ADHD women 👉 Diagnosed at Mid-life? 5 Things You Should Know About Your ADHD Brain

If you are an ADHD woman diagnosed at midlife, then you're going to want to tune in. I'm sharing the top 5 things I think ALL ADHD women need to know about their diagnosis, right from the get-go. It will help you avoid rabbit holes, process emotion and get your mind focused on what you need to do to thrive with ADHD.
How old were you when you received a diagnosis? I was 52, and although I wish I had known earlier, I feel like I've made up for lost time by diving head first into coaching, research and embracing this amazing community.
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[@DragonflyFreedom]

5:16 “I was not being accommodated for the type of brain that I had, and I was trying to survive as best I could in a world that wasn’t designed for me.” 😭 Thank you so much for saying this!!! I am 59, newly diagnosed, and I am in tears. All these years, I thought I was broken and, try as I could (and I have - in abundance!) and with all my abilities, I haven’t been able to get my stuff together. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance 🙏🏼 You give me hope, Caren…and that is HUGE for me 💜

[@CarenMagill]

Aw, Carole I know what you're going through. Trust me, now that you know you can not only heal from the past, but also start creating a life that IS designed just for you ☺

[@InterIdoru]

Just got diagnosed at "over 50." As a child and teen years, I had been diagnosed, but my parents blew it off, thinking they could fix me through strict discipline. Then I forgot about it when I moved out. Never thought about getting diagnosed. However recently, wading through all the overthinking, and struggling with "why can't I..." I took myself in for testing. It's made a big difference!

[@kathryntessaro1083]

i’m not formally diagnosed but my son is and i’ve learned so much by just researching for him, and realizing my daughter has it and from that i’m learning I dealt with this my whole life

[@user-eq6cb8rf2h]

Age 42 and diagnosed about 4 months ago. Your videos have been the absolute best! Please keep posting and thank you!

[@CarenMagill]

I really appreciate your support!!!! I will keep posting :)

[@PrislovesSav]

😭 I never knew someone else felt like this. I’m 35 and never in my life listened to someone explain this. I’m a Registered Nurse and still never had is laid out so clearly exactly how I have felt my entire life. Broken, stupid, ughh I have struggled forever BUT I also know how awesome I am and I’m so excited to learn about everything you have to say. God bless you, thank you for your knowledge and love for us!

[@LordTaos]

I'm 50 and I was diagnosed just a few months ago. The things I'm learning about our struggles and difficulties have been so enlightening. So many things from my past, my failures specifically, I have been looking back with a new light. I wish I would have been diagnosed in my childhood. Anyways, thank you for all your content, I am going through it and enjoying it.

[@onelittledropintheocean]

3 weeks ago I was talking with a psychologist because I am not able to achieve financial independence, eventhough I have survived a huge burnout & wake up call to childhood trauma (a narcissistic mother is just the start) ... However, I never realised I had a neuro-divergency for my entire 52 years!!! This psychologist picked it up after a one hour conversation. Since then, my whole life has flashed before my eyes and all the dots have been united 🤗 ... As well as my 26 yr old son coming to the realisation that he also has ADHD. We will both go for the official diagnosis but we already have the knowing in our hearts. It's been a very intense 3 weeks 😅 So, spiritual awakening, peri-menopause & CPTSD have many overlapping symptoms/traits to ADHD. That's why it's all reached an ugly head for me ... Only to SET ME FREEEEEE finally 🙏💖🕊️

[@tomfilipiak690]

Was not diagnosed until I was 58 years old. Because of how dumb insurance is and the health care system, I still have not connected with a counselor and/or ADHD coach who will help me. Now I'm 61. I have been mourning all the times that jobs turned to crap, relationship issues, struggles with job/life/mental health, etc. The only way I have gotten this far is by brute force and sheer determination and depression and anxiety and some other things. And honestly....I'm tired. I'm tired of not getting my needs met while pouring out endless amounts of work on things for others, etc. all while getting criticized and fired etc. I think anyone here knows what I am talking about. I need a spouse, some friends and a coach who understand me and my ADHD.

[@Tricia_JoElle]

Stumbled onto your youtubes. OMG! Haven't been diagnosed by doctor. 64 yrs old. Overwhelm, stuck, struggle to keep things organized, accomplish anything. Waiting for camera crew to show up with "...on the next addition of Hoarders...". Sometimes feeling defeated and depressed. It's been 2 years like this. Prior to this shift- meticulously and effortless organized, multi task queen, energizer bunny energy. What changed? Neighbors from hell and long term sleep deprivation.... and severe stress. So, it's calmed down. I'm sleeping. Stress of the aftermath (house / yard destroyed from constant flooding- grade change). Point- the damage of long term sleep deprivation is beyond "catch up on sleep". Your tips will help. Also looking into nutrition. Gut is horrible from 100% caffeine to attempt to hold on to "normalcy" throughout the nightmare. Love your video's.

