A Self-hatred Questionnaire

A particularly awful aspect of self-hatred is that we may not even be aware that we are suffering from it. Here is a list of questions to help us diagnose an absence of self-compassion.
Enjoying our KZbin videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: t.ly/e8pmC
Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: t.ly/kINp1
FURTHER READING
You can read more on this and other subjects here: bit.ly/37zixg0
“The temptation, with dealing with anxiety, is always and invariably to focus on the ostensible cause of our worry: the journey to the airport, the forthcoming speech, the letter one is waiting for, the presentation one has to hand in… But if we proceed more psychologically, we might begin in a different place. With great kindness and no disrespect, we may step past the objective content of anxiety and look instead at something else: how the anxious person feels about themselves…”
MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE
Watch more films on SELF in our playlist:
bit.ly/TSOLself
SOCIAL MEDIA
Feel free to follow us at the links below:
Facebook: / theschooloflifelondon
X: / theschooloflife
Instagram: / theschooloflifelondon
CREDITS
Produced in collaboration with:
Natalia Biegaj
www.nb-animation.com/
Title animation produced in collaboration with
Vale Productions
www.valeproductions.co.uk/

[@chd162534]

Seems like a good way to start my morning.

[@taranorthover]

Omg thank you for this lmao!!! I'm halfway through the video and I see your comment and it seriously cheered me up.

[@9cloudrachel207]

Lmfao this perfectly describes me

[@chd162534]

@@taranorthover really? I was being sarcastic just based on title but did watch it and liked it, just like all the others!

[@sanchita-tu4fj]

Like wise as I have my luscious breakfast

[@non-triggeringobservations413]

Exactly what I was thinking!!

[@FlaminiaJulia]

One phrase that has helped me a lot is: "We are not our thoughts."

[@MicheleEngel]

Yes, and another that has helped me: Perception is not always reality. I look back now and am able to realize how frequently I confused the two. I learned to do more "reality checks."

[@MeMoonyful]

Thank you both.

[@shreyakapadi239]

I might as well make these phrases my life mantras. Thanks guys♥️

[@anacondaadultlearningcente4522]

We are not our thoughts? Then what are we? And if we are not our thoughts then why would anyone change the way they think? We are our thoughts, because that is our genuine inner reality. And we are also our behaviors, the reality of who we are communicated to others. Our behaviors are manifest from our thoughts and behavior is all others can know of us.

[@elonever.2.071]

@@anacondaadultlearningcente4522 To even start to answer the question of whether or not we are our thoughts, you have to answer the questions...Who are we talking to when we have a conversation inside our heads? Who is doing the talking and who is doing the listening?

[@mcleanephatha]

I used to always tell myself that I hate myself. But now everytime I think about how much I hate myself, I instead say this to myself “I do not hate myself. I just hate the way I am feeling about myself right now”

[@grawakendream8980]

i like that word switch

[@PjRjHj]

Has it worked thus far?

[@razamehdi4591]

How has this helped?

[@drumdad54sdl47]

A good distinction & a huge step in the right direction.

[@mcleanephatha]

@@grawakendream8980 thanks mate!

[@galinavandam2701]

Because of quarantine, I completely lost my self worth. My whole life the only compliment i got was being “smart”, “intelligent” etc, but because of my adhd i could not handle online school, so suddenly I wasn’t the smart kid anymore. All my self worth was instantly gone, because I believed the only good thing about me was being smart. I got in a really bad place and i got diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It got so bad I eventually resorted to self-harm. The pandemic is slowly getting better, and so am I, I stopped self harm and I’m getting less depressed every day. This is a reminder to take care of yourself, that it will get better, and that eventually everything will be worth it. Please stop basing your self worth on what other people say to you. Because you are so much more than that.

[@stephaniewebb9474]

Actually, that IS a sign of intelligence: knowing that internal worth is superior to external validation.

[@juliahart8593]

You are so much more than hinging yourself on one single thing. Surround yourself with positive people. Indulge in positive hobbies. Get into spirituality. Live independently from one identity. I wanted my entire life by doing that, and I'm so glad we're recovering together 💕

[@jJust_NO_]

@@stephaniewebb9474 its good to know that yet no matter what the mind thinks trying to 'resolve' the noticed issue which is, not to depend on others for validation is, irresolvable. because ultimately, we get a kink/ a boost when we are being praised. thats the basic feature of being human. the feedback we receive gives us elation and we want to do more of that. you just can't give it indefinitely into yourself. the self needs a mirror.

