WORST Pick Up Lines for All 9 Enneagram Types

[@jeremychadwick5914]

This video A.K.A. Abbey flirting with herself for 11 minutes.

[@AbbeyHowe]

LOLOLOLOLOLOL I literally said this to Jon while I was editing this. I was like... this whole video is just me hitting on me. All I can say is we're all about self-love on this channel 😂

[@dilemma_unheard-of_dilemma1917]

I’m a 9, and I like when people seem interested as in wanting to really engage with me. Eye contact, and smiling, (not creepy smiling) but genuine smiling like you’re interested in me as a person.

[@AbbeyHowe]

love this tip!!!

[@elijahdapaedobaptiza4831]

Exactly. Same here

[@amelian9677]

“I’m a unique butterfly dolphin!” Fuck yes, this 😂

[@rebeccahorne9487]

5: "I don't know how to respond in this situation." YES! I was just telling my friend, I wish people would focus less on the "5's are antisocial" thing. Because that doesn't really feel the core trait, so much as a secondary effect of most people being horrible to be around... oh... oh, ok, yeah I see where the stereotype comes from. But yeah, this captures why company is confusing and upsetting. Edit: I also love that 5 is only relieved to find out what's going on, and proceeds to not flirt in any way. "I don't like this, but at least I understand it now."

[@mydogisoscarthegrouch]

"If a type 8 is into you, they're gunna let you know" 😅 yes. Yes we will. Nailed it abbey

[@AbbeyHowe]

Yep hahaha 🤣

[@joanaborrellsanchez9225]

YES. My friend and my father are eights and it's not difficult for they to flirt when they're interested on someone 😂

[@masonreeves4775]

Why did she reply to us 8s with just "hahahahahahs"? I got the same lame response too 😂 She gave paragraphs to the other types. 8s deserve paragraph responses too in the name of justice!

[@ninasingh298]

I'm a 6 and that is exactly how I would respond internally to those kinds of comments. I absolutely hate saying/hearing compliments that sound nice but are probably untrue.

[@AbbeyHowe]

yupppp

[@jessicadavis4501]

Saaaaaaaame. “Words of affirmation” is a love language that does not exist to me 😂😂😂

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

Pick Up Lines for Every Type Type 9: You wanna get out of here and cuddle under a blanket fort by a warm fire? Type 8: Let's talk politics and debate whether or not Die Hard is a Christmas movie! (Spoiler alert: It is!) Type 7: This party is getting so lame! Let's go for a pub crawl! Type 6: Open with a joke. Be cheesy! Type 5: What kind of podcasts do you listen to? You into true crime? Type 4: Quote a musical or a Taylor Swift lyric. Like "You strike me as a woman who's never been satisfied." or "Will you share your life with me for the next ten minutes?" Or "Autumn leaves falling down like pieces into place." Type 3: Hey, I think you are fabulous and wonderful just as you are. That said, you slayed that presentation like a hashtag girlboss! Type 2: Hey, let's go volunteer at a soup kitchen and then I can treat you after! Better yet! I'll cook you dinner! Type 1: So are you Marie Kondo cuz you spark joy in such a way that I feel inspired to clean out the mess in my life!

[@AbbeyHowe]

YES. You always have the best comments. These are all spot on!!!

[@Akigirl2004]

As a 9w1 I swooned for both the 9 and the 1!

[@amelian9677]

Epic!!!

[@maloneaqua]

Type 8 will work if we want to talk. But just say what you want. If you’re just looking to hook up just say that.

[@kariboroff7392]

As a five, totally!

[@rb1599]

I'm a 5. Love your videos by the way. I hate pick up lines like I hate a bad sales pitch. There is an expectation in them and in my mind, that expectation is saying..."I think you'll fall for it." I will not fall for it. More than likely, I will have already scanned my surroundings and spotted the people who are likely to use pick up lines or whatever the preferred form of getting what they want is. Walls are constructed before the B.S session even begins. You may say"but what if you've missed out on good relationships by putting those walls up?" I don't worry about that.

