ENNEAGRAM Type 2 | Annoying Things 2s Do and Say!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Send this video to all the enneagram 2’s in your life!! 😍

[@theintrovertedchick6757]

I would but I'm scared she will throw the whole drawer of Tupperware at me hahahaha 😆

[@AbbeyHowe]

The Introverted Chick hahahaha

[@HLANDINE1]

Such a funny video. I'm a 2 with a 1 wing - the servant. So much of this is me.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Heather L I love this!! Thanks for commenting!

[@micheletaylor-depew7308]

@@HLANDINE1 I am, too! lol

[@madeleineedwards1872]

Me being a 2 reading the title: Oh my gosh I do things that are annoying? How can I change? Am I really annoying?LOL

[@AbbeyHowe]

You're not annoying!!!

[@apf4388]

same

[@zchane]

aahahaha i felt the same wayy

[@Maru_loves_mochixx]

Totally!!! Lol!!!

[@anicucqiridze8419]

Omggg SAMEEEEEE

[@nuggy9556]

As a type 2, in social situations, i often feel that my friends need a break from me. If I think I may have offered a bit too much help or anything, I immediately pull back to let the other person have their time to themselves. Also, I want mostly everyone to be a friend of mine. when I don’t know where a I stand in a relationship (do they like me/do they not like me) it is the worst feeling! Great video, on point!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Brunette Mangaka thanks for your input as a 2! I am a 3 but I’ve definitely felt both of those things in social situations. I appreciate your support on this channel! ♥️♥️

[@nuggy9556]

Abbey Howe of course! Good luck, I love what you have created!

[@thesingingfangirl6155]

EXACTLY! I GET THAT MORE THANK YOU KNOW!!!

[@apf4388]

SAME!

[@lizzietimberlake5623]

YES I’m a 2 and often can find myself feeling like “too much” for some people in my life. Like I love helping but...sometimes no one asked (& no one wants it!), lol

[@MafiaMoriartyFTW]

The “WhAt Is WrOnG WiTh Me!???” was painfully accurate 🤣

[@AbbeyHowe]

😂

[@skeletonbread]

Omg the amount of times I've expressed that I don't need help and that I'm fine on my own, only to get frustrated with people for not helping me and for not paying attention to me. 🤦‍♀️😂 This is really helping me to see my faults, thank you so much!

[@tanyalemmon8505]

Same! My poor husband! Haha! But seriously... how annoying for him!

[@brittneynicole5358]

I hate being a 2. It's fucked up my life! Ugh. It all resonated with me. The part where we will settle for anything in return. 2's beware! You are worth it and deserve real love. You deserve to be treated well.

[@vortiz5]

I would choose to change my anneagram :X

[@heritage.home.crochet]

I resonate with all of that mess...I didn't realize I was so manipulative sometimes....but so true.

[@AbbeyHowe]

lhenle55 that kinda stuff sneaks up on you! 😂 thanks for watching and commenting. I appreciate it!

[@jfish032]

😭 I'm a 2

[@heritage.home.crochet]

@Dr. OBELA cured me Is this a plug for yourself?

[@victorgrubbs5213]

The “I want you to be happy and I want to be the one to do it.” REALLY hit me in the chest lmao

[@ZhemJZ]

As a 2, I'm personally offended and realize that this was made only to spite me directly.

[@syberyah]

(Are you being serious or are you being facetious?)

[@HealingMusiciansLaunchcast]

😂

[@meeyang111]

Touché

[@rachelpoteet4711]

Just found out today that I am a type 2. I can definitely resonate with expecting things in return or praise for when I do favors for others. I don't think it's necessarily BAD to want the same energy back with things, want appreciation shown or not be the only person doing favors, but I realized today that sometimes I almost guilt people, especially a good friend of mine who doesn't have the same resources to help me as I do him. I'm gonna try my best to work on that

[@sarahmccormick3405]

OMG The "Are you mad at me?" one hit just right. THIS IS ME ALL THE TIME!

