ADHD: Sensitivity, Shame, and Self-Acceptance with Jessica McCabe | Being Well Podcast

[@vindicated30.6]

30:43 You can't punish away ADHD. I wish my parents, teachers, and elementary school principal had heard that 40 years ago.

[@DrewJ740]

So true, you can't whip, spank, pinch or slap in the face it away 😢

[@HeathaLynn13]

Or just medicate it. The knowledge I have gained in one and half days since finding Jessica’s channel will change my life forever. I already feel like i understand more. All these side effects from ADHD have have haunted me and made me feel stupid and “not able to comprehend what normal ppl can” I’ve felt horrible for years. I was diagnosed when I was 12 and put on Ritalin, I will be 40 this year

[@Zectifin]

whenever I had trouble doing my homework at school and my grades dropped my teachers told my parents to take my video game away. I would do the homework and not learn anything and just resent everyone more. I hated my teachers and my parents throughout schooling because nobody helped me and instead just punished me for "being smart but not applying himself." My parents wonder why I don't talk to them anymore and thats one of the many reasons.

[@saudade9346]

You’re sooo right!!! The accuracy of this is an overwhelming trigger for me.

[@JohnHays-p2m]

I understand you. I think teachers, administrators and my classmates were evil and now I’m a complete mess. Now that I have been diagnosed I understand it better.

[@Dink_Jenkins]

WE OUT HERE

[@rstar7183]

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[@tiffanytabone9561]

I'm finding u one day after finding Jessica and I can't type it LOUD🗣 enough to express how much I needed this validation🤯💯 It's brought me to tears💜 Everything said was/is ME!! My childhood, being corrected, called lazy and a brat and too sensitive😭A million therapists with no solitions or empathy. I struggle with depression, anxiety, severe insomnia, PTSD, and substance use to numb the big emotions and quiet the harassing thoughts, with no good support😣 I've felt misunderstood my entire life and I've forced myself into unbearable isolation, telling/lying to myself that I don't want or need people💔 But for the 1st time...I have a glimmer of hope for my future now that I've found How To ADHD and I'm excited to use these new tools to rewire my brain, to end the 39yr battle in my head that imprisoned me🥹 I no longer feel completely alone and broken🥲 I feel like I've arrived😊

[@Amber-ey5kk]

Welcome to the new you! Your whole message touched my soul. I’m 42 and have finally spent the last few years learning how to deal with all of this. There is hope. So much of it. And your life WILL get better now. The more I understand, the better I talk to myself. I just celebrated 2 years without any psyche meds for depression, anxiety, ADHD, insomnia and stopped my addictions to escape myself. Life can be good even with all our struggles. And seeing the positives in ourselves is magic. You are not alone. Tysm for sharing your story. Your need for validation because that was everything to me too. Be patient with yourself as you learn. That’s one thing I wish I would’ve known when I found this knowledge and tribe. It takes time but we are absolutely capable of thriving. My life is proof. Much love to you. 💗🙏🏼 May you be led to everything you need to find fulfillment in life. You deserve it. We all do.

[@evaeggen7825]

❤ from Norway, i am also recovering and are not som shameful.

[@penelopefp]

I just finished Healing Your Inner Lost Child. I was diagnosed 10 years ago in my 40s. It was a great revelation that explained a LOT. But I've continued to respond to certain stressors with an immaturity that I have learned is related to childhood trauma. No, nothing huge, no acute incident, but the repeated skepticism and contempt. "Death by a 1000 paper cuts." It has been a lifesaver to heal that inner child, the misunderstood little one that didn't understand why they felt different inside. Society thinks a "focus pill" solves everything. How little they comprehend.

[@RediscoverOwnSoulEssence]

Omg I can so relate. I wish there was a FaceTime button to connect with each other in the comments.

[@han14]

Love Jessica! Our ADHD queen!

