ADHD Cleaning

[@roarmaus]

Upon hearing, "You're my body double for life.." I pressed my hand to my heart and whispered, "Oh! That's so sweet!" I nearly teared up. ND partnership goals youse are!

[@storytimewithmimi6223]

I literally teared up at that!!!! So wish I could find my body double for life!!! :)

[@lisawhitehall1870]

❤

[@joyh6770]

Internet people! I don't have many to share this with, but I wanted to tell someone! I officially got an ADHD diagnosis today! 🎉 I'm already diagnosed autistic, but there was still something missing. I am relieved to now have the language to understand myself better. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@Plethorality]

Congratulations!!!! Welcome to the club!!! Big hugs for if you like hugs! I found out Asperger's at 38, and adhd at 55, in 2020. Knowing is everything!!! I am so happy for you! Its not that its always great to be this way, but what is great, is knowing about it, and getting appropriate help, rather than being like we are, and not knowing. Well done!!! Welcome to the combo club!! : )

[@joyh6770]

Thank you so much for your kind words!! I truly appreciate it. 😊 Life is indeed challenging, but I am grateful to have more tools avaliable to navigate through it.

[@PS-bs8oe]

Keep up with the good sides and bravo for mastering the stormier parts.

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

Congrats! ADHD at 18, Autism at 42 for me. As the G.I. Joe cartoons said, "Knowing is half the battle!" I heartily recommend the book "ADD-friendly ways to organize your life" - it really is about ALL of your life areas, and it helped me a HUGE amount in building coping skills that actually work! I recommend it to everyone. On the more emotional side, the book "You mean I'm not lazy, stupid, or crazy?" was a real find. It's written by a couple of women, and the audience is primarily female, but I think it can help anyone with the emotional side. Those are my "go to" books! Best of luck going forward!

[@joyh6770]

​@kateshiningdeer3334 Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! I appreciate it so much and I will definitely add those to my book list. 😊

[@seabrookel5037]

100% the reason I stay on top of basic household tasks is because of my family. The combination of having someone counting on you for clean clothes and a lunch tomorrow plus just the body double accountability of my husband helps so much.

[@kenjutsukata1o1]

Yup, the only time I cook is when it's for somebody else... I'm a very competent cook, yet on my own it's a diet of nuts, dried berries, crackers, cold cereal, and spoonfuls of peanut butter 😅

[@scw55]

@@kenjutsukata1o1 mm, yes. For myself, I cook the bare minimum. Cooking for another, it's a dinner party.

[@LittleHobbit13]

My mom has often said "the house was never cluttered like your apartment when you lived at home" and I often have to remind her a huge difference between then and now is that I live by myself and there's no literally no one around to keep me accountable. Body doubling is an invaluable ADHD hack.

[@KateFrazer-x6u]

This is the same for me. I wonder how I can do all the organising for my children - feeding them, washing those clothes etc, but for me, never make lunch and very crap at preparing for myself. I had my first appointment a few weeks having been referred by my son’s psych. At 50, I wonder why I can manage to do stuff and not sound so crazy, but then I realised it’s because people are relying on me 😢

[@brendatomlinson]

It IS quite romantic! I wish I had a real life body double rather than having to find an internet body double.

[@Atuchy]

How do you use body doubling online? I’ve always been hesitant cuz I wasn’t sure I’d find it helpful. I’m autistic and adhd so I’d if I’d just be more anxious with a stranger around.

[@thehomelesshebrews]

The word ROMANTIC doesn't mean what you have been programmed to think it means. It actually means you are ROMAN-like; have a ROMAN state of mind, and they are PAGANS, who are PERVERTED. Valentine's day is actually LUPERCALIA, and it is one of ROME's most SEXUALLY PERVERTED TRADITIONS. Do some research, and you won't be wanting ANYTHING ROMANtic.

[@brendatomlinson]

@@AtuchySorry just seeing this. I recently got on Facebook 😖and found an ADHD group for body doubling. No regulations really, you can post what/when you want to get something done and someone offers to double you at that time. Each person works on their own thing. I might clean and you work on your laptop. You can FaceTime, zoom, whatever works for you and your double. A phone call. Remaining clothed is the big rule! lol

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

I want to know how this works, too! That seems like something that could help me, but I have no idea how that would work IRL.

