A Glance Into Jessica's Frustrations - Autism and Anxiety

When we lost internet service this weekend, Siri wouldn't work, and it caused extreme frustration and anxiety for Jess. Jessica's smartphone is her communication lifeline, and to use her phone, she has to have Siri available.
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Jess is 33-years-old, autistic, and blind. Her favorite topics of conversation include getting a new dog, her friend Keely, her Aunt Sue, and cousin Donna. Jess collects CD’s of children’s music, cards, coloring books, and has a small collection of used up disposable cameras that she refuses to get developed. Favorite health foods include chicken and rice, chicken tenders, chicken nuggets, chicken biscuits, pepperoni pizza, and hash brown potatoes. Jess has naturally curly hair that she would rather not ever comb, brush, or cut.
Jessica’s multiple disabilities stem from brain damage that occurred in-utero, and from hydrocephalus. In addition to autism and blindness, Jess also has minor fine motor and gross motor deficits.

[@aimeek.crapps3032]

This absolutely broke my heart seeing her cry and upset. But I was even more upset for you as a mom. You have so many people who love y'all and we don't even know you personally. So always know you can vent to us with no judgement, from me at least. You're an amazing mother and inspire me to be better everyday.

[@cherylmcewen6103]

💜💕

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!❤️

[@jbraker]

Val, you are a great mom. Your patience amazes me. Zoe is such a sweetheart. She really seemed to want to comfort Jess.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Zoë was fantastic. This was the first time she had seen Jess this upset. She really wanted to help her.

[@gabbylopez9091]

I can understand Jess' frustrations. As someone with Autism and Anxiety/Depression, simple things definitely can stress us out. I appreciate you being so patient and expressing your feelings too!!

[@frantzfam7793]

I have debilitating anxiety at times. I feel like I can relate to Jess here. Feeling of “it can’t be fixed” You keep such a cool head around her. Be sure to take time for yourself after these episodes and unwind/self care. Jess is so lucky to have you!

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!

[@AdventuresInMyLife2024]

I have severe generalized anxiety, panic attacks and PTSD, so I can relate to the feeling that Jess is feeling. I just found your channel, and I love it.

[@survivingmylife4451]

Your so calm dealing with uncontrollable situations and redirecting her anxiety. I think your a awesome mom for letting people see the real life you lead. ❤from Indy hope your state gets back to normal soon.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!

[@Toffee146]

You + are = YOU'RE.

[@survivingmylife4451]

@@Toffee146 So sorry my spelling was incorrect I could say my auto correct did that, but it did not I did so I truly appreciate your free spelling lesson. To know you took the time to correct my spelling means that you noticed my comment and that is so nice that you read my comment. However you should probably leave a comment for the video not the comments. Have a wonderful day.

[@Toffee146]

@@survivingmylife4451, it's not spelling. It's grammar YOUR and YOU'RE mean two different things. I'm offering my help. Not asking for unpleasantness in return.

[@jillianjo-e9y]

It's nice to see it isn't all sunshine and rainbows. Bless her heart. I didn't realize how upset she becomes outside of her routine. It really is teaching me so much about autism. You are a hero. What a great mom you are. ❤

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!

[@shariday9849]

You’re such a good Mom. I’m glad you had the good judgement to know it was one of those times to reach for the calming meds. It looks like it was just the thing. Three cheers for a wise, loving Mom.❤️

[@lavapes9991]

I have terrible anxiety when this happens. A good movie, move the electronics away, find a way to fill the void. I feel like I'm not going to make it but within an hour or so I realize I got all upset for nothing. Back in the day we had no internet at all and it was actually a nice break to play some games and just be with the family not having to worry about the internet 😊 love to you both ❤️

[@susanmathy8973]

Zoey is sitting with Jess trying to Comfort her💗💗

[@katebristow14]

And thank you for being so real and showing everyone the good and the bad. You could tell immediately Jess was calmed down 💙💙

[@sallyangus8194]

Not easy ...often people do not understand that anxiety is not just being a bit worried. In a high state of it, people can't often process as they might do otherwise. Thank you for sharing life in the real world.... 💜

