ADHD in Women 👉 OMG, this diagnosis changed EVERYTHING | Adult ADHD Diagnosis after 50

ADHD in women is so tricky to diagnose. The symptoms can be so subtle that you can totally miss them. As a result, you can spend your entire life, wondering what the heck is wrong with you. My ADHD diagnosis didn't happen until I was over 50! I lived my whole life, thinking I was a screw up, constantly trying to figure things out.
While my ADHD diagnosis didn't solve everything, it did give me a blueprint and a sense of how to live with a big, busy brain. Now I coach other women with ADHD who get diagnosed as adults and have. to reconcile their entire life with this new understanding.
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[@susanj6761]

I’ve finally found the answers. Most people think I have it all together 😳 but if they had lived my life they would be soooo surprised. Hidden is someone that can’t remember what you just said pretending they got it.

[@CarenMagill]

Ha! Yes, this was me too. However, I'd also encourage you to focus on the areas of your life where you ARE together, because they are most certainly there. None of us have this "being human" thing figured out.

[@logann-mackenziefroste563]

I learned that the guy that I like thinks that I have it all together and I was just like okay wow 😮 my masking around him has really paid off.

[@shauneesejacob3812]

Yes. I'm 35. I have 4 kids. My 11yr old is high functioning autistic(was non verbal until age 4) with adhd. I was diagnosed with adhd a little over 2 yrs ago and it's changed me knowing. All my life I felt like I was good all around but something wasn't adding up. I'm an organized tidy person but then my actions would sell me out. My focus was on point at times but then there were days I just sucked at life. I was on different depression meds gor yrs and this year I decided to wean away. IM NOT SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION, ADHD is just depressing sometimes. To know what your capable of and to know your drive and something says "Nope" and is a powerful force field against you. It's frustrating, draining, upsetting and depressing but to know what that something is, helps me to find another way, to give myself some breaks as a single momma doing it all and cut myself some slack. It's not easy by far but it is doable ❤.

[@wednesdayjones-bsltheatric9230]

I got tag teamed by ADHD and the menopause and spent the past 7 years thinking I had depression / dementia. Got diagnosed today and feel so relieved - now I can stop blaming myself for my 'failings'!

[@micheleyoung669]

OMG! Same for me! Depression and dementia. Was diagnosed 5 weeks ago. Started with 40 mg strattera, and there's been incremental improvement. I even have some tiny peeks at happiness every few days.

[@anyatranter5588]

Same here

[@lhmccool67]

I think this is happening to me, as well! I'm hoping to get diagnosed soon. I'm 55 and feel like I'm totally losing my mind. 😮

[@karenmcpaul8406]

I’ve been taking Ritalin for last 8 months but still can’t focus or switch off to relax. What medication do u take?

[@barefootjamie143]

If neurologists teamed up with gynecologists and dieticians, looked at our blood work, our lives would have answers instead of constant questions. 💜 💚🎉 There is hope if we start having that conversation with others more often now Knowledge is Power and will change the world 🌞

[@danawaldrop4930]

What will change the world is finally learning that satan has complete and total control over the medical industry. Why do people keep trying allopathic medicine when it has a history of FAILURE! Does it not?

[@hildep1184]

You had my full attention at 2:00 when you mentioned the loss of structure at the beginning of the pandemic! I was a teacher at that time and I remember when working around a theme at school I had lots of creative ideas and had to temper myself because my head was alll over the place with all the things I wanted to do with the kids in school, and I found it so hard to structurise all those ideas into lessons. That took me ages and I just couldn't get started. I did like the structure school-life gave me, but every holiday I would be all over the place not getting anything done and feeling kind of lost. I need structure but find it hard to structurise my own life. I no longer work at school, have an administrative job now and I feel better. Some things are still hard. Like structurising my mailbox into important mails and less important. I feel they're all important. But I always think averyone thinks like that and struggles with that. Apparantly not. It helps me to write things down, make a plan and tick my to-do list. I also like being with a group of friends, but costs me energy and I regularly need me-time alone. I'm 52 , live in Belgium, and still get to know myself better every day :). Your video helped with that. Thank You!

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so glad it was helpful!

[@gillianbates8188]

Thank you Caren. I'm 66 and my daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD. She told me I should take an online test (I was like NO WAY have I got it!). You can guess the rest. I have ADHD. It's been like my whole life is being reviewed and I'm still a little shocked! I just thought I was the only person who struggled and was constantly masking anxiety. I'm more optimistic now that I can manage life better, but I need to know so much more and your video has been a great help. Thank you again.

