Missionary is Praxis | Girl Defined

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[@wodentoad1]

"Girl defined*" *By her relationships to others rather than as a person in her own individual right.

[@AndreastheRed]

Defined by others and an interpretation of an old ass book. Balloon people 🤢

[@n0etic_f0x]

The sad part is they agree and find that a compliment.

[@wodentoad1]

@@n0etic_f0x it makes my heart hurt.

[@disappointeddegenerate3186]

The opposite of a WAP is Ben Shapiro’s Doctor Wife

[@rashonsmith5408]

that DAP

[@erinrockwell8490]

Acidental dating- when a lesbian goes on a date without realizing it

[@99sins]

When you just go hangout with the homies and end up having an orgy.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

when you meant to meet for coffee but two hours later you’re packing a uhaul together

[@gypsylee333]

Acidental- sounds trippy and toothy to me

[@aaronhamric7679]

I unintentionally dated in high school. A girl told me I was now her boyfriend and I just shrugged and went out with her for six months.

[@justicedruid4242]

I am glad I'm not the only one who has a story like that.

[@1000g2g3g4g800999]

Me going out on my first date totally wasn't intended to be one at first, I guess that's kind of similar.

[@eddyeldridge7427]

Ok, so this IS a thing that happened to other people...

[@grellsutclif9815]

Mine went on for 3 years

[@mateorodriguez6882]

Just brought back strange memories to me.

[@maggieallen5985]

I’ve seen Mr. Atheist cover this lady before. She always starts out neutral and friendly sounding, acting like there might be multiple (or unconventional) answers to the question she was asked, then BAM! Straight into the guilt tripping.

[@visaman]

She is hot though!

[@debbiesmith9691]

Albert Giesbrecht like a hot potato?

[@coletrickle1775]

Ummm, it's Bethany

[@seansteele6532]

Wild fact, you can be non-religious and respect people's boundaries, in fact even when I was still religious and when with a girl and she was like "Oh hey stop" and I stopped it was more cause she wanted me to, and not due to my own religiosity.

[@DayneAW]

...and it's interesting that when they're deeply religious, and married, those boundaries go out the window, and it becomes duty as a proper wife, whether she wants to, or not.

[@savannarbananar]

@Jon Shet Not to defend religious people or anything but, the vaaaaaast majority of people are religious. So are you just looking at the overall number of sexual assailants and seeing how many are religious, or are you looking at it per capita?

[@cezerelecrucio9717]

@@savannarbananar This is not true. A growing plurality of people across all countries are aligning themselves with non-practicing, non-religious or blatantly atheist categorizations. I'd bet solid money there are more people not practicing religion than there are practicing it at this point in time.

[@nomadiccleric5672]

Gotta disagree on stopping at "it's OK to wait till marriage for sex". Yes it is - if that decision isn't rooted in shame from other people. I'd say 90% of people who want to wait are purely ashamed and would not make that decision given emotional freedom.

[@MintyFarts]

At least she got one important thing right.. find a partner who respects your boundaries...

[@Unfiltered_Hottakes]

She can't remember the year of her own wedding and it wasn't even a full year ago. Hunhhhh

[@tatiana4050]

So if a guy pushed boundaries that's because he is bad. But if a guy objectifies you, it's cause you aren't dressed modestly? Logic

[@jadetortellini6150]

"Hey guys, just wanted to make this quick video about how best to be a wife and S U B M I T"

[@adeer87]

Yum yum

[@TheRiiiight]

I mean, submission is hot. This is just setting your life up for a disastrous marriage with some total stranger because you were both lying to each other and acting a role.

[@lysergidedaydream5970]

@Socialist Sylveon Does hotness imply truthfulness?

[@rosem6604]

Jake, please, if you're commenting on a video that is too quiet, please ramp its volume up. Because you're much louder, so if we up the volume to listen to her, then you respond and we go deaf every time. I don't want to have to play with my volume every 2 minutes. Other than that - we love you! and we're borderline boomer/gen-xers :-D

[@TheSaberWolfDuchess]

Agreed, I have a fan going and I can barely hear the BS that the video is spewing. Like I'd want to, normally, but I figure it's essential to hear the stuff Jake is arguing with.

