aesthetic misogyny

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[@Sly-Moose]

This reminds me of that one video where a CPS worker went to a pro-life protest and started trying to give out flyers to pro-lifers asking them to adopt a foster child, and ALL of the pro-lifers were trying to ignore him! 🤣🤣

[@user-qp3ou7gr6s]

The hypocrites!

[@StickPeeslosh]

Those darn youtubes.

[@Juicedbelmont]

Based CPS

[@pumkitdrawz]

its funny but sad :(

[@commandercorl1544]

"SET UP KIDS FOR ADOPTION, DON'T ABORT!" "Hey! HEY! Would you like to adopt or foster a child in ne-" "No!"

[@tibicenlinnei4014]

A guy broke up with me because I said I refused to change my name if I got married. The reason is my father comitted suicide and I'm the last of his blood family. He was my best friend, and he sheltered me from my narc, abusive mother. He said "Well, you have changed your first and middle name, so what's the difference?" The difference is that it's nearly all I have left of my dad. I said I'd hyphenate out of respect, but never change it. I'm so glad I dodged that toxic mess.

[@Atlas_Quin]

@Tibicen Linnei People like that have always confused me. If I was as close to my dad as you were to yours I would definitely use his name. If my partner and I ever get married we’d probably just come up with an entirely new name or I’d take their name because I don’t want to be connected to my family. Maybe something gothic because they love gothic horror. What someone chooses as their last name should be entirely up to them.

[@thekameru6058]

Oh damn right. I would do the exact same, not because I've lost anyone, but because all my education and professional certs are in my maiden name. Mrs Husbandsname didnt go through heck earning those credentials. MsTheKameru did. The only time I would even begin to consider changing my name would be if they had to do the same. We both made a new name together. And they had to also share all the pain-in-the-assitude of having to get EVERYTHING changed. And of everyone around them having to learn a new name.

[@mariaquiet6211]

He sounds like someone who can't be bothered respecting his partners needs or feelings and I wish him the worst of luck in relationships until he learns.

[@tibicenlinnei4014]

@Maria Quiet he said "you look like a woman so I'm going to refer to you as a woman" when I told him I came out non-binary about 5 years ago and I preferred gender neutral pronouns. He's 5 years my junior (24 and 29). I worry about the younger femmes...these boys think they're owed something they were never entitled to or ever earned.

[@okamiangles7121]

It sounds like you dodged a bullet! If he really cared about you, then he'd respect your wishes to keep your last name.

[@amberbrown1277]

As a woman, I don't want a strong, high-class man. I just want a woman

[@justbinji7718]

My gf said she wants a Binji. I approve.

[@samdoesstuff4924]

i agree. women are so beautiful

[@thepinecone5211]

Agreed 😌

[@samdoesstuff4924]

i just got reminded of this reply i made i have a girlfriend now lol after all this time i finally found her 🥰🥰🥰

[@FerretsFromTheSewers]

YES

[@RedDeadReverie]

“Pro-life” or forced-birthers are so hypocritical. I got pregnant on birth control. I had an abortion because I knew I couldn’t afford to take care of a child and the foster care system is extremely abusive. Me and my fiancé agree it was the right decision for the time and we’ll choose to have kids when we’re ready.

[@raccon7344]

my mom had me on birth control and had my lil bro after taking the morning-after pill, forced birthers dont get that with people who r rly fertile like my mom birth controls sometimes dont even work also. im glad u came to a decision like that cus kids r rly expensive and take up a lot of time. it's a good decision i hope u a good life and a good day my friend:]/gen/pos

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The world was robbed of a Savannah Ariel Mermaid. It’s the perfect name. Also, the initials spell out SAM.

[@cuppachar201]

Miss Mermaid.. it would also be a fantastic name for school teacher

[@TheQueerKiwi]

my initials actually are SAM ! and it was done on purpose too, since my parents did their wedding vows to green eggs and ham (sam i am (“i will love you here and there, i will love you anywhere”)) my name has lots of stories

[@cuppachar201]

@@TheQueerKiwi that's really cool!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@TheQueerKiwi OMG this is so cute. I’ve crumbled like a cookie.

[@kimarna]

@@TheQueerKiwi your parents sound amazing tbh and they did an amazing job raising you too UwU

[@simplestupiduwu4259]

My misogynist dad told me I’m feeding my brain with nonsense cause I called out his shit one time-

[@nohintshere]

yum yum tasty nonsense

[@alienenby]

@@nohintshere my favorite snack

[@Romanticoutlaw]

if you've been compliant and easygoing with people for most of your life, they're going to see you as a villain if you give them even the slightest pushback. It's exhausting.

[@Tadfafty]

Those are the cases when I like to give people long condescending talks.

[@moonstrifflimestone5493]

Oof man that sucks, sorry you went through that. I'm lucky that one of the only times I pushed back against my dad's misogyny I had my sister to back me up.

[@Isabella_lovely]

People are making their aesthetic misogyny? Isn't an aesthetic supposed to be appealing to some extent?

