ADHD, sex, relationships & intimacy by Ari Tuckman

Broadcasting ADHD Europe
Webinar on the topic is ADHD, sex, intimacy and relationships.
Expert Ari Tuckman, psychologist and certified sex therapist.
The field of intimacy, sex and relationships can be very challenging for the ADHD brain. In our webinar we talk openly about it, bust misunderstandings and share insights.
www.adhdeurope.eu/

[@JonnaBearNI]

The brief discussion about hyper sexuality in partners with ADHD was very thought provoking for me. Did make me laugh when they talked about how ADHD might has established itself as an evolutionary trait because of openness to sexual encounters.

[@isamut5806]

I loved seeing a scientist doing adhd listening-walk, fidget spinner-! Thanks for that

[@raenaj4749]

I think most of the things are talking about our issues in everyone’s long-term relationship that arise. I can’t see how they’re specifically related to ADHD. When I do find being a person with ADHD is sustaining my excitement and the anticipation for pleasure for sex. Or even finding, the dopamine injection that I sometimes want to be excited for sex. And sometimes I’m so excited for sex, but somethings not functioning right? Where the pleasure that would normally be there is not connecting or happening. So I think that’s more in depth along the lines of perhaps sex in relationships being affected by ADHD. Not time management not been busy with work. That’s everybody.

[@6548ww]

My wife is ADHD and sex has never been much of a priority to her but there was one small timeframe where she became hyper-sexual and it was the highlight of our relationship she was even trying things in the bedroom she always said she would never do she became obsessed with backdoor stuff and for like 8-9 months that’s all we did 3-4 times a day no joke this lasted a little over 3 years almost 4 then one day it was like you turned a light switch off the last few years have been a sexless marriage I miss it ☹️

[@annaf9821]

Interesting…

[@TurquoiseFilms]

This was so wonderful. I really felt heard here. Thank you for this

[@swim610]

I dated a man with untreated Adhd. He had such an addiction to sex and women it was mortifying. He even went to intense treatment clinic and could not stop.

[@saphire9823]

Me too. Two of them. Porn addiction, sex worker addiction, etc

[@likeheroinsoap]

I like the part about 30 minutes in or like 20 cause im a ADHD female age 27 with low sex drive can't tell what it's related to but my boyfriend is ADHD high sex drive but it's been hard to understand what's going on with me it's nice to hear im not so crazy and no one is like me it's just.....nice to hear it. Thanks!!!

[@mannishgambino]

validation is always important

[@wyattnguyen6323]

A video about adhd and it s an hour long ?

[@BrazilcarnivalSamba]

speed 5.0 X

[@TCTCTCTCTC]

Wonderfully informative, thank you

[@pmarreck]

this all resonated with me. What I didn't realize until it was too late is that I mistakenly underrated the sexual compatibility of women who tolerated my ADHD well but were perhaps a little less impressive socially or intellectually, and overrated the organizational compatibility (or should I say complementary compatibility) of women who were highly organized and who I saw as excellent potential partners in that regard but who then ended up disrespecting me (which then had the concomitant very negative effect on sex life you indicated in this video) because of how they saw the ADHD deficiency.

[@sloeberdoet]

That's why i have a relationship now with a man with ADHD as a woman with ADD we fit well together on an emotional, sexual level but it won't work to live together. Chaos will be the result.

[@Flamboyant34]

WOW, this beautifull lady did not get any questions or time to talk at all. While she was clearly bored being ignored.

[@saeedfazaa7463]

This one of the most beautiful lady I have seen in a while

[@drrMonManon]

she is probably just a moderator. He called her a "sidekick" so maybe she is making notes or smth :) Her flirty remarks were distracting. Halfway through i was already cringing and feeling awkward like I am witnessing somebody's secretary mistress during the professional meeting..

[@annetteka]

probably and just. the author is probably just a kick in the (back)side.

[@Lesser_Than]

@@drrMonManon I think she may have ADHD because she is definitely doing things that I would do in this situation. For example: not sitting still, playing with fidget spinner and texting. :)

[@KH-yy6yg]

Big bummer

[@Fabian6980]

We look normal but we aren't and is clear to see after a while of being around us some that have experience with disordered people know after just a few interactions

[@annaf9821]

I don’t get the problem with not having sex. I mean, if I don’t want to have sex because am tired, then I obviously don’t want sex. So what is the problem with that?

[@mannishgambino]

Anamaria(?) seems to be very high on the spectrum of hyperactivity and inattention. I could tell her interruptions were more impulsive and involuntary than outright rude.

[@goodthinkingtv]

I don't feel he understands from a female perspective

[@topher793]

Why?

[@maxsim_racing]

39:18 it suddenly got hot in her room didn’t it

[@kuehnel16]

WOW 🤪😜🤪😜😍🥰😍🥰

[@markhounsell123]

Great video ! I am very hypersexl and like to have sex every day when with someone. When it comes to sex I can get completely overwhelmed and can be too full on. I want to do everything I can to make the other person happy. I don't even really care about myself at this point. I do this in the hope they will like me if I make them happy especially if I really like them and want to be with them. I get a massive dopamine hit from touching and have to calm myself down or I am like a hyperactive bunny. I have to stay focused on what is happening and stay calm not start to day dream/worry about everything else like am I doing this right ?? Are we boyfriend/girlfriend now ?? Does she like me ?? Would she like breakfast in bed tomorrow ?? I have to not lose focus on the moment and focus on what is happening right now !! I find having the lights on is a must for me or my mind wander off and starts thinking about other things and just goes into a sort of auto pilot. I thought it was just a male thing for years as guys are very visual people I read. But after I was diagnosed with ADHD it makes so much sense now with the out of sight thing. I just wish I had known years ago. I wonder what my life would have been like 😢.

[@KH-yy6yg]

Something creepy about sec therapists

[@diegoevrard-broquet8050]

19:40 that's so infuriating and invalidating that he doesn't "buy into sex addiction" !! which science does it get that from?? let him go to sex addict anonymous and sex and love addict anonymous and then let him have a think. Seriously..

[@mariejohanna2333]

Main take seems to be ITS NOT YOUR ADHD and he just couldnt give proper examples of whats EXACTLY add/adhd. Also whats her job here? This was zero informative

[@alouise3557]

Thanks for saving me the wasted time. I'm looking for quick answers-- not people making claims based on speculation and guessing.

[@KH-yy6yg]

Eh it’s not due to adhd This is a waste of Red flag. Doesn’t believe sex addiction is real

[@techigyaani2923]

There is one boy who needs one girl to marry in his this life because he has no money type of thing in his pocket account my frnd And why he has no money in his pkt the reasons where because of his brain weaknesses reasons he has stood some weaknesses in his brain that he thinks relaised within himself He dont no why and some how because of which and for what he has this unique and some kind type of difference and different brain functionality from his mind He dont know yet now that why he has this some sort type kind of thing regarding connected from His brain side point of view my goodfrnd ok Because he is also very much of in surprised state of situations circumstances of brain mind my frnd Because that boy as a person or and as a human being physically he has fit n fine very much little bit of good nice what he looks like mostly like all other wht other next person will see him and what he will say for about him after looking him ok my fnrd But his height is small not very much 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[@alouise3557]

What the hell? Were you drinking alcohol when you wrote that comment?