Not letting the influencer life suck me in..

[@abbeyfickley]

Crying as I read these comments. Not only have I been struggling, but I was nervous to post this. The support I feel from this comment section is incredible and reminds me why I started this community. Thank you guys for your kindness towards me. Forever grateful for each and everyone of you. 🙏🏼 xo

[@wowenbhoen]

You got this. And we all got you! Love you girl. You're amazing.

[@Emilyyyyuyy]

Ofc Abby! We all always be here for you. Not only are you an amazing mom but an amazing person in general! Your amazing keep your head up ❤

[@destinycritcher3527]

You’re by far my favorite KZbinr. I absolutely love you and your sobriety journey. & you’re the best mother I’ve ever seen. We love and support you always, Abbey! ❣️🩷😘

[@JaimeRene17]

We love you and Myla!!! You are fabulous! God bless you and your precious family!

[@Diamond-pm3vt]

I love how down to earth you are! Take time to slow down! This is just my opinion and I'm sorry if I may be wrong. I honestly think you feel like you are standing in a room and there are so many different things going on at the same time. You standing there and everything all your ideas, worries, happiness, goals, family, bar, life, is all spinning around you going 100 mph. Life moves so fast. Time is something you can't get back so please slow down. You don't have to be perfect or work everyday! You don't have to make content every day! Go at your own pace and we will still be here in the end! Good luck to you I don't know you but good job and I'm proud of you! ❤️

[@larissaseals5340]

As a recovering addict and someone who suffers from ADD and depression I think you made a very intelligent decision to go back to the bar and work. I could tell you were missing it. Love you! You're awesome! So proud of you!

[@abbeyfickley]

Thank you! So much love!

[@larissaseals5340]

@@abbeyfickley absolutely! You got this!

[@MrsMAS]

Also in recovery, ADD w/depression. I 100% agree.

[@teachingkidsyoga]

This video is prime example of why I started following you. Your genuineness and transparency is so beautiful. I completely understand all of what you said about being in this industry.

[@abbeyfickley]

Thank you so much for the reassurance. I’m glad you’re here 🙏🏼

[@amendi386]

You are such a breath of fresh air. Always keep this humility. I went to rehab in Pittsburgh and got sober there so I really feel connected to your content. I also used to serve/bartend and now I WFH in sobriety. It can be lonely and dangerous. Your perspective is so honest, in a world of dishonesty. Keep it up girl. You are a shining example of what a strong, sober woman is. ♥️

[@loganfletcher3812]

Just curious what is Wfh?

[@MrsMAS]

Work from Home

[@loganfletcher3812]

​@MrsMAS I feel so stupid now 😭

[@MrsMAS]

@@loganfletcher3812 nah. If you plain don't know, asking respectfully is always good!

[@madisensullivan1660]

I’m only 14 mins in but am compelled to say I am really impressed by you. This is an incredibly self-aware decision to make and I applaud you and it makes me want to watch you even more. You’re so smart!

[@abbeyfickley]

Wow. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@wowenbhoen]

You took the words right out of my mouth. So proud of Abbey. This video was so touching and I loved the total transparency. I hope you get everything you want out of life forever. She's put in the work. She deserves it.

[@elizabethfasolakis5200]

Abbey, self awareness is one of the gifts of sobriety, your feeling a way , and your making a change to help fix it, in a positive way. So so proud of you, your real and raw and the world needs more of that ❤️

[@westsidebartender513]

I’ve often thought “even if I won the lottery, I don’t think I’d quit bartending” it’s oddly fulfilling and makes me feel of service. As a recovering addict of over a decade, i feel so proud of you!! Keep going, Abbey!! 💜💜

[@laciekirkham6099]

I swear you are so down to earth and wise … it’s so awesome to find a creater that is so aware and seems like a normal human … congrats on all you have accomplished and 💕 your content !!!

[@abbeyfickley]

I really appreciate that. Just want to keep it real with you guys.. we shall see what happens 🩶

[@maclainenoxon4586]

I don’t know who decided that we didn’t want to “see behind the curtain” when it comes to influencers. I’d much rather listen to a real chat like this than watch someone pour all their pasta and crackers from their boxes into plastic pantry containers.

