ADHD Anger, Tantrums, and Mood Shifts: Effective Treatments for Emotional Dysregulation (Nigg, Ph.D)

[@StellaLeeThreads]

The irony of a 3 and half minute intro on an ADHD presentation.

[@jbkstafford]

Haha. Agreed! I immediately fast forwarded. Oh god he’s still talking. Fast forward. Ahhh! But great content from presenter.

[@mercysmartt9765]

I didn't think I was going to make it through 🫠

[@shyftless]

Hugely beneficial video about ways to improve upon your child's progress with ADHD. My son (10) has had many issues regarding impulsive anger outbursts in the form of both verbal. physical, and passive-aggressive behaviors from events that feel like an overreaction to the situation. Marry that with a low-self esteem, inattentiveness, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and sensitivity to rejection... it makes you think your child is narcissistic at times. He's been going through CBT with a regional counselor for over 2 years now with progress in many areas of his dysregulation and behavior but it still can make its way to the surface in the form of abuse towards himself and others. The areas that have me intrigued are the medication combination of a stimulant with an SSRI at this point and the added values of Omega-3 supplementation in his diet.

[@Handle8844]

Considering how many ADHD kids have ADHD parents, it’s asking a lot to suggest that parents always remain calm when their children are behaving terribly.

[@MartynaRowniak]

Circa 80%

[@hideokojima2395]

well, that’s what happens when you decide to have kids… it’s a lot. but the alternative is to create trauma in your child’s nervous system from dealing with your dysregulation :P

[@kristinecrowley8321]

What do you do when on a rare occasion, the adult in your life with adhd will acknowledge that their anger, irritability, tendency to react negatively and also overreact.....is something they struggle with and something that is connected to adhd. But for the most part, they are so unaware and don’t want to take responsibility. They make little to no effort to consider that they might be the problem. Little to no effort to objectively scrutinize their behaviors. They are controlled so much by their emotions and their experience is all that matters to them. I live in a world where I walk on eggshells at all times and have repeatedly been verbally abused by this person in reaction to something that has nothing to do with me. It’s absolute hell to live with. I can’t talk to this person or share my feelings at ALL because anger is always the response.

[@busterbonesaw]

You may have a personality disorder instead of or in addition to ADHD. Keep safe. You don’t deserve abuse and if you can, leave.

[@laradesautel3013]

So intensely!! All of them! Only anger can get me some times. It does take a lot of real things that would frustrate anyone - but the intensity sometimes at work scares me!

[@user-yr1uq1qe6y]

The problem with counseling is that too many providers are just concerned with filling their calendar with many recurring visits to bill. Zero accountability for results.

[@jbkstafford]

Thank you Joel. I’ve seen/ listened to lots of these but really like your presentation. Starting with health and diet - such easily overlooked and often symptomatic.

[@phanihunt]

Family and environment are 💯 influential in a persons adhd management.

[@ThatADHDKid]

Chronic pain makes it worse. I am way angrier and on edge compared to my life before my pain. I feel so cranky all the time and none of the hardest things for me is just getting mad at myself, for getting mad. That happens a lot, and whether I am too quick to act or stay too quiet and let it ruminate I am just a s#hitier person in general. I'm no fun anymore, I don't really remember what it was like to not be in pain. I have a very high pain tolerance. I have literally tried to pull wisdom teeth out of my skull, I had one abscess and it drove me nuts so I broke off a piece of it sitting at the lunch table at work. I was spitting blood for a few hours but it felt better as soon as I release the pressure. It allowed me to get through until I could have the surgery. I also went to work with a broken elbow. I broke it the day before; I went to sleep, woke up, got dressed and then went to work when they told me to go to the hospital and have it checked out. This is different. It's persistent and it changes, it's so hard for me to tell my doctors what I'm going through because I don't have an advocate to take with me to my appointments. I only have my own memory and that's not great. I started to take pain journals down and started to write everything down and a note on my phone but the doctors don't really care to read that kind of stuff. So I go back through it and look through it with them when I go to the appointments but it's all pretty pointless it seems. I have done everything right, I went and got the physical therapy. I went and had acupuncture and dry needling done. I then went and got steroid injections. Then I had nerve burning. Thousands and thousands of dollars in medical debt. The only other option was surgery. Had it done, and it was literally like a freaking switch was flipped in my brain. The nerve and pulsing pain that I had down into my legs switch sides from right to left. All of that was for nothing basically and now I'm into pain management. I'm a year out since my surgery and doctors basically said; It's arthritis and nothing on my imaging should a reason for the discomfort and issues I was having. I'll walk with a cane and I'm only 33, I lost the best job I had because of it. I am currently living off of my 401k after exhausting all of my disability benefits through work. Now I'm in a position where I have to try to get SSDI and getting that completed and started is really difficult because I have to get a lot of stuff together and that's pretty hard for someone like me lol. All of this plus more is what I deal with everyday and I've tried all sorts of mindfulness practices that help me try to block as much extra stress as I can and the breath work I find over the years in dealing with my frustrations have kind of helped with some of the pain when I'm moving, especially if I'm bending over to pick something up or bending down to get something. Just hold my breath and I'm always walking around holding my breath and others have thought I was just angry and literally "huffing and puffing" It's like I can't win. Now I'm trying to find a job doing remote work because I can't stand or sit for any longer than 45 min give or take That includes driving, or waiting in line in a store and so much more. I don't know what to do I feel really helpless and afraid that I'm going to lose everything and be so far behind that I'll never catch up...

