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[@FleaÉire]

It is an Irish Proverb “Do not resent growing old, many are denied the privilege”.

[@serendipity1237]

I lost my 22 year old son after he spent years battling brain cancer. Appreciate every crappy day you’re given on this old ball…

[@goblinshoes9881]

if i passed away young it would be a great privilege to be remembered like this by a friend like you

[@bf4ever472]

I lost my older brother 7 years ago…. I am now older than he was when he passed. It is so hard to fathom.

[@sleepypup]

This comment got me. 😭 I never want to know this feeling and I'm so sorry you have to. ❤ Sending you all the love and light

[@dwill531]

I lost my older brother 4 years ago, and am currently the same age as him when he took his life. It’s truly a strange feeling

[@kimberlynpalmer146]

I’m so sorry for your loss, and I hope you continue to heal.❤️ I lost my brother when I was 8. That was 10 years ago. I turned 18 this year, he was 18 and had graduated high school 3 months before he died. His death didn’t hit me until I was around 15. My family still owns the jeep he died in. I recently bought a jeep after my birthday. I’m in the exact same position he was, when he was taken. It’s so incredibly strange to know someone your age has passed, especially when It is someone who was close to you. It’s so unfortunate that we understand this pain and have to deal with it. They’d be proud of us❤️

[@auntweki]

Ain’t that the truth… I just lost my older sister a year ago and I’m trying to remind myself that so that I can experience new things and allow myself to learn and grow

[@jaimereynolds258]

So sorry for your loss ❤

[@HannahRose19960]

I hear you, hugs to you through difficult times

[@JenniferStewart27]

I lost my sister in 2018 💜 it definitely reminds you that life is too short and to cherish memories in the moment

[@maxfelton-law8495]

I seriously believe this video may have saved my life, I've been battling an unknown illness for the last 6 moths it took a job I love and a part of me in a way but because of it I've always looked ahead negatively rather than putting my effort into helping myself Thank you Adam because now I'm going to take care of my body and love it for what it is because its me and parts of me are parts of people in my family that are no longer here. Thank you mucker. I hope alexander is at peace I feel she would be so proud of you💜

[@swiftieinabottle]

Sending you love and support. ❤

[@JoF999]

There is nothing like the feeling of when you feel betrayed by your own body. I've been there, and I was so angry. It's OK to feel that way and important to grieve. But I spent too long of a time angry and did not take care of myself too, it felt futile and too much of a struggle (some days it still does if I'm honest) but self care of the mind and body (and even basic care of taking water and nutrition) is the greatest love and honour to ourselves and those who love us and those who we have lost. I hope your illness is temporary and or treatable, but I just wanted to say even if like mine it is not, life and our outlook on life can get better. I'm glad you feel inspired by this video and took the time to comment this because you are not alone, and I'm sure many muckers can relate. I wish you the best, ❤.

[@apeiceofgarbage9848]

Your comment is the reason i watched this video and so i thank you for sharing this i needed to hear it in the midst of the existential crisis im having right now my dad passed away 8 years ago and i needed to hear this to remind myself to be greatful for my life

[@maxfelton-law8495]

@@JoF999 its so awful but beautiful because you appreciate each day more i really hope your journey is that of healing positivity and strength

[@maxfelton-law8495]

@@apeiceofgarbage9848 oh im so so sorry for your loss its the best way to look at things. Also dont feel guilty for feeling whatever emotion you are feeling its important take care of yourself

[@corieamell5361]

Lost my dad to cancer two weeks after I turned 18. Talk about a coming of age moment. Grieving can be healthy.

[@roseandlotus]

Lost my dad at 28, I failed my 20’s and had to restart my life. I understand the pain, it’s like they won’t be able to see you spread your wings and do great things. Much love❤

[@ryannbates]

thank you for calling me out on my miserable bs… instead of feeling sorry for myself I should be so grateful to be here. Rest in peace Alexandra ❤

[@CalDeanOffical]

In the clurb we all cry 🩷

[@joleesylvester5164]

Just lost a family member today out of nowhere. Been cycling between feeling grief, shock, numbness, and denial. Thank you for posting this Adam.

[@alythia_uwu]

I am so sorry. I had that happen to me too 4 years ago. Allow yourself to feel all of the emotions.

[@kimberlynpalmer146]

Everyone in the comments is wishing you light and love. Just remember you’re not alone! ❤️

[@omgsavy]

september marked 10 years of my friends passing. like you, i also haven’t been able to find the courage to visit her grave. regardless of time, loss can be a heavy thing to carry - but no matter the weight, i’m willing to carry her with me everywhere i go.

