A PERSPECTIVE ON NARCISSISTIC ABUSE SYNDROME by RC BLAKES

[@charlenemoody4496]

" YOU SACRIFICED EVERYTHING FOR A PERSON WHO DIDN'T EVEN DESERVE A CONVERSATION" HIT HARD...AND I FELT THAT IN MY SOUL.

[@kdawnj75]

God delivered me from a narcissist relationship last year. I've never looked back. Amen🙏🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

[@RT-gu3kc]

Me too. I am finally free..

[@kdawnj75]

@@RT-gu3kc praise God!

[@islandgirl01]

YEAH!!

[@PatriciaDeBride]

I just left June 2020!!! I feel GREAT!! Thank you Jesus!!!

[@Querettain]

Never go back no!!!!! 🧱 Good!!!! 🧠

[@kkbabybratz3874]

It’s honestly heart breaking to know how low I’ve gotten, I lost myself completely. I pray anyone shows going through this to truly heal from this. It’s no joke god bless ❤️

[@osoclassy27]

I probably watched almost every one of your videos in the last 3 months. Over 2weeks ago I finally got the courage to walk away from a 6 year relationship. Thank you . Also, I decided to join your church you have greatly helped me with my walk with God. Thank you, thank you, thank you

[@Gemini-sb8mv]

Well done that’s such good news👋🏽👋🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@nikkyshamz2696]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

@Erica Roberts, I'm so proud of you sister. I stand with you cheering you all the way to the next chapter of your life.

[@Sunshineon5724]

I just burst out crying 😭 from this.... It's real...I look at people differently now (very suspicious of everyones intentions and motives) and how they make me feel during conversations (looking for underhanded and subtle jabs)....I am so quick to cut people off but I go about it differently in my business environment because I have bills to pay and I need to survive....I rather put all my energy towards building financial security then attempting to build relationships with people now.........I wish it didn't have to be this way but once I meet my financial goal, I will more than willing and have more time to try to build healthy and lasting relationships with people..

[@doriscrumpton2980]

Your instincts and Godly maturity in spiritual reality makes you an expert. Everything we need to know is given biblically I believe. Most of us has not reach that level to know that. God tells us about these types of dysfuntional people. I love the fact that you relates back to the subjects biblically. Thank you! Rev. RC Blakes

[@lolapatton5444]

I left a narc in Oct of last year; went no contact in March. Haven’t looked back. So enjoying being away from that monster. As I look back on it, this dude was an energy vampire. I dumbed myself down while in that mess. I dulled my shine while in that situationship. Smh..... I still deal with a lot of anger regarding this person. But glory to God, I am free of all that negativity and abuse!

[@PK-tm8qg]

I'm also a empath. I'm finally learning how to manage my personality in a healthy way.

[@almajones9447]

*So Am I* *GOD IS MY REFUGE* *AND STRENGTH* 🙏 ✝ 🙏

[@latonyamorgan7447]

Amen keep up the good work

[@goddessyvonne7753]

Yes they try to destroy you but No weapons formed against thee shall prosper(wolf in sheep clothing.

[@almajones9447]

*AMEN*

[@latonyamorgan7447]

Amen Amen and Amen!!!

[@brokenness86]

So true 👍 wolves in sheep clothing well said

[@liesbethdevries4986]

The feeling of having lost yourself.

[@aquilab077]

You're not a psychiatrist as u let be known, and even though your channel isn't strictly on narcissism in my opinion you speak on it the best. I'm not even religious (though very spiritual) and the way u read the scriptures and relate it to what I'm going through is absolutely eye opening. Thank you for what u do.

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

He is more helpful than psychiatry, which is a man made religion.

[@flamingsword777]

@@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205 you NAILED IT! God BLESS you, He's given you His Eyes to SEE....

[@LauraLMcneil]

Excellent. I Lived it, God helped me get out and He’s with me as I’m going through healing from co-dependency.🙏 Thanks for posting, this stuff is on the increase and people need knowledge and revelation.

[@shehb711]

You, sir, understand narcissism on a deeper level. I was completely shook watching this video as you described, every single thing I felt it is almost scary. When you were talking, I felt it in my spirit. You are 100% on point and it's horrible to recover from, but God.. 🙏🏾.. Ty so much

[@musicmaker1311]

She HB you have no idea how much I agree w/you and have experienced the exact same!!!

[@SoMoLove80]

You always have me in tears.... Like WoW.... I can't believe he just described my life.

[@machomanic1768]

Mine too!