[@RavenVapor873]

@ThatADHDKid I'm also a chronic pain patients with ADHD and OCD. I was just DX'ed last November and I'm a 69 yr old female - divorced cuz he couldn't wrap his head around what I was going through. I had no idea that I have ADHD. I knew about the OCD but it's never been treated. I can't take antidepressants. They make me feel horrible and the side effects were horrendous. The pain is just another thing that no one can see. It makes me irritable and cranky. I have autoimmune conditions that cause a great deal of pain. I've been sick since I was 11 yrs old. Our Healthcare system is absurd. Now we have an opioid "crisis" and so many doctors are afraid to prescribe opioids. They're one of the only things that help me. I've used them on and off since the beginning. Now with this diagnosis I'm hearing that many people with ADHD abuse drugs and become addicted. I have never been addicted to anything (now I believe I'm addicted to SM). I hate being labeled and this is all about labels. I would suggest you find an advocate within your insurance group. They should be able to locate one you can speak with. You definitely need support from somewhere or someone. I can feel your anger, frustration, and sense of feeling like the world is against you. It's a lot to try to deal with. I turn those emotions into depression and anxiety. You get angry and disillusioned. You're married? Does your partner understand what you're going through? Having anyone around that understands you or a support system is incredibly helpful. Being in debt cuz of medical expenses is awful. Don't feel alone with that. This country spends billions on defense and our Healthcare system is totally broken 🤦‍♀️ and everything is created for neurotypical people. I wish I could tell you something that would help you. I understand how difficult it is to just have chronic pain. ADHD on top of it is intolerable. I've always been highly emotional and people just think I'm overreacting. Hypersensitive as well. I'm trying to figure out what to do. Listening to these podcasts helps me feel less alone. I wanted to reach out to you after reading your comment. I wish you luck. Don't give up on yourself. You're still young and you have a drive to work. Really try to hear what these people are saying. There's help out there somewhere. Don't give up. Please.

[@clutchmisery2942]

It's almost like I'm a prisoner in side my head and have no control over my anger

[@derosa195]

Parents have to take responsibility of their abusive behavior. Complaining Criticizing Anger Taking it out on young child teen

[@clutchmisery2942]

I'm just seeking knowledge of way when I get mad and need a new way of copeing other than just bar fighting

[@clutchmisery2942]

I'm 31 years old I have adhd and add ocd every day is a battle with my anger in side my head

[@KairosDBT]

Fabulous content.

[@derosa195]

It's just traumatic childhood that parents did to them cuz the parents never dealt with their crop. Parents Dump their dysregulatef selves.

[@snikrepak]

As a person with adhd and hEDS, how would I go about doing exercise? I used to skateboard pretty much everywhere untill my condition got worse, my weight has stayed the same, around 50-60 kgs.

[@shamanicsoulcoach9588]

really excellent and helpful video

[@mercysmartt9765]

Uhhhhh the intro is so hard to get through

[@gracehopewell]

I don't think this was helpful. Medication and counseling not punishment without medication. That is so important but you are wrong

[@rhonddalesley]

I only clicked to say that the word ‘tantrum’ triggers my anger so I’m unable to watch.

[@weaviejeebies]

That one gets me, too. It implies poor character, imo. When we lose our grip on frustration, it's usually in response to demands that we've been trying unsuccessfully to negotiate with NT people who don't/won't get it. It only looks unreasonable and entitled from the outside because humans are hardwired to view overreactions as threatening and bad for the tribe. They don't seem to understand that it's a 50/50 interaction that they have a role in. They shouldn't infantilize adults by calling it a tantrum. We aren't toddlers, and if they'd been a tiny bit flexible the first 100x we tried to withdraw, get an accommodation, or set a boundary, maybe we wouldn't be roaring our heads off.

[@snikrepak]

Well, it's mostly containing the amount of rage that I have, when the doctors tell me I'm perfectly fine, when I have 2 herniated disks and can't walk, they have no idea that just because we don't show pain like the pathetic normies, we should be treated as "everyone else", this idea and notion that "all men are created equal" is complete and utter garbage! Having a condition that mostly affects females, and then being sent to psych,laughed at, gas lit, untill my knee joint completely​ failed, now I'm just waiting for my time to end lol.@@weaviejeebies