[@CarenMagill]

So glad the videos are helpful. It's a journey, for sure - but well worth it.

[@kathryncainmadsen5850]

Me too. All my life. Now it seems so obvious. I'm 65. They didn't know when we were kids. They barely know now.

[@gillianbates8188]

@@kathryncainmadsen5850 Yes it does seem obvious! I keep reappraising my life and thinking 'Ah! THAT makes sense now.' But you are right ADHD was something that the 'naughty boys' had... no-one even considered us girls.... I'm so glad I do know now.

[@Cecijustakid]

Hi Gillian, would it be possible for you to share the test you mentioned

[@kingstonfaye]

The missing nail polish is the most endearing, relatable aspect here! Looking at your Notion template and have been enjoying your videos. Thank you Caren!

[@krystenann]

I'm very excited to have found your channel! I was just recently diagnosed with ADHD and CPTSD at the age of 35, and it explains so much! Also, I've self-identified as a multipotentialite for several years now, so this feels like a perfect match. Thank you so much for putting this content out there. I can't wait to dig in! (I will be using my hyperfocusing superpower to binge your videos today, lol).

[@alisonforte7148]

I’m 65 and got diagnosis about a month and half ago. I’m so overwhelmed! I’m kind of in disbelief and can’t wrap my head around all this…. 😞

[@TracyTidewater41009]

Right there with you. Life has always been a chaotic struggle for me, have been under the impression it’s due to lifelong depression. This really lights up why I’ve had so much trouble at work, relationships, parenting. It’s both a relief and a shock.

[@ironmaven1760]

I got diagnosed at 61! I'm torn between relief that all my failings and mistakes it appears weren't really my fault...and the sad sad fact that so many things could have been better. Much better had I known years ago....

[@bridget6234]

I”m 31 and just found out I have adhd. I have been struggling for years and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and then a mood disorder. For the last 11 years I have tried almost every antidepressant on the market and nothing helped. I”v also tried mood stabilizer s and those didn’t help either. Although I have experienced awful side effects and have almost doubled my weight since I started. My problem was l was depending on doctors to tell me what was wrong with me instead of paying attention to what was really going on. Please be your own advocate because this has been hell for me! If you think you might have it go and get tested.

[@wendyhannan2454]

My goodness, your story is my story exactly 🤷‍♀️ I’ve been through the exact same struggles. I was treated for decades with anxiety and depression, I too tried every tablet, I went from Dr to Dr, I had all the side effects, most times the medications made me worse. I was so fed up, one day I googled, why do I keep losing my keys and stuff ? It came up you may have ADHD, 🤔It all fell into place. Decades of confusion, wondering WHY. I love watching videos like Caren’s, she’s so inspiring. I know I’ll work on this forever, to improve my quality of life. Good luck to you, and all out there looking for the answers, and learning to work and live with ADHD.

[@IntheMOMENT22173]

I have the same exact story in the same exact order

[@ironmaven1760]

oh this is true! So many therapists I've gone thru...nobody caught it! it was always Anxiety..Depression...GAD...but never ADHD until age 61! And it never occurred to me to investigate it further either lol!

[@yahairapesante3404]

OMG, I am so glad I came across this video. Especially with the interest, I too am a fitness instructor, personal trainer, Zumba instructor, and yoga instructor, in addition to being a Human Resources Manager. I still struggle trying to figure out what the heck I want to do with myself. I have recently started exhibiting some ADHD symptoms and am just trying to figure myself out!

[@CarenMagill]

Is there a way that you can balance both passions?

[@emiliaciontoiu4]

Hi Caren, I am Emi and my heart is full of active gratitude for your videos here on YT!! Absolutely adore the colours & the structure that you bring in to your content, it’s feels so exciting to learn things from them yeeeey, so awesomeee;)💓 aaaand yess I suspect that I have ADHD, yes I do😂✌️ And I am pondering over starting being coached by you, I feel like I could grow exponentially through that process!! Yuhuu💪🕊🕊 As for the depths of who I am, I love Spirituality (God✨☀️) & Art & Healing🤍🌸

[@amandataylor1573]

you made me feel so much better im 56 and for last 6 years been sure im adhd my son granddaughter 8 nieces and nephews a brother has it but its costs a lot to get tested in England i have so many interests it sometimes drives me crazy how many half finished projects and courses i just didint do the last part for certificate even though i cold have. And all the time i was watching your video i became super distracted by your 1 unpainted nail and had to rewind it to listen again 😵‍💫

[@robdez8676]

Just started meds and wow.. the first day I noticed a difference, now I just need to find my correct dose. Your videos and many others on KZbin help so much. Thank You

[@klarka_horak]

What type of meds? :) I have just started taking Atomoxetine, wondering when I am gonna see the results.

