I keep thinking about Lydia and the amazing marriage she will have I hope she will bring us along in that because I just love to see her go through life's seasons and I know she will be an excellent wife and mom
@agirlnamedfave Жыл бұрын
Petition to have more TMI episodes per week. Coz what will I do after finishing this episode😢
@kc_Dorcus Жыл бұрын
Me too...i have been waiting for what seems like forever
@EuniterMumbua Жыл бұрын
I support
@sashanjeri1575 Жыл бұрын
I 👍 agree
@pearlowen5130 Жыл бұрын
Radical acceptance 😂
@EuniterMumbua Жыл бұрын
Nancy listens please pass our plea
@sheeqowmuchiri6229 Жыл бұрын
Murugi is a wonderful mom,,everytime she talks about how she parents,,I feel lucky for her kids,,you are doing amazing dear
@thatobaloyi6194 Жыл бұрын
The best
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 🙂 ❤️
@glowriacheru4114 Жыл бұрын
Truee
@beatricemuringi4120 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful episode. As a counselor in the making, this episode hits home. The 1st time I heard about "people pleasing" was in therapy 4yrs ago. I just thought I was a nice person 🤣🤣. People pleasers started off as parent pleasers. We don't just happen, we are made by our experiences.
@DiamondQuality1 Жыл бұрын
Murugi proud of you for starting and staying in therapy. And Lydia for working on yourself enough to influence us. 🎉
@veronicahngaru5917 Жыл бұрын
Loved today's episode. I started therapy consistently and I love the journey heeh! It's the unpacking for me, something I have learned in therapy is "My therapist told me that, therapy is like rehab, you have to be more aware, sacrifice, accountability, and be ready to embrace the change", also I love how deep you get into the sessions and do a deep dive into your childhood and discover a lot that probably might have contributed to the way you are behaving now. Also, another thing I learned and I'm still learning in therapy is losses, losing ourselves in relationships, friendships, toxic work environments, situation-ships, jobs, etc etc you name it. Therapy is eye-opening and I'm really loving the journey. Also the confidence that you gain,heeh! wacha tuu!
@elsiekariuki3914 Жыл бұрын
I was writing notes as I watched lol 😂 People pleasers started out as parent pleasers: a fact esp growing up with a parent who expected perfection and for you to be everybody's good example except yourself. I used to say I wouldn't want a christian therapist. Sometimes I just can't reconcile going to therapy and being christian. But at this point in my journey I feel like I would actually want one just to hear their perspective and how to reconcile those two. Hmm... Being an overfunctioning woman and it being generational trauma is true especially for African women. Remember those memes of never being idle in an African home cause your mum expects you to be doing something all the time? Resting is seen as laziness. You can't even sleep in cause why are you not up at 5.30am🙆🏽♀️
@shellynwanjiru Жыл бұрын
Murugi, here's to remind you that you are doing amazing as a mum,wife, business lady literally everything and all the sacrifices.This episode was deep ♥️ sending you hugs🤗
@julietmwaniki8349 Жыл бұрын
This episode resonated w me so much bc starting therapy saved my life fr. I'm glad I get to work on my trauma and break generational curses as early as my 20s because I am investing in a lifetime of a healthy mind. Kwanza when Lydia said you can set boundaries from pain, I paused as well. We don't grow up watching many women choose themselves and create boundaries that serve them. Sometimes I like to take a nap even when I haven't worked at all because I can just rest, just because! Unlearning hypervigilance and being in the moment is definitely taking some time but I love the idea of enjoying the bus stop because I am here, now. Can't wait for part 2!!!! Also, loving seeing y'all getting that Betterhelp bag!!!!!!!
@victorianameneverner6271 Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣when Lydia said the Quote" Those who dont trust control" 🤣🤣🤣Murugi's facial expression is hilarious...
@jasminejefwa1237 Жыл бұрын
Stop it 🤣🤣
@froggaety Жыл бұрын
My therapist taught me to trust my instincts. I've often been scared of getting it wrong and hurting people, but that thing has been right all the time. I also love how therapy is more about guiding you to find the path that feels best for you, rather than handing you a solution on a silver platter. I remember asking my therapist if I should break up with someone because of the "petty" reasons I listed (I didn't want to be around them, their existence annoyed me,...) and she just kept asking me how I feel and what I really want😭. It was so frustrating, like woman, I'm paying you to help me make a choice😢. (She was right though.)