[@heatherstauf2210]

As a 2 I read the title and was bracing myself thinking it's okay just watch the video and don't spiral into shame. I'm so glad I was wrong and that this video was light hearted while still highlighting some flaws of the 2

[@AbbeyHowe]

You’re awesome! No shame spiral please. We love enneagram 2s!

[@ChristopherZain]

Hi I'm a 4w5 married to a type 2. You are spot on and I wanted to add something I noticed while reading most of the type 2's reactions. From, "What's wrong with me?" to "I need to help everyone because they all need help and because I don't need anything, then I'm the only one that can help them!" I notice the answer may be in both statements. "Everyone has something wrong with them, and we all need help...even you 2." :)

[@HAKUNAmaKINGkong]

It's funny cause it's true and it hurts just a little bit

[@AbbeyHowe]

Oof, sorry it hurts a little bit!! But that's the great thing about the enneagram is it's a tool for growth!

[@ArcticFalcon]

My 2 mom went to work when she was sick because she was worried everyone would be exhausted without her...

[@AbbeyHowe]

Wow, what a classic 2 response! I bet she is a wonderful mother!

[@NoPancakeMix28]

Well, yes! Things fall apart at the seams when we’re not around! My boss (8w7) would never let me forget the time I called off due to food poisoning and/or the times I wasn’t scheduled and the restaurant became busy.

[@angelawinger1756]

Pp

[@sarosen5731]

I’m a 2 and constantly being worried that other people are mad at me/not asking for or accepting help are literally my two biggest character flaws LOL

[@jenniferleigh1674]

This was def spot on. I really struggle with manipulating especially when I people please waaaay too much and expect mutual respect back and get so angry when it isn’t returned

[@kathryn8782]

For number five, we really want the person/people to be surprised or grateful and tell us that they are thankful

[@Terry.W]

Type 2s ...make you feel warm and fluffy and simultaneously make you want to scream ...loudly..

[@AbbeyHowe]

TERRY. W hehehe

[@jfish032]

BAHAHAHHAHA 🤭 sorrryy, but so true! I'm a 2 and usually can't stand other 2s.. ugh, it's like drinking liquid sugar or something

[@abigailclouser8621]

Jordan Fisher ME TOO HAHAH I’m a 2 but when I talk to other 2’s I’m like “too...much...positivity...”

[@jfish032]

@@abigailclouser8621 lol, the worst is when it's so fake/ to be liked 🤢 I tend to gravitate to the positivity in 7s 😃 cause it's so pure bountiful! Also, 3s cause it's pragmatic!

[@abigailclouser8621]

Jordan Fisher I couldn’t have said it better!

[@brittanybower5809]

I'm dying laughing at the accuracy of helping with the area rug. Yes! On point.

[@kristen7623]

That was the same for me. Painfully accurate

[@Livmylifelivi]

Right off the bat.. “I want you to be happy but I want to be the reason” 💀

[@carolynpeterson9968]

This was so freakin amazing!! Not only did you nail a 2 (speaking for myself) but the setups were so well done!! You are so funny!!! My favorite line "I want you to be happy, but I wanna be the reason". Dying!! :D

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks so much, Carolyn!! 💜

[@jfish032]

Omg, yes! As a 2 I COMPLETELY relate to that line. And that's the hardest thing to admit *gulp* 😔

[@brittneywatson5469]

I'm a 2! And when I was at my unhealthiest I was this to the max! And I know this is supposed to be exaggerated! But it is so true!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks for watching, Brittney! 💜 And DEF supposed to be dramatic 🤣

[@sunnynotblind4158]

As a 2 with 1 wing I never ask for help. When I do and am denied, I am crushed because it takes so much for me to ask.

[@allisonscanlan4144]

I wish 2s would be more honest about expressing themselves

[@AbbeyHowe]

that's really hard for 2's!

[@Arzpal]

Thats really hard for us xD

[@allisonscanlan4144]

@@Arzpal always room for improvement! It's hard for me too as a 5 but I'm trying to improve

[@Arzpal]

@@allisonscanlan4144 do you want to understand 2s?