[@CarenMagill]

Wonderful! It takes a while to find the right balance. I hope you have a good provider that will work with you.

[@reneelifetapestry]

Thank you. I am 66 but just diagnosed with adhd...it does make me sad for not knowing and understanding that I was not crazy...its been exhausting..I had never really known much...so a new journey..

[@susanj6761]

Renee Santiago . When you know better you do better. life has been a struggle and now it gets better.

[@reneelifetapestry]

@@susanj6761 Thank you for the encouragement. It is wonderful to not feel so alone in the struggle anymore.

[@CarenMagill]

Welcome to the wonderful world of neurodiversity, Renee. Now that you know who you are, you'll be able to find your people and not feel so alone. Also, it's never too late to start thriving in your life.

[@bml2023]

Can relate totally, Renee. 67 and just diagnosed and has brought up so much trauma as a child and why I was like I was for my whole life. Still battling and I feel exhausted too and sad, sad for maybe how I could have been. Not so anxious, depressed, anti social, rejection sensitive dysphoria and I could go on and on.

[@susanlane7190]

Thank you I am 60 years old and I have been debating about getting checked out to see if I have ADHD and I am going to do it. Thanks for helping me make my mind up.

[@Jindarella_]

I just found your channel. Diagnosed in January this year at age 47 but always knew I was different. Felt overwhelmed my entire life and I felt like my brain was in the wrong body because I felt like I should be smarter. I thought I was weird and stupid, and a hysterectomy/menopause just made everything worse. I haven't been able to work since last burnout. I'll be watching your videos, and lets face it, it'll be an obsession for a while 😂

[@guildedbutterfly]

Hello. I'll be 54 this year and was diagnosed by my primary dr shortly after having my son. He's my only child who was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. It was actually not told to me but I brought up that I thought I had ADHD and my dr put it in my chart. I have been chronically late important and unimportant events. But, there are pockets of my life that are inaccurate. What I think happened is not at all what happened. Now, with the drop in estrogen, I can really feel it. I'm so thankful to find so many women with it. Now, the difficulty part is moving forward especially with the menopause and all the demands on me as a mother and just taking care of myself. I appreciate all that you said. Thank you😊

[@mrs.rogersneighborhood]

Hi. I’ve been diagnosed 3 times, by 3 different clinicians. I have combined type ADHD. My life was always all over the place, I was always called a “scatterbrain,” and I could hardly stay focused on anything, let alone follow through with tasks. I remember always being late, never knowing what I was supposed to be doing, and just having a disorganized brain altogether. I am exactly the way you described. I Now that I have made some lifestyle changes and am now medicated, I am truly AMAZED at how streamlined my thinking now is, and how much I am able to remain calm and focused 90% of my day. Lack of sleep will throw me off every now and then, but otherwise I’m doing great these days!

[@CarenMagill]

That's something I wish I could put on a billboard. It CAN get better!

[@camillaagard2739]

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[@lachatnoir1127]

What mess are you on? How much?

[@FitWithGrace]

I can relate to all of this!! I think my fitness expertise and lifestyle are what helped to keep my adhd manageable until I added another layer of my business. With eight kids, a full-time job, normal every day activities around the house, I knew something needed to change. Was diagnosed with combination hyperactivity an inattentive ADHD. I am still soaking in all the ways I have adapted, and what I thought was normal. And looking forward to learning what might help me manage life better.

[@CarenMagill]

Goodness! You've got a lot on your plate! I applaud you for being dedicated to fitness and healthy living given everything else you're managing. Give yourself a TON of credit.

[@user-ee6yr6bz8i]

thank you so muchhh , i really hope you can offer also some special tips about dealing with college pressures , mine only depends on 1 final total grade of the semester which leaves me with no deadlines , thus procrastination , thus freeze mode.... and feeling so stressed at end that i just want to finish , i know i am capable of a lottttt more , but this stressed based procrastination thingy is killing me , i tried somethings but eventually failed at...