[@inksansbutangsty7984]

Yah they’re trying (and failing) to disguise it as sort of an aesthetic which is just cringe lol

[@raincandy1653]

But the misogyny is appealing! To incels and neckbeards.

[@ginger6readspaceman]

Methinks it's not that they are making "their aesthetic" misogyny in the "Cottagecore is my aesthetic" or "That bag is my aesthetic" way. But she's trying to maker her misogyny aesthetic. Like spraying perfume on dog shit. Yes it may smell better, but it's still shit

[@petrify4814]

The term misogynist was created by men, during a time when they wouldn't let women ride trains because they thought moving that fast would cause the uterus to violently eject from the body, to describe men who hated women so much that other men were bothered by it. How the fuck did we get here?

[@MewLime]

It’s appealing to tradwife losers lmao.

[@rune8115]

misogyny but make it ✨pretty✨

[@inksansbutangsty7984]

NO BUT LIKE FR 💀💀💀💀

[@wren_.]

👼💕misogyny✨🎀

[@HALOSnHORNS]

Misogyny for the Mrs. 🩷💖💝

[@anti-usernamesaltaccount3623]

Dog shit but make it smell good

[@justbinji7718]

A feminine misogyny 😍🥰💖🎀

[@aquarium8650]

As a trans man who isn't out IRL and so is affected by misogyny, I always feel included when watching your videos. thank you :)

[@pencilonpaper1026]

I feel the same ❤

[@screamsformemes]

same we're so valid

[@partyhardy4942]

@Ville Well yeah, trans men and non-binary people with a uterus can get pregnant. Not a lot of us want to, but some do.

[@Saturnm0ss]

@Ville yup

[@haz.fellie]

@Ville stop you're so boring

[@Rei-1200]

I feel like it’s soooo easy for young women to get sucked down this “divine feminine” “a truly masculine man will let you lean into your femininity” repackaged misogyny type bull shit so thank you so much for shedding a light on how easy to pick apart these takes really are

[@starsinthedark9741]

The divine feminine thing isn't talked about enough. It really is starting to sound like misogyny repackaged as female empowerment.

[@kquinnvandevelde1384]

When you get married, you should have to make a ship name with your surname (like the example of your parents mixing their names to be mermaid)

[@wren_.]

What if you just switched the last names

[@kquinnvandevelde1384]

@@wren_. even better. And for each kid, you pick one of them out of a hat

[@joccoakirkpatrick2183]

I am totally going to do this

[@c.w.8200]

I've always said this, my bf is middle eastern and I'm german so the result would be especially interesting 😂

[@Romanticoutlaw]

not me stealing this concept for a fictional universe

[@skimmilk8096]

thought this said "atheistic misogyny" what did i even think that meant?? like "god may not tell u that a woman should serve her husband but i sure as hell will"

[@hellsingmongrel]

Oh, people like that exist, they just try to base their misogyny in outdated theories about evolution and biology from the 1800's.

[@Rei-1200]

This just made me laugh so hard

[@delicateghoul]

"fuck God and women's rights" I guess 🤷

[@anjabartlog496]

lol that's like SUCH a type of guy that exists though too

[@MewLime]

incelcore.

[@passionate_possum_pal]

Best swimmer is a man? If he's referring to that one trans girl that got really famous because she started competing on the women's swim team, she's 42nd in the country. Not even the world, the country.

[@captaincaspian42]

The strongest Olympic female swimmer, Katie Ledecky, is assigned female but has a lot of muscle mass and is older than other Olympic athletes, so she is often called a "man" or a trans woman in a derogatory sort of way, despite her being assigned female at birth. She just isn't respected because she's aged and she's muscular, with multiple christain news channels saying that "natural" women shouldn't age like that or have the capability to be absolutely jacked.

[@loverrlee]

@@captaincaspian42 Wow that’s so messed up. Terfs aren’t even only going after trans women, they go after any woman not blessed with a “feminine” enough body. So cruel. We can’t all be born super models. 😭

[@anjanakulkarni813]

@@captaincaspian42 0p0pp000000]9

[@mimo__.-]

​@@captaincaspian42 wow, do you know the name of some of those Christian channels? I wanna see if that's like actually real

[@frownyclowny6955]

@@captaincaspian42his is nowhere near uncommon in women’s sports. Any women who starts winning and has defined muscles gets called trans (as if that’s a bad thing in any way) because they’re trying to delegitimize her as a winner

[@onlyfoes]

Exactly it's about FREE choice. If women are free to choose to stay at home then that's totally fine. But if they're pressured to do so by society (for example because of "cultural norms") then it's clearly not. Staying in your parents home until you're married and then becoming part of the husband's family only, is still a cultural norm in many parts of the world. Does that sound like a free choice to you? It's more like a trade (and you're the property) from one family which has control over your life to another.

[@buttwhytho3132]

Everybody knows women are objects close me on its 2023 get with the times

[@hamman4407]

If you think there can ever be NO "social norms", you are an idiot.

[@onlyfoes]

@@hamman4407 didn't say that. But a society which allows the individual to decide these things without the fear of social stigmata is obviously the better one.