[@Azeria]

the stapler anecdote is such a good example of the phrase ‘accessibility is for everyone’ using a clear, easily readable font (not a ‘dyslexia friendly font’, that should be an option but not the default) helps someone with dyslexia, but it also helps someone with ADHD or vision problems, or just someone who is a bit tired that day…

[@TLZ]

PLEASE if you have ADHD children, adapt to get through bad behavior, but most importantly, focus on making your kid feel wanted and like you're just thrilled to have them around. Always being mad, annoyed, or frustrated WILL make your kid mask, and make them feel unwanted and broken.

[@millicentduke6652]

The discussion about consent with giving is one I keep having to have with my own kids; reminding them that helping is only helping if somebody wants you to do it. I love that you brought attention to this also! ☕️

[@janmoline]

I've so noticed (I'm ADHD, have 2 kiddos that are ADHD), and we are fine saying, "Hey, I need a break for lunch, or to go to the bathroom, etc." It truly underscores the fact that having needs is universal. Needing things that aren't typical is the rub l. I can't tell you how many hours I worked for free because I wasn't able to prioritize, organize, and set boundaries! I am 65 years old. Growing up, no one was discussing any of this!! I'm so grateful for this channel!!!

[@bellaluce7088]

How I relate to this! "I can't tell you how many hours I worked for free because I wasn't able to prioritize, organize, and set boundaries!" I let a backstabbing slacker manager exploit me for YEARS because I felt so insecure about my productivity and prioritization. Turns out they had to hire two people to replace me when I finally left! Meanwhile, I believe the constant stress and overwork contributed to the health problems I'm STILL dealing with. 😟 I wish I'd known earlier to focus on types of work that play to my strengths instead of trying so hard to fix my "weaknesses." That and boundaries!!! Good wishes to you! ❤

[@MotherMagenta]

I'm 60. Just diagnosed. I feel you.

[@pippipants]

Diagnosed with anxiety due to childhood and now trying to work out if I have ADHD

[@marcaaron1890]

I cried watching this. Just turned 50 undiagnosed still. Went into a huge rejection spiral around my birthday and isolated for the whole month...

[@RogueDonut87]

I got a diagnosis one year ago and this video was profound for me. Very emotional listen. So happy adhd is being better understood today!

[@SystemOfStrings]

Yeah lots of big cries here for me too. Just the phrase "It's not behavioral"...

[@kurtischristensen8819]

Stay with it man I jus found out too

[@padminimayur4049]

OMGGG!!!! THE MOST IMPORTANT COLLAB EVER! You both are great! Hello brains!

[@ForrestHanson]

I'm so happy people are as excited for this as I was 😂

[@Jumpstartrunning]

@@ForrestHansonplease know this episode has meant SO much to me. Thank you k you for doing this incredible work, & for being an amazing partner and a compassionate human. If I could clone a lesbian version of you, I would do it immediately! 😂 My partner of 8 1/2 years & I just split and we didn't know any of this was an underlying factor (or how much perimenopause/hormones exacerbate ADHD) so thank you for having Jessica on, & asking such thoughtful questions. 🙏

[@MsLisa551]

This resonates with so much even at my age of 57. So many years without meds,, only at 47, I started. My childhood was tough in many aspects, with childhood trauma . That internal voice was so harsh from about first grade and on throughout my life. In the last 10 years I have learned so much about my diagnosis. I'm much better at being kind to myself but still struggle at times. I've chose to stay single, I was married for 23 years to someone that didn't understand or like my ADHD ways. I only needed one voice being disappointed in me. ❤

[@aquarianhealer]

@mslisa551 pretty much the same at 59yrs.

[@andrearoper7641]

Awesomely helpful to me and my hubby of 34 years, who we're just discovering has ADHD + friends (and PhD in engineering, author of many research papers, lead researcher and judo black belt). He's an exceptional individual and I'm an exceptional supporter. It's been quite a journey through expectations boundaries and load sharing!

