A therapist once said..."Things we've learnt in therapy" I Episode 110

[@sheeqowmuchiri6229]

I keep thinking about Lydia and the amazing marriage she will have I hope she will bring us along in that because I just love to see her go through life's seasons and I know she will be an excellent wife and mom

[@agirlnamedfave]

Petition to have more TMI episodes per week. Coz what will I do after finishing this episode😢

[@kc_Dorcus]

Me too...i have been waiting for what seems like forever

[@EuniterMumbua]

I support

[@sashanjeri1575]

I 👍 agree

[@pearlowen5130]

Radical acceptance 😂

[@EuniterMumbua]

Nancy listens please pass our plea

[@sheeqowmuchiri6229]

Murugi is a wonderful mom,,everytime she talks about how she parents,,I feel lucky for her kids,,you are doing amazing dear

[@thatobaloyi6194]

The best

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much 🙂 ❤️

[@glowriacheru4114]

Truee

[@beatricemuringi4120]

What a beautiful episode. As a counselor in the making, this episode hits home. The 1st time I heard about "people pleasing" was in therapy 4yrs ago. I just thought I was a nice person 🤣🤣. People pleasers started off as parent pleasers. We don't just happen, we are made by our experiences.

[@DiamondQuality1]

Murugi proud of you for starting and staying in therapy. And Lydia for working on yourself enough to influence us. 🎉

[@veronicahngaru5917]

Loved today's episode. I started therapy consistently and I love the journey heeh! It's the unpacking for me, something I have learned in therapy is "My therapist told me that, therapy is like rehab, you have to be more aware, sacrifice, accountability, and be ready to embrace the change", also I love how deep you get into the sessions and do a deep dive into your childhood and discover a lot that probably might have contributed to the way you are behaving now. Also, another thing I learned and I'm still learning in therapy is losses, losing ourselves in relationships, friendships, toxic work environments, situation-ships, jobs, etc etc you name it. Therapy is eye-opening and I'm really loving the journey. Also the confidence that you gain,heeh! wacha tuu!

[@elsiekariuki3914]

I was writing notes as I watched lol 😂 People pleasers started out as parent pleasers: a fact esp growing up with a parent who expected perfection and for you to be everybody's good example except yourself. I used to say I wouldn't want a christian therapist. Sometimes I just can't reconcile going to therapy and being christian. But at this point in my journey I feel like I would actually want one just to hear their perspective and how to reconcile those two. Hmm... Being an overfunctioning woman and it being generational trauma is true especially for African women. Remember those memes of never being idle in an African home cause your mum expects you to be doing something all the time? Resting is seen as laziness. You can't even sleep in cause why are you not up at 5.30am🙆🏽‍♀️

[@shellynwanjiru]

Murugi, here's to remind you that you are doing amazing as a mum,wife, business lady literally everything and all the sacrifices.This episode was deep ♥️ sending you hugs🤗

[@julietmwaniki8349]

This episode resonated w me so much bc starting therapy saved my life fr. I'm glad I get to work on my trauma and break generational curses as early as my 20s because I am investing in a lifetime of a healthy mind. Kwanza when Lydia said you can set boundaries from pain, I paused as well. We don't grow up watching many women choose themselves and create boundaries that serve them. Sometimes I like to take a nap even when I haven't worked at all because I can just rest, just because! Unlearning hypervigilance and being in the moment is definitely taking some time but I love the idea of enjoying the bus stop because I am here, now. Can't wait for part 2!!!! Also, loving seeing y'all getting that Betterhelp bag!!!!!!!

[@victorianameneverner6271]

🤣🤣🤣when Lydia said the Quote" Those who dont trust control" 🤣🤣🤣Murugi's facial expression is hilarious...

[@jasminejefwa1237]

Stop it 🤣🤣

[@froggaety]

My therapist taught me to trust my instincts. I've often been scared of getting it wrong and hurting people, but that thing has been right all the time. I also love how therapy is more about guiding you to find the path that feels best for you, rather than handing you a solution on a silver platter. I remember asking my therapist if I should break up with someone because of the "petty" reasons I listed (I didn't want to be around them, their existence annoyed me,...) and she just kept asking me how I feel and what I really want😭. It was so frustrating, like woman, I'm paying you to help me make a choice😢. (She was right though.)

