A Non-Binary Transition | Sage Skyler | TEDxConnecticutCollege

[@sarocturtlegaming7306]

OMGGG I WENT TO HIGH SCHOOL WITH THEMMMM AAHAHAAHH. SO PROUD OF YOU SAGE!!!

[@sunshinescribbles9895]

That’s so cool!

[@DesiDeslei]

Wow cool :o

[@tashaax1993xanimalloverx]

Boy/girl genuinely can't tell ?

[@aurumisgreat]

@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx They're non-binary, so, neither.

[@465marko]

Is it true about the jeans and sweatpants?

[@krillkoi7317]

Sage did such an incredible job! They really put an amazing voice on this topic, we need more people like them in the world

[@caffeination17]

YESSS!!!!

[@caffeination17]

@sonoki82 *They

[@caffeination17]

@sonoki82 No, THEY are non-binary and have short hair. i could do this all day.

[@AnaxofRhodes]

@@caffeination17 Whatever we say doesn't change who Sage really is.

[@jackriver8385]

@sonoki82 trans just means to not identify as your assigned gender so yes, enbys are part of that. And it's "they"

[@robynnhoud]

Me: **sees their name** Me: Yep. It’s another enby.

[@tieflingcorpse9817]

Axolotls Animated LISTEN

[@LilliHerveau]

@Sage Williams To be honest I don't really understand. I thought being NB meant not recognizing yourself as fitting fully in binary standard. Being partial NB and partial female(??), wouldn't that be simply NB? (Did you mean woman?) Maybe you can address my concern, I really just wish to understand what I do not so far.

[@LilliHerveau]

@@erin3912 thanks for the clarification! =)

[@wonclimb]

@@erin3912 gender doesnt equal to pronouns. im nonbinary and i use he/they pronouns!

[@namelastname9580]

@@LilliHerveau you got incorrect info m8, non-binary is what you said, but its also a spectrum and you do not have to be in the exact middle yk, you can be closer to one end than the other(girl or boy) or just none at all(no gender) but this has nothing to do with one’s pronouns, i am aware of how late i am but i hope this helps in one way or another

[@ShinyEvergreens]

Wow a video about non binary people and the comment section is positive? I love!

[@ish4638]

@@leeknowles6297 Aww :(

[@happypiano4810]

I was surprised. I like it.

[@keyboarddancers7751]

Look again.

[@itsrainingagan3772]

For a person who just came out a few weeks ago, I needed this

[@_inkysnow_4715]

Rain Weinstein I’ve only came out to two friends and an amino groupchat full of trans people so far but I can definitely relate

[@bec3581]

Congratulations on coming out!!🏳️‍🌈

[@enbymegan8976]

I came out as non binary tonight to some friends but im scared to talk to my mom and sister. My sister is part of lgbtq+ but im scared to be laughed at or told im invalid, i just dont know a sentence to start with 😔 im struggling on what to say to come out

[@_inkysnow_4715]

Megan Ses okay. If your sister is part of the community and you’re really that scared of them taking it badly, tell her first. As a part of the community, she is more likely to understand that it’s not something you control, it’s just part of you. If she takes it well, you’ll have someone to back you up while telling your mom. Good luck, I hope it goes well!

[@_inkysnow_4715]

Megan Ses just be blunt and explain after. When I came out to my friends, I just wrote in a note “In not a girl, in non binary” and explained all of the other stuff like what exactly that means afterward

[@nos5915]

Y-you respected their pronouns! *happy enby squealing*

[@ish4638]

Lmao

[@donnahine6418]

Excellent.

[@sunshinescribbles9895]

This is me when a forgetful friend, who often misgenders me by accident, (don’t worry my friends not mean) uses my correct pronouns 😂 I’m interested to see how I’ll react to when people use neopronouns (since I go by neopronouns as well)

[@LikeMike420]

As a non binary person, thank you so much for this TED talk. You described it perfectly and I'm happy I'm not alone! Thank you for making my day :)

[@justamikee]

Omg yes ♥️

[@SB-iy9vn]

You live a lie

[@oatmealbeaver]

This individual makes me feel valid :)

[@ish4638]

You should always feel valid ❤️ Love ya

[@lonewolf4429]

The feeling of validity is something no one can ever give to someone nor take away. A person's self worth is not determined by others who may have a differing opinion, but only by the person himself.

