Adoption Stories | A Flawless Films Production | John & Michelle

John and his twin sister, Michelle, were adopted by Joe and Bridie Kiely and grew up in Kilrush, Co. Clare. At the age of 40 and after a serious work accident, John wanted to find their natural mother. Going through the official channels was a long and frustrating route, so he decided to take matters into his own hands.
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[@kathleenoriordan3838]

A lovely lad john and his sister. And his mom and dad great people. ❤

[@voicije]

the adoptive parents are so lovable...im at 3 minutes watching that story...and i just love them...

[@fowleheidi482]

Having lived in Ireland I was shocked he had the balls to knock on the brother's door. Not surprised it started off as a drive by and thrilled he got a warm reception from the brothers. The adoptive parents are AMAZING! Happy for all. I 🙏 he finds the Dad.

[@Dulles-jt6sr]

He finds the dad? Wow.. thank you for the update!

[@j.ksmith7432]

@@Dulles-jt6sr I think the previous comment was ‘I pray he finds his dad’ rather than saying that he had!

[@laufitubalawanilotu3267]

2024, my heart goes out to Jhon, pray you find your dad ❤😊 🙏

[@franciet]

What sweet, sweet people. It’s like they went back to the day they heard about the twins. So excited “

[@kuhtareruh11]

What a couple of great adoptive parents, just love it.

[@eaomonn1215]

lovely people so kind

[@8656737s]

Yes they are ❤

[@mandyellis876]

I’ve just come across this in 2024 and want to highly commend John for his thoughtful and considered approach towards finding his roots. I’m so sorry for the loss of your birth mother before you could meet her, but so happy that you managed to find your brothers. Having Susi at your side throughout your journey to support you was nothing short of a gift.

[@dm8116]

I am in absolute awe of john for his strength, and sensitivity for all family members. A birth mother

[@annyoung6560]

It’s bittersweet knowing that one mother’s heartbreak become another mothers joy. I’m glad that some of these babies were shown love growing up but my heartbreaks for the ones who didn’t.

[@kristinebailey6554]

Fabulous people. Every one of them!

[@marilynvallance]

What an amazing couple. Two lucky adopties.

[@jaggirl]

Some adoptees don't have it soo lucky. They're wonderful parents.

[@sahpem4425]

He definitely made no mistake. His brother looks just like him. At first I thought the camera was on John and then I realized it was his brother when the camera focused on John and Michelle in the car. Great sleuthing, John!

[@JacquiQ]

I am a closed adoptee. never will I get over the loss I have endured. never knowing any of my family. never having my mother or father or siblings or grandparents or cousins in my life, having to pretend I was someone I was not, having someone else's family stories, having someone else's family tree. The whole system of closed adoption was awful , cruel and actually criminal.

[@Wyz369]

It most definitely is. All because of the Roman Catholic church & their hypocrisy.

[@jfishmag]

JacquiQ, have you done a DNA test?

[@jeanettejohnson8117]

Do a DNA TEST

[@jfishmag]

If you do one, I can help you interpret the results and possibly find relatives.

[@mrsseasea]

my mom was adopted a WW2 situation let’s call it, after she passed away we searched, and found she had 7 brothers and 1 sister, but most all the family wanted nothing to do with us, due to our mom was not of that family. I’m so blessed that my mom was adopted by such wonderful parents.

[@VioletJoy]

The "half brothers" look more like twins than John and his sister. Lol. All such lovely people. So sorry he didn't get to meet his mom.

[@caliandris]

I don't think anyone needs a DNA test - the two brothers looked like twins, and I'm sure that must have informed the immediate acceptance of him as their brother. I do think DNA could be of use to locate a father though. How lucky he and his sister were with their adoptive parents, they both seem really lovely people. It's very sad that he didn't get to meet his birth mother, but maybe he can find his father, and learn about his mother through his brothers. It would be wonderful to see a follow up film, once you have been invited into someone's life like this, it's hard to let go again!

