Advocate Vandana Shah on Divorces in India, Arrange Marriages & Alimony | The Chill Hour Ep. 77

[@Madhukirtan]

I love podcasts with her! Since I'm not a Hindi speaker, I'm so glad that most of the interview is in English! Sometimes, out of the blue, they switch to Hindi and then of course I get lost, but I think overall, I was able to catch most of it. DON'T STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T LOVE YOU OR RESPECT YOU! DONT STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE!!!

[@mymagic456hi3]

One thing is fact in general that people are not as patient with each other compared to older times. Even with colleagues, neighbors, or just general encounters with people , we are being less patient. So true that we want things instant and that’s making our patience level gradually lower.

[@mayak2676]

Guys were rarely patient, even back then. Women were financial dependant so they kept quite & compromises. Now women are financially independent so they don't take nonsense anymore...that's the biggest change

[@Mamta24-zq2nl]

like youtube shorts... marriages also became like that...INSTANT

[@nancynagwekar4151]

@30.00 Vandana talks of parents wanting son-daughter -in-law to stay separately. She says she was surprised to hear this. I am absolutely shocked, why this is not a default conversation in the families. Every marriage must definitely start with the couple moving out and starting their married life, on their own. If there are financial issues, parents should help on getting a rented place. Or if they can, instead of waiting until their death to pass on wealth to your children, do whatever possible, to help the couple to get independent housing.

[@somu87i]

Why not joint family life Divorces must me made mandary one without alimony

[@nidhiedhir9920]

I wish podcast was happened 16 years ago.. Have suffered alot. Still in the marriage but with lot of compromises..

[@romaarora_official]

I’m a happy unmarried girl yet loved watching this podcast. Found it very interesting 😀 It took me 4-5 days to finish watching this long episode 😂 I specifically came here to appreciate this beautiful soul saying that you SHOULD get married (not for the society or anything) but to experience all emotions of life 💞👌 Vandana ji 🫶🏻 Deepak, you’re a fabulous podcaster, wish to see you grow even more! ❤ Only little suggestion to you is to let the other person finish talking & then ask your question. As a viewer I felt there were too many interruptions.

[@bindumenon9450]

So charismatic and engaging❤

[@Kiara-zm8vm]

WHAT A FANTASTIC PODCAST!

[@hindustan8796]

When i started watching i never thought i would watch till the end. But it was really a great conversation. Vandana ji is really a genuine person who cares about our society but at the same time does not endorse abusive marriage just to keep it going. Deepak ji ur queries were also very apt.

[@Docsmartsin]

Brother is providing: arbaaz malaika?? Father in law handling: naga arjuna naga chaitanya samantha!??

[@deepasinghal4729]

Sherlock

[@NehaRaj-yc9wh]

The interviewer just doesn’t let her finish; he interrupts her so much that it’s annoying to watch the podcast.

[@karthik1780]

Vandana's interview with Raj Shamani is good

[@DeepakPareek]

Will take note of this from the upcoming videos. Thanks for the feedback :)

[@saloninevgi7330]

Yes so annoying

[@ambikadani803]

Also too much time wasted on those two names….

[@shilpadarkatiya6307]

I agree with you

[@padmajagajanan6583]

Mothers must teach their sons n daughters to cook clean wash their own laundry ,care for their family members Go out as family sometimes n yet be independent The daughter in law will bless her mother in law for a very empathetic husband

[@Mishthu_The_Shihtzu]

Absolutely

[@priyakumar5415]

Oh no that's not possible. How can you say this? How can mothers teach their Raja beta to do household 😂😂

[@abrardalal]

​@@priyakumar5415 😅 But all dads will teach their Papa Ki Pariyaa to either marry a prince or earn at least 6 lpa for leading meaningful life; noh??

[@Aanchal_bhatt]

@@abrardalalgirls are earning nowdays sir

[@abrardalal]

@@Aanchal_bhatt yes never denied it!! But Indian patriarchal society mindset still staunchly believes & follow men as bread winner & women as home maker !! Isn't it? Ratio of male vs female who are earning enought to lead a family of 3/4 members is not equal; with such education setup it will take at least a century to overcome gender bias.

