A Woman's Sexual Desire: Increasing Penile Length, Porn, Masturbation, Dating & Seduction | Rena M

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Get ready for some of the most practical advice on improving sexual well-being on the internet - so you can MASTER seduction and THOROUGHLY please a woman.
On the show today is Dr. Rena Malik, a sexual health expert that helps men and women have better sex and more orgasms.
We’re diving head first into the world of sexual pleasure, debunking myths (some of them are dangerous!), and exploring ways to enhance sexual satisfaction for both parties.
Dr. Rena is giving ALL her actionable advice on improving sexual experiences and prolonging performance in the bedroom, so you might want to take notes!
We touch on:
- the anatomy of sexual pleasure
- advice for short guys
- the average penis size
- safe ways to extend your equipment
- how to maintain excitement in long-term relationships
- why porn is setting you up for failure
- TRT and desire
- how introduce new experiences or fantasies into a relationship
- does size really matter?
- the downsides of jelqing
- societal expectations & performance anxiety
- the orgasm gap
- why foreplay is more important than you think
- communication & its role in satisfying sex
Whether you're curious about improving your sexual performance or seeking to better understand your partner's needs, this interview offers valuable insights and practical tips for a fulfilling sexual life.
Chapter Markers:
[0:00] It’s not the size, it’s YOU
[21:18] The sex toy study
[44:03] What porn is doing to your sex life
[1:05:49] Fleshlights and equal contenders
[1:42:47] Anxieties in the bedroom
[2:11:45] Arguing, communication, and arousal
[2:33:35] Alcohol, weed, and cigarettes killing your erections?
Powerful Insights From Dr. Rena Malik:
“Foreplay starts at the beginning of the date.”
"85% of women need some form of clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, which means that they don't need a penetrating, a penis penetrating them to achieve orgasm."
"It is so accessible that kids as young as eight are seeing pornography... It can really release a lot of dopamine, which can then make you feel like you're seeking that again over and over again."
"Not every woman wants a very large penis. We joke about it all the time. We talk about it all the time because society makes it seem like this is the be all, end all…”
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Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships

[@TomBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@BLACKBEARD-117]

Only social security numbers😂

[@Hybrid_vigour]

Is better not be another lesbian feminist.

[@MrGolonkam]

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[@_mrisha_]

“ Lol, Bonkers, jocular, .” Tom you are utterly legendary!

[@user-fk1xe6zf1k]

Tom you are a patriot, compassionate, just, intelligent ( genius), ethical, good hearted, please think about making a change for mankind

[@RenaMalikMD]

Thanks for having me on!

[@emileecvz]

You were an amazing guest. Excited to see your future works

[@Burkhimself]

Love your content.

[@BigDaddy-fu8rz]

Thank you Dr Igho for the professionalism with which you do vour work. You listen to vour client and always put their needs first to ensure they live another day healthy and vibrant. I never thought there was a way to Improve my penis size and girth naturally using herbal remedies, your medicine has not only shown me but has also shown the world how effective herbal medicines are.

[@libertarianspirit]

step 0: stop watching corn, step 1: workout hard, step 2: eat clean diet, lots of protein, high quality fats, lots of nutriens, remove alcohol completely, keep low body fat but not too low, step 3: get rid of social anxiety. Then you will be hard all the time, like machine lol.

[@dantheman1337]

Bro do this bro... Brooo bro eat clean bro. Protein bro, no fap bro. Brotastic

[@tetedur377]

@@Symbolic-cg8sx And Corn Pop was a bad dude.

[@imanoldurham5395]

Pop Corn

[@bozley149]

I do all this. Still no change

[@frj73]

Fap without corn should be fine. Use it or loose it😂

[@stuartanderson6785]

I agree that a lot of men need to pay more attention to the woman during sex, but I am also a bit bored with so many women saying that men are horrible in bed when, in fact, a lot of times women are completely clueless: they bend it, they twist it, flesh burn it, lay like a dead fish, and assume that just by being there they really killed it in bed. Nope. I've had lovers who wouldn't listen to a damn thing I said. So, EVERYONE needs to speak up and also listen. I had an older lover when I was quite young who REALLY helped me. She led me through the process almost like it was a classroom but she did it sexually. It was awesome. I disagree with "she comes first." I prefer at the same time. Also, just because I may finish first, it doesn't mean that the session should be done. Sometimes there are just times where I'm first. Suck it up. It doesn't mean I'm going to call an uber. It's just the way it happens -- learn to deal with it and adapt.