[@alythia_uwu]

I made a video a couple of months ago speaking about aging as well. Aging is a wonderful thing and it's natural, and we're incredibly fortunate to be able to experience it.

[@point92five]

The husband of my sister-in-law passed away last month at 30 y/o from electrocution. Aging really IS a privilege and we have to cherish every day we have on earth with the people we love. Love you Adam❤

[@Fenteous]

Every time someone plays this video, Alexandra hears your prayer. I have no doubt that wherever she is, she can feel the love, not just from you, but extended also from all of us who care about you. I'm so sorry for your loss, Adam. Alexandra is a beautiful soul, and she will always be with you 🫶💌

[@JunkieSama]

My childhood best friend accidentally shot himself in the head when he was 18 back in 2007. I think of him from time to time, and it is still hard to believe he is no longer here. Also his older sister's son died when he was only 3 from a heart condition. Life is extremely fragile and precious, and we never really know when our time will come. Alexandria sounds like she was an amazing friend and person, in general. Growing older IS truly a privilege, and we all need to embrace the fact that every single day we get to walk this earth amongst our loved ones is a blessing.

[@heatherscott9550]

It's called survivors guilt. I am going through those emotions myself, but for my daughter who had brain cancer and my husband who is in his battle now. I'm sending you virtual hugs.

[@yaminogame7805]

today I'm 39..it's my birthday. I was afraid of being 39. I thought welp, I'm officially old now. I have no idea how to be an adult. Or how we got here, but it isn't so bad. I get to go places and do things of my own volition. It's kind of scary still, but not terrible. I get to world travel whenever I'm able, I don't need to ask permission for things like that. I can just do them, and I am grateful for the ability to do so and experience life in other places.

[@personincognito3989]

In the whole scope of things 39 is Young

[@greedbun]

happy birthday!! glad you are here.

[@randomeyeliner]

I'm older than you, and honestly you still have a lot of good stuff ahead of you, I promise. Happy birthday.

[@87atheart]

What an incredible friend Alexandra was. Thank you for reminding this old mucker to appreciate the people in my life. ❤❤❤

[@max_camps_97_liner]

My paternal grandma passed away last month. Four years and two months after my maternal grandmother passed. She was 89 and survived so much and was a fighter. I try to see the positive when everything seems so dark. Appreciating the small things wether its a bird in a tree or the seasons changing or looking at the stars.

[@pseudosalientmashup]

my best friend past away last december. he was such a profound light and his absence felt like complete darkness, but i swear he is still showing up in little ways & i can sense his energy around me almost every day

[@slydakota8143]

My mom passed when I was 1 and my dad passed 2 years ago. I’m barely in my 30s and my family is gone. Thanks for the reminder that it’s all worth it. Love doesn’t go anywhere, now I have more to give to others who need it. I can also give all the love I know my parents had for me to myself ❤

[@Emma_78]

My little cousin passed away in 2021, and he was only 6 years old. It was accidental, and completely devastated my family. Caleb’s death has given me a whole new outlook on life, and a newfound appreciation for it. I miss that little guy. He brought everyone around him joy 🩵

[@KatieCat98]

Im so sorry for your loss. Idk how old you are, but when i was 7 i lost my cousin who was 24 in a car accident and let me tell you our whole family was devastated. But even at that young age i loved my older cousin soo much as i bet your baby cousin loved you ❤

[@Emma_78]

@ I was 17 at the time. I can’t imagine being that 7 years old and dealing with that… I’m so sorry for your loss, I know it couldn’t have been easy for you as it wasn’t for me either. Much love to you ❤️❤️

[@brenleysoccerbee]

“i’m aging and she’s not” :( Adam, i lost a close friend at 12 years old to accidental OD. I know how it feels losing a friend at a young age. It can be hard aging, wondering where they would be in life; cursing the world for taking them away. After he passed I looked for every message, dm, comment, picture, note passed, friendship bracelet, clothes shared, etc… It’s been 9 years and i can’t go down the rabbit hole of the pictures because i will become incredibly sad and just question it all and why he’s not here. But it has taught my life is precious, and to appreciate the people i love while i have them. Tomorrow is never promised. I can also understand blocking out the bad moments, fights, treating them negatively in any way. It’s hard to accept you can’t change what’s been done. when they’re gone what’s done is done. It’s really hard especially when you’re so young and just want another chance with your friend. Sending you love 💜

[@Willow_moon364]