[@antonioalcantara3164]

Oh, as a 4 this so accurate! If someone ever tries to flirt with me, I’m seriously going to send them this video ☺️

[@AbbeyHowe]

You should!! 😂

[@invadertifxiii]

omg yess 4s, all i have is shirts of my interests, thats how i express myself, and i love getting compliments on them when theyre recognized

[@writingmelody]

This is where my 5 wing goes into overdrive 😂 don’t try to flirt with me, just build a connection and if we click, it’ll be organic. With my 7 boyfriend, we met, went out (my 8 brother was with us) and he was talking his ear off, and anytime I would say anything, I usually got interrupted and then my boyfriend would be like “What were you saying about ___?” And I’d be like “OH, you were listening?! I completely forgot, thank you for reminding me! Let me tell you this story” And 3 years later, we’re still very in love 🥰 6w5

[@miriamhodges5632]

9w1 here--I can tell you right off the bat that being on the receiving end of questions and interest is SO amazing. Only one guy in my life has ever put effort into looking at me and asking me about myself and though we've kind of drifted apart, I still get butterflies every time I see him.

[@temporarymonk4022]

Can you give direct examples of these Questions

[@evegreenification]

Same here. Why do we always have to be the ones to bring it?

[@evegreenification]

@@temporarymonk4022 I'm the same type, so lets suppose you are talking about the music playing at the party. Probably the nine will ask you what type of music you like. Try to reciprocate, and go deeper. Ask them what kind of music they like AND why. Why is a question that I can usually have some fun with. Plus, this opens the door to asking them out to a music venue. The other thing that is nice is support. Don't be a kiss-ass, but 9's do like to hear "good idea", "well said" and "that's true" when it genuinely is. A lot of our relationships devolve into a one way street of us doing this for others but not getting it back. At least this is all true for me.

[@miriamhodges5632]

@@evegreenification 100% yes. That's basically what this guy did.

[@mocaps7778]

Oh, my word, 9 is so true. What's annoying is when you do actually stand up for yourself and say you don't like being talked to like that they act like you're being childish and just because you're grown you're supposed to suffer through the conversation.

[@fudgesolo6352]

THE TYPE TWO WAS SOOOO ACCURATE!! This is is exactly what I tell my family all the time😂 Anyone who approaches me with an inflated ego and thinks they can win me over easily has automatically lost😑 I find kindness and selflessness to be THE most attractive traits in a person. Having a sincere and genuine love for others and a willingness to help them whenever possible is the most overwhelming attractive and appealing trait someone could ever have☺

[@fudgesolo6352]

And I always hate it when someone is only nice to me but no one else. It doesn't make me feel special, it just makes me feel as if that person's "kindness" is fake and they're only using it to be manipulative. I want someone who genuinely cares about everyone. The type of person that would still treat me with kindness and consideration even if they had no attraction to me at all.

[@AndreaS-kj4rb]

Exactly me too

[@kaysiee]

"I'm the whole sundae" God I wish I had the confidence of that 8! (9w1) I guess I'm a mix of 5 and 9 here: I don't do the flirting thing and generally don't realize when someone's flirting with me, unless they comment on my body and/or beauty. Then I yeet myself out of there so fast because that's a red flag to me! What works for this 9: genuinely compliment my work! I take a lot of pride in it. Or tell me you fell for my enthusiastic singing; that's what my partner did and it worked 😆

[@AbbeyHowe]

THANK YOU FOR TELLING US WHAT WORKS! I love hearing from you guys about that. Also, you are the whole sundae!!!!! Next time you're going out, channel your wing 8 (you have access to it!) and be the whole freaking ice cream sundae.

[@seforaker]

Ahaha yes with the 5 🤣 but with your flirting dam joke I thought you were calling the 5 a bridge 🤣🤣 needless to say no one should flirt with me

[@AbbeyHowe]

hahahaha that's so funny. "what a nice looking bridge you are. doing a really good job of connecting two pieces of land"

[@veyarain82]

(loading wheel appears over 5’s head)

[@debmarrett212]

Type 2 here. Arrogant men were my number 1 turn off. You nailed it! Love that your books are in color order 😍 Very eye catching. The 2 in me slightly cringes that they aren't in alpha order. Haha. That wouldn't come across in the video though so recognize that your way is best for you 😉

[@AbbeyHowe]

Arranging my books in the rainbow was the best decision I ever made 😂 It makes me happy and makes it feel less cluttered. But I agree, in terms of FINDING things, it makes it harder!!

[@carolinethompson376]

You are so right about the type 9 (my type). Meaningful conversations really inspire me and if they are genuinely interested in me, that goes a long way. Keeping the peace is draining sometimes.

