ENNEAGRAM Type 9 | Annoying Things Nines Do and Say

[@its.dragaton]

all the nines clicking on this & bracing themselves to not take anything personally 👀

[@AbbeyHowe]

Kristina Meyer so funny 😂

[@happyfellowship4291]

ME

[@luvpeacejoy7]

Haha I took a couple deep breaths

[@tianas.6813]

i'm actually crying

[@layanna8702]

ngl i almost didn’t want to click on this cause i knew i would be thinking about it all day 😂

[@anniekyle113]

Best part of this video is when the 9 says "I don't know I forgot" when asked a question about themselves. I SO RELATE. hahaha.

[@sarahfaith6531]

Annie Kyle I wouldn’t recognize myself anywhere

[@calebstohr8633]

👀 yep haha it really is like that I need my day to myself

[@nauraistitah5589]

SAME LMAO

[@alaz3895]

my bf is a 9 and he alwayssssssss fucking answers me “idk” as a four it enrages me lol

[@baileybrinker5935]

Yes this is exactly why none of my security can questions can be “what is your favorite ____?” Like...I DoNT KnOW

[@cranberry_neko]

I am an INFP, the mediator and Type 9. Please pray for my life.

[@autumnkuusselka]

omg same lmaoo

[@Turonrock520]

Me too 😂

[@irr3545]

Same

[@rebeccacook8149]

Girl same

[@AbbeyHowe]

😂

[@tyleremery7088]

My first thought as soon as I clicked: "This girl is _not_ a 9." Not a bad thing, of course, the energy just caught me off guard lol. Edit: There I go with my own 9-ness, editing my comment to make it sound less confrontational.

[@pizzadohpaz]

Here I am as a 9, reading your comment: Hmm, that was a bit sharp. Oh never mind, they edited it nicely :)

[@CC-yx9yn]

9s can have energy. I'm a 9 and did a lot of theater and can put on a performance when asked

[@heatherbelletete7980]

Perfect! I have actually turned off my comment notifications so that I don't see when I have accidentally offended someone. I just can't take the stress. Better not to know than to figure out how to un-offend. lol

[@daniatuni]

LOL that was my first thought too hahaha

[@hannahatela5918]

"Says yes to everything but can be quite stubborn when it comes to stressful things"-- sounds about right

[@Texaslawhorn]

Ah, yes! 9w1 here, and all of these are very accurate for me. I have often hated my lack of ambition. I'm a hard worker with a fairly good eye for detail, but I am also a procrastinator who is easily distracted. Spring cleaning during this social distancing is a good example. I work a little then I get tired and want to go do or watch something fun! Keeping up the motivation can be a real challenge. Indecisiveness and passive aggression are also weaknesses of mine. Giving the cold shoulder has unfortunately too often been a go-to response when I get hurt or offended. Keeping up that negativity, however, can be difficult for someone who just wants everyone to be happy and get along 🙂 I have been enjoying your videos, Abbey. Thanks for the entertaining information! 👍

[@pinkbutterfly0509]

🙌 9w1 here too... I totally identify with "work a little and go watching something"

[@smilefishyish]

I’m a 9w1 and I struggle with a lot of the same things 😭

[@pinkbutterfly0509]

We should form a 9w1 support group ... 😘😇🥰

[@Texaslawhorn]

@@pinkbutterfly0509 yes! It's so much more fun than working haha

[@Texaslawhorn]

@@pinkbutterfly0509 agreed! We'd make such a nice, calm support group 🙂😉

[@minniepom6012]

From my own experience as a 9, I think it is not just that sometimes we have difficulty making up our minds, but also sometimes we just don't care. Maybe it depends on if you are more of a P or more of a J on the Myers-Briggs. For me, a lot of times it is not that I can't make up my mind, but that I have made up my mind that I don't care and just want someone else to decide.

[@pocasanchez]

Yeah I can be like this. When my husband asks what I want to eat I say I don't care bc I legit do not and he does tend to have strong preferences so I leave it to him so that everyone can be happy but then he gets annoyed that he has to pick. However, the few times I have picked, he won't want that. So, I've learned to go along with anything to keep the peace bc as a 9, it is far more important to me that you just eat and be happy than it is for me to pick food.