[@looloojohnclan142]

Currently going down the adhd/dyslexia route. This is good insight.

[@CarenMagill]

Good luck, Lucy! It's a journey, but so worth learning about.

[@elizabethnewsom3349]

Hi Caren, I’m 55 an undiagnosed. Stumbled across your video while listening to a steady stream of others. A dear friend, who is an Aspie, suggested that I may be also in addition to possibly having ADHD. I associated it with young boys. I had no idea it is so prevalent in females. I recognize myself in the stories/habits of others who have been diagnosed. I recently lost another job because I typically don’t fit in socially. Thank you for being here.

[@CarenMagill]

Hi Elizabeth. I'm sorry to hear you lost a job, but I can assure you - you fit in here with us

[@logann-mackenziefroste563]

I have listened to the books Driven to Distraction by Dr. Edward Halliwell and Taking Charge of your Adult adhd by Se. Russell Barkley and then I got photocopied the sections from the books from the library copies of the ADHD symptoms so that I could take them to my doctor because I definitely could relate to everything in those books.

[@CarenMagill]

great idea!! Hope it worked!

[@jordantoronto863]

“A superhighway of interests” - oh my, yes!!!!!!

[@GillianRice]

Thank you

[@kathryncainmadsen5850]

I need this coaching when I can get my s*** together and have enough money to get coached! First I need to go make it official, but I have no doubts. I am 65 and was wallowing in self-pity at how much my life has fallen apart in the last few years when I listened to a series of podcasts with a woman who has ADHD. It wasn't about ADHD but it was her I related to. I was thinking whoa! that sounds like me. Am I? Nah, wait. Am I? 😳. Uh, yeah. That is it. That's always been it. Wow. 🤯 I tend to be unable to focus on basic life admin but can hyperfocus on my interests (and not eat or drink or sleep or go to the bathroom) so I thought that meant I didn't have ADHD even though I'd "joke" about my adhdishness. Like you I have a zillion certifications and when I lost imposed structure, it all began to unravel. I seriously think we need to change this name. Let's call it ARD. Attention Regulation Disorder. For fun we can say it like a cartoon pirate. Pass it on.

[@CarrieAnderson-gv5eb]

I am 54 and was diagnosed during my dietetic internship (when I was 50) I almost failed it due to my inability to get all the tedious assignments done. I am now an Outpatient dietitian and LOVE it. I love providing nutrition education. I also HATE charting. Recently I was asked if maybe taking a typing class to increase my typing speed would help, I said maybe. I was asked once if I had started the assessment, I hadn't, I am chronically behind in charting-go figure. The next thing I know, my manager has put me on progressive discipline? Typing speed isn't even a requirement for my job. I type fairly fast when I am charting. I don't think I will ever be able to type and look and listen to a pt. I was crushed, I of course went back to the "Well, I thought I was killing it, but now people think I suck" I have spent the weeks since that meeting being less productive because I am anxious that I won't get the typing thing done because I can't get my charting done and be in progressive discipline so I have been listening to youtube videos about ADHD LOL. Literally I am paralyzed and my manager and their manager don't get it. I have now asked for an accommodation for extra charting time and I am talking to HR to discuss it further. I feel like my ADHD has gotten so much worse since I went thru menopause.

[@TheNutritionProfessor]

Are you getting anywhere with HR? I am a dietitian, too. Currently working at WIC after teaching college full time for 21+ years.

[@CarenMagill]

Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that. I had a client who was a therapist who also struggled with getting her session notes completely. Can you do voice dictation? Otter.io or google docs both have voice options. Don't waste your time trying to be a better typist. Your skills and energy are better used elsewhere!

[@joanhowze1069]

Glad I found you , I found out when I was 55, boy what a waste of life. I certainly can identify with you on all you said. I am constantly doing research to better myself. I was so glad to find out so I can actually know what’s going on. Life goes on and I am doing better somewhat. I am 57 now and I feel like I just woke up 🤣

[@CarenMagill]

glad you are more aware now, but I hope you don't think your life was a waste. Think about how amazing you are for coping with this unknown issue!