[@allisonscanlan4144]

@@Arzpal I already do haha I have a lot in my fam. And have studied their ennegram in depth

[@gregwilliams9749]

Me, a 2: "Thank God she made these for the other types- Now I can better understand the needs of the people in my life!

[@StrongestLibrafluidAlive]

I think a lot of people would think this way regardless of enneagram

[@rundbaum]

You're right!! these videos are perfect for sending to the recipient we see in these videos . . .

[@Loveyourlookhawaii]

“Is it because I smell?” SO ME OMG

[@AbbeyHowe]

Nicolle Velez heeheehee

[@emilylasseigne1224]

This is absolutely hilarious!!! 🤣 I’m a fellow enneagram 2 & this is pretty accurate. I have the hardest time saying no even when it seems like I am carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. I always want to be available for people so they know they’re loved and valued, but sometimes it bites me in the butt because I’ve gotta learn to say NO to people who take advantage of me. Also, I have the hardest time allowing people to help me, even though at times I really might need it. Great job with this vid! 👏

[@momoekon9944]

Oh my gosh... it's so relatable as a type 2 person. Sometimes I do catch myself doing those kind of things, other time my actions can be subconscious. In another word, "I need to overcome the flaws in 2!"

[@s.n.matias5193]

As a 2, I laughed n cringed watching this 😊😭

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks for watching, S.N.! 💜

[@fzzypurpleturtle]

I am so sad at how accurate your last bit was 😂😂 my husband says I do this all the time lmfao

[@RealZeal96]

I'm a 3...i find myself whipping away at 2s so that they say what they mean. I call them out on manipulative tendencies. They follow suit begrudgingly but are greatful in the end

[@dawnfromia]

I'm a healthy 2 but...yeah...this resonates with me! I can definitely get into some of those negative traits on bad days!

[@danb316]

my wife is an enneagram, but i i tell or suggest to her she is , she will react as described in the description, and she can be somewhat strong tempered at times, so i will be keeping this tidbit of knowledge you have so generously shared... to my self..

[@danb316]

type 2

[@AbbeyHowe]

Sounds like a wise plan 😜

[@Zullala]

Oh my gosh that was definitely me in my previous relationship! Always trying my absolute best and accepting eye contact as the best thing I could ever receive from my partner. Even if it was followed up by a criticism. At least he was talking me haha

[@missiedeloach206]

Omg...I just learned that I'm a 2, kind of questioned its authenticity, then died in laughter and shame watching this....I am guilty of ALL of these, especially at work...I am TOTALLY a 2!!! Thank you!!

[@kit6863]

I’m a big stinking 2.... but my expectations of the return of what I give from are very low. They only time my expectations come back to hurt me is when someone takes advantage of my soft kind nature and my inability to say no, and the they throw me aside. I’ve spent myself chasing love...I struggle with fear of abandonment... I’m a lonely 2

[@darwinwatterson4568]

hello!! how are you now? :D i hope ur doing better nowadays! i am a 7 and i really like 2s u are the best

[@princessrosie90]

I'm a 2w1 and yes I do some of these things but I think the 1 wing keeps me from being completely overwhelming. It also gives me much needed boundaries

[@burningmarl5664]

You nailed it. The annoying stuff they do almost negates their "selflessness"

[@SoaringAboveItAll]

I am a two and can relate to all of these so much. Eye opening for sure!! Thanks for sharing. Great acting too!! Haha

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks Rachel!! I’m so glad you relate to these. (2’s are awesome!) And thank you for leaving a comment. I appreciate it! ♥️

[@angelarogers4679]

omg me too... every single one of them lol

[@amunford1]

Except for the martyrdom-u nailed me!

[@emilybarker3240]

The dramatic come apart on the floor when you feel no one appreciates your sacrifices for them... yeah I do that.