[@b.e.a.n.s_]

Speaking of sex education, when I was a sophomore in a CHRISTIAN HIGH SCHOOL we still didnt learn how you could get pregnant. No one was allowed to talk about it, everyone was very Christian. Including my parents, who didn't teach me wtf was going on. I am a lesbian and found out through youtubers like you. But when I was a sophomore, I didn't know queer people existed. I was having strong feelings towards this girl in my class, she was very kind and attractive. We decided to mess around, but WE WERE BOTH SCARED OF GETTING PREGNANT IF WE WERE BOTH UN-CLOTHED. THAT IS HOW BAD THE EDUCATION IS. (At least where I live) Btw I am 19 now and have experimented n shit and also found out I am demisexual and non binary! I hope that the future generations get better education all around, and I hope they don't grow up in fear of what they are feeling and don't feel like they are going to be dragged down to hell for kissing a girl :D

[@LadyVandMrT]

Wow. Insane!

[@binghamguevara6814]

i stopped reading at lesbian. you are the worst generation ever.

[@b.e.a.n.s_]

@@binghamguevara6814 lmao why are you on this channel then 💀 most of us on here are queer. Maybe you just have internalized homophobia? Love ya 🤟😘🏳️‍🌈🧑‍🤝‍🧑🏳️‍⚧️

[@binghamguevara6814]

@@b.e.a.n.s_ So you’re a demisexual, non binary, lesbian trans? Is the right! Is that what you are ?

[@b.e.a.n.s_]

@@binghamguevara6814 being non binary is under the trans umbrella. Yes I am a lesbian. Lesbian means a non man loving a non man. Non binary is when you don't fit into either of the gender binaries. Being demisexual is on the asexual spectrum. It means that you experience sexual attraction, but only towards those that you have formed a bond with, like close friends. Oh an I forgot to mention I am polyamorous, which means that I can have many sexual/romantic partners and not be uncomfortable. You are getting it! I'm so proud 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️❤️

[@c.m.9369]

„Hey gents. Your children, they are not your dad‘s children. They are your wife‘s children. They should have last name.“ Would love to hear these idiots argument against THIS version. Ought to be good. Obviously, your children aren‘t really the woman‘s or the man‘s property. They are not „yours“ in any real sense. Just wanted to point out how easy it is to break this argument by simply flipping around the nouns in the argument.

[@saturngirl3748]

Yeah there both parents but they don't own children there not slaves you still have to parent them in such a way were they have options and choices men also do not make the children they just donated the sperm to us so that the mother could make it into a child. And sense she made it that means she did the work and labor to create it so logically it would make more sense for the wife to name it and give it her last name sense she is the giver of life and he's just helping her out. That's like paying the construction sweeper more then the builder it just doesn't work that way. If he wants credit for those children then she should be able to drop the kids off on him too now sense they have to take his last name then they should go to his house and she can mail them a check.

[@c.a.t.reviews1237]

All men are their fathers' children, and to be an ideal father, you need a wife. in western culture, the women mostly take husband's name. All children are basically property because if you harm them or they harm others before they are of legal age to be held personally liable for whatever they do good or bad. Its entirely on the parents.. If they turn out to be shitheads in most cases the parents are blamed for raising terrible citizens. But once the kids become adults the shame can be redirected to the proper target depending on circumstances.

[@pokemonfreak6669]

I've been married going on 10 years soon and we don't want children. I hate how they think just because I'm a woman I should be obligated to have children. Also, I think it's so funny you would use the broken ankle analogy seeing as I fractured mine a couple of weeks ago lol

[@Moon_x_sun]

Exsctly women arent baby-factories! I hope your ankle is healing fine ❤

[@okamiangles7121]

That's a weird coincidence! 😁 Good luck. I hope it heals well!

[@pokemonfreak6669]

@@okamiangles7121 lol thanks

[@pokemonfreak6669]

@@Moon_x_sun thank you

[@Saturnm0ss]

Exactly! I don't want kids not do I even believe in marriage, but my own parents STILL say “oh you'll meet the right person” or “you don't know if that's what you want for the rest of your life” like yes. I do. I haven't wanted kids for 11 years now. It's not going to change. Hope you ankle heals by the way! Sorry for the rant

[@presentlycrescent]

The raw power of “the only way to avoid risk is to die” I actually spat it took me so much by surprise

[@user-qp3ou7gr6s]

My condolences to all the women that have to take 5 mins for granted

[@nehmchan]

I gave my son my maiden name since I'm divorced and his father (not my ex) never saw him and was abusive. He is MY son. 🥰

[@leankestols5009]

My mom also gave me her last name and I have always been proud to have it.

[@professorfoxtrot]

Yikes.

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@professorfoxtrot yeah it is scary that abusive men like OP’s ex exist

[@zombioric5890]

You go Alyssa! I hope you and your son are doing good ❤

[@professorfoxtrot]

@@emilybarclay8831 I still think the child should keep the man's name.. No hyphenated names.... that's unwieldly.