[@bluester7177]

My space is incredibly untidy but the space I share with others isn't, I don't know why but other people seem to be enough motivation , specially now that my mom broke her ankle and I have to do everything, it feels that the priority is always on critical, so everything is organized, my bedroom though, is more messy.

[@TheGeneral75746]

For me it's the accountability to another person. I don't want them to know how bad I really am (masking) but also I don't want them to have to deal with the same conditions that I put myself through because I just don't have the mental energy to care enough about it for just myself.

[@jyett314]

@@TheGeneral75746 THIS!! This right here!

[@midsyntax]

I’m moving in with my partner soon and they expressed concern about cleaning. I tried to explain about how having another person around helps, but he didn’t really understand. Then you posted this a week later. 😅 thank you

[@thehomelesshebrews]

It's that sense of URGENCY that gives us the kick in the butt we need to finally clean up a bit. When you're not there, the urgency is missing. The "mess" isn't all that important.

[@feelinguru-vywiththepaingu9808]

Thank you for making these videos. They are helping my husband understand me. I have ADHD.

[@lurklingX]

"you're my bodydouble for life" awww that actually WAS sweet haha

[@evildoer61636]

I absolutely love you two, you make me smile with every video you post, knowing I'm not alone❣️

[@tihana13]

This is 💯 spot on. I always knew it was true, but I have never heard of body doubling so now when I searched what it meant, it makes perfect sense!

[@zalafinari]

Oh man I recall one time my (now ex) wife went out of town for a week and I had promised I'd clean up while she was away. A week goes by in a flash and I'd done nothing. I get a message that she'll be home in 90 minutes and you wouldn't believe how much I was able to clean in that time. She had no idea I had literally only *just* cleaned up and was satisfied to come home to a clean house.

[@varframppytwobtokwanguz2286]

Psychedelics changed my ADHD life. Once those dirty dishes and socks began moving and talking, I became a neat freak over night.

[@RosePostedThis]

God this is so true. Even better with a husband with OCD.

[@tazziegee8479]

totally after my partner died our house became and is still (years later) partly from grief ie depressed, but also there was only me, and well undiagnosed ADHD..hoarder happened. Have a great friend body double and also ADHD and is helping. Also working on hoarding reasons..improving very slowly and all my washing is dry and nothing in the washing machine! (cant say same for kitchen)

[@Plethorality]

It sounds like you are doing really, really well!! Proud of you for keeping on going and finding solutions. Yes, grief is major, and our losses can be very different... And difficult, to navigate through.

[@tazziegee8479]

@@Plethorality thank You so much for your kind words .

[@michaelflores3767]

Yes! That is so true. I never thought about it that way, but yes.

[@sherrymiller1822]

I've just found you guys and the ability to break this down is brilliant! The body double , i never even understood until now! This is so helpful , although we must live with it .analyzing helps.....cause that's what we do. Lmao❤

[@imperfectly_megan]

Yes! Valentine's day card, sticker & t-shirt!

[@Sprinkle77755]

Thank you for all of the info/videos! I absolutely love your hair, plus, you both have absolutely gorgeous souls! 🌠🌻🦋🦩🦕

[@smallerontheoutside1122]

Congratulations! I'm still waiting on my referral, I can't wait fir that day to come, I have two diagnosed ADHD kids who are exactly like me, and I relate SO MUCH to Rox in all her videos, I'm always watching like "she's literally just describing me here" 😅 I bet it was a huge relief to get your diagnosis officially 😁

[@SageNSaavy]

I really appreciate this channel, and your content. After struggling with ADHD for years, I recently stumbled across yerba mate, and it has really helped me to better manage it. I like it so much better than the prescription medications I've tried. I drink just a cup or two in the morning. It helps me focus, and since discovering it, I am much more organized. But the best part is I still feel like myself. I recommend it for anyone looking for a natural way to mange their symptoms.

[@Plethorality]

Thank you for that. I will look into it. The meds worked for me, until they didnt.

[@PS-bs8oe]

It can just be like a bandaid. I ve been drinking it for years but it doesn't act medically at all.

[@nerissarowan8119]

@@PS-bs8oedifferent things will work for different people. The important thing is to find what works for you.

[@amieridley1150]

Oh I would so buy that card for my hubby! And we don't even "do" valentines 😂😂😂

[@sabrinanelsen8660]

Sending this to my husband to explain some things 😂

[@afghdkfekjk1509]

This actually explains a lot, after an 8 year relationship ended i find it so much harder to do any household chores when its just silence all day every day

[@compendiumyo3358]

I could never have this conversation with my husband I would be in tears from anxiety.