[@bichen-up-ur]

Yes, your self worth shouldn’t be judged by others.

[@hteur1]

Good on you to fight back. The good thing in what happened to you is that it made you understand that being smart is not your only quality, and nor should it be.

[@limxin0014]

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” - Perks of being a Wallflower / Stephan Chbosky

[@sifon4o111]

My favorite movie. Mainly because I've had the exact same thing that happened to Charlie happen to me. It's understandable to feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with you. But we should all try to know better than to actually believe that.

[@annaheya2109]

That's why some of us tend to fall in toxic relationships

[@mofomartianp]

I don't deserve any.

[@borov788]

@@mofomartianp same here

[@billyb4790]

I guess that's why I sabotaged and pushed away the best woman I've ever known.

[@monztermovies]

As a man in his late 40’s I can tell you it takes time to love yourself. A lot of time and introspective work, but you can start to tip the scale in appreciating yourself. Stay the course. 😎

[@crocusmoon8782]

Very well done...I hope that I will be the same next...having slightly healed

[@monztermovies]

@@crocusmoon8782 i hope so too. It’s an incredible struggle and a fight! 🥊 don’t forget that. 😎

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

As a man in his late 40s, it took this long to hate every single thing about myself, others and society. Give up.

[@Sam-nb8ev]

For me, the turning point was when I realized that I had rejected myself during early childhood because people close to me rejected me and having no point of reference then, I believed them. I carried that belief all my life and that belief influenced all my life decisions. Things changed after I woke up. Had I answered the questionaire 7 Years ago I would have scored an average of 8. Now, it's about 4.

[@monztermovies]

@@Sam-nb8ev keep the fire and fight alive! I am trying to do the same! 👊👊👊✌️

[@Madsovic999]

You really cant stop at ‘you need to be kinder to yourself’. Do a video explaining how to actually do that. Telling a self-loathing person to be kinder to oneself is kinda like telling a depressed person to cheer up. It’s not wrong but it is not useful eigther

[@BknMoonStudios]

I've struggled with self-loathing for years and I'm still far from being over it. However, I've meditated and done a lot introspection, and what I've found is this: *You can only be kind to yourself if you feel that you **_deserve_** that kindness.* And so, the best way to feel deserving of love, is to do things that fill you with pride and admiration for yourself. Build an ego and nurture it. It is very important to not fall into the trap of seeking validation. True, honest pride comes from INTERNAL actions and rewards, not tied to external factors outside your control. For anyone struggling with this, start by creating a "baseline": Sleep and wakeup early, eat healthy, brush your teeth and shower everyday, do excercise daily, force yourself to talk to at least one person outside of your work and family, pay your bills and food on time, take out your trash, etc. Things that people say are "obvious", yet they are often half-assed. Once you've created that baseline, tackle greater challenges like: Quitting porn and videogames, joining a club or in-person group for your hobby, sending your CV to a better business than the one you currently work for, slowly picking up skills that will allow you to be self-employed in the future, etc. Just by doing pursuing those things, regardless of the specific results you achieve, you will start gaining pride, which will become respect, which eventually becomes acceptance of love. Best of luck to everyone reading this. Stay strong. ❤

[@oluwaseeniolabode-odebunmi6864]

@@BknMoonStudios I’ve been working with a method that’s very similar, it seems to be working for me. Now I feel like I can trust me just a little bit more to have the ability to crawl out of whatever darkness I might find myself in, anytime in the future.

[@lauvax8553]

I believe they’ve already done videos about this

[@barryoneill-ec9zz]

Agree

[@saumyaverma2628]

Meditation has proven to be helpful to me.

[@arianna_ca]

"The reality is we aren't so terrible at all, we are just very ill." Yes! To those that felt a strong 10 to those questions, please know this. You deserve so much more and are worthy of more.

[@jommydavi2197]

I ain't getting it so what's the point

[@nunyanunya6398]

Yeah, well.. that is where i lost all report.. heres the fact Jack...some folks ARE fckn terrible people

[@AppallingScholar]

At least all of those problems can be solved in a Socialist nation by focusing on making yourself happy instead of increasing your capital worth.