[@tomfilipiak690]

Jessica. You so nailed it with the stapler story. At my last two jobs in industry, as an Engineer, I sat my bosses down when I started both jobs and told them flat out how I work best and what I needed from them. They ignored the input. This was long before my diagnosis of ADHD. I told them and they still did not give me what I asked for!! And what I asked for was not that unusual. I asked for guidance. Redirection from them if I was drilling down into too much detail or taking too long. Regular check-ins (short check-ins). Etc. Regular contact with them. I think that they thought it was childish and too much hand holding. They didn't do what I asked and I struggled mightily. I got stuff done but it was ALWAYS a huge struggle. I think I would stand and cry (and I am not a person who cries easily), if anyone, even my wife, actually stopped and asked something like, "What can I do to make your life easier?" Or if they made a comment like, "I see you struggling to do the right thing." Especially in the realm of work and relationships. The two areas of the most amount of stress that I have. And I would be so relieved if people actually believe and understand the ADHD I have. Even my wife...and if she actually read and investigated this so I could get the right support, etc.

[@RickTashma]

Thank you, Jessica for what you share at 28:00. (And here is your honorary Ph.D.) So-called 'ADHD' is not an Attention DEFICIT; it is Attention REGULATION Challenge! (Call it 'ARC'. And I hate the use of 'disorder' when, for most of us, it started out as a 'coping mechanism'. What helped us cope as little kids with a chaotic context (environment) is not a 'disorder'.) Cheers! - Richard "Tomorrow's mastery begins with mental calm today."

[@katek4927]

Hi, thanks for your comment. I'm puzzled about your last sentence and would appreciate clarification. When you say, "It started as a "coping strategy " when we were kids . . . ", does "it" refer to ADHD, or do you mean certain behaviors or traits? I only got diagnosed because I learned a few things about it, and knew/realized/discovered that I met all the diagnostic criteria and more. So, I went to my GP at age 63, asked for the quick screening in her office, and told her I wanted to see a specialist for a more in-depth diagnosis and medication advice and supervision because I appeared to be struggling with just about all of the symptoms/manifestations and I knew that the vast majority of GPs know very little. I'm so glad I did that - what a difference the specialist has made in my world. My GP had told me that my insomnia and emotional dysregulation were not related to ADHD. The whole experience was like finding a key to a door that I really needed to go through. It explained everything about me and my life in retrospect. And I could finally forgive myself and realize that all of my 'shortcomings' and my inability to 'fit in' was not my fault. Rather, it was a neurological variation that developed very early in prenatal life. Thank you for your time.

[@RickTashma]

@@katek4927 - Greetings, Kate. Thank you for your detailed reply and inquiry. I want to acknowledge you ASAP, and also let you know that your question deserves some thoughtful consideration. I will reply properly in a few days. Kind regards, - Rick

[@mattslaybaugh263]

Thank you so much for this. Best crossover ever. Be Well, Brains!!!

[@Michael_H_Nielsen]

"These are my specs" are an awesome sentence. Thank you for that one :)

[@Zectifin]

I was never diagnosed as a kid because I was a boy who presented more like girls do, or more inattentive. I could sit and play the same game all weekend and I wasn't bouncing off the walls so of course I couldn't have it. Never mind that I would zone out when people talked to me or fall asleep in the middle of the day if I was really bored. The thing that pissed me off the most was my psychiatrist who I'd had for 8 years told me that "someone would have noticed it" when I suggested it to her (at the suggestion of my new gf at the time whose whole family had it in multiple different forms). Then she tested me and was surprised. You'd think someone whose entire job it was to know about these things in kids and young adults would know how it presented. Made me disappointed in the whole medical system.

[@rongike]

psychology is still in its infancy tbh.