[@LifeAfterNarc]

So wonderful to hear this from a Pastor! I've had to sit in church and listen to messages about communication in marriage and I was married to a narcissist. He didn't want to communicate with me, we did not have a communication problem, it was about power and control over me. After 17 years, he discarded me when he had run up all my credit cards and our house foreclosed that I put the down payment on. His parting words, "Now you can become a bag lady." And yes, I had fantasies of jumping off a bridge...not anymore but for awhile.

[@lindagreene6437]

Prayers...& I too now understand so much more....

[@privacy9175]

Same....❤

[@breonaharrison732]

Dating a narcissist has long lasting consequences beyond the length of the relationship! I’m struggling but each day I take a small bite of the elephant!

[@tania0070]

"a diabolical character". Lord please deliver me from any such person. Amen.

[@marciaheadley9933]

Since God has removed ALL toxic people (narcissists) from my life, I am trusting Him to send the right people (Confidantes) in my life. And God is doing just that. Thanking Him for the transformation He is working in my life. I am in a far better place now! Amen.

[@mrobin913]

I’m trauma bonded to a narcissist and I stayed away for six months and then saw him again I haven’t been ok since that day this person is a walking talking demon keep me in your prayers

[@wlknonsonshine]

You will be ok again. Just breathe. Start your healing process again. Blessings

[@lamidom]

Yes they are demons. First thing, closed legs.

[@ludmilamaksimova5516]

lamidom 👍🏿😆😀😆💕hahaha Oh so true

[@irishgirl7828]

You need to break the soul tie or you’ll never be rid of the narc

[@jonettadunmore4329]

You have my Prayers. I use to be you. Keep listening to these teachings from Bishop RC Blake's. I never met him or knew him before stumbling on his KZbin videos dealing with a narcissist. However, after 16yrs of marriage I was emotionally able to divorce my narcissist spouse. You can & will make it. There is HOPE!! 🙂🙂

[@Goddessnme1111]

My daughter WAS in this situation and I was able to identify his behavior ASAP. He tried to isolate her from her family but God!! She even attempted suicide But God!! I'm truly grateful that she was saved. I'll keep encouraging her to watch your videos.

[@victoriavmh]

My daughter is in this situation right now and she has completely abandoned her entire family for this man. I don't even know her anymore and she and I were extremely close. I am devastated and am relying completely on the Lord . I saw through this man from the beginning.

[@nicolabless9232]

The narcissist deliberately and intentionally manipulated both of your daughters to move because isolation is used to break the individual emotionally. Narcissist are threatened by positive family members. The isolation stage is used to devalue the victim and pointing out flaws among positive family members. Your presence and positive input will disturb the negative plans and control. Ladies please don’t allow contact to be broken. If your daughter isn’t able to understand the man she’s with isn’t good for her, don’t go into panic. Pray for god to bless her with discernment, wisdom and courage. Ladies I understand your frustration but don’t allow the enemy to steel your joy. Your daughters will eventually overcome by God grace.

[@Goddessnme1111]

Nicola you are absolutely correct. I plan to be there with her through this. The enemy has no power !! He tries to tell her that she shouldn't be around me because I dont like him. I told her it's not him it's his spirit and I refuse to allow the enemy to steal kill or destroy. God gave us the victory!!!

[@Goddessnme1111]

@@nicolabless9232 see the comment below. Thank you

[@nicolabless9232]

@ Omekia God will deliver your daughter from the narcissist. There is a evil spirit behind the narcissist called the Jezebel spirit. I call for Holy Ghost fire to circle your daughter. I destroy the plans of the enemy, in Jesus name. Every evil arrow released upon your family, I return to sender in Jesus name. I know what your daughter is going through; but trust God to intervene. Has he banned you from visiting her?

[@begee5847]

All this is correct I left this narcissist who really had my heart, the process is hard all trust of people has gone & trying hard to get social skills back.. Thankyou for all these videos

[@blossomingrose1518]

A million dollars worth of knowledge...thank the Lord I have broken free!!! God bless you Pastor!

[@britneymuniz7627]

Domestic Violence Survivor struggling with PTSD. I needed this message! Thank you 💜🙏🏼 I love ALL of your videos! Very informative and inspirational.

[@marilynlarry6182]

Thank you for this. More ministers need to be educated about narcissistic abuse. Over the years I have been told over and over that I needed to be more submissive or that I was evil and had issues with my parents. Years at the altar trying to "fix" me so my husband minister would be as gracious to me as he was to women in the church! Years of feeling like God didn't love me as much has he loved him. I know the truth now and since separating, my children & I are on a path to be healthy both spiritually and emotionally. And we are learning that God does truly love us.