[@jommydavi2197]

@@AppallingScholar ahahaha that's a funny one

[@konan8353]

@@AppallingScholar You have a very simplistic view of the world. I don't like socialism, but there are intelligent socialists that make good arguments, and you aren't one of them. A "solution to everything" doesn't exist, and if it did it wouldn't come in the form of politics.

[@Coffee_paradox]

This is one of the few quizzes that I can get high scores and I’m sure my parents are proud.

[@RicardoPierotti.]

Don't put all the blame on your parents and take a bit of responsability for the person you are.

[@Coffee_paradox]

@@RicardoPierotti. Ya hear that “woosh” buddy?

[@RicardoPierotti.]

@@Coffee_paradox I know the "they're proud" was not actually a thing, but still thought, it could be that you think your parents are the whole reason for you to feel that way.

[@AA-wc3tw]

Same. My mother groomed me from birth to hate myself just as much as she hates herself. 20 years of therapy and I still don't love myself or even understand what that means. I'm 41 and still struggling so much with my mental health, simply because of how I was raised and what I was taught.

[@Coffee_paradox]

@@RicardoPierotti. >be you >internet SUPERCOP ⭐️💥👊 >click onto a channel about mental issues >head to a comment section of a video about self-hatred >see a self-depreciating joke >do not know a single thing about this guy >time for internet SUPERCOP ⭐️💥👊 to strike >”hey maybe it’s your fault that you feel like shit, stop blaming your parents” >another good deed done today >feelsgoodman.jpeg

[@victoriaporsiempre]

“ to love yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” Oscar Wilde

[@me-iy9wn]

So, I'm going to die alone. Got it

[@mofomartianp]

That's the kind of thing only a drunk would say and only a woman would believe.

[@st-christian14]

I wish I'm not mentally sick. I wish I was able to love myself. I imagine all the things I could've accomplished if I was mentally well and then begin spiralling down into self-hatred.

[@IRosamelia]

Don't worry dear, even those of us who don't feel any self-hatred can't get much accomplished either 😅 I'm the procrastination queen, hedonism is my art 👑

[@razamehdi4591]

I imagine the same everyday. How if I had parents who brought me up how normally one should be, I think how different things would've been. How things that look impossible right now might have been possible otherwise. How it wouldn't have to be this hard.

[@IRosamelia]

@@razamehdi4591 sending much love to you 💜💜💜

[@accade_acaso]

personally I started to love myself when I understood that "to love" it's not passive, I have to behave with love and care toward myself. it's useful to think about me as a friend in need or as a daughter, so I can protect me from my own cruelty. I hope you'll find a way to help yourself ♡

[@elonever.2.071]

@@razamehdi4591 I can relate to that. I was born to a mentally ill mother incapable of loving any of her children and she was especially vicious toward me because in her eyes I was born the wrong gender. We were the family that other families would pull their kids in the house when I came around to play. I dont know how old you are but at aged 68 my life became so unbearable that I was driven to change it. My first action was to undergo regressive hypnosis to alleviate the damage horrible parenting did to me and took personal responsibility for healing and nurturing the injured child inside of me that made me feel that way. Then I did some energy therapy to remove the tension and stress from my muscles. Thirdly, I starting reading about how to heal from parental trauma. It is work, but only if you are not totally committed to getting your life back. If you are committed, as I am, it is an exciting journey. Today I am undergoing the final stages of the physical damage; and I hold no animosity toward my mother or anyone else programmed by my mother to treat me badly...I just have zero contact with them. I now look at my life as a series of experiences each with a beginning and an end. I chose to start this experience under the most dire of conditions that has ended up teaching me more about myself and human nature in general than 99% of the people who inhabit this earth will ever learn. Is it the life I hoped for? No. But it is the life I got. My advice to you is the negative parenting you got does not define who you are unless you let it define you that way. Think of it as just an experience, like having a friend that turns out not to be your friend; or a vacation that had the worst weather possible. Neither of these two examples define who you are *forever.* These are just temporary examples of life experiences that taught you something...learn from them and move on. *Bad parenting is not who you are, it is something that happened to you,* like falling and getting a cut. If you treat the cut properly and let it heal, it goes away, just like bad parenting effects will go away if you allow yourself to heal and move on. *You are no longer that injured child.* You are an adult who obviously knows you had terrible parents. It was the hand you were dealt; you have a choice here, empower yourself and play the cards as they were dealt to you, or fold your hand and forever be feeling like a victim. Accept it, get the help to need to start your own journey of self discovery and empowerment. It was just an experience, nothing more. To help you get started, borrow some of Alice Miller's books from the library and read them. You are much stronger than you think you are, that is why you were given those parents