[@coletrickle1775]

Hannah and Jake videos frequently have a terrible audio volume like that. Even from Jake to Hannah. Jake is always louder.

[@egirlSkeletor]

Unintentional relationships is what sapphics do for 2 months before asking if they like like eachother

[@Romanticoutlaw]

you ain’t wrong

[@patrickcarney6171]

Daily dose of corn time need the fiber

[@crow5962]

29:37 I'd like to add another kind of asexual person that so very often gets forgotten about. The "I am not sexually attracted to anyone, but I have a libido that simply won't quit so sometimes I get turned on at random by nothing and then I just gotta Deal With That" asexual. An asexual like this may be sexually active on THEIR terms, not just that of their partners, because they have their own needs to take care of. They just are not attracted to anyone. Not all asexuals have little to no libido. It's a sexuality, defined by sexual attraction, not by if they want sex or not. This, of course, does not invalidate asexuals who don't have much or any libido, you're valid, there's nothing wrong with you. Source: Me, an asexual with a high libido who's tired of questions about how they can be asexual and still want sex.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

hell yeah 🙌 I’m a sexually inclined person dating an ace person and it’s always nice to see more perspectives as I educate myself. My partner enjoys flying solo, but has no interest in mutual activity (which, just to clarify, is a boundary I respect, like all their boundaries). The way they put it is, it’s like if someone else has a video game genre they’re really into, and you’re not. You want to be able to get into it and play together, but it’s just not your thing. Really made it click for me.

[@morganschall1521]

Thank you! I'm ace but I have a naturally high libido and while I love seeing more ace representation in general it can be difficult when the vast majority of it is about aces with little to no libido and just ignores that asexual people with libidos exist. All aces are valid, no matter their libido or sexual experience 💜

[@marthsinclair3796]

iirc, "intentional dating" is related to the Evangelical concept of "courtship", basically meaning that your relationship has the "intention" of building toward traditional marriage. It's super cringey and basically boils down to implying that the only acceptable dating is some kind of training or trial run for marriage, otherwise you're (I shit you not) "becoming an obstacle for someone's future spouse" I know these things because I'm probably the best at Christianity, just saying.

[@KylerQuinn]

I remember being taught that this was the only way to date when I was younger 🙄 fucked me up real bad after my first serious breakup when I realized I wasn’t going to be with one person forever. Real unhealthy shit.

[@marthsinclair3796]

@@KylerQuinn Extremely unhealthy. It encourages young people to double down on bad or incompatible relationships rather than move on in pursuit of better things. It's like the next step up from abstinence only sex ed in terms of discouraging responsibility and growth.

[@ajiththomas2465]

I get it. Although the concept of "intentional dating" can be a good one that people can use, regardless of its Christian context. Instead of having countless empty casual sex or relationships with people that won't put in the same work in the relationship as you do, putting in the mindset of trying to intentionally find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with can help you really filter through future partners and find the one that fits you. Intentional dating is fine as a concept. It's simply the Christian evangelical context that makes it problematic.

[@KylerQuinn]

Ajith Thomas nah, I’d disagree with that. I think dictating any sort of ‘proper’ or ‘correct’ way to go about personal romantic experiences is inherently harmful. Not everyone enters a relationship wanting to marry, and there are certainly people who will never want to get married. Should they then not engage romantically with others, given that they would impede someone else from marriage? Should teenagers who first start dating do so with the intention of marriage? Or should they not date at all? People are so wildly different from one another that setting a precedent like that would only cause harm.

[@marthsinclair3796]

@@KylerQuinn Never implied I supported the practice, just explaining it for reference in the way I was originally taught. Of course it sucks, it ruined my first serious relationship and arguably my second.

[@fionafox420]

On the edge of my seat waiting for the essential oils/limelife cosmetics/color street/beach body/arbon/ younique sales pitch at some point.

[@granudisimo]

Nothing tops the soy containing Super Macho Pills that are advertised right after an entire podcast dedicated to soy feminizing men. At this point, I'm envious of your ability to still be surprised.

[@samuelbrown3405]

Aren't these the girls who married totally not gay dudes who "prayed the gay away"?