[@storypersonal]

The type 5 one…SO TRUE. Just. Don’t. 😂😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

just.... stop 😂

[@leocampbell9481]

@a moronGod, yeah

[@NAVYA11]

as a 5 I don't notice pick up lines until waaayyy after the fact. What I do notice is when someone that I'm talking to 'un pick-up lines me' and I'm always confused... like, I didn't know we were doing anything here, but ok, Bye then and no, I won't call you, not that it had ever occurred to me to do that, but I hear you. got it.

[@viviennekolatkar8393]

As a nine, I definitely feel uncomfortable when someone comments on my body, even if it's a compliment! I wouldn't consider myself insecure about my body, but I would much rather receive a compliment about my personality rather than my appearance. I do like eyes though. I really like eyes.

[@GhERM2SOIED72]

Your colour-coded books made me smile. Thanks.

[@brambojr4298]

I'm a 9w1 and the 1 part was literally my rants whenever a romcom is on its too perfect

[@milicabosanac8585]

As a type 7 i relate so much 😄 Where are other 7s? I couldnt find a single comment about 7s on this video😭

[@dorasdoublejawsurgeryjourney]

Dude same I’m scrolling through all the comments and this is only the second comment I’ve seen from a 7. But tbh, as a 7, I don’t really relate to it. I actually like to schedule things lol

[@meganpitt]

I appreciate that your books are colour co-ordinated :)

[@Avionne_Parris]

Wow, that type 1 scenario... I feel so called out bahahaha. I was waiting for the hour long rant on the myth of finding "the one" but that "love at first sight" banter should segue into that 😂. Loved this, Abbey :-)

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks Avionne! Glad you enjoyed. 😊

[@antonioalcantara3164]

If someone tries to flirt with me, I hope they notice my All Too Well scarf and ask me about it, that will win me over immediately!

[@AbbeyHowe]

YES. T Swift fans 👀

[@darkphoenix6807]

“I am the entire ice cream sundae.” That’s my new favorite line as an 8. I will use it when my 2 husband comes home. 😝. It’s true though. What I loved about my husband was that he was always honest, even if he thought it might hurt me, and he never beat around the bush with things.

[@VirjScarlett]

Type 6 is so true!!! If someone compliments, I don't know if they're genuine or not

[@KindHarmony]

That was fun, and so true!! You're the best! Happy Thanksgiving Abbey, we are all thankful for you! 🦃

[@AbbeyHowe]

Yay! Glad you enjoyed it! Happy Thanksgiving to you! 🦃

[@rebeccaraab1793]

I’m a 9 and this is so true.

[@Alyssav90]

I'm a 9 and I gagged at the same time hahaha! This is honestly so accurate! Im a 9w8 and I relate both to the 9 and the 8.. if I get really annoyed/angry with someone I will definitely respond like the 8.. (even though I'm an introvert which can put people off lol..).

[@AbbeyHowe]

omg amazing 😂 and thanks, Alyssa! that means a lot ♥️

[@evangelle82]

8w9. Same lol. But I'm an extrovert

[@hannahnelson2359]

Type 5 here, and I have actually said, "I don't know that accurate response to that" to someone. Not on relation to flirting but still, very relatable

[@masonreeves4775]

I'm an 8 and I used the "Schedule" before on a 7......yeah still never got her number

[@AbbeyHowe]

hahahahaha 😂

[@maloneaqua]

Type 8 on point 👌🏽 just say what you want to do

[@trustyourself-ashleyching3646]

5s are precious 🥺

[@lel4per]

This is so great I laughed the whole way through 😄

[@AbbeyHowe]

yay! that makes me happy

[@shaneaverystarr]

I love the way you arrange your books by color. I thought I was the only one. 😅🖤💫

[@janab.236]

I love when type 2's near the end, because I get to focus on all the others, and always say "maybe I'm just a [insert number here]!". Then we get to type 2 and I'm like... oh. I have been exposed

[@KendrixTermina]

6s are just hard to compliment even if you're tactful & sincere they'll usually get embarassed or downplay it. Also the type 5 sketch was... rather on point. That happened to me several times. Some directness in communications might be required. That said, I DEFINITELY don't like randos talking at me out of nowhere....

[@mestimac]

Omg I've never heard anyone else say it before, but that's how I've come to think of it in my head the last few years. So often it feels like people are talking AT me. Not to me, or with me, because the reciprocity for that just isn't there.

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

I'm ⅕ and I'm not fan of pickup lines if they're aimed at me. However I really like pickup lines if they're word plays. If they're in form of a riddle and are clever I like them. Also science-based pick-up lines are the most clever ones.