[@kimarna]

It's never too young to teach about consent, and not just for sex but all consent. Also boundaries and schools should teach red flags and how healthy relationships and boundaries work

[@brendawalton2518]

My husband actually did change his last name before we got married (expensive). We now have 2 kids and all 4 of us have the same last name.

[@thekameru6058]

Ooo he un-ironically sounds like a keeper

[@Otterwithadarkside]

I don't really know how it works on other countries but in most of Latin America we get both last names Although usually the father's last name goes first

[@onlyfoes]

This tradition probably came from Spain. It's the same there.

[@JesterQueenAnne]

@@onlyfoes came from way before Spain existed, it's an Iberian tradition that also exists in Portugal and Brazil.

[@aaronburrwaitsforit]

ever since I started learning Spanish I've been taken in by the idea of that, both because I like the sound of my mother's maiden name more than my father's pretty common surname and I always wished I had the same surname as my mother (she hyphenated), so finding out that's what some cultures do by default made me very happy, it's also what I want to do for my children, to give them both my surname and the surname of my partner

[@kyaevus4850]

"If a man only loves me because I obey him, he doesn't really love me, he loves power" OOF that hit home, damn. Love all of your videos, keep up the good work!

[@Nylak-Otter]

I mean, my offspring isn't the offspring of my partner's father, either. Ew. Imagine the implications.

[@UlexiteTVStoneLexite]

My husband hated his last name and my last name is cool so we kept my last name and he took it as well. Our second option was to make up a name but we figured we might as well just keep my name because as my husband said it sounds sophisticated

[@Lexouchan]

The baby thing doesn't only conflict with couple that doesn't want any children, but also the ones that don't want any more. Imagine they have two children and cannot afford to have more because of their limited income ... Here, a family unit that fit their weird conservative heterenormative standard and still badly affected by their weird view on sex and abortion.

[@LadyVandMrT]

Or people who want to abort kids with genetic defects. That's me and my huzzie. We can't afford the childcare for a child with special needs, but genetic testing is covered by our insurance. There is just no need to bring a child into this world to suffer anymore.

[@caidalee1994]

I think it’s also much more romantic to both hyphenate your last names or mix them into a new one. A true bonding of your identities as partners instead of one becoming the other’s. A memento of your love written down everywhere.

[@rachel3760]

I'm getting married next year and neither one of us is changing anything. People are constantly asking me about it and are shocked when I say I'm keeping my name. They always have the stupidest opinions on it. "Well you have a sister so you must want to preserve your father's name." No I just don't want to change my name. The name is mine not his. I've had it all my life and I am my own person, independent from my father. "You should combine last names." No I don't want to have a new last name. I'm not becoming a new person so why would I need a new name. People's brains really start to implode when they're confronted with the idea that a woman's identity and sense of self doesn't change with marriage.

[@m0rkm0rk]

Right on time for me to eat with a video

[@iclynnx]

Great timing, because I was eating too. I was being healthy and ate a banana.

[@victorlannister5606]

Honestly same!!

[@zeeeerrroookoo]

same same!

[@m0rkm0rk]

I had an egg with mozzarella, bell peppers, and spinach on rice

[@undyingUmbrage413]

formaggio pfp?

[@jh1244]

honestly that last one got me. i actually did have to deal with a broken ankle forever cause i was told i was at fault for it. walked on it for almost a decade before i finally gave nobody a choice in my going to a doctor for it. damage was done by then though. ill have arthritis in it and limp for the rest of my life. now im married in texas and the other part is what were dealing with. neither one of us wants kids. so I'm told that we better not do anything, cause if we do and i end up pregnant then I "took that risk". but at the same time im CONSTANTLY told by family that i NEED to perform my "wifely duties" for him, when he wants, regardless of anything else. We'd love to know which it is. Our current plan is surgery, but its absolutely ridiculous that we have to go to that extreme because so many people apparently have a say in our marriage and future family plans

[@lanskandal1181]

How did people justify that it was your fault for having a broken ankle?? I didn't even know you could have a broken bone for that long. That's horrible! And even if you broke your ankle through carelessness, what kind of monster would deny you medical care? Aah! That sounds like a horrible situation! I hope you're able to stay safe in Texas. Have you considered long term methods of birth control?

[@jh1244]

@@lanskandal1181 it was when i was in school and it happened when a bully pushed me off of a VERY steep hill/mini cliff. the thought process was i clearly faking it for attention and it wasnt hurt at all (so they made me do P.E.), and even if it was it wasnt that bad since i could do P.E, and even if it was i probably did something to make him mad and push me. it eventually tried to heal itself but it didnt heal completely/correctly since i was continually walking/running on it, so it grew bone spurs. I'm hoping im able to stay safe too. Theres been a few ideas thrown around about long term methods, but the surgery is the only one thats guaranteed (save for an act of god/"miracle"), and unfortunately a 1% chance is too much in texas now

[@AlLeDrgon]

If I remember correctly, Historically having the same last name go on for generations is actually a little bit more of a new thing. In history there was actually a tradition that the last name was usually a combination of the last name of your father and the last name of your mother.