[@SunandSolitude]

Abbey thank you. I admire that you are so real with the emotions you're going through. It's easy to let ourselves close off when we feel we shouldn't feel a certain way, or we didn't anticipate certain feelings to come up. Your dedication to being honest is so commendable and inspiring, and prioritizing your mental health. Watching your channel is such a positive experience for me. Its honesty with ourselves like you are showing that make the world a better and kinder place.

[@abbeyfickley]

So glad you’re here. Thank you for your kindness 🙏🏼

[@alisonscholefield4189]

I took a leave from work and thought all my problems would be solved. In reality I struggled with being home all the time and having no schedule. I did go back to working in an office two days a week to have structure and social interaction. 7 years later I work from home full time and it finally feels normal to me. It took a long time to adjust. Thank you so much for sharing your experience so honestly. You’ve got so much good insight and it will get better. ❤

[@Katherine_xs]

Having meetings with a mental health professional or do a hot yoga class could benefit you, don't film/upload on mondays maybe and make a journal. Journaling is amazing

[@alliecr1057]

This is the Abbey we fell in love with the honest, real and open talks about life, its struggles, recovery, co parenting and being a single mom ❤. These are the videos I most connect to and that help me in my own single mom, recovery journey. Hearing your point of view and understanding the struggle of balancing social media with who you are in everyday life makes so much sense.

[@Mazy-tk4nf]

Well honestly I love watching you talk about real shit . I feel like no one is real anymore and I love taht I always see you being yourself ! Im amazed at your journey in sobriety and as a mom, your a great role model to so many people especially your girl! ❤️ and I love how in touch you are with people who watch your videos! 💞you can always tell you put in 100% efforts

[@EricaBaker2023]

I completely understand the part of not having a regular schedule! I am doing homeschool for my daughter and we are on our own time! It can be hard to be disciplined!

[@jasmanenolivo3291]

Watching this video makes me want to cry because of how relatable you are. I enjoy watching you because of how loving, kind, silly, and genuine/down to earth you really are. You have such a beautiful heart and thank you for sharing it with the world. I know it’s not always easy doing what you do, but you are doing an amazing job. Thank you for making relatable content and making us feel less alone. You are so loved. Keep shinning your light. ❤ I was wondering if you could do a video of how you keep your ADHD in check? I just got diagnosed with it and it has given me so much peace in my life, but I want to come up with ways to better manage it. ❤

[@vickiewalsh9614]

Please give yourself some grace. As addicts we can be our own worst critics thinking we don't deserve the good things that may happen to and for us. You've accomplished many life changing goals that some of us can only dream about through hard work and perseverance. Purchasing a home, financial freedom to work if and when you want, having your daughter along with your family back in your life. You've got this and keep crushing it. Just breathe and "keep it simple." Much love and hugs. From one addict to another in Huntington Beach, So. Cali.~ ❤

[@Jetblack1979red]

Even though you’re having a hard time articulating exactly what you mean, it’s coming across loud and clear. This level of self awareness is rare these days, and even rarer jn the influencer community. You’re an inspiration.

[@Margaux.]

So proud of you and excited about your new home! Now on to the video! Edited to add: Girl I'm only half way through and I want to give you a hug. I worked from home for many many years and I can understand the isolation and feeling like you're working 24/7. It is so hard to stop working. I love that you recognized that even though this is what you wanted, something didn't feel right and that you went back to a shift at the bar and on Thanksgiving-Eve. Yay for that! Having adult interaction, especially with people that have known you for years, and even new people is such a big deal. I get it. I miss adult interaction, conversations, etc...totally get it. I am also very hard on myself, sometimes just downright mean, I'm working on it and I get it about the house. I ended up in a house that was a 2 person income house and I'm now a solo momma raising my girl alone here, have been for years. When people hype me up and congratulate me for doing this and keeping going, I'm like "thanks..." and I'm all awkward because of course I'm doing this damn thing, I'm a mom, moms just have to make things happen, we figure it out! Right? Know what I mean? But it is a big deal to buy your first home, it really is! Thank your for the reminder, as I try to remind my daughter, the internet people, even people we know, what they post, is not real. "Pinterest perfect" looking posts, not real. I appreciate your honesty, it's refreshing. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through it, I'm glad that you've recognized that you needed to make some changes, that's half that battle (IMO). I'm going through it too but it's been years. Working on it. Not sure when life will let up on me but I'm just exhausted from life #h*tting on me for the past 3-5 years. It's bound to stop soon, right? Deep breaths! I got this. We got this. We'll get through this wild life together y'all. *Compliment a stranger today, y'all. You never know what an impact it can have on their day, week, year, or even their life.