[@Finderr_Network]

Being in the moment can be challenging, but my perspective shifted when I understood that I don't move through time. I am constantly in the present, and time has an obligation to find me here. Instead of getting lost in the past or the future, acknowledging this fact and having faith that time will naturally unfold, I am able to fulfill my purpose using the time that comes my way. This understanding has helped me a lot with things like imaginary suffering and anxiety. It has brought clarity, focus, and contentment into my life. I have found internal rest, and let me tell you, resting within is synonymous with heaven.

[@catherinepnyambura5999]

This is a beautiful comment. I am reminded of the joy of enjoying the present moment.

[@MAZE254]

Overthinking and being all around like a clock.....and now the enlightenment about therapy.....it an episode on the right time.

[@shereads2344]

The eloquency and articularcy is top tier 👌

[@SunshineVickie]

If you see the way I "therapize" everything these days because of you people 😂❤️❤️ I'm loving the growth in me

[@Lavvvvvyyyyy]

Same sis same🥺🥺🥺

[@tmipodcastke]

We love this for you🥺🤎

[@zipporahakware]

The hypervigilance/ over functioning may mostly come from the way we were raised. We have been taught that sitting still is wrong, that to be productive/ efficient you always have to be moving and thinking of the next thing etc. So eventually sitting still becomes sin! 😂

[@mitchellmaina83]

The way our parents get sooooo irritated to see us resting even for a second

[@dyliabella]

i find that i can only fully relax when ive done everything i planned out, especially around the house. when we were kids it was an abomination to watch telly or play outside when chores had not been done

[@damahtanui4092]

Lyd's dress is giving ❤❤❤

[@esthermutahi2811]

Been to therapy and one thing is for sure It's the best gift you can give yourself. Therapy is a self-investment.

[@lorenekangethe3032]

I am to work and always at work when they drop the episode i am so used and comfortable listening to the podcast on spotify but i had to switch to youtube to listen and watch this this has me holding in my tears cant wait to get my car and pour them just because of how powerful and at the same time emotional this podcast is ❤️ i have always been a sister of tmi since episode 5 and this women are it you are getting to places !! This info needs not to be free IF YOU HAVE NOT SUBSCRIBED PLS DO!!!!

[@musinare]

Wednesday is probably now my favorite day as well. I started podcasting earlier this year and after struggling to figure out my life balance, I decided I’d be putting out episodes on Wednesday as well. It’s so rewarding to watch a fresh episode of TMI when I know i have an episode up as well Great episode as always loves

[@tmipodcastke]

Congratulations on your new podcast🎉, we both have our episodes up on Wednesday 😍🤩. Thank you 🤎

[@maureennyanjui8475]

Love that it's okay to have a standard for the type of therapist you want.

[@lynnettekm1661]

I have actually been looking for a therapy plug..A lot has been happening in my life and it gets so overwhelming sometimes. It feels like am strong to hold on and then other times,it hits you like a hurricane and you just want someone to talk to..Thanks for this

[@tmipodcastke]

Now you have BetterHelp,and it will get better babe hung in there 🤎

[@sumayahyiga7833]

Better help is huge congratulations babes 🎉❤ Massive love from UAE

[@hakayi9130]

I love it here and this is going to be one of my favorite episodes yet. Healthy self aware people are my kind of people.Lets heal.❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Sharing the same feeling for sure🤗

[@sandramakena916]

People pleasers start off as parent pleasers. So insightful!

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

This needs a part two wehhh!! This is an episode I'll relisten to.i was listen whilst doing other things .but this needs a pen a notebook.

[@rosemarymbonika8945]

My mom is EXACTLY LIKE JO.SHE MICROMANAGES EVERYTHING N LORD! IM SO SCARED I'VE PICKED IT UP .ANYWAY Working on it in therapy.

[@everlynembeke1589]

Finally am plunging on therapy come 2024.I think it's time to deal with childhood trauma,s and break generational curses.I love Lydia KM dress❤

[@victorianameneverner6271]

Murugi I'm with you there by the hiring myself... Im intentional on releasing and firing myself, and letting go of the people pleaser in me.