[@joannross2853]

Having the same situation I felt like a weight was lifted after dna proof was established

[@yvettekinchking8838]

Watching this it seems dna wasn't required in this story still happy ending

[@angelasepi657]

What wonderful adoptive parents!

[@2ndhandSue]

There is no mistaking that they are brothers! I think it's a terrible shame that some adoption laws are still so antiquated. To go through all that searching alone, for years, and then find your birth parent(s) died must be heartbreaking. If they'd been given the information and helped along the way, John may have been able to meet his birth mother before she died. It is now 2019 and I'm hoping that since this was filmed, Ireland has relaxed its adoption laws and now lets families search for each other. I think it is a basic human right for people to know where they came from, to know who gave birth to them.

[@LindaHutchings]

Totally agree...half adopted Mom kept and disparaged me Birthfather wasn't allowed to see/know me but was loving when I finally met him at 27

[@jaggirl]

Agree. But unfortunately some mothers pay a fee to block them from finding them. They can in my country anyway. Perhaps that rule has changed, cause it was about 20 yrs ago. When my ex went searching for his mother. He heard about the block. He didn't want to go any further in the search. Incase she had placed a block on her info. It would have been too crushing for him to find that out.

[@jackieann5494]

What lovely , lovely people 😊 the adoptive parents are ...they ALL are .

[@eaomonn1215]

what lovely people them kielys...xx

[@zahria]

Oh my god! The brothers look like clones! So glad for them. God bless!

[@sempreExx]

You and your brother looks like twins so I have no doubt it is the correct family.

[@solofamily19]

Thank you so much for sharing this, I'm on the other end of the Irish Adoption Agency who refuse to listen, see sense or understand an Irishwoman's Human Rights. I'm trapped with my adopted son who is stateless and the IAA are heartless as we're stuck here in West Africa as my son doesn't have a nationality, a citizenship so we can move. The IAA don't understand that the Hague Convention is there for a guideline, they don't understand that if you follow the law abroad, you cannot change it. I have done my best but they're driving my son & I to a very difficult situation. So glad you found your siblings!

[@chloebradley-almond5911]

The British and Irish trafficked 4 million children that is what forced adoption is

[@Ucha-ou3nw]

Try all DNA tests❤

[@lesleyallinson8738]

Unbelievable bless you John and your sister heartbreaking I am so happy you have a lady by your side take care God bless John you and your brother look so much

[@NancyCronk]

What a beautiful family. No doubt they've probably done the DNA since this was put out in 2013. The two brothers look like twins so it seems like a sure thing!

[@samryfisaha3932]

There is no need to take it, you can confirm it by their looks!👍

[@kathleengagliardi7669]

Pure torture for these good people. How dare the system deny him confirmation of the legitimacy of his birth Mom even after death. Update the damn neandrathal system. He could have possibly met her if they had cooperated with his reauest for his BC for years he wss denied. Pure torture

[@8656737s]

His birth parents are so sweet ❤

[@ThePeachygal]

you mean adopted parents I guess? his birth mother is dead and he had no idea about birth father.

[@pattygrant9919]

These people are absolutely wonderful what recourse do adopted children have when adoptions go wrong

[@haunanimartin459]

I hope the twins took DNA ancestry tests, to confirm their relationship with the 3 brothers, & to see if they could match other relatives, like the father's family. DNA testing is proving pivotal in finding family, especially when one hits a brick wall with documentation, or access to it by law.

[@kabbystevens5167]

My gosh…the brothers have the same walk…they looked like mirror images of each other walking to the cemetery.

[@timothygreen9885]

I feel his pain looking for my biological father only to find out he died years ago. It is a pain that won't heal.

[@tammym7940]

Great story!

[@msp507]

Awe these 2 beautiful souls God bless you all

[@robertarsenault8081]

Ms Perry

[@robertarsenault8081]

Wavne Perry

[@christinejackson3922]

Wow Irish adoption laws are dumb.My partner who was adopted in Australia was able to get all information on his adoption including his original birth certificate .