[@Shtanto]

Body double for life- That's quite sweet actually 💞

[@irisalexander]

i would buy that card... i mean, i'm single but i'd buy it

[@Plethorality]

That is fair.

[@karisphone3729]

Love these guys. ❤❤

[@shawnatraill7927]

Love you two together! I lost my body double for life after 20 years of Bliss . It’s so true when someone gets you 🎉 ❤ . Question how (when we are aware of who we are )do we bridge that gap and explain to a new person this may be what I need ?Realization of our true selves and explaining to a new person is difficult ? These are loaded questions, I know ! I really want to continue to grow with all my quirks 😆. Rich gets you Rox or knows what to ask of you . Just putting it out there. Moving forward with love for this thing called AWonderfullLife❤

[@karenpower2834]

Amazing help for people amazing couple... keep up the vitally important work

[@kkartbehindhorse]

So lovely. But tbh except for wet towel it sounds pretty tidy. ❤

[@HobbitBroad]

Ok, she is the sweetest person in the whole world. I think he just fell in love with her all over again. I know I would if someone had ever sead something like that to me. ✨💖✨

[@Unluckyprincess15]

Fr only motivation i get is the imagined competition 😂

[@laviolist]

I’m single so my house is never cleaned 😢

[@bonnacon1610]

Solidarity!

[@heavymetaljess_]

Super romantic. Also, when I'm alone is the only time I can all the way fully unmask and I feel like that's when my positive coping mechanisms go right in the trash - no accountability

[@theythemgae9025]

*Adhd cleaning* Either extreme stress clean or duvet cocoon and nothing happens

[@gypsymoon246]

I have actually said this is true and I have waited 8 years as a single person to find a person who can love me the way I am and I love myself and I'm working on all of those things but yes it is a possibility and I thank you for your videos

[@gypsymoon246]

It made me think of how I used to play The Sims and that's literally the game. You're doing all the life things that need to be done. Yet my house has the exact same things needing done.

[@juliasaario]

It's like when you're with others there's external pressure even if they don't say anything. It's easier to get things done and you also partly do it for them. Too bad I live alone 😂

[@desibellon3907]

This is the ONLY way i can get my kids to clean, I say "i bet you cant pick 20 things off the floor in less than a minutes", and before thwy have a chance to think, i yell, "ready set go" & off they go!😅 if theres a challenge or competition they can do anything. I think for us adhd'ers it comes from a deep seeded need to be validated & prove that we are capable.

[@niniebala3875]

totally true... the moment i start to live with my husband, i start to be more consistant in the cleaning task. Before that, when i was living on my own, the mess was unmanageable

[@marionnieder1655]

Hey! I love your channel. I learn and understand a lot about ADHD now! Thank you! But I need your help. You made a video where you wanted to go on a day trip with your autistic friend, he wanted to know the menue exact times and all that, but it didn't work with the adhd way of planning. I cannot find the video anymore. Can you give me a link, please. It's the best way to describe what happens in a brain with both. I want to show it at my self-help group.

[@jamescharlton924]

I have to have a reason or it has to get to madness before I tidy and sort the house. It is like today I have sorted my study as had a reason to do it which was the dust on my desk and also I could not stand having to turn around the echo dot and so moved it to the desk I also can control it easier. And big one swapped out the extension lead sounds a small change but this one is surge protected and also has more sockets. So I don’t have to remove my laptop which means the battery dies as it’s a crap work one. Then I can plug something else in. Boom! It’s been on my list for ages to do just not had the motivation until today

[@Plethorality]

Some days are magical doing days. Love them!

[@Solitude11-11]

It’s great when you reorganise something and it really makes something in life easier! Get a real boost as well as the ongoing less hassle situation 😊

[@jenniferwells2291]

That would be the best Valentine card!

[@douglasmcelroy2989]

Yeah, this is what I have been thinking. When my wife travels for business, I go into 'bachelor' mode and then clean everything up about an hour before she gets home. When she's around I can 'keep up'. I haven't been diagnosed (yet? getting assessed next week), but a lot of content here really hits home and I'm thinking that my assumption it was just routine 'single-men-are-apes' reversion may have been a bit unfair to my gender...

