ADHD Career Decisions, Overwhelm + Fear of Failure 😫

If you have ADHD and you struggle to make career decisions because of overwhelm or afraid of failure, then this video is for you. If you have trouble narrowing down your options and finding what truly lights you up, then I can help.
In this video, we'll explore a three-step framework for addressing big ADHD problems, including self-awareness, lifestyle design, and energy management. You'll learn about the dangers of infinite choice and the importance of narrowing down options. We'll also discuss the benefits of embracing your unique path and following what lights you up. Join us for tips on overcoming career overwhelm, finding fulfillment, and succeeding on your unique path with ADHD.
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[@tobyjaffe270]

what service do you use for your weekly check-ins? And do you have a template you could share????

[@Jasminecbisme]

She uses Notion. I also use this & it’s AMAZING!

[@CarenMagill]

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[@CarenMagill]

@Jasminecbisme thank you for the kind words!

[@alittlepieceofearth]

Sometimes the fear of failure is linked to the failure we've already endured in life and being worried about our own limitations.

[@dhitikabarua7677]

ADHD adults are right brainers and should do right brain based careers and those careers which motivates them-interest, passion, keeps them consistent!

[@pixywings]

I'm 37 and I still have no idea what to do with myself. I only even went to college because if I didn't my Mom would have kicked me out of the house and I would have nowhere to live. I am not using either one of my two degrees in my so-called career. My job is soooo boring and feels almost completely pointless. The very idea of filling out job applications has always filled me with crippling anxiety to the point where I literally cannot function. I have learned that it doesn't matter what you know, it's who you know. When I graduated from college, I was terrified because I knew that I had to find a job now. I gave up a long time ago on ever getting anything that has anything to do with what I actually studied in college. By the way my biggest fear is not being able to make money and ending up homeless on the street! I think that is a huge reason why I keep getting dead-end blue-collar jobs rather than anything I can actually make a career out of. I feel like no one will ever give me a chance and I can't get hired for even the simplest most basic positions in my field. So instead of even trying I have Panick attacks, cry for hours, and end up stuck with a crappy job that I hate! It has also gotten to a point where I really don't even know what I like or am interested in anymore. I also struggle with keeping jobs sometimes because I just get bored. A job might seem interesting at first but after I have been there a few months it's just the same boring monotonous crap every day and I stop caring. I also hate customer service! Why are people so petty and selfish?!

[@jasonpantig4085]

Your situation is better than mine man! I'm unable to finish college. I'm having difficulties focusing. No one is helping me financially as well. I'm also stuck working as a customer service which I hate. Once I got bored my metrics were also failing. Then I got terminated twice already. I don't know what to do. Kinda thinking that my life has no point.

[@pixywings]

@@jasonpantig4085 I quite often feel like everything is pointless.

[@christophergreen3809]

Why do I fear failure? Because I'm so damn good at it!

[@CarenMagill]

This is not something you want to say about yourself. It's not helpful.

[@ambersucces9867]

This was so good! I've been running my business since 2018 and although I've hit major milestones like getting my products into big retail, it still doesn't provide me with a full time consistent income that my family can rely on. I'm always getting super motivated and setting goals but rarely ever seeing them through whether it's running ads, launching products, building a community, marketing or etc. It's such a relief to realize that I could be ADHD because even before my business I just suffered so much mentally. Everything has always been extremely draining and overwhelming and I get overstimulated quickly.

[@CarenMagill]

I feel your pain!

[@valerievalentova]

No way, this is so well timed... Cried like 3 times today because of this lol. I am yet to listen but thanks for doing a video about this.

[@riddhi5493]

I'm also facing a career decision dilemma in my mid-30s, and the timing of this video couldn't be more perfect.

[@lynking4141]

I'll be a young fitty-three, in November. Unfortunately, my idea of young doesn't appear to be my perspective employer's idea. I feel like I've already been cast aside & given up on -- but then, I'm stubborn enough to tough this out ... and watch this video all the way through ... 😇 I'm just grateful (and a little sad) that I'm not alone. The struggle is real, y'all -- but so is the victory.

[@creativegray]

@@lynking4141 You're not alone at all. I'm an old 53 (aka "54") and realizing that, now in the fourth year of working in the nonprofit realm, I absolutely hate it. And yet I went to it because I was feeling like I couldn't make my creative sides make a living...so now I feel terrified/hopeless in waves, especially when I look for jobs. They all feel dead, but doing what I am actually good at? doesn't make $$.

[@melchol2121]

the perfect timing of this!!! Im burning out 5 years into my career, looking into Autism diagnosis and have an existing ADHD diagnosis. especially the corporate world does a shit job of supporting ND employees and takes advantage of our need to do well by others. I know now I need a career change. this current career was influenced by my parents’ expectations of me and not by my authentic needs and desires

[@Dancestar1981]

They absolutely need to support us properly

[@zofftguitar4932]

Same here friend. What u did in the end?

[@melchol2121]

@@zofftguitar4932 I quit my job in October and I’m trying to figure out what to do with my career now. I’m glad I did it but it’s a lot to come to terms with the holiday season and everything

[@Hikewithchloe]

Wow, I finally found the real advice for me. People are telling me, why can you not do that. then my self-esteem got lower and lower. Thank you for your video!