[@kritikapande6708]

WOW ! LOVED THIS!!!! WANT MORE!!!

[@rammohan5354]

Just played today this video and felt very interactive and humorous too while talking serious Indian topic :)...Deepak has done quite good job

[@nancynagwekar4151]

I wish instead of spending lakhs and crores on wedding, both side parents put down the majority of that money for a jointly owned flat by the couple, and encourage them to build in their home and marriage

[@sandeshrangari694]

Matlab you want everything from parents

[@Sammmmmg1]

Just curious, why hasn’t your video reached a number of people? Surprisingly, it has been uploaded six hours before, and they are only 350 views. This should surely reach many people.

[@archna86]

Instead of the guy who is interviewing, someone who could be even more professional in asking questions instead of flirting with such a leading lawyer on a serious topic , would have made the conversation more meaningful, serious and worthy enough to watch!!

[@zainabquamar4591]

Why you muted the podcast at. 1:08:17 . The intimacy in marriage .she wanted to say something important it seems.

[@kiranrchoudhary]

Because KZbin restricts the videos to 18+ when certain words are used, it affects the reach

[@ayushjoshi6996]

@@kiranrchoudharywho the hell is watching it who is less than 18😂. Does not make sense

[@amaraterracotta1812]

Loved the interview … love her … she is indeed a bold and vibrant women… most women can relate to what she is speaking …

[@VSK6030]

I love how she put her power to such a good cause! Amazing mam

[@kabirkapoor1205]

things discussed in this podcast are subjective we can't apply same solution or action in every situation. People willing to sacrifice, make adjustments n fulfil their own duties/responsibilities will never suffer. Marriage is a journey just like your life so there will be ups n downs but that. does not mean you commit suicide or file for divorce. if you are marrying under any pressure you are gonna mess up two families at the same time especially kids.

[@mayak2676]

First stop the practice of forcing girls to live with guys parents...why should guys enjoy this cushioning. It should be a neutral ground for both. No guy will be ready to live with their inlaws, so why should girls be forced to put up with inlaws. Big part of marital issues will disappear if this absurd practice (under the pretext of culture, which is basically part of patriarchy) is stopped. Stay separate and be there for both parents whenever they need

[@user2j3ycg4df]

Why should girls look for a higher -status husband? Why do girls' families want a guy from a good family (own house, well-off)? It goes both ways. I have worked for 25+ yrs now, but I can't think of taking a break. I have to continue till I can manage to work physically. BTW, it's a glorious time to be a woman and work in a corporate org. Sexism is rampant when you are a man. It's unpopular but closer to reality.

[@mayak2676]

@user2j3ycg4df How do you even know how glorious it is for women now? Are you one? Don't be so confident about something you have possibly no personal experience of!

[@abrardalal]

Ok. Practice first what u r preaching here. Start it with your own home. Best of luck😮

[@mayak2676]

@@abrardalal I already have been practicing for many years. I was always very clear i wouldn't stay with inlaws & i wouldn't marry anyone who didn't respect that. I have a very respectful relationship with my inlaws till date, because there's never been any unnecessary interference. Marriage is about mutual respect & understanding. If any one partner stops being respectful & understanding it won't last long

[@mayak2676]

@@user2j3ycg4df When we married my husband had a devent job, but no such backing. I too was working. I was very clear i wanted someone with a educated & humble background ...just be respectful & understanding & who wont expect me to live with his family. We both have worked our way through life independently & build for ourselves. We share a respectful relationship with both parents till date. Unfortunately most Indian marriages get unnecessarily messy because of inlaws interference (from both sides). Couples should clearly sort out this situation before marriage & post marriage make conscious efforts in not allowing any third person to interfere in their marriage

[@urmisantosh2005]

This whole interspersing 'choosing the name' (comedy segments??!!?? ) diluted the essence of the podcast

[@malinighosh1836]

Everytime I hear this woman speak

[@sanasharmin4295]

How do v contact d lady ?

[@abheekdas7595]

She is suggesting to get married so that she gets more clients for divorce. Also the interviewer seems to be hurry to catch up a flight and not letting the expert to finish her answer.

