Are you a 6w5 or 6w7? | Enneagram Type 6 WINGS Explained!

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[@AMoniqueOcampo]

Sokka is one who has a really good balance of both of his wings cuz he is very organized and diplomatic. He's the one in charge of the group's schedule and his 6w5 is very prominent in the episode "Jet" when he questions how reliable Jet really is and chooses to save the Fire Nation village from being destroyed, administering justice. But at the same time, his sense of humor and out-of-the-box thinking is *very* 6w7. The 6w7 *really* comes out in "Sokka's Master." I also have a character in my novel who's more of a 6w5 cuz he's good at smelling out fakes and staying away from them. He starts out as a stage manager for the drama club and he's a reliable friend who gives good advice. His coolness under pressure is why, in spite of all the shenanigans and off-stage drama, the plays are able to go on smoothly. And I think you just helped me figure out what the main wing is for my BFFs cuz two of them are Type 6s!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you for being Sokka into the conversation. In my opinion, this conversation is now forever elevated because he is here. 😂and I agree! He leans on both his wings heavily when he needs them! Thanks for all your examples.

[@believeinyourself6855]

Question; Is it normal to have a little bit of both of these?

[@M.Antoinette]

@@believeinyourself6855yeah totally

[@Pinkywinkykinky]

sokka is love, sokka is life

[@juls_krsslr7908]

Yay! I've been waiting for this one. I'm definitely 6w5. It is a weird type because, as you say, 5 and 6 are in conflict. I seem to alternate between "friendly and unthreatening" and "leave me alone, you idiot." I also care a lot about social justice issues, which can seem kind of 1-ish, but I'm much more focused on everyone working together as a group for the benefit of everyone. I think being aware of how you impact other people, especially people with less resources and power than you have, is very important.

[@sanecatlady]

6w5 describes pretty much everything I'm going through right now; anxious because I don't know if I can trust people which leads me to pushing them away, yet simultaneously, I want to feel secure and protected by others.

[@daniellefuentesjohnson6750]

I am hardcore, INFJ, 6w5 -75% of the time=exhausting. When the 6w7 shows up=super confusing to me and others. I do think my playful 6w7 is really only observed by those I'm closest with or alternately those I am being most "on" for the gregarious but not genuine side. Individual's in that second scenario are often left wondering where the over-eager, funny hostess went and left the hermit in her place!

[@Askalott]

I'm the life of the party until I become depleted and then I just completely shut down and I have to go hide. It's a definitely a thing!

[@Mariblue1]

Wow, I resonate with all of what you said. Samesies. To some people they think I'm a type 7 because I can turn it ON when I want. But I feel like that's not who I am. I talk to people and am sociable in search of knowledge and education and curiosity, yet my friends think I'm just super social. They don't see that I'm a hermit all week long and love to be home by myself. That's when I have the best time!

[@jennifermontavon-green7532]

I'm a 6w5 and every bit of this is true.

[@AbbeyHowe]

woot woot!

[@irusq1]

i still can’t figure out if im a wing 7 or 5 i feel like i can relate to both

[@Askalott]

Same, lol

[@YEDxFILMS]

You’re probably not a type 6

[@liamm.268]

Maybe you have balanced wings. 🤷

[@liamm.268]

@@YEDxFILMS that's not how wings work.

[@rayrascanvas9403]

Yo you're similar to my 6 friend =_=

[@arson1tez]

I used to think I was 6w5 since it is more common for INTJ than 6w7 but I guess I mistook my being a counterphobic 6 for being a "Defender" type. After some reflecting, I realized I am actually a 6w7 with some very aggressive tendencies brought forth by my terrible experiences during middle school and junior high school. The environment I grew up in was violent and shaped me into a person that kept getting into fights. I am a "I love to have fun and we can get along pretty easily. You can make fun of me all you like, too. But if you do so much as my friends and family, I will be the worst thing you've come across and I have done it before." kind of guy. I mistyped myself as a Type 8 too because of my tendency to be angry when someone confronts me or a loved one but I realized it was more an anger to mask my fear of me or my loved ones being hurt which lined up more with being a counterphobic Type 6.