[@saraatkinson8023]

I’m 55 and I’ve just been diagnosed. Honestly, it’s been an emotional rollercoaster. A huge relief, but mourning the life I could have had. 😢

[@melissarasmussen964]

@@saraatkinson8023 hi what were you symptoms

[@saraatkinson8023]

All my life I’ve been a chronic procrastinator, pathologically late, struggled with executive functioning skills. Couldn’t seem to help myself. Just assumed I was stupid and lazy. Never had the classic fidgety/hyperactivity traits that are more typical of children/men with ADHD. Failed to reach my potential in education because I couldn’t/didn’t do homework or revise for exams. Struggled to hold down jobs as I made stupid mistakes +/or got behind with my work. Feels like I could have done so much more if I’d known and got the help/treatment I needed. ☹️

[@mae1813]

I love how you said your highway, I've always said I can't stay in my lane I'm 4by4ing on all roads and hogging the highway 😂 it's great

[@Podcastforthewin]

My wife gets really mad at me because i find i get overwhelmed with some basic tasks. But they feel like the world is falling in on me, and i cant seem to do anything right.

[@alittlepieceofearth]

I was just the opposite during the pandemic. I had just discovered my ADHD about a year or so prior. And with the world so much quieter and finding a job that made so much more sense to me, I flourished. I began researching and working on strategies. I was discovering things about the things that would help me to function. It is and will likely be an ongoing struggle, but life is so much better now that I know.

[@melissarasmussen964]

I was diagnosed last year at 51 so gutted

[@wendyhannan2454]

It’s ok, I was 75 we can do this, watching people like Caren helps enormously, we can learn and move forward. I research all the time I watch and listen to what I can. I find listening to people who have ADHD them selves is the best way to go . I just wish I had of known earlier. Good luck to all you new adders out there.

[@ktwhimsy6946]

It might sound like a terrible idea for someone with ADHD to literally work with thousands of tiny shiny objects, but after years of trying various creative endeavors that didn’t hold my interest, I discovered jewelry making & fell in love! Over the last 13 years I’ve been able to turn it into a successful business, and was able (AM able) to work from home AND raise my 2 sons full time as a single parent… I’m always afraid that eventually I will become bored with it, but I constantly urge myself to learn all about the gemstones I use (and discover new ones!) and teach myself new techniques… I found that as long as I’m learning & have the occasional rabbit hole to go down, I don’t get bored! Of course now that my sons are teens (who also have ADHD), things can get a little hectic… BUT, because we’re ALL nuerodivergent, no one seems to mind that occasionally the kitchen table gets covered in gemstone project piles & we have to eat at the coffee table 😅 The next thing I want to do is incorporate the causes & charities I really care about into my business … but one thing at a time!

[@dr.deborah3964]

Hi Caren! Loved your video. I am a 68 year old female physician who was diagnosed with ADHD at 61. At the time I was diagnosed, I had been on my 10th out of 14 years of caregiving for my mother who had mild to moderate dementia, juggling my 16th year of fulltime private practice, juggling employees and trying to maintain a household. Since childhood, I had lived with the mindset that "I had to do it all and I had to do everything right now" for as long as I remember. So, of course, being unmedicated, I would wait until the last minute to finish important things I wasn't interested in to get that shot of dopamine. That worked 98% of the time. I have always been a high achiever with things I was interested in. A stellar thing you said in this video is "People with ADHD have interest-driven brains. We don't have a deficit of attention." You nailed it! I would recommend to anyone 55+ who suspects they have ADHD to see a neuropsychologist who understands ADHD to not get misdiagnosed as having dementia. Also, I had the same difficulty as you during the pandemic - desimated daily routines.

[@rainbowfuckinbrite2226]

I literally started writing a book-long comment on this video that said almost the same exact things that you said here minus a couple specifics (I'm not the same age, a physician, or currently caring for a parent with dementia, but every single other thing you just said was in the book I started to write here lmao, after a couple of chapters I stopped and thought "this is a really long comment I wonder if anyone else wrote a book about their life here on a KZbin video and started reading a few lol, and don't get me wrong I'm not saying yours is very long, but rather that you literally summed up my exact thoughts VERY efficiently 😂❤ while I'm still writing books over here lmao

[@Carolynnin]

ALL THE THINGS! I want to do all the things artistic, musical, etc.

[@CapysGardenShop]

I struggle w/ being concise as well! 😅

[@CarenMagill]

it's a struggle...