[@zengrenouille]

I'm a 4 dating a 5. The funny thing is that you gave the same advice for both types, so here we are. 💁‍♀️🤣

[@veyarain82]

“When I asked 5s what the worst pick-up lines are for them, the majority of the answers were… all pick-up lines, everything, don’t talk to me.” (chokes with laughter) Yep! I’d also recommend that you just go very slow and be patient. Get our attention, then let us come to you. At our speed. Don’t be overwhelming. Be present and interesting. Also, the “I don’t know how to respond to this” is legitimately word-for-word something I would say! Well done!

[@perpetuapolyphemus2640]

You should do one where the different types interact with each other.

[@AbbeyHowe]

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[@coral-annbirnie4159]

Type 8! Couldn’t be more accurate! Tell me you like me, set a date and time then I’ll be there. Why is that so difficult 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😂😂😂

[@shellbell5444]

I love the response from a type 1 and I'm not even close to being a type 1.

[@afilmbee]

I’m a 7w6/4w3 and i relate to the 9,8,7 and 4 ones!

[@august8679]

I’m type 5 and this is spot on. If I’m gonna have a partner, they better love my interests

[@WhatJesusHasDone]

Omg 😂 yet again, spot on for this type 1!

[@invadertifxiii]

y do i relate to the 5s response, i hate pick up lines completely

[@aliciaseptember]

I’m 8w7. stronggg wing 7. I laugh at the 7 part cause yessss let’s just live our best lives!! 🍹🍸💃🏽

[@AbbeyHowe]

YOLOOO

[@jessicachamand8490]

Sometimes I am like, no I am just a 5 with anxiety. But every time I watch those videos I feel so called out. The 6 is so me. It's depressing.

[@carolfinn4027]

That was fabulous!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks Carol! ♥️

[@CuddleClaw.]

Good job with this

[@LilacSnowBun]

I love your channel!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you!!!!

[@marishaten7399]

I am SUCH AN 8 when it comes to dating!! Love the tattoo, Abbey. And great video!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Hehehe it’s a temporary tattoo but HOW CUTE IS THE CAT 😂

[@marishaten7399]

@@AbbeyHowe So cute!

[@luandthelion]

“Look at these guuuns!!!” 🤣😂😂🤣 So why was the meathead southern?? 😆 HAHAHA!!! What does it say if ALL the lines make your skin crawl??

[@AbbeyHowe]

I don't know why I made her southern!!!! I thought it was funny hahaha

[@ninasky7]

I hate arrogance to a T !! Nailed it #Type2

[@Seniormints7]

As a type 1 any pick up line that is outright like I’m the one for you or very physical without a previous connection. I’m like, you don’t know that we are compatible and also don’t touch me without asking😅 Also anything that pushes me too far. But I love when I get genuine compliments on my work or anything. I much prefer funny pick up lines but you have to be able to keep up a conversation cause I’m not the one who came up to me ya know?

[@juliegolick]

While all of these are obviously different and targeted to the various types, the running through-line is: take an interest in the person as a unique individual, listen to them when they talk about themselves / their interests, avoid cheesy pickup lines, and express your intentions clearly and honestly. I think that'll go a long way with like 90% of the people out there.

[@AbbeyHowe]

love this takeaway ♥️

[@IMTHISBABY]

Great advice, just one question. How do we know type we're hitting on! Maybe we can get everyone to do an ennegram test first. 😂

[@jemock1]

We don’t say the “s” (schedule) word “v” (vulnerability) -Type 5 🤣🤣🤣

[@Ni_Dom145]

The 4s skit hits way to close to home. 😂😅

[@cslance6863]

I guess I haven't encountered any type 8's yet 😅

[@oooofoooof4251]

never knew truity did sponsors

[@AbbeyHowe]

I believe I'm one of the first (if not the first??) creators they've worked with!! They are super cool.