[@benathan121]

Hey buddy this is exactly the same for me. Took me almost 30 years to get diagnosed. My friend is one of the smartest MFs I've ever had the pleasure of knowing and I always wanted to be like him.....turns out we both have ADHD and felt that way about eachother for different reasons hahaha cheers buddy I hope you are doing well and living easy

[@pippipants]

This is what it's like for most women - because we 'don't present as men' . Inattentive behaviour is not very disruptive. It's easier for parents and teachers so it's not seen as problematic - and in the good old days this is how we wanted our children and women to be. 😮

[@wendy645]

My partner and I both have ADHD, but different presentations/types. What works for one of us doesn't work for the other, so it's challenging. Definitely getting your book!

[@tinyhipsterboy]

I'm only halfway through, but the story about Jessica's manager asking her what was going on made me cry. And realize some stuff about how I was raised is still impacting me now, even if it's not all that unusual a situation. Which is huge. I'd never connected those dots. Thanks for this, you guys. Seriously.

[@tinyhipsterboy]

oh my god. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult a good 4-5 years ago and I *still* struggle with thinking I'm somehow faking it. I've heard Jessica talk about it before, but I think with the rest of what you guys were talking about, it's hitting even harder. (Or I just need to go to bed 😅) But I feel a lot more seen. And I think this video might help me on my journey with all this. So thanks again. EDIT so I don't spam your notifications: I literally opened a notes app on my phone to write down the epiphanies I'm having while watching specifically because I've had epiphanies and completely forgotten them so so so many times. 😂 including ones literally related to my parents getting frustrated because I could concentrate on video games for hours at a time but not studying. Two decades later and it's still hitting me!

[@lunarose9042]

I didn't realize Jessica spoke fast before! 😂 No wonder I have an easier time following her work.

[@meaghanswitzer888]

Love you both! As well as Rick⭐️ I am so fortunate to have found you. I am learning at 64 how to use the tools and live a good life with ADHD and PTSD. Thanks for being out there for us. We’re listening❤

[@Queenread82]

My spouse and I have been married almost 40 years. I was diagnosed last month. There has been a lot of frustration, tears, deep, dark spirals, joy, laughter, playfulness and growing up together. There were some things he (we really) found very important but I was just not able to keep track of so he just took it over. There is always gas in the car now. I ran out of gas multiple times. There is a secret key somewhere, because although I have developed systems I still sometimes lock them in the old car or lock myself out of the house. So without infantilizing he helps me out. If I feel like he is nagging I tell him so. I just wanted to say this so people know that some help (as Jessica said, talk about it) is such a relief for both of you.

[@anniemac7545]

Wow! Love this interview Forrest and Jessica. The example of being a waitress made me laugh because you could have been describing me. So right if diagnosed with ADHD it's usually - pills and off you go. The challenges we ADHDers face is pretty much unknown. People have a preconceived idea about ADHD children jumping off furniture and being totally out of control. When my six year old son, 28 years ago was diagnosed, I was stunned because he was nothing like those children, never did I imagine he had ADHD. This led me to being diagnosed with ADHD at the same time.. Yes, the meds help but, it's the understanding of the condition and ways to combat them is essential for life. I've just bought the book via audible. Thanks for your voice Jessica.

[@lakritzeslena]

Oh, my, never clicked so fast. What a pairing. Thank you!

[@shelleysmith6667]

Thank you! So validating to one who 4 years ago stumbled on a brutally honest video & finally became fully aware of what is going on in my ADHD brain besides simply focusing, I've been on similar path/journey of grief, radical acceptance, finding solutions along the way, shedding neurotypical goals and heroes to figure out how I can enjoy MY life MY way. From feeling broken beyond repair with decades of proof-positive experiences to verify my brokenness... to finding the creative artist within and not stepping one foot forward in a feeling of 'stuck/stress' until I could rethink and come up with a better solution to move... putting my emotional dysregulation as a number one red flag to STOP and rethink.... it's been an incredibly rewarding path to be on FINALLY! Forest, I'm so lucky you are dating a beautiful soul with ADHD as your ahas and insights heal my own wounds from neurotypicals I respected, unintentionally and even justifiably deserved based on behavior alone. Hell, I could see it and beat myself up so the wounds were doubled...on top of my own.... THANK YOU! 😊

[@WordsPictures997]

This interview broke my heart open and filled my cup at the same time. Thank you so much for doing this Forrest and Jessica! Thank you so much for loving your partner well Forrest. It gives me hope that men who are willing to work on understanding exist.