[@odorlesslebs8055]

Don’t forget teeth grate it 🦷 😂

[@7JeTeL7]

I know it may sound silly, but its such an IMPORTANT vid; this would remove so much doubts/anxiety from my younger me, young men need to hear all this; huge props to both of you for opening such topic and speaking so directly!

[@cseptember6562]

Well I am young and this video did none of the above for me...

[@7JeTeL7]

​@@cseptember6562 are you sure? maybe just give it some time and let it sink...for me they casually discuss staff, i would not even dare to speak with closest friend...and if so, it would immediatelly slide into usuall jovial/slenderish pose with not much real value, but hey, we are all different...there is another good vid on this channel from 19.2.24 and dispite its clickbaity headline i found it very usefull

[@elliek5350]

Great conversation! I especially appreciate when Dr.Malik pauses to think how to best explain some anatomical information to the host and the audience.

[@juancarlosgarces5601]

Dr. Malik is just great, I have seen a lot of her videos, she is so knowledgable, and yet, she never explain concepts in a complicated way, so yeah, shes is awesome and great! Tom, what a great video bro, I have seen a ton of your videos and found them extremelly usefull and cool, But this one is an amazing video, it is just superb in all areas. Thanks so much for keep that fantastic level and bringing to us constantly excellent conversations and concepts that REALLY matters and creates positive impact in our lives. Best to all.

[@ajae_gee7712]

Dr. Malik is brilliant. Thanks for this enlightening discussion.

[@BlackPinoy869]

You can't take 15 sec clips of Myron and Andrew as their definitive morals. These guys are good men and have done more good for men and women than people realize.

[@billstowe2]

I have been a big fan of Rena for years. Good to see you are expanding the topics you treat.

[@onyxrivera9078]

Love this video and the content and how raw it is. Great job!

[@emileecvz]

Gotta appriciate her professionalism. She speaks so casually, there is no room for discomfort on the subject.

[@davidtoledo2323]

SO INFORMATIVE! GREAT TOPICS. TY BOTH FOR THE EDUCATION 💪🏽

[@jaylebron777]

Tom had me chuckling at work.. truly insightful on many levels

[@bluesmurf8065]

such a great podcast. thank u

[@martacmartins]

Loved this Tom! PS: I don't know what is going on with this comment section

[@rocky8855]

agree. definitely trolling going on, cause this episode was very informative

[@ligiasommers]

Very informative 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@dustins4016]

I don’t always have time to click on the demo video you show at the end of your videos. Is it possible to start putting a link to them?

[@user-jd7tv7oj5s]

I like to use my dyson hoover. It increases size and keeps it clean at the same time

[@steventaylor7098]

I have been married for 26 years and we’ve only ever been with each other. I have watched thousands of videos over the years. Just trying to enhance my wife sexual pleasure And make sure that I’m everything she needs in the bedroom. Honestly, I’ve heard a lot of crap over the years. This by far is the best video That I’ve ever watched. Thank you so much for all the time you both put into this.

[@timmytee734]

Yea right, you watched videos for your wife.. I feel sorry for her.

[@javierpacheco4566]

The hiccups were real! 😂 53:40 P.S. Awesome interview.

[@gb1deep]

Thank you for this video !!

[@ZJC10]

@tombilyeu as someone who grew up a few hours north on I-5 of you and was a child during the same time period I'm wondering if you wear your hat backwards because of Griffey?

[@maryhumphreys2931]

Some men are suicidal from losing their hair

[@Pyrrhic537]

Insane. Look at so many movie stars from Brad Pitt to Bruce Willis.

[@JenniferMyers]

37:30

[@JC-pm5sh]

9:15 I don't see any sign of life in his face. Cmon Tom we are talking about sex. Be little enthu about it 🎉😂😂

[@JamesWitte]

Hes shocked at the topic at the time hahaha

[@jasanbrapbrown]

Lol

[@jorlowsky469]

What if I like being alone more than being with people? I feel it’s hard for me to connect with people these days. Especially my age group.

[@davidreasons9730]

Yepp

[@Wolfyxx_25]

Same bro ...

[@jamesconwell95]

A thought to consider to your question, why did the clitoris develop in its current anatomical position. If the clitoris were internal within the vaginal canal, it would be at risk of damage during childbirth. Additionally, having it external and in its current location may encourage women to desire deeper penetration, which could increase pressure on the clitoris, thereby potentially enhancing sexual stimulation and depth of ejaculation.

[@NotaUserIam]

Why have an expert on your podcast and then talk more than them??

[@M.HassanShaikh-md1xi]

hey i have a queston is this episode age restricted ?