[@nancyalmonte6334]

I don’t even know what to say... other than you’re a great & strong mom! Jess is so lucky to have you! ❤️♥️ & we’re so lucky to have Jess through social media ❤️♥️ we learn so much from her every day. Sending lots of good vibes! Xoxoxoxo ♥️❤️

[@AutisticInterpretations]

❤️

[@belissamorgan9390]

Val, you’re so wonderful handling Jess. I guess you’ve did it so long, you automatically just know what to do. I love you guys, thanks for allowing a peep in your life. We should take an example from you and treat all people with kindness. Later, 🐝

[@brendabee5944]

Belissa I love how you but that 🐝 because that’s my nickname and I do that too 🐝

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Yes, I’ve had decades of practice. 😊❤️

[@AwesomestParks]

I've been watching your videos lately, you are a blessed mother! im a 32 year old adult with high function autism, well aspugers to be exact but everyone now a days call it autism on the spectrum, im glad there is people like you taking care of your daughter most parents would send there child to a group home, i live in independent living in my own apartment, i have my drivers license but dont yet own a car just not right now but working on saving up buying a nice one, i work full time at a elementary school's cafeteria, keep posting videos i enjoy watching yall, i have a male friend thats simular to jess disability i deal with on a once a week baices but i handle it like you Val... New subscriber here!!!

[@Tracy-dq6mk]

Oh, sweet Jess. I’m so sorry you are frustrated. My thoughts go back to one of my sweet kids in my classroom that needed one on one love and reassurance when we would have hamburgers for lunch instead of hotdogs. It was so frustrating for him. I always made sure I had a hotdog in the teachers lounge to throw in the microwave but it was a long few hours until lunch time when he actually ate the hotdog. There were so many other instances over my years of teaching and so often I felt helpless to relieve their anxiety. You are such a great Mom. I know it’s so very stressful and overwhelming at times. Thanks for being such a great example for all people who love a unique human!!

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!

[@mitkliku670]

The more videos I watched of y’all on Facebook and KZbin it makes me love y’all more. Love watching these videos and seeing just how good and wonderful of a parent you are to Jess makes my day. My hubby and I love watching y’all. It always makes us realize just how hard parenting can me and the love of a parent has no bounds and no end. We have a one year old and a little on the way. It hits us in the feels seeing how great you and “bad daddy” are to Jess and your other children as well. I don’t understand how any one could dislike these videos they make our day. A wonderful family y’all are and a wonderful lady Jess is!

[@kristinenadjiwon7286]

Oh my goodness , seeing Jess cry made me so upset . I really feel for her , Val you truly are a very patient woman. You are proof not all super heroes wear capes .

[@cordiaschmidt6176]

This breaks my heart for both of you! Jess not being able to understand fully what’s going on and being so upset and you also frustrated with the situation and not being able to help in the ways you wish you could. Thank you for allowing us this glimpse into your lives so that we can better understand you guys as well as world around us!

[@caraevans2609]

I admire all that you do! I have a physical disability myself and I’ve worked several summers as a camp counselor for a special needs camp so I’ve had a tad of experience of what you go through daily. I know how difficult (and wonderful) it can be at times. You do an amazing job! ❤️

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you!

[@chrisswindells7340]

Gah! Poor Jess. You guys are amazing. I am feeling her stress for her. Lots of love and hugs to all of you. Great job trying to diffuse a tough situation. There is surely a spot in heaven for all of you. Here is hoping for a much smoother 2021. In the meantime please know that we are right here with you. Siri is her friend and she isn’t responding. It’s truly a tough concept. Happy New Year to all of you. 😘❤️

[@tiffanyraines9781]

Zoe knows how upset Jess is she just sits there beside her so sweet

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Yes, Zoë was very in tune with Jessica’s emotions. When she first saw Jess really upset, Zoë was really concerned. It was so sweet.