[@adhderhere]

I'm from Argentina, I'm 34 and got recently diagnosed with ADHD, dyspraxia and generalized anxiety disorder. I struggled my whole life with getting things done, always got easily distracted, and had really bad grades at highschool, and used to forget things and leaving stuff at school or forgetting homework at home. My ADHD became worse during my adolescence. I still forget stuff, and keep hitting things by accident or even dropping them. Never succeeded at my job in more than 10 years (I'm self employed), and I'm in a career change now, willing to start over. I'm a graphic designer, but I cannot make my studio work, so I'm thinking about my new career path. I lose motivation so easily, and get distracted from my current task. I start a lot of projects and rarely finish them, or I say I'm gonna do this or that, and never get started, new random tasks come my way, and I go to do that instead of doing what I should.

[@wildmoonchild8210]

My mother is 60 and has major ADHD. Now that I'm 20 and realized that I have ADHD as well, she tries to tell me that what I'm dealing with is normal and I just need more self control (lol). I'm hoping that once I get on medication she will be able to see how much I was struggling to begin with.

[@CarenMagill]

Good for you for advocating for yourself!

[@Awilli9071]

I was diagnosed at 63 years old. I desperately wish I could have done better, but at least I understand better.

[@multipassionproject]

🤣 The name of my channel may be the product of me coming around to embracing the possibility that may have ADHD. I'm 29! I am constantly jumping between interests. I decided to embrace it, but I often lose my sense of direction because of it.

[@CarenMagill]

Totally with you on that one. I love that you've come to accept your ADHD brain at such a young age. I find that building awareness about what triggers that sense of lost direction can be super helpful. Is there a pattern around when that happens for you? Knowing that is priceless. Also being aware of your signature strengths, values and needs can help you stay focused on what's most important to you and why.

[@TeaLaRee]

I started spiraling when i became a stay@home mom to my autistic son. I suspect both of us are adhd too...im 40 and this is new to me. I never got my degree because I kept changing my major every semester 😢

[@Sukuna_gout8]

I've been watching all these adhd videos I know 100% I have adhd I still haven't gotten a full diagnosis but I have all the symptoms .I have a lot of excessive thinking, I can't focus on.bery forgetful, and have a lot of insomnia . My sons was diagnosed about a year ago .

[@CarenMagill]

It's highly heritable. Have you thought about seeking a diagnosis?

[@s.tiaira9081]

Okay but why did I start a adhd assessment and NOT finish it😂😭😭

[@katieinportland]

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 62. I had been treated for anxiety for years, but my recent psychologist said I had been diagnosed incorrectly for years. He stated that my anxiety was only a symptom of my ADHD not being treated correctly. He only asked me 10 questions, and then diagnosed me as ADHD. How can this be?

[@lindamullin8309]

Definitely know I have it.

[@CarenMagill]

Yep, when you know, you know :)

[@lindamullin8309]

@@CarenMagill depression. & anxiety is crippling

[@tiffanyduck3125]

I'm 35 and over the past 2years my Life has fell apart.My husband has had 2 back-to-back heart attacks we have moved 4 times between South Carolina Georgia and Alabama. I have 3 children and I feel as if I'm drowning. I finally got into a clinic to get a diagnosis well a official diagnosis And with that I have missed 3 appointments because of me for getting. When I was a child I was diagnosed with it and the doctor attempted to put me on meds but my family wouldn't let me take them. So it basically messed me up for my entire life.

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so sorry to hear this, Tiffany. I hope you get the help you need now.

[@diabloakland]

Ugh i feel the same way I’m so sorry

[@mommabear2544]

1min 30sec in and I already had to rewind. That's how adhd I am now that I am perimenopausal. I have always had adhd inattentive type but perimenopause, and having a 4 person household. Let's just say, I am not managing well 😐

[@CarenMagill]

Ugh, I hear you! I'm in the same boat and it's hard!

[@Myllkka]

You are GORGEOUS 🌺

[@melissarasmussen964]

What hap my neice got diagnosed i ask her what was hap for her... task at home keep on track go from 0 to 100 melt downs anger outbursts no patience I get extremely overwhelmed at home and if I am round people to long I have to escape anxious alot I never took in things at school I went got tested im add

[@CarenMagill]

I'm the same way. I do love being around people, but only for short periods.

[@WithHeroes]

I keep getting rejected for stimulants

[@sandrainontario6710]

Does 74 count as midlife? Because I'm just beginning to understand what's going on with me

[@iWoofie]

I’m getting the impression that over 40 is classed as elderly! It’s great that you’re ’finding yourself’ and may help you from getting misdiagnosed later on. My dad is 92 and I’ve always thought he has inattentive ADHD, now he has symptoms of dementia any memory loss, I think it’s the ADHD getting more pronounced - try getting the medics to accept that one.