[@keyboarddancers7751]

"Valid" is not the word I'd use!

[@sylodui]

A random person shouldn’t make you feel valid

[@Bris-57]

@@sylodui Yes of course they should! Do you know how great it is when a stranger gets your pronouns right without you having to tell them what your pronouns are? Well if you're a cisgender individual then probably you do. But as a non-cis person, those kind of things happen only a very few times. So yes, a random stranger can make you feel valid. However, if I misunderstood and you mean that a feeling of validation should always come from yourself and you shouldn't let anyone impact that negatively, then I'm sorry. I fully agree with you in that case =)

[@AshtontheCryptid]

As an NB person, I feel the most comfortable and confident when I'm more androgynous looking. My voice is even androgynous naturally. I was born a female, so there are days where I am a little self conscious of certain features of mine, but for the most part I am comfortable in my own body. I like clothing from every section of the store. I knew at a very very young age that I wasn't fully a female. I'd "jokingly" tell people that I'm a chick, but I'm also a dude. Sadly, I wasn't aware of the term gender fluid until I was older. When I learned about it, something just struck a chord. I burst into tears. Finally for the first time in my life, something describes how I've always been feeling. I'm 32 and just now coming out as NB. Seeing videos like this help me feel valid and make me feel less alone. So far I've been met with open arms when I've told people, both in my personal life and online. I'm so thankful that we're moving towards a more progressive world where people can truly be themselves and live their lives with pride and not fear. And if someone is reading this who is NB and hasn't come out yet, it's ok. Tell someone your truth, even if it's just one trusted friend for now. I promise you...there are more of us than you realize and there are more allies than you would think too. You are loved, you are valid, you are worthy of happiness, safety, and respect.

[@Cold_S0up]

Your story is beautiful thank you for sharing !

[@mrwhopee]

Another me me me me story lol. Thanks for the narcissism filled essay about how you're totally not an otherwise boring privileged white girl.

[@Cold_S0up]

@@mrwhopee it’s interesting the number of things people have asked for, not one being your opinion

[@mrwhopee]

@@Cold_S0up nobody asked for this essay of narcissism either

[@emcondon5462]

I absolutely love this and as a enby myself appreciate the positive recognition of non-binary people. We definitely need more education out there about this topic. It also made me so happy when Sage mentioned that some people go through multiple names trying to find the one that fit. I feel like sometimes in our community it's not as normalized to change what name you go by more than once, and it's extremely validating to hear another person say it's okay to do that.

[@ProPandaPlays]

What kinda crack are you on lol

[@ghostthief8130]

Thank you from a nonbinary person

[@micahjoyce4662]

I Love your name!

[@bazzooo8]

im afab and im trying to express myself feminine sometimes but i dont wanna get misgendered. i just want to be feminine, androgynous, and masculine all at the same time without people being mean

[@mep6302]

Dress and act however you want to. If they misgender you, just tell them "my pronouns are they/them" and that's it.

[@west66bestx83]

If you present as a jackass you will treated like a jackass

[@chickennoodlesoup4918]

Literally my exact experience

[@idkanymore790]

@@chickennoodlesoup4918 me too lol

[@AndesMints94]

Thanks for adding your voice, I'm an AFAB who's questioning and I can relate. I feel like in 20 years from now though, that won't be an issue, and we'll just be able to pee and poo wherever we damn well please.

[@FadedforFreedom]

i love the icon!! :D

[@AndesMints94]

@@FadedforFreedom thanks!!

[@Kornknealious]

You shouldn't be allowed to poop wherever you want.

[@xbduf4gb]

Andie Perry You can use the female bathroom. You have female genitals. The female people in there probably don’t care for stereotyping either.