[@sheilamarie56]

It seems Zoe understands Jess is stressed.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Zoe was amazing. ❤️

[@abbdabbz713]

I thought that same thing Zoey is so sweet. She was like it's okay mommy I'm here. ❤❤❤

[@nataliemccance3337]

You are an amazing mom Val. Just thought you should know that. You are doing such a great job. Massive love to you. 💗

[@AutisticInterpretations]

💗 thank you!

[@tammymurphy7280]

You’re such a wonderful You’re such loving and caring Mom. You’re beautiful inside and out. I’m so sorry that you guys have bad days.❤️

[@tonyaduncan4351]

I totally understand Jess and your frustration. I hate when things don’t go smooth or it’s an off day. Lots of hugs and prayers💖💖

[@cindythoreson3716]

I am sure it can be frustrating to have to repeat yourself over and over again and Jess not grasping the reason “why”. Val you are amazing mom. Jess is an amazing young woman who loves her mom❤️.

[@badmomba]

This is two years old... I started following you and Jess on Instagram years ago then left social media and came back recently. I always loved Jess. I worked with children with autism for a few years and it was by far the most rewarding job I ever had, aside from raising my own babies. I could have never known years ago, loving Jess's videos, laughing with her, crying with her, being proud and amazed by her. ...could have never known a few short years later I'd be beginning the diagnostic process and testing for my own daughter who is 3. I remember having this feeling like I was disconnected with my daughter. Like I couldn't properly communicate with her... Then I remembered Jess, and you, and just your amazing kindness and gift to share yours and Jess's life with the world. I'm proof, my daughter is proof, it's important what you're doing here. So... I'm going back through your old videos in hopes that I might learn things to help, for now, for the future, and for our entire life. I just want you to know these videos, this peek into your life is truly a blessing to me as I'm so lost. But I just know it's going to be okay... It will! Because I love my daughter. And I see how much you love Jess. And now my comments on the video since I've written you a novel... Momma, you're amazing. I don't think I can find the words as a mom who feels like she can identify with your life and your struggle in a small way and how that makes me feel like I'm not alone, my child is not alone... There are others who have gone before us, you and Jess are those people for me, and likely for my daughter. She can't really communicate to me how much she's getting from watching these videos with me now and then, but she will. We are unlocking more communication inch by tiny inch, I'm sure you can definitely relate. It's not just verbal communication though, as you know, it's the entire package. As I watched the start of this video and Jess's frustration I just began to feel so emotional, with her. Then I could just feel your suffering as a mother. Not because you want your child to "be quiet," or "stop bothering you" as some people may assume, but rather because it *hurts* to see them suffering, and in these moments they are suffering in their frustration. But it's not only them who has a load of baggage-frustration from whatever the situation is, it's mom's frustration too. I don't know, I just wanted to say this to you and I wanted to say that in the most clear way I can, *_I see you, and thank you._* love and prayers always for Jess, but also for you, her amazing momma.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

From the bottom of our hearts, thank you so very much for your comment. It's people like you that keep us going. ❤️ Best wishes to you and your girl.

[@sandrafournerat8801]

My goodness it amazes me how much I see my daughter in Jessica. Thanks for sharing, we love watching the videos.

[@ashleybarnard2538]

It breaks my heart to see her so upset. U could tell she was trying to process it and understand but I just hate to see her cry. Val u are so strong and a wonderful mother

[@sandycan1]

You truly are a wonderful loving mum. Your an inspiration ! ❤️

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you so much!

[@Deadheadtina]

Oh!!!! I’ve never seen Jess upset as a new viewer. I have so much love and respect for this family! ❤️❤️❤️

[@SassyKYgirl51]

You are an amazing mother!! You have the patience of Job. God bless you all.

[@sharoncooper6636]

Bless you ,Val... you are an amazing person and mother!