[@skytrakn]

I have very little in common with you. I’m much older, I’ve never had an addiction in fact I’ve always been the one to assist those with struggles of addiction and homelessness. Maybe the connection is because of your success. It’s very powerful how grounded you are staying. Thanks for being you and being so honest.

[@KW-mg5iq]

I can’t lie, I saw you slipping in to that category of “out of touch influencer” - I’m so glad to see you’re catching yourself. I want you to stay you! That’s why we’re here watching ❤

[@brindy143]

Agreed! The reason I started watching you, in my opinion was starting to fade a bit. I was honestly questioning if I would keep watching. However, I’ve loved how real and down to earth you are at your core. I also get that it has got to be super easy to slip into sharing what you wear, what you have, and the $ you spend. That’s been done and I appreciate that you are so self aware and can recognize that “content” that resonates is being real and dealing with all that life brings. Be proud of all you’ve accomplished, being a creator can’t be easy and takes discipline, but don’t ever loose who you are in the process! Thank you for sharing your life and struggles with us! Don’t ever forget who you truly are and the inspiration you bring to others! ❤❤❤

[@lindsaychristian4151]

Oh man this was so honest. Things I never thought of. But it explains why there are a lot of channels I love and then unfollow. Cause they are out of touch. Or it’s the same content that everyone else is doing. You do what’s best for your health.

[@kelsterooni]

I love how open and honest you are in this video. It’s hard to be vulnerable especially on the internet now. Have you thought about volunteering 1/2-1 day a week to get that social interaction that we all need as human beings while helping you to stay grounded.

[@maryannruffini2169]

I'm the mother of someone who is struggling with addiction and mental illness. I watch you because you give me hope. You're doing great, Abbey, and we are all pulling for you. I wish you all the best. Just some advice...take care of yourself also. We sometimes do so much for everyone else and never enough for ourselves

[@PinkPaws88]

I’ll be sending positive vibes your way..I was a user for 7 years and everyone but 1 person basically threw me away and had no hope for me but because that 1 person believed in me when I was ready to get clean and stay clean I knew that person was gonna be there through all of it and we now are married and have 4 kids together ❤️

[@nightmareonyrst333]

​@PinkPaws88 I love that Congratulations, and happy holidays 🎄🫶

[@stephanie3087]

What I love so much about your content its not just 100% involving your daughter. I’m not a fan of family vloggers, for so many reasons. But I see your perspective. Your content truly feels like YOUR journey, and I’m kinda here for it

[@becs7715]

Honesty is what is needed to change the platform. The superficiality is causing so much grief for those who cannot match it. Stay kind and stay you 💛

[@michellebrown9520]

Very good comment ...

[@mikedorsey6975]

I appreciate your authenticity….as soon as influencers reach a certain level of success they change completely,they become fake and lose their realness…they suddenly forgot where they came from.Becoming unrelatable…I’m so happy to hear this from you,your so self aware. Keep it up,you’re one of the only real and genuine mommy fluencer…they get wrapped up in money and the materialistic world. You’re an amazing woman and mommy. Sending you love and support from Minnesota.❤

[@RieCasuccio-vx1yg]

I can definitely say this is such an understatement. I am a hairstylist, but took a year off to work at the courthouse because everyone tells you the benefits are amazing and a year later I’m back in the salon because my mental health was not good even implementing just Saturdays in the salon at first it was great just mental health, you are strong and you are such an inspiration for everyone and you will keep killing it. I have no doubt.