I 100% believe your friend is watching over you and is along for the ride. One of the best friends i ever had, passed away at 19. We started off as colleagues, I'm 10 years older and never thought we would have anything in common. After she got ill again, i basically asked what i could do and she just wanted to go out and enjoy life. I was always so anxious to do social things and hated eating out etc, but then it wasn't about me and we went out all the time. She taught me to embrace life again in a way I'd forgotten. The year she passed, i travelled around Europe. The last time we text was when i was on a train through Italy, passing the mountains. I had the song Landslide in my head by Fleetwood Mac. That song always shows up in public places when im having a bad day. There was also a musician who was recording a video for her at the exact time she passed, that song followed me even before i knew that story. Years later, that musician walked into my workplace one day and i told him who my friend was and he remembered, was really sweet and took a selfie with me and gave me a hug. I don't believe these little things are coincidence. I think our loved ones play a part in our lives when they have passed. Because of her, i also want to say, in adulthood don't be closed off to having friends of different ages or interests as they might end up being important in your life. Its completely normal to feel all the feelings about being here when others aren't. I often think why am i here when i can feel depressed and negative when my friend who was a ray of sunshine isn't.....but i know she wouldn't want me to feel that and all we can do is try to do our best and honour how we feel as a normal part of life. I don't know if this makes sense, but i feel privileged that you've shared with us about your friend and like we know a tiny piece about her through you talking about your friendship. I love that she gave you the envelopes and that the events have happened. Do you have any of them left to cross off the list/that you haven't opened yet?

[@dylanturnidge]

ty so much for making this. I have a neuro disease that may very well NOT be fatal, but it’s one that could literally cause me to pass at any point in time within minutes just bc my brain might just give up on me 💀 and i’m upset with myself that THAT is what really showed me to be grateful for every day. i’m so sorry for your loss- and im glad you’re honoring her and thinking about her and this video is so important and motivating (also NO ONE FEEL BAD FOR ME LMAO anyone reading this i love you and im glad you’re here)

[@kimberlynpalmer146]

I don’t feel bad for you, because you are a kind and inspiring person. Thank you for being vulnerable and uplifting other commenters. You’re strong and you’re gonna whoop that diseases ass. Even if it never goes away, you will always be stronger than it.

[@dylanturnidge]

@@kimberlynpalmer146 omg thank YOU!! that is literally the sweetest comment I’ve ever gotten, thank you so much for uplifting others too, ur right i’ll kick this disease in the ass LMAO 💪

[@kimberlynpalmer146]

@@dylanturnidge Wishing you all the best!!🧡

[@kota.smusic3712]

I lost a friend to suicide on Sunday, and I didn’t know it was them until two days later. They were so sweet, and deserved so much more. I’ve found that people at my university are very kind and thoughtful, as they have made a memorial where they were found and even scheduled a vigil

[@maggieyarbrough9637]

i got only a couple weeks into jumping off the deep end and getting a master’s degree abroad when i got randomly sick and had a traumatic hospital stay about a month ago and im really, REALLY struggling to come back from it. ive been not enjoying the thing that i paid a bunch of money and took giant risks to come and do. but this perspective, from one kid who got to become a young adult to another, has knocked a little bit of sense into me. thank you mucker for sharing and for accompanying me at all my mealtimes and study session breaks and ADHD tasks!!!

[@InvaderxxZim]

I'm so sorry for your loss Adam ❤ My mom just died unexpectedly a month ago. I can't even begin to comprehend all of the moments and milestones she's going to miss in my life, from marriage to children and questions I'll never be able to ask her. I am struggling with my decision to not visit her as often as I could have because I was "busy" with my own life and I'd see her "next year" or "next Christmas" etc. Loss really gives you a wake up call to slow down and cherish what you have and your time with loved ones.

[@pixie9499]

i always feel so selfish when i hear stories like this & start thinking about my chronic illness. in a way it inspires me to not give up & keep fighting for myself bc we don’t all get to. RIP Alexandra🫶🏻❤️

[@classicstrawberry6633]

I don't think it's selfish, I think it's important to have conversations like this. There are some things that are easier to talk about to strangers, especially as a more or less anonymous comment, rather than to family/friends. I feel talking about our own mortality and overall death is still dismissed and slapped with the good ole "don't think like that you're so long/have so much ahead of you". People don't like talking about it because it's scary, and chronic illnesses can be even scarier and harder for people to come to terms with, especially a fatal one or one that drastically lowers your quality of life. Most of us are sheltered from death so much as kids that now as adults we don't know how to confront it or how to comfort someone who is dealing with death or a rough diagnosis. Even as someone with multiple chronic illnesses I have to remind myself it's okay if I'm not okay, it's okay to be upset, it's okay to feel okay one day and horrible the next, it's okay to be angry about it too. Death is something that affects more than just us, it can affect people we've never met who hear our stories, struggles, and pains. So no it is not selfish, sharing our own struggles is a way of not just being vulnerable but showing you understand in your own way and that you're open to the conversations to come. Hearing others stories can help someone cope or even get the help they need. So please remember, as long as it isn't your personality/only topic you speak on it isn't selfish and let your voice be heard.