[@planetclaire820boulder8]

Ive seen your story at least 3 times, its the first time i realized you were born on my 12th birthday! I am scots Irish

[@MarleneQuaw]

Awe was hoping he had found his dad too

[@christineseyes261]

Wow. Can we get an update. Did he find out anything about his Dad?

[@robingagan6288]

How come everyone else has rights and adoptees dont

[@joyb5525]

John needs to do 23andme DNA to find father's link. Brave man. Glad it worked out.

[@villasoka884]

Any updates? I would love to hear, such a sad sad story.

[@margaretfry3043]

Irish laws are so old fashioned and I think intent on protecting the Catholic church and what it did to unmarried moms and the children born to them

[@RLScheurman]

i am one of these children, sold into american financial slavery, brokered on and broken, im 35, never hugged my birthmom, and i need help.

[@hilaryc3203]

@@RLScheurman I've seen the most heartbreaking documentaries about those bloody irish nuns. Vultures; they made money off of selling babies and they've never been held criminally responsible. I hope you find a way to be more at peace; perhaps counselling because you ARE a victim. Try using a DNA kit. 2 months ago a long lost baby was brought home to our family after 6 decades. My cousin, and it's a joy for the entire family to have him with us. Please don't give up.

[@RLScheurman]

@@hilaryc3203 awaiting ancestry results now.

[@ThePeachygal]

@@hilaryc3203 I saw the movie Judi Dench did. i cried so hard when she learned her son had died.

[@hilaryc3203]

@@ThePeachygal I saw that as well and yes it was heartbreaking, but it made me angry as well. Pisses me off to no end that the nuns (and catholic church in general) were allowed to get away with it. That was human trafficking and the law did nothing.

[@Coupal1]

They should absolutely do dna tests to see if they can be matched with any of their birth father's relatives.

[@jaggirl]

Would have been nice if his biological mother told the other siblings. About the children she gave up, before she passed.

[@can1948]

I agree, that a DNA would confirm the relationships.

[@lesleyallinson8738]

I am so so happy for you and your family

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

Lovely boys. Great parents

[@turnerc13781]

I am so sorry their mum has past...I would have liked to know if he had found his dad...

[@ladylaois8184]

So interesting! Boy those brothers were very alike.

[@tanuashealth9791]

Then there is family on his Dad’s side. More brothers and sisters.

[@samryfisaha3932]

They look twins!!😍

[@KarlaJTanner]

I love these folks!

[@mariebelle3493]

Beautiful ❤ makes me happy

[@joaniejeet7521]

Cannot argue with DNA ....will definitely sort out your family ties....when the authorities have blocked your information.... all the best 🌷🌷

[@jklmnoqr]

They even look like brothers.

[@annedevine1021]

I hope he can put this to rest ….. enjoy and live for what he has ….. speaking as an adoptive ….. far away fields aren’t always green

[@Richard-zm6pt]

Now they can do DNA tests to find their biological father's family and learn more about their biological mother's family and confirm the half-relationships. Y-DNA would be an excellent choice for John.

[@louisasmiles]

The adoption laws need to change over there. This is wrong.

[@sheilacoleman1400]

The two brothers look alike

[@cathalgreene7091]

I hope he had found his father

[@removeall23]

Could be a inspiration for the "This is Us"" show

[@eddyflanagan153]

Brilliant

[@hekv6533]

The brothers look like twins 😘

[@kellyprice1024]

OMG, the brothers look alike.

[@He805]

Why does adaptive children always look for the birth mother and not for the father?

[@hilaryc3203]

Because the father's name was rarely put on the birth certificate. Unless the mother is still living and can provide a name, he's a mystery.

[@KrissiCreates]

Because many of us were born to young unwed Mothers.

[@melindatidey7]

Very rare the father was recorded on the birth certificate of unwed mother’s. Most young ladies gave birth in mother babie homes and it just wasn’t done. Unless the biological mother told or left a letter with adoption agency. Adopted kids just couldn’t trace their fathers. Now through dna times are changing.”long lost families UK” investigated a lot of adoptees threw mother babie homes and every now and then also found the father listed or were told by family who the dad was. Sad really.