[@melindaschink6072]

Depends on where you live. Some of my Norse ancestors have last names that are the parent's first name + their relationship to the parents, like Larsson/Larsdotter. Some last names come from the town or village of birth, like DaVinci.

[@Moon_x_sun]

@@melindaschink6072i was about to comment this, and i would like to Add that to see the -daughter endings are sadly rare now except for in iceland wich is keeping it going but in other Nordic countries (like Denmark) its only the -son ending bc of the ‘women taking their husbands last name and giving that to their children’ thing

[@beththedarkmage3359]

@@melindaschink6072 It's the same in Scotland/Ireland! Maybe it's a Pagan tradition?

[@Atlas_Quin]

@Melinda Schink Where I live, a lot of people have last names based on where they come from. Like LaBrie and DeRouen (some people like myself don’t always capitalize after the first letter though)

[@onlyfoes]

In Spain it was usual (maybe still is) that a child has the last name of father's and mother's side. Plus two or even three first names. So a lot when introducing yourself correctly ^^

[@FeministCatLadySpinster]

"Obey" "submit" .... if someone wants to live like that, okay, but why do they feel the need to try and convince other women to live that way? ... and why is it always men and women trying to convince other women they need to submit to a man for happiness and fulfillment??

[@frog3262]

RIGHT??

[@MewLime]

it’s soooo creepy.

[@TheRealOceanicDreams]

I agree.

[@TheRealOceanicDreams]

@@MewLime Happy to see another earthbound/MOTHER series fan!

[@diamondgirl698]

Looking at how it's a kink for so many people then looking at it outside of that kink context is a huge clarifier And only makes it that much weirder and creeper

[@Sly-Moose]

I'm still laughing about the "five minutes" 🤣🤣🤣 That dude can only last five minutes?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@DarkFleurofIra]

When a microwave dinner cooks longer than this guy lasting, he may have a hella problem

[@KaylaNoelle1]

My parents decided to give me a combo of my mom's last name then a hyphen and then my dad's last name. I actually love it because it's extra long and it makes me sound important ... like a law firm or something. And I have yet to find anyone who has my last name, it's really unique to me.

[@GraupeLie]

Another thing the pro-life folks always tend to forget is, what about victims of rape or what if there are medical reasons for an abortion? And it seems they always forget that there's such a thing as contraception. It's not like if abortion is legal, everyone will run and get an abortion every month.

[@Sly-Moose]

That reminds me of that one video where a CPS worker went to a pro-life protest and started trying to give out flyers to pro-lifers asking them to adopt a foster child, and ALL of the pro-lifers were trying to ignore him! 🤣🤣

[@DarkFleurofIra]

The forced-birthers also tend to forget that married people get abortions, like marrying off everyone isn't gonna stop abortions

[@GraupeLie]

@@Sly-Moose I believe I've seen a video like that...

[@GraupeLie]

@Elisabeth Cooley true!

[@nutella7162]

True, one ""argument"" I constantly hear is "if we don't fight back, all these loose modern whores who sleep around and go to abort every month like a contraception method will keep doing it" and I don't know what to say to a person who's THAT out of touch with reality. They also easily forget that just because something is technically not banned (or is legal on paper), it doesn't make it possible to go through with it in reality. My country literally had a pretty big scandal regarding a woman who was granted the permission to abort a severly sick fetus that could've killed her as well and every single doctor in several hospitals refused to do it. The woman literally had certified documents for an abortion (which is legal in my country) but everyone just said "nope". It's also close to impossible to abort THAT often without anyone knowing. All doctors keep data about the abortions (how was it conducted, info about the patient, time, date, location etc.) and that being a "common occurence" as they portray it, is as absurd and factually incorrect as it gets. One single woman has an abortion maybe one time in her entire life. Most never do it. And those who do it, are in most cases either married and already have kids and can't/don't want to have more, are victims of a crime, minors or medically required to have one to save their own life. No one just waltzes in a hospital, asks for an abortion, no questions asked, and gets one asap. It's not a fuckin fruit market for hells sake

[@Burscutum]

Idiots who say "you accept the risk of pregnancy and choose to have sex. 0.001% risk is still choosing to risk it" is like blaming a person for getting hit by a truck crossing the street in a crosswalk when they have the right of way. Just because they did everything in they reasonably could to prevent being run over, they still decided to step foot in the road! They were practically asking to be mowed down!! Thinking like that is so moronic its pitiful.

[@lemonace6695]

I never understood the last name debate because here on Brazil normally each parent chooses one of their last names and the kids have both

[@ybotira2971]

Literally me. My mom has 1 last name, my father has 2, so I have 3 last names. Way to solve it, simple math :)

[@audilly_4716]

@@ybotira2971 Wait so if you met someone with 3 last names would your kid have 6?

[@rayssasantos6815]

@@audilly_4716 no,the child would have one of the surnames

[@claratalbot7613]

I 100% agree about the homemaker one. As long as it's the person's choice then they should be allow to be the homemaker. Just like no-one should be forced to be a homemaker we shouldn't be forcing people to focus on a career if they want to be a homemaker

[@squish154]

You tube recently recommended to me a video calling you a crazy feminist. I now know that you tube recommends to me stuff with specific people in it, regardless of what it's about. All this time I thought it was based on types of content.