[@erindeen3636]

I am not high enough for this 😅 you hurt my soul. Ive been wanting to live my life. Im 27 and I JUST started living. Embrace life with open arms, you only get one chance.

[@kellybelle98]

This made me think of that Kacey musgraves song, deeper well- “when I turned 27 everything started to change…”

[@greedbun]

hey fellow 27 year old. i also just started living. i barely put together some idea of what i actually want to do with my life. Keep on going.

[@erindeen3636]

@@greedbun we got this! It’s never too late to be happy 😊

[@erindeen3636]

@@kellybelle98 never heard it but I’ll look it up!

[@thegoldsaturn]

The Substance is such a good lesson of a movie that addresses the context of this video.

[@PrettyMuchJesus]

I needed this video so bad, I have both lost a friend this year and turned 30, and everything you said and then some has been crippling me the past several months. Thank you for being vulnerable talking about this, because I think we forget, myself especially, how much we all have in common. I feel a lot less alone tonight 💜💜💜 thanks

[@CalDeanOffical]

17:24 honestly I feel the same way about my dad who’s life got cut short as he always told me to live for him- I know it’s a very different situation but my heart goes out for you and just as your friend said you’ve got this! Love and support your channel for a few years now and seeing your Channel grow has been amazing 👏💐❤

[@oliviamessmer1238]

I just lost my cousin who was 24, and I’m 22. I haven’t seen her in years and now I never will. She was killed by an unstable roommate who proceeded to take their own life after. I always looked up to her even though I never got to be around her for extended periods of time, and the day she was killed I was talking about her and how much I miss that side of my family. She’s the only cousin I had around my age, but because of family tension and distance I never got to know her that well beyond some time in childhood when we were good friends. It’s hard to believe she’s gone, she didn’t deserve this, and I yearn for a reality where we could be reunited as grown people.

[@vegasplats]

That couch looks so unbelievably comfy 😭 I need it

[@greedbun]

Something I heard in a video I watched lately. A creator by the name of Paristtmpped. "We often forget that when we show up for an experience, it's not the situation or the place itself that makes the experience. WE are the experience". Rest in piece Alexandra. I'm sorry for your loss.

[@BrynnSasha191]

It absolutely is an amazing privilege. I will forever be grateful

[@Littlemollyann]

I lost my 26 year old boyfriend of 2 years just this August while he was running and had a cardiac arrest. Life is too short and I’m trying really hard to not be guilty in surviving while he doesn’t get to. It’s a constant battle in my mind that if he’s gone I shouldn’t get to be happy. I know he would want me to be happy though and I sense him with me the same way you sense your friend. ❤

[@simpcity8811]

my best driend died in jan ‘23 from a car accident he was 18 . changed my life and death perspective

[@Sillybear23]

I was diagnosed with stage 3 skin cancer at 19 during the peak of the pandemic. You dont expect to have to contemplate freezing your eggs and not having enough time left in your teens and twenties.

[@meerlovesliv]

the why they’re not here thing is me w my ex best friend shes not dead ofc but damn i miss her and that hit for me when u said that even tho i know ur talking about grief and i’m so so sorry about Alexandra I never watched the channel during that period i only started watching in 2023 but i can see the way u talk about her u love her so much and miss her and i could never imagine losing a friend to cancer that sounds so awful and i hope that ur okay and i know i’m just a stranger and fan but know we muckers are always here if u wanna talk love ya❤❤❤❤

[@tinyfig9708]

Lost so many loved ones too soon. Aging is indeed a privilege we take for granted. I never saw myself surviving past 15 and now I'm 27, sometimes that makes me go "wait, I didn't make plans for living this long?". With time I've realized my life deserves to exist. I always remind myself that grief is evidence that we loved someone beyond what can be said. Sending you love, Adam💖

[@emmaslaven]

i love when you make videos talking to us like this, so comforting ❤

[@tialinnea2496]

my heart was feeling so heavy listening/watching this... you're so right life is so precious. today 11.20.20 my boyfriend i lived with and loved deerly took his life. it's been almost 5 years and i still miss him. I promised to keep fighting and trying to live my life to the fullest like he would've wanted me to. i am so sorry for your loss Adam, you're such a good friend.