[@denisea.9033]

OMG yes 💯 this!!! I genuinely don't care and will just pick anything from wherever anyone else decides .

[@warriorcatkitty]

I can relate to this SO MUCH. I think this is something often overlooked in nines- we can be pretty apathetic to things when we know others feel stronger about it. We don't make the decision becuase we feel it does not matter what is chosen, but others do. And becuase if we chose, when we don't really care about either choice, then someone else may get mad or upset at us for making a decision we literally didn't care about and could have just as easily chosen otherwise, and that can be incrediably frustrating.

[@lizardbreathh]

Me. I have no dreams or goals in life and that really confuses non 9s!

[@ellied1217]

Elisabeth R ME TOO! I follow a 3 IG influencer and she’s all about helping ppl fulfilling their dreams! What dreams??! 🤣

[@juliaphillips2518]

I’m a 9 finding some dreams. Recommend selfauthoring as a good place to start...the future authoring module.

[@chelseagirlatheart]

Yeeeesss! I was always befuddled by those questions about where you see yourself in 5 years. Like, Idk. If I'm happy, then I'll still be doing what I'm doing now.

[@breezybearwaters]

Yes! I just want to live a good life

[@newaccount6414]

Samee

[@jeremysumpter3626]

I am such a 9 and that's evidenced by the fact that when I heard #6 I was like "am I passive aggressive? I'm sorry" in my head. I apologized to no one.

[@thatguywhois]

undervalued, uncredited and being misunderstood is the things 9 hates the most yet happens too often. No wonder we just want to be sloth, sleep all the time and shut ourselves from the world :')

[@thatguywhois]

not to mention the energy sucked in making decision and trying not to offend others

[@rachelstahly6731]

Hi, type 9 here and I just have to say how completely ACCURATE this video is. I am an unhealthy 9 and I literally do all of these things. I don’t give an opinion on things because I’ve learned not to have one. It’s easier to agree with everyone. Thanks for making this, I’m definitely sharing it with EVERYONE I know. My problem is, I don’t know how to fix these things.

[@saranguyen2788]

Me too!!!!😫 when people ask me what my passions are? I literally don’t know. I don’t like to give my opinions on anything, I just go with what most of the room says.

[@andeannafarnes4719]

The first step to any change is "realizing" your coping mechanisms are self defeating. I am a 9 also. Books on "Adult Children of Alcoholics" really helped me overcome.

[@МихаилШевелев-м4я]

My friend that is also related to 9's, also doesn't give any opinion to some things

[@EthanRumbaugh]

1. Basic fear is being in conflict 2. Self-forget: lessen self to lessen impact on others 3. Least amount of stamina of enneagram types: hard time finishing projects 4. Hard time making decisions: please self or please others? 5. Core weakness is sloth: can fall asleep to own needs, passions, dreams for others 6. Passive aggressiveness from unresolved anger: bottle emotions 7. In workspace, can be taken advantage of and can be overworked and undervalued

[@RestlessHarp]

Yep. :) Plus the guilt after you say something passive aggressive and think the person actually noticed...

[@noepictalesmember1865]

And could leave...

[@infinitylux197]

So accurate! I'm always saying "That's okay" "don't worry" "you decide i don't mind"

[@SMya-xk3jr]

Also, as a nine, I have a *thing* about being late. I hope ppl dont actually depend on me being on time😭😭😭. Not with getting lost in my thoughts or nature or a book haha ha😌😂 (sorry😬)

[@Fetishhourglass]

S. Mya same!! I don’t mean anything by it, but yes I get lost in time!!

[@dmsjt5181]

I’m an 8 and my husband is a 9. We argue so much about being late and it meaning the end of the world for me, vs it not being even the littlest deal to him 😂

[@dazey100]

i'm always late bc i think i dontt really have a good concept of time. 1 min kinda means 5 minutes to me

[@kaittoense]

I’m ALWAYS late 🤷🏼‍♀️ I can’t help it no matter how hard I try. My family and friends have learned to put up with it and expect it from me lol they still love me :)

[@mikecoleman1927]

I have the nickname “Half Hour Coleman” because I’m always late hahahaha

[@PinkZebra97]

*sees scene with girl walking on rocks singing 'once upon a dream'* Me: I love that song! *Humms along* Also me: *dreamaly sighs* I am so a 9.