[@jacebeleren3591]

If this doesn't blow up the internet, somebody lied 😂

[@youtubeone2231]

Good stuff

[@angelossauro]

I don't share theo opinions of Tate and the other guy about going down on a woman. But at least Tate said it in a respectfull way. And he has all the right to say this and feel that way. He even said "maybe I am crazy". If a woman don't want to go down on a man nobody cares and everyone says that it is her choice. He didn't say, that he don't want to pleasure a woman. The other guy (I don't know him) is just a rude a**hole. It is cringe that Tom is always fixed so hard on the red pill community. And escpecial on Tate. Who is not even a part of it. And calling him the King of Incel Culture is a real dick move. Tom has something going on with Tate that triggers him deep.

[@chelseahaile6962]

Ummm look at him he’s a super simp in the flesh he looks like a virgin 🤣

[@Justvchchbdb]

I’ve never in my life wanted to be challenged by my woman in a relationship, not once

[@Vulper]

10% fat is crazy! That's just Essential Fat! 15% is amazing and anything below 20% is very healthy putting you in the top 15-20% of the population. But exercising every day is crucial.

[@tone3560]

Exactly... 15% should be seen as the new "10%"

[@ZrCorelx]

yea I was at 10% once. I looked the best in all my life but I felt miserable because I was consistently hungry and it also affected my daily mood

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Correct 10% a bit to hard

[@simonoregan4744]

I love how Toms interest peaks at the penile enlargement options.

[@izzyfury8126]

Book called IS CANDIDA ALBICAN YOUR PROBLEM?

[@justin-gz3dh]

I’m learning so much as a guy from watching this

[@MrSkylightOffical]

Tom is giving another masterclass on how to respectfully call out someone who is full of BS

[@Testpilot]

The commercial: Count with me, Oneskin, Twoskin, Threeskin…..😏

[@kylejj8317]

34:51 not me 😂

[@Malehanger]

What a good episode!

[@christopherdominguez7238]

Tom where is the traction device sponsor link? 🔗

[@avalerionbass]

Love how were still at the point of "Men gotta do all this work to improve themselves and women get to exist" stage of dating.

[@LorelleG1]

Man i was thinking that same thing reading the title to this video. Women are never told to improve as a man Tom outta be ashamed of himself!

[@timmytee734]

What are you talking about?? A woman needs to do a million things so men are willing to be attracted to them! From shaving full body to keeping in shape and hair do, carefully chosen dresses, heels, makeup, breast size, good bum! Is it too much or too less and so on and on! You guys just throw on a t-shirt and shorts and flip-flops and not shaving for moths or comb hair and nobody says anything! You have one single thing you can't change on yourself and dare to complain or dare to compare your little problem to women's?

[@bro918]

@@timmytee734 literally just dont be overweight and 90%+ of men will be happy

[@ryanforbes5275]

I'm one of those types who constantly wonders what makes people tick, so I've had a honestly completely uneducated hypothesis when it comes to girl on girl sex. I thought maybe it wasn't the sex, it was the excitement of doing something different, something you shouldn't do let that be illegal or socially unacceptable. Like criminals getting a high on robbing a bank, or how someone might get off to group sex, some sort of fetish, pedo. There is a very wide spectrum of sexual arousal right if we are to be honest. Some of those can and should be illegal because they cause harm to others. I've had better sexual experiences with other racial groups then myself even though I know it's not wrong but maybe some things are just part of our subconscious leading to that excitement of banging a female who doesn't look like me because traditionally we were not allowed to be intimate, I've never had a same sex relationship but I can't say it wouldn't be better sexually because a male might know how to get a guy or more but just I'm not attracted to masculinity. Maybe I'm off, what is your opinion on my take? As well I think it's important to explore things that turn you off, my own spouse for example doesn't do semen, oral, chest etc. I think that rejection of my own semen has been a significant turn off for myself.

[@maritahartmann591]

The sound on Toms Mic was very low. I had to blast my sound to hear him. Bummer.

[@Bo-jc6nl]

I've heard that the ingredients in gin will help with erections. Does anyone know anything about this?

[@maddog3768]

I have used Tanquiry gin, one shot will keep you hard all night

[@DeadbeatGamer]

short answer, use your hands first

[@tetedur377]

It's quick and easy, neat and tidy. Stand over the toilet; pee afterward and flush it all away. Total elapsed time: 10 minutes, give or take. No need for messy entanglements.