[@personincognito3989]

Adam and all his young followers, I'm someone who's surprisingly older then the average person who watches Adams content. Nobody wants to age, nobody wants to get older. You still feel and think the same way about a lot of things that you did when you were 17 or 20 or 25 or 30 and on. Sadly, there is extreme ageism in society, in real life and on social media and it is brutal. If I have a different opinion than someone else or an " old fashioned" opinion, I get totally ripped apart on social media. The number one thing we do have to know is that aging is a blessing and we should only love and respect our elderly members. in society, whether it be family or friends or someone on the street. It's a freaking privilege to age. I work in healthcare for many years now and your life can be taken at any time and it is a privilege. So from someone who is indeed an older demographic on here than your usual commenters, try to remember to not dwell on the stupid s*** the little stuff and that none of it really matters. I do sometimes get sick of some petty or what they call commentary channels because they're so immature, talking back and forth about stupid minutiae. I don't usually share this personal stuff on social media because we want to keep anonymity but I have to go through a major surgery soon because of a congenital defect and who knows what the outcome will be. In conclusion, count each day a blessing and don't ever be aegist. We are already putting up a people's changes toward us in their attitudes and changes in our bodies and that's really tough but it's a blessing to age, so be kind and don't be a jerk and maybe one day you'll be privileged enough to live to be an elderly person.

[@shallyanan3141]

thank you for sharing your perspective :) i hope your upcoming surgery goes well!

[@everythinghappenssomuch]

We just recently passed the anniversary of the sudden and tragic passing of a friend of mine. To be fair we weren't the closest but she was such a beautiful, kind, loving person and that was evident in everything she did, and I'm grateful for even the limited relationship we had. She was actually trying KZbin for a while, her channel is called Broke Goddessery. I'm so grateful it is there because we never have to fear forgetting how her voice sounds, at least those of us who weren't close enough with her to have their own videos of her. She was so young and she went in such a terrible way. It's so unfair. I went through the bargaining stage HARD, I wished so badly it was me instead. But what I've done to get through that is try to incorporate what I loved about her into my life and perspective. I think of her often and I revisit her channel sometimes, but especially around the anniversary or her birthday. This idea of loving ourselves as we age, or at the very least being okay with aging has been ingrained in me for a while, especially because I have a chronic condition called Cystic Fibrosis. When I was younger I had reason to believe I wouldn't make it past my 30s, MAYBE 40s if I was lucky. Now I have a medication that's going to change that and I'm excited to go gray, for example. I'm not afraid of aging at all. I just know I also need to start treating my body better as I'm approaching 30, so I can still be active and not in pain, and it's making me anxious. Thanks for this video Adam. As always, your perspective is really refreshing and your experience and emotions are validating to other people's in their own right. Sending you so much love 💜

[@kimberlynpalmer146]

I have lost so many important people in my life time. The first death I experienced was my brother. I was 8, that was 10 years ago. I’m the same age he was when he passed. After that every few years since 2014, I have lost a close family member or friend. Grief is so complicated and different for everyone. Thank you Mucker for sharing and being vulnerable with your audience. We love you dearly Adam. You’ve brought joy to all of my days. You’re uplifting spirit and silly jokes always put a smile on my face. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope your dear friend is resting easy. She is watching over you and tremendously proud of all your accomplishments. We will never stop loving you and she hasn’t either. My brothers head stone has a quote he used to say often. “It’s not the years in your life that matter, it’s the life in your years that do”. ❤️

[@mystiqueveloz5700]

RIP to your wonderful friend. Getting to live more and more life is something not everyone gets to do everyday. Aging is not a burden, but a blessing

[@zephyrthorne266]

I lost my mom this year. I'm 27. It's been about 6 months since she's passed away and everything has been so hard since. I am grateful everyday that I might actually have the opportunity to have a full head of gray hair someday. Grief is so hard. But I am grateful everyday that I get to be here for my kids. Not everybody gets to do that. Thank you so much for this video Adam

[@Jensenbosio]

I hope you go visit her. I am not pulled to gravesites but at the same time, it only does good, so why not? This conversation is serendipitous as I just went to the cemetery to see my mom and pick out my gravesite this past weekend, which was a ridiculously hard and surreal conversation since I’m not even 30 yet. But my dad has been discussing his afterlife plans since he’s sick and he wanted to do it. Love you and your thoughts always, your friend seems lovely, it made me tear up. ❤

[@JasmineVictoria-c6b]

this video truly changed the way I view things , and when people would tell me “be grateful for the little things” I would just be like yeah whatever, but this video really changed me .