[@jennimarie7666]

finally a test I get high scores on

[@CeceliaHampton92]

I have undergone some trauma therapy last year and was recommended a book called "Self-Compassion" by Kristen Neff and would highly recommend this to anyone suffering this affliction

[@Gumsheils]

Thank you for your advice. I might try that book out. Once again thank you and I wish you the best in your recovery.

[@gulsenemtoylymyradova517]

Thanks for this. I’m gonna check it out now!

[@CeceliaHampton92]

@@Gumsheils Oh course, I wish the same to you. Remember, that you are loved and will be okay!

[@annaheya2109]

Thank you ❤️

[@marencalma13]

Thank you for recommending this book. I am currently reading it and I find it quite helpful.

[@kumkum_2848]

I hate myself enough to know that I hate myself without taking any survey 🤦

[@hamzasaleem7017]

I don't hate myself, I practice self social distancing

[@maelmesplou5972]

why did I just like this comment. This feels so poor

[@greenscreen4046]

🤣❤️🙏🏾

[@andyc9902]

Ignorance is better than a slap

[@annaheya2109]

Dissociation 😭

[@SovendeMay]

This made me laugh. Thank you :-) xx Very relatable

[@ZaChousenWan]

Lack of empathy, cowardice, selfishness, inconsiderateness, unmotivated, enjoying short term pleasures instead of thinking long term, only willing to help others hoping for praise and/or because of a selfish desire to make me feel good about myself. How could I not hate myself?

[@juliajaeger8175]

I've struggled with intense self-hatred my entire life.

[@RT-fo4up]

I discovered my self-hatred last summer. Been working on it for a full year now. I think I scored fewer points on this questionnaire than I would have a year ago. A part of me is definitely turning around.

[@diyak2182]

That's great to hear man, well done! What did you do that helped?

[@karlaflores245]

They're right! I'd never treat my worst enemy the way I treat myself.

[@trinaq]

"We cannot think of being acceptable to others until we have first proven acceptable to ourselves." Malcolm X

[@mielmoreels5609]

When you say that to someone who is suicidal, you are just helping them digging his grave...

[@st-christian14]

Easier said than done.

[@dipankarm4125]

That's not even from Malcolm X, bubba.

[@khalidsafir]

@@mielmoreels5609 that's not necessarily true. The reason people become suicidal is because they, like most westerns, are total strangers as to how happiness works. We get unhappy because we don't like ourselves. If a suicidal person suddenly becomes aware of this basic truth, which can be demonstrated, then they may in fact be relieved and fix themselves. If you are sick, it doesn't mean you have to hate yourself, it just means you have to change something in yourself. That said, not everyone learns so easily and so we need to approach people in different ways.

[@NickNotas]

This is why gratitude practice is so important. Most of us have a negative inner critic which has become our default habit. You need to consciously change that through acknowledging your efforts and showing yourself compassion like you would a close friend. Take a few minutes out of your day to write a few things down that you're genuinely proud of. Studies recommend the template, "I am grateful for X because Y" like "I am proud of asking that person out because I am building courage." Soon enough you'll start to shift your perspective, recognize your awesome qualities, and build more self-worth.

[@courageous327]

I think recognizing that you might be terrible person, is already a step to be a better individual. There are some people that are incapable of such self-reflection that they are left wondering why people around them don't like them too much.

[@maelmesplou5972]

That's what I would think at first. Get a better view of the reality and you will cope with and change reality better. But it hasn't been working with me. I lack some things which I don't know what they are. Probably some spirit strength. But positive thinking, even tho it looks dumb, may take some higher than a "rational" self-hatred. It's just about getting a good dynamic to start. Either it comes from self-disappointement or whatever, kinda doesn't even matter in the end.