[@karina7944]

16:20 This is so relatable sometimes I feel this way too. When you accomplish a big goal but don’t feel the excited is such a weird experience. What I do is take a moment to reflect on where I am from where I have come. I think about the me I was and how she could never image some of the things I have accomplished. It helps me give that present day pat on my back for my accomplishments. It also reminds me that I can make changes. It’s also okay to celebrate a win. There will always be the next thing we try to get to but it’s important to pause and take a second to really reflect on yourself and take inventory of what you’ve done.❤️

[@melarose4498]

I can relate to what you’re saying so much about the flatlining. For so long I did whatever I want with no regard for anyone else. I became numb because I had no responsibilities and all I cared about was my next fix. I have 28 months sober now and I’m slowly starting to gain a better perspective and more responsibilities. Thanks for dropping so much wisdom and being so vulnerable. You’re invaluable to the sober community ❤

[@sherryblake8352]

I love your upbeat and positive outlook. We all have bad moments, you’re allowed. We who follow you, know what’s real, and appreciate you.

[@haileywatson5822]

I really enjoy hearing your plan to continue keeping yourself grounded. It’s so helpful for non-influencers to understand the steps people need to take to stay sane and themselves through the journey of influencing. I’m grateful that you exist and have come so far in your journey. And that you have shared so much with the world. I have so much love for you and your family. I’m so so happy to see you continuing to evaluate how to improve and keep yourself on the right path. Your content makes such a beautiful impact on my life. Can’t tell you how many happy tears I have shed for you. ❤

[@dianac1411]

This 62 year old mom of 5 mimi to 4 absolutely loves you! Who doesn’t love a story of triumph!! ❤

[@BreaMichelle3]

I totally understand what you’re saying - you can’t have the good without the bad. It’s the balance of the world. The yin and Yang ☯️ in Buddhist philosophy it is vital there is balance. Positive and negative. The “negative” things that “happen” to us- are vital to our growth, and as you said- how would we feel pure joy in the good if we hadn’t experienced being down. Thank you for this reminder sis ❤

[@ChattyWithMatty]

This was so real and raw. I adore you! I struggle with the same highs and lows and I have to talk it out to understand it like you. Thankfully my husband is a wonderful listener but even then it took years for him to understand I just need a listener not a fixer. Almost feel I solve half my problems after all my venting. Helps organize my thoughts! You are awesome. You have grit and discipline and some seasons may be easy and some may be hard but you have 100% discipline. I KNOW you’ll get through to the next season.

[@mistyessinger5090]

This video has given me so much more respect for you! You are such a beautiful soul! From a addict now living a sober life, my best life! Thank you!! 🙏💚👑🤘🌻

[@idioticbagel2833]

as an addict you can’t let yourself get too comfortable. you can’t slack off you have to continue fighting it it is a disease that never leaves no matter how long it’s been since you picked up a drink. so going back to the bar reminding yourself that relapsing can still happen. it’s very smart of you to go back even just here and there. you are protecting your sobriety. proud of how far you’ve come

[@brittanyhaskins8252]

you are so grounded and strong in your sobriety. you are extremely self aware and in tune with who you are. I love watching and learning from you. "stay in the middle." Happy Friday Sis and Abbey!

[@emmaustin]

Thank you Abbey for your down to earth personality and showing us milestones of struggle and happiness. You are the living definition of being humble and appreciating everything that comes your way. Keep it up! You got this! 🩷

[@reneewootton9488]

I was listening to you and thinking you need to pick up a small bar shift. And then you said it. Lol. So proud of you Abbey. I now we only see what you allow us to see but I LOVE how honest and vulnerable you are!!!! Keep it up!!!!!!!!!