[@LONELYOLDFATHOMELESBUM]

My belly is increasing instead lol❤

[@petrfilinger9205]

Great person

[@rodrigovillate6463]

I don't know, but most women don't want to be asked what's good for them, even what you're doing, they just want you to see them and understand if they like it or not.... Even if they are faking the reactions

[@ElliottMorrow-fg4lc]

There are a LOT of natural methods that I know of, those are reported to be even better, I have a whole sheet of paper in my bedroom with at least 20 natural options that I wrote down, starting from many years ago.

[@spencerhepworth6435]

Tom, I would love to see you talk with someone about scheduling. I’m super driven by my scheduling sucks.

[@LucidAmethyst]

The evolution and location of the clitoris is for one reason alone - it's the exact position of the penis. And you were right the first time Tom, it looks like a flacid penis because that's exactly what it is! That freaks some men out, but it's logical in evolutionary terms. The human being is identical, and yes that does mean a man has a uterus/cervix/vagina - it's a combined organ that shrinks during development of the foetus. Also the pelvic floor and internal part of the clitoris is also present in men - it's almost completely identical. Every human has the stem cells to be male or female and this is governed mostly by hormones, with some genetic triggers.

[@dannyshansonde3380]

When u observe other animals, dogs & cats. Their male organs don't "dangle". Similarly some men don't ... Hence don't Compare yourself to others 👌

[@635574]

Yes not everyone has the same genetics

[@diotechdata7500]

Even a woman can give advise on what to ask women on the first day. Guys wish you luck in your first encounter

[@ron72beast39]

The female anatomy always fascinates me. It is good to study the opposite sex. To understand more about how each other bodies works.

[@AcidicDelusion]

I guess I’m looking at the wrong subreddits

[@Cannabian]

The key to evolution it's about what works. Sometimes evolution leads to dead ends, or non-ideal solutions. If it works, it works though and the species survive. There really isn't a why other then does it hinder reproduction? no? then it's not going anywhere anytime soon.

[@jimmyjamessac7171]

The thumbnail says it all. Fallback on this one we need scuba gear this one gets in deep Mariana type

[@damiangrouse4564]

For young guys…get off the the electronic devices…Learn to fix stuff around the house and car…it’s a thing. Ps. Learn to cook at least basic common foods (no cans or boxes).

[@GamerGrade]

Isn't Sildenafil a viable solution?

[@ralfj.1740]

I tried it, it does help getting and maintaining the erection;)

[@user-ck9co9sp6x]

A big part of the problem shown in hypergamy among women. A lot of women are all chasing the same small percentage of men.

[@talksick508]

I can say what helps erections Being very depressed and stressed Believe it or not

[@yvonnehigginson3154]

sorry I had to miss this episode due to no volume....

[@Moonfood78]

Is that Anthony weiners ex wife??

[@MusicAndOtherColors]

Regarding the question "Why isn't the clitoris in the vagina?", I'd like to comment that after orgasm, the clitoris becomes so sensitive that continuing intercourse might be impossible. Perhaps that's the reason.

[@humbertopedraza147]

"Buys 6 inch in length" ... homie smiles :)

[@kimjaniga7517]

I hate that no where in this conversation do you use the term “love making” or that love/caring is involved.

[@Ali3nna]

I was thinking about the same thing.

[@gifi4]

😂 love making

[@kandycid100]

It’s a conversation about sex. Why would they use the term love making

[@Domzdream]

At (2:35:30) - smoking is the dumbest way to die. Plus it just smells so horrible. Christ I don’t get you people who smoke. You’ve seen at least 1 member of your family die from cancer due to smoking. Many grownups tell you, don’t do this, it’s such a dumb habit. Nobody ever goes - this is the best decision I’ve ever made in my life, smoking….while coughing up a lung. Yet you still do it. It’s like punching your own nuts, and keep doing it. Normies….what you gonna do 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@steve410]

Very true

[@gifi4]

😂 and writing pointless comments on KZbin is slowly killing you too.

[@Domzdream]

@@gifi4 Not as much as kistening to Maga people discussing their 'genius' rhetoric. Now THATs killing me ....with laughter.

[@ZacharyB-pn9yp]

You're totally right, after go’ogling around I didn't realize that Simmy Krotiel's Bigger Blueprint was updated and you can make it bigger even faster, yep, what Simmy suggested before was pretty good, but now it can grow up to 4 ins, I managed 3 ins myself and I feel like a monster lol

[@stevenlee9064]

Shock waves are sound waves. You’re good but a urologist should know this.