[@AbbeyHowe]

hehehehehe it felt like a 9 song to me 🤣

[@PinkZebra97]

@@AbbeyHowe It really is. Especially since Aurora is a 9 also. :)

[@Catsclawful]

This was absolutely dead on! I really love your videos, and I can't wait to share this with husband who is also a 9. We are the quietest couple on earth lol. I'm sure it was a 9 who said "if you truly love someone- let them nap".

[@AbbeyHowe]

Cat Claw let them nap 😂 that’s my favorite!!

[@lizardbreathh]

Nothing makes me more angry then when someone wakes me up from a nap! 😂

[@RachelSantiago816]

@@lizardbreathh OMG YES! My daughter nicknamed me GRIZZLY! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lvmcbryde6160]

@Elisabeth R - This is why I don’t nap! It’s just not worth the irritation of waking up before you’re ready.

[@barbaraclemons8753]

Married to a nine. The decision making part rings so true. He has even struggled deciding on whether to go right or left when passing a parking lot pole. LOL

[@МихаилШевелев-м4я]

I think she is also can be related to the 6 type of personality. It's also difficult to make a decision for them

[@kwp03t]

Totally me. Any other INFP 9s here?

[@isaperez3776]

ISFJ lol

[@INFPinSA]

Me! :D Howdy

[@kwp03t]

@@INFPinSA hey there!

[@kwp03t]

Let me know if you'd like to have a chat and see if we can finish each other's sentences...?

[@INFPinSA]

@@kwp03t 😅 that would be really cool actually!

[@sweetpearportal5455]

I'm a nine and I just recently realized that its not normal to not have a passion or a dream 😂

[@jillianhigday3693]

I'm a Type 9 - INFP - Cancer... I have only recently begun to stand up for myself and put my needs before others because I have been just so miserable!!

[@sarahrawlinson4461]

Bruh sameee

[@sammyjoon84]

Same lol

[@jillianhigday3693]

@@sammyjoon84 I want to write off being melancholy and sullen as a personality trait but in reality I'm just sad and depressed because I don't invest in myself, or when I have the time or the want to do so, I am too tired! 😂😂😭😭

[@amusingbear8762]

Exact same! 9 INFP cancer. It’s not been easy.

[@kathyl6677]

9 trying to decide what comment to make.

[@shawnnahewett4870]

I'm a 9 with a 8 wing, so I'm chill until it's time to NOT be chill. I can do conflict and definitely stand my ground if it's necessary but I don't enjoy it. It's just exhausting. I go with the flow while assessing the situation. Some things simply work themselves out and any action in those situations are just not needed and not worth my precious energy. But if it looks like nothing will change unless I do something about it, I calculate the best possible move and make it.

[@cornzzn]

"i don't know, i don't remember, i forgot" FUCKKK I AM SO EMBARRASSED OF THAT LMAO

[@rainydayz2447]

"I'm so sorry" will usually follow after for me lol

[@sofiam9921]

As a nine, I never felt more attacked in my life. But also, really accurate. How can people expect me to express my opinion out loud if it may create conflict whit somebody else? It is absolutely not happening. I'd rather hide what I think than to argue with someone.

[@KASC92]

I relate to most, but I have strong opinions - I just choose not to share them with most people because I'd rather not bother trying to persuade people. I only voice my real opinions if someone is going to get hurt or something is seriously morally fucked up and I feel I have to to make a tangible difference for someone else.