[@yourfavbibble-en5ts]

your such a strong mother and we’re all here for you ❤

[@ashleymarie6585]

I’m really not trying to sound negative here but it’s wild to me when people call talking about whatever you want and posting some pics to instagram “working 24/7” that’s the real disconnect with influencers. They genuinely think what they do is difficult, honest work 😂

[@83lulube]

I struggle every day with ADD AND anxiety! Every day is a struggle. I take meds that help, but without them it's sooooooooooo hard. I will say having a job that's outside the house helps me stay somewhat on track bc at least I'm getting outside in the morning and coming home at a certain time. Daily routine. Tbh, I think you are amazing with all that you do!! I get overwhelmed by the littlest things sometimes and it's sooooooooooo frustrating and exhausting! ❤❤

[@deborahpablo786]

Hey Abbey! Just wanna say that you are such an inspiration to me. You bring a new perspective to a life of courage, perseverance, and creativity. Keep it up love ❤

[@Zendoodler]

Thank you for being so honest with us. You inspire me to do what I have been wanting to do, but I am so scared to be real on social media. Some of life CAN be super ugly, but i really feel more REALNESS is NEEDED. THANK YOU for being so honest, strong, beautiful & not perfect! You have a wonderful community that loves and supports you!!💛✌🏻💛

[@LoveeeeelyM]

I really hear you. And I resonate so much with wanting to stay humble and ever forgetting where we came from. I got my master’s and am currently working in my career but now miss and crave the simplicity of working at a restaurant where my only job was the task at hand. So trust me, I get you and I think a bar shift as needed could be so beneficial! I feel like I wouldn’t mind picking up a Saturday shift at a restaurant because I’m finally in a place where I internally know I have nothing to prove to myself. I made it and I’m good now. I just want to feel like a human. I will be praying for you as you continue on this journey. Your beautiful and humble heart is inspiring 🙏🏻♥️ thank you for sharing it with us!

[@kyra5067]

I think picking up the bar shift is a great idea. This transition will get easier over time. There’s no harm picking up shifts along the way to make it smoother for yourself.

[@taylorrich]

I found you through Tik tok, and I have loved your real down to earth content as someone who’s a single mother, bartender for years, and has struggled with substance abuse. You’re content has always been SO relatable to me, and is always so motivating & eye opening. There hasn’t been anything that you’ve posted that hasn’t resonated w me in some way and made me want to be a better person. You’re humility and faith will get you so far. I really am so glad I found you and your content. Currently tearing up as I write this bc I’m going through a hard time myself at the moment and this was something I really needed to hear. Thank you for being you, and I hope you go sooo far. You’re right where you need to be and are a light in so many peoples lives through your content♥️

[@phillisob]

This is the absolute best way you can be a parent to your daughter and good to yourself. She needs you to be healthy and to love her. The second is taken care of, so focus on the first and the rest will fall into place. It's so strong to admit to mental health issues and to face them. I was never shown that growing up and it destroyed me for years. We can only do our best, and you are. Keep going. ❤

[@anastasiaquintana476]

I love your sit down vlogs. 24 minutes felt like 5. You are so enjoyable to watch! ❤

[@milaramos9886]

Abbey! I have ADHD and I know the struggle. But you have come so far, I’m so proud of you and all your accomplishments. My la is so lucky to have you as a Mom. I use to work from home and I overworked myself! You go girl, you are killing it. We love to be able to be part of your and Myla’s life. God bless you ❤

[@wanderingsoul2931]

This is the reason I follow you. You’re authentic!! I’ve been sober for 6 years and I really look up to you! Yes you’ve gone through some major life changes that are all positive. One of my favorite lines from a song I heard recently goes like this “salt comes with turning the page”. Even if it’s positive it can feel uncomfortable and sometimes depressing!! I totally get it! Proud of you!

[@musicthroughthenight]

What you said about working from home/setting your own schedule rang so true to me. It's a privilege, but I've realized I really need those weekly meetings/check-ins or to be able to physically walk away from my computer or I'll always feel like there's more I can be doing. Please continue to take care of yourself!!

[@Heyitsdes1]

Just hearing you speak with integrity and feeling how honest you are, makes me emotional. So many people don’t care anymore. So many people are pieces of shot behind closed doors. I relate to you in so many ways abbey. Thank you.