[@kaiyodei]

it's not like there are many ways to be a woman right? or why not go and make up your own gender, like those who coined hydrogender did

[@log3.141]

Did anybody else cry?! Cause- Cause I cried.. *I've never felt so understood*

[@enbymegan8976]

You are valid and loved!!! I support you so much!! I just came out to some of my friends as non binary ( im struggling to find a name that is a good neutral binary) now i have to tell my mom and sister soon but i dont know a sentence to start with

[@chanpreetkaur28]

Omg yesss i m cryingggg

[@Sana-dz8fh]

@@chanpreetkaur28 ❤️

[@coolattas6309]

Hi I’m kind of closeted right now and I’m really happy that this video came up in my recommended because I don’t know too much about dysphoria or stuff like that so this is really helpful. Thank you

[@RedBlueberryAnimates]

Same my dude, I’m waiting to 2024 on July 14 (national non-binary day) and then texting my pronouns and name to my parents and then hiding in my closet till they respond:)

[@coolattas6309]

@@RedBlueberryAnimates I hope it goes well for you

[@justcuzimstupidonce4978]

@@RedBlueberryAnimates i hope it goes well!!

[@industrialalliance9905]

Ok but I love their name. I mean Sage Skyler is the definitely one of my faves. Love the enby recognition.

[@sunshinescribbles9895]

My enby friend is literally called skylar 😂

[@fru1tpunk965]

i love all the wholesome comments, but then i scrolled too far and found the close-minded transphobe comments aka the small pp comments :/

[@AshtontheCryptid]

I literally told a transphobic cis male today sorry about the tic tac he MUST have in his pants. xD

[@fru1tpunk965]

@@AshtontheCryptid XD omg as you should

[@sage_x2002]

@@AshtontheCryptid you mean rice corn :)

[@ollibur6887]

i made the same mistake :/

[@Hot4Thot]

It can't be transphobic because these people aren't trans

[@cafeaulait69]

What on earth do clothes have to do with being male or female.

[@Nthegoodbot]

Idk i think it was just social structure making them gendered

[@AA_luvsrick]

I'm happy to learn that gender dysphoria and body dysphoria sometimes don't come in a bundle, I've always felt like I wasn't actually a demi girl because I didn't hate my body for being... girly I guess. But now I know I only have gender dysphoria rather than both :3

[@LightTower963]

*STANDING OVATION*

[@sillylittlerainbowchild9504]

11:16 is a 100% accurate description of my experience lol

[@fru1tpunk965]

i love your pfp :))

[@sillylittlerainbowchild9504]

My Lungs Will Phil And Dan Deflate love your username lol

[@tk-ol6iv]

your pfp slaps bro!

[@7bam]

Same here!

[@hippiehiker779]

thank you for this!

[@Bongolesizwe]

Hi all, So this was my first time learning about non-binary, what are enbys? I remember someone in a meeting about 4 years saying this and not knowing what they meant, I just caught that she preferred to be referred to in the plural. Interestingly my mother tongue doesn’t have gender pronouns, it merely has 2 pronouns; for humans and everything else non-human. So learning English getting gender pronouns right was a challenge, still is for many of us. With that said, I think patience and understanding from all sides (binary and non-binary) is needed as we come to a place of commonality and understanding. I don’t condone discrimination in any way, shape or form. I simply think mistakes we will be made all around, and rather than retract to our corners in anger and frustration, let’s be consistently cognizant of the dual journey we’re all taking to a better common ground. Thanks for this video

[@williamcarter8263]

English is weird. They / them can be used to refer to a group or an individual without specifying gender. It’s not necessarily plural all the time, but rather a pronoun that doesn’t restrict people to a binary gender system.. It’s not she / her but rather they / them.

[@squaredonut3250]

Um idk if this has been answered, but enbys is like from NB (non binary) instead of boy or girl. (Srry if this is confusing) basically just a shorter term of non binary people.

[@enotj]

theyre so well spoken omfg

[@ConfusedCorvid]

That was just perfect. Thank you so so much.