[@connieking694]

Truly love all your videos Val you are an amazing mother. Jess and Hannah are so amazing you sure have done a great job with your girls

[@katestraus4324]

It breaks my heart to see Jess crying especially because she doesn't understand. :-(

[@Toffee146]

My mother would completely lose her temper in this situation. You are an angel, Val. Poor Jess, though. I can understand her distress, with things not working the way they should. Sending love from one person with Hydrocephalus and Autism, to another, all the way from Sheffield, England. 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

[@pamgriffith1937]

God bless you Val… as a mother myself I don’t think I could do all that you endure. Seeing Jess cry literally tore my heart out as if she’s my child… I was crying with her. I watch you guys faithfully and this video is one I must have missed. My respect and compassion level grew for you tremendously. Your family is etched in my heart forever… I can’t thank you enough for sharing your story and lives with us. Jess is meant for the world to see and bring brightness and joy to everyone . She is my sunshine and makes my heart smile❤️🥰❤️. You’re in my prayers always 🙏

[@Michelle-zx9mu]

I appreciate you and Jess sharing your lives. I’m an empath and it is very enlightening to me to see how others live. Please don’t stop. More and more people are being diagnosed with varying issues and it helps them. It helps people like me to be a more well rounded person. You both are very important people.

[@ritasue6866]

Thank goodness for backup meds, when you've done all you can do to relieve their anxiety, and nothing else works. I totally understand

[@tjprice212]

Mama , you are an amazing mom. We all have our Frustrating moments, mother of two grown men now and they still drive me batty. Some days are better than others😊

[@terilouder8711]

We have ALL had this reaction to not having internet access. But it’s so much harder in your circumstance. 😅Funny, but not funny. This whole thing is so relatable and understandable. It helps that you share these tough times for Jess and yourself. Hugs for you all.

[@donnahallock3319]

Your a great mom and you can tell zoey knows Jess needs assistance. I know it's very frustrating to have a child that needs routine then it's messed up. 💜 Much love Val.

[@kandyrogers9113]

I have mild autism, I feel you Jess. I really do, but I use to get spanked for crying, so I don't cry a lot, but I'm glad you are allowed to cry. I think it's good to express your emotions.

[@nicolekelaher1979]

Val your a great mum. Glad that all worked out for you both. And Jess is now better. Must be hard at times for you

[@beatrizduran6547]

Awww, she is upset and apologizes 😌😌😌😌😌😌😌😌 She has the best support ❤️❤️

[@sportyfemme64]

P.S. Val, Val. You're proof, all heroes don't wear capes. ❤

[@terrimcnamarajunkjournaler5069]

My 19 yr old granddaughter that I have raised was diagnosed with autism last year. She has a hard time with internet outages. It's like the world ends for her. She is very independent but kind of agoraphobia. It has gotten better but social situations are hard. I feel the pain of not being my able to fix things. Hugs to you both, you have amazing strength Val.

[@Se7en18ness]

Momma Val!! There aren’t enough amazing words in the world to call you!! God took his time Creating you and it shows everyday✨

[@angelaeglinger6608]

Oh bless her, and you!

[@perkypokey]

Poor Jessica. I feel so bad for her. Many people with Autism live their lives by a strict routine, and they usually don't cope very well with change, and when even the littlest thing messes with that routine, and causes even a temporary change, it can be so devastating for them.

[@itsmecandi9951]

My mom has had problems with AT&T before. I just have cheap BOOST MOBILE, which goes through SPRINT. I’m surprised I’ve never had problems. SPRINT used to go down a lot. It is frustrating. Hang in there Jess! She has such pretty hair! I have to have my cats with me when I go to sleep. I have anxiety horribly bad. My cats help that. The one cat I have had longer and he calms me better. They are actually considered “working animals.” My Dr. wrote a “prescription” for them for me.

[@tyreesetjjoyner1995]

Happy new year, y’all. I hope you’ll get that Silver Play Button in 2021

[@krystalharwood6359]

i have a friend who has a daughter her age. she also gets frustrated and agitated with certain things, hates fire alarms, and cant walk w/o fear of falling. her anxiety increased during covid lockdown

[@farrahowen399]

My 4 year old is autistic, blind, and has hydrocephalus, I already see SO many similarities between your daughter and him 😭 I also see similarities between you and I when having a hard time ourselves but have to keep going. Thank you for recording this ❤️😭

[@sportyfemme64]

This has to be the toughest.. None of us are happy when the net or WiFi is down, and she DEPENDS on it for her security. This is a heart grabbing situation for you both. Much love and understanding always.