[@ItspronouncedAaron]

Very excited to see this guest on your show. Thanks for focussing attention on ADHD. 😜

[@NicolaMulholland]

I've been listening to Jessica's videos for years but there was something about this conversation that I found really impactful. Thanks for a great one and love to all my fellow brains and all you awesome hearts that are here to try and figure out a plan 🥰🧡x

[@rogueerised979]

Omg! One of my favorite channels with a new fav channel I found a year ago. Love the collab. Haven't even watched it yet, didn't even know I wanted one either 😂❤

[@annawood8843]

this video is so informative and explains so much. i also struggle with internal ableism and I am trying to learn skills for managing my ADHD.

[@Carolann17]

It’s such a struggle!! 53 years old and diagnosed late in late it explains so much. But it’s so so difficult to LIFE 🥴 not physical hyperactivity for me, it’s the thoughts and the daydreaming 🙄 and thank you for these videos

[@gabikn3882]

I feel seen. Thank you.

[@MouthyMerc42]

I Love Jessica's book it's full of practical advice for ADHD struggles but, I particularly like a side of from reading it. Which is being able to better communicate my needs to others. There isn't enough room here to discribe the difficultly of trying to tell some else what's going on or how I they could help, when I didn't even know what words to use!

[@zezezep]

that was BRILLIANT. Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou

[@EM-zv5wc]

I really appreciate you for making such a great video. Ur summary at the end of the video was awesome.just Recently I find out that I have ADHD and it actually opened a new window to my life bcz I understood The main reason behind many of my problems was that and of course I understood that I wasn't lazy or irresponsible. I was just different. Knowing it is really relieving.

[@Jenna.g.85]

My adhd fiancé is a valet and he’s asked for accommodations or even just supplies needed to do the job and his company won’t do anything they don’t want to pay extra for even if it would help in the long run. He’s not even allowed to wear sunglasses or a winter jacket or even running shoes even though they are required to run to and from cars. Changing jobs also has its challenges.any tips?

[@inseopark8981]

Already subscribed to How to ADHD, and I happy to found this interview. Feels like found another good channel.

[@deedracornelius7975]

OMG...I honestly thought I was the only one who works backwards when trying to figure out my time. My mind was just blown when she said that!

[@CJ-hh3gx]

As someone who may be undiagnosed who was in a relationship with someone who was diagnosed early, it was incredibly gratifying to hear that some of his complaints about my way of supporting would've have been further detrimental to our relationship. We're still friends and I feel like hearing this is going to help me support him in a way that works for both of us.

[@Neptune_p_g]

I love her story how her ADHD solution actually solved the rest of the department's workflow efficiency problem. And this would never have been solved if an ADHD brain hadn't struggled with it.

[@OrafuDa]

24:42 Oh yes, accommodations can help so much. I also wonder if your manager could have sat down with you at the end of the night and help you go through your receipts. Body doubling style. :) But maybe that would have been a bridge too far? At least at that point? Anyhow, very inspiring!

[@debrab4934]

Thank you, Forrest - I just watched this excellent podcast (twice) - and it was wonderful. I actually follow Jessica's channel and from there I saw she had appeared here with you. This was so timely because I will be starting my assessment today! I have waited so long for this to happen, literally decades. I'm 67 now and only recently realized that I "wear" most of the associated symptoms and they fit like a glove!! I also look forward to hearing about Elizabeth's own journey with ADHD. Again, "Thank You".

[@photovincent]

Thanks for openly discussing the support you needed, in order for others to not think “if she can write a book, I must be able to too”…. I welled up hearing your term “internal ableism”… it is still strong in me so this is very helpful

[@andreashofmeyr9583]

Wow- such an incredible interview with poignant insights!!