[@visaman]

Yes, that's Bethany's husband

[@JayMaverick]

Shouldn't laugh because it's so sad, but... yes. =D

[@Rose_Nebula]

Allegedly

[@totom.8095]

those were the rumors but there was nothing credible about them

[@tatiana4050]

@@totom.8095 With benefit of a doubt I hope they are straight, because the opposite is just horrible

[@stereoraptor6940]

i recommend we make an ammendment to the 12 signs of early fascism: "the obsession with purity (and defilement)"

[@cezerelecrucio9717]

I second this and am commenting for the algorithm.

[@hobosorcerer]

"Don't put the pagina on the pestedable." - Jake 2020

[@siouxmaelstrom4042]

Mcfackyou

[@parker435]

Corn is love, Corn is life

[@tigerstyle4505]

That grain life 💪💪💪

[@adeer87]

Joe Average That’s a corny pun

[@jessewalker8854]

Corn pop was a RAD dude.

[@visaman]

Cherish is code for "eating the box."

[@adeer87]

She makes me sad. She just repeats the same tired old trash over and over for twenty minutes as if even she knows it’s not convincing.

[@mrshittles9424]

That's a damn nice corn outfit.

[@jiffy_draws]

Most sexy cosplay I've ever seen

[@ryoshima4103]

She really just repeats herself for 16 minutes, huh?

[@sillyswirlsproductions145]

Ok I'm like 16 minutes in I'm gonna have to dip out I'm getting too triggered Because that exact thing that Jake described is what happened to me I can't push past the flashbacks enough to get through this video

[@queen-monarch]

Good on you to leave, take care of yourself.

[@KylerQuinn]

My middle school health teacher told us that women who have sex before marriage (she directed the statement at the entire class, but it was clear she was talking specifically to the girls) were like used cars. She had us fill out a ‘milestone’ worksheet where we marked at what point we’d feel comfortable having sex - strangers, friends, fiancés, dating partners, etc,. She then pretty much shamed everyone who marked anything other than spouse because, “[...] even if you’re engaged, they can still leave you, and then you’re like a used car. Everyone would rather have the newest, cleanest model over an older used one, so don’t let yourself get that way!” Yikes.

[@KyoAWare]

Yikes indeed, it sounds like some real hard projection. 😕

[@KylerQuinn]

KyoAWare definitely. The school was hardcore rich, white, and conservative. But now as an adult I’m like??? Used cars are typically so much better??? The reliability??? The price??? The PERSONALITY???

[@Romanticoutlaw]

fucking yikes. There’s not even anything wrong with secondhand cars

[@KyoAWare]

Romantic Outlaw Right!? Some can outperform new stuff if cared for, or so I’m told. I seriously empathize for women over shit like this

[@Romanticoutlaw]

KyoAWare absolutely! I have a secondhand subaru and I’m willing to bet she’ll outlive some of my family members’ newer vehicles. Plus I have a huge emotional attachment to her haha. Named her Valencia. When she gives out I might have to hold a funeral lol

[@TheNumberOneRealis]

Can anyone explain the lore of the corn stuff ?

[@BenjaminGlatt]

Either, "No ding-ding without the wedding ring!" or, "Before you do it, you must go through it (or else I blew it)."

[@Aerials135]

i feel like she was driving at healthy boundaries, but she just somehow completely missed the point and substituted hyper-religious buzzwords

[@P3N3TR80R]

Why does she look and sound like she's going to cry the entire video?

[@RemixedVoice]

Probably because of every word she speaks

[@darricshhh]

I have been watching you and Hannah for years. Great content from both you. You deserve way more subscribers than you have at the moment.

[@michellebennett4015]

The opposite of a WAP is Ben Shapiro’s wife

[@queernerd420]

Man this video takes me back to when I was a teen. Back then this woman would have been my “cooler older Christian girl” role model. I can’t even count how many times I cringed from hearing this bullcrap again.

[@theunholinesswithin70]

The religious version of the song would be "Let's talk about... s-ss-s-*whispered* sex"

[@robotdickens]

My bible teacher was talking about how it was immoral to have sex before marriage. I asked him if it was a sin to tell my kid “I’d rather you didn’t but I can’t stop you so keep condoms on you” and he said it was. That still sticks with me today how weird that was.