[@tenshy94]

When I was in preeschool and the teacher asked us what we wanted to be when we grow up I used to copy my classmate's careers. She wanted to be a doctor, hey, me too! Hahah this reminded of me that😂 Oh, the joys of being a 9

[@AbbeyHowe]

hehehe love that anecdote ♥️

[@nohoranavarrochang8120]

Omg, this is weird, the exact same thing happened to me, in preschool, I also copied my classmate, and she also said doctor, and I said doctor too.

[@dazey100]

at one point i felt safe enough in my community and i said i wanted to be a good citizen. If there was no pressure for you back then, maybe you would have shared the same answer as me haha

[@sarahd7946]

Recently found out I'm a 9. Never felt more attacked in my life

[@Malaysia718]

Tell me about it 🥲 I thought I didn’t fit into any of them until this very moment.

[@rebecka4715]

Kinda, but I do stick up for myself... Not all that worried about not being liked, its more like, if I dont feel really passionately about something, I might as well let others choose what to do 🤷‍♀️ its more about caring about them than about me wanting to be liked

[@worthyofradness]

9w8?

[@shynn5827]

Blacklists? Gosting? Surprising people with sudden big life changes on the last minute because you couldnt handle some elses critisism? Anyone?

[@carly2764]

As a 9, I found these very accurate! Currently dealing with #7 :) Also found it hilarious that you note how 9s fear being overlooked or worry that they don’t matter, and then the 9 video is the last one produced. Cracked me up!

[@theajane6444]

So funny! I went to an Enneagram workshop where we had to write a word about our type on banners that were hung around the meeting room...and the 9 banner was furthest from the circle! 😳 ...that was a long awkward walk...😀

[@theoldaccountthatiusedtous6767]

Oh dear that "I had a dream of a talking goat" to deflect then "I don't know myself at all" is not even an exaggeration. I say this as a 9

[@adriannagattuso5442]

Me and my Fiancé choosing a wedding photographer: Me: What do you think of this one babe? Him: Yeah I like it, looks great. Me: But do you like them better than person A? Him: Uhm, Idk, what do you think? Me: UGH I don't knowwwww, it's so hard to choose! Him: Yeah they're both great. Me: Thanks for your help *eye roll* ....We're both 9's LOL

[@btcxwxy]

You're both 9s? Wow! How do you get anything done 😂

[@harmoniousbachelorette9350]

So this is why I'm having a hard time answering a job application question "tell me something about yourself" "I don't know, can you ask my friends what they think of me? 😰 "

[@KellyB918]

I have actually asked my friend to describe me for my resume cover letter!

[@brandongalvin493]

I'm a 9. And I feel a little attacked. Wasn't quite sure whether to laugh or cry at how on target most of these were.

[@cheezecake423]

Just tell me what you want to be! I - I don't know I don't remember!?! oh boy did I feel that one lol

[@KellyB918]

When someone asks me that question I go into a mental spin lol. No clue!

[@barankamali8057]

Abbey:7 Annoying things that enneagram 9s do. Me:god,These are the only things I do during the normal day. Edit:I figure out I’m 6w7 with strong 9 fix.but anyway,the stubbornness is so true...

[@zelly4914]

"What do you want to be or do?" You think I know?!? This is part of my problem. I can't figure out who I'm suppose to be now let alone in 5 years. XD

[@NoEntertainment]

I do everything except for self-forget, but I had no idea that we were the most "spiritually lazy" type, and that makes perfect sense since I constantly give up on things, but that's because I want to do something different all the time...that's a 7 fix in the Tritype (947/974 for me) if you've ever heard of it

[@noepictalesmember1865]

Oh wow. I totally do relate with that second half.

[@joearchitect1]

That was quite funny. I'm fortunate to have grown a lot in the last decade through lots of trials and good counseling. Be encouraged 9s and wake up from your slumber! A healthy 9 life is a good life. Get in touch with your underlying anger, notice your preferences (you have them and they matter), make decisions and lift your eyes. There is so much awesome life to live! Be the beautiful, unique you that is there. Wake the sleeping giant!

