Accept Body Changes for a Full Recovery!/ED RECOVERY

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[@pavlabuz]

I think so many of us needed to hear this. “That is such a stressful way to do recovery “ yes yea yes 👏🏽 “I WILL ALLOW MY BODY TO CHANGE.” I’m going to write this at the top of every page In my journal until I have truly accepted it. Thank you Becky ❤️

[@kittykatt5851]

I think one of the hardest parts of this journey and healing is if you are home for a few days, focusing on recovery and then you have to go somewhere, like the store or to the doctor. When I try to get dressed, it's such a horrible feeling that my clothes don't fit like I remember them fitting. I know that I changed, not the clothes, but that feeling right there is brutal. Especially after wearing pretty comfortable loose clothes the days I was at home. Thank you so much this video, you give me hope 🖤

[@beckyfreestone9908]

Just wear comfy clothes when you go out. I suggest to get rid of any clothes that start to feel different on you ASAP.

[@katycooke3635]

Omggggg I needed to hear this. The part where you talked about just shifting from thing to another .. has been my recovery battle for 16 years

[@nellijune]

So true.❤Maintaining unsupressed body weight isn't possible if one wants to fully recover. Did you feel that it was more difficult to accept gaining weight in last stages of recovery? When you were almost weight restored but mentally still struggling with ed stuff. 🤔 It feels embarassing to ask support when everybody thinks that I am looking healthy and happy 😒

[@beckyfreestone9908]

Absolutely one of the hardest stages. So hard but so glad I pushed past it.

[@nellijune]

@@beckyfreestone9908 you really made a great job by pushing through that stage. 🔥❤ I try to gather enough courage to make exactly the same thing. ✊ Thank you again ❤

[@AshleyBitton]

These videos are so helpful! Thank you Becky ❤

[@laurabeavers2118]

Your videos always come at just the right time for me! Thank you!

[@lili24119]

Hey Becky, I hesitated a lot to write this but I really want to hear your thoughts. As you know, my inability to handle the body changes ultimately led to a full blown relapse in which, to be honest, certain aspects of my ED got worse than ever before (especially body checking OCD and the orthorexia). I really hate "psychologizing" eating disorders, however I do believe that my self esteem is so so low and I have so little coping skills that I just CAN’T figure out a way to handle the body changes AS they are happening - if they do so in a seemingly uncontrollable fashion. So I hate to admit it but now I *am* back to a more "structured" approach to recovery. Don’t you think that just not *everyone* has the resilience/ psychological capacity to handle the more aggressive route to recovery (=quick & drastic body changes)? Lots of love❤️ Lili

[@beckyfreestone9908]

I guess it depends Lili, do you feel like the approach you’re doing now is helping you to REwire your fear of weight gain and all Ed rules?

[@lili24119]

@@beckyfreestone9908 Probably not entirely, it’s more like I’m trying to at least get to a small, “sustainable” level of these fears, like most people in our society have. Of course I’m ambivalent about that and total freedom sounds so dreamy but the last time I *was* more free around food, I couldn’t even enjoy it because I felt so horrible in my own skin.

[@beckyfreestone9908]

Decreasing the fear is definitely a good thing and hopefully you’ll eventually realize that full freedom really is possible! Lots of love Lili!🥰

[@lili24119]

@@beckyfreestone9908 thank you, I’ll never stop hoping and trying 🥰🥰 there must be a reason why I’m still watching your videos (aside from the fact that you’re awesome😜❤️)

[@gayleporter7203]

This is so true! When there is a limit to the body changes, then full recovery is impossible in my experience!

[@dancingpixie74sb]

Is so love to be able to afford your help! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@leandra.denise3850]

5:29 .... I actually DID punch the wall and broke my right hand lol 😬 Not giving up though 😄

[@sar12389]

This is a really good video and perfect timing for me. I want body curves back to look good in clothes and for my boyfriend's sake but i wont let the scales go past a certain number. I put on a certain amount weight in first few months of recovery after christmas now ive been controling it and maintaining it with compulsive exercise and restricting because i refuse to let go off letting the scale go higher then a certain number yet i moan i want boobs and need more weight for that but wont let myself do it. Something needs to change fast.

[@dancingpixie74sb]

I feel like you made this video for me! Ty Becky I soo needed this. As I’m really struggling. Just walking hurts my feet etc. I honestly miss that light feeling 😩. Just standing is hard. Is this normal? 🙏🏼

[@beckyfreestone9908]

If you’re really worried about your edema I’d go see a doctor but moderate swelling in recovery is typically nothing to worry about.

[@katespalding2134]

I think that when I have that uncomfortable feeling of my body feeling awkward, it reminds me of times gone past when I started dieting because my body felt horrible and that’s how it all started. Does that make sense? Fear

[@catherineskeates8018]

Yes, yes Kate. That is what I fear. The 15 year old me who felt so uncomfortable with the new curves..so uncomfortable that I lost them and never let them return apart from pregnancy. Some hard work here and maybe an understanding that we are grown women now who are allowed to have curves and bumps and fat🤔😘

[@katespalding2134]

@@catherineskeates8018 I am just 60 and that feeling has never left me. I was restricting all through my pregnancies and it has been present throughout every attempt I have made to recover. I really despise what I’ve allowed it to do Good luck and this channel is excellent, authentic and tells it honestly without the bells, whistles and the glam xxxxx

[@AC_2.4-10]

❤❤❤

[@simamaria9114]

I got to the point of my lips getting blue, I want to recover so badly but I have no idea what I would do with my old body again, cuz I wouldn\t have curves, and idk how I would feel about it But this kinda helps thank you

[@SanneC2002]

But what if someone gain’s weight and recovers in a body in a bmi that is obese. Is this okey? Is this healthy to?

[@beckyfreestone9908]

If that is where your body takes you when you are no longer practicing any Ed behaviors then yes that is just fine!!

[@camillameng9203]

What if you have given it all. And really gained (30 kg in 5 Month 🫣) and now Soooo uncomfortable in My body (and obese due to healthservices) and scared now that this was all a mistake! I cannot bend over because of My stomach. I am in so much panick now, and sure that MY body does not match this method. I do not understand what I am doing wrong. Or if this is bad for me. Should I be more carefull again With food? Why is this happening so fast? I know you cannot answer My questions, but OH Dear I am Soooo scared right now.

[@dancingpixie74sb]

Your not alone! I’m going thru it too!😩. I can barely walk. I want to keep going because I want to recover. I gained really fast as well and I’m so short!. I’m praying that God will help me and my body will get to the healthiest place it wants to be not how I want it to be.🙏🏼👍🏼🙌🏼. Are you also retaining water? I have bad edema!

[@beckyfreestone9908]

My weight gain happened really fast. Continue to focus on healing your relationship with food. Break any and all good rules and if you happen to be in overshoot then over time your weight will balance out! Hang in there!😌

[@camillameng9203]

@@beckyfreestone9908 thanks ❤️

[@camillameng9203]

@@dancingpixie74sb I did retain water a lot in the first 3 months but then it slowly got better during the 4th month.

[@dancingpixie74sb]

@@camillameng9203 I’d love to connect with you if your ok with that? I feel super alone and scared myself. I prayed and am wanting this to be the right way to recover. I just feel so uncomfortable and not healthy. I don’t want to even leave my house because I’m to focused on how I look. I just want to be free! And happy and healthy for me and my daughter 🙏🏼♥️! I feel like we need a support group of some kind. It would really help us who are really struggling. And can’t afford the one on one coaching.