[@DaniTheBlueRecluse]

Last year i was 6w7 but after my psychotic break I became 6w5. Except more angry and defensive. I used to be “let’s just chat and have fun!!!” And now I’m “I’ll kill for my friends. Take me seriously and we’ll get along well enough.”

[@ozzymandias90]

I work with a 6w5 and am married to a 6w7 and everything stated here is TRUE!!! I basically have to fight my long-time co-worker to let go of some slight injustice, cause she's ready to lead a holy crusade against such fiends! My wife is a lover of all things fun, but also the most responsible person I know. When she stresses, she becomes the definition of stress. There's no calming her when she goes off. Great video, Abbey! I can't wait for the whole collection, being a 5 by nature, hehe!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Oh wow! So you’ve experienced a lot of 6 wings in your day to day life! And don’t worry- Type 5 is next!

[@ozzymandias90]

@@AbbeyHowe if I'm not getting it from one wing, then I get it from the other. Lol! I'm excited to see your insights on my kind.

[@AbbeyHowe]

@@ozzymandias90 exactly 😂 best (and worst??) of both worlds

[@xochitlgonzalez3484]

Your wife sounds wonderful 😉

[@kandicekniess]

I immediately knew I was 6w5 when she popped out saying "you had the video scheduled to go up last week...all I hear is excuses!" 😂

[@bonnymccormack4948]

Loved this video; helped me identify with my core 6 more! I’ve often doubted it because 6’s are sometimes stereotyped as introverted -worried-planners; but as a 6w7 I often feel like I’m a lot more extroverted and love to explore the world (which holding very tightly to my “secure spots” 😅). So refreshing to see some depth in the character of a 6 🥰

[@bonnymccormack4948]

Also, any advice on how to stop worrying as a 6 would be great 😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

Absolutely. You are not pigeon-holed into the 6 stereotype. You are a complex human being! And as for advice for not worrying, as someone with clinical anxiety, here are some things that help me: 1. Take things one step at a time. I have a tendency to worry about the next 12 things I have to do. My husband always says "One shelf at a time. What do you have to do right now?" So I guess being present is what is helpful here. 2. Yoga. Always makes me feel less anxious. 3. Therapy!!!!

[@carliecooper5189]

Yes yes yes! I agree so much! I’ve never had the 6 be represented in a video so relatably (is that a word?) as the 6w7 in this video!

[@coconutcat1280]

I used to be anxious, and much more of a 6w5, but now all my friends think I’m an Emmegram 7 cause they haven’t seen my worrying side as much 😅

[@AbbeyHowe]

Love your username, btw. And yeah, I think a lot of 6s get mistyped because they don't present as the stereotypical 6!

[@coconutcat1280]

Exactly! What makes me a 6 are more of my inner thoughts that aren’t always expressed

[@cindydubs9082]

5 seconds in after 6w5 came in and sad "all i hear is excuses" i knew i was 6w5 XD

[@carliecooper5189]

I’m a 6w7 and I related sooo much to your 6w7!!! I love your videos! Someone else said this as well but it’s hard to find videos where I relate to the 6 even though I am a 6. I think the stereotype of a 6 seems a little less fun and a little too organized and rigid. Like the 6w7 in the video, I get stressed easily but I try to avoid getting bogged down by it and just have fun! I try to avoid negative social media/news and negative people because I’m so prone to stress and spiral easily. I hate talking about bad things that could happen because I hate being in that mental place and I’m there often enough already without anyone’s help. I tend to try to distract and entertain and have fun and get away from those feelings. And I NEED my people! I’m super tribal and very extroverted. I just want to party with my friends and family all day long because that makes me feel safe. :) Anyways, yeah this video explained a lot! Thank you!

[@9ekoblick]

I relate more to the w5 but i think personality wise I may come off as more friendly

[@axielotl2645]

I’ve been hyperfixating so hard on enneagram for a full year by now and this channel is so good for my brain so thank you for the food ❤️ I’m very much a 6w7 and ouch this was such a callout post

[@Avionne_Parris]

Abby: "This is not a video about Lord of the Rings, Abigail." Ah, but it COULD be, Abigail. A LOTR enneagram types video, if you please :-)

[@AbbeyHowe]

AH YES IT COULD BE 🤔 I am sorely tempted!!!