[@rocky8855]

that's incorrect. I looked it up one day and realized it wasn't sound "Shockwaves can be categorized as electrohydraulic shockwaves, electromagnetic shockwaves, piezoelectric shockwaves, and radial shockwaves " www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10510023/

[@karenholloway3940]

This is hilarious. She didn’t invent the woman’s genitals. But very informative. Not Intuitive? I’m Dying. 😂😂

[@simonoregan4744]

Basically pull on it and it grows. I should be 12 inches by now 🤣🤣🤣

[@kravenmoorehead7927]

Why is this a near 3 hour video? It is not that complicated unless you are clueless.

[@Kelpas9]

Ladies, what do yall think? What is your preference?

[@MisterPerson-fk1tx]

Your mom has an opinion on the topic, ask her.

[@bigtyme1984]

This has to just be for the European descendent culture

[@SuhoPak]

money 🤑

[@Yourmom48602]

I would rather have a huge hammer not a 5 lol love ur episode today 🎉god bless u n ur family ❤

[@drleo6409]

Same with bigger breast. Some men do not like bigger.

[@Velo1010]

True

[@keithahlstrom176]

1:41 So for all the short guys out there she seems to be saying: you had better be able to entertain me..."dance monkey! DANCE! if you want my attention". Its funny, the ladies simply need to exist to succeed so how can they even understand, never mind empathize with what men - short or otherwise - experience in this game?

[@betterhomesnc2437]

I'm short. Don't really care. I do fine with women. Work out, have a personality, be good at whatever you do. 😉

[@dempsey2054]

Just 4.75 more inches and I’ll be a stud!

[@utooboobnoob]

What’s next? Are you going to start selling Spanish Fly?

[@tetedur377]

@@Symbolic-cg8sx We know; your sister told us all about it.

[@utooboobnoob]

@@Symbolic-cg8sx Cute. Do you even lift, Bro?

[@starz9527]

Spanish fly has side effects Guyana South America

[@starz9527]

Try goat weed or Tongat Ali ,guys Guyana South America

[@PhenxRsng]

Dry fasting and Urine Therapy will solve majority of peoples problems don't be a sheep and don't die hope this helps someone.

[@dave9547]

What on earth is urine therapy?

[@petepete66]

I do it alone … 🔥✌️😂😂😂😂😂✌️🔥🔥🔥🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀 no problem with wife’s and no children … after this great adventure I eat a good pizza and look a adventure film … then I go to bed and feel free alone in my super wide sleeping bed … perfect day … 🍀🍀🍀✌️😂✌️🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀😜✌️🍀

[@JimmyBaevsky]

Hello, sweet doctot! Today sometines yoi are good watched, but only sonrtimes. It's 'pity indeed.😊

[@reactiveland3111]

54:20 ... are you really sure that she would appreciate? give an example of "right" way :)

[@jakejake3182]

There is so much not said. Example ovulation cycle, birth control medical damage not to mention all their other experience's.

[@ZM-dm3jg]

Dont ask a fish how to be the fisherman

[@jackreacher4297]

They dont seem to be discussing catching fish nor women. they seem to discussing what makes fish orgasm..

[@merlejames1]

The commercial breaks are so frequent can’t even listen to this

[@mentedespierta7226]

Great professional Dr. Malik. Amazing podcast, but the host Tom needs to talk less about himself..

[@loquatmuncher]

lol the way you pronounce clitoris really bugs me. Making it sound like a harry potter spell.

[@jasongrace8758]

I hope there’s more men out there thinking like Tate. What a jerk That means there’s more women for me😂

[@Rustyhound-Cartoons]

There's a lot of irony in that statement

[@Mr.PhatsVarietyVibesShow]

shouldn't this be age restricted...

[@nyreekrikorian]

Why? Like they said, children are subjected to seeing porn. Is this worse for them?

[@thenigelfinley1]

Definitely not.

[@robertcastaneda2613]

Tom should have this conversation with Justin Waller's (previous guest) friend Stirling Cooper. Dr. Malik is great but is a Urologist, similar but not the same as a expert on Sex, which I think was Tom's intended topic. This was still a good podcast tho

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Prob has educated her more than just what you said, who knows 🙂

[@neoanderson7492]

5 to 6 minutes lol I go for 40

[@OlgaKors]

I think it's actually 11% not 45% of women

[@jarvanwildrift8056]

Prob more correct first time

[@PouringOrange]

Oh man some parts were frustrating to listen to. Men… just SLOW down. Check in at a regular amount without making it weird. Actually CARE and about whether she finishes. Touch more than just the one thing you wanna stick yourself in…

[@jamilabdallah4086]

Warning, don't listen to her advise on minute 54. It's a turn-off

[@arrahatt]

Clitoris enlargement ??