Abelism and eugenics are bullsh*t, I reject your shame -- In defense of having children Jan 18, 2023

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[@SamuelButcher]

The horror! A child with unusually thick skin on their feet and hands will be raised by loving, caring, engaged parents who are clearly generous of spirit and committed to doing their best by their children. How will society ever survive?

[@thebigcapitalism9826]

I know you’re being sarcastic, but just for future use, I would advise you put “/s”, which is the tone indicator for sarcasm, at the end of a sarcastic statement or post. This prevents confusion that is more likely to happen over text, especially short form text, and also helps out those of us with reading comprehension issues (including ESL speakers) and other disabilities that make figuring out tone difficult.

[@j0ellyfish]

Yeah. Until they grow up very uncomfortable in their own skin. Both mentally and physically.

[@roxannerodriguez7075]

I'm glad you're telling everyone the truth. People always think they know better, until they're in the position themselves. Then all of a sudden most will bend the rules! You sound like you had great parents who helped you feel secure despite having "different" skin on your hands and feet- and now you're doing the exact same with your own son. I hope your channel blows up with all of us who love skin scraping and picking and it allows you and your family to have some awesome experiences because of it. 💜😊

[@parmesanpalms]

Thank you for all of your wonderful, supportive, insightful comments!! 🥰🥰

[@robertaprince180]

OMG!! I cannot believe someone would say this atrocious comment! Please block them !! Thank you for all the awareness you are bringing to the public, it is much appreciated!🇨🇦

[@tessajeon9160]

You are an amazing mom! Ignore those ignorant people. My little girl has Celiac Disease. No one in my family or her dads family has it. People have made comments and I ignore them. How in the hell was I supposed to know my kid was going to have an autoimmune disease?!?!?. I give her the best life. And clearly you do the same. Be proud of the amazing mother you are and the fabulous son you have.

[@jayciethompson2290]

Autoimmune diseases are likely the result of ancestors surviving the plague. Try not to worry about the people with nasty things to say

[@Zayne_24]

I absolutely love how you spread awareness about this condition and too be honest it's quite interesting. You should get a job specifically doing this cause you get it done so professionally that you can't even really tell. If I seen your hand and not know your condition I wouldn't be able to tell that you have this. You really do good at managing your and your child’s hands and feet I just find it very interesting in your condition. Definitely keep posting these videos and screw what the rude people say cause you have supporters who will defend you and your son and again you do an amazing job at managing this.

[@x0x0BRANDYYBABYYx0x0]

I want to know why ppl are acting like this condition is the worst thing to happen to someone. It's just not. I'm sure it's challenging & even downright hard, but it also gives you a different perspective, a more appreciative perspective it would seem. Also, I know the maintenance while tedious has to be super satisfying. I know I love it! Thanks for being so vulnerable & for supplying us w/ such awesome content! Good luck! ❤

[@parmesanpalms]

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful comments. I agree! It’s not the worst. It’s just something we have to deal with. 🤷🏻‍♀️❤️

[@sunsetsniper1357]

Amen! Every one of us has our faults, some can be seen where others cannot.

[@parmesanpalms]

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[@Onyx1987]

You deserve to have kids the same as anyone, and he deserves a normal life same as any kid, genetics be damned. Your condition doesn't get to dictate how you live your life and neither do any of those other asses. Keep being a cool mom, your strength is inspiring.

[@Familylawgroup]

No fingerprints? Your perspective that this condition is a superpower is refreshing and eye-opening. How does your son’s degree of DPPK compare with the level of intensity you had at his age? Did yours change when you hit puberty?

[@parmesanpalms]

I find it’s the same as mine was as a kid, and I didn’t notice a change through puberty 🥰

[@joycekuras5208]

I can not imagine what it's like to be in your position. I think it's great that you found a way to help your skin and those in your family. That has the same situation. I only wish U Health and happiness, and I hope 1 day. They may have more options for you.