[@syberyah]

Yeah, I have 2 in my tri-type and I definitely relate to #6 very much... I'm *constantly* micro-managing my younger siblings when I don't think they're doing things right and I'm like "Please, I'm trying to help you do it better just let me help!" And I know it's annoying and I'm trying to stop, but...

[@aalayacooper2948]

You’re a great actress!!!!! I actually ranked the same level in types 2 & 4. Very interesting!

[@jessicathompson5362]

I'm baking a cake so I can learn how to bake a cake. 😆

[@AbbeyHowe]

Jessica Thompson hehehehe

[@jess.from.scratch]

These are so spot on, every single one of them!! I am a true 2! I've have learned so much about myself and how to love other people better too, since coming to know about the enneagram! Thank you for these!! ☺

[@katiepierce7293]

Why is this so accurate 😂 I’m a 2w3

[@AbbeyHowe]

Ooh, that's my roommate's number and wing!

[@alastair2375]

Katie Pierce OMG SAME

[@yuanaurora6061]

Hi katie, me too! 😂

[@christinelyons2182]

Me too! 😂💖

[@Melitta-zx4sf]

@@AbbeyHowe Is your roommate a self-preservation two ?

[@Genesis-dr8jd]

i did a type 2 thing and was freaking out about how i can improve myself to make others happy lmao

[@jfish032]

That's 2 with a 3 wing

[@cheeseebun]

I WENT TO THE DOLLAR STORE TO GET A BUNCH OF TUPPERS SO THEY AINT HAVE TO GIVE IT BACK TOO LMFAO SJDJRJJRC 💀🥴

[@AbbeyHowe]

HAHAHAHA YES I LOVE THIS

[@lmajeski8546]

Guilty 🙈

[@eyeforthescreen430]

I cracked up laughing. Too accurate for this two.

[@kjmlaw5837]

'umm, yeah, pretty much nailed me

[@davidcarnevale8885]

Yep, as a 2 I have done or said basically all of these. Thank you for doing this in fun! It was a great way to have a laugh in these difficult times (especially for us 2s because we desire human interaction so badly!)

[@taylormariehayden837]

LMAO I've taken so many enneagram tests and I'm always a 2 but I HATE doing the dishes and there are some things I can't relate to about 2s but all 6/7 of these were SPOT ON!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Rep those non-dish doing 2’s! 🙌🏽

[@lizsmith4104]

Taylor Marie Hayden agree, I always say No !

[@NoPancakeMix28]

I also hate doing dishes, but I do them simply because it gives my 6 boyfriend peace of mind. Basically if it makes him happier and makes his life easier, I can do it. The life of a two 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@pamlewsey]

This is fabulous. Very very insightful, for Type 2 and 4 as well. You are an excellent actor! GREAT videos!

[@evahc4017]

Hilarious and spot on! thanks for this

[@emilybarker3240]

I’m a 2 and when my husband asked what he can do to help me I literally implode on the inside. I may know I need help but all the things I need help with would burden him too much and then he might be mad at me -ahhhh! -were working on this 😂

[@jfish032]

Oh gosh... I can relate to that 😣 it's like.. I don't want him to have to help (ideally), but I know there are SO MANY WAYS he could be helping. The very fact that he has to take the time to ask that question is frustrating 😅 tl:dr I'm terrible

[@NoPancakeMix28]

Jordan Fisher I am with you! My boyfriend won’t even say the words “do you need help?” but will literally say “just tell me whatever it is that you need me to do”. I don’t have it in me to be bossy! And I can’t let anyone know that I am not Wonder Woman. Besides, I don’t tend to care about MY needs, it’s about everyone else’s.

[@jfish032]

@@NoPancakeMix28 totally! Thank God my bf has forced me to chillax and started teaching me that me taking care of myself is helping him to not have to deal with me as a raging 8 😅

[@ilonamazurets2032]

This is waaay too funny and very close to me seeing myself😂. You did very well expressing this type👍

[@phillconklin382]

I laughed out loud a few times. You are funny and insightful. I subscribed. :)

[@marishaten7399]

Your voice and personality is so soothing I feel good just watching these videos.

