ABA therapy - Explained

[@skoople2864]

im undiagnosed but theres a lot of things in my extensive research into (non puzzle piece) autism sources that always resonate with me. i feel guilty at times because i remember "betraying" diagnosed autistic classmates in school that i would mostly be nice to but id ignore them in favor of masking but it wasnt worth it nobody liked me any more for it. my parents were momentarily appeased because i was a worse friend to openly autistic kids. its all a very troubling experience to deal with the ramifications of an autistic closet and a gay/transgender one as a young adult. would you ever make a video about autism in adults, like diagnosed in childhood vs in adulthood vs undiagnosed?

[@jenniferberger2005]

Great video. I am very glad I found your channel. My 5 year old son was just recently diagnosed. The therapy that his recommended here, the only therapy that I have been recommend is ABA therapy and I understand that every autistic adult who I’ve listened to agree that ABA therapy is awful, my question is what do I do for my son? I have been watching videos and reading and I understand that ABA is bad, but what I haven’t come across doesn’t explain what the alternative should be. I do not have a problem with the way my son plays, or the fact that he hates noises and that when he is overstimulated he screams I don’t care that he lines up his cars or how fast he speaks when he is excited, I don’t care that my son loves to do math all the time and all he ever talks about is numbers, I actually really love it I love how much he loves math, I love that he tells me I stink like flowers ( my soap I guess is too strong for him) My issue is that when things do not go according to plan or when he doesn’t get his way, my son hits his siblings, or he becomes destructive by braking his things or things around the house. I am wondering what I should do with that how do I better help my little boy?

[@kaishawna3753]

Try to figure out why he is aggressive. Is it something to do with his senses. Talk to him without the other siblings around to get his point of view. Try to work out things with you, your son and his siblings. Learn about his sensory needs. If he goes to school, make sure to inform the school of his autism and his specific needs. As an undiagnosed autistic black female, I was denied a diagnosis. Make sure your son speaks for himself when he is able to and don't let anyone try to take his voice away. Hope this has helped! P.S If you ever want to get in touch, ask when you comment here. 😊☺

[@jenniferberger2005]

@@kaishawna3753 hello. Thank you for the advice. I would like to get in touch actually if you do not mind. I love my son very much, he and I have come a long way in the 5 years since he was born and I like most parents just want to do what is right for him and assist him with whatever he needs. I have just entered into this world of being a parent to an autistic child and unfortunately ABA is on the tip of everyone’s tongue, from his doctors to teachers to therapists to other parents, and from everything I’ve seen, ASAN, autistic individuals and advocates all agree that ABA is awful and I hear it and respect it wholeheartedly, but since the people who are advising me currently push it so hard, I wonder as to what the alternatives to ABA are. I am resolute in not doing ABA but I wonder what I should do. Should we disregard therapy in the home altogether or is there another type of therapy that is more helpful for him. I often do not like speaking to other parents because I find that most of the time it’s more a list of complaint about the child, I don’t want to sit and complain about my son and how all of this and that makes my life harder, being a parents is challenging no matter what but at the end of the day I am an adult and I chose to have children which means I knew my life would be harder by the addition of each child I had. I love my son, I don’t want to change who he is at his core, just like I don’t want to change my mother son or my daughter I love each one of them for the individual they are. I want to learn how to be what my son needs, I want to know how to assist him and also how to correct and discipline him in the most effective and proper way without causing harm. I will try your advice, he is still young so sometimes when I do try to talk to him he has a hard time understanding what I am asking him but that has more to do with his being just 5 years old but maybe if I have more conversations when he is calmed down we can begin to make more progress. Thank you for the advice ❤️

[@kaishawna3753]

@@jenniferberger2005 You are welcome. If I can find you on Messenger, please let me know how I can do that. There is occupation therapy. That's the only other alternative that I have at the tip of my tongue. Also, stay far away from Autism Speaks. Many autistic people can't stand the organization because it doesn't help autistics. I can communicate via email. Just write it down and I can help from there. ☺💝

[@rainbowdrops6869]

ABA, torture? Where’s the difference when it comes to the results? Masking, loss of (autistic) identity, trauma, (c)PTSD, even DID. It’s damm hard to find yourself after that when you’re adult. I don’t know who/what i am. I’m not diagnosed as autistic (yet), but I was tortured to mask so much.

[@kaishawna3753]

It's okay! ☺ People get my name wrong. I do thank you for talking about this.

[@kaylacote5376]

I’m so glad you did this!! Thank you!