[@sakyathalagahawatta5969]

As a 5 it really depends on how unique the line is and how uncringe it is

[@hanaamr3685]

Wow. I love you

[@ronjar.747]

The absolute all time favourite date: After First date guy asking me for a second date Provider we hold hands. Second date :guy asking me whether I felt okay, me affirming. Him Lifting me up, carrying into my bed like I was a feather. Perfect, non circumstencial date for an 8! 🙃

[@Rider-yb3sd]

"Ah, that's a pick up line ha ha ha ha, TF am I doing with that info" -5w4

[@alexistokarska9541]

Truity is really cool if you want to do the test, but also remember guys, that tests are never 100% accurate, so it's also good to contact a coach or even read about the types and see if they really fit you (the one you got in the test I mean), becouse my test suggested that I'm 4w5, when I'm actually 5w4 haha. And OH MY GOD the worst pick up lines are really all pick up lines XDDD It's just like... You can tell me that I look cute instead of trying to hit me with those strange... I don't even know how to call it, just pick up lines XDD Or you can start a casual conversation about something interesting, becouse "how is it going?" is never going to work 😅

[@NarcOfTheCovenant]

no one ever flirts with me (IRL at least) and I rarely have the balls to flirt with someone/feel its fake to do it, so I guess this post doesn't apply to me? I'd rather just have a regular conversation with someone about something interesting, and then complement them on something I like.

[@breannacahoon358]

I’ll say as a five anything that feels fake or forced puts me off immediately. I’d rather have a real conversation and ppl who come off as to eager forceful, or that have high expectations of me to reciprocate said attraction is just way to much. I also get put off by ppl who are of the thought that money/wealth or the size of a certain male appendage will impress me it really doesn’t

[@rundbaum]

i'm a 7, LEAN toward 1 . . . i just bought my 1st schedular about two hours ago from wal mart & sent a group text to every member of my family, just so they'd know. i'm in my 40s. also, this is not a joke. my '1' comes out any time, frankly, i see something that looks unethical--people who're dating other people & who then come to me is a non starter . . .

[@adryanadiniz8453]

I hate flirting. Just say what you want, people! (Type 5)

[@jbr2991]

Abbey, Once again, spot on! I’m a One, and have been happily married to an Eight for 31 years. BUT…I still get idiotic pick up lines, even at the grocery store 🙄. The worst was at the beginning of the pandemic. I was at the grocery store and this guy walked up to me and said, “ Hey doc, can I make an appointment?” I’m not a physician. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Skin crawling gross!!!! I gave him a piece of my mind, Dixie Carter (aka. Julia Sugarbaker) style!

[@tellaphon6718]

I really dont care about what sex those who research these things are. Just be good at it or as good as you should be to get awarded for it etc. :) - 4w5.

[@1080pQuality]

I'm a 5 and this was very accurate in my experience. I once went to a water park with my cousins but didn't actually go into the water and only sat on the side benches because I didn't want to get wet. I walked to a spot near the park to go say something to my cousin, and this dude just shot his water gun straight at me from far away and I got all wet, which I was obviously not happy about (I didn't even know where it came from). He then approached me and said "I see I got you wet 😏" and I just stood there. He was like "Did you enjoy that because I did" I was so confused so I just told him no then walked away. My cousin later told me he was actually flirting and then it all made sense

[@kaleighmccoy6195]

My bosses husband whose also my other boss mentioned Enneagrams and how he’s a 5 and she’s a 9. Later that night he shared a pickup line with her and she had said it was retarded. Anyway somehow with these two things happening today the spies on my phone were listening and now I’m watching a video on both concepts. So that’s scary 😟

[@archivist_of_dragonstone]

Oh my lord, I really have been a 1 all my life, haven't I? XD

[@hanaamr3685]

I luv u so so much

[@llawliet6484]

As an 8, if people give me a bad pick up line, I'll ask them to get out, and come in, and do it again, but this time, they need to choose their words really carefully or I'll make them regret they even decide to talk to me. But I'll appreciate the effort tho. Thanks for the courage.

[@ashuranero5721]

Why would anyone waste time eith someone who is this rude?

[@liamm.268]

The person hitting on the 1 was overwhelmingly cringey (and funny). I'd be very suspicious if someone claimed love at first sight. Why do they need to exaggerate? What's wrong with the truth? The 9 one was also relatable (as a 6).

[@Sleepykatzi]

WHY DID U SKIP TYPE 4 ;-;

[@restlessbutterfly4858]

ok ... I don't even know what type I am, but oh the 9th it made my skin crawl ... ugh how unpleasant 😣 😖 knowing my self probably if someone had told me that I would not have kept quiet ... I would have aswer back : ... if I am an orphanage then you are a sewer ... dark, small, dirty and otherwise stinky and a word of advice if you don't want to be described like that act with property 😠 😤

[@Bolshechemty]

Wait, this has only 4 views in 9 hours?

[@AbbeyHowe]

are you coming from Patreon? I give them early access. :)