[@RogueDonut87]

I’ve known I’ve had adhd for about a year now and this discussion was super super helpful. I’ve had so many of these experiences throughout my life and it’s great to hear tips for managing these symptoms instead of blaming myself.

[@jelliejem]

I finally got around to listening to this podcast since Jessica is a guest here, and I really love the understanding and trying to educate people who may not be familiar with ADHD. I also really really appreciate at the end how you recounted some things Jessica said that stood out to you to re-introduce to the audience--not a lot of podcasts do that! It helped me as someone with ADHD to better solidify those points to the discussions of each topic earlier in the episode. Thanks again for this episode!

[@Asongfromme]

For the uk, it was CFT where i learned about the compassionate voice (coach b) teachings, CBT was not so useful 😊

[@eleventylevity]

The stapler story made me cry.

[@jennifergreggerson6225]

Same! That one hit deep

[@TheChikkinMan]

It made me cry too.

[@leilap2495]

The youtube algorithm took 2 months to show this to me?! Great interview!

[@elainemorris8145]

Love this! Thankyou both, I'll be following this more. At 57 i did just an online test and found to be quite high on the adhd scale, but undeniably too! It all made so much sense to me now. I thought it was a sagitarian thing of mine, to start many jobs and hop between them lol! Its come out more for me now as i have ptsd from losing my husband 3 yrs ago while moving country & medical neglect. This is so helpful as i rebuild myself & heal 🙏

[@ClaptimusPrime]

I've been struggling with myself since I was a kid, I've always wondered what was wrong with me because it was clear that I was different than mostly everyone I knew. I convinced myself at an early age that I was lesser than everyone else and didn't possess ability to really do much of anything significant in life. I never took criticism well, or took it too personal. I remember being prescribed Cylert and Adderall on separate occasions, and I didn't realize it as a kid but I was essentially high at all times because of the medication. I was taken off of it after 2 or 3 years, and I just remember from then on going downhill. Relationships were 100% impulsive (the feelings gave me a "high"). I also had started relying on drugs, the one thing I wish I never did but I remembered how Adderal made me feel so I chased that. I'm now 27 and I'm struggling probably more than ever with ADHD and everything that has led up to here. There's alot more to all of this, but I'm just giving my baseline here. For 2 years now I've been worried that I may be bipolar, which makes sense because ADHD and bipolar are often mistaken for eachother. Seeing this makes me really want to start to fix things, I don't feel so alone in this anymore. One of these days I'll financially and mentally make it to the doctors office after 13 years, until then I'll start trying to help myself with your guys videos. Thank you 😭 Edit: The part about rejection spirals really hit me. When I mess up, no matter the situation my immediate response is fear. And I often will disappear socially for long periods of time. I remember losing a good job I had during covid, struggling to find another job with the same pay and just locking myself in my house for 2 months sleeping to avoid the anxiety and shame. I still struggle with this behavior sometimes, im kind of in the middle of it right now. I can't wait for the day that this all might become a thing of the past.

[@cheri1567]

My sister just got diagnosed recently with ADHD and I feel that I have ADHD as well. I’ve always had big emotions and always seemed to overreact when something sad or scary happened. I just learnt to go somewhere private and cry then come back and continue what I was doing before and not talk about it. I felt sensitive and stressed out easily because of school. I’m a perfectionist and I’ve gotten better at regulating but it took time and I had to do it on my own. I feel for those with big emotions like me. Music and prayer has helped me but I feel like there needs to be more support for young people with big overwhelming emotions and teachers need to be taught to counsel children and talk to the parents about getting a diagnosis for the kids they teach.

[@findingaway5512]

The work story. I often was a closer. I was usually the slowest person for tasks like that. The one job I worked at I would punch out and then keep working. I needed a bit more time because I cared about how things were done or I had more clean up or things to get to that I didn't get to earlier in the day and I would do that so that I could get it all done. I also had a lot of timing issues to over come and knowing what expectations were clearly helped a ton. I knew that my prep work needed some after lunch not before because I needed the time to get my stuff done for that meal time and could do the future prep later. I would pair things together and actually developed systems based off of what was needed. I became a fantastic employee everywhere I have worked. But I also have made some. Mistakes or had a bigger learning curve on certain tasks/ time management. My people skills were always great though.