[@shanisecunningham2328]

I love your response but there are people out here doing drugs, drinking, and smoking while pregnant, but people find logic in bashing someone with a genetic mutation (SOMETHING YOU DID NOT CHOOSE OR HAVE ANY CONTROL OVER) for having a child. Pathetic! You are helping your son with this condition by maintaining his skin and I'm sure you're building his confidence to deal with the brutality and stupidity of this world, I say kudos to you mom. ❤

[@ultraguy14]

Pretty sure she definitely had control over whether or not to have a kid.

[@shanisecunningham2328]

@@ultraguy14 DUH! I mean no control over being born with this condition.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@ultraguy14 that presumes the future person born with a disability is better off dead, since that's the only option. It's not like affecting a future baby that could have been prevented while still alive

[@morgank2873]

But you still have control in deciding not to pass down the condition, but this condition it's not something horrible, so that's ok​@@shanisecunningham2328

[@meghuston4792]

You're amazing, and I'm so sorry that you have to deal with comments like that. It says so much about them that they would ever dare to think that.

[@i_am_gohan9232]

Wow, I’m so sorry y’all have to deal with this.

[@davidwilliams5942]

Just be yourself and ignore those who don't understand your a fantastic mother our own son has learning difficulties and he is now 40 and my wife and I still love and care for him, a child is for life ❤😊

[@EvanKilos]

Don't listen to anybody and the craziness that they say. You're doing an amazing job as a mom. ❤

[@richardthefalloutguy]

Thank you for sharing this! I have hemophilia, which is a genetic disorder that prevents my blood from clotting. There are medications to deal with it, and it’s still possible to lead a normal life. This made me feel a lot better about wanting children in the future :)

[@NikkiCCoop]

My best friend in third grade had a skin condition where her entire body and face got like that because she didn’t have pores, I loved her… I’d spend the night a lot and we would listen to chriscross jump jump a lot lol and watch saved by the bell, her mom was big on us doing our homework first. Rebecca! I always wondered how Rebecca turned out as an adult.

[@scottcharney1091]

Something doesn't make sense. What's the harm in not being born? Nobody ever knows the difference. In fact, there's a school of thought (antinatalism) that holds that not being born is the best possible outcome. While I am sympathetic to that, one need not be anti-natalist to understand that nobody minds not being born. Adoption is no easy thing, but it's always worth looking into in a case like this.

[@Americanlife5752]

It is just a skin condition,people should react normally to it!I actually enjoy the way you scrap all the old skin off !!!It looks very satisfying!!!

[@shelbywolochowicz560]

I’m sorry someone said this to you! Not to minimize the difficulty of dealing with this disease however, it seems to me that this is something that you can live a full life with. It’s no one’s place to judge

[@silvialatoni2277]

Keep ignoring the haters. You seem to be an amazing Woman/Mother. Thank you for sharing.

[@42ang]

Nah that ain’t right he shouldn’t have had to deal with that. I’m 100% with the initial comment it’s selfish and I would hate my genes for that

[@Remmeister2000]

I agree, it's super selfish

[@j0ellyfish]

"I have all these problems. Better breed!"

[@KaptainKruiser]

To an extent, ı wish ı had this condition so that my hands wouldn’t be so sensitive to the hot pans ı grab at work. Also, my fingers are kind of squishy in areas that make barre chords on my guitar challenging to voice. My feet already peel pretty heavily but not to this extent. The rapid callous production on my hands would be extremely useful ı think. Even though I’m not ą theif, ı also think the no fingerprint thing is ą pretty awesome feature too. You guys are awesome 👏

[@stephenponnet462]

I don't really have issue with this but it would definitely be something id keep in mind having children.

[@yolandacantu2664]

Blessings to you and your family! I am curious as to how often you find it necessary to shave the the excess skin off of your son’s hands and feet?