[@acorbett5103]

What a wonderful friend you had and it's so nice that you think of her. ❤ I lost my Dad 7 years ago and people say that time heals but I don't really understand that cause I still miss him so much and now that I have my own kids Im sad that he won't get to meet them or know them and how he is missing out on my brothers growing up. It's hard losing someone. Thinking of you Adam ❤

[@turnxthepage]

This hits me hard, my uncle passed away a week ago today and it hurts. I’ve been thinking about him a lot since I usually go to his house for thanksgiving and thanksgiving is tomorrow. I am so sorry Adam you lost a friend due to cancer at such a young age. ::gives hugs::

[@SquidFiction]

This is such a good conversation to have. I’m 30 now and have struggled with…idk if I do have depression cos I’ve never been diagnosed, but have felt this way since I was 16. Like I never belonged anywhere, always felt like a burden and nobody cares about me. If I was to just drop off the face of the Earth that nobody would care if I was gone. I kept thinking to myself “what is the point?” When I look at people taken too soon; your friend, Christina Grimmie, Chester Bennington, Freddie Mercury, Monty Oum, everyone who deserved to live and I think “it should’ve been me instead.” Idk what has kept me going, could be pure spite or just “tomorrow will be better, give it one more day.” Things have gotten better, I’m not completely alone now, I have a boyfriend who loves me, I have my own place and no longer live with my family who made me feel that way for years. I have a lot going for me and yet things in my head have gotten bad again. I am mostly healthy and KNOW that I could be doing so much more, but I am stuck in this mental quicksand that I can’t get out of. I still struggle with the thought of people actually caring about me and loving me for who I am rather than masking and surviving. I hate feeling like my youth is slipping away from me and there’s nothing I can do. Adam, I’m sorry for the loss of your friend, and that she’s had such a big impact on you. I hope you find the strength and closure you need. Rest in paradise, Alexandra, I know wherever she is, she’s so proud of you and forever in your cheering corner. 💜💛

[@MariaNancy-95]

I know she would be front row at your tour 💗💗💗 This is such a beautiful video, Adam. I thought of my friend Sarah who lost her life in a car crash with her boyfriend a few years ago. She had so much ahead of her-gone in an instant. Life is scary and fleeting, but holding onto those memories of people who passed keeps them carry on. 💗💗 I can only hope that when my time comes, my stories and characters I’ve created throughout my life through my art and writing can be shared and appreciated beyond me 💕

[@amykru]

Your maturity floors me on a regular basis, Adam. Thank you for sharing this insight with us. Your friend is now your guardian angel. Gratitude is the elixir of life, imo. I'm praying for your speedy recovery after the surgery. Love to you!

[@syrenamilani3115]

You are growin up & thise lessons you are learning, are sometimes very hard& hurtful. I have lost many people I loved too soon & it makes me sad & grateful at the same time . I wish i could have had more time with them , but, treasure wgat we all had. Lifes journey full of questions , we can't answer😔💯😔💗🖤💗

[@chanellemartin5463]

looking for negativity can be a coping mechanism, but neuroplasticity is a beautiful thing and just because you became wired that way doesn’t mean you can’t change it for good. love u adam

[@sirdidymus24]

This is so beautiful, Adam. I’m twice your age and your wisdom is astonishing. I’m going through a temporary hard time and this reminded me that it’s not forever and that I need to have gratitude that I’m still here. Thank you.

[@CWazBroadwayBandGeek]

Kind of ironic timing watching this. I had my grandpa’s funeral today, and he had a feeling the past few weeks before he passed that it was his time. He missed my grandma and my uncle. My mom is the last one left of her family.

[@sarahpark9018]

Thanks for sharing Adam! I needed this reminder, I am worried about things that my best friend would have loved to be worrying about right now. I miss him, but want to live each day for him!

[@Hooked_on_britney99]

I feel this Adam.. during Covid I had a friend pass away from a motorcycle accident and other people who I knew passed that year but this was the only one who was my age and it really woke me up. Its a part of growing up. When you’re a kid it really does feel like everything is the end of the world and when people would say “it gets better” it was always so annoying but it really does..