[@mattng4707]

Thank you for reminding me ..do I want to get it done or get supprot

[@HoneyLaBronx]

23:35 - This is the first I've heard the term "Set shifting". Normally I would have just called this "task switching". Is there a difference?

[@ForrestHanson]

Good question, after a little poking around my understanding is that they're basically synonyms.

[@NurturePalettePlayASMR]

Hello brainssss!!!!

[@bethiciaprasek1008]

I have a hard time digesting the only 8% of "regular people" sans time management issues. There are so many (often ineffective) time management courses. Why if there isn't a need? I grabbed onto many time management tools while eventually getting my PMP. (I actually have found that time management issues have less to do with me and more to do with my allowing other people's time management issues impact me.) Well...honestly I do avoid certain tasks. 😦 Still don't think I would be diagnosed ADHD (especially as I am over 60), but if the tools work then I use them. Thank you Jessica for your KZbin and your book, both of which I refer to on a regular basis. Thank you Forrest for hosting her.

[@whoiskiradunn]

This brought me to tears. What an insightful convo. This really helped me understand a lot of what I’ve been experiencing particularly my sensitivity!

[@whoiskiradunn]

And emotional regulation! Omg

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Another great video! Thank you for going more in-depth about the relationship part of this. If I can think ahead a little bit, I can deal with stuff easier.

[@crystalc4169]

Omg I have so many unfinished long term projects. Currently trying to motivate to finish a present I started as a gift for Christmas last year. I love diamond dots, it's very soothing to me. But the big diamond dot pictures are too much, I loose interest after a week. The tiny stickers are too boring. I discovered diamond dot keychains and coasters (I put magnets on the coasters so they could go on the fridge). They are small enough I can finish them, large enough to be fun, and I can give them away as gifts so they're not cluttering my house!!

[@MotherMagenta]

I'm 60 and posted it on FB because I was finding the humor in how many people were right. I found nothing but crickets... I didn't know that I was supposed to be ashamed.😂😂😅

[@MariahMonique]

I loved this video and I love Jessica’s videos!

[@jennifergreggerson6225]

This choked me up, I felt this so deeply. Caught me by surprise 24:28

[@Queenread82]

This is so helpful, thank you. Hi Jessica!

[@JohnGeranien]

Hello Brains!!

[@jamesbriggs5740]

I do that to myself. I say stuff like: you should've done it earlier. More comments that run me down. Kathy B "Our needs are special." That resonated with me. Other people don't always understand those needs.

[@pehu1322]

thank you very much!

[@LilayM]

Amazingly helpful episode!

[@emo_intellekt]

Imagine having a brain that's like a superhero sidekick - it's always on the go, spinning plates, and juggling chainsaws (metaphorically, of course... or is it?). That's what it's like to have ADHD!

[@kp50065]

Really enjoyed this episode

[@kairon156]

having a parent say "everyone is like that" as a response instead of simply being Believed and helped that I have issues. Also shown how to do things with a coach B who cares enough to ask "what can help you?" Also if I do have ADHD it's the quiet form.

[@joseytiensvold]

Ok so if you guys have any suggestions I will gladly take them. So I have asked for help but when my teacher gives me something to read at home and ancer questions on I feel like I can do them at school and then I get home and start to do them and don't have the mentle energy to do them and it is like I have a huge burnout. But I can do my math homework with ease and I have always had issues with reading and rembering what I am reading. Please help Agen I have asked for help from my teacher's and nothing has changed

[@iamnotmyhandle]

One of the things that helps my daughter is underlining key points while she is reading. If you cannot underline in the textbook, perhaps you could try jotting down only the keywords, definitions, dates, or key points on a separate sheet of paper to use when answering questions later. This will also help you be a better note-taker for greater academic success. Hope this helps 🙏🏾💚

[@joseytiensvold]

Thank you I will try that!!!