[@Jay-rv4ee]

🤦 You mean all those who marry will want to eventually get divorced? Or those who go through the divorce will want it to happen through Vandana? She simply suggested that one has to marry because marriage is a beautiful institution where one can grow phenomenally, without which one part never grows. Divorce or otherwise, how will she be benefited if a commoner goes through a bad marriage? She's a celebrity lawyer!!

[@Ttt-q3q]

Lmao stop. Then according to this, doctors should keep prescribing us with the wrong medicines, so that we keep visiting his chamber every week.

[@elegantpersians]

🤣🤣 Funny LOL

[@novembarain6654]

True

[@shefalikeshri6730]

Good going. Loved your podcast❤

[@nabamisardar9999]

She is just amazing and she is extremely good at her work❤❤❤❤

[@vibrantvaidehi]

Pls put in a comment regarding the muted line

[@ayashide9985]

I absolutely love listening to her

[@nirvananirvana8214]

You can't make marriage and having kids so important and big issue their are so many people who didn't find the right person so they didn't marry not because they didn't want to and many women and men are not able to have kids given the kind of pressure environment we live in with so many diseases, third people are not able to afford kids and people don't have stable jobs so saying why are you not getting married why not having kids is not right. Women have a lot of pressure to handle their jobs marriage and kids and their health with all this stress and in laws

[@EaglesEyes6354]

Well said 👍🏻💯

[@vinodchoudhrie9808]

Mam what about the maintenance of the child?

[@mountmarynadar5049]

This Advocate doesn't pay the Associate Advocate also the Juniors. She charges bonk to the Client but never pays even her driver and househelp. Don't Judge the book by the Cover. I have worked with her.

[@born-victor]

I KNEW IT! I could make out she is the kind!

[@shilpieats6802]

I find this podcast funnier than what others did with vandana mam

[@asthaaa204]

Vandana ma'am, you're the sweetest human being ❤ loved your energy.

[@OrchidP1]

I love this woman!!!!

[@nabamisardar9999]

I just love her approach towards life ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@dare15ful]

Awesome insights...more power to u Vandana ..I related to your perceptions at so many places...cheers .from one single empowered woman to another

[@AnuradhaMudgal-e2e]

very very correct , why do people blame society , parents etc. why do people not learn new things.

[@padmajagajanan6583]

It’s an old fashioned idea but can’t married pple learn to love their partners unconditionally Have tolerance for each other

[@shivendraSingh-us4ez]

There is nothing like unconditional love moment husband stop providing his family financially & physically wife is the first one who will leave him after that kids.

[@padmajagajanan6583]

@shivendraSingh-us4ez Oh Yes There is Only it's out of fashion now Our priorities n values have taken a u turn

[@purpleprincess1983]

Provided mother in law doesn’t interfere

[@SwalehaSaliya]

Worth of watching of this great 👍🎉

[@339Rohit]

Would love to see a Vandana and Seema Aunty together on a show that would be interesting :)

[@preet3193]

My friend's wife cheated on him with her cousin brother.. he had no clue as she always said he was like her elder brother.. my friend too treated him like one..when he got to know the reality she was pregnant with my friends child..she was kind of double timing them both.now they r living seperate.. he has told his in laws abt what she did . He doesnot want to continue the relationship but is torn emotionally because of his daughter.. her family doesnot look too keen on divorce.. they just need a husband for their daughter.. he cant trust her again. What should be his next step.. plz guide

[@divya4g]

Men wearing blinders.Fact of life.Absolutely correct. But the host got offended 😂😅

[@anubhasingh3195]

How can we meet in delhi

[@positivepraveen9141]

Arrahman value 10000cr is it true?

[@amazing3954]

1:01:00 some household Ghar kalesh reason is Father in Law Especially in Town and Tier 2 cities also they work silently.😢😅.

[@BinduGautam-up2mn]

😂😂man ki baat

[@niveditakasturi3914]

I don't think middle class families discuss this much True to the fact, adjustment, compromise are important in a marriage. Divorce is a bigger thing than marriage. Not many of us are in good terms with parents, but divorce is possible only with partner. It's all about commitment, responsibility unless the divorce is really necessary. Tolerance should be a part of upbringing. This is the lack of upbringing, where life skills and living traits are missing in a child. A happy marriage does involve sacrifice, compromise, adjustment, responsibility, trust, loyalty.