[@Hooked_on_britney99]

With that being said I noticed some wrinkles under my eyes the other day and I wont lie I had a bit of a meltdown 🤣🤣🤣

[@Vaporwades]

my uncle had passed recently and the grieving for him is something that comes and goes but is always kinda there. i have a lot of little objects i had inherited from him but ultimately what makes me the most sad is that i never really got much time to get to know him... i only visited him twice for 2 weeks each time. any time before that was mostly at family events. he was truly a good soul though and it hurts to lose someone especially when their life is cut short. there is something always so painful about that. my grandma when she died was young too... that was when i was 13 but i kinda slowly watched her fade away in a hospital for about 7 years and it was something that i forced myself to be numb to back then. it wasnt until i got older that it began to really affect me a lot. i bought a cassette for 50¢ with the best songs of The Supremes on it bc she had a tape pretty much like that which i vividly remember her listening to. she used to have a big 60s beehive hairdo i seen the pics it was so cute and she loved looney tunes. i wish i couldve known more about her and spent more time with her. i still have the ipod shuffle 1st gen from 2005 she had bought for me with less than 1gb on it. its beautiful and i will cherish it forever. but thank you seriously adam for this one, this video made me cry a lot but its what i needed and i been saving it for when i was ready bc i knew id probably cry. ❤️

[@fakename658]

When someone who has passed is on your mind heavy for no reason and it doesn't stop, it's because they are there with you. She went with you on your trip to Paris 🥺💖

[@izzyk9708]

i lost my dad almost a year ago in december and this whole year has been so hard for me. he was only 51 years old and the fact he wont be able to see me grow and i wont be able to see him grow urks my soul

[@HeatherMarie93]

I lost my baby sister. She was 21 I was 29. I feel the grief and survivors guilt everyday even tho I had nothing to do with her death, it still feels weird with her being gone and me being alive. I am now 31 and she would be 23. I miss her everyday. Also I'm watching this after the podcast with you and Neave; I couldn't go see my sister at the funeral home before she was cremated, I had her ashes for a period of time before my dad was ready to keep them. I have a shelf in my house dedicated to her with pictures, my dad has her ashes on a table with pictures around her. I also have a necklace with some ashes that the funeral home made for me

[@_cursedalgorithim]

Loved this one. I lost my best friend a few years ago, and it’s been a huge shift in my reality. Lately, instead of hyper-fixating on what I lost or won’t be able to replace, I’ve tried to be grateful for what I do have (even if it’s just myself). Bc to your point, it’s a privilege to be healthy and alive. 💛

[@jade.1983]

Lost my 32 year old brother to cancer in September 2021, I ask myself often why him, not me? I feel guilt for some reason

[@alisamoehrig9462]

Just live in the moment. Don’t take things for granted. Enjoy everyone and everything around u cause life passes by to fast. ❤

[@oevilone]

My closest friend passed in 2020. I miss her everyday. I haven't gone to her grave yet. Remember, those who've left us are always with us in ways we don't necessarily perceive. I'm a non believer but believe there's an afterlife that's not deity dependent. There's no question she's still with you at times. Maybe you were getting a message from her that you're ready to visit her grave. 💜

[@liyo210]

Thank you for making this video Adam. It’s important to remind ourselves, and others if we can, that aging is a gift, not a curse. This hits us the hardest when we’ve lost someone close to us, and we realize time is moving on for us, but not for them. Just a friendly suggestion that you may want to journal these feelings, especially when they are weighing heavily on you ❤🤗

[@classicstrawberry6633]