[@margaretkamau9080]

This episode needs a part 2

[@sunshineheaven1802]

☺ many lessons here, thank you. What if resting feels like no purpose. Doing tasks gives us purpose and validates our existence.

[@mlale_lynne]

Murugi is soooo beautiful omg Your eyes are just gorgeous 🥰..I love both of y'all so much ❤️

[@user-yh8fn2xg9r]

First, you guys do great work with the pod. As a dude in my early 20s, I have gained a lot of insights from your episodes. Episode 30 will always be my favorite. I have a question though. In your opinion, is therapy something that is meant to be consistent throughout your life? In my opinion, I don't think it should be. I think it should be done when life has major changes or some life events have happened that the person might not know how to correctly adjust to. I think the goal should be to gain the tools needed for the person to deal with the life changes in the best and most fulfilling way. After that, the tools gained from the therapist should be used to move through life. I liken it to go to a doctor. An example, the doctor will give you treatment and tell you how to live healthier; eating right, exercising and so on. After this initial coping period is achieved, and structures have been put in place, I think therapy becomes a crutch, and a crutch past a certain point is not useful. Curious to know your thoughts.

[@gracewangui3338]

It's different for everyone and that is something personal. If you liken it to going to a doctor,a onetime sickness will be managed once and your good but with lifelong diseases you will need constant check ups...so just like in diseases of the body there are levels to the unwellness of the mind and some may need it consistently lifelong

[@unapologeticallymega9936]

Tell me why I'm 2hrs late😫 anyway it's definitely TMI guys and our hosts are back❤ murugi n the family are back from vacation and Lydia is back to the gym after the chipmunk situation ❤we love and missed you guys..Thank you for another episode 🎉🎉🎉

[@WonderMau]

Going to therapy helped me to identify my insecurities, my strength, my weakness and toxic traits. But when it came to finding solutions with conflicts I was having with person A or B.. I always felt like there was something missing there are certain things you just have to hear from the horses mouth I guess. Most of the time I would explain myself to my therapist, sentence like I get you, I understand you would follow but that didn't really help me because the people that were supposed to say those words were never saying those words..Infact they never even consider my feelings at all.

[@chikhuambali3737]

People pleasers started off as parent pleasers..ding ding ding😣..So true and it’s exhausting 😓

[@dyliabella]

loved this episode... and the episode is 1:11:11 long, alignment. I've been to therapy. twas enlightening. ... but she didn't know that there are types of attachment styles, so we couldn't delve into how i thought it affected a sizeable part of my interactions both at work and outside work.

[@lizzynjeri8538]

I hope i will afford it because i can feel everything falling apart ,,,,am not okay but everyone expects me as a grown up to move on from everything but i really wish its that easy 😔😔

[@trendytees2542]

This episode is it!!! I have always thought i'm a selfless person kumbe i'm a great people pleaser and therapy made me realise how i have been saying no to myself while saying yes to everything and everyone. I'm glad Lyd made me realise going to therapy is a form of self love and i'm on that healing and self love journey and i love it guys!

[@3njuguna]

Wow this is an amazing conversation right there. You guys are doing an amazing job.The day I met a therapist from Wema Infinite my life is never the same. If they get to see this I appreciate them.

[@jekameam]

There's a lot of gems here, cant wait to unpack

[@tmipodcastke]

Take your notebook out 🌼

[@lyssdeliciangabirano2990]

A big pause on « radical acceptance » coz why is my brain frozen and I have missed my bus stop?? I need therapy ASAP😂

[@vlogsbyjowaka4640]

I loved this episode 🎉🎉🎉... This year i took a step of courage and visited a therapist for the first time. When i entered the first thing i saw was a glass of water and a tissue and told my self i don't think im gonna neeed that but let mee tell you maina i opened up and cried. Cant wait for my second session. Ive seen my life changing and you guys have also been an impact.

[@jekameam]

I totally feels like tharapy itself 😅. Lydia's radical acceptance, Murugi's not living in the moment just hits home. Hope theres a part two 🤞.

[@annenjogu8033]

It's how much I related with Murugi's hypervigilance! Can't wait for part two!!

[@njambikiburio7836]

“Question every SHOULD”Lydia KM.I love it!