[@jasnajaved4570]

Is she saira banu AR Rahman's wife' lawyer

[@aaronkamal786]

Yes

[@tasmiyashek4669]

Advice for newly married couple

[@Alizaara1]

South Indian case must be Aishwarya Rajnikant and Dhanush🤫🤫🤫

[@shobhanakadam5308]

Hindi me baat hogi to bahot jyada logo tak pahuchegi..❤❤

[@spraachi3236]

Host should be calm in between of guest talk. So audience can hear it out properly.

[@TheCultureNomad]

Why in heavens name was the part where she wanted to speak of the sexual non-negotiable part cut out? Are we still unable to have these conversations and grow out of old habits?

[@mamatabhagwath4421]

Glad the anchor didn’t call her Vandy ! She is such a senior in her own capacity and he trying to act cool more like a friend ! Not sure if I really liked his way of anchoring !!

[@mikeshah429]

The interviewer is a JERK , very interceptive, also disrespectful even tried to cross his limits at one stage by trying to call such a high profile talented women of his mothers age by trying to call her VANDY ..good that she put him back to his place... He has NO SKILLS OR RESPECT of interviewing people . ....just a JOLACHAP PODCASTER

[@shrutichikerur5399]

Sexual aspect wali baat is not audible. Please check and make it audible.

[@ajaytewari5787]

She is amazing

[@umadeviradhakrishnan3667]

Others can be relatives of husband

[@wheedaa2023]

10 years before Amirkhan talked about intolerence, and people trolled him a lot . Now she is talking same thing in a different angle and no noise ....is there hindu muslim angle?

[@preetkahlon6097]

❤❤

[@deepakrishnappa7685]

The host interrups a lot.

[@sanasharmin4295]

Wat about Islamic laws regarding divorce from d girl n boy?

[@shubhangibaser1605]

Now a mother of a girl continuosly bother in her life. That's the main problem

[@sachingaur111]

Very true

[@krdivya]

1:43:29 AR Rehman and Sairaa??

[@theerthap2711]

i thought it is Samantha’s case

[@krdivya]

@@theerthap2711 she said in between some where that it is on-going from a year and I feel Samantha's alimony is not 10,000 Cr.

[@AmanAkhauri]

Rehman's father passed away when he was a kid

[@krdivya]

10k cr alimony is about AR Rehman maybe. The husband tiger and cat in front of father in law is about Surya and Jyotika maybe.

[@AmanAkhauri]

@@krdivya You think ARR is worth $1.1 billion? Either she is greatly exaggerating the amount or it has to be a business tycoon.

[@asrita21]

@1:41:52 Salman and Arbaaz?

[@Nazwrites126]

Samantha and naga chataniya

[@radhikaravi2498]

Please stop interrupting the guest when she is speaking.

[@sumedhashivdas8759]

Stop asking google facts as about prenuptial, her unique experience, hardest cases, learning from them, how can we safe guard, than stupid what's the shortest and longest time of divorced! Absolutely bullshit, I am listening to it keenly since 1.5 hrs, you will be paid due to me watching, and.you are giving me not quality content do your research than asking her can you call her vandy, be professional!

[@Other_importantkaam]

10000 crore case seems to be Aish and Abhishek, father is controlling earning more..its ongoing since one year.. Not sure bas ..guess h

[@Kiara-zm8vm]

BUT SHE SAID SOUTH INDIA

[@adm842]

Probably Naga Chaitanya & Samantha's case. (Controlling Dad - Nagarjuna) Although the amount seems an exaggeration (Samantha mentioned the absurdity of the rumour in few interviews as well)

[@bharathsy]

@@adm842the divorce is already over

[@AmanAkhauri]

​@@adm842She said the marriage is on the path to a divorce. That dude is getting married again in a few days.

[@deepasinghal4729]

Ar rahman

[@TannishthaDey]

16:34 it's the cons of patriarchal society, which oppresses both men and women...

[@Mamta24-zq2nl]

She is handling A R Rehman's wife's case for their divorce

[@meenareddy5994]

Some mother in laws are very insecure if the son and daughter-in-law are very happy with each other M in law will create a situation for them to fight or bring another woman in son’s life

[@GAURISHANKARRADHERADHE]

23:43 why to stay away..don't thinking how mother will feel ..