[@Felix-bx7fx]

@@maelmesplou5972 Godspeed man

[@VoidDweller86]

Over judgemental overgeneralizing opinion though I really do hate myself enough as it is, I don't even believe so much that I should have even been a thought to begin with from birth depending on how many souls of people hate me as it is, I believe that possibly a better person should have been born in my place.

[@interestingtopics-adeepera6497]

We can be our own worst enemy.

[@st-christian14]

How can you love yourself if you don't feel loved?

[@vardhan4594]

Man I literally cried in these questions 🤕

[@samibraheem1579]

same here, it felt like consequent slaps on my face

[@bubby3007]

me too ):

[@vaguebrownfox]

*group hug*

[@AppallingScholar]

I scored fucking 3 points in the entire Questionnaire. 1 point to 3 different questions each. God I fucking love myself. May 1st is my anniversary with myself.

[@sg-ds6qg]

Congrats!

[@loserforlife4134]

@@sg-ds6qg It's sarcasm "Einstein"

[@sg-ds6qg]

@@loserforlife4134 living upto your username, I see

[@kyototo.]

I see a lot of jokes but we really have to chill with the self-deprecating habits。 Your soul doesn’t joke with its words。

[@rihannagirl556]

well said :)

[@poopanda1999]

That is absolutely true, jokes of self deprecation have a bad long term effect

[@mofomartianp]

My soul can go fuck itself.

[@kyototo.]

@@mofomartianp feel better g。

[@taabishkhanself-improvemen7331]

*“We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action”* - Henry Link Love from a small KZbinr💙

[@mofomartianp]

Not true. Rumination tends to follow your brainwave patterns, the mind is most neurotic when you are awake and active.

[@KeterHirameki]

"Violence and pitilessness we wouldn't think of bestowing upon our worst enemies" Pretty sure I'm not only one who would

[@keepmoving1185]

Thank you for your great work and timing.

[@cimalurie]

Two years ago I would have filled this questionnaire with 10's And now, it's still not just 0's and I still have two 10's, but gosh have I improved in the others, I tend to only see the end goal without noticing my progress and this video made me realise that I grew so much in just two years! Before, I thought I would never be able to change and feel better, and yet here I am Overcoming self hatred takes time, but it's not impossible Don't focus on trying to have only 0's, instead, look at each numbers going down, one by one, and be proud of it everytime

[@Ojuolape]

Damn. Sending so much love to anyone who currently experiences self loathing. Sounds so awful 😞

[@usernotfound2471]

I discovered myself hatred years ago when I started watching the school of life. It's been a journey since then. And trust me. developing emotional intelligence It's a life changing or at least the way you see life. I'm not nearly done this journey yet. Thanks to the school of life and other channel's like pursuit of wonder and academia of ideas.

[@Noura-ii1uw]

Sameeeee.

[@dessinologue]

I'm happy to see that I spontaneously answered mostly 3s or 4s :)

[@HeadCannonPrime]

Awesome! I guess I like myself a lot more than I thought I did!

[@AMILLIONVOICES]

That’s a great video ♥️ all of this is unlearning what society has taught us and coming back home to our true and authentic selves. We all just want to feel accepted, valued and respected for who we are. Imagine how amazing social media could be, and real life, if we would be more kind to ourselves and each other

[@jimbo111589]

Whenever I need to cry I click these videos.

[@winstonmccurley9953]

I scored a 16, and I'm happy to say that's probably a third, a quarter, or even less of what it would have been just over a year ago. Sometimes your darkest nights lead to your brightest days.

[@mofomartianp]

And sometimes they don't.

[@IrmlindadeVries]

When I try to overlook my situation than it is so hard to love myself. My parents don’t love themselves and are so in line with their parents.. it can be a start to listen to friends that are loving towards me but it doesn’t seem to stick to the heart. It might take a lifetime to heal from this mental and emotional state of being. Luckily as a 6 year old I knew what I wanted and it saved me many times to be productive in a creative outburst of visual and literal arts and music. But still this voice inside won’t be still , telling me I did everything wrong… Thank you for this video . This information and that of Michele Lee Nieves Coaching (KZbin also) are helping me out.

[@m2pozad]

To my surprise, in my first attempt at a KZbin guided self-love meditation, I zeroed right into my parents, by using the "I am love" technique. I seemed to instinctually know that it was their sense of being unlovable that had transmitted to me, in an unconscious level, since on the outside, general life experiences had been much more affirming. Few goals, and low/no expectations for loving relationships inspired me to do the work. It's just a shame I discovered all this so late in life.