[@Stacy_mt]

Such a frustrating day for everyone. Val, your an amazing mom ! I’m so happy the anxiety med helped Jess get through a very distressing morning ❤

[@MrJeffreysChannel]

All the best to you and your family...Your a Beautiful Mother...

[@tammyhillier3370]

That little lip quiver 😪😪 so glad the meds seemed to help good mama.

[@skyeaengel2409]

I know sometimes it gets hard to keep your cool, but just know you're an awesome mother. I see more love between you and your family, than I do anger or frustration. Keep up the good work with Jess, but don't lose yourself in the process. You must find time for you. You got family and friends to handle Jess perfectly. So, take time to find yourself and do what you love, truly, every now and then!

[@kellylynn730]

Going back and watching old videos. You are so patient, Val. Having to keep explaining over and over I’m sure is tiring. But you do a wonderful job! I also do kind of like Jess’ excuse not to watch a movie because it’s after 10:30. I may start using that excuse. “No I can’t wash the dishes because it’s already after 10:30.” Haha. But no, you guys are great!! I’m glad everything got fixed and everything was worked out. ❤️

[@ashleybarnard2538]

Omg this is the first time I've seen Jessica cry. It breaks my heart to see her upset.

[@TheGatewayProductions]

Huge thanks for this upload! Anxiety is horrible but we can beat it!

[@laurenataylors]

Val, you are such a GREAT mom. I hate seeing Jess cry but it’s so great to see how these situations are handled!! (future BCBA in the works🤞🏼) and still learning everyday. Thank you for sharing. Tell Jess she’s awesome ☺️✨

[@AutisticInterpretations]

❤️

[@Brave_Rachel]

Just tells us how much we have and will on technology! And it will only get worse!

[@Brave_Rachel]

Rely

[@emilypeterson5116]

This makes my heart ache so much. I wish I could make her feel better 🥺

[@lorettabroyles5127]

God has a.great place in heaven for her. She will have her own house and car she will drive.

[@danielonn2002]

I remember when our Internet was out for a week in 2000 when Comcast was working on the internet. Man it sucked!

[@MLALA-nu5pq]

I can just see the pain in her eyes just trying to make it make sense! So frustrating for her. You are so patient and loving but I can imagine it’s tough with repeated questions. Just the meltdown has to happen. She just has to get it out. Plus hormones. Poor thing. Watching you take care of her is so loving.

[@danielonn2002]

Your doing such a great job Mom!

[@mumr4268]

If we all could learn that everything is not going to work much of the time...earth is fragile and broken...be thankful when it works!

[@debbiehill4248]

Oh my giddy aunt Val, I want some of what ever you take for that patience. I shlapped myself 🤣🤣 Also I have a toe nail that needs trimming , cheers😂

[@lovemyscooter]

You're both amazing. Hugs to both.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

❤️

[@SicoffLibralski]

My uncle is FASD. When he gets really frustrated we simply remove him from the situation. Put the phone away, go for a walk in fresh air. Change the mental channel. Might work for you too?

[@allysonbruce554]

They've said that Jess' phone is like her lifeline and they would never take it away from her as a punishment because of the extreme anxiety it would create. ♥️

[@samantharogers6473]

Beautiful Jess ❤

[@gigistrailsandtales7203]

These times are sooooooo challenging. ❤️

[@savannahadderhold1921]

I randomly saw some of your videos on Facebook one day and thought Jess was so cute and hilarious and I wanted to know more about her diagnosis so I found y'alls KZbin channel. Seeing her upset was so heart breaking. I'm glad for the most part she has good days and I'm so glad her momma is a good one! You are such a good patient momma and it inspires me to be a more patient mom. Thank you for your content. I don't know why, but your videos are super relaxing. 🥰💜

[@savannahadderhold1921]

I was also really happy to see that she doesn't have meltdowns like some people I have known/ seen videos of, like the really scary meltdowns where you don't know if they are going to hurt themselves or their parent's. Those are terrifying.