[@mayak2676]

Only guys have mothers?? What about gurls parents?

[@cyberking250]

​@@mayak2676their son will take care of them

[@amrita.singh05]

​@@cyberking250 assuming everyone has a son? why can't girls take care of their parents.

[@gurudevtravels]

I am sure this interviewer is a narcissist and very bad at being a boyfriend or a husband ..he looks suspicious and he got very offended on the ‘frog’ comment…also he is constantly interrupting and he is kind of be intimidated by Vandana shah ma’am …weird interviewer

[@rohanjoshi0909]

When men get trapped in a bad marriage, instead of getting into another trap like Law quitting life is more easy and peaceful. Law is biased. Shame

[@ronaknanda6175]

😂

[@JA-ib3xn]

My mother in law,father in law and sister in law make my husband sandwich me and husband ....... and husband always keep silent make himself as a baccha ....... not speek a single world ......... they torcher me day and night ...... he silent ....... result divorce .......😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@pollyannamacintosh786]

Maybe it’s for the best

[@shilpz14]

Same happened with me

[@elegantpersians]

That's why i say never marry a Coward man 😤

[@farhinmalik5475]

One advice... U shld have spoken about different cases

[@star-el3ly]

Non judgemental relatives are also a myth 😂😂😂

[@shraddha8232]

Please bring someone who will talk about other marriage act eg Muslim Marriage Act, Special Marriage Act, etc.

[@harithapandyal-w6i]

My mil calls up 5 times a day just to scrutinize our life.

[@zahrabjinu]

Too many ads

[@bhavyabajaj9917]

Abhishek and Aishwarya ka naam beep beep kia

[@anjalinair2961]

Timing?

[@Sneha-fs4po]

The 10000 crore family could be Bhushan kumar....😊

[@machinic]

Loved it

[@fyzaashraf8756]

I like u both

[@amrutakulkarni3888]

The interview is v annoying especially interviewer

[@sonalrai13]

The South Indian couple is AR and his wife 😢

[@AmanAkhauri]

Rahman's father passed away when he was a kid. So can't be them.

[@surjasiddhanta6223]

What an irony?! You want to talk to help society by talking about divorces but you omit an important aspect in that which is the sexual compatibility. You are adding to the societal taboo. Why not be open about it? A lot of couple suffer from it. Lol!

[@poojadeshmukh5051]

Too much add in d video

[@shubhangipendharkar9866]

What about the wife’s mother? Isn’t the husband’s mother-in-law also responsible?

[@Malaxblr]

Perfect marriage ki definition mai babes sirf paisa uda rahi hai… it won’t work. Now we know how she can create divorces 😅

[@silvepereira9221]

Superb

[@shibnathbanerjee3033]

DEALING WITH NEGATIVITY....... HER FACE HER APPEARANCE IS LITTLE WEIRD.......!!!! FEELING LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE.. .. SORRY TO SAY.

[@duashankargir6927]

True speak Frank with mil & dil in front

[@sayasargam]

Kaam bhi kya diya hai upar wale nein kuch logo ko, ghar todne ka, husband se jyada se jyada paise nikalo, wife kinti bhi qualified jo, marriage kitni bhi short lived ho, usko nakabil dikhao, even when she has no contribution to his success and mother actually deserve more then her, who raised him, when he could only cry and create nuisance.

[@achalagahalot9554]

This man is not allowing her to speak…

[@archanasingh260]

Sometimes prince may be a frog😂😂😂

[@dare15ful]

Pl names mein time waste mat karo when u hv int speaker like Vandana

[@Siddharth-f6y]

Acharya prashant ke age pad mat jaiyega😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@divya4g]

The host is too young to understand the topic itself.😂

[@ayushjoshi6996]

She was saying something important and he started vandy vandy vandy😂 bhai imp topic hai aur tujhe nicknames ki padi hai

[@nannurn5743]

Interviewer has zero listening skill

[@asthaaa204]

Niceee ❤

[@Shabana.mansuri]

Not too ideal there are many which mentioned by vandnaji