[@melissarasmussen964]

I do filming and want to do a course filming with the cameras do movie filming but I work in front of camera on set but I want to do the other it excites me and noth else matters why I'm filming I go on a high and then get really tired when I know im go on set

[@CarenMagill]

If you get tired doing something, it's a strong indication that it's not for you. How can you achieve your goals while managing your energy?

[@melissarasmussen964]

@@CarenMagill could be from the adrenaline wear off and rubifin

[@melissarasmussen964]

May I ask what were your full symptoms

[@t.terrell7037]

@@CarenMagillwhile watching your video soo many thoughts we’re running through my mind. I suspect I may have it but can’t seem to figure out which parent may have had it, could have even been both…. But the link between it and menopause is uncharted territory and I totally agree that we as women are being overlooked… I went into peri in my early forties, was told it was pretty early but then menopause hit and I’m like, “ Who is this person?” I had worked, unhappily in an industry for 21 years and just hit my b point in late 2021 and gave up teaching with no plan in place. Then a series of bizarre things happened that just changed the trajectory of my life….now I want to know just for the confirmation so I can try to get back to me. So many videos I’ve watched have mentioned menopause, the under diagnosis for women of color, difficulty getting a diagnosis as an adult, advocating for self within the healthcare system and struggling to find and keep a job in middle age. That can’t be coincidence. Can you do a video about that? Maybe do a panel of women, middle age and above, to discuss the challenges they face and maybe a video on best jobs for people with adhd with some individuals including to talk about what industries seem to be a good fit and why? We need more info about career prospects and navigating a job market that’s not really set up or designed for neurodivergent superstars!!😊

[@staceyloffredo2947]

😮What insurance pays for ADHD testing in an adult?!? That’s a blessing in and of itself. Especially since most insurances require an authorization from your GP… and 90% of them are crap at dealing with ADHD. 😒 I think diagnoses is way too difficult to explore as an adult. It’s unfair.

[@CarenMagill]

that wasn't my experience.

[@missmuff3t]

does it take one session to get diagnosed? and who do i go too.

[@CarenMagill]

Find a psychologist or therapist for a diagnosis and a dr. for medications (if you want to go that route).

[@cassandra79727]

How long does it take to get a diagnosis?

[@CarenMagill]

Depends on where you live. It took me 3 months.

[@aleadiann]

I am trying to find a doctor who will actually consider that I may have ADHD.. A few days ago I had an appointment with the second doctor I have gone to for this and she said "actually that's not a thing! I never diagnose that, you'll have to look elsewhere". The first doctor was a psychiatrist and he spent ten minutes "listening" to me and prescribed me propranolol (for anxiety?) , wellbutrin (which i have tried before but i don't want to be on it because of the side effects, and something called Olanzapine which it says is for schizophrenia and bipolar. I need to find someone in the Las Vegas area who will listen to me. :(

[@CarenMagill]

Wow, I can't believe a dr told you it wasn't a thing. They should be reported.

[@leahjones9626]

Wellbutrin is often used for help with adhd But I totally understand not wanting a certain med Just wasn’t sure if you knew that

[@wendyhannan2454]

How ignorant of those Drs, and yes they do need reporting. I’d keep looking till you find the right Dr, sadly many people slip through the cracks. Not knowing is time wasted. Good luck, keep watching Caren, 😊

[@delfinadelmar6726]

Exercise was over sold for me, unfortunately. It would only make me more tired and sleepy

[@CarenMagill]

Try a different form of movement. Yoga, walking, swimming, barre, pilaties - these are all more regenerative forms of movement.

[@lisawhitehall1870]

Where do you adhd coach? I really need this help...and I mean desperately.

[@CarenMagill]

Hi Lisa, you can find more about my coaching here: itsadhdfriendly.com/coaching/

[@vanessarussell3493]

Hello I am was 43 when I found out I have ADHD

[@carrieoff]

Fifty and diagnosed at fifty. Diagnosed with a lot lol

[@kaylaschulz7515]

I've always known I've had ADHD

[@CarenMagill]

I hope the video gave you some clarity on this.

[@anothercampervanchannel]

Sorry, don't mean this as a criticism, but can you look at us instead of yourself? It's like you're talking to someone else and not us. 😏