[@dread_viking9860]

thxz 4 the nice video. note all of us who have this thinks of it as a super power look i can put out a cigarette in my hand lol

[@cassondracamper5665]

You don’t have to explain a damn thing! These people have issues with themselves, please don’t let them get to you! Love your Vids! 😘

[@ashleejones6890]

Good for you.. you are inspiring. Such a positive outlook on life. I was diagnosed with a heart disease after my son was born. I always carried the gene and it got exasperated while I was pregnant. No one knew I had the gene until I was diagnosed. It’s been hard bc for 35 years of my life I didn’t have this heart disease which now I’m 39, and had open heart surgery. I think you have such a great attitude … do you think it’s bc you have always dealt with it. I hope to be more po😮sitive

[@RadagonTheRed]

How anybody could criticise you absolutely disgusts me. You look after your child so well and the fact you have a genetic condition isn’t something that should cause people to criticise you. You should be praised for your bravery and loving care.

[@jeannie2599]

Im so proud of you!!!! Your mama raised a very wise woman ... people don't have lives...im so glad you know that

[@micheleketchum3701]

Do you know what we never know what we’re going to pass on to our children so for people to say that it’s just beyond repulsive!!! I didn’t know that I had five auto immune disorders. Therefore there’s a chance my sons going to get that done. My husband never told me that his family genes carries Huntington’s. It’s my worst fear, but this life is to be lived and that’s what we’re gonna do. God bless you honey and your children. Thanks for posting.

[@losnyappy]

I think this is so much up to each person, neither is a good or a bad decision.

[@COYBIG1967]

You just ignore them , bless you. It must v been so hard to deal with when you were a child yourself and still now, I don’t know how much pain you get either but there’s no reason at all you shouldn’t have kids and you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Just you keep being you ❤️ blessings to your husband too

[@teria57]

❤you are so awesome and have so much purpose. Your positivity is very comforting and you give such great education to what your circumstances are. I hope you continue to stay blessed no matter what anyone says in a negative manner.

[@dawnboquist5473]

People are horrible. I am sorry. ❤

[@Stackz401]

I’d be concurred ONLY if you knew they would have this but also had decided to not help him care for it. I think you are a great mom for helping him learn and decide when he wants to have it shaved.

[@Keith03820]

Thank you being a terrific mother

[@chloebluee]

I'm grateful and appreciative for your videos. I think that you are brave.

[@amandaa1844]

Who would say that! How awful! It’s just extra skin.

[@Pluviophile73]

Wow! I would rather have this, than be an awful, mean, judgemental and disgusting piece of sh!t that goes around leaving hurtful comments on a mum who is loving and supportive and brave page! I cannot believe the nerve of some people, gutless people that say whatever they want behind a screen! Ugh 🤮 Ps, i was born with really bad eczema all over my body, and i can understand a little of what you are going thru. Thanks for sharing it with the world 🥰

[@caseyhightower2419]

Your skin doesn't have to be smooth to impact others in the world. I can't believe people have the audacity to decide who can procreate. Your son will help someone one day. He'll do great things in the world! Claiming it!

[@Chris-eo5be]

My family has Huntington's disease. My grandma had onset at 55, and she lived to be 76. One uncle and one aunt has died from it too. So far, my dad hasn't had onset. He's 67, so hopefully he didn't inherit it. I did not know anything about this. My dad abandoned me as a child, so how was I to know? Huntington's disease is autosomal dominant, which means each kid born to a parent who has it, is 50% likely to get it too. It's also fatal, and there's no cure. It is what it is...

[@klitization]

So the wise choice if you want to parent is to do foster care, adoption or fetus screening. No need to cause any other living being that cannot be asked wether it wants to be born or not unneccesary suffering. That is why I hate this video and her stupid opinion. To say that everyone has the right to reproduce whatever the circumstances is nausea inducing. Not all condictions are as mild as having to much keratine in your hands and feet. There are conditions that are horrible torture.