[@LadyVandMrT]

I'm not sure how KZbin concludes I'd like something either. Sometimes I like the creator overall, but dislike the individual videos it suggests. I can't get that terrible, bad-science narcissism channel to stop showing up in my feed no matter what I do. It's nuts

[@squish154]

@@LadyVandMrT weird.

[@gentlemangaga4019]

Never thought I'd hear the sentence "We use 'women' all the time," in a context where it's not just misogynistic

[@cosmicmattie1202]

my uncle was taking to my dad about how his son (my cousin) is the family’s last chance to pass on the family name and when I was like “hello? I exist” my uncle said I didn’t count bc I’m a woman

[@magix8009]

Sometimes when I encounter misogynists and whatnot in the comments on youtube in general and I get upset, I go and watch your videos and they make me feel so much better

[@Princessbuttercupish]

I never changed my surname when I got married because I'd rather keep the name I've always had, but I gave my son his father's last name. My only real reason - it was shorter and going to be easier to communicate over the phone when they say 'how do you spell that'.

[@TheQueerKiwi]

my mum also kept her name and gave my sister and i my dad’s. her reason however was “we know i’m the mother, i carried you, that’s my proof. this is your dad’s contribution and proof of parent.” but she says she regrets it now lol

[@kimarna]

Same reason my sister gave her daughter the dad's last name even tho she kept her maiden name this time (2nd marriage and changed back after first) Our last name is double-barrelled and hard to spell, so they gave her the short simple last name

[@SwimmingInSunlight]

Complete sidetangent but at 7:38 I'm so delighted with the misnomer of bread-runners instead of bread-winners 😂

[@lindsaylamy4498]

Post: "ladies, your children are not your father's children" Me: Yeah, they're his grandchildren

[@rowangothic]

tbh I would certainly _hope_ they're not the fathers children, because if they were that would be EXTREMELY messed up 😬

[@einsteinapproved]

My sibling and I agree that if we ever get married, we'll pick whichever last name sounds cooler for ourselves.

[@izzybobizzyy]

oh my god i thought you were talking about marrying your sibling at first i was so concerned but then i read the second part

[@einsteinapproved]

@@izzybobizzyy omg i don't even want to imagine that no no no

[@Thi-Sen]

That little rant at the end was exactly what I needed to hear today. I feel so validated right now.

[@screamsformemes]

Hearing about people have been broken up over something as personal as their name...Blows my damn mind like these are real life people clowning around.. So glad i dont have anyone in my life thats this shitty smdh

[@lucys1255]

I think coming up with a new last name is cool, but to me I wouldn’t do it because I have had family members have to forcibly change their last names to avoid prosecution, so I want to hold onto it because it means so much more to us.

[@ripwednesdayadams]

Mermaid as a last name would have suited you so well! You have such a lovely ethereal vibe. 🌈 ✨

[@jaspercat6407]

At 10:29 It’s estimated to be 2-5%, of the population, or 1 in 50 people to 1 in 20.

[@LadyVandMrT]

Can you cite this? I've only ever heard the 1% statistic, and this seems incredulously high.

[@jaspercat6407]

@@LadyVandMrT I originally heard it in a tiktok, and I googled it and there are multiple credible sources saying that it’s about 2-5%, but with more and more research they’re becoming “more lenient” with what’s considered intersex, so the 1% may be accurate when simply describing someone with mix genitalia or internal reproductive organs that don’t match their external reproductive organs.

[@LadyVandMrT]

@@jaspercat6407 ok, I could buy that. I'll have to revisit my research on the subject, see if I can't get to the bottom of the discrepencies here.

[@JacJacZackie09]

I'm thinking about changing my last name to Spring cause like I'm not a big fan of my father's last name lol

[@berpfulu]

Love your earrings ohmygosh ✨️

[@RedMoon814]

It took me a long understand that some people change their name when they're married. Here, in Latin America both parters keep their last name, and the children usually take the father's last name (but I have seen hyphenated and double surnames as well). The only exception is my grandma who has a long complicated surname so she introduces herself as "of [grandfather's surname]". To change your last name for your husband's always seemed creepy to me, not only because it looks like you married your sibling but because It's usually the women who change and it it reeks of misogyny (you strip part of your identity to have a new "owner" - from father to husband - ). I have my father's last name (and I love it, it's fun). But I think It would be better to have both surnames (hyphenated or not) / have an equal chance of having any of the parent's surname (not always default to father) Also making a new surname (bonus points if it's an approximate combination of the parent's names) sounds really fun, I don't know about it's practicality but I'm in 😆

[@CarolaTesla]

Not in all of Latin America, Chile has a very advance lastname system 💅 we all have two lastnames, and parents can pick which one goes first, if they don't reach an agreement, then the first lastname is picked using a coin xD you can also change your lastname to any of your parents or grandparents lastname

[@RedMoon814]

@@CarolaTesla That's amazing, I didn't know that was Chile's system. My experience is just from Argentina ^^ so it's cool to know of more countries that have different ways of doing things

[@silaba1x641]

En Argentina solo tenéis un apellido?? Que raro, pensaba que en todos los países hispanos era como la primera respuesta dijo.