[@thedivineshinsoo9771]

I am getting better with all this. I think the key for any Enneagram type is to find something that you love so much that nothing else going on in your life can really shake it or your core. I'm not talking pets or people, but personal desires.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@MandaShell]

Oooh that self-forget one, hit me hard! 😬

[@Doubtyadoubts]

Bruuuhh!!😂😂😂😂💯💯💯💯💯

[@mbtinerd8531]

I think I'm a 9, but I also think I'm a 4.. help I'm confused, they're literally the opposites!

[@mbtinerd8531]

@@briang8554 Oh.. I guess Im a 9! Helped a lot 😅😅I thought about it too, and I guess I'm really a 9:))

[@j19l8r4]

Try checking the growth and stress points of 9 and 4. That might help

[@kawaiixtc]

@@briang8554 haha that's awful man, I'm torn between 4 and 9 too and I love both. the ideal ending is bittersweet... yeah lol

[@itsjustnadia]

I feel PERSONALLY attacked thank you

[@danielchausse5159]

I’m a 1w9, and #5 is definitely true of me. I avoid political discussions like the plague. I also avoid discussions about the plague like the plague.

[@AshiaChanelMusic]

A real nine would never make jam! Way too much work 😂

[@er6730]

Oof, THAT'S what passive aggressive looks like? Huh, I definitely think like this a lot (and sometimes it slips out of my mouth instead of staying in my head), but I thought I was just adjusting to reality!

[@ITSTAKING]

All of these are criminally close to my personality.

[@jamesfyffe5679]

What y’all call “annoying” we nines think of as “personality strengths”. Yep, I’ve never felt so attacked and yet understood and validated.

[@laurenliska9425]

I'm a 9 and feel this is pretty accurate for me. Definitely don't want conflict, and I tend to be invisible or taken advantage of. I can be a bit too open minded or flexible too. The only thing I would note is that with the march for the hedgehogs if I were an unhealthy 9 I probably wouldn't say I am not going, it would be more of a go ahead without me and maybe I'll join you. I'm definitely working on being more assertive and decisive though and know that being a healthy 9 can be great.

[@malcolmbrown9998]

I totally identify with the 9 who is trying to deflect questions about her dreams. A good friend of mine wanted to ask me what my goals were for the year, so I had to make my answer as complicated as possible so that there was very little chance of her understanding or remembering any of it. I think it worked.

[@charles-valentinalkan5681]

ISTP 9w8 here. I am so chill that I am almost dead.

[@willl9046]

😂. Point 3 when she said Type 9s suffer from low stamina and I was like do I have any stamina?

[@charisholloway4116]

Thanks for this! So accurate. It made me realize that I tend to show my passive aggressive behavior only to the people who won't get very upset about it! 🥴

[@AceIsHaste]

"I DONT KNOW I FORGOT" preettyyy accurate. I just follow whatever dreams my partner or friends want

[@ArtFlunky]

I’m a 9 and deeply offended by this video. I’m reporting it as hate speech. Totally kidding. No conflict here!

[@Munjinjin]

As a gemini, INFP and type 9 i'm so fucked up in this life.

[@kaitlynscanlon2402]

I am also all of those things and can concur with your statement

[@jackschmidtii502]

Add extreme introvert to it and it's me but through a lot of therapy and self monitoring I'm much happier and balanced than earlier in my life.

[@Redberryfarm888]

Yes, this was quite accurate... yet each 9 has different quirks. This 9 can see everyone's point of view (on this hand,... then on that hand... but then on THAT hand....) and they all seem valid at once. To process all of that information, my brain just goes 'blank'... like it is hard to think. I also often go 'blank' when someone is aggressively yelling/blaming/ letting it all out ... and I just stand there like a 'deer in the headlights' ...having a very hard time just thinking, much less responding. ( 9 wing 1) Another bad habit this 9 has is to 'self flush' myself, because why would someone say something cruel if it wasn't true?! I take their opinion AS truth... and down the toity I swirl... (ug...it takes a while for me to work it all through and come up for air again.) One more... is that every other viewpoint seems SO valid, especially ones with LOTS of self confidence, even if they are dead wrong. Since I have so little self confidence, I am like, "Wow! ... I wonder what THAT is like... to just be CONFIDENT!!!" 😂 9's are not all 'wonderful' inside of our selves (myself) ... we struggle a LOT under the outwardly calm water. ( 'Going to 6' stresses even more...)