[@Chris-eo5be]

@@klitization not everyone knows that they might carry something like that either. I had no clue. Before I found out, I had three kids. So far, my dad doesn't show onset and the older he gets, the less likely it is that he has it. Personally, I couldn't imagine my life without my kids and I'm glad they're alive. Also adoption is super expensive and not everyone can afford it. Having been in foster care myself, and having siblings in foster care that ended up being adopted from the State, I would never foster. Every single one of those kids have trauma and will most likely be issues for you to take care of. No thanks. Fetal screening, nah, I don't believe in abortion. Had I known about the Huntington's Disease in my family, I might have chosen not to have kids, but I don't know. Right now, the outlook is good for me and my kids. It appears that my dad doesn't have it. If he doesn't have it then I can't have it either, so my kids also won't have it. However, there's suffering in life. You can have a normal, healthy child who ends up with leukemia and dies. You can end up in a car accident, and your child survives it, but he is a vegetable and is now mentally deficient. There are no guarantees in life, that's my point, and people who have genetic issues that run in their families may not know it, or they may not know they have it.

[@oftruthofmen3358]

You have a wonderful husband. And you are a wonderful mother.

[@lucindamojarras1614]

God Bless You & Your Baby! And may God forgive the people saying unkind & hurtful comments about you & your son.

[@TrishaVilla88]

Imagine a stranger telling someone what they think they should do with their lives. This world is so f’d up smh

[@Sharmon-g6d]

My father had a genetic disease called Ankylosing Spondylitis which means the connecting tissue and such in between his spine vertebrae hardened and as a result slowly was bent to a 90 degree angle/ he also had Rheumatoid Arthritis / I NEVER considered him disabled he was just my daddy who I loved and although there was a chance a child could be born with this it is more prevalent in males but females can have it / thankfully I did not inherit the gene however as do children who have inherited diseases and syndromes some present slightly different / I and my daughter do have Lupus as well as a host of other conditions/ I have never once questioned the right of my mama “ taking a chance” that this would be passed to a new generation ( she thought long and hard to come to this decision as did I) life is what is important and the lessons we learn no matter what “condition this body may have” imo 😊rant over❤

[@tonypuccio154]

Do not let anybody put you down or your son you have not got a problem they have the problem not you or any other member of your family from what I can see you are doing just fine you don’t need them kind of people around you

[@TheHappygood]

Damn people mean as hell. To even say that

[@worldwidereek]

Please ignore these ignorant ppl. You're great your content is great and you seem like a terrific mother and parent

[@annettemarado3668]

You are a smart gal. God bless

[@jammiebrendmoen1988]

I have 3 kids, it’s a 50/50 chance of your child getting it, once it’s skipped,it cannot be passed down. 1 of my 3 has the same condition. My sons father also has this and so did his mom, brother, sister and there father. What I have been told is that it’s a higher chance of females getting it to males. Also, it’s a 50-50 chance of getting the hyper keratosis if you have one parent with it and one parent without it. I also have been told that it is super hard to pass it on if your not born with it.

[@MsSimplyFlyy]

Do you think your son's hands/feet are more severe than yours was at his age? Maybe it's possible one of your parents had the gene and it was dormant? Idk. Love your videos!❤❤❤

[@quinishaharley]

Yes she did because it is one of the greatest things that a woman can do is have life grow inside them. Its not your decision its hers. This is educational and you show understand it as that.

[@C.johnson]

U should have cursed that person out!!! You are an awesome mom

[@beauchampar]

Thank you for sharing this! I find this very educational and it's important to learn from others!

[@MrStickman666]

Don’t listen too the hater’s they are definitely bringing out there own problems and maybe they should look at themselves before judging you or your family. Or tell them to Foff lol. Keep on living your life the best you can xoxo

[@ericksebastianfiolcota96]

The best wishes to you and your family, hi from Mexico 🙂

[@quianthomas5274]

The nerve, the audacity of some people!!! You do not have to explain or justify ANYTHING.. If a child if loved and nourished then that's what's important... This is just skin and the upkeep is a little different- I really don't get it....I have skin that grows on my baby toe that hurts once it gets too thick so I cut it off - that's the maintenance I do...Do I not have children because of that too??? Keep doing what you do and do not let ignorance bother you!!