[@RedMoon814]

@@silaba1x641 En argentina la mayoría de las personas tiene un apellido. También he visto algunos combinados apellido1-apellido2 o unas pocas personas que tienen varios [apellidos] (pero a veces esto generaba problemas con documentos legales porque solo les ponían un apellido). Así que tener mas de un apellido sería posible pero no es lo común. Aclaro que esto es solo mi experiencia personal, no se cuales son las leyes respecto a apellidos

[@hyunjinsanity]

Just in time for baking! (I'm aware it's almost 9:30pm but I'm a night owl lmao)

[@inksansbutangsty7984]

I fr forgot that time zones existed for a second lol 💀

[@abbytheabomination1791]

@@inksansbutangsty7984same it’s only 4:45 here

[@hyunjinsanity]

@@inksansbutangsty7984 lmao 😂😂 I'm on UK time haha

[@nriamond8010]

I love the option of creating a new name - my husband's and my name combined would sound really cool (it would be an old poetic name for fox). Sadly, I'm German and my country has super strict naming laws (for example, you are stuck with your prenames forever and you can't give a hyphenated name to your children). But it's even more sad how many husbands-to-be strictly refuse to even think about taking their fiancée's name and don't accept any other option than her taking his name.

[@kaisl3234]

2:40 my family is actually like this- my dad kept his name and my mother took his first name as her last name (which is pretty common around here) but when choosing names for my brother and i, they actually went with different last name that none of my grandparents even have. the name has ancestral roots on both sides of the family (much closer on my dad's side though), but it was dropped a couple of generations ago, so my parents brought it back

[@kaisl3234]

so a lot of the time in school i had to deal with the issue of my teachers referring to my parents as mr. and mrs. [my last name] and i always had to correct them and say no actually my parents both have different last names and so do i!!

[@Alresu]

Everytime somebody says some form of "We are all individuals" I have this impulse to answer "I'm not!"...

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

3:11 IVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR YEARS I'm a gay trans man, and most of my family has treated me or others like shit. Like they're just generally not good people. Very racist, transphobic, homophobic, etc. I want to separate myself from them and start a new legacy while also not doing hyphen stuff because I think that can get complicated. I'll take my partner's name if that's important to them, but I think it would be so much cooler to make one up.

[@TheLizardKing140]

I just finished my annual Gilmore girls watch Literally, not even a full minute ago Fastest time yet too, I think it took 2 weeks, give or take a day or two

[@TheQueerKiwi]

love that for you 🥳

[@toffie2004]

In Sweden , couples can choose a new last name after marrying and I think thats really cool. And I feel like that could become a good option for me and my Swedish Boyfriend, cause I dobt feel like taking his last name that literally means steel neck , and on the other hand I feel like Anton Alfers sounds kinda ridiculous

[@lanskandal1181]

Anton Alfers sounds kinda AWESOME :P

[@_Raven_Dia]

I have both my parent's last name, and honestly, I feel like it's the best alternative, win-win.

[@12thLetterOfTheAlphabetA]

thank you for making me laugh!!❤️❤️

[@pygg_64]

agreed! these videos always make me smile

[@zaplepikachu]

My mom didn't change her last name when she got married, and she wanted to pass down her last name too, so both me and my brother have her last name as our middle name. I think it's a really cool idea if you don't like hyphenated last names.

[@channelname511]

Couldn't you have also done your father's last name as a middle name then your mother's as a surname?

[@Rei-1200]

OH MY GOD IM SO EXCITED YOU ACTUALLY DECIDED TO COVER THIS IM FANGIRLING SO HARD RN

[@passionate_possum_pal]

Five minutes?? That's IT? oh that poor girl

[@toluabodunrin4941]

I love this video! Especially what you were talking about in 9:10, I really liked the points you brought up about nurture bs nature.

[@LunaWitcherArt]

Lucky me in this society, my last name sucks so I'm just gonna take my husband's last name whenever I have the patience to change all my documents. Bonus points for getting rid of my trash father's last name.

[@LadyVandMrT]

Both of you changing it together doesn't take any extra work. You can pick whatever you want! Don't just default into patriarchal systems!! I mean if his name is awesome or there's a good reason to keep it, by all means do that too of course haha

[@nobodyknows6487]

I think it is a nice concept to be able to get rid of both partners last names and choose a new one but sadly that is not an option where i live. Here both partners can choose to keep their birth name or choose either partner's name as the common name. In the latter case the partner whose name wasn't chosen can keep their birth name hyphenated to the new name. I wonder in how many countries it is possible to choose a completely new one.

[@river-collective]

The one post with the "0.0001% chance" or similar sounds like my paranoia. Just the mention of a possibility of me getting pregnant can trigger me. There isn't even an actual possibilty.