[@peonies2121]

Both you ladies are really excellent speakers on the podcast. It’s my first time watching one of your episodes - really impressed!

[@Irenewk]

What a timely episode! I have reached out to therapists here in Melbourne for my first ever consultation. Will let you know how it goes🙂

[@tfa4782]

Pleeeeaaaaase do the feminine episode even if it means getting a guest

[@lira-jennyatanga1404]

Yes please

[@shalommirembe500]

I wanna comment but I've lost words that explain my thoughts right now ❤ d episode ladies❤

[@esthermwaniki8608]

We tried therapy as a family when i was younger n i remembered my mum walking out after that never thought too much therapy. But listening to this i think i van relate to so much now i think i need therapy

[@TheGuyatu]

Thank you ladies this is an eye opener. Gosh the way ladies are self aware these days I wish men too take this path. I'm definitely starting therapy soon. Its funny how us ladies feel it's all about us, even on our men's special days instead of them we flip it n turn it about us. Sigh! An episode we all needed❤

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Therapy is crucial i have a relative abroad each time she feels low or stuck about something she like i need to schedule a session with my therapist... sounds so easy .. we need to normalize it

[@graceguya1682]

Very enlightening episode. The point about not enjoying things in the moment is relatable , as I often find myself focused on overanalyzing current problems and creating scenarios for future problems. It made me pause and realise that I am living at least one of the wishes of my 2022 self. Keep it up with the vulnerable conversations About the point on women and rest. I think at least in Africa, with how culture and religion is structured, we are conditioned to attach it to value and showing love. We have been conditioned to "love" the hard life and struggle, even to the point of fighting measures that can make our lives easier and more efficient. About the point of christian based therapists and advice. I think the problem arises from two things: 1. The fact that mental illnesses arent given the importance they deserve. The old school mentality of its an evil spirit and pray for it to go away is still there. Reason 2. that some christians see going for therapy as a sign that they are admitting they dont believe in God's strength. The realization that prayer isnt a magical pill that fixes problems and that practical real life solutions also known as taking action or seeking help is needed( for whatever issue) is a hard fact for many to accept.

[@wambuimuthoni4221]

I have loved this episode. On radical acceptance I think it's more of accepting the season you are in life and have an open mind of what if this is the end,not a bus stop as Lydia said.

[@pearlowen5130]

I am feeling a lot of things about today's episode. Well i guess cant put it to words but Thank you.

[@user-mc7ew7bs5m]

This episode has been amaizing!!!! Can’t wait for part 2… I might actually go back to therapy after this episode…I thought I was done but, aperently NOT after watching this episode … something normal to me might be just a societal belief/custom or something I picked up from my family or maybe my husband !!!! Literally evaluating how I think/ believe ! I need to unpack a lot ! I can watch 100 of this episodes! Mentally stimulated! Good job guys❤❤

[@missuniverse7961]

i have gone for therapy three times and i realised i need it and will always need it....and let me tell TMI its not the good things told there is discomfort in hearing somethings that maybe we assume

[@MIMIBREE]

Just realised that this guy I'm talking to is going for therapy. I'm in love already😂❤

[@abbykykys4586]

My whole week has been chaos finally I can relax for the next one hour ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

A needed breather🌼Enjoy!

[@allthingswamuyu]

1 hour 11 minutes 11 seconds 😂, gotta go get a snack, a couple actually, cause imma about to enjoy this one 😂😂🎉.

[@JudieSharlet]

This conversation is so serious and timely❤❤

[@jossiemwangi4441]

Minute 27:10 Murugi just talked to me😌😔 Thankyou ladies❤❤

[@Sharon_Njoki.M]

This episode is so timely , thanks girls! The self awareness that comes with therapy is so refreshing 😌 You look stunning 😍

[@mariechigoah]

It's like I'm in therapy already omg 👁️👄👁️ the people pleasing is definitely true and it's something I'm really working on right. Thanks babe's for this, I will start therapy and update y'all. Much love ❤

[@DeDollyshow]

Murugi you are doing amazing with Ethan❤

[@PSDerekexe]

You guys have really spoken to my soul here. Thanks so much

[@silviamacharia9030]

Wow! I love you both. I have learned a lot. So inspiring, therapy it is!