[@killerstress]

This is a most excellent video. It is accurate and full of truth. In a 26 year relationship with a covert narcissist I almost lost my life from extreme illness. I now remember who I really am and am reversing the process. Thank you for all you do.

[@abundance3696]

I’m a empath so I attracted them but glory to GOD thank GOD they all walked away or I cut them off

[@nia-g8433]

Hallelujah 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@almajones9447]

*LESSON LEARNED* *I KNOW MY WORTH* *I SURVIVED* *IM FREE*

[@islandgirl01]

I'm loving the strength that I now have guarding my mind body and soul. I feel so empowered! A man who smiles or say hello to me does not move like it use to. I can feel their energy right away and I can tell what it's about. I don't feel this obligation to continue a conversation like I use to do.

[@almajones9447]

@@islandgirl01 *AWESOME* *TO GOD BE THE GLORY*

[@abundance3696]

M Mitch amazing

[@glenniyahhickman5793]

Didnt even deserve a conversation!!

[@SoMoLove80]

Exactly!

[@ceejay51]

‼️

[@MsOnTop]

Glenniyah Hickman 🎯

[@h.e.r9368]

🤣🤣ikr girl praise GOD for deliverance .... rather struggle through a painful recovery ,than struggle the rest of my life with a demon .

[@jrs5784]

I think a big part of the trauma bond is that after being treated so cruelly and begging him to stop; eventually, that same person, is the one to help you off the floor. He says he’s sorry so the onslaught has stopped and your emotions become less intense so he gives you some relief. After doing this over and over, you end up bonding with the person who abuses you. He becomes the only one that can ease the emotions of panic, desperation, hopelessness, agony and all the other negative emotions that come with his attacks. I wish I knew this decades ago.

[@lamidom]

The problem is that the spural of abuse increases and the soothing effect decreases until one is completely destroyed like after abusing drugs.

[@makeitcount2985]

The first time someone abuses you... Leave....

[@makeitcount2985]

@@jrs5784 why are you still with an abuser, pack up leave, go no contact...

[@vegigirl7440]

I know how hard it is to even be in their presence, it makes me nervous and fearful, is like a knee-jerk reaction. I was married to a narcissist for over 30 yrs, not recognizing that that is what it was. I still have anger issues (I'm working on)...been divorced now over 3 months (separated 1 1/2 yrs prior). Funny thing is, when my divorce was final, seeing the actual dates of the beginning and end of your marriage, was like looking at an epitaph. No remorse for the marriage or him, just sadness/regret for time lost

[@jrs5784]

Youthful Tuber - I wish I had but thought marriage was forever and thought I couldn’t get a divorce. He also threatened to take our baby boy from me. So fear played a part. The abuse is insidious, that you don’t realize what’s happening. Plus I believed all the lies. It’s so hard to believe that a person can be so evil and that person is the one you chose to marry. The trauma bonding and mind crap they do is awful. I’m having to get trauma counseling. I did file for divorce and pray I get through it and he doesn’t kill me like he’s threatened. God Bless

[@anellewilliams6713]

The trauma bond results from alternating reward and punishment. Positive regard alternating negative. Basically, it's the method that pimps and people who want to control other people use. Used in training animals as in Pavlov's classic experiment with dogs...positive and negative reinforcement.

[@RachelleJervis]

I had to add this to my “Must Listen” and download list. Thank you for this. It is incredibly accurate to attempting to live through abuse from a narcissist partner. 😢

[@tonia_ryou4]

You confirmed exactly what I have been feeling and now it's time for me to move on. This man has made me almost not like myself and yes sometimes I just don't wanna be here. Abused as a child has not helped me in relationships. The one I am in right now is NOT love its pure pain. Thank God that I know GOD!!

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

A narcissist is like the cat with a mouse. When it gets tired of playing with it, it will kill it.

[@leishg115]

Have you spoken about narc mothers? That's a topic I need thanks. Watching in Trinidad 🇹🇹

[@bewaniya]

Whew yasss

[@msniki7103]

I left the toxic relationship a month ago. Thank you, Bishop 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I'm trusting God now and taking all the needed time to heal and work in my self development. Thank you so much, Bishop Blakes!

[@Stephanie-xx7jc]

You speak nothing but the absolute truth! The narcissist will use you up and suck the life out of you. I left over a month ago and never looked back. They are demonic spirits and there is no good that can come from them. Know your worth and know you deserve nothing but peace and happiness.