[@patmccrutch3927]

I can think of far worse fates than some thick skin on hands and feet… people are such a-holes! Sending you and your wonderful boy so much love and peace from Trinidad and Tobago ❤

[@Chris-farmer]

really liked your insight on this video! I had similar thoughts before having our son. my mom side has a history of mental illiness. Ive been dignosed with major depression disorder and ocd. my sons 4 if he was to ever get any mental disorders id be right beside him as you are with your son! awesome video ❤‍🩹

[@93lrp]

oh wow, people have seriously suggested you shouldn't have had kids with your condition? well i guess i wouldn't exist then considering all the genetic stuff my family carries, skin issues included!

[@kmpage333]

It could be worse. You could have something like sicklecell anemia (common in areas with Malaria). Millions of people in the world have Sickle Cell and choose to have children. Don't listen to haters!

[@natashabeulah4815]

This is not the worst thing I have seen trust, forget what they are saying keep taking care of yo and your son unbothered.

[@chelseydunphy4136]

Omg it’s just extra skin it could be so much worse, look at those cute little hands

[@erniegutierrez410]

It's not weird and it's natural. Shame on those ignorant haters

[@zulemanichellegarces7196]

Same

[@Remmeister2000]

I mean, it's really unfair to them... I wouldn't bring anything into this world to suffer. Especially if I had a condition that was hereditary and could pass onto them. You do you ig but I agree with the comment; evem though it is "Mean" it is true. I wouldn't want this condition/forced to have this condition.

[@morgank2873]

Not with this one in particulary, its not a horrible condition, the Child will be ok just as she is.

[@shelley23740]

You ARE superheroes!

[@clementinejackson8868]

You are a Wise and loving mom. God bless you and your family.

[@JakeStenton]

Cant u turn it in advantage? I had a chemistry trachear she could touche boiling water bare hands

[@ikaikatheesenegalparrot]

You shouldn’t have to answer that personal question to rude people. Thats so insensitive. 😮😮 there’s a lot of excuse my choice of words but idiots

[@bibs1870]

Soak his hands in water with 3% H2O2 daily for 10 mins. Also use enzymes like proteolytic & bromelain (both internal & external). Hope this helps you.

[@britgaddis]

I mean they just prolly wouldnt have.

[@simplysimple6632]

I dont see why you need to explain the fact that you are a beautiful woman wanting what is natural a child and no one on this feed is helping you raise your child so no one needs a explenation "ignorant people" enjoy you're little one have a blessed day

[@Varkhal218]

I mean, it's a pretty fair issue. No hate towards you, but a kid shouldn't suffer, especially if you know you have a serious heritable disease. Adoption is an option, though I know the system is shit. Deed is done in the end, but I do have a problem with you promoting this and condemning people who make a more than reasonable argument. Again, no personal hate towards you and certainly not your child. Best to both of you.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

The government shouldn't have the power to decide who gets to be born. That's an sbuse of power!

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

So having a hardship means that they shouldn't have been born? Why is a small skin problem worth not being born? Everyone goes through something

[@Varkhal218]

@@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174 The government should not be separated from the will of the population, it should be what implements the will of the population. The fact that it isn't is an entirely different issue, and I propose revolutionary action towards that, but let's not get off track. If it would be something that the majority of the population wanted and the government would implement it based on a referendum or smth like that, it wouldn't be an abuse of power, it would simply BE power, and a legitimate manifestation of it.

[@Varkhal218]

@@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174 Yes, it's an important enough hardship to not be forced to live under those conditions, especially if it's not curable.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@Varkhal218 well then it's a good thing the majority will of the people don't support that bull

[@marquilliegalloway2913]

In my opinion, I think it’s pretty cool!