[@aghmatadams3368]

Happy Happy for all you guys. I wondering if their biological parents ever thought the kids would in the future look them up. None the less. All is well that ends well. Stay Safe. 😷😷😷😷

[@vastyllita]

Lovely❤

[@tompahdea9263]

Adoption in some respects continue practices that had reasons for from long ago but the way the world has come to change there is so much more that if the conditions exists hindrances could be for those that seek better knowledge be let to know what they seek instead of having to prod along for chances. And if in those relationships there are people that do not want to seek information then the paperwork should reflect that so that people are not disappointed. Maybe, someday.

[@francilmore9622]

Find out was there any other sister or brother

[@thelmahall2593]

Why doesn't he suggest a blood test or Dan testing

[@msmagpie5620]

how can I find out whether my son who I had adopted in the 70s is still alive.

[@megnemo6403]

Ms Magpie if it is a closed adoption you cant. you can go on all the genealogical sites and get the dna test done and hope he did one too. some states have adoption registrys

[@msperrylame2769]

Oh darlin! Put your DNA on the registry. I wish you so much luck!

[@molly-zx9cr]

I’ve heard that there’s some forums online that connect adopted children with their birth parents

[@melindatidey7]

Depends what country you are on. But in Australia you can approach the Red Cross and they can try on yr behalf to get information that is listed for the adoption. Also if your child is looking for you. Best of luck.

[@RLScheurman]

i am one of these children, sold into american financial slavery, brokered on and broken, im 35, never hugged my birthmom, and i need help.

[@RLScheurman]

anyone who wants to help or can, please email me at [e-mail].

[@ThePeachygal]

@@RLScheurman do a DNA test. myheritage accepts downloaded DNA and they are more popular for Europe than ancestry.com.

[@standdown4929]

Just do DNA testing and skip the paper monster.

[@jenniferwittridge4163]

Look like brothers

[@kimthurman4151]

Maybe they can do DNA testing on them and the brothers to see if they truly are. His parents will always be but that don't always erase the bond of the biological family.

[@angelot1549]

I live in Scotland just across the water and this BS is still going on young women forced into giving their children up cos of religion its so wrong and bk ward

[@theelizabethan1]

This is assuming a few things:. that the mother wishes to, and is able, to raise the child. Or that the grandparents of the child is willing to take the child. The family(s) may want the whole thing kept strictly confidential.......In such cases these agencies serve a critical purpose.

[@amym.694]

Didn’t they do a DNA test?

[@debbiee6535]

Did she have any more children and are they alive don't stop yet

[@LittleChena]

John, your mom is the woman who raised you and loves you with all her heart. She was always there for you. I find it a bit disrespectful to call your birth mother mom while your mom is sitting with you at the table.

[@clairecolvin4077]

You need to stop worrying about the lives of others. Perhaps if you work on the human being YOU, actually are, and forget about offering your opinions about others, you may find your God, and be at peace in your own heart space.

[@LittleChena]

Claire Colvin Dito, I didn’t ask about your opinion. I’m very much in peace with my life. :) If I think he is rude I will write something. It’s YT and not your church. Amen!

[@mzmarkham09]

His adoptive mother even refers to his birth mother as his mom....

[@lorimav]

Yes, they are smiling and pretend that it is not offensive to them for John's sake but it must hurt, nevertheless. I wish he had called her "birth mom" or something like that.

[@MegaActionTime]

4Veritas : the adoptive parents didn’t strike me as those kind petty people, all I saw were a very loving family who were joyous that their son found the information he was looking for and in the process, some extended family.

[@joannross2853]

Just do a dna test with the brother and move on

[@marcusnl66]

It’s not always turning out positive to know who your real parents are. Sometimes it’s better to keep dreaming about them and create a imaginary image of them. Reality can be tougher than your own fantasy.

[@shonatyson5934]

may you find peace