[@sophiegordon3743]

You are so down to earth Abby and so impressed w your decision to remain humble and also to do yourself a favour by working the odd bar shift. Not having any coworkers must be extremely isolating. I look up to you as a 22 year old female!!!!

[@blobsofpasta9069]

So proud of you for your corage to share this and thank you for being so truthful to show what is real in social media life. As a life coach i am giving you so much credit for noticing what is happening for you and taking accountability to implement what you need in your life for your mental health. You go girl. Im cheering for you

[@Cheeseballings]

I find so much comfort in hearing you speak about your process, you’re an inspiration to everyone around you and I want you to know how much you’re appreciated. You’re intelligent, you’re resillient, you’re humble, you’re beautiful. Truely an incredible woman.

[@user-kg5lq6nd7q]

Live streaming the bar shift sounds really cool- also a lot of people live on the internet, I get 100% what you’re saying “staying humble”. Social media is a drug, it can give you rapid hits of dopamine one second and then you could be crying the next. It is seriously effecting peoples personalities and perception.

[@meganalokonis710]

My heart! I feel this currently, I've been watching your little shorts but now seeing this, and the realness, I'm glad you're sharing your life and your journey. More than likely their are others that are going through the same situation. You got this!

[@ADurham6390]

Abbey, I've never commented on anyone's channel but i watch your short stories every single day and I just want you to know how much of an inspiration you are to so many mamas and people in general. You're an incredible human and deserve all the best. You and Mila are so lucky to have each other. Much love girl 💜

[@slewandowski1981]

So many changes in a short period. I totally understand the feeling to keep yourself grounded. Working occasionally at the bar gives you joy and you deserve that and more!

[@kelseybrown9959]

Wow I can’t believe how well you described this. So much respect. You have an immense amount of self awareness

[@Tressesbyjoanmary]

Stay encouraged Abbey. Your content is so fire & you’re an amazing human. Thank you for sharing your light and your truth. ❤

[@Mazy-tk4nf]

I love this video, I love listening to you talk and your the only influencer who talks about this !! ❤❤❤

[@abbeyfickley]

My favorite videos to make are sit downs/real talk so that makes me happy!! Lol

[@Mazy-tk4nf]

Also I’m from Halifax Nova Scotia Canada ….. so u definitely have a wide range in audience 😉

[@PinkPaws88]

My issue with influencers are when they start making some money they start to move into huge houses followed by driving overly priced “fancy” cars then dressing and looking different then getting fillers followed by a lot of plastic surgery and just become so unrealistic..I’m so glad you are providing the life you want for yourself and your daughter❤️

[@Farmgirl_1993]

Been here from the start and always amazed by your intelligence, humor, strength.

[@ariannarodriguez2918]

thank you for your realness!! i think a lot about how hard of lives influencers truly have. it absolutely has to be isolating!! I also want to add youve been such a comfort for me in my sobriety, today im 8 mo clean and regained full custody of my 2 boys ❤ so so grateful!! Take care of you ❤

[@Bob-bv5eo]

You are down to earth and realistic. I really appreciate it. Keep fighting hard to not let social media run your life and set you back. It really isn't worth it

[@agathahofmann6977]

you have the knowledge!!! a routine is very important, so make one and stick to it for like 2 to 4 weeks and see how it affects you. include a short walk outside and sleep from 22-6 (or about those times). it can nip depression and anxiety in the bud.

[@Cheryeleah]

Literally what I am experiencing right now too. Thanks for speaking out on this!! I am so flat right now 😭

[@lauratellez5184]

Abbey i am 33 days clean off of fentanyl you help me through my detox watching your videos kept my going you showed me that there hope watching you with your daughter i have 2 boys as well co parent with dad thank you for everything you do your honesty is so real i love it you truly are amazing women keep going we are here thank you for this video just what i need here is to another 24 hours 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤

[@Daisy_Days_]

Abbey, you are so amazing for letting yourself be you and tell the world your struggles. So many influencers only share the good. No one really talks about how social media can make someone so isolated from reality. It’s so amazing that you can share your opinions and not let social media consume you. God is smiling from heaven while he watches you 😊

[@carlyhopkins4549]

I really resonated with your side of sobriety. My partner is a recovering alcoholic and I’m learning so much through this process. It is helpful to hear your side, as a mother and an addict. You are such a smart woman and a great mother. Thank you for your honesty.