@Finderr_Network Жыл бұрын
Being in the moment can be challenging, but my perspective shifted when I understood that I don't move through time. I am constantly in the present, and time has an obligation to find me here. Instead of getting lost in the past or the future, acknowledging this fact and having faith that time will naturally unfold, I am able to fulfill my purpose using the time that comes my way. This understanding has helped me a lot with things like imaginary suffering and anxiety. It has brought clarity, focus, and contentment into my life. I have found internal rest, and let me tell you, resting within is synonymous with heaven.
@catherinepnyambura5999 Жыл бұрын
This is a beautiful comment. I am reminded of the joy of enjoying the present moment.
@MAZE254 Жыл бұрын
Overthinking and being all around like a clock.....and now the enlightenment about therapy.....it an episode on the right time.
@shereads2344 Жыл бұрын
The eloquency and articularcy is top tier 👌
@SunshineVickie Жыл бұрын
If you see the way I "therapize" everything these days because of you people 😂❤️❤️ I'm loving the growth in me
@Lavvvvvyyyyy Жыл бұрын
Same sis same🥺🥺🥺
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
We love this for you🥺🤎
@zipporahakware Жыл бұрын
The hypervigilance/ over functioning may mostly come from the way we were raised. We have been taught that sitting still is wrong, that to be productive/ efficient you always have to be moving and thinking of the next thing etc. So eventually sitting still becomes sin! 😂
@mitchellmaina83 Жыл бұрын
The way our parents get sooooo irritated to see us resting even for a second
@dyliabella Жыл бұрын
i find that i can only fully relax when ive done everything i planned out, especially around the house. when we were kids it was an abomination to watch telly or play outside when chores had not been done
@damahtanui4092 Жыл бұрын
Lyd's dress is giving ❤❤❤
@esthermutahi2811 Жыл бұрын
Been to therapy and one thing is for sure It's the best gift you can give yourself. Therapy is a self-investment.
@lorenekangethe3032 Жыл бұрын
I am to work and always at work when they drop the episode i am so used and comfortable listening to the podcast on spotify but i had to switch to youtube to listen and watch this this has me holding in my tears cant wait to get my car and pour them just because of how powerful and at the same time emotional this podcast is ❤️ i have always been a sister of tmi since episode 5 and this women are it you are getting to places !! This info needs not to be free IF YOU HAVE NOT SUBSCRIBED PLS DO!!!!
@musinare Жыл бұрын
Wednesday is probably now my favorite day as well. I started podcasting earlier this year and after struggling to figure out my life balance, I decided I’d be putting out episodes on Wednesday as well. It’s so rewarding to watch a fresh episode of TMI when I know i have an episode up as well Great episode as always loves
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your new podcast🎉, we both have our episodes up on Wednesday 😍🤩. Thank you 🤎
@maureennyanjui8475 Жыл бұрын
Love that it's okay to have a standard for the type of therapist you want.
@lynnettekm1661 Жыл бұрын
I have actually been looking for a therapy plug..A lot has been happening in my life and it gets so overwhelming sometimes. It feels like am strong to hold on and then other times,it hits you like a hurricane and you just want someone to talk to..Thanks for this
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Now you have BetterHelp,and it will get better babe hung in there 🤎
@sumayahyiga7833 Жыл бұрын
Better help is huge congratulations babes 🎉❤ Massive love from UAE
@hakayi9130 Жыл бұрын
I love it here and this is going to be one of my favorite episodes yet. Healthy self aware people are my kind of people.Lets heal.❤
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Sharing the same feeling for sure🤗
@sandramakena916 Жыл бұрын
People pleasers start off as parent pleasers. So insightful!
@rosemarymbonika8945 Жыл бұрын
This needs a part two wehhh!! This is an episode I'll relisten to.i was listen whilst doing other things .but this needs a pen a notebook.
@rosemarymbonika8945 Жыл бұрын
My mom is EXACTLY LIKE JO.SHE MICROMANAGES EVERYTHING N LORD! IM SO SCARED I'VE PICKED IT UP .ANYWAY Working on it in therapy.
@everlynembeke1589 Жыл бұрын
Finally am plunging on therapy come 2024.I think it's time to deal with childhood trauma,s and break generational curses.I love Lydia KM dress❤
@victorianameneverner6271 Жыл бұрын
Murugi I'm with you there by the hiring myself... Im intentional on releasing and firing myself, and letting go of the people pleaser in me.
@margaretkamau9080 Жыл бұрын
This episode needs a part 2
@sunshineheaven1802 Жыл бұрын
☺ many lessons here, thank you. What if resting feels like no purpose. Doing tasks gives us purpose and validates our existence.