[@vaughnblack1725]

I left a career that I loved, on impulse, for what seemed like a good idea at the time and jumped into a career that I have absolutely hated every second of for the last 27 years! To the point where now I don’t even know what my interests are anymore

[@yomiseno]

This year's paralysis got my stuff messed up, I lost 3-4 furniture in my room because of "me getting lost". I can't think so I am putting it towards something else. I don't want my stuff back, I don't need them. I basically, hmm, just have a desk and a bed in my room at this point, I won't be distracted anymore.

[@missbluegreen9765]

Perfectly timed video. I've been struggling with job hopping and burnout for the past 4 years. I jsut can't seem to stick to a job, especially something in corporate :( I'm so stressed about my decisions right now as I am still financially unstable. But my mental health is suffering really bad

[@djallalnamri1]

if we copy our career on that of a neurotypical or if we forget ADHD in the choice of a career, we are of course likely to face many disappointments: we are sure to have thought of everything except that we forgot that you couldn't execute what you thought about or what you programmed because of frequent power cuts or dopamine. OK so let's integrate ADHD into the process of transforming matter through energy, in other words TIME or WORK (transforming flour, sugar, butter and eggs into cake for example) and keeping this in mind: I'm preparing my cake without forgetting ADHD and the tricks it plays on us in terms of awareness of the continuity of time, the process of transformation, work, the different sequences of a task without complex, without stress, without embarrassment or self-loathing. I remain aware of my difference, that of an ADHD-er compared to a neurotypical and I do everything in relation to that. time is still something invisible that is measured with a timer, an hourglass and/or a clock, but none of these measuring instruments is time in itself: When I have finished my cake that everyone found delicious and cooked to perfection... let's do another project then.

[@NADA-ok2ce]

❤

[@CarenMagill]

beautifully said!

[@nabilahamdani]

Me! I failed many times. Struggling to get by improving my career

[@tomduley6357]

You are so right about the career decision being something that you have to revisit throughout your life. I quit my job a year ago due to extreme burnout. It is the first time I have ever experienced anything that extreme although I have always struggled to be happy in my job. I get bored easily. I am currently trying to find a new job after a year off and it is hard to decide which direction to go in. This video was very helpful. I had a counselor tell me several years ago that I might be ADHD and I didn't believe him. I now know how wrong I was.

[@MountainVibesTX]

I can’t believe I hadn’t found this video before. Every second of it applied to me. Thank you so much :))

[@melliemu123]

your perspective is INVALUABLE. I really resonate with and feel so at ease by how you explain things. THANK YOU for your work and please keep it up. Your videos are saving me during a very hard time

[@katethegreat7333]

This is my biggest question in life right now

[@michellesphotog]

Thank you so much for this (and your other videos that I’ve been binge-watching since I found you)! I’m definitely looking forward to the follow-up video you mentioned (@ approx 8:18 ) about self-regulating “in the moment”.

[@Experienceswithebz]

This was so good! The most relatable and profound insights on connection between ADHD mind and career! I have to watch this over and over again. It speaks directly into my journey right now. Thank you!

[@user-zr6be9wv2z]

Gah…trying to write my resume or create a portfolio when I feel like a failure. Not to mention feeling the overwhelm when doing these tasks. This video and others are helping me understand so much!!!

[@giapearson77]

I just wanted to make sure I took a minute to say THANK YOU. Your DISCO BALL analogy really struck home with me and gave me a great analogy to describe and understand why my efforts never seem to move me forward toward anything. I am working on harnessing my efforts and bringing them into a more 'focused' beam, maybe I will never be a laser (lol) but maybe with some practice, I can at least make it a lantern to light my way forward. 😊 Also, thank you, thank you for recommending NOTION. Wow! I am 46 and I have tried dozens and dozens of management/organising tools but this finally feels like something I can stick with. It's clean so not overwhelming but at the same time I can build my own Personal Wiki (finally a product statement that's totally true) and I can see PROGRESS right in front of me as it grows, and it makes me feel less 'stuck'. Fantastic, versatile tool and I had never heard of it before seeing it on your channel. So again, so much gratitude, thank you! ❤🎉

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so glad it's working for you!!!!

[@baselalgharam991]

I haven't seen the video, but I just wanna say: you're amazing! I saw one of your videos before and immediately subscribed. I love what you do and the tips you give. Thank you so much 😁

[@CarenMagill]

Wow, thank you!

[@00Jeannette00]

Thank you:).

[@siphokazitobela8044]

I was so overwhelmed and anxious at work total burn out I resigned from my job last week 😢😢😢

[@CarenMagill]

Sorry to hear you are struggling!

[@lynking4141]

Sending good vibes your way 🙏.

[@ellynfoster4440]

This video is so helpful. Thank you ❤

[@CarenMagill]

Glad it was helpful!

