ADHD in Girls: My own experience (discussion)

Some brilliant young women agreed to talk with us about their experiences about how it feels to be a girl with ADHD. We hope this will give other girls, parents and teachers a better understanding and to be more aware of the signs of ADHD.
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[@yes_hunny]

I can definitely relate with the teachers being bullies.

[@valerieivens2548]

That was one of the most moving comment of all... and certainly the one which most students associated with . Sad eh .

[@kgcat]

The "this is what others say" slides made me cry, its so true,& it's really a relief realizing you're not just stupid and lazy

[@valerieivens2548]

Absolutely .... so many of the girls used the phrases that they had been called stupid or lazy, idle not making an effort ... and yet as lilyella says, the effort they have to make is actually so much greater than a neuro typical student

[@transportboy4926]

I'm proud of these girls for having the confidence to talk about this

[@TheParaxore]

Nice video! I'm a male but I always relate more with girls experiences with ADHD since I'm more inattentive and never was outwardly hyperactive

[@blankfaceman9694]

Does it really change that much between genders?

[@ItsMeEllenB]

​@@blankfaceman9694 yes. there's loads of things/ways that women present differently, mainly that girls/women tend to internalise their symptoms - so a girl with adhd isn't as likely to be physically aggressive compared to boys, she's more likely to have poor self-esteem, self harm, and suffer from depression or an eating disorder because girls "turn their pain and anger inward". also the fact oestrogen modulates serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine is a significant difference as girl's/women's symptoms can change both month-to-month and throughout their lives (puberty and menopause). this change also effects the efficacy of stimulant medication - when oestrogen is low and progesterone is high, it doesn't work as well at treating the symptoms. there's more tbh, just google it. of course some differences are that girls are more likely to be inattentive over hyperactive, which is probably why op resonates. but most of the differences are because girls are socialised differently and have different expectations, girls are much more likely to work harder to compensate and hide their symptoms. so the core symptoms are generally the same but the way they present themselves are different to each other - so e.g. hyperactive girls are more likely to be more emotional and have more (verbal) fights/arguments with their friends compared to hyperactive boys, who are more likely to be the 'class clown' and get in trouble at school. i have combined adhd and my symptoms look different to men who also have combined adhd.

[@blankfaceman9694]

​@@ItsMeEllenB Thank you for the explanation. Though this video didn't seem to show any of what makes ADHD different for females just general ADHD. As a male with ADHD I related to a lot of what they said.

[@Julia-um4rv]

I want someone to do a video about the resource room kids. I was a resource room kid and it was such a strange place for me to be. I didn't understand why I was always placed in it. Kids would make fun of me for being in it. It just seemed like a place for all the odd ball kids who didn't quite fit in mainstream but weren't exactly special ed. I also felt like the teachers in there didn't know what to do with us. Most of the time they would either want us to be quiet and work on our homework or they would just give us the answers because they didn't have the patience to explain things to us. How I ever survived this time in my life is beyond me.

[@Julia-um4rv]

@A I Oh wow!

[@katiapellizzari3913]

This is an amazing video that these young girls have made. I am very touched by the courage they displayed and the honesty with which they describe how they feel or have felt and how they have been treated. I think this video should be shown to teachers and pupils in schools so that there is an understanding of how people can easily be misjudged. None of you is "stupid", the society is. Ignorance is not an excuse, there are plenty of ways to learn about something we "think" we know. I truly hope that in the not so distant future, people will really understand that we need to put ourselves in someone else's shoes to really understand. Listen to these girls, and learn before you judge. Well done all of you. And thank you!

[@valerieivens2548]

They were a fabulous team amd supported each other as they worked through the slides :) Thankyou !

[@MsGenXodus]

I wish we, in America, used the word "naughty" to describe behavior. "Naughty" has a sexual meaning in the USA, so we just call misbehaving children, "Bad Kids." That label just seems so unfair.

[@heyaren]

You came across me while I was studying whit youtube with, that is, I could not study because I suddenly disappeared because of my thoughts, now I drink my adhd drug that accelerates my heart and ım watching you, ı love you guys.ım from turkey, ı have not good english because ı couldnt study english too I'm sorry if I wrote something wrong

[@aliciawashburn5451]

Thank you for sharing!❤️

[@vintages10]

Thank you for the video!

[@af-yz5fd]

Thank you for sharing your stories from Japan😊

[@InChrist35]

Great Job, this is so helpful! Thank you all.

[@Jennie-jg6rf]

Thank you for sharing this :)

[@Emmy_555]

Thank you! :)

[@Sophie-cs5kh]

My brother has ADHD, and if you haven't already, it might be helpful to do a video to raise awareness on how hard it is for the siblings and parents of kids with ADHD.

[@kmichellenotthatone3611]

I'm a grown woman and this resonated lol

[@masechaba9062]

Thank u

[@nicoleb2015]

So sad to hear the girl say the bullies are the teachers 😢

[@jbug884]

I thought I might have this, but I was a complete introvert at school and had zero confidence, just daydreaming all day. I wasn’t disruptive at all like these girls seem, I would be intimidated by them, they seem loud, confident and brash, the total opposite to me. I used to doodle on the back of my books during lessons, but would never shout out, as I didn’t want to draw attention to myself. Maybe I’m autistic? I’m 45 so probably too set in my ways to change now anyway, whatever’s wrong with me.

[@blancarosales7693]

the girl in the pruple is like moving her hands

[@alesha9744]

chat shit who would’ve thought

[@fathmathrafaa6950]

This video is so slow, ironic that its made about and mostly for other ADHDers T_T

[@unionkn7998]

It gave me anxiety. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kristynharvey955]

Where can I find the cartoon graphs for each subtype?

[@valerieivens2548]

The cartoon graphics were developed by one of the girls and she has the copyright . Would you like me to ask if I can send to you ?

[@gna3706]

@@valerieivens2548 Sorry to jump in, I would also love to see the rest of the graphics for the other subtypes as we have seen with Abbie's in this video! If that's possible! Loved the video