[@ryleypolitzer8250]

The last time someone tried to tell me that enby people don't exist I asked them "how have there been laws against us for centuries if we aren't here"

[@poluki]

Yes I'm so so proud of this enbe recognition. We seriously need more or it

[@helixtheraptor9374]

I know this video is old but I’m trying really hard to battle gender dysphoria. I know I’m an enby because I don’t want to be because I don’t want to come out... I’m crying after seeing this so, any tips?

[@justamikee]

Hm, well I just straight up told my mum about it, we had a deap and meaningful conversation, then the next day she totally ignored my wishes.

[@justamikee]

Just, do whatever makes you comfy. And safe. Don't come out of anyone you know is a transphobe, or is close minded

[@LunaKeller]

Thank you for this, it all comes down to "be yourself " and everyone should have the right to be who they are. This is a truly great speech.

[@ProPandaPlays]

🤡🤡🤡😂😂😭😭

[@hayleykustelski6808]

YOU DID AMAZING SAGE!

[@태이씨]

In some languages every verb has a gender when talking about somebody. So you can't just be gender neutral, it's either female or male. I damn hate this so much and that's why i avoid speaking my native language.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

You are male or female whether you like it or not. It's like being mad that grass is green.

[@KawaiiCat2]

As a genderfluid person, this describes me so well. Thank you so much for your wonderful Ted Talk! 💜

[@alyssasylvester343]

Thank you so much that Ted talk gave me clarity and gave me comfort. It made me happy inside. Each word gave me knowledge also wanting to know more. It made me realize that I am valid no matter how I express it. Again thank you 😊

[@DigitalGrowthAcademy]

Wow. Gave me lots of validations that my thoughts are not weird and that I have to accept societies judgement, expectation and standards. Love when you said that everything is a Transition (I prefer the word Process) but never thought that Gender had a Process and that at the end of the day, do what’s comfortable. - Riley ;)

[@starbeamproductions5249]

Sage is a beautifully well spoken person and i needed this! thank you 💜

[@Qsdfghmlk]

I think I will show this to my parents, maybe they will get me a bit more afterwards! If no, never mind ! You made my day, thank you so much for your wise words 🤍 I pray for the world to be more loving and accepting towards all human beings..

[@samipeixoto4779]

Thank you for this very informative talk. You rock!

[@idadamgaard4351]

This was amazing, thank you so much!

[@Rosa29]

This was amazing. I just love highly-educated, eloquent people who know how to use their arguments in a valid, objective manner. I think they were on point with everything said. 👌🔝👏👏👏👏

[@onikkaouiija1524]

Heyy fellow Nb's!

[@joeldewitt]

What’s wrong with being a feminine man or masculine woman

[@benjaminfranklin8412]

Exactly. The nonbinary concept is misogyny by another name.

[@Nthegoodbot]

nothing but some people prefer being non binary

[@coralovesnature]

This is awesome! Sage rocks!! ~Your local non-binary person

[@ProPandaPlays]

Are you autistic lol this kids on drugs lolol can’t be serious

[@toby________toby]

This is amazing 😍

[@wadsy72701]

Try as I might, I just don't understand it. However, I support everyone's right to be themselves.

[@Hondeer]

This is the most Patriotic statement in this comment section.

[@Glasschime1]

i was expecting the comments section to be full of supporting enbies, but it mostly consists of people refusing to believe we exist. i just wanted to say to all of my enby friends that you are valid and to not listen to what the hateful people in the comments say, you know yourself your body and your feelings more than anyone else in the world.

[@ProPandaPlays]

How old are you?

[@Glasschime1]

@@ProPandaPlays how old are you lol? Replying to a 3 year old comment. Go do something important

[@ProPandaPlays]

Why are you STILL CRUING LOLOL CRYINGGGG OMGGGG LOL@@Glasschime1

[@ProPandaPlays]

JESUS CHRIST LOL CRYBABY @@Glasschime1

[@ProPandaPlays]

IM 31 @@Glasschime1

[@MariaJoseRozas]

Thank you so much for this presentation, this is a fantastic description of the many aspects of being non-binary, and that there's not one single way to be NB. I feel less alone in the world with this Ted Talk (especially as someone whose natal language is heavily binary) and with the supportive people in the comments. ♥️

[@awolters5827]

As a person identifying under the non-binary umbrella this is very informative and comforting. It's also seems like it would be pretty comforting to a non gender conforming person.