[@noahdeal9372]

I'm a 9 wing 1 and I can say I definitely do the "self forgetting" and many others on this list. It's a problem lol

[@graciepayne3532]

The sloth part really called me out. I have issues with even doing dishes because I get distracted and start doing other random things!

[@Doubtyadoubts]

Potato Queen 💀💀 I can relate..it takes me forever to do like four dishes

[@shimmymompremier2918]

I am a 9w8 ENFP and I feel triggered in the best way! Thank you for making this video to touch base on real issues that 9s suffer with that we can definitely take more time to work on.

[@carbonie_fibraro]

😂 me watching videos on types 1-8 and coming to the conclusion that I’m personality devoid, nothing overwhelmingly relatable. And then finding this video 😳😳😳😬

[@dweepybug7874]

any fellow infp type 9s

[@Peggyanns]

Me!

[@enauaae]

Hello

[@therishas.4831]

My boyfriend is a 9 and this helped me understand how he goes about things! He's one of the most selfless people I've ever met. Thanks for the video! It helps me communicate with him better. From, an enneagram 6

[@brennamcdowell]

My husband is a 6. After 20 years we’re still working on good ways to communicate. Good luck! ❤️

[@МихаилШевелев-м4я]

It's so cool, that in compare with 2nd type, 9 are extremely selfless

[@Mikangelovillalopez]

E9w8 here i aways saw the 9 sloth as we know the right thing to do but we stay quiet to not start a conflict. Like if someone is being bullied the sin of knowing you should do something and just letting it happen. As 9s tend to see big pictures and multiple perspectives they tend to have a clearer view and still they don’t do anything usually siding with the bully out loud and then quietly comforting the victim. I had a 4 comfort me about this.

[@christiec3127]

This is my husband. He says yes to other people and neglects his responsibility, I have to do all the tasks he doesn't want to do, he procrastinates then gets upset if I rush him, he won't make decisions but then complains when I'm "bossy" (decisive), we can't talk about anything controversial without him wandering if I hate him, and he won't stick up for himself. Thankfully his strengths outweigh the annoying traits.

[@yeetling901]

tal gurl Have you read the Road Back To You? Im a nine and one of the most helpful tips was using an app to keep a to do list. I relate with your husband a lot and To Do Lists really help me keep on track :)

[@christiec3127]

@@yeetling901 I have not read that book. But I make lists all the time. When we sit down together and make a list of things to do or a list of groceries he just looks at me and says I don't know why you make me do this. You know I'm not good at this. Why don't you just do it? Now that we have kids I make a list of stuff we need from the grocery store and he will go and buy what I think we need plus whatever he sees at the grocery store that he thinks we need. He's really not bad about overspending anymore. He used to be a really impulsive spender. Early in our relationship when he got his paycheck he would go out and buy all this random stuff he didn't need. I ended up using my paycheck to pay for all the bills. He has less expensive projects now. He spends a lot more time just playing with his kids. He finds cheaper ways to indulge his creativity. He made a sliding barn style door out of scrap wood and sold it the last time he lost his job.

[@imaginamyry5246]

This is all too accurate.. it took me a while to realize I was passive aggressive because I don't resemble the kind in the video... mine comes out as doing something (or not doing something) to exert control rather than using words. The other thing that gets glossed over with 9s is our inaction and difficulty prioritizing. Everything can seem equal in importance (or unimportance lol) and I think that's also why we have trouble doing things that need to be done sometimes. And people can get annoyed if we end up choosing to do the thing that isn't so important.

[@MParentWetmore]

This so describes me. I'm not snarky to people I just lose the desire to do anything for them and procrastinate. On one hand if something is obviously urgent or needed I do it quickly. But on the other hand everything else is of equal importance so I never know what to focus on and just procrastinate. 🙃

[@bone_apple_teeth457]

I have literally had that whole conversation with myself at one of those book dropbox thingies.