[@nikolademitri731]

*CW: sexual assault/violence* ------------------ Yeah, idk, I guess a lot of this comes down to how we define “pushing boundaries”, which are incredibly important, but also incredibly subjective, and there are different conceptions of what “pushing boundaries” means, and where is the line between going *over* a boundary (which I think we can all agree is bad) vs pushing boundaries in a way that isn’t as problematic, and potentially even healthy depending on the circumstance... The obvious answer is always honoring consent, yeah? I agree, but that’s not without its problem either, bc not everyone completely agrees on what consent consists of. Unfortunately, people don’t even agree with what qualifies as sexual assault and (unwanted) violence. *I think we mostly agree; I mean, we certainly agree that violent rape is never acceptable* (that is, consent is actively not being given, or strongly revoked, and this is ignored and pushed past with zero concern for that lack of consent). *The problem is that between the back and white of fully understood, shared consent, and absolutely no consent, that there is more grey area than most people are willing to admit.* What’s also a problem, imo, is how a lot of people react to that fact, and I’m not just talking the weird, incredibly unhealthy, puritanical, sex negative BS that often comes from the right/conservatives, but also the form(s) of this that I’ve seen come from people who are progressive/left, in most other areas. So, ugh, what is to be done? I think we just need to continuously bare in mind that these things are often pretty complicated, and that people are fickle, and they don’t always know what they want, or understand their own desires, and they have to be given the space to make mistakes, and the support and understanding to recover and grow from those mistakes (and that should be our position on most all social matters, within reason, and not just in the realm of sex). *Open and honest communication is the key to understanding each other, whether or not we are ashamed in those disclosures, and our responses in radically honest communication should be our best attempts at radical understanding and empathy!* I swear, if we really made this a cultural norm and a concerted effort, that sooo many of these problems, especially in regards to sexual relationships (but not only), would not so much disappear completely, but would at least be “headed off at the pass”, before misunderstandings or confusion turns into actions that one or more parties perceives as transgression. This isn’t easy, especially given all our cultural history and our current norms, but I’m personally very concerned about a lack of these kinds of “best practices”, and even just a lack of an attempt at understanding, let alone forgiveness, in the kind of progressive and leftist spaces they are (arguably) needed most. Anyway, I could go on, but this is long enough, and I don’t want to start to ramble.. I’m just saying, communicate openly and honestly with each other, and practice empathy and understanding, and let’s try to be as constructive and nurturing in how we navigate these waters. This is not an easy topic. Just remember, we’re barely pulling ourselves out of hundreds... nay, a thousand+ (west focused, I know)... of years of sexual and romantic norms and practices that were VERY restrictive, and even when and where they weren’t, the norms and understandings this stuff was soooo much more different than today... Idk, I think this ought to humble us, and motivate us to be very understanding, and forgiving.✌️❤️♾

[@bleakautomaton4808]

There is still that feeling, that when it happens it's going to hurt so much :( Ugh geez...it's made dating difficult because no guy wants timid baggage...

[@BenjaminGlatt]

I think the idea behind the Girl Defined conference thing is that you do the exact opposite of everything they say.

[@bridgetcooney5085]

My mom was just like "you learned "how" it works in school, right? I don't need to tell you what goes where." I answered affirmatively. She then gave me very frank advice. Basically saying, don't wait till marriage, but don't have sex in highschool, because highschool boys aren't good at it, and the risks are too high then. Between pregnancy and the emotional toll at that age. And the afore mentioned ineptitude of highschool boys at sex. To use protection, and to understand that there is a learning curve between partners, so it's likely that the first few times won't be great. And then she assured me that she'd answer any questions I had.

[@Revanxbone]

"INTENTIONAL DATING" 😂

[@jaqm7343]

I wish I had had this during my puberty. My mom's sex talk was sex was addictive and it cures headaches so that's not an excuse

[@DarkPuppy9]

As we learned from Judge Boofington, calendars are a thing that exists.

[@serpico1616]

That adventure was absolutely terrifying. I actually feel sick to my stomach from that.

[@JeepnHeel]

I like to think of myself as strong, but I was not prepared to see a corn man cry today. There are no winners in great times of sadness like these

[@michellebennett4015]

On the “Oh No Ross and Carrie” podcast Carrie did the Girl Defined conference. Her biggest takeaway was that girl was never clearly defined.