[@tarcisior.gelaim6258]

@@AbbeyHowe Yes, please! We all would love it!

[@gwynethalanko9898]

Yes, please?!

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

@@AbbeyHowe Do it! Do it! (Says the Boromir fangirl, but also thinks Samwise Gamgee is the real hero and stans Eowyn for life.)

[@dove8623]

GIIIIIIIIRL!!!!!! FOLLOW YOUR HEART (and all of ours’ too, HAHA) !!!!! DO IT, DO IT, DO IT, DO IT!!!!!!

[@xyznightwing]

Really love your videos. Now waiting for my 6w7 sister to wake up so I can share.

[@Marina_7]

You finally gave me some clarity, thank you!! I'm pretty sure I'm a 6w7, it really resonated! I'm just an introverted one. I thought I might be 6w5 but that was pretty much only because of my introversion.

[@SistersTape]

I had no idea about wings before this video but now I can say that I am definitely a 6w5. Thank you!

[@TedFraraccio]

The 6w7 in this video reminds me so much of Chihiro from Spirited Away and Kai from Akira, who are commonly typed as 6w7.

[@fernandadealencar1158]

my father hasn`t made the enneagram test, but in my mind, when i see a 6w5 all I can think "dad, is that you?"

[@tarcisior.gelaim6258]

Abbey, Hi from Brazil. You have a very good content regarding Enneagram. One of the most complete I've ever seen. As a 6 it is exactly like you said, I am very doubtful with what wing drives along with my type. However I can see both wings working everyday. BTW, you have an Awesome Fridge up there! Keep on trukin'!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Hi Tarcísio! Thanks for being here. And thanks for the compliment on our fridge... we are obsessed with it!!!

[@mushkins971]

Hello, 6w7 here :D

[@writingmelody]

I definitely float between the two. I think I was definitely more 6w7 growing up, but as an adult I’m more 6w5

[@kelseywarren-bryant2682]

I’m 100% sure after watching this that my mom is 6w5. Thanks for another great video Abbey!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks for watching, Kelsey!

[@pattiparks112]

Thank you for this video. Im a 6, and resonate more with the 6w5 but also resonate with the needing to have fun in my life. I love being cerebral and having solitude, and bring serious about life. But having fun is a major stress reducer in my life! So I’m still not sure.

[@BernardoPatino]

6w5 is the autistic/depressed/untreated ADHD/hard-headed/overwhelmed/unenergetic/OCD side of me and 6w7 is the treated ADHD/anxious/happy-go-lucky/quirky/energetic side of me like both examples on this video are so obviously extreme and exaggerated for comedic and educational purposes, and there's good traits in both, and all neurodivergent people are different but I do lean towards one or the other depending on how much caffeine is in my system. i should probably get professionally diagnosed lol

[@littledarkone1995]

All I needed was the first 15 seconds to see which one I am 😂

[@KendrixTermina]

...aa, it's like I'm seeing my sisters directly before me, this is * exactly * what they're like

[@hannah3250]

This was your best video on the 6! I definitely float between both but I think I’m more of the 6w5.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Glad you liked it Hannah!!

[@ORfMT]

Goodness me, until this I thought I would be a 2 but now it seems I'm a 6(w5) instead! This kind of videos where those enneatypes become personas is so funny and educative at the same time☺

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm glad you enjoyed, Miss Luna!

[@ladyoftheflowers44]

As a 6w7 I died laughing when you started describing actually what’s in my fridge rn 😅

[@marishaten7399]

Great nail colour and rings! Loved this video, like all others. A lot of information presented in a cool, interesting way. Also...I wouldn't mind an enneagram analysis of LOTR characters from you, maybe sometime in the future. Fingers crossed!