[@ItsjustmeBREE]

Unfortunately this was too relatable but at least I know how to start making changes. That was such a 9 thing of me to say lol

[@skord176]

Yep #2 is extremely accurate. I would go so far as to stay on a University where my friends are because I don't even know what University I like in the first place and I doubt that I chose the right course at all. The worst thing is that I don't even know what I want in the first place.

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

Those were great. I am annoying in those ways.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks Randel!

[@lillykatoke1270]

I appreciate feeling like I’m not alone especially in the bit about lack of goals and passions. Maybe it just takes a little longer to find ‘em

[@МихаилШевелев-м4я]

I don't think, that lack of goals is something bad. If you don't need them to feel satisfaction, it's okay. I am related to 6th sort of person and my future plans are just killing me

[@jamesfyffe5679]

I prefer to think of it as “living in the moment”. I’m happy right now, why look any further when so much could happen between now and then? Things change and all that planning will have been wasted time.

[@BrandyH-eh9up]

Omg Same

[@ldyjplantagenet]

We need a “How to love an Enneagram 9” video. Help! ❤️

[@AbbeyHowe]

working on it! 👍🏽

[@courtesylaugh528]

"... and you get paid less." *puts head in her hand in frustrated defeat* Holy crap I've had this exact conversation more times than I can count, and not just about work; the *very* rare times that I feel I can make a case for anything I do (or don't do) it usually gets torn apart right in front of me. Most frustrating and exhausting thing ever. That moment hit so close to home it almost made me cry X-D

[@ztrglider]

Same. That face is exactly the feeling. Every single conversation, I think it through ahead of time and it all makes sense, but then I go and bring it up to the person and it gets ripped to shreds. Do I give in to easily or am I just wrong all the time?

[@nicolegaming812]

i love how i can show most of my identity by these things isfp-a type 9 libra

[@MMACOMM86]

The passive aggressive thing is very true

[@DeadChiyos]

Putting the cup on the sink made me laugh and cry. I am a nine and it is frightening how mercilessly a mirror is held up to me. Thanks for the great video!

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

Me, a 9: binge watched this playlist to see if I’m actually a 9 or not. 1 hour later: those 8 videos were cool. Maybe I’m not a 9! Me during the hopes and dreams portion of this video: ... dammit. I’m a 9.

[@brandipiecora7640]

I’m just learning the enneagram- I’m a 9. This is true for me. Do any other 9s just think they are adhd?

[@mae7974]

I was thinking the same thing 🤣 I found out my type recently and no joke I see my Adhd in most traits of it

[@infinitylux197]

Yes im also a bit ocd

[@laurenhigdon1989]

9. INFJ. Aquarius. Oof. Excuse me while I sink into a galactic bubble path of philosophy and peace.

[@alba7165]

I am too!! 9. INFJ and Aquarius. What are the odds?🤷🏻‍♀️😃

[@AlskaNoelle]

My husband caught me smiling stupidly in the car earlier today. I was literally thinking about glitter. I’m not even joking. 😭😭😭

[@jamesfyffe5679]

OMG! SO FUNNY! I have tried to explain to my wife (type 4) that I CAN actually think about nothing and do so frequently... with great joy. She cannot comprehend.

[@EArgent]

I feel personally attacked by all of these points so I guess I truly am a 9 :D I'm especially being taken advantage of at work at the moment, that one really hit home ...

[@RowdyStuff]

I’m a healthy 9! But I can see the unhealthy stuff when I was younger (20’s) and when I was in a toxic work situation. Also, when I feel overwhelmed or too stressed out. Especially the passive aggressiveness and the not finishing projects. I’m now 46 and more opinionated and assertive, but in a good way! I’m very loving in my opinions and criticisms. My friends have told me they love me because they know I’ll always be honest with them even if it’s something they don’t want to hear.