[@aprilyisrael1654]

Love this channel. You opened my eyes Pastor Bless you.

[@IsraelitewomanofJudah]

A trauma bond 🤔 It's been over two years and I've been wondering why I still have a connection with him. I plead and ask Yah all the time to remove the thoughts, feelings, the love, and connection that are left. I want it all and him out and off of me! People said it's just me trippin but I knew it was something more. He told me he would never let me go...I was thinking physically...he meant spiritually. He was telling the truth. Demons are real...I can describe what his looks like down to the T. I want to be totally free from him, his energy, and whatever else that may be upon me from him. It's strong but not as strong as it use to be. He had a black aura when I finally could see. Those types of entities love energies like myself. You're correct when you said they hunt...he would tell me what he was doing but kind of in coding...I was so naive. I've done so much healing, growing, and evolving...a survivor. I thank Yah I never got so broken to where I wanted to die 🙏🏼 I also thank Yah for me not taking his life...I understand why one reason I'm a single parent. I got back to seeing my visions, purpose, and knowing who I am...my worth. Im so very thankful for the experiences that taught me about the type of energies that are out here...it's especially important to learn while getting in and learning the business world as well. There are so many spirits like such all over it's unbelievable! Thank you for helping me get through the shock and grievance I went through while experiencing this lesson. Im one who need understanding, you are one of few who helped me receive the answers. I now take heed to the dreams, signs, and my Spirit speaking to me. No more naive & silly gal. Many blessings King.

[@mallorywhite2893]

I too can relate 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖

[@CestRachell]

The same for me to ! May God heels our hearts

[@paulinecottrell6982]

Thanks you Pastor!

[@hadassaheritage]

Wow. I havent seen the video yet, but I saw your comment, and it was like a revelation. I've already been with a narcissist, trying to decipher if this recent ex was one as well, but this one was definitely darker spiritually in the sense that he too said things in code, and was revealing his true intentions and I didnt know. It wasnt until I allowed God to run this that the demons were rampant and telling on themselves. My dreams have come back, my vision of my future has elevated, I've regained confidence within myself (I was confident with him but I guess on a superficial level, so when we broke up I felt like a piece of nothing), and I've repaired my relationship with God and my family. I'm embarrassed to say that I was suicidal briefly at one point because I felt so bad. That's not of God, no matter how much I thought it was before. Wolves are everywhere, and I'm thankful for this experience so that I can better see what's in front of me, and can do this better and really truly wait on the man He has for me.

[@usedabusedandmisunderstood8205]

@@hadassaheritageDon't let Satan make you feel guilty for marrying a narcissist, especially when children are involved.

[@sharonwaters8704]

you and your wife are wonderful!! on point with NARCISSISTS!

[@theexoticalaspielady]

Sir you have the gift of communication. People say knowledge is powerful, but without the ability to communicate the knowledge it is useless. May your god continue to bless you with this gift 🙏🏽

[@AlahjeLLC]

GLORY BE TO GOD im so glad you mention dissociation ! People think im over reacting ! God delivered me from my narc... life's been a blur for over a year now. Nothing feels real. I was even starting to get tattoos as a coping mechanism, just to feel SOMETHING but then I was blessed with conviction to not put marks into my skin. Wow, you are truly anointed. Even my counselor didn't seem to understand this and she was pretty awesome but wow, im lost for words, you hit it right on the head. Bless you pastor. Any one else going through this just know God will show Himself in the most mysterious and unexpected ways like He did for me, showing you that He never left you, and he never will

[@LadyHawkeNJay]

Unfortunately...this is my kind of thing...i grew up with both of my parents...and they are awesome. I studied psychology in college...and i have been married to 3 different narcissists! I have always loved our Father in heaven with all my heart...and always put others first. I do not know how i am on this broken road...thank you for sharing..it has helped me to gain wisdom.