@mlale_lynne Жыл бұрын
Murugi is soooo beautiful omg Your eyes are just gorgeous 🥰..I love both of y'all so much ❤️
@user-yh8fn2xg9r Жыл бұрын
First, you guys do great work with the pod. As a dude in my early 20s, I have gained a lot of insights from your episodes. Episode 30 will always be my favorite. I have a question though. In your opinion, is therapy something that is meant to be consistent throughout your life? In my opinion, I don't think it should be. I think it should be done when life has major changes or some life events have happened that the person might not know how to correctly adjust to. I think the goal should be to gain the tools needed for the person to deal with the life changes in the best and most fulfilling way. After that, the tools gained from the therapist should be used to move through life. I liken it to go to a doctor. An example, the doctor will give you treatment and tell you how to live healthier; eating right, exercising and so on. After this initial coping period is achieved, and structures have been put in place, I think therapy becomes a crutch, and a crutch past a certain point is not useful. Curious to know your thoughts.
@gracewangui3338 Жыл бұрын
It's different for everyone and that is something personal. If you liken it to going to a doctor,a onetime sickness will be managed once and your good but with lifelong diseases you will need constant check ups...so just like in diseases of the body there are levels to the unwellness of the mind and some may need it consistently lifelong
@unapologeticallymega9936 Жыл бұрын
Tell me why I'm 2hrs late😫 anyway it's definitely TMI guys and our hosts are back❤ murugi n the family are back from vacation and Lydia is back to the gym after the chipmunk situation ❤we love and missed you guys..Thank you for another episode 🎉🎉🎉
@WonderMau Жыл бұрын
Going to therapy helped me to identify my insecurities, my strength, my weakness and toxic traits. But when it came to finding solutions with conflicts I was having with person A or B.. I always felt like there was something missing there are certain things you just have to hear from the horses mouth I guess. Most of the time I would explain myself to my therapist, sentence like I get you, I understand you would follow but that didn't really help me because the people that were supposed to say those words were never saying those words..Infact they never even consider my feelings at all.
@chikhuambali3737 Жыл бұрын
People pleasers started off as parent pleasers..ding ding ding😣..So true and it’s exhausting 😓
@dyliabella Жыл бұрын
loved this episode... and the episode is 1:11:11 long, alignment. I've been to therapy. twas enlightening. ... but she didn't know that there are types of attachment styles, so we couldn't delve into how i thought it affected a sizeable part of my interactions both at work and outside work.
@lizzynjeri8538 Жыл бұрын
I hope i will afford it because i can feel everything falling apart ,,,,am not okay but everyone expects me as a grown up to move on from everything but i really wish its that easy 😔😔
@trendytees2542 Жыл бұрын
This episode is it!!! I have always thought i'm a selfless person kumbe i'm a great people pleaser and therapy made me realise how i have been saying no to myself while saying yes to everything and everyone. I'm glad Lyd made me realise going to therapy is a form of self love and i'm on that healing and self love journey and i love it guys!
@3njuguna Жыл бұрын
Wow this is an amazing conversation right there. You guys are doing an amazing job.The day I met a therapist from Wema Infinite my life is never the same. If they get to see this I appreciate them.
@jekameam Жыл бұрын
There's a lot of gems here, cant wait to unpack
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Take your notebook out 🌼
@lyssdeliciangabirano2990 Жыл бұрын
A big pause on « radical acceptance » coz why is my brain frozen and I have missed my bus stop?? I need therapy ASAP😂
@vlogsbyjowaka46409 ай бұрын
I loved this episode 🎉🎉🎉... This year i took a step of courage and visited a therapist for the first time. When i entered the first thing i saw was a glass of water and a tissue and told my self i don't think im gonna neeed that but let mee tell you maina i opened up and cried. Cant wait for my second session. Ive seen my life changing and you guys have also been an impact.
@jekameam Жыл бұрын
I totally feels like tharapy itself 😅. Lydia's radical acceptance, Murugi's not living in the moment just hits home. Hope theres a part two 🤞.
@annenjogu8033 Жыл бұрын
It's how much I related with Murugi's hypervigilance! Can't wait for part two!!
@njambikiburio7836 Жыл бұрын
“Question every SHOULD”Lydia KM.I love it!
@peonies2121 Жыл бұрын
Both you ladies are really excellent speakers on the podcast. It’s my first time watching one of your episodes - really impressed!