[@Easilydistractedbydogs0330]

I am a sober mom, my husband(her dad) and I got sober together. We talk daily and make sure we NEVER forget where we came from, stay humble, and reflect on fast. This is why I love you and your videos. I CAN RELATE. All the other influencers I feel get a huge ego and become I relatable, I love you Abby! Keep up the good work!!!!

[@nataligonzalez5927]

Thank you so much for posting this for being vulnerable for being you, praying for continued strength, continued wisdom as you walk through your sobriety, through being a mom and a coparent, through being an influencer, and the many other roles, that we all have, I appreciate you. God bless you.🙏🌻😘

[@LegendArie2.0]

Abbey, for the record you are my absolute favorite TikToker & KZbinr! I am a widowed sober parent, similar story, not the same but similar, & I'll be celebrating 4 years of sobriety in March! I appreciate you & your inspiration! Much love, Abbey! ❤

[@Melanie_Al]

Abbey I get you soooo hard like i get you 100%. Even though im not an influencer I am right now focusing on the LSAT and my personal statement and applying to law schools and I had to quit my job some time ago to focus on this and it has definitely taken a toll on me and I couldn’t have explained it better myself. You dont even feel good about the weekends anymore or just time off bc your essentially always off in a sense and it can for sure take a depressing toll on a person. I try to not even think about it to not put myself further in a hole and im honestly so grateful that im not the only one who has felt like this. I hope you feel better and just know that anything you do is great ❤

[@heatherlazos2885]

Volunteer work at soup kitchens and things like that help a lot

[@tayloralexaz]

Been watching you lately and I relate more and more with every video I come across. The thing no one tells you about becoming a new you is that you’ll miss the old you. And that’s normal, and okay, she deserves love too. It doesn’t mean you’re going backwards, just that you’re able to look back and maybe see some of the good you couldn’t while you were in it. 🤍

[@tschandraheinze1680]

Girl your just a TRAIL BLAZER!!!! ❤ not to mention we all can see your vision. We understand exactly what your speaking of. Most of all happy your thinking about all these things. Be proud of that. Make sure to always have those sleep overs, your shifts at the bar, enjoying your baths and cozy night's with fav meal. I have actually always wanted to do the social media thing myself but stop myself everytime bc i am a Mom of 5 boys. I dont want them on the internet at all of my account so i get it 100% your so mindful and smart Abby. Your doing all the right things. I can really appreciate this video from you. You inspire me alot. I have a story with addiction and grief id love to share one day. Maybe i will. Maybe i won't? Im happy you have been so brave to share yourself. ❤ lots of love and support sending to you. Love ya girly. Tschandra P.s. I wouldn't say anything about being at your job a place that is part of who you are. No shame.

[@Lalitaburton.official]

Yes exactly. Been a roller coaster for me too but I’ve finally found that perfect space myself. So proud of you

[@ElizabethDior893]

I was getting ready to type and the whole transition to underwear caught me off guard lol take care of yourself and don’t put so much pressure on things you are first priority. If you’re good then everyone else will be too. ❤

[@abbeyfickley]

Very good point. Definitely have not been putting myself first and now I’m paying the price. Thank you for this reminder. 🙏🏼

[@Desiree-Laine]

Girl,...I already had mad respect for you. But this entire video, literally my jaw dropped. You were saying soooo much wise,wise,words! Incredible common sense, and genius life lessons here. Sooo proud of you, and happy for you!🤯❤️👍❤️👏

[@AM-qr4ys]