[@queenrmia1816]

Hello Pastor Blakes, You told exactly what I did experience during the years of abuse. Through all of the mental, and emotional cruelty I did suffer. I would not stop crying out to God, stayed in prayer, and God helped me to discern that my ex- husband, and all of those apart of his scheme wanted me to commit suicide. We also know that narcissist never work alone in their demonic plots !! Thank You Jesus !!! Thank You For Helping Your Spiritual Daughters To Stay Alive, and Live Again With Joy !!! RMia

[@l2love516]

Pure evil. I dealt with a slew of three. They exploit weakness and minimize your strengths. Win/lose mentality. God help us see they are traumatized children who need help with the very issues they project onto others. 🙏🙌💜

[@torrihoward9729]

Sad part is they believe their always telling facts but they don't add up. SMH 😫

[@latonyamorgan7447]

And they know they need help they know Exactly what they are doing

[@latonyamorgan7447]

@Tewdy Quew Really I think they are

[@truedespinamakridis59]

So much knowledge...Thank you sir

[@simonedealerte3629]

Thank you very much for talking about it; this resonates enormously. We have to Stay focused on the Truth & do our own healing work with help of the Almigthy

[@torrihoward9729]

I'm in therapy now once a week. Started once a month. Increase due to the Fall back with my spouse a narc. Someone I thought I was comfortable with and I was in the I deserve box.. not A Happy life going in.. please pray 🙏 for me.

[@simonedealerte3629]

@@torrihoward9729 we will do 🙏 (the spelling control here made : *we will Rock* from the typing , oops...😆 actually that would not be so bad either i think😃) But seriously : blessings on your coping/healing path💜

[@charmedia]

Painfully true. ✊🏾

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

RC Blakes I have been watching your Videos and magical things have happened by being able to defend myself against Narcissts. I am still not healed but really getting there.

[@fasiah]

It’s true. I absolutely did feel on more than one occasion that it would be better if I wasn’t here. I even attempted once. I got out thank God. God woke me up. I prayed and asked him to do whatever it takes to get me out of this and through a series of events I am now free. Not only that but I have been given the keys to the jail so that I will never be imprisoned in a toxic relationship again. That key is self worth based on my choosing my own values and raising my standards. Thank you thank you thank you for the work you do.

[@lindarogers3006]

Not just helping folks with these issues, but actually bringing unbelievers to God by the Biblical principles ALWAYS referenced here! I am a witness and I share and minister to women I know with your talks. I have helped my 20 year old daughter and my friends. Keep on letting Him use you Pastor!!!

[@devina1100]

Pastor you have this so right. Your videos on this topic can help so many praise God. It's like a drip,drip poison that runs through the veins being with one of these individuals. Gotta get out, get help and never look back. They don't change . You got to! It takes time to heal but it's toatally doable.

[@raginbaby]

I wish I would have had this video a few years ago. My mum was a narcissist who made my life absolutely miserable. She destroyed my self esteem and I was suicidal for more than 10 years. I made a couple of attempts. I’m pleased to say that I’ve separated from her and my life is so much better. To anyone who is reeling from the abuse of a narcissist, it gets better. You’re more powerful and wonderful than you know. Pastor, I’m so grateful for your God given wisdom and your powerful healing words. May God continue to bless you.

[@tammilynne]

Blessings to everyone!!

[@larenetaddeo637]

Not suicidal, at all. That nsrc did a profound #. You are so spot on

[@jeanettemeans4099]

Hallelujah Pastor this was exactly what I've been through. Amen I'm healing now. Bless you in abundance because your message is soooooo on point!

[@rowancoates.2054]

Fantastic vids.Very helpful to many.

[@missjaszmine1968]

This description also accurately describes children raised by abusive, narcissistic individual and how they function in the world if their personalities develop in such a way they become people pleasers. Thank you Pastor for your anointed educating.

[@bridgettebianca2318]

❤ God Bless....currently writing a memoir about my experience...pray for me..

[@devina1100]

Run but do it quietly. Never let them know your intentions. They can be very dangerous. Take care ❤️

[@karenfeeney3070]

This is so on point, ....they leave you an empty shell.... I'm not the girl I used to be..!! You've just given me the answer to we're she went ..... im left un healthy, isolated myself from the 🌎.... love and light ....x 🙏

[@tmichele8922]

Karen Feeney same here

[@SoMoLove80]

Exactly.

[@BLissEmpireQ]

✔️✔️✔️

[@torrihoward9729]

Just wanted I needed to Hear Listening. Answer to my prayers 🙏 Thank You JESUS 🙏

[@rachelsinnott9999]

Empty is good...clean slate now fill that space with love and light. Let the Holy Spirit come in and fill you up. Do this with positive affirmations meditations, scripture oh 1 Corinthians13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It was never love dear. It was on youre part. How much of this Scripture have you fulfilled for the Narcissist. Now go fulfill this fo r yourself and for God. You are awesome!!! Live awesomely from now on.

