz then people may be able to find out who they are and stuff and why they feel that way, as otherwise they’ll most likely only think that the most ‘popular’ or ‘mainstream’ representation options exist. (nothing wrong with that, but could be confusing for some who feel like they don’t really fit with these groups, which are so well known that they’re basically ALL of lgbtq+ to outsiders and those who can’t physically get more information)

[@nathananderson7962]

I'm abroromantic! It's the only flag I feel comfortable wearing because (unfortunately) no one knows what it is (and my community is everything-phobic, sexist, racist, etc. so I can't come out). I can always say "It's watermelon colors!"

[@LilyTheCuteKitty432]

"There is no weakness in being vulnerable" I like that phrase

[@BlackLegVinesmokeSanji]

I hate these lies Aro/ace still feel atraction Like gravtitatinal attraction Aro ace arnt imune to gravity /j

[@Chaos-._]

Stop spreading these falsehoods, I saw an ace person fly past my window last night! They *are* immune to gravity and they are mobilizing! (Joke)

[@PsnWasTaken]

We feel very little gravity, while some of us don’t feel gravity, don’t lie 😡 /lh

[@callhimtim3188]

You had me in the first half, not gonna lie

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

7:08 as an asexual, we are never not plotting for world domination (or recipes for cake and/or garlic bread)

[@Sunnydaze081]

Plot for world domination while eating garlic bread

[@Idiot_TaylorsVersion]

@@Sunnydaze081 and making cake

[@lauraevans2104]

I love the LGBallT cartoons. Thank you for covering them. Your reactions are great!

[@KarmicID]

9:41 That comic is actually me. 11 years old : LGBT sucks i am above this, i am a true alpha male 13 years old : ok maybe i'm pan but i don't take the "easy way" to change gender just to not be gay 14 years old : ah sh*t why did i play celeste

[@olympeseverine8613]

9:25 Yes, it’s the Aroace flag and Cupid is cupiosexual (asexual who desire having sexual relationships)

[@Zychel_EX9]

Imagine if I was a vampire. It would be terrifyingly painful to not eat my precious Garlic Bread . Because if I did, I’d die. The very thought frightens me.

[@Zychel_EX9]

Conservatives are the vampires who are turning people into them whether they like it or not.

[@captaincrazythe2nd468]

I stopped making my Halloween costume to watch this

[@KitsuneOnPaws-c2q]

😂

[@girlwithtehface5880]

Good luck finishing it! I hope your costume is to your liking!

[@Shadowslave604]

7:30 - it shows they see the world from their view not yours. there have been studies and papers written about this exact thing. there are even KZbin videos explaining why people act like this. the TLDR version is they are scared you will do to them what they are doing to you and will do anything to stop that from happening and losing their perceived place in the world. yes this is over simplified but gives you a basic view into the mind of others.