[@SnakeMan448]

She's oblivious to how shoehorning God and Jesus into the importance of a relationship is a means of being used by men.

[@lildeek12GFL]

I feel like you're a budget vaush. Much love keep being great.

[@SATOhara3173]

I just wanna say on that bit where you assume she hasn't been assaulted because she said she was a virgin until she was married, assault doesn't invalidate virginity to most people, myself included. Virginity "loss" is incumbent on the interaction being consensual, and assault doesn't "violate" that.

[@coletrickle1775]

This video could be titled ""Woman forgets anniversary within first year""

[@reidwill6604]

corn defined

[@dantheman2907]

Don't put me on the table, lady.

[@algi1]

OMG, I also want new glasses and can't get them because of COVID. I wonder how many people are in this situation.

[@jesustejeda6404]

The only role im willing to play is the sub

[@sherman1280]

When she said "blame it on the mom brain" I instantly wanted to yeet myself off a cliff. I can't stand the way she talks to begin with, but when she says shit like that my skin literally crawls.

[@Aelffwynn]

Cumin is a taco seasoning either way you look at it.

[@weirdgirl4611]

8:11 Jake's face is a mood for me when I listen to these girls.

[@ghostfrequencies]

xians consider casual dating the opposite of intentional dating, where casual dating is just dating and intentional dating is dating w intent to marry. there's a whole gross culture around it.

[@TheSoundNinja]

Sometimes you do stumble into accidentally being married with two kids.

[@marcusianparrish]

King

[@coletrickle1775]

Ummmmmm, It's Bethany Jimmy viewers should get this.

[@TheRiiiight]

God I'm so sick of hearing her just repeat the word 'honoring' a million fucking times because she has no idea what point she's trying to make.

[@mt-zf6xp]

I like how COBbled together this stream is....

[@ahhhrealmonstr156]

Did she act like she forgot that she hadn’t been married for a year? What kinda shoddy ass improv is this....

[@TheDigitalWatcher]

8:31 Dat pause game doe

[@damianthefreak666]

If she never said anything about "honoring" or Jesus or God this could actually be good relationship advice.

[@rishabhanand4973]

yeah that's what i'm thinking. like other than that, she's saying ladies, don't feel pressured into having sex if you don't want it, and dump any boyfriend who tries to force it on you. of course, that applies to guys too, and also extends to same sex relationships. like guys can pressure guys into sex, women can pressure guys into sex, and women can pressure other women into sex. but yeah, the shaming women into saving sex for marriage was not ok. like, if you personally don't want to have sex until you're married, that's fine (just make sure your partner knows and is ok with this), but if you're only doing that because of the outside pressure, do what you actually want.

[@stevenx399]

Very informative bro

[@beytahvhs4817]

This video just felt like a giant nightmare loop

[@JoshRoxxas]

just a point of constructive criticism, i felt a little mislead by the debate hashtag, this is really more of a response video

[@skore9975]

I got engaged in 2018, married in 2019.. or was it 2018? But anyway, I had an onion on my belt, because it was the style at the time

[@Davo2able]

Replace Jesus/God with Charles Manson to get a sense of what this stuff sounds like to the rest of us.

[@unbeelieveable996]

i learned about sex from fanfiction around age 10. i do not recommend this approach.

[@unbeelieveable996]

@Max Harrop lol, i am now pushing thirty and have thoroughly reeducated myself, don't worry

[@IRJ53I]

D.A.V

[@HattielyEverAfter1995]

Behold the woman who saved her first kiss till marriage x

[@Unfiltered_Hottakes]

If u don't know what wap is you're a boomer😂

[@chesssean]

Just came across this channel...why does he wear a corn suit? 😐

[@theunholinesswithin70]

GD is no fun anymore, they now disable comments.

[@theotakux5959]

No (racial slur) before marriage. Weird topic...

[@shenyathewelder9695]

Everything I learned about consent and abuse was from youtube

[@shenyathewelder9695]

To add to this, my parents intentionally did not teach me about sex or consent, because if they did I could report what they were doing to me.

[@robbaldwin2402]

I'm going to go ahead and ask that you stop using the word "inseminate", thanks.

[@elko7465]

This video HAD 666 likes. I just liked it to ruin it for all of you.