[@AbbeyHowe]

awww this makes me happy

[@kalebjones8616]

This is SO accurate. Laughing at how much this describes me!

[@geebaucham]

Lmao this was dope. I’m a 2 and identify a LOT of this! It’s also nice to see the healthy and unhealthy traits.

[@lotusflower3695]

🙋I'm a 2!!!! And wow this was so eye opening! And I married a 5. I love being in the kitchen and doing for others. I forget about myself often

[@skym821]

I want to do everything for everyone, but if they don't appreciate me... I will lose it. 😂

[@Professa06]

I'm a two and reciprocity keeps me going. I can easily pour into people but once I feel it's one sided I pull away and keep it surface cordial only. I'm working on it lol. Your vids are great 👍🏾

[@boyofmanyfaces]

That had me cracking up! Just digging into the Enneagram for the first time. I'm a 1 w2

[@barankamali8057]

My mom is a 2w1 and I’m a 9w8.We’re opposites and best friends.She thinks I need her and I don’t like her acts of service cause I want to do things in my own way...she is usually the nicest person in my world but when she get angry or upset... It is important to know why 2s help people. They think others need their help and abilities. Not necessarily to gain the love and affection of others (this is not necessarily a 2 thing.we all need this)

[@angelarogers4679]

this is me to a T... every single one of them, it's kind of scary how accurate this is lol

[@music72kc]

Wow this is my mother

[@AbbeyHowe]

Kacey B best comment ever

[@sezztooley]

this is SPOT ON

[@laurenweller5765]

As a two, I resonated and laughed at all of these!

[@kloisgooden]

🤣 this is absolutely so true. So very me! Thanks for the fun video.

[@cougarmoorhead-douglas1972]

Thanks for helping me see how fun, helpful and how much I need to be honest!

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm so glad!

[@venturatshilombo1752]

This is accurate I could cry lol every single word

[@AbbeyHowe]

Don't cry, Ventura!

[@SitsInATree]

the cake baking hurt me 😆 I'm obsessed with food and cooking, always have been, and I always interject to help my family when they cook so much so that it's become a running joke 🙃

[@blueKillerwhale2]

Super new to the enneagram but I’m a 2 and this was hilarious, called me tf out, but came across as intended like the exaggerations helped me laugh at how ridiculous I can be 😆

[@ladycayla14]

I can relate with different ones. In my most unhealthy of seasons, I’ve definitely been these. Oh man, I’ve asked that questions many times, “are we good?”. Lol I just want everyone to like me. And I’m trying to get better at saying no and expressing myself better. So here’s to trying to be a healthier 2! Lol

[@AbbeyHowe]

Sounds like you are well on your way to healthy "two-ness" Macayla! Thanks for commenting and watching, I really appreciate it!

[@stewiegriffin5139]

Lol I feel attacked 'I've made hundreds of cakes' when you like that people admire you for your cake skills but it's exhausting and stressful to make for others but at the same time being a 2 you can't say no and will stay up till 4am to make them one, even then you tell yourself it's a mess and not good enough too 🤣🤣

[@hannahrobbins2561]

I'm a 2 and I'm laughing so hard at how real this is. ESPECIALLY the last one.

[@Israelie_Hippie]

I so relate! I really related with the insecurity poetion. Are you mad at me? I do this all the time! Lol!

[@schoolgirl1939]

this resonates with me a lot lol. Like yesterday, my sister got the piece of fish that i like and i told her that im upset. she had already sliced it but she told that if i wanted it she will give it to me. me being type 2, said no and told her it was fine. but i was actually hoping she would've just put the fish in my plate without me asking for it. in the end, i didn't eat any fish and i was sour the whole dinner time. when we were cleaning up, it was just the 2 of us and she confronted me about it. i apologized to her and told her i was being irrational. im so fucked up omg💀😭

[@gracie_5]