[@dallinreynoso1243]

I think that 6w7 can be constantly in conflict with their sides as well. My 7 side longs for experiences but my 6 side holds me back from many things. I thought I was a 7w6 for the longest time. But nope my 6 side keeps me secure and I’ve chosen that side way too often. I wish they complimented well but they really don’t especially in low health.

[@flutterh3art]

That's so true :(

[@mareehutchin2702]

The more I learn… the more confused i get… I’m like a 6w5 and 6w7

[@AbbeyHowe]

You can be both!! Some people find that their wings are evenly balanced so that may be where you are!

[@BunnyKitKat]

😂😂 AHAHAHHA I mean ever since I've learned about the enneagram I've known I'm a 6w7 but the fact that I AUDIBLY laughed at the "word on the street joke" and thought "ooh I should tell my dad that one" and then she said she saw it on twitter and I was like OMGGGG

[@justmusic4072]

So what if you have type 6 and wing 5 and 7 equally? How do i call it or tell it someone in a proper manner? Like 6w5/7?

[@fernandadealencar1158]

Once I worked in an office with three 6 guys. but you could tell very easily which were their wings (btw, I made them make the test). R was an 6w5, he was the motherof our group, he was very dedicated and you could anything to him, he would know the answer. He would easily get made at us for doing some stupid things. But, L and L, the 6w7, they had the bad ideas lol. Of course, we had a freaking 7 there and me, a 4, who was not happy there and was very upset with how we were treated by the bosses. So, R was the only one sane there.

[@zchularoceribfjan]

Very helpful - thank you, Abbey 🤩!!

[@helendwight2998]

… I feel attacked lol. I’m currently using this distraction to hide from my inner turmoil.

[@emperorlelouch5696]

Ahh, this is very interesting because I did the ennegram test 2 days ago and I got 6w5 and 6w7 pretty split. However I didn't do the other part of it, so I'm not sure which one I really lean towards. I'll do 2nd part of it and then I'll see what I lean towards. Personally I think it's 6w5 to be honest. 6w7 would be me on caffeine or when I'm tipsy😂.

[@shesjustbeinemily]

20 seconds in, I see that I am a 6w5.

[@Numb_starboy.org11]

6w7

[@AbbeyHowe]

Hello!

[@DanyLassard]

Saaame :))

[@shallowwatersoriginal]

So I'm a 6w5 with episodes of 6w7. 6w7 was Pretty much my childhood persona... Hm missed the time everyone loved me for not overanalyzing things.

[@lenewessel4984]

I still have no idea. I feel like when I have to "extrovert" myself I feel like 6w7. But I feel extremely introverted and prefer to withdraw like a 6w5. The only thing I don't relate to is standing up for the underdog. I want to, but I'm also afraid of being noticed which makes me feel like a type 9 instead. TBH I don't know what I am.

[@Askalott]

I would assume some 6w7's could have a tendency to engage in sensation/thrill seeking behavior in an attempt to escape their anxiety.

[@obriannavine9934]

I am a 7w6 but I relate to the 6w7 so much!! How to you know the difference?

[@StockHonda]

Wouldnt the 6w7 be a conflict of pessimism and optimism?

[@hbtvproduction]

I’m a 6w7 - love it!!!

[@king_baallzz]

I’m a 6w5. The internal struggle between 6 and 5 is real hahahaha

[@kelseyf5633]

I’m generally a 6w5!

[@dareenmartin]

I am 6w5 no doubt 🙈

[@HelloWorld_707]

Question, could you be purely a 6 without the wing'ses (sorry i don't know how to say that) And question no.2, could you have both 6w5 and 6w7?

[@fasiah]

I am so BOTH!!!

[@danielirvine7468]

I think I’m 6w5 as the 6w7 girl was stressing me out ! 😂

[@tiredoops9388]

6w7 is 100℅ me.. Tysm for the video 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤

[@barankamali8057]

I’m 6w7 and I mistyped myself as a 9 cause I’m introverted person optimistic...but when I feel confortable, I’m so talkative and

[@MichelleMod1]

My wings are dead even! I don’t understand

[@13thravenpurple94]

Great work Thank you

[@tarcisior.gelaim6258]

OH, can I ask for a video? I've got a freind who's going through some bad vibes (Of coure, he is a 4 Type). I couldn't find the video for type 4 wings. Would it be possible for you to make it? Thanks again, Cheers from Brazil!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Great suggestion! I'm planning on making videos for all the Enneagram wings. Next is 5 wings and after that will be the 4 wings!