[@armyforlife3191]

Last week I was hospitalized because I was going to really cill myself. Life is too cruel I’m going to pretend I’m getting better and when no one takes notice in me, I’ll finish it for good.

[@benjaminRhodesLEGO]

aw why?

[@mofomartianp]

@@paolo_damiani username confirmed.

[@mrss_foster]

Our soul is burnt out from being in the toxic human bodies

[@mattakubodimasen10]

Surprisingly, I don't hate myself very much at all. A few years before I might have answered 10 for most questions with concrete certainty, but now, looking back, I'm proud I worked hard to love myself more.

[@dianagrigore1705]

damn these are some good affirmations

[@mofomartianp]

I know right, I repeat these to myself all the time.

[@heartofdawn2341]

Given that I had crippling self-loathing as a teen, I was actually quite surprised how low my score was overall (59). Having finally come face to face with the repressed traumas of the past (thanks, lockdown), I now understand more about why I am the way I am, and can give myself more grace and acceptance. The questions I scored more highly on felt like they were related to being a transgender woman so early in her transition- so as I work through the issues surrounding that (which is mostly internalized transphobia with a hint of anxiety) and become more true to myself, those ones should fall away as well. Remind me to do this again in two years.

[@enk335]

when Pink Girl was looking at her phone and "realized" she was bad, I immediately felt sorry for her. Yet I've felt the exact same way for most of my life and never once really felt sympathy for myself. The visuals of this girl are so emotional and provocative. Thank you. Also, I got a 98. I'm just having sort of a rough day.

[@white6505]

step 1) do something step 2) start questioning it step 3) give up

[@mdaaaa1211]

I don't know if I agree with this, generally, people have a very good idea of who they really are inside, their strengths and weakness, and where they fit in the social hierarchy. your Self-esteem is basically your own assessment of your successes and failures in life, it tends to be a very accurate assessment, you can lie to other people but you can't lie to your brain. If you have been rejected your whole life, it's hard not to hate yourself. It is not always in your mind, you do get a lot of feedback from the world to inform your assessment of yourself.

[@davidcalado6917]

It has become the default state, and some of us are well-aware of that.

[@plottingpeace7308]

That can be true, but where it becomes unhealthy and toxic is when it happens on a daily basis. In which you feel unworthy everyday, it's not a couple times thing in which you do something badly and you say you hate yourself. In those scenarios, you take feedback and improve. Sometimes though, when it feels so regular, even existing feels like a burden and a waste. Nobody's life is a waste, even if they've failed a couple times. We have to learn that even if we fail, it does not make us worthless and undeserving of love. Everyone deserves love, especially when it comes to loving oneself.

[@mofomartianp]

@@plottingpeace7308 Why does everyone deserve love?

[@st-christian14]

How can you begin self-love if you hate yourself? You seek for acceptance and love on other people, but they say you need to accept and love yourself first... But how can you love and accept yourself if you feel like other people don't accept you??? We all rely on other people. No one can survive alone...

[@OcchioniApotropaici]

Exactly.

[@C--rt5jg]

wow, i'm early.

[@Shortkonner]

I love that feeling

[@C--rt5jg]

@@Shortkonner ikr? such a feeling of accomplishment.

[@ogrehaslayers605]

10’s across the board. I’ve watched this like 20 times in two days

[@andrewb5743]

Does anyone ever get into an inescapable restless rage where they want to lash out at themselves out of self frustration and hatred?

[@michaelsteven1090]

And the final question left out: "I am bored, lonely, afraid, and addicted to social media"- 10

[@markmorose]

I hate myself for I am the route of all my issues.

[@Sakazuki_Bepu]

im finally able to get perfect score

[@mutzelein]

I've hated myself since I was 8 years old. I knew this. I accepted it as a fact of life. I only started trying to like myself again last year, at age 25. Let me tell you, it is real fuckin hard to cleanse yourself from 17 years of self-hate...at least I'm trying I guess

[@hakimdiwan5101]

I don't remember the exact age but as far I remember I have been hating myself. At school I was bullied and at home my parents reminded me all the short comings I had. I'm 24 and just barely getting started to love myself I have reached to a point where I don't even see a mirror anymore. It's going to be very difficult but we all deserve to love ourselves for our own sake! All the best ✌

[@yu1142]

Damn, straight 10's. Oh well. Fuck it.