[@naumzt6399]

I'm going through this right now!! Please pray for me and thank you Pastor...xx❤❤

[@Tluv_1955]

I feel so drained and heartbroken and no matter how hard I try to move on I keep going back no matter what as if something is pulling me to him . This is a night mare and an emotional rollercoaster I wish I haven’t ever met him

[@christagaygoldson175]

This is exactly how I felt initially ; the pain was so unbearable and just the same I wish I never met him. But it gets better each day you have to be purpose in your mind that you deserve better. Stop telling yourself that you can't move on. You are powerful and you can do anything you put your mind to. Whenever you are filled with the thoughts try not to entertain the thoughts dismiss the them and replace it with positive things like watching empowerment videos and most importantly talk to God. Trust me he sees and knows your pain and he will heal you. I'm still healing but I can say it gets better everyday.

[@trulycay5714]

to God be the glory I'm glad when I seen signs early I immediately got ghost now I pray my kids are protected

[@sylviawoodberry6552]

This is truly healing my heart because now there is a name to what I have experienced. This is an actual checklist of everything I faced in a marriage that was very new. I am thankful for this ministry.

[@mybusinessplanbook]

Also, I discovered that the man that I was involved with was a narcissistic. What I also learned is the his behavior was done based on his brokenness and his lack of self love and appreciation. Anyone who does not appreciate good people who bring love and joy into their life are dealing with self hate.

[@mercymwangi2147]

I thank God for you Bishop. I have been listening to your teachings and I am enlightened, strengthened mentally and spiritually. I feel so empowered to face life and walk away from all the debasing relationships that I have been mopping over. I know my value and now able to evaluate my relationships from an informed position. What you said about a narcissist destroying the confidence of his victims to a point that the latter starts to self sabotage really hit home. Because of the abuse from my previous relationship, I realized how in my professional work I let Clients to underpay me and even dictate what they could pay. I didn’t realize what was happening to me. Thank you so much coz I’m now liberated. My confidence and self respect is reborn. Thank you for speaking so honestly. Only God can repay you. Thank you Bishop.

[@walkingwiththemosthighgod4507]

Thank you Pastor I am an empath and you are spot on. In that situation you feel like your identity is lost. Thank God for his saving grace i am healing now and rediscovering myself. Just as I exited that relationship last year your videos on Narcissist just came across my youtube feed enlightening me on this topic having never heard about it before. You were God sent and I thank God for you and the knowledge he have granted me through you. Stay blessed. Love you and family. 🙏💜

[@damianavegamaisonet7960]

Narcissist free almost 3 years. So happy now. Healing and getting better. Loving God so much. When you live with a narcissist , your prayer life and your relationship with God suffers. Get away. They are demons, no one deserves to live like this. God loves you and He wants you to have life more abundantly

[@GoldFeather123]

Here is my Story.... When I started listening to you Pastor Blake's I became very silent around the NARC so I could sense when his next move was coming. Even though I was in fight or flight all the time I would Pray all day long and listen to your video's on Narcissism VERY loudly with my phone on my shoulder by my ear when he was home in the evening...I know he was listening but never said a word about it. While lying in bed before sleep I would rebuke the spirit within him that I sensed all the time and demand that it flee from my home and presence. Once I started defending myself things seemed to be swirling around like a whirlwind and then all of a sudden he drove up to my house front door one day about 10 days before Christmas 2021 with a U-Haul and quickly began packing all of his belongings in it!! I never said a word to him and just shut the door when he left. Immediately I realized it was soon to be Jesus birthday and I began to cry uncontrollably gasping for air and trying to speak the words Thank you Lord for saving me... I am in the healing process now taking one day at a time. Again, Thank you for doing what you do for other's. You are a Precious Man 💕

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Glory to God 🙌🏽 congratulations

[@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407]

Wow

[@keneshawilliamson1574]

Amen!!! I am most definitely a Empath! I have attracted men like this in my past. It really would change you; but thank God for Jesus Christ. I am save and I am a child of the King!!! God heal me , and I cut them off and kept it moving. ❤️😘🙏🏽

[@wallie499]

I am so glad I have coke across your page. Your videos have truly awoken something inside me that i never felt. You have brought a lot of clarity that I needed. Thank you

[@marcusjackson8689]

Bro you are the first Christian to articulate from the word of God on what I went through with my spouse.

[@marcusjackson8689]

The church needs to catch up

[@apconnections9691]

Incredibly accurate. These were the words so eloquently said, that I knew were true for me, but I couldn't formulate. Thank God for the wisdom you've shared.