[@arthurbusterbffl4928]

They's good.

[@riddle8598]

They‘re*, you got the idea though 🧡

[@rocksnoel2486]

Honestly I love that and think “they’s” is better then theirs because it perfectly embodies the chaos a lot of us enjoy lmao

[@lesley9989]

I just want everyone to be their authentic self and be happy x

[@tedshutt56]

I wonder if it would be possible to get a transcript of this presentation. There's so much good information here.

[@tk-ol6iv]

Ive finally found a name that fits me (jace) and i'm planning on coming out soon! Maybe ill edit this later to say how it went lmao edit: i didn't come out-

[@enbymegan8976]

Im proud of you!!! I know we dont know eachother but i just came out to some friends and i have to talk to my mom and sister ( im terrified to be laughed at or told im invalid) but go at your own pace!! Talk to people you trust the most first then when you are confident you can tell others❤️ i just had a terrible anxiety attack telling just my friends, shaking a lot but you know what? You are you and that’s amazing ❤️

[@squarish1414]

How'd it go?

[@WolfsDE]

There is always time. Don't feel rushed and do it when you feel ready. Know you have a community and a lot of allies who will love you for the wonderful person you are. Come out, but come out when you are ready, when you are safe to do so. *hugs* stay safe out there.

[@phoenixb1022]

Lol, coming out is a hard thing to do for some... especially if judgmental people are involved! Take YOUR time, but do be yourself and live your best life! There is a lot of us, supportive of your choice!

[@moorevagabond]

Thank you for this! I just came out and this really hit home.

[@luciechartreau2064]

Hi, I was wondering what being non-binary sounded like in other cultures like what pronouns you use in your country to refer to a non-binary person. I know that in English it's "they/them" and in French it's "iel" ; so if you know your language's neutrals pronouns or if you know anything nice about neutral pronouns' usage could you reply to this conversation with your language and it's neutral pronouns? Let's see what non-binary culture sounds like across the world! 😍😍

[@luciechartreau2064]

So in french: iel (as a contraction of he & her: il & Elle)

[@luciechartreau2064]

And in English: They/ them

[@salholden]

Native American tribes have two-spirit, Ancient Greece, Thailand, Polynesia, and sixteenth century England all have other versions of a third gender!

[@bemybemington2067]

In Sweden you use Hen/Hens instead of Hon or Han

[@jenniferhergert4447]

Sier instead of sie/er in German

[@vivigoesusa]

Am I the only binary Person in this comment section (cis woman)😂 don’t get me wrong I am happy for u guys, I am just confused and a little sad that apparently more people who are already educated in the topic are watching this, than those who should be educated

[@rocksnoel2486]

No probably not lol, it’s just that most non-binary people like or are used to announcing the fact that they’re non-binary, such as myself lol -Teabag

[@nicole4659]

Eventually these non-binary people are going to want to be made in labs. Or demand all embryos be made fertilized in a lab before implanted in a person (God forbid I say woman)so that it baby is just the way they want it...

[@Arouraforealiss]

So glad to see this type of video here. Super well informed and well explained.

[@mansfieldtigers1]

Just imagine your life being so miserable you actually care how others live their life’s and post your ideas on people post to try and make them feel just as miserable as you are. It’s really really sad that other people can’t stand seeing others happy. Don’t give them the time of day people

[@mansfieldtigers1]

@sjdiej dekso what do I do?