[@elviragomez5703]

I can relate to your intuition 😊 also I have a lot of great ideas , but that’s all, I don’t have the focus to do anything with it.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Sounds very familiar 😉

[@pennie369]

Yes. I was diagnosed with ADD at 50 years old. I had to ask my GP for a referral to a Psychiatrist, because I knew this merry-go-round of anti depressants was not the solution. I felt like my head was going to implode.

[@borleyboo5613]

I’m 66 and I know, without a doubt that I have ADHD. This video has been a great help. Here in England, the waiting list to see a specialist is 2 to 3 years. So I’ll have to go private for a diagnosis. And that costs about £600. What struck me in this video was when you said about not knowing what an adjective is. I have written and blogged, and even did two years at university studying English literature. And I’m the same as you in that respect. I couldn’t even finish my university course because I couldn’t keep up with the work load or organise myself. Thank you for this.

[@CarenMagill]

Wow, that's a long wait time. I hope you get a diagnosis sooner than that.

[@gracespacesoul]

Hey @Borley Boo! I'm in the UK too and got a private diagnosis for the same reason... it's a 3-4 year wait where I live. I'm happy to share my experience of the place I used if that's helpful? Reply here and hopefully I'll see it.

[@jaeshasway]

I’m in the US and my primary care doctor diagnosed me. I didn’t have to go to a specialist. He actually started me on the meds.

[@lagomorphia9]

I didnt finish university either, tried three times but couldnt adult whatsoever. Not lack of intelligence but the whole executive system is shot. It took me ages to even remember where my classes were held and stuff like that. Id study for an exam and find out it was held the day before, leaving no time to study for the one I had that day. ADHD and my other learning disabilities suck but I could have thrived if Id known back then.

[@lagomorphia9]

My diagnosis at 50 was so overwhelming that I had to take about a year to learn just to be kind to myself. I had a lifetime of cause and effect behind me all caused by the ADHD but I judged myself harshly for being unable to achieve any where near normal. My ADHD is so bad Im eternally blessed just to not be homeless. As soon as I found out, the relief was overwhelming but I had to unlearn all the negative self talk.

[@CarenMagill]

Good for you! It takes a while to unpack it all.

[@Channelinterrupted]

I was diagnosed at 29 (late 40s now), but only after years of issues, not just a depressive episode. I had those too. It always affected nearly every job and facet of my life. It's really debilitating. I think people get diagnosed when they don't really have it. In fact, because our society is so busy, people tend to appear to have symptoms time to time but they don't truly have it. Believe me, this ain't something you want or it suddenly became an issue at 50. Other people would point it out to me and I wouldn't listen until those people were in health care and sure enough that was my issue all along.

[@CarenMagill]

Hi Channel NoMore. Thanks for your comment. I believe that many people are getting diagnosed in their 50's because it wasn't recognized when we were younger as a potential issue (especially in women). So we create compensatory methods to cope with our brain. However, those methods tend to stop working when hormonal changes come into play.

[@michellescanlon990]

Just diagnosed last month at 50! Felt all the things you said. Decided to give up work to be a stay at home mom for my daughter. She will be going to college in September. I have no idea how to make my way back into the world! Unknowingly because of adhd symptoms I made my world very small. I was barely managing the basics when I got my diagnosis. Can’t imagine how long it’s going to take me to pick up the pieces!

[@CarenMagill]

Day by day, Michelle. You can and you will!

[@MsDeeVee]

Just diagnosed at 59! I always had the feeling of being out of place while it is just that the world is not designed for people like me. Thx for your videos. It helps a lot.

[@kreativekatevlog]

49 and diagnosed last week ..... how did I feel???... I wasn't surprised but now I'm trying to figure out where I go from here. To find forgiveness to the child/ young adult me and to help myself to move forward in a more authentic way.... on top of dealing with elderly sick parents and a teenage son who I'm sure is also ADHD and highly emotional 😳😳😳😳 I've signed up to your email and I am hopefully going to start utilising some of the worksheets etc. Thanks x

[@gloriat3015]

I found this so validating, as someone diagnosed with ADHD inattentive sub-type in March, and turning 50 next month. I had burnout, and a couple of bereavements, my Dad and best friend within months of each other. Lost my job just before Christmas, and decided I need a time out.

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so sorry about your losses, Gloria. My condolences.

[@gloriat3015]

@@CarenMagill Thank you x

[@juliet9548]

This video hit the mark with me. THANK YOU!!!!! ❤

[@user-zr6be9wv2z]

Be careful who influences you!!! Thank you for being this up!