[@callumtorrance9180]

Well this is quite eye opening

[@keepmoving1185]

The universe is love that flows through us

[@IRosamelia]

Much LOVE to you too! ❤❤❤

[@mofomartianp]

shut up with that nonsense. people are part of the universe. if self-loathing people exist then that must mean not all of the universe is love.

[@DemiJonas4Life]

The thing is, I’ve realized I like myself and even love myself, Ive always wished and hoped that people like me for who I was.

[@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500]

No. People love you for seeming to be (even if it is nonesense) what they wish to see in you. They love you for the benefits they have by you. They love you for loving themselves. And if you are useless to them they put you in the trash. Because no one wants to be associated with the weak, stupid, reputation murdered, poor etc. But with the wealthy, intergate, smart, powerful. True love is about accepting and caring for a person regardless of anything (not money, status, intelligence, self worth, power, reputation, skills, etc) ansd true love does not seek false ideas in you just because you wish them to be true. For example i was stalked by a lesbian who falsely thought i was one , too. This is NOT love. This is projection. And me, too fell for a boy i thought qas mentally ill, too. Turned out he was all fake. My feelings were worthless from the very start. Was the right thing to do to distance myself. Only mistake: i fell for a stranger and didnt cut contact. Should have quit school. Shouldnt have shared my problems.

[@brandy3573]

It is strange because at times I have a strong sense of a solid image of my true self and my part in the world but if I get a case of this enigmatic feeling it is extremely awful how it turns into a black hole of even further self loathing that isnt really rooted in reality but more or less in a series of highly unfortunate events mostly out of my control. Right now even though I am in a bit of overwhelming situation, I am on a self-loving, self grace swing that Im so thankful for. The wickedness of ones own mind can be an awful hell to navigate and if this is a dream why would I create my own nightmare. My errors have always been valuable lessons to draw from and am lucky to mostly be able to learn from my mistakes and take stock in my own resilience. It also helps provide a kind accepting reflection for other people in states of trauma or self harm. Thank you for your content. Its always appreciated and brings a sense of belonging to myself and others I know with recognition of our uglier traits and character defects. Thank you!

[@blancarodriguez1340]

WOW, beautifully written ♥️🥺

[@VarunPrasadoneplusone]

Good to know that i like myself after the questionaire

[@hanakosho]

Last part made me cry

[@erick001bc]

Another thing I was ahead of my time for... I used to hate myself before it was cool.

[@honeythakur509]

Waiting for the new " the school of life " app 🙌

[@rohan34]

This a very beautiful video... Really liked it ..❤️

[@annasolanis]

I am aware of my faults. I have never ever thought of myself in those negative ways.

[@sps627]

Love and respect

[@DefenderOfVirginity]

ah yes, my favorite past time; hating myself and my own existence.

[@ivaniovinemonteiro7581]

This video needs subtitles, I'm from Brazil and there is at least 5 people that need to see this video.

[@altinmares8363]

PLEASE POST MORE VIDEOS ABOUT -Thales of Miletus -Parmenides -Heraclitus -Anaximender -Al Kindi

[@cavalierclemens]

Could the School of life make a video about how to speak a eulogy or best man speech?

[@Memyx]

Had to pause about halfway through. Almost started to cry at work. Bad sign?

[@awkwardboi7183]

Everything will get better brother..you are perfect the way you are :)

[@Watch-0w1]

Yeah I almost reach that as well. Think of a goal that must be done.

[@karlm3179]

It sounds like this video refers to a specific book because of the line "This book is not for them". Does anyone know which title is being referenced?

[@Egerotti11034]

This is (and probably always will be) the only test I got full point 😁

[@Me97202]

I’m not thrilled with several aspects of ME…but nothing rises to a level of “Hate.” For which I’m grateful. Good thoughts, long hugs and deep empathy for those going through any self hatred.

[@wimwiddershins]

Negative self talk does more harm than just about anything else we do.

[@mofomartianp]

Then why do we do it?

[@InsuranceExplained]

Awesome video 👍

[@thunderbear9418]

Self hatred took me from being an over weight, depressed loser to where I am now. Sometimes we need to hate what we are in a given moment in time, not ourselves as a whole, to improve.