You love 2s. I hate to be a 2. I cry with 26 after people ignored me or avoided eye contact, i feel unloved, depressed and want to be under 6 being cared and getting attention. I feel lost, i dont like being adult, i feel lost and dont want to do things alone. Rejection of attention and love means being ignored and unimportant in existence I would prefer being a 3 like you can always do things to kill fear and anxiety, but you cant pressure people to like you or pamper you when people think you have the 2 interpersonal intelligence Sometimes we need to be submissibe, bad with 278 tritype, but the 2 is like...give a teddy or that im valued. I even care less about having money, if people are there, but rejection and being alone is sadism to feel in life

[@Slimeyyyy]

never in my life have I ever felt so attacked before

[@RagingBlasian]

I ACTUALLY got offended for a second and was like "but but but I just wanna help people, I'm not that bad, I promise 👉👈"

[@benjidorvilus6717]

Def resonate with that last one lol.

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm not a 2... but I do this often 🤣

[@RetroXRicardo]

As a male 2w3, people immediately judge me as effeminate and passive. Also, as an ESFJ I've learned to accept my type. Everything in this video resonates with me so much lol!

[@sarahbrock7209]

Omg the part where number 2 is always worried if they have negative feeling towards them is so true as a 2 myself when I'm not in a good place I'm always asking my friends have I done something to upset them out of the blue or ask are we okay? And the last part is defo me I hate people helping with cleaning etc like the only person who I let help me clean is my best mate and even then I'm probably double checking she doing it right 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@hspolomo18]

"I KINDA sense that you're mad at me...." I laughed out loud. If I leave a comment on social media that I look at and think "oh gosh that sounds a little bit passive-aggressive" I HAVE to leave another comment clarifying. It's the hardest one of all of these things to overcome (for me, personally)

[@melscore2865]

I'm a 2 guy. I rarely ask for help from anyone except my wife. I prefer to give the help to others. I'm the first one to volunteer to help a friend move. I usually put other people's needs ahead of my own.

[@joaniparrish2904]

Soo painful 😭😂I literally did the cake thing yesterday to my little brother who was trying to make a nice dinner for his girlfriend 🥰🥰

[@jfish032]

Aww! Aha, first step is recognizing it 😅 I'm the same

[@christinaallene123]

No no no, (5 who lives with a 2 mother/has known lots of 2s) their pride is in how anxious they get when criticized and defensive they become when they feel the slightest bit of a finger pointed at them. Expressing any concern will make them feel that their character is being threatened.

[@akthehigh]

Oh my gosh I'm dying at that last one xD Would be nice to get a little help though!!

[@paoce960]

I am a 2, I can understand the attitude of the woman representing the. 2. However, I don’t really do those things. I have worked hard in myself for long time. I can receive help, hmm but it’s still hard to ask for help though … I really love helping others, it fulfills me but honestly, my motivation is not receiving something in return. I do love people and of course I like to be loved but that’s not my motive, I love loving others. I am not the kind of a person that is always serving to others in a party, for instance… I am talking to them and focusing on how they feel… and I love deep conversations where you go deep in the psyche of other human being. I am straight forward and I know my needs and I am able to voice them up. I have a good wing 3 by my side! ♥️💪🏼👌🏻😃

[@stinkypinky2547]

Super accurate. PLEASE make a type 8!!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Coming soon! Next week is enneagram 4!

[@srdfb2260]

Yes, yes, yes, I do alllll of those things! Funny!

[@LexxieDivine]

When you were in denial of being a two then realize you are a dictionary example of a two in real life 😂

[@LeoUnlion]

Wow, my mother is a 2 - and I'm an 8 - and I never understood when she says "are you asking me to do it now?" when I barely made some suggestion. And the part when she didn't express her needs to others made her burn out few years ago. She never ask for help.

[@lindakoch2086]

Adorable and yes, you nailed it (me)! Appreciate the humor and ok, the truth

[@heyitsjayjay2809]

This whole vid had me dying 😂 I definitely check all 7 boxes

[@FoxLatté-r1l]

Was trying to see if my character (in my book) was a two and this helped so much, yup! She def is!