[@dana6922]

I truly believe that his goal was to just always tear me down in every area that I strived to improve or feel better about myself.

[@meekone3380]

Everything you've explained is so true!! God's Grace is so amazing, this experience will strip you of everything, I'm still in healing right now, the more I stay in the word, the more I'm healing day to day. God Bless you Pastor!!

[@RealtorDRFoster]

Thank you so much for the Biblical view on what this disease is and how to navigate through and out of that stronghold! God bless you and Lisa!!

[@carolynballerina5342]

It helps so much to hear you speak so calmly & so accurately, it's as if u r speaking about my life, not just a general topic. Thanks for caring! A year separated, my eyes are open, but the pain continues - same old lies/hurts, intentional tricks, nasty put-downs. So hard to fathom, that one must just stop. Only conentrate inward, & to make time for oneself, put own health/ thoughts/ feelings 1st. Plan ahead, goals/dreams, start again... God Bless You. From NZ.

[@vanessap7209]

Bishop Blakes! This hit me hard. I had no idea and have been in denial for many months. I am in this syndrome. Thankful for your clarification with Biblical truth that has helped me to see the life I was in and still am subjected to even as I’ve been out of that relationship almost 2 years now. I’m thankful that God timed this message for me to listen to today. I’m praying for a husband believing I am better, only to discover I’m far from better. I still have some ground to cover in terms of healing. May God continue to bless and keep you, Lisa, your family, ministry and community. Thank you SO much for this😭🙏🏿

[@abundance3696]

My friend just took a narssist back & he is turning her against me & working on her mind this time when the narcissist leaves her it will be 10 x worse

[@tmichele8922]

Crystal Berry thank you I almost went back after 10 months of no contact

[@abundance3696]

Gracefully broken thank GOD you didn’t because they will leave again & the next discard is always worse

[@abundance3696]

I can’t believe she took him back he left her for dead while in the hospital he moved all of his stuff out when she got out of the hospital he was gone & her lights were cut off this is how they get down

[@talithagibson3138]

I am learning about setting and keeping boundaries and not allowing anyone to deviate from them. Approval seeking is something I have dealt with since I was a child. It took 10 years to get from out of the grips of the control of my abuser. And I am determined to overcome approval seeking before entering another relationship. Prayers for all who experience Narcissistic Abuse🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@torrihoward9729]

That's what I was going through... distance from my best friend and some family members. Called me gullible, but my spiritual growth placed him in a jealous persona. Worse and worse as I grew stronger.

[@melanies8255]

Can you talk about codependency next?

[@marciaheadley9933]

Great question! Thank you. Blessings

[@reneetaylor8916]

Thank you Pastor Blake's for this teaching I am really learning some things that I needed to know a long time ago God bless you

[@marciaheadley9933]

@@reneetaylor8916 Me too. Be blessed in Jesus name. Amen.

[@iw9338]

We were trained as children to serve others & put others first. Our needs weren't met or didn't matter. Core beliefs are lies. Read the Word of God & see to it that you learn that you have value in God's eyes.

[@vperez6086]

You are blessed with wisdom Bishop. I have researched this subject within the last year and I haven’t found anyone break down this abuse/disease/demon. Thank you so much for spreading this truth to myself and others. You are working hard to make this world a better place!

[@bubbaluba3077]

This is for me...I've dealt with sooo much narcissistic abuse im numb and every point you made is exactly how i live my life...very isolated from people just to survive. Sooo broken and have no idea how to get from underneath all the demage that has been done to me. Am currently making poor and deadly decisions with narcissist men who are constantly sorting me out of the crowd to abuse me. I feel like I'm fleeing for my life with nowhere to hide. The narcissist outnumber us and are so strong in power. Rest is needed.

[@irishgirl7828]

God bless you RC. You say you’re just learning about narcissism and you’re not an expert, but you have more of a handle on this subject than anyone I’ve listened to on KZbin. Expert or otherwise. It’s like you read my journal for the past 55 years, 2 narc parents and two ex’s.

[@tomikoeaton9786]

I have suffered from this all my life from narc abuse first with my mother friends and relationships finally free praise God

[@PK-tm8qg]

This is sooo good! Bless you, Bishop.

[@veroniquediogo6030]

Thank you for bringing us the truth. God bless and keep you pastor RC Blakes Jr 🙏🏽

[@singerofalovedson]

So Greatful R.C. Blake's for this and caring so much...

[@jacinthabrice5296]

Sometimes I wonder if these people even want to change. Please empaths, let us use our pain and turn it into prayers for these lost souls...