[@ItsTarotAndBeyond]

Was thinking about this topic this morning, talk about Divine Timing! 😜 😇 ⏰

[@yomiseno]

I don't fear failure anymore. Since I can't concentrate, and I basically love everything I try, I am staying where it feels "more bearable to me". It was said that the best career for inattentive ADHD is culinary, yet I also don't cook that much, I dropped out Tourism studies in 2019, and I loath doing it everyday with all honesty. Too much loath, I prepped all my ingredients so I can skip proccesses and just "bam", like throw off everything in the pan. They aren't fresh anymore because I chopped them earlier than I should, stored in the fridge, it was soggy and awful, really bland and stale. I cook when I feel motivated like I study when I feel motivated. When I feel like not thinking or doing anything I feel passionate about, I tend to go towards chores (cleaning, mostly and honestly), etc.. those stuff you just habitually and automatically do. At paralysis as well, I try to wrap Christmas gifts as earlier as possible as well (which is fucking weird), rearrange my wardrobe and closet, things, clutter or maybe (in rare cases), get lost in some kind of hobby I am usually shitty in or I just found. I am capable of multitasking, I love multitasking.

[@JetTinkerer]

I so badly want a creative career in robotics engineering. But doing so requires me to sacrifice EVERYTHING ive already sacrificed half of my life for (not an exaggeration in the slightest). This includes my home, my 6fig income, and my wife. Id have to do what 18 year olds are doing while theyre staying at mommy and daddys but im a man in my 30s. As i always hear, you have to choose, you cant have it all. I wish i wouldve known that before choosing a good career that has given me confidence, money, and self respect but has taken everything else from me. Id be happy in a different way if i could just throw half my life away without a thought, but then id be miserable working 60hrs a week and still having to choose between ramen noodles or gas to get to work 😂

[@acarmour3]

Discovered you this morning and immediately subscribed! Was recently diagnosed at 50 with ADHD and now so many of my patterns and daily struggles are making a lot more sense. Am an artist and designer and have a really hard time saying now to passion projects and regulating my energy levels. Will definitely try your suggestion of taking time every week to reflect on my progress in all areas of my life. Thanks SO much for this channel!❤

[@amberturnage6108]

Wow ur hair is so beautiful 😍

[@jenniferhizzy6591]

Know what's in your heart also it sounds like she needs to do an assessment.

[@Kai-fr7gr]

Thank you for sharing! I am same as you in some aspect - working in marketing and always know that I am interested in Psychology, personal development and spirit thing like Yoga, I have also just enrolled the ADHD coaching course and starting next month. I want to seek an advice here though - unlike you, I do not seem to stick with the marketing corporate role and have been job hopping for last 7 years. Would you have advice how to secure a job to maintain a stable income while building a career in coaching? Thank you again, your content is helpful.

[@CarenMagill]

Coaching is flexible enough that you can do it in the margins of life. Stick with the job you have and coach on weekends and evenings. It's totally possible.

[@jenniferhizzy6591]

We should make a dance fight, flight or freeze.

[@paultan5796]

Im in my late 20s on my 5th career now. I agree that i get overwhelmed easily by those challenges faced at work. It is really not easy to stay on sometimes and i am constantly thinking of what the 'perfect' job is. Isit too late to start over?

[@user-on7cf9xh3e]

Hi, I only seem to qualify for customer service jobs, but talking to customers freaks me out. I’ve done it in the past & I used to hide in fitting rooms & bathrooms. Any ideas as to where I should work other than in retail & fast food joints?

[@byonty886]

i have a job commission and i'm on the verge to cry and puke, I don't want this kind of stress, I just want a simple life, but for everyone seem like I'm wasting my life

[@lorikriese103]

I can't hold a job... I just get bored and it feels like it sucks my soul. I self talk myself into not quitting...but I know myself one day a switch flips and I am done. There is no getting me back on track once that switch flips. I can't find anything that holds my attention. I can't just do it for the sake of doing. Most people think I am flighty...I just can't find what I am fullfilled in. I feel lost and empty.

[@Abbyyena]

I’m sorry you’re feeling lost. Have you considered talking to a career coach (check out “Work it Daily” online. You can Google it). Also consider seeing a medical professional if you have ADHD. I know that lost feeling all too well. Another resource you can check out is Barbara Sher and her book, “Refuse to Choose”

[@jenniferhizzy6591]

I know what I want to do and what I was built for having a hard time finding it. HELP!!!!!!!!!11

[@LovelyMotokochan]

Do you have any recommendations of careers that are good for adhders?

[@CarenMagill]

I think it's depends on your personal strengths and interests. That said, broadly speaking I'd recommend staying away from jobs that require routine actions, like admin, or something like that. Better to focus on jobs that require problem solving, creativity and or emergency response.

[@zakerdoodle]

Where have you been all my life??

[@a_lex801]

this sounds great, and i genuinely mean it, however it's hella tricky to plant that stake and move in that direction when PDA gets into picture... 😩and let's not forget the RSD... 😫😫

[@sable747]

Ugh! The truth bomb at the end!!!

[@ladylongford1951]

Question: how do I make myself stick with doing the weekly calibration?! 🫨

[@CarenMagill]

Set a time in your calendar to do it. Then create a weekly process for reviewing your week. I have some videos on that.

[@CarenMagill]

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