[@carlosamigosAUS]

The humanity

[@haliensexist]

These comment sections give me so much hope for the future! Love to all my LGBTQ+ family out there!🌈❤

[@Ozubura]

When your skin is too fragile to keep the hair away and you just get so tired of masking alongside the dysphoria that you just settle with the lesser of two evils for physical comfort over emotional serenity. It’s like your chrysalis half transforming you into some incomplete homunculus and you fashion those half formed wings into something comfortable you can prop yourself up with at whatever stage of metamorphosis you are acclimating to like a pair of water wings.

[@Randompersononline]

To all the eggs and enbys in the comments, I hope that you have a nice day.

[@bumpytoad4464]

I'm AFAB nonbinary and primarily attracted to cis males. I often worry that this will make it harder for me to be taken seriously as nonbinary. It also hurts me that gender norms and roles and appearance standards mean so much to so many in this world. I have a very Flamboyant creative appearance that doesn't conform to gender norms or appearance norms in general. I just want to be myself, and anything that gets pointed out by others as being "gendered" about me makes me feel socially dysphoric. I have a hormonal imbalance (that I'm treating with birth control pills) that has given me chin hair and I love my chin hair. It makes me feel attractive, confident, comfortable, and has relieved most physical dysphoria for me. I like to downplay any curvyness with baggy clothing, but overall, for me, the physical dysphoria isn't nearly as bad as the social dysphoria.

[@finnbenham]

I’m glad I randomly found this because I am feeling exactly the same way as you! I am not exclusively attracted to males, but most of the time, I am. I am feminine some days, masculine others. I am misgendered daily. It baffles me because in my eyes/mind, I am completely androgynous. My advice: do your best to never compromise the way you want to look. Society has yet to evolve enough to be super easy for trans and enby people. This is sad, but that’s why it’s important to hold fast to your morals and the way you want to present, and find people online and irl who can support you. It isn’t easy but it can be done. Your own confidence is key. Hope you are doing well ❤️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[@gwnhvy]

What a beautifully concise, insightful, and well-delivered presentation connecting non-binary stories to the ways we all change throughout life -- I'm sure you've positively affected so many lives with this! :) Thank you Sage!

[@Isabella-v4d2h]

How short did you cut your hair? I want to get mine done like that but I dont know how short it needs to be

[@sagehoff969]

Hhh THANK YoU

[@tickedoffnow]

Exactly We're always evolving and transitioning 🙏 We really are amazing beings and we're actually eternal Our bodies are just vehicles God is amazing and he makes no mistakes

[@alexolotl124]

Here in Germany I basically am constantly referred to as a Woman because german is an inherently gendered language. I’m non-binary but no one except my sister and some of my friends respect that. They simply don’t want to try to refer to me correctly because THEY’RE uncomfortable.

[@connernickerson5509]

It sounds like you are trying to force everyone else to conform to your delusions.

[@redberryterf]

You simply cannot force people into not believing their eyes. They call you a woman because you look like a woman. biological facts are very easy detect. how do you think you are breaking gender roles by opting out of womanhood?

[@skabo__o]

man darf nicht auf dich böse sein,aber dir muss geholfen werden

[@jennyarigatou1007]

@@connernickerson5509 I wonder what motivated you to comment

[@Traditz]

quick question, can a born blinded person be non-binary? Would they feel compelled to dress, or modify their bodies in a certain way? The argument on how someone diabetic would want to take pills, or one taking vitamins, or when cutting your hair in the summer so you don't feel hot. I think what they all have in common is to be intrinsically comfortable. TO BE COMFORTABLE, a compelling argument. However, how does one's fashion, sense of style will instrically make you feel comfortable? Again would a born blind 'non-binary' be compelled to shift in style a certain way?

[@Traditz]

Also, what does fashion and sense of style has to do with gender? Like the speaker was talking about, what does fashion like shorts or skirts has to do with gender. Also if it is about 'comfort', why do a lot of non-binary people have to go out of their way to have some of the most 'craziest' fashion styles. Is it to stand out to get attention, or to be 'comfortable in their own skin'? I think it's the former.

[@gene1331]

Traditz, It’s not just about changing your appearance, a blind nonbinary person might choose to use different pronouns, a different name, etc. to feel more comfortable with their gender expression.