[@adbc1f72]

Jacintha Brice Why pray for someone that wants to continue to abuse you?

[@adbc1f72]

Wild Bird You are so right they are so I unwilling to change. Why pray for them? Cause I’m not wasting my energy anymore. I’m done!!! ✅

[@jacinthabrice5296]

@@adbc1f72 They are lost and only God can help them...

[@channy4368]

Wow!! Thank you for bringing this powerful, anointed and soul shaking message!!! Hallelujah, I'm free.

[@nikkilove6128]

Thank you Pastor Blakes! Your research on narcissism is on point! 100%! I definitely went through most of these after the break up with my ex-narc.... it was traumatizing because I'd never been like this before.... the seeds were planted. But thank the Lord for you & others who break things down so well....I find understanding why I went through what I did and what I'm feeling during the recovery helps tremendously! 🙏🙏🙏

[@brianguidry354]

As an empath, I blame myself for being so passive and gullible to a so-called prophetess who claimed that God told her I was her husband. I'll never be the same.

[@torrihoward9729]

Praying for you Brian g.

[@brianguidry354]

@@torrihoward9729 Thank you very much

[@wlknonsonshine]

Brian I know the pain is real. I just want to share...as I've been walking through this as well. While you are forgiving them you have to remember to forgive yourself. Forgiveness is for our healing. I believe most of us didn't see it coming so we blame ourselves.

[@brianguidry354]

@@wlknonsonshine Oh, I've made some progress and I forgive myself but like he said about seeing things and doing things differently before the interaction hit home. I view Christians and the church differently, now. I'm no longer moved by Christian jargon and extreme praise and worship. I question God a lot and wonder why He allowed that to happen. My faith is calculated now and has lost its child-likedness.

[@kedasosweet]

Praying for You! I almost fell for it. He told me God said I was his wife. Thank goodness I took the ring off. We never made to the altar. I am still struggling however with the aftermath. It's been over a year.

[@trulycay5714]

I am just amazed at how your teachings has confirmed . I've known alot of this for years people think and thought I'm crazy or a man basher , not so I just think God gave me revelation on how broken our men are it's generational it's sad I've compassion but low tolerance for non sense

[@shannonlmc]

THE BEST MOST BIBLICALLY BASED VIDEO ON NARCISSISTIC ABUSE!!!! ❤️💪🏻🙏🏻🤩🙏🏻

[@antoinettegorman8833]

Thank you rc Blakes so much for this .you explained this situation spot on. You are helping so so many people all across the world 💓

[@patriciakenshima2271]

100% percent correct ! God is bigger than small people

[@kimmeonly]

Omg thank GOD for you. You keep it so real and have helped me in a way tht saved my life. I’m grateful for you

[@donnalangley117]

I was married to the person you described for 21 years. Been divorced for 10 years. He was a horror. Just now starting to heal. Yes he did try to murder us. My daughter is starting to do things showing the abandonment and narcissist soul wound he left. I need prayers for us.

[@estar37_liveinspired]

God is incredible to use you to bring to light these very real issues on a level people can understand. God bless your ministry.

[@melissah1714]

All of what you've said about narcissistic abuse syndrome is 100% accurate! I experienced all of that while I was under the spell of the narcissist. Praise God, I am now Free!

[@kendralaw7913]

I've suffered from this from a child to adulthood and through all 3 marriages (children included)but all along I had no knowledge of Narcissist ABUSE Syndrome till this LAST marriage showed me all the traits of NARCISSISTIC ABUSE FULL FRONT AND CENTER....

[@bflores3944]

I was recently Informed of a reprobated mind. I'm glad you mention it. Very few people have heard of it. I am still healing. I do not trust many people. People must earn my respect. I have done like you say... learn to discern.

[@Ms.Reneē01]

I enjoyed this message. This is truly a serenity message and prayer pastor.🙏. God is good!

[@Tabby.cat2]

What if it’s a job?!?! I know it sounds silly, but it happens!!! The same cycle could happen with a toxic job!!! Toxic people can make a company culture!!

[@yvonnesishuwa7500]

I quit my job last month...got another one 2 weeks later!my boss was the narcissist

[@Tabby.cat2]

Tewdy Quew, never thought about that. “Conditioned to tolerate pain and abuse”. I suppose narcs instinctively know those who have abused, those they can control or manipulate 🤔

[@willogrey6041]

This happened to me on the job. They were so many enablers. I was left traumatized.