[@wendystherapueticmovement]

I’m so happy I found you and look forward to Sunday. I’m newly diagnosed at 58

[@gracespacesoul]

I got diagnosed three months ago, at 52 years young and I've been experiencing so much of what you spoke to in this video. I've been mainlining ADHD info ever since, after allowing a 2-week blanket fort period to do the initial processing. I've been endlessly fascinated by the human condition for my entire life and it's taken me down many winding paths! The diagnosis makes sense of my entire life - including my inability to Adult or People in a way that's considered the 'norm'. Thank you for everything you share, I really appreciate it. I am very resistant to the mood hoovers of the ADHD community and very quickly honoured my intuition around what narratives I want to listen to or not. I'm glad your life has changed in such a profound way and can't wait until the bigger pieces fall into place for mine too - right now it's a bit of a solo life shitshow tbh!

[@CarenMagill]

Congrats on your diagnosis. It takes time to process it all and accept where you are. I hope these videos help. I know exactly what you're going through!

[@gracespacesoul]

@@CarenMagill your videos are helping more than I can say. I’m slowly working through them and I’m so inspired by your turnaround in your work and life. Thank you for responding and for everything you do 💗

[@michellescanlon990]

I’m completely at the same place, exciting and daunting at the same time! I’m sure life will be very different a year from now ❤

[@Dancestar1981]

I have the dual diagnosis Aspergers and combined ADHD

[@losttheplotat60b37]

Hi Caren! Absolutely love your videos, thank you! I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago, aged 57 and boy was that a relief! Not the screw up that I thought I was - well, not for the usual reasons 🤣 I had something really poignant, relevant and profound to write, but with each intervening thought, I’ve watched it floating away further into the distance on the boat named Memory 🤣🤣 I’ll remember at 3am when I wake up due to ADHD 😁 I do think part of my thought was the similarities between ADHD signs & symptoms and childhood trauma. After diagnosis, I had therapy and was also told I had trauma; I’d never thought of it that way, just accepted life as it was and fended for myself. It just made me think of trauma and its links to our childhood - being that ‘irritating kid’, including at home…such a lot to recover from. My dx was truly a major turning point for me; now, I just need to find out what goals actually are,if I have any 🤣🤣 Thanks again…

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so glad this resonates with you. Thanks for the kind words. Yes - trauma is very correlated to ADHD. I don't know if one causes the other, but they seem to appear together a lot.

[@morganquist]

Thanks for the candid, helpful info, Caren!!

[@indyd9322]

Yes! I relate to the intuition thing.

[@serenalinn]

Number 1 was HUGE!

[@MultiSignlanguage]

Yeah I just got diagnosed at 52 also 😢

[@CarenMagill]

welcome to the club!!!

[@EH-pj8vm]

Awesome video! 💖💖

[@CarenMagill]

Thank you 🤗

[@annwilson3069]

i’m 56 years old my father won custody of me and my brothers in court in Princeton Indiana he told me at 5 years old i belonged to the land lords my whole family disowned me at 15 for having the 1 and second basturds in my family so no one talk to me about my Aunt Brenda and Uncle Paul spoiled me rotten taught me in my 30 how to drive a school bus ❤❤❤

[@Scentfromheaven2]

Diagnosis at 44 after fighting for sons autism and other son mini me ADHD..

[@CarenMagill]

Glad you got a diagnosis, Cassey! I hope this makes a positive difference in your life.

[@alexismundy5893]

How do I get a diagnostic sis in New Zealand? I am 65 and have always felt different.

[@Dancestar1981]

Diagnosed at 42

[@worthmor5146]

You got diagnosed early. I just got diagnosed at 60. I'm lost and don't know what to do. I am male btw.

[@melissarasmussen964]

Hi did you get emotional and have melt downs anger issues when yiu want to go out it always turns in to a roller coaster and struggle to get ready as well ev time wash that dry pile up on couch get higher and higher days where you are bored that it adjetates you you zone out through thing in wardrobe when you tydy up ex clothes what ever

[@CarenMagill]

Hey, Melissa. I don't get as emotional now. Mindfulness and medications have helped a lot. I also find that keeping my home clean helps me feel more in control of my whole life. So that's my motivation to clean!

[@wendyhannan2454]

I agree Caren, if you get organised in the home it really helps. You explain your life and I just nod my head saying, yes yes, that’s me. And we are good people, generous and kind. I love that about us adders. Yes Melissa, I’m pretty hopeless at getting ready to go out, or packing to go away is still a nightmare for me. 🤷‍♀️ Thanks Caren, I love your videos.

[@sararatliff7707]

What if you have ADHD but have absolutely zero of the "positive" traits?

[@CarenMagill]

We all have positive traits. It's part of being human. If you're not seeing them, it's not because they aren't there.

[@ADHDGG]

Diagnosed at 53 😢 I’m 54, now But I always knew something was wrong/different about me 😞

[@CarenMagill]

me too!

[@bugajk25]

I’m diagnosing myself! 🫣 I don’t even know how to get actually diagnosed!!