[@CaptivePuppet]

If I’m needed, I tend to do what is needed of me. However… if I’m alone and I have even the most severe of needs, I tend to ignore them. I’m so mean to me. But I do love making people happy.

[@lahnhan7289]

My sweet partner is so supportive, patient and kind to me. Healthy partners do exist ❤

[@elshid6046]

I have also experienced that. When my GF is here, I am waay more productive thab without her.

[@pickledpepper6576]

I love that! ❤

[@shaedlaer]

Yes, it is a bit like that... Probably because you wouldn't think about what you need or should do, but you're more likely to remember what your partner likes...

[@peacefuldoves]

Loooooove getting a video drop from y'all.. i KNOW I'm gonna relate! I store vitamins in my microwave, folders in oven. My social worker asked, is that normal? For me, its storage. End of debate. Until i need to do beans, then it all has to come outta the hidden place! The microwave of doom... chuckles 😂. 🇬🇧 Fan. Bless y'all. I could watch you for hours ❤

[@jasper265]

I do wonder how tidy I'd be when living together with a partner. That's because there's a big difference for me between how I keep my personal space and how I keep shared spaces. I don't share any spaces with anyone at the moment, but this wasn't a function of whether the other person was there, but of whether to be there in that space. Then again, I'm also pretty happy with all this personal space...

[@StephanieNicholson-wi3ym]

My husband knows to call me right before he comes home from work. Then I tidy up my messes I made throughout the day. If he forgets I internally implode

[@nunyabizniz1983]

What’s your podcast? I’d love to follow x

[@lisastenzel5713]

The faces😂😂😂 I can't...so awesome Edit: And then there is me... unable to even through a wet towel onto the floor. Like, I can't do it. Even when I am about to throw it in the wash anyway...It ends up on the edge of the bathtub to dry or in the washing machine that I am going to load the next 10 minutes 😂

[@PebblesandMac]

Interesting. I have ADHD, and body doubling definitely helps me with some things, but in general, I'm much more likely to do cleaning tasks when no one else is home. Is it just me? I think I'm much more motivated when I feel like I made the choice to do it, and I can surprise my husband with a clean house when he gets home.

[@olivierlarocque5538]

I'm a lot tidier when I live with someone, either a girlfriend or a roomate and it's a lot less exhausting than when I get to clean living alone by myself Make total sense👍

[@Wings91]

Aww how beautiful ❤

[@agingsisterhood]

lol I'm moving out of state tomorrow?! You should see what I've done in the last 24 hours vs the last 90 days. Ridiculous!!

[@aaheemas]

where can I watch the full podcast?

[@tiny-moxxi]

I love that ❤

[@mariamatedei]

Nooo she described my house rn...

[@helenfitch6590]

I think you're probably right. Two ADHDers living together is a recipe for mess.

[@moniquerichards6099]

When it's untidy I start to tidy, I sort of leave a untied tidy mess behind me ?

[@MelliaBoomBot]

I USED to do this until I decided I wanted clean and tidy for me for when im alone.

[@JessMe_AmazingAppa]

I would really like to know her Human Design. I’m a Manifestor by Human Design AND ADHD she’s my doppelgänger

[@dboy4034]

lol as an ADHD creator do you watch the loops you made 100 times over just to take them in? I do I could only imagine if I had as much content as you 🤣

[@RandyBaumery-s4i]

Clean some every day, then it's not "overwhelming"!

[@user-bj2lu9qt3o]

Yes, I feel like if I had a partner life and it's tasks would instantly become so much more easy just bc of him being there. Well... IF I had a partner...

[@myLEDTV]

I wonder how the female version of Rich would be, ... understanding, calm, settled, self-confident, mental stable, reasonable frugal, non-narcistic, caring... for a male version of Rox .... maybe this doesn't exist in reality 😅

[@kkartbehindhorse]

Andy & Opie try to clean up

[@bonnacon1610]

When you click 'like' before you've even seen the video.

[@time2livelife]

I would buy that card

[@walktravelanddiscover3945]

I feel at home

[@michaelmuirhead1734]

Yeah I tidy up at my patners or at mine when she is there alone nah mate I live in Doom piles

[@Jay-ql4gp]

❤

[@jakubkowalczyk9581]

Unfortunately that doesn't work for man....😢

[@j2626-u2g]

I'm your Twin!!!

[@Lindalindali]

I don't like the term "body double", it sounds impersonal. Great concept though

[@Badgirlpaly]

Towel on the floor?🤢