[@ritmo6044]

Traditz i think sometimes it’s not about being comfortable for yourself but for other people because you don’t want to be misgendered, so if the world sees you as your gender, then you will be happy. And maybe that’s why some non-binary ppl dress extravagantly, because they don’t want to appear as a traditional man or woman. And even though a blind person can’t look in the mirror, they could feel their body with their hands and think something is or isn’t supposed to be there, and they could definitely feel social dysphoria from being misgendered

[@bonthebunnycat667]

Answering to OP: Yes! A NB people would change certain aspects of their socialization, because they would like to be perceived in a different way. It would rely on the feedback of sighted people, though.

[@jackriver8385]

Well fashion doesn't say a whole lot about gender. There's cross dressers who still identify as the gender they were born as, and there's also trans people, who don't. However you express your gender is entirely up to you. I guess a blind person wouldn't be as likely to change their style, but they may change what pronouns they prefer, or they may change their name. I don't think all that many non binary people have crazy styles. Some do, of course, but that's also the people you know are non binary. I've been strongly questioning my own gender lately, and I'm pretty sure I'm agender, which is part of being nonbinary. But if you saw me somewhere out in public, you probably wouldn't realise that as I pretty much look like a woman. It's more internal than anything.

[@eveyemery466]

HELLO FELLOW PEOPLES OF THE ENBY COMMUNITYYYYYY

[@nonstopcooltop]

Two migrants who came to America from Mexico after cartels killed their entire families and took over their town following Operation Fast and Furious are picking grapes for 80 hours a week in a 100 degree field in the hot sun. One says, in Spanish, “esse, I think I experience dysphoria identifying with either gender” the other migrant sits down and decides to spend 5 years learning perfect English - which doesn’t reinforce the gender binary as easily as Spanish - and then proceeds to stay up all night, spends 2 weeks wages on literature, and decides to just not sleep except 2 hours a night so he can read 8,000 pages of Judith Butler to understand their cisgendered privilege. They are both really happy now picking grapes in the hot sun for 80 hours a week, especially the cis ally because of his newfound knowledge of his cisgendered privilege. He even jumps in glee as he denies the existence of God, and any salvation in the afterlife for his family, as his Christian beliefs, an archaic byproduct of imperialism, reinforced dominant narratives. :-D Yay!

[@Ajkeller828]

I was wondering if this was suppose to be a scientific agreement. I am asking because I am curious. I have not heard a talk like this before. It sounds like a person desires to changes their gender is because they see it will make them happy. Live your best life is the motivation.

[@cosygoose1813]

They put to much emphasis on gender that they don't even know what it means.

[@jackriver8385]

Revisiting this after finally finding out that I'm non binary 💛🤍💜🖤

[@joeysduckieseighteen]

the enbys outweigh the transphobes in the comments!:D

[@sunshinescribbles9895]

Ah yes, the highest prestige. I now reward every positive commenter a cookie 🍪

[@lelahandco]

thanks

[@birnamar2285]

Thank you so much for this! It clarified some questions for me. You are articulate and explained it very well. I´ll be looking forward to your YA writing!

[@athiyamahapatra8118]

Eyyyy where's my Enby squad at?

[@sagemccarthy4115]

Right here! 💛🤍💜🖤

[@athiyamahapatra8118]

@@sagemccarthy4115 HeYYYY HOMIEEE DJEKKEKRR

[@celso2843]

supp

[@athiyamahapatra8118]

@@celso2843 Not much... School's good, life's good... Misgendered as usual but col lmao- Why?

[@celso2843]

@@athiyamahapatra8118 i just meant sup as like hey im here too loll

[@sinsualist]

Good job. I can tell you rehearsed numerous times. It paid off, congratulations Sage.

[@jaethegay6449]

this helped

[@VanettaMosetta]

What do you do if you're being chased by a lion?