[@Zixjndjdudj]

Am so tired of random ass people calling other 's selfish for choosing to have kids when they have a condition 😭

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

Ikr??? It also dictates that a person is better of dead than having said conditions, which is dehumanizing

[@Zixjndjdudj]

@@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174 I also feel like people are misusing the word selfish when they do that

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@Zixjndjdudj and I'm not saying antinatalists have points, but that's antinatalists. Not eugenics. Eugenics doesn't make sense because they're basically saying that without that condition, they should be alive and life is worth living but it's a veryvery big difference if they were to have a minor skin condition and life is suddenly not worth living and shouldn't be born.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@Zixjndjdudj my point is if a minor skin condition mmkes life suddenly not worth starting, then why do things loke people stubbing their toe several times, or possibly getting to a car accident, or being i an environment that's too cold don't count. Because it presumes genetically healthy people can't suffer either.

[@marionhoppal6378]

You're right the negativity is a reflection of who they are and they aren't a very good people remember that Jesus healed the leper so what would Jesus think of them

[@breannebellezza9755]

So cute. Tiny little hand.

[@stephaniele193]

But who will take care of his skin when you’re gone. You should be realistic with it: it’s a cruel comment but it’s true. Your son will have a harder life; and chances are you’re not gonna be glued by his side as an adult so his mommy can shave his hands and feet. What about when he’s elderly and his skin gets neglected. Idk you did knowingly make his life hard so you could experience having children. That is selfish lol be self aware. Whether you knew 100% or not girl

[@stephaniele193]

Yes addressing it to you bluntly is rude, but it’s true honestly

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

Saying you shouldn't be allowed to have kids because of a genetic flaw is discriminatory!

[@asahurst6371]

U don’t have fingerprints that’s actually cool! Sorry people are throwing gross comments your way. People are gross

[@רימהורנוב]

Don’t pay attention to ignorant people. You’re the best!! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise ❤

[@maybelmurakami1361]

❤❤❤

[@janetteholmes]

Never feel bad for having children

[@777anakin]

Right on!

[@AkiraAlexisSoyra]

😕

[@janetsides901]

The commenter should think before posting. I wonder if they have children? And if they do,maybe they shouldn’t have had children,they might turn out cold and cruel like them.

[@fareedfyzul7947]

Meanwhile the new generations doesn't even known who they are or theirs only 2 gender so do what u want

[@owenvestrum1445]

I like the idea of eugenics. now i know everyone is shocked and will think i am a nazi and that it is incredibly rude of me to think this way. my skin is fragile, factoring out the time unconscious because of sleep my skin is painful and itch for a continuous 10 years. Even my sleep is disrupted and delayed by my skin condition. There are treatments for me but no cures at all, even the treatments are not that effective at stopping the pain and itch, so i have come to the conclusion that unless gene editing provides a cure i will not be passing on my genes. it should always be the people with the condition that should worry about it. you certainly have worried about passing on your skin condition but having tough skin isn't a curse but often a blessing at least compared to skin that is trying to tear itself apart.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

I don't like the idea of GOVERNMENT FORCED eugenics.

[@owenvestrum1445]

@@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174 I agree, any forced or coercion is bad and could possibly lead to a belief of a "superior race". I think what I might be advocating for is government sponsored sperm Banks and easy access to abortion with the goal being to reduce barriers. Also if one went too aggressive with a eugenics program could destroy good mutations. Another possibility is waiting a few decades for gene therapy and gene editing wich could render eugenics irrelevant.

[@SpeedyShimeji]

I think there's a difference between eugenics and a person's personal choice to have biological children. One is a forced sterilization situation and a basis of "these lives are intrinsically not worth existing because of this reason", and the reasons are always shit like skin color, religion, or disabilities. Whereas weighing the pros and cons of a potential biokid is a complicated process, and some people will come to different conclusions based on their circumstances.

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@owenvestrum1445 You probably also think that it's ok for high school and college students to be allowed to learn chemistry too

[@turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174]

@@SpeedyShimeji You probably also think that it's ok for high school and college students to be allowed to learn chemistry too

[@blackpotatomaster]

People should mind there iwn business

[@amandaplease4181]

Screw the haters......we all have a issues in some sort. Not one is perfect. GOD bless you and ur children. You are a good momma.!!!❤ You take care of ur babi s.😊