Self Control - How To Develop Self-Control To Create An Amazing Life

Self Control - What self control is, why it's hard to develop, and how to cultivate more self control to take charge of your life.
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Video Summary:
Wouldn't your life be magical if you could exercise the self control you intend? Your body would be ripped, your bank account always in the black, you'd always floss, eat right, and get up on time. You'd never be plagued by depression, anger, or anxiety, because you'd will your emotions into compliance.
Self control is the building block of all discipline, the cornerstone of achieving any success. Our mind comprehends our reality as two worlds, the outer world of objects, situations, and people around us; and the inner world of our emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. Humans naturally seek solutions to their problems via the outer world, instead of within themselves. The secret to self-control is to change the paradigm. Instead of portraying ourselves as victims who are acted upon by outside forces, we need to be the creators of our situations and success -- a creator mentality, rather than a victim mentality.
As with instilling any habit, exercising self control requires persistence. Imposing discipline strengthens the pre-frontal cortex's impulse control; while giving in to brain-sapping vegetative stimulation such as TV and internet weakens it.
To improve your self control, own your control via your inner world, rather than blaming outside forces. Unhook from outside stimulation, because you're not in control when you're letting your brain be occupied the lazy way. Instead, read and introspect your way to self control.

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His words sometimes make me more strong than I already am.

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Self control is your purpose in life. Love that! You're right I think. That in itself is a great goal.

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Thank You Leo! I'm so committed to better myself, I started meditation a week a go it's hard but gonna continue forever I already made so many changes in my life I feel proud of myself even though it's just the beginning. Your videos have helped me so much. So thank you..

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Goooood! Stick with it.

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Congratulations ( even though it's 7 years later) I would love to ask what your reason was for wanting to develop more self control? ( thats if you don't mind sharing, either way, thanks)

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The part when you are talking about your body being a load of little thermostats has given me a great eureka moment when it comes to recovery from mental health and recovery. Seriously honestly you have made me feel amazing and take action. Thankyou so much.

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I found this on tiktok of all places and it’s the new year. This is an amazing new start to the year❤️

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Whenever I feel disconnected in life, I go back to you Leo. Thank you.

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To Build Self-Control: @ 16:50 1. Discipline your intentions and take action == trains your Self-Control. a. If you have intentions to brush teeth twice a day -- do that b. If you have intentions to work out -- do that c. If you have intentions to journal -- do that 2. Disconnect from media == break the bad habit of Self-Control sapping media.

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Leo I'm going to be honest. I thought u were a goober at first but after watching almost everyone of your videos I've realized that u have helped me more than anything else on you tube. I can't thank you enough and just to let you know I've started watching one or more of ur videos a day and am taking them serious. Man I have alot of respect for you and I realized that u are brilliant thanks leo.

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Somebody once said "we can't control the winds but we can adjust our sails" which basically means we can't change what happened, but we can change our reaction to it. Outside stuff doesn't make us happy or mad, *we* make *ourselves* happy and mad. *We* give situations labels. You might not be the wealthiest dude alive, but that fact has no connotation until you give it one. You can say "dang it i wish i was rich" and give that fact a negative connotation. Or you can say "well at least i get by with the money i have" and give that same fact, a better connotation. It's all in our minds. And it takes time, energy and control to change the connotations we give to facts in our lives.

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Just do it... Nothing more nothing less... You are what you think... If you always do what you've always done, you always get what you always got. 💪

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it's amazing how I keep coming back to the old videos , as you know how to fluently formulate the wisdom within your speech

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after studying psychology for the past two years and watching more than 10 of your videos this one right here was the one that opened my ears & moved me to action. again thank you. I really appreciate & share your vision to spread the knowledge of self actualization.

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Well the two main arguments are: 1.Get self control by following through on disciplinary tasks; in other words, get self control by having self control. (This is very circular but I get it) 2. Unplug (This is great advice, but it does seem strange to recommend an Email service after it. )

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It's not circular at all.... it is just like any thing else. You develop a skill through practice of that skill.

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this literally changed my life tysm xxxx ❤❤❤ it's about separating those two worlds and realising what one is more important

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I wish I could believe that

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Brother you are so spot on!!! WOW!!! I am so glad that I WAS GUIDED TO THIS THIS MORNING. Looking forward to your newsletter!!

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Makes so much sense I have completely disconnect from social media it feels great and I've been practicing all of what you said and it really does work thank you I have a long way to go but I feel so much happier 🙂

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Great content Leo. All I needed now. It ended up putting tear in my eyes. You say all the right things about focusing in the inner world, about the clashes of different view points inside our own mind that prevents us from doing something, the brain/thermostat, the discipline, the unhook from what is distraction and raising your consciousness by being introspective, etc. Thanks. Marcos

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Thank you. At the time I watched this I was feeling an overwhelming amount of gilt, and now I think I'm going to try and overcome it. So thank you again.

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Perfect Leo!!! This is one of the best video.

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never be a victim

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it's always your choice

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hey leo aka my virtual father, thank you for having a self control video up. i needed this alot. my life will continue to grow and become even more extrodinary =)

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He seriously gave me a completely different mindset. I'm forever grateful for the help this is bringing me!

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The ability to give yourself a command and then follow thru with it another fine video

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Brilliant video! You summed up everything I was thinking today in a kind, compassionate, assertive & motivating way. Thank-you!

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thank you for motivating me and inspiring me in this moment.

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I'm committed to it! you are literally saving my life.

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Wow the inner world and out world concept is the truth! Creator or the victim. Two levels of power. Thank you for making this video, Keep doing what your doing.

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Actually in this video you do address every one! Thanks for being mindful about it.

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What a great talk. Great way to look at it!

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it's great to have people working on this subject because everything we do starts from our brains. keep it on :Y

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Good! That's how it works. No quick fixes, but long-term transformation.

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Actualized.org YES! Shortcuts = Short term (more or less) Longcuts = Long term - Keep up the great work!

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My favorite segment! Thanks, Leo!

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it actually covers many points, this is so helpful.

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Thank you this is powerful.

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I am extremely emotional, I am trying to improve my self control and it defiantly got worse before it got better, not too sure how to stop being an emotional egg. It doesn't really help that I'm Bipolar.

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start small

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Did you get better?

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The best video on self control. This was enlightening for me. Thank you!

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This is going to be hard to boost my self control because I know my brain is pretty mushy right now but Im glad I found this video and I can have some guidance. Thanks for posting this video

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Hi I´m a guy from Europe living in Switzerland.. Thank you It is the best video I have seen on internet most helpful and clarifying for me. I am really grateful!. I now have understood the importance of our "inner" game or world and the importance it has, it is life transforming .. by the way great speech.. fantastic learnings together with motivation.. :-) Many thanks, Tino

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