[@Nthegoodbot]

probably run

[@Cold_S0up]

Well this video was helpful for me realizing that I’m attracted to non-binary people :))

[@CarolineMosesComedy]

😳

[@Chelaysiahsaturn]

Hi y'all I am non binary like most ppl in the comments go by THEY/THEM pronouns Rn I still go by my birth name but I really like the following names Cloudy Blue Sweet pea Teabag Mage Gender is confusing 😑

[@EmileKelsall]

if you choose mage that would sound really badass like youre wizard or something

[@thelandofnod2269]

Mage is dope af and I would totally use that name if I was not a self conscious bean

[@rocksnoel2486]

Dude teabag??? Yes,,,,,, is it alright if I steal that?? Ethical theft?? Of name?? Please?

[@sagemccarthy4115]

Mage is badass

[@justamikee]

Ooh

[@RebeccaCyrus]

I'm a bi cis woman and don't fully understand how a person can be non binary and trans but as long as a gender non confirming person is happen within themselves I'm all for it

[@Mel-wn9gb]

Why blindly accept something that doesn't make sense?

[@sirkermitthefirstoffrogeth9622]

@@Mel-wn9gb Exactly. What's wrong with being a feminine man or a masculine woman? I mean it's not ideal but people are different. These people are spreading dangerous message saying be woman if you feel like woman. You can feel like something you are not. You cant be a truck or a tree because "You feel like it" or "you identify as it". This world is getting crazy.

[@DanielHaerting]

they did that ❤️ thank you

[@chickosoup]

thank you! this helped me understand the nonbinary experience :)

[@666Nietzschie]

I think its great for people to express themselves and live in anyway they please, just so long as you are not trying to extort conformity to your worldview through censorship and mob intimidation like they do at Universities.

[@elderoidwicked]

Gender Dysphoria is a mental health problem and can be a symptom of things like trauma. Changing the body won't help many people, you need to get the right type of therapy and sort your brain out.

[@disasterpiece6480]

This person is super cute for some reason

[@EduPotvin]

I had track down this video after watching Misha Petrov's video. I had to see it for myself.

[@ChristopherBruce-y4w]

Thank You 💚

[@vyvii3293]

This was so validating. Thank you!

[@keym3955]

What is a polite way to address someone who's non-binary? like sir, ma'am, (?_?) what would be an equivalent?

[@冯勤-v2h]

Honorifics for nonbinary people include "tiz" (short for citizen), "mir" (a mix of "sir" and "ma'am"), and many others.

[@sunshinescribbles9895]

What I would do is ask how they would like to be referred to, because every enby person has a preference!

[@Hondeer]

Dude works perfect!

[@greyharlan9221]

Sage is such a cool name! And they are very well spoken.

[@siiiriously3226]

I so needed to hear this. Great talk!

[@Ozmo42]

this was so eloquent *+**_ +_+_*=_+ they are my new fave I want to share this talk so much

[@bigboldsoul]

This was eye opening

[@aarrvindmbd1974]

Live normal ,you can't escape categories, more abnormal more visible.

[@tiffanywu7753]

you’re the expert aren’t you

[@No-vu7pc]

I searched for ''Sam Hyde College'' and got this video in my results. Now THAT's a plot twist.

[@tls7642]

Imma change my name to Glitch

[@lanimeyl]

love this !! great job Sage !

[@ajnelson30]

As a nonbinary person who has “finished” my transition outside of the binary it’s so nice to hear someone put into words how it feels. Everyone transitions differently and we are all valid.

[@PrimeMinisterRetsuko]

What will happen in the future doesn’t matter. The most important thing is what makes someone feel good and comfortable and at home in their body at this point in their life Until they realize they are going through some ridiculous phase and want more than anything to change back to what they once were

[@jennyarigatou1007]

You definitely have a PHD in this don’t you

[@sarahquink1356]

@@sunnylikescookies7736 exactly.

[@ilayohana3150]

7:03 source: trust me bro

[@goblinking3435]

Brow?

[@goblinking3435]

Trust the eyebrow

[@ilayohana3150]

@@goblinking3435 so funny

[@goblinking3435]

@@ilayohana3150 Thanks (: