A Raggedy Book

[@Tink70]

Just from seeing my parents being together 64 yrs, back in 58 they were proud to call each other Mr & Mrs ... he cherished my mama and my Mama adored him. She passed in Feb this year and he said sadly with tears in his eyes, "now I'm just a man again" Meaning he lost half of himself when he lost her. 😢

[@tiffanymichaels2429]

So sorry for the loss. What your dad said brought tears to my eyes.

[@maramakesjournals2319]

I have tears also. Thank you for the sweet story.

[@tcovington0711]

There are only 4 good things I got from being married...the first three, my fantastic boys and wonderful daughter, and his last name as my maiden name was a horror of major proportions...but your story brought tears to my eyes...your mom and dad were so very lucky to have found their true soul mate...and that is rare indeed...

[@Tink70]

@@tcovington0711 sadly most the time love turns bad, I had a bad 1st marriage I was divorced 12 yrs before I met my husband now we just celebrated 9 yrs. My oldest sister refuses to date or remarry after her marriage of 18 yrs ended, she has 3 sons and 7 grandchildren, I think she got the best deal of all, all the babies. We've found love in ❤️ our children. My son went through 10 yrs of heroine addiction, the hardest of time for me, I was on the edge of losing him forever and in his tenderness of ages 17 to 27, it really took a toll on our family. He's doing far better now, he works full time with my Dad and keeping straight. I have an 8 yr old daughter with my current husband and she has brought so much joy. She helped save her brother. Now we all come together as a family of love and support. We have moments that are trying but the one thing we always remember is how much we all love each other and no problem can become more important than our love ❤️

[@km-bg9kj]

Hermosas palabras de tu padre, felicitaciones por tenerlos.

[@MissCarol-gb3]

I absolutely have not lost my identity!!!! Bless your poor little heart!!!! I am so sorry you feel that way! I am so very proud and grateful to have my husbands name.. we love each other unconditionally and have had so many wonderful years together! I am 78 years young and still going strong. God bless you, dear one….you have a lovely gift for crafting and I enjoy watching your tutorials.

[@beckyjohnsen3128]

23 years ago I ADDED an identity to my name. I became MORE than just my name. "Mrs." was an honor to take but I'm sure that depends on who you marry! I'm still in love with my guy and happy to be Mrs. I wish I could hear it more often, but then, I'm a sucker for manners and being old-fashioned I guess.😉 I love every video you make. You are a count of knowledge! Thank you for sharing YOU!

[@madebylora]

When I got married 25 years ago I was proud to take my husband’s surname and call myself Mrs. I’m now a widow and still proud to call myself Mrs because it links me to my late husband. However I’ve always used my own first name.

[@margaretbinks2595]

Nobody I knew who was married ever called themselves Ms but then I’ve been married for 58 years. Now I just use my first name followed by my married surname. I’m still the same person whatever name I use.

[@alexandraalmeida3661]

In Portugal nobody cares about married names. Women may get the husband’s name, but they are known by their FIRST name ❤️

[@LucyLu-wj3vn]

I was married in 1970. Because I had always looked very young I used “Mrs” as my first name. It helped somewhat. Whenever I answered the phone people would ask if my mommy was home, so it didn’t help much!

[@candacekerr4139]

A lot of that happened to me also. Everyone thought my firstborn was my brother🥹

[@wandaspencer9523]

This is a great page, always interesting creative ideas. Love the old pages and history it adds to the book. As well interesting conversation on the title of Mrs. As a woman married for 52 years I feel no less a person with being called Mrs. I believe in a marriage where you have mutual love and respect for one another it is a blessing. Having been raised in a family who had generations of life long examples of faith based relationships, where Christ is the head, the women in my family, were not less for being married. I guess it really depends on the way one looks at their own individually. It should never be a battle of identity.

[@quilter1958]

Kudos. I was born in 1958. We always had to call any married woman "Mrs." and every unmarried woman "Miss". Imagine the confusion when "Ms." came into vogue.

[@AurorasJournals]

The struggle…😂 I’ll never completely understand ❤

[@theresewallentin2856]

You go Nik 🤩 not only do you create amazing books and provide education and entertainment, you also take the time to look up historical information. I was thinking that the Mrs. and husband’s name reminded me of when my son was little and everyone referred to me as “his first name’s mom” instead of my own first name 😂

[@NiktheBooksmith]

And that was the day she was forever known as "Timmy's mom". 😄 There's a Rodney Dangerfield "I get no respect" joke in there somewhere...

[@theresewallentin2856]

You’re one of a kind Nik.

[@kristimoore8763]

Yes! I will forever by "first daughter's Mom"

[@chelliebarron2094]

In the mid 70’s it became a big issue and Ms became the norm for all women married or single. Congrats on 100k, you deserve it. Love your videos.

[@catheyboocat-design7175]

Totally get where you are coming from, I am 57 and felt that was ridiculous 🙂 I am in Texas . Family is from Southern roots and I asked my Grandmother about this once and she said this was mainly used for the high society women and I probably would not have to worry about it, she was always known by her name. 🤣 She was not being mean to me, she thought when my time came this tradition would not be used anymore. ❤❤❤ I think whatever makes YOU happy and does not hurt other life forms. I love so many traditions that might sound crazy to others✌️❣️❤️

[@microdot153]

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR 100K. Testament to your creativity, your crafting, your easy to follow directions, your wit and humor.

[@RevLetaLee]

At some point I just lost interest in using a title that seemed to signify that I existed for my mr., as if I were not my own person and capable of running my own life and affairs without a man. Then I was widowed at age 41 and felt free to no longer use it at all. I would never change that or use a man's last name again. Wish I'd never done it in the first place. Took me so long to feel like I belonged to me. Age 61 now, learning to be my own true love. Still love and miss the mr. Always will. NIK, your work, as you know, is special and very lovely. I never tire of seeing your creation process and result. Thank you for so much inspiration and enjoyment.

[@marysmith9515]

I was married in 1969 and used Mrs. because we all did. When we bought our first house all the paperwork was in my husband’s name even though he was in grad school and I was a full-time school teacher. When Ms Magazine came out I became Ms Smith. I did not want to be defined by my marital status . Oh yes, love your creativity.🍂🍁🐿

[@btracey]

Congratulations! 100k it’s been a long time coming and so deserved. It’s not a junk journal without raggedy bits hanging out the sides and tops 😊.

[@FunLifeOnABudget]

Good morning 😊🌹 Yes, it's russian. It says "for the first graders"👍 Going back to my corner to finish watching. Thank you for sharing 🌹

[@janeb7633]

To me it is an honor to be Mrs. XYZ….. it doesn’t strip my identity, it adds to it, I absolutely adore my husband, and am proud to use his name or my own. I am still me either way. ❤️

[@thecalicoheart7946]

I feel exactly the same! 😁 Each to their own though, I respect all viewpoints. 👍💝XXX

[@SwtGrnEyed86]

I agree. 🥰

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

The point I feel is that we used the men's first name only in a more casual manner but women were only called Mrs this that or the other.

[@kristimoore8763]

This is how I feel about it, too. I do use my first name though. Now when I got divorced from my first husband, I took my maiden name back. When I remarried, I inserted my maiden name as a middle name behind the middle name my mom gave me. I feel like names are still important.

[@trixie1556]

Me too😃

[@animarjournals]

Something else: I think it used to work like that in Spanish time ago: la señora, la doña was the woman in charge, like la patrona. La señorita would be the miss, indeed indicating the daughter of the owners of the place or the "important" people. Thank you, Nik!

[@velvetspicer1962]

I loved your commentary about losing your identity when getting married. I could hug you! I hyphenated back in '89 when I got married the first time and kept my surname the second and third time. When my husband asks me about it I say you could have taken my name and lost your identity. It shuts him up. Anyway, I love your raggedy books and watching your process!

[@tracytanasiychuk8253]

I wonder if using the husbands name helped the confusion with those of us that married into a family with many sons. I would never want to be confused with my sisters in law. I am still honored to be Mrs. after 49years. Lovely journal. Thank you for sharing. Blessings from Canada 🇨🇦

[@lindakilmer2548]

Congratulations on 100K subscribers! You’re one of the best craft reference sites on KZbin! 👏

[@WendysJournalAdventure]

This was a pleasure to watch Nik! Congratulations on surpassing the 100K milestone. You continue to inspire me and remain one of my main influences in the journal making field. Dare I say you are the OG of the craft? Only compliments intended. Lol stay well from a gal who has always spurned the Mrs moniker.

[@NiktheBooksmith]

That cracked me up 😄 thanks Wendy!

[@auntiemame7076]

Both of you fabulous ladies inspire me and so many others. Thank you for all your creativity and sharing.

[@kykategray]

Congrats on reaching this incredible milestone with your channel! Wow! 100K is impressive. I love your journals, style, aesthetic, everything and learn something in every one of your videos. I actually didn’t change my name when I got married. I intended to, but different life circumstances got in the way, and here we are 15 years later and, though I’m married, I’m not really a “Mrs.”. I’m okay with that. Thanks for being an incredible source of inspiration. Hugs from Ky.

[@DianeHardingA2Z]

Hey, I have that cookbook and know some of those who contributed. My mother in law still uses that naming convention. She is 91. So cool that you made it into a journal!

[@JournalsByLeigh]

Great video Nik. I've been married 21 years and when I took on Spanish citizenship I not only kept my own surname but my mother's maiden name was added to the end of it. Here in Spain, everyone has 2 surnames. Both men and women have their father's first surname and then their mother's maiden name (her first surname). It never changes. As a woman, you simply go from Miss to Mrs (with the same surnames). I think it's fabulous!

[@kayhammock]

Hi Nik. Ohhhh. I love this journal! I'm watching this Saturday morning so I'm sure this is long gone! Congratulations on 100k subscribers! I can say 'I knew her when...'

[@juliechaud]

I have always taken umbridge with the "Mrs." thing and especially with "Miss" ... a real categorization of a woman's status ... it's quite remarkable how some people don't even understand the term "Ms." today. Or get them to try to use it well that is another story!!

[@NatashaCreatesThings]

I hate mrs :) I won’t use it for myself at all, ever

[@63artemisia63]

Women in their 50s and older have to suffer through being called “Miss” regardless of marital status, in the South at least. In my dentist’s office, I’m called “Miss Lynn,” even though I have told him and his employees that I prefer Lynn or Ms. Duvall. I think it’s a misguided attempt to indicate elder respect, but it makes me feel like a Tennessee Williams character or a plantation owner. It’s insulting and I absolutely loathe it. Does this happen in other parts of the US?

[@63artemisia63]

To me Mrs. implies that you are only half of a person.

[@MaryJoDavis]

Congratulations, Nik! We’ll-deserved!! I love your unique style and favorited you many years ago! Thank you for all your energy and it is so good to see you making journals again. I’m proud to own one!!

[@matildagentle3816]

Love the raggedy. My daughter didn’t want to accept husbands last name. But her father told her that it’s the little things that keep a marriage happy. Both need to give things.

[@matildagentle3816]

I gave up my name, but not my personality!

[@danaroth1525]

I think this might be my all time favorite of your journals. Love this style

[@Paint3dRos3]

Your talent for making books is amazing! I absolutely love your "raggedy" style. I also love your spirit. You tell it how it is. I'm so happy I found you on KZbin. You are an amazing person! Keep up the awesome work!💕

[@DAnnsDesigns]

Journal came out so nice. Enjoy your raggedy. You are an inspiration to many including me. I am a Mrs. I still have my identity in tact. Wouldn't change a thing. Thanks for sharing with us today.

[@gardensiren]

Love, love, love this raggedy journal!

[@TubeYouLena]

Awesome, I will create a mostly-flat-in-the-middle raggedies for my personal junk journals and will use them as a writing boards (the one placed under pages before writing). Thanks for the inspiration!!

[@tylondon6065]

Love this addition to your journal. Yours was the very first journaling video I ever watched & I was immediately hooked. Congrats on 100K subscribers. Youve inspired each of us. So happy for you & your success.

[@SharonHoerth]

Congrats on your grand milestone! I’ve been a fan and avid follower for years! You inspired me to start making journals several years ago. Thank you so much! 💕

[@TheSkuttt]

"and his wife Jane". I can hear the song in my head, lol.

[@marysmith9515]

I have the key tag from our 1970 yellow VW! Must put that in a journal!

[@estherpowell2372]

I got married in 1974 and women were starting to embrace the idea of being married and still having an identity. So of course I had to upset the old school rules, keep my maiden name, refuse to say "obey" in the vows and actually write my own vows. We just celebrated 48 years of marriage, so I guess I didn't make the wrong choice.

[@myfanwyjohnston973]

Refreshing Nik's etsy store every 5min like 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[@NiktheBooksmith]

😄 I just got everything photographed, packaged and weighed. I'll list the items tomorrow!

[@michellelutz2721]

Just found your channel and love watching. Quick note on the cookbook and and married names. It wasn't meant to down grade women's roles. It was just a different time and things we do now will also be picked apart later. My memories of that time were of respect and family love.... anyway... thanks for sharing and hope it was okay to share. Thanks

[@shirleymccullough2515]

Love what you made and loved watching you make and share … thanks very much and would love to see more along this line of makes💖

[@bevsprenkle7802]

i would luv browsing through this book and touching the pages…great book, Nik!

[@cynthiahogue7724]

Great book! Love it! I have trouble with randomness but would love to create like you do. I have always gone by my first name but have been proud to add Mrs. to my title. I’m married to a precious man who makes me very happy and am honored to be his wife. I don’t feel I have given up my identity but merely added him as a part of who I am.

[@nothingtoseehere-y8m]

I love how this turned out

[@JannyHaak]

WOW NIK ... 100 K ... WOW ... AWESOMENESS ... YES INDEEDY ... Okay sorry for all the caps, but I'm excited for the 100K you know! CONGRATS! So well deserved, Nik! Love you!! ❤

[@maryflower3479]

Have so many old papers and books. I would love to make some raggety books. Thank you. Lovely book and I like that you added many plain papers to write in like a regular journal.

[@kristimoore8763]

Congrats on 100K! I love your channel. I love all the different projects you do with books and paper combined with great stories and interesting history (like today's tidbits). Thank you!

[@geneamom]

That is exactly the case with Mrs. Hughes on Downton Abbey!

[@yvethemetriccrafter688]

There is no way I would ever be known as my husband's name , in fact my husband changed his surname and added mine in front of his to double barrel our names because I did not want to lose my name , he's a good man . Great video Nik with great chat .

[@rankinstudios5342]

When I was single, I would receive calls from businesses and they would speak directly to me. Once I married, the same type of businesses would call about random things asking for "Mr". I said I was the Mrs. but they told me they could only speak to "Mr. Colin". When they called back and spoke to my husband, it was regarding nothing important. The next time that happened I said my name was Collen and they talked to me about unimportant matters like a sales phone call...nothing confidential. I don't like being treated or addressed as Mrs. when my identity is ignored!

[@suzannebigbee7596]

You have blown my mind! Love your work!

[@shondra6]

I loved this video and the discussion on names. Times have changed. TFS . 👍🏻👍🏻💜💜🙏🙏🇦🇺🇦🇺

[@ceced3530]

Congratulations on 100K! I am so glad that I found your channel. I have learned so much from you and so enjoy your chat alongs as well Crime and Crafting. God bless you Nik!

[@DeerheartStudioArts]

What a great book to journal in!🦌💌❤️📚

[@sharonrussell7933]

Still got it Nik. I'm tempted to get back into JJ again. Congrats on the 100K.

[@debraraythompson3126]

When I worked in the local museum it was frustrating not know / or have the ladies first names, it made historical documentation very difficult, if not impossible at times! I do think there are probably many many regional uses of titles, some not at all meant to be disrespectful! I would and still do call many of my fellow colleagues or even dear friends, married or unmarried, Miss ________ as a term of endearment! Ha ha which also caused confusion, as many people thought/ think I was raised in the South! Not ! Colorado 63 years proud !!! Hugs all around Miss Nik!!!

[@HighCountryStudio]

I love this project! Thanks for sharing it.

[@cLyon-xi9os]

I was a journalist before I met my husband in the late 1980’s and my byline was very important to me and my employment status. The more recognizable and consistent it was, the more I was likely to be paid. When we married, I insisted on keeping my byline name for business and financial transactions. It was a real sore point with him. He would joke that I didn’t want to admit to being married. Eventually, I began to hyphenate our last names as a part of my byline and legal signature. In some cases, I am still asked to prove my identity with photo ID, especially in the South. Where we live now, most just know me as Mrs. XXXX. It makes me feel as though my whole career is being denied and sometimes I really hate it. My husband still does not understand. Who is disrespecting who?😁😂

[@sandrajohnson9926]

I Totally understand!

[@melindalewis7235]

Here's a tidbit about titles, etc. - if a woman has a PhD or MD, or other doctoral degree and her husband doesn't, when she and her husband use their signatures or on invitations, the proper way to sign or address is Dr. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe, Jr., for example. That's the case for us, and if I don't do it that way, my husband and kids have me change it. They appreciate the work I had to do to get here.

[@beverlyculbertson4188]

Fabulous as always 😊

[@JoanneOwens1943]

My maiden name was Dragon when dragons weren’t so cool so I was ready to adopt a new name with no emphasis on Mrs.

[@barbaracabrera207]

Great journal!!! I always love your videos. Thanks for all you put into making them. I really appreciate your channel. You are truly a Treasure!!! Congratulations on 100k!!! What an exciting achievement!!! Nice going!! Austin,TX USA

[@margaretcomella3318]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!🎉👏🎉👏🎉👏❤️

[@carrieerickson2139]

Beautiful book Nik.

[@jacquichimes]

Congratulations Nik - have loved your videos for a good few years now - tfs xx

[@conniehintz5959]

Love this iv missed watching g you glad to see you on today

[@aussierosedesigns]

Love the raggedy book, its amazing. Thanks for the inspiration. Congratulations on you 100k 🌹

[@connielester1641]

Congratulations ❤ I began my JJ journey 3 years ago and you were the 2nd person I watched. You had me hooked immediately! So thank you for your talent and your style and your stories! I so love the mystery crime time ❤. You are actually responsible for my reading mystery novels now. I was into historical fiction and autobiographies. Would you be willing to show a flip through of a personal journal you have used and loved? I would love to see how you filled it up your way❣️

[@NorthlightsStudio]

Love this! It’s just so grungy and vintage and interesting! And congratulations on 100K !

[@dorotheafinan2419]

Lovely thank you. Your papers are always so interesting and authentic.

[@charlean_sherrod]

I just love ❤️ this book , thanks for sharing

[@lynette.papercrafts4826]

Love it!😍... And WOW! Congratulations, it is well deserved🙌🎉

[@jnails4u]

🎊 Congratulations on your 100K subscribers! 🎉🥳 I have always enjoyed your creations you share! Today is no exception. Love your Raggedy items!

[@anumanninen]

Congratulations for the 100K!

[@KaerryKat]

Am a fairly new follower, love your ramblings. I also look up stuff on weird tangents. I did in fact know about the titles for women due to having a grandmother who had people call her by her maiden name through out her married life.

[@vickihampshire4333]

So glad you invented collage with old papers. I didn't know it was called "raggedy". Wonderful of you to introduce it to the world. Thank you!

[@kayseals692]

Beautiful ♥️

[@tricias1]

I was 2 mins late to buy the raggedy book! But I managed to grab the "Thoughful Book"!!! I watched that video when I came out. I am so excited to own a Nik the Booksmith book ❤️!!!

[@elaine.larkinlanecreations]

Betty Rubble, Barney's Mrs. hehe Love what you created.

[@ruthferry6037]

You are the reason I started making journals. Love your stories, too!

[@jeanettetobey1312]

Congratulations on 100K🥳

[@francineh.7825]

Congratulations on your 100k!!

[@ne3s4_d4n1a]

Definitely my cup of tea 😍❤️

[@junepatterson7928]

Love that book. It’s just enough.

[@MichelleB_96]

Wow, the book came out fantastic! Tomorrow is going to be a coffee dying of the papers kind of day. Gotta start gathering some of the grungy bits and pieces. I aspire to raggedy-ness 😊. Thank you for all the sharing!

[@ChrissieNicely]

Congratulations on this milestone, Nik! I, for one, am always learning something AND having fun with you! Thank you for it all! 🥰😘

[@annebell374]

Very inspiring

[@roseandtraincottage]

Love spending time with you learning new things! Congrats on getting 1K !!! I enjoy your mystery chats, too, and look forward to seeing you again soon.

[@maureenmunro2826]

I was married in 1978 and yes older people would refer to me by my husbands name….hated it. I applied for a credit card and they would only give it to me in my husbands name…even though I applied for it and I was the one working ( my husband was still in university). This infuriated me.

[@willowingchintz]

Congratulations!

[@animarjournals]

Indeed this titles info is fascinating! I take the thing a little bit further and do not use my husband's last name... I feel that I have married him and have not been adopted by him... I also find it so... surprising to read about women keeping "his" last name even after a divorce! Just WOW. Unpopular opinion, maybe? oh well, I know... Let us craft! Your raggedies are always awesome as awesome can be. Thank you, Nik!

[@Erintube360]

My Mother went back to her Maiden name after her third divorce!

[@laurastone9315]

Congratulations on 100K subscribers! You are an amazing inspiring artist and your videos are fun to watch. Thanks for all you have shared with us.

[@littleviatrix]

In Italy we don't change our name once we get married and to me it's quite quirky that you do. But hey, you do you! Everyone 's culture is different and there is beauty in that too.

[@marythomas5656]

I'm proud to be my husband's wife and I love him dearly but I'm not his Mrs. As I've learned about lithe use of the title "Mrs." it was almost an indication of ownership and I'm certainly no one's possession. And no one here need attack me for my opinion. I won't be swayed. Beautiful work as usual! Thanks for sharing, Nik.

[@colleencasey7019]

Oh wow!! I love that book/junk journal!! 💛💛💛

[@firstlast993]

beautiful

[@juanasmith7223]

Having married into the Smith clan, I have on occasion introduced myself as Mrs. Smith…although I don’t bake pies.

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

Omg this is a bug Bear of mine! Here in Ireland the men were always Paddy, Mick, John etc. but the women were always Mrs. Byrne, Mrs. Doyle, Mrs. Kenny and so on. So silly!

[@junk-usi]

Congratulation 100k 💐💐💐

[@tiantuatara]

I never thought it was fair that woman had different titles, depending on whether they were married, and men didn't. "Ms." helped but always seemed awkward. Lots of things were pretty crappy. Not using titles (except for Dr. or something earned) makes the most sense to me. I love how you tell us about whatever has caught your interest and you've researched.