@Irenewk Жыл бұрын
What a timely episode! I have reached out to therapists here in Melbourne for my first ever consultation. Will let you know how it goes🙂
@tfa4782 Жыл бұрын
Pleeeeaaaaase do the feminine episode even if it means getting a guest
@lira-jennyatanga1404 Жыл бұрын
Yes please
@shalommirembe500 Жыл бұрын
I wanna comment but I've lost words that explain my thoughts right now ❤ d episode ladies❤
@esthermwaniki8608 Жыл бұрын
We tried therapy as a family when i was younger n i remembered my mum walking out after that never thought too much therapy. But listening to this i think i van relate to so much now i think i need therapy
@TheGuyatu Жыл бұрын
Thank you ladies this is an eye opener. Gosh the way ladies are self aware these days I wish men too take this path. I'm definitely starting therapy soon. Its funny how us ladies feel it's all about us, even on our men's special days instead of them we flip it n turn it about us. Sigh! An episode we all needed❤
@graciakinyanjui693711 ай бұрын
Therapy is crucial i have a relative abroad each time she feels low or stuck about something she like i need to schedule a session with my therapist... sounds so easy .. we need to normalize it
@graceguya1682 Жыл бұрын
Very enlightening episode. The point about not enjoying things in the moment is relatable , as I often find myself focused on overanalyzing current problems and creating scenarios for future problems. It made me pause and realise that I am living at least one of the wishes of my 2022 self. Keep it up with the vulnerable conversations About the point on women and rest. I think at least in Africa, with how culture and religion is structured, we are conditioned to attach it to value and showing love. We have been conditioned to "love" the hard life and struggle, even to the point of fighting measures that can make our lives easier and more efficient. About the point of christian based therapists and advice. I think the problem arises from two things: 1. The fact that mental illnesses arent given the importance they deserve. The old school mentality of its an evil spirit and pray for it to go away is still there. Reason 2. that some christians see going for therapy as a sign that they are admitting they dont believe in God's strength. The realization that prayer isnt a magical pill that fixes problems and that practical real life solutions also known as taking action or seeking help is needed( for whatever issue) is a hard fact for many to accept.
@wambuimuthoni4221 Жыл бұрын
I have loved this episode. On radical acceptance I think it's more of accepting the season you are in life and have an open mind of what if this is the end,not a bus stop as Lydia said.
@pearlowen5130 Жыл бұрын
I am feeling a lot of things about today's episode. Well i guess cant put it to words but Thank you.
@user-mc7ew7bs5m Жыл бұрын
This episode has been amaizing!!!! Can’t wait for part 2… I might actually go back to therapy after this episode…I thought I was done but, aperently NOT after watching this episode … something normal to me might be just a societal belief/custom or something I picked up from my family or maybe my husband !!!! Literally evaluating how I think/ believe ! I need to unpack a lot ! I can watch 100 of this episodes! Mentally stimulated! Good job guys❤❤
@missuniverse7961 Жыл бұрын
i have gone for therapy three times and i realised i need it and will always need it....and let me tell TMI its not the good things told there is discomfort in hearing somethings that maybe we assume
@MIMIBREE11 ай бұрын
Just realised that this guy I'm talking to is going for therapy. I'm in love already😂❤
@abbykykys4586 Жыл бұрын
My whole week has been chaos finally I can relax for the next one hour ❤
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
A needed breather🌼Enjoy!
@allthingswamuyu Жыл бұрын
1 hour 11 minutes 11 seconds 😂, gotta go get a snack, a couple actually, cause imma about to enjoy this one 😂😂🎉.
@JudieSharlet Жыл бұрын
This conversation is so serious and timely❤❤
@jossiemwangi4441 Жыл бұрын
Minute 27:10 Murugi just talked to me😌😔 Thankyou ladies❤❤
@Sharon_Njoki.M Жыл бұрын
This episode is so timely , thanks girls! The self awareness that comes with therapy is so refreshing 😌 You look stunning 😍
@mariechigoah Жыл бұрын
It's like I'm in therapy already omg 👁️👄👁️ the people pleasing is definitely true and it's something I'm really working on right. Thanks babe's for this, I will start therapy and update y'all. Much love ❤
@DeDollyshow Жыл бұрын
Murugi you are doing amazing with Ethan❤
@PSDerekexe Жыл бұрын
You guys have really spoken to my soul here. Thanks so much
@silviamacharia9030 Жыл бұрын
Wow! I love you both. I have learned a lot. So inspiring, therapy it is!