[@danielleybelly411]

Abby, sometimes i wonder if I'm truly a 6 or if the fact that I have anxiety plays into why i test as a 6. I am definitely NOT always prepared for worst case scenarios. Is there a different way to determine my number besides the test? Thank you. BTW - I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your content!

[@ravindrabej2584]

I think iam 6w5 and 6w7 in between 🤔🤔

[@barankamali8057]

It’s okay.most of people feel the same...

[@bluntweirdo]

I love your content

[@larissasvetlov1920]

What does it mean if I seriously identify with both extremely! I am a six, do I need to have a wing or is that just it?

[@danab172]

In another video you said the all will be well quote is good for 6. Do you have any quotes for 4s?

[@MrPunem]

Do you have anything on a counterphobic 6? Do they have a wing?

[@yippeehaha24-y1y]

Do you have a general video to explain what wings are?

[@AbbeyHowe]

here you go! kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJi0l2mai6x0h6s

[@chifahikari8902]

I'm 7w6, but very similar with 6w7😭

[@jimenalucas5170]

Im watching this bc my boyfriend is apperantly a 6w7

[@caffemocca8855]

Can a Ne or Se dominant be a type 6? Especially 6w5? A lot of things would contradict each other here.

[@LizzMo]

Yes, I'm ENFP 6w7 Social Instinct. There are many of us! I'm not sure about 6w5.

[@aprilhutchens2105]

I'm a solid 6w5 but I have like 50 flavors of LaCroix so.....

[@SwedishTourist]

Oh. Lol. No doubt I'm 6w5.

[@melinasanchez4587]

yo pase de 6w5 a 6w7

[@robertonavarro9812]

Whats the word on the street? I actually laughed at this, like for real.. 6w7 here.

[@jsievers]

OH....MY......GOD...... How do you know me?

[@KohiOcha]

Anytime anyone mentions anything about "DOGS" IS AN AUTOMATIC DISLIKE AND BLOCK

[@Handleth1s]

INFJ-T 6w5 hereeeee

[@Joanna_Maciejewska1616]

Hmm, I try to understand the mechanics of the ennneagram as a whole but I really struggle. Why did you say (in the other video) that 7w6 are constantly in the inner conflict while in this video you said 6w7 blend together really well?

[@AbbeyHowe]

good question! important to note that your main type carries MOST of the weight here. so the 6 is easily able to integrate 7 tendencies into their everyday life, but the 7 finds it harder to do so. It all goes back to the core motivations. However, I can see where your confusion lies. I honestly am going to think deeper about this and try to get back to you!

[@Joanna_Maciejewska1616]

@@AbbeyHowe Thank you for your quick reply! You gave me some food for thought :-)

[@edu.monstrik]

With all respect but eneatype 6 and both wings with their variants are really tricky to discover. Maybe that's what make them interesting people to know fhem. Regards

[@zidandjebara5227]

❤

[@Starzilein]

Idk if I'm not 6w5 or it's just my adhd..

[@maxtst]

Guess I'm 6w5

[@lolo-t4n1f]

You'll have to start talking in "minions" terms so you cover younger gens 😅😊😂

[@Undisputedkingdom24]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@AbbeyHowe]

👏

[@andrewingram2520]

I hate being a 6w5

[@adelaidacabanas3355]

Why?

[@andrewingram2520]

@@adelaidacabanas3355over thinking and too self aware. Processing takes longer and sometimes I can’t process fast enough and say the wrong things

[@CalypsoBabyy]

😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳 Ma’am, plz!! Do you know me personally??!! 6w5 all facts!!

[@xyznightwing]

Really love your videos. Now waiting for my 6w7 sister to wake up so I can share.

[@AbbeyHowe]

What did she think?