[@emilybol4845]

I felt SO called out by this I also thought I was a 2 for the LONGEST time... turns out I was a 9 for my entire life

[@justkay233]

idk, nines are dreamers and creative by nature. they also aren't always extremely passive and indecisive. this is leaning more towards an average or even unhealthy nine

[@warriorcatkitty]

Yep. I also think the passive-aggresiveness is a bit more common in 9w1s than 9w8s

[@nouseforaname3345]

I asked my mom to take the test and all she told me was: She's at peace and easy to get along with and forgot her number. 😅 Being a five I was really annoyed by this and she asked if I wanted her to take it over, but I figured out she was a nine and my entire life makes sense now!

[@mollypotter2569]

I didn’t realize I was passive aggressive but it’s true! 😭

[@ShawnaNash]

I have to admit, I'm completely new to the enneagram world. I've recently taken as many tests as I could get my hands on and It's pretty clear, I'm a 9. I have never "agreed" with a video more in my life. I laughed and "woah", I do that, and "omgosh" that's TOTALLY me more than I'd like to admit! Thanks for the video! lol

[@hanah6779]

The one about being taken advantage of at work happens to me a lot because I'd rather do everyone's work than have them explain and make excuses on why I can't lol but also to avoid conflict

[@thechatter7102]

I really didnt ask to be called out like this 😂😂😂

[@nursyazwani245]

Type 9, INFP and Libra. So much indecisiveness and passive aggressive LOL

[@badasssalsa]

Spot On! I'm a 54 y/o Nine. The song Beautiful Loser by Seger seems to fit a Nine type of personality.

[@amollo01]

As a nine, my favorite way of letting out aggression is listening to angry music and bopping my head along. So cathartic.

[@AbbeyHowe]

that's awesome!

[@hopelesshaddy3332]

Ikr And people don't get why I love aggressive music 🙄🤚

[@22OrangeGirl]

Wow, I now get it why I like rock music despite it being out of my personality.

[@ashleyguidroz7283]

yep, I'm 9! Expert at stuffing my feelings away in order not to rock the boat or have conflict!

[@epiphany55]

I actually enjoy a little conflict in debate. That's one of my releases. I hate the thought of 9s being seen as a lame duck in that sense and we should call BS when it's thrown at us. However, seeing how some types can react to being challenged on their BS is probably the sensitivity of the 9. I've often thought the 9's aversion to conflict comes from seeing how other people react to being called out or challenged. We've learned not to rock the boat because a lot of people punish you for rocking their boat, sometimes in very aggressive and irrational ways. I think it's a strategic defence mechanism that you eventually say "it's easier/less stressful to just not deal with your reaction". That's why we make so much effort to choose our words in a way that grants them probably more appeasement/acknowledgement than they often deserve. And I can see how this can play out in situations where stronger words really should be said on the 9's part.

[@happyfellowship4291]

"If you're an enneagram nine, did these resonate with you?" Hm. Well, let's see: 1✔ 2✔ 3✔ 4✔ 5✔ 6✔ 7✔ So, the fact that I feel personally called out means that you've done a killer job! I do all of these things. Seriously. All of them.

[@rennlunaa]

The book scene happened to me IRL. 🤣 feeling ATTACKED!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

hehehe

[@amandamaskell8714]

When I started the video I was scared but it’s soooo accurate for me😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

glad it resonated, Amanda!

[@LilMissAwsumSox13]

Yes! all of these were hilarious and so true. was a bit scared at the word "annoying" and not sure what this video would say but honestly it kind of brought relief! It's definitely hard being a 9 (+ enfp good Lord) but light heartedness can help overcome the narrative

[@AbbeyHowe]

Haha Maeve, I'm so glad you got past that annoying part ... all in good fun!

[@cathrinejansen]

Wow, it's good to see so many 9s commenting. I'm sure I'm the only one I know and feel quite misunderstood by those close to me.

[@dyscyple9866]

Basically nine: "No! My peace!"

[@rainydayz2447]

Anything but my peace ):

[@AliTalarico]

Wow when she said sloth I looked at myself.... Laying down..... In my bed..... At 4pm...... Where I've been for 3 hours....... Then she said it was spiritual sloth and I felt fine 😂😂