@msdeesubtle8105 Жыл бұрын
My goodness. I honestly need therapy. It has been a really informative and eye opening episode. I love being here. Thank you #TMI
@carolosuji768411 ай бұрын
I am Murugi, my name too is Murugi, i see myself so much in you. I love you guys
@milkahkarera-lv4vf Жыл бұрын
Can't wait for part 2 of this episode. All that has been discussed is relatable.
@JudieSharlet Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂Damn I love you guys.. That part where lydia is like, "its sexy."
@yvonnewinfreyug Жыл бұрын
First and foremost y'all look so beautiful in those dresses, Lydia is right about that pink.big up ladies
@JustMissKalea Жыл бұрын
This is my favourite episode so far. 🎉🎉 Thank you for sharing your experiences. Love from Malawi🇲🇼
@miriamshaba5004 Жыл бұрын
Malawi nzanga ndakuona it is definitely TMI🔥🔥💯💯
@JustMissKalea Жыл бұрын
Hallo hallo asisi
@jackieK9506 Жыл бұрын
I wish you would share your therapist Murugi🤩,we have soo many similarities. But definitely will check the betterhelp. Can't miss any TMI podcast since i discovered you a few months ago.I even started watching from the beginning just to make sure i don't miss anything. You two are a perfect duo and i often find myself laughing at your jokes. Keep up the good work.
@Sharon_Njoki.M Жыл бұрын
Also struggling with 'living in the moment ' .... working to change this cause you constantly miss out on the present 🤗 I'll hop on that assignment too Murugi 😊
@Miss.NjambiKenya Жыл бұрын
This was such a great episode. It literally felt like a therapy session
@kellymwaniki1489 Жыл бұрын
Be still in the moment, Radical acceptance
@maureeniguanya487 Жыл бұрын
Wednesssssdays!!! Thank you for ever existing.
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Oooh yasss #tmiwednesday
@DeDollyshow Жыл бұрын
If pretty was a person, that will be murugi and lydia, you ladies look stunning❤
@edwins..kitchendiaries Жыл бұрын
Much needed episode. Girls!!!!!!!!!
@fezzawuor1668 Жыл бұрын
Whew! Such gems dropped on this episode, thank you ❤️
@user-pt2eu1dr6e Жыл бұрын
I love how reassuring Lydia is❤
@missinjairu1448 Жыл бұрын
Wueh...this was just too wholesome. I needed this. Thank you ❤
@j.maureenwanjiku3545 Жыл бұрын
Can't wait to start therapy. First it's the gym though, my partner tells me that I need to allow people to help me.
@scoviaakello6016 Жыл бұрын
beautiful and thoroughly informative ... thank you lovely ladies.
@elosymuthoni7163 Жыл бұрын
An amazing episode...I love it here..therapy all day everywhere
@magnitow8085 Жыл бұрын
I promised myself to get a therapist once I get home from gulf coz weee I need to exhale 😢its really alot am not normal anymore😂😂😂
@vee3581 Жыл бұрын
You are both the perfect combo!. Lydia and Joan
@bernicefenton Жыл бұрын
14:30 - the effort into making king betweeners go for therapy 😂
@valentinengare3022 Жыл бұрын
Okay so i love you ladies..for sure..ive always loved Wednesdays because of you beautiful ladies. ❤so im gonna make an observation here, i feel like lydia is recently talking over Murugi, like not letting her finish her points, this is not the lydia i was used to.. something is changing here...anyways thank you ladies for alway sharing wisdom with us. Im always tuned in!! ❤❤❤
@rukiahkasyoki3875 Жыл бұрын
Always grasping a thing from all your episodes, lydia that dress looks good on you 😍, Murugi's dress is cute too, the pattern 😍
@B.Wanjiru Жыл бұрын
Wednesdays are better because of Lydia and Murugi❤❤
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
Aaw thanks babe ❤️❤️
@tunuangie9646 Жыл бұрын
Waiting for the part 2... Thanks girls❤
@millicentwambui84 Жыл бұрын
Wow this episode felt refreshing. GOOD JOB
@tfa4782 Жыл бұрын
What if you have trusted that something will be done but its actually never done? 😢
@joyceyugi9266 Жыл бұрын
Loved this episode ❤. Resonated with a lot of points. It's definitely TMI❤.
@MamaHarvey254 Жыл бұрын
Omg we need more episodes like these😘
@tmipodcastke Жыл бұрын
We gatchu babe🥺
@beloncekamz2821 Жыл бұрын
Wueh! I feel like this episode was for me. Yes mimi Murugi😌, I've been thinking of going to therapy since I first heard Lyd mention it. This was wholesome warembo👌🏾🔥. Asante❤