You explained it PERFECTLY. I completely get it. As a stay at home mom of two kids who are in school and my dog who just passed 😢 who kept me company and busy. I find myself not knowing what to do with myself and finding my mental health to be awful. And thank you for highlighting this Bc to us who watch? We actually see things differently. I think wow. She seems so happy and content and busy and I’m sure you are but you is life just looks really happy and perfect. Which makes us feel wow what can we do better. Why don’t my life look or feel this way. And I realize that’s not your intention Bc you seem so down to earth but to clarify that as much as it looks a certain way it’s not always that way. ESP someone like me with awful self esteem I tend to compare - I knew you were a real person and I’m not surprised you posted this thank you. I love you and your little family. ❤

[@willowbullard3307]

Writing out a weekly schedule is really helpful for me, being able to physically cross stuff off as it is completed is rewarding. Once everything is done for the day then it is easier to shut off my "working" brain and get into my "at home" brain.

[@abbeyfickley]

I’ve been trying, but I found that I’m struggling to stay consistent with it. Maybe I need to try a different method. I’ve been using a big giant calendar, or I will buy fancy planners from target. 😅😂 But I just need to be consistent. Thank you. ❤️❤️

[@alexandraittah1089]

I use an app called Time Tree. I add all of my work appointments and social stuff as well as reminders. It’s easy to make revisions and to look back if needed

[@jessicawilson2772]

I went back to work 19 mos ago, after being a SAHM for a decade. I remember frequently telling myself to enjoy the freedom before my start date bc I knew I'd soon be wishing I had them back. But it was hard to actually appreciate them bc, as you said, I didn't have the balance to enjoy it like I enjoy time off now. Your feelings make perfect sense to me. The negative boosts the positive. A large amount of intentional effort is needed without it. ❤

[@amandathompson5971]

i am a teacher and have a 17 yo disabled child and s 9 yo. While I absolutely love my summer with them etc, it affects my anxiety and depression so much!

[@Oyimtalkingtoyou]

I’ve been anxious for a long time and staying in too much….. even with 4 kids I’ll make any excuse to stay home. Lately I’ve been getting out more and just being in my community, like you returning to work, is so good for you. Just the small talk, the tiny smiles, the acknowledgement of yours and other people’s lives is so important. God has a plan for you and you never know who or what is around the corner. So excited you got a house!!

[@jackietomes9517]

Being able to understand what you need to thrive is awesome. So many people are rooting for you to succeed. Being humble and grateful is part of my life mantra.

[@alldayaffair]

Love you Abbey. You are so smart. You are the only "influencer" I really watch. I went to rehab 2 years ago. I have been clean for one year. Thank you.

[@annasthetic]

thank you abbey for this!!! finally someone is talking about it. it’s great to give out this information for anyone wanting to join this industry especially someone sober

[@marianeaston7260]

And also staying I the middle is where it’s at! I always say the middle is the best partttt!

[@love_and_protection_9993]

Myla is truly so lucky to have a woman as wise as you raising her. Truly.

[@lesliescales689]

This is the most real shit I’ve ever heard! I love it! I’m sober for 8 years and you gotta do you first and foremost and whatever that is do it because that’s what got you here 😊

[@HeyJaimeKennedy]

Girl, I f**king love everything about you and how you keep it so real. Have you ever thought about being a mentor/ possible manager to someone wanting to start a channel?

[@Melanie_Al]

Wow the part where you said that you never dwell too long thinking about your success and just focus on what else you need to do is so on point i cant even describe it.

[@Liz-ow3pe]

Love your honesty and openness. Anyone worth listening to on here wants you to be healthy first and foremost

[@jreese2020]

Pittsburgh girlie here ❤️ at first that’s why I followed you. I’ve never been an addict to anything but nicotine, have never tried any crazy things but it hits close to home. Love watching you and your successes abbey! ❤️

[@ShallowApple22]

You picking up that shift shows how well you've become to understand yourself your triggers and your foundations ! Anything it takes girl we are 💯 behind you and Myla. I'm so happy your doing WHAT YOU NEED TOO❤❤❤

[@trish-rdh]

Wow super proud of you, the way you are talking about this is such a representation of how much you have accomplished with your sobriety! I'm 3 yrs sober, ty for being so real ❤