[@skybluepink41]

Also investigate text to speech apps - if the teacher could send you a text file - you could use an app and listen to the information as well as read it. Good luck - I hope this helps.

[@Manondeju]

"Joke about how long they've left there laundry in the washer". Had to pause the video to do the chore, lol.

[@Alrune18]

I was diagnosed at 5 or six common for boys and I was told take this pill and it will help you focus and you will grow out of it..... then I hit my 30s the working memory issues slapped me in face really nice like. lol

[@HeatherLandex]

I used to be a waitress (undiagnosed back then) & I was on fire quick at 3am. People would ask me how I do it. I seem to be able to concentrate when I'm exhausted. Today it's more like I skip straight to fatigue without the functional part first.

[@rxi4877]

46:24 as for my culture as the woman its just our jobs if hes not able to. We are partnered. Together. Either hes able to grow inside of this relationship or he could but didnt work it out from his side. Were together, you need to know what it means. It means were together, if you dont help enough its all on me. So help me. This is the relationship! Lol 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

[@wendy645]

❤ I'm not done with the video yet, but OMG I've cried a few times already because y'all said things that made me feel SO SEEN! Things I've never thought were connected to my ADHD... My God. 😫🥲

[@kathyannk]

Same!!

[@johnyuffels4796]

I wish I had two heads, mann how much more stuf good I get done?

[@Carolann17]

What causes ADHD in the first place? That’s what I would love to know 🤷‍♀️

[@JodiYeager]

I was diagnosed somewhere between 2 and 4th grade, was given adult dosage of Ritalin (back in the 1970s before they understood they needed to adjust for children) and eventually was told that I was "cured" after much corporal therapy. I'm now 58 and learning what it means to be ADHD. Biggest regret? I'm NOT an alien dropped into a normie household after all. boo-hoo. Just ADHD un-treated. I do wish there was help for those of us that are "old" and therefore not important. I was shocked to discover that there is no help available for adults with adhd in Columbus, Ohio.

[@maisiephillips8564]

❤

[@rogueerised979]

😂 And ADHD is alive and well so much random hello brains.

[@MouldyHayley]

Our family discovered that our ADHD/Autistic behaviours were a result of Mould Exposure/Mould illness. Now we are getting better.

[@0-_-00-_-0]

For people with ADHD, how do you deal with other people with ADHD when their behavior affects you? When they don't keep promises? Do you like it when people forget things that are important to you? How do you feel when someone lets you down when you agreed on something? What does it feel like when someone flakes on you? How do you handle it when you don't feel heard or understood because the other person can't sustain attention to your feelings?

[@DED_MEEM]

I. Am Carl Brain.

[@johnyuffels4796]

you can leave the milk I will empty it(or buy a new one)

[@johnyuffels4796]

damn all those conversations,self talks that are not productive, why!...

[@visionseeker7678]

Listening to this just makes me angry because i will never get the help or support this girl gets

[@bellaluce7088]

Does "straight-up neurotypical" even exist? 😉 I suspect a lot of people who are actually "in the family" identify that way due to masking and internalized ableism. Some of the most interesting and intellectually curious people I know have late-diagnosed ADHD, and It's a MYTH that academic giftedness and achievement rule it out (contrary to what many ill-informed "experts" perpetuate🤔🙄). To anyone afraid of the stigma, come on in, the water's fine! 🤗 It's like jumping into a pool: a short-lived shock followed by the FREEDOM of being released from gravity (internalized shame, maladaptive coping strategies, lack of access to the *right* tools, etc.). 💖💖 Undiagnosed ADHD feels like being a dodo among swans. 🦢🦢🦢🦢🦢🦤 But finding your tribe is like: 😃💃🤩🕺🤓🤸‍♀