[@maelmesplou5972]

probably depends much on the person and the context. I'm sure a lot of people hate themselves without doing anything about it. But what's the statistical reality ? don't know

[@gymnorhinusxuyg8793]

Good for you ;) How did you start to workout? Any fitness plan you could share?

[@hunniepots8062]

i think self-hatred means something different. feeling anger and disgust and moving towards improving yourself is not what most people mean by self-hatred. that's actually a step away from self hatred. the problems with terms like this or self compassion for example is that the words have different meanings and connotations to different people and from different times as well. But don't want to detract from what you're saying. Happy for you that you are able to improve and come to a place where you appreciate you!

[@forfucksakecomrade]

Nah you just hated being fat. True self hatred is not wanting to exist

[@WaterproofSoap]

So, today I learned how much I hate myself..... ....I guess I am *good* at *something*

[@gazzhumbly5433]

This video basically explains my whole life

[@lars1588]

I've been coming to the realization over the past few months that I have been so horrible to myself for my entire life. I have literally almost never had one goo thought about myself for any long period of time without it being destroyed by myself. Like, I'll think "I look nice today," and then my mind will go "Absolutely not! You're eyes look bad today (or any other obscure cosmetic detail of myself)."

[@nizasiamehenry]

Top gets; Often I can't bare who I am, Am shameful, Am weak, I don't deserve much sympathy,

[@mofomartianp]

I know exactly what you mean. I would add - I am also inadequate, passive, cowardly, angry, resentful and bitter. And I hate myself for all those reasons.

[@nizasiamehenry]

@@mofomartianp wow! Did you read my mind

[@KeithGreenshields]

Nothing like starting your day with a nice cup of "what is wrong with me"

[@fonz6466]

This woman's voice is damn soothing.

[@krishnayedage8130]

Thanks,

[@drknow1997]

I am basically a zero on all but one question. The question about bound to fail is the only one I scored 5 and that’s because I started a new business and new businesses have a high failure rate. So I doubt myself sometimes. Other than that, I think I am pretty great 😊

[@konan8353]

5 is pretty realistic. Still, 50/50 odds aren't too bad right? You can always start another one and you'll have better odds

[@yumemitai612]

Fuck yeah. Good luck with your new business.

[@celinanamalambo9798]

I don't need to think of all the things wrong with me. My family and some friends are always right here to tell me, feature by feature all the things wrong with me. It shouldn't be possible to be this broken, but somehow I managed it

[@anastasiosdimtsis1]

I've been told all my life that I'm disgustingly ugly and useless. I've hated myself for a long time

[@manic6461]

I hate myself even after I lost weight lol

[@infuturum4195]

Hey! Cold you do a video on Carl Hauptmann? Would be great! Keep up your work and greetings from Germany

[@drumdad54sdl47]

It's past time to cease loathing ourselves; without letting the pendulum swing too far the other way toward ego or arrogance. We aren't as bad as we think we are. Let us strive to smooth out rough edges..soothe the raging critic within..seek to become better humans each day.

[@juliemaxwell6902]

Oh and to add to this! People closest think it's a sympathy plea, but all I really want is understanding as to why I've become this way! I don't want pity as thats awful and that's why I don't want to talk to ppl when I've reached a low! Infact I keep to myself more!

[@saltiestsiren]

And then once you finish the questionnaire you can advance to feeling ashamed about feeling ashamed.

[@juliaastarina8763]

Well, as a solace to myself, at least I don't think I marked every single question as fitting me to the T. Though the animated girl's hair texture and belly is fully me, ha!

[@elizamochahari]

I dont have such issues. Thank god but yes I was depressed and maybe healing now.

[@taabishkhanself-improvemen7331]

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...” ―C. S. Lewis Love from a small KZbinr💙

[@wanda5983]

10 on every question :)

[@slinkrose225]

Hi, can you cover the term "favorite person" in regards to Borderline Personality Disorder? Im really trying to find a video like this for it but I cannot find one.

[@altinmares8363]

PLEASE POST MORE VIDEOS ABOUT -Thales of Miletus -Parmenides -Empedocles -Heraclitus -Anaximender -Al Kindi

[@aldelgado9343]

I feel worthless, and usuless,i hate myself