[@msdeesubtle8105]

My goodness. I honestly need therapy. It has been a really informative and eye opening episode. I love being here. Thank you #TMI

[@carolosuji7684]

I am Murugi, my name too is Murugi, i see myself so much in you. I love you guys

[@milkahkarera-lv4vf]

Can't wait for part 2 of this episode. All that has been discussed is relatable.

[@JudieSharlet]

😂😂😂Damn I love you guys.. That part where lydia is like, "its sexy."

[@yvonnewinfreyug]

First and foremost y'all look so beautiful in those dresses, Lydia is right about that pink.big up ladies

[@JustMissKalea]

This is my favourite episode so far. 🎉🎉 Thank you for sharing your experiences. Love from Malawi🇲🇼

[@miriamshaba5004]

Malawi nzanga ndakuona it is definitely TMI🔥🔥💯💯

[@JustMissKalea]

Hallo hallo asisi

[@jackieK9506]

I wish you would share your therapist Murugi🤩,we have soo many similarities. But definitely will check the betterhelp. Can't miss any TMI podcast since i discovered you a few months ago.I even started watching from the beginning just to make sure i don't miss anything. You two are a perfect duo and i often find myself laughing at your jokes. Keep up the good work.

[@Sharon_Njoki.M]

Also struggling with 'living in the moment ' .... working to change this cause you constantly miss out on the present 🤗 I'll hop on that assignment too Murugi 😊

[@Miss.NjambiKenya]

This was such a great episode. It literally felt like a therapy session

[@kellymwaniki1489]

Be still in the moment, Radical acceptance

[@maureeniguanya487]

Wednesssssdays!!! Thank you for ever existing.

[@tmipodcastke]

Oooh yasss #tmiwednesday

[@DeDollyshow]

If pretty was a person, that will be murugi and lydia, you ladies look stunning❤

[@edwins..kitchendiaries]

Much needed episode. Girls!!!!!!!!!

[@fezzawuor1668]

Whew! Such gems dropped on this episode, thank you ❤️

[@user-pt2eu1dr6e]

I love how reassuring Lydia is❤

[@missinjairu1448]

Wueh...this was just too wholesome. I needed this. Thank you ❤

[@j.maureenwanjiku3545]

Can't wait to start therapy. First it's the gym though, my partner tells me that I need to allow people to help me.

[@scoviaakello6016]

beautiful and thoroughly informative ... thank you lovely ladies.

[@elosymuthoni7163]

An amazing episode...I love it here..therapy all day everywhere

[@magnitow8085]

I promised myself to get a therapist once I get home from gulf coz weee I need to exhale 😢its really alot am not normal anymore😂😂😂

[@vee3581]

You are both the perfect combo!. Lydia and Joan

[@bernicefenton]

14:30 - the effort into making king betweeners go for therapy 😂

[@valentinengare3022]

Okay so i love you ladies..for sure..ive always loved Wednesdays because of you beautiful ladies. ❤so im gonna make an observation here, i feel like lydia is recently talking over Murugi, like not letting her finish her points, this is not the lydia i was used to.. something is changing here...anyways thank you ladies for alway sharing wisdom with us. Im always tuned in!! ❤❤❤

[@rukiahkasyoki3875]

Always grasping a thing from all your episodes, lydia that dress looks good on you 😍, Murugi's dress is cute too, the pattern 😍

[@B.Wanjiru]

Wednesdays are better because of Lydia and Murugi❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Aaw thanks babe ❤️❤️

[@tunuangie9646]

Waiting for the part 2... Thanks girls❤

[@millicentwambui84]

Wow this episode felt refreshing. GOOD JOB

[@tfa4782]

What if you have trusted that something will be done but its actually never done? 😢

[@joyceyugi9266]

Loved this episode ❤. Resonated with a lot of points. It's definitely TMI❤.

[@MamaHarvey254]

Omg we need more episodes like these😘

[@tmipodcastke]

We gatchu babe🥺

[@beloncekamz2821]

Wueh! I feel like this episode was for me. Yes mimi Murugi😌, I've been thinking of going to therapy since I first heard Lyd mention it. This was wholesome warembo👌🏾🔥. Asante❤

[@diananzisar3234]

Such a worthwhile conversation!