[@allysonbruce554]

@@savannahadderhold1921 imagine what that poor person having the outbirst must be feeling though 🥺

[@modernmusic52]

i get really upset when my tablet isnt working because its my comfort item

[@janmyersknight6110]

I, too, take anxiety meds. I, too, need that afternoon nap if I take them LOL ❤️🙏

[@donnaabercrombie3269]

Val you have the patience to deal with everything jess throws your way. I can only wish I had that kind of patience. I think that you deserve a large glass of wine.

[@JaneTompkins-it5cs]

I know how Jess feels about the internet being out because I also rely on it and I get upset too

[@britneybevelry914]

Amazing video ! I like how you show the good and the bad so we can know what it’s like. Life isn’t always perfect and I love when people on KZbin include the hard days. I’m 30 and have many issues like Jess. I’ve got major anxiety, and many other problems. I love the change of pace to your video here. Has Jess tried playing with kinetic sand to lower her anxiety? I’ve been doing that lately and it helps bring my heart rate down.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

We've got a little kinetic sand and she has had no interest in it so far.

[@LisaPrincess93]

I can feel you jess when my Internet dont work i Go Crazy too

[@suzykauffman1831]

I love this girl! I would love to be a caregiver for her and her family!

[@sonyacastrodiaz4938]

Thank you so much for sharing! My little boy is so much like her

[@maranathacomelord7115]

This is why I hate electronics. I know people...most people would have a melt down if their wifi or phones quit working. It's why I try to limit my time on them. I rarely use a phone any more and I refuse to even get started on Siri. LOL I know my limits. Breaks my heart seeing kids melt down when devices don't work.

[@teresahall159]

You are truly amazing! Thanks for sharing.

[@lanawellborn9374]

Every time Jess asked Siri what time it is, my Siri would give me the time on my iPad 🤪

[@AutisticInterpretations]

😄

[@carolinmichigan]

My siri kept opening for you Jess, big hug.

[@karendaley292]

Awww Zoe knows that Jess is sad too

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Yes!

[@Se7en18ness]

Awwwe boo boo bear!!! I’m so heartbroken!!!💔…. I love you pretty girl💕💕

[@donaldpierce5447]

your patience amazes me! You are doing a great job!

[@kellymurphy7914]

Awwwww baby girl her patience with Siri and the internet is gone. I hope it didn’t take too long for them to fix it

[@deeanngorman7740]

I love your show

[@peggymowery7633]

Oh wow I went through this anxiety also ... And then went from Jess emotions to angry ... Mine was down for approx. 3+4 day's...

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Wow! I’m so thankful ours wasn’t that long.

[@chrisswindells7340]

Meant to add, Thank you for sharing a glimpse into your world.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

Thank you for being such a good one!!

[@kayleighm7856]

I love you both 💞 I’m so happy to discover you have you tube I only thought your have instagram🥳 Does Jessica have friends with the same things she deals with ? Just curious. I think your and amazing mother and she’s an amazing woman , she’s actually my age 😊 I have 5 children 2 have ADHD I see some of the same tendencies with routine changes and Emotions. Take care

[@dst1667]

Thank you for sharing 💙

[@susanholmes2630]

I feel for Jess, I hate seeing her cry but I totally get it! When my wifi is down I get frustrated too and want to cry!

[@mamapenny7744]

Wow Val u just have the right touch with Jess! Well this video took me from crying to smiling! I'm so happy happy happy! Oh yeah Val I guess ur a dog trainer too...Zoe has come so far. Lolol I just love the connection between them.

[@AutisticInterpretations]

She’s a natural!

[@melindabarefoot4612]

I wanted to give you both hugs, because it's tough for both of you. It wasn't a situation that could be fixed right away, and I'm sure that's frustrating. I pray that all the good times outweigh the tough ones. Love and Hugs to you both!!

[@katebristow14]

You are such an awesome patient mom. 💜 My son was like us a couple weeks ago when our power went out. He's only 7 so he's not on any meds yet but I can see how much it helped her and I'm wondering if for moments like this if my son would benefit too. Like I said he's only 7. You are so strong... You remind me of me, I'm always so patient with my son.