[@lilhedgehog8576]

Omg you are so good at picking apart peoples arguments! I wish I was that good!

[@julinksworld9582]

guys, lets start calling pregnant people as egg people, now everyone can be a egg

[@AllergyPuppy]

The abortion tweet is absurd, because the majority of abortions are gotten by women who already have children. Many of which are married. It’s a vital part of family planning, for the single and married. This is also why you see so many conservatives with the mindset of “every abortion is immoral, except my abortion.” Because the issue is a lot simpler if you just focus on demonizing unmarried women instead of trying to understand the actual facts around abortion.

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

My partner and I just smooshed our last names together :)

[@starparodier91]

Love your top! 💜

[@trevorstewart1308]

love your content, thank you

[@hannahkeyton7806]

I love how you say "idea" it's so cute

[@Stereo6400]

if a tweet starts with “ladies” it’s either gonna be the funniest thing you have EVER read or the most misogynistic absolute garbage take

[@RagDollCookie]

RE surnames, I have a friend with the name Boyle, and after many years we found out his mum's maiden name was DIAMOND. Why would she do this?! Always choose the cooler name imo

[@cookieshard3]

you always wear the best tops

[@seacoloredsky]

it's rhetoric like this that makes me want to dissociate from womanhood more atop dysphoria 😍

[@emilybarclay8831]

@Ville better than you

[@jojol.2630]

My head hurts so I can’t make a coherent thought. But I want the person who said the .0001% risk is still a risk to adopt a baby every time they have sex

[@luzlikescats1668]

I, as a woman, can be empowered as a mother, as a business women, as a sex worker, as an artist, as a teacher, as a politician, as anything. I am a human, and I can be empowered doing any job. Any career (which yes, with how much unpaid work mothers do, that is a career of it's own.) The point is that I can choose, and my gender won't affect that choice whatsoever.

[@ampeyro]

First post: Does silly english name shit. Me: *laughs in spanish*

[@theunkindnessofravens]

Funny thing: my parents actually came up with a separate last name after they married, so i have a nice random surname different from both sets of my granparents! My parents didnt do it for the same reson you stated, but i get a cool surname out of it, so im not complaining ;)

[@Sarahthevampyrslayer]

Also, the abortion one, being in love with your partner doesn’t mean you want to have children with them (or anyone). I’ve been with my partner for over 15 years. We’re both madly in love with each other. However, either one of us want kids (right now) and if I were to become pregnant abortion is at the top of our lists of options to deal with the situation. It perpetuates the false narrative that people only get abortions because they’re unhappy or not in love. When we know the reasons are much less black and white than that.

[@Sarahthevampyrslayer]

@Villego beg someone else for attention, weird ass.

[@emilybarclay8831]

@Ville you do

[@zillafied]

2:43 the coolest tho........... is HAVING BOTH LAST NAMES!! i have both my parents last names and my brothers dont and i remember them one time saying they wished they had both last names lmao

[@KingSpadille]

Me and my fiance are doing the last name thing! Both of us hate our last names and settled on the name "Foster" because of Fosters home for Imaginary Friends

[@s0apys0ph1e]

"your children shouldn't carry your fathers last name" jokes on you, I don't even carry my fathers last name!

[@pinkgiraffe378]

God this is just proof that people will try to turn anything into an aesthetic 🤦‍♀

[@Maya-hw2ny]

COMMENTING FOR THE ALGORITHMMMMM hope youre doing alright:)

[@ilikeyoutube7224]

Most abortions are done by middle class, married women who know they cannot provide for a kid. so, exclusively sleeping with ur husband doesnt decrease abortion rates (this statistic is based on memory from wen i was a youth. take it with a grain of salt)

[@krystalrox]

14:56 dear pro car folk your five minutes of travel (driving) doesn't trump the lifespan of a human being that could be killed by our time of travel. "My body my choice" ends when you accept the risk of a car accident and choose to drive. A less than 0.01% is still choosing to risk it

[@moonalisaailen5575]

9:23 giving big slay

[@KeitieKalopsia]

110% agree with the last name thing. It sounds like so much fun and everyone can have their own unique last name. It’s especially good if neither person is fond of their own surname. Really hope this catches on and that if I someday meet someone I want to marry, that they’ll be down for this. My own last name is short, not particularly pretty imo, and has a consonant combination that most people can’t pronounce.

[@kirakp2661]

This video, given my current hrt E journey I'm on now, is giving me what I would have lived with had I been born with ovaries and concentrated E levels... Really eye opening... Complicated

[@redtomatosauce7071]

in brazil we just choose a name for the child, and the other two names are one from the mother's full name and one from the father's full name

[@pinkgiraffe378]

The only consent education I got in school was the tea and consent video, and while yes that's a good analogy we should've had more than like a 5 minute video that a lot of people (particularly the men tbh) laughed at and didn't take seriously.

[@kaylanthewhakywaffle]

Another last name alternation thing I think was putting two last names together Something like this: last name-last name I hope I can explain this correctly since there are some people that have those type of last names