My step father passed in my arms a month before my 16th birthday, for the last four years all i can think about in my birthday is how much i miss him and how its so unfair that the "father" that cares about me is the one to pass at only 42. Working in a nursing home somewhat helped that trauma and helped me be more comfortable with death but its also made me think more about my own chronic illnesses and how cancer runs strongly on everyside of my family. I wonder how much longer i will be here, i look back at when i was 17 and i was so upset about how sickly i was then and now im 20 and laughing at how stupid i was because I'm so much worse now. I know if im around in a couple years ill look back at this and laugh once again and say "she should've done more". I have so many regrets and eveyone says to not live with regrets but how can you? I know you cannot change the past but how can i not regret certain aspects when the past is all i have/had? I dont have a long nor bright future ahead of me. Im not here for sympathy or for people to day "im sure its not that bad" "people go through worse everyday" or "it'll get better trust me" i am here to express a part of me that i cannot to my family and friends. Some things are easier to say to strangers. All I really want for my future is to make those I love lives easier for now and the future. I cannot afford insurance or out of pocket health care so i have to play a very dangerous game of going based on feeling, which isnt very accurate. I myself more or less great death and an old friend thats made itself known since birth but my worry is more so my family and lovedones. Im sorry for the depressing rant, i feel people dont talk about the impending death everyone is facing at some point in their lives. Most people my age are going out to parties wnd getting drunk (legally or not) or at least are able to be more active. I feel ive missed out on so many opportunities to have friends during my childhood just because i was the "weird sick kid". Now i have a total of 3 friends, one of which lives 500 miles or about 12-14 give or take a few hours away and the others nearly an hour away. I spend all my time working (if im able to) or asleep, some days yes are better than others but im glad its me and not my siblings i guess. Hardest part is most my family doesnt understand how sick i am and i dont have the heart to sit down and talk with them about why im not okay and why theyve seen me less. Im not religious but i feel the wishing i do, hoping to not have/get cancer almost is religious at this point. Cancer would end me and i still have a few things to do before im completely ready.

[@emmadear3276]

Hugs Adam 💕 always keep speaking about our love ones that have passed, it keeps them alive in our hearts

[@serberusu]

i was thinking of speaking about ageism for a while, this makes me want to do it more even sooner. we have so little time on this earth, i want to make the most of mine while i can. i am about to enter my 30's, and i didn't conceptualize getting that far. thank you for this channel, and your words. i miss being 22! although i had a lot of growing up to do, it was the time I finally felt like an adult. muckers, keep going at your own pace. you do not have to be where someone else is. aging gracefully comes with time.

[@cassieboston3568]

I desperately love these videos when you are just sitting down and being vulnerable and talking, Adam please never stop 🙏

[@127sys]

The girl i was supposed to sit next to at our senior graduation in June passed suddenly a few months ago at only 17. I’m still very much in the denial stage.

[@lv515]

Hi Adam, Just wanted to say that I experienced something really similar. My best friend and her immediate family (mom, dad, little sister) all died in an accident when I was 11. It was incredibly sudden and unexpected. It is incredibly difficult to cope with at the time (Even more than a decade later) but I feel like this experience has made me the person I am today. I think about her and her family all the time. I have dreams about her. I remember going to high school and thinking about how she never got to go to high school, her sister never finished elementary school. I am so sorry for your loss and just wanted to say that I feel like I completely understand what that feeling is like. My friend will always be 11 years old. Idk if this comment made much sense but I just felt like sharing that. Thank you for the video

[@DemureDelight8055]

100% Adam and this understanding of this concept just deepens as you get older. On the one hand yes it’s valid to feel some type of way about aging physically and just in general. Bc you’re in a way facing your mortality and how society changes as you age, in the next 5-7 years it won’t be you all that are deciding what is cool it will be Gen Alpha. So it is a weird journey to age & kind of uncomfortable & there’s no getting out of it. But then on the other hand those of us that do age are blessed with life when many others aren’t. And then you start thinking about people in very disadvantaged situations, who are alive technically but their experience on earth is so bad that it is like a tragedy already. It’s a really heavy thing but realizing all of this helps keep that oh no, wrinkles!!! Shit in check bc that’s also so hard.

[@xmattiexbx]

Tomorrow is the 8 year anniversary of my dads passing. Thank you for this video, Adam. ❤

[@ravynwoods5902]

From the headline only, you’re lucky you learned this young. I just turned 32 and only just learned this. I always thought we all lived about the same amount of time and that I had all the time in the world, but I have lost so many people in my past due to them having mishaps or messing up but recently it’s been people that just didn’t take care of themselves. Drink water, take in nutrients, exercise, find peace.

[@ravynwoods5902]

Well, I’ve watched 90% of the video now and I stand by my statement. You are wiser than most in your age group.

[@cleomcclure6335]

Setup looks so cozy

[@fakename658]

Adaaaaaaaam 😢😭 bless your heart

[@izzybiff]

This is so special. Thank you for sharing all of this with us ❤

[@NechiSketch]

This made me think of my uncle passing at the age of 30, to be older than he will ever be really haunts me. Growing old used to be scary but now I agree, it’s a privilege.

[@hannahw90hw]

16:55 and also, what a privilege to live in a country where we have access to health care and Dr's who are trained and have the tools they need to help us. Another positive to recognise. It's not gonna be nice or easy for you at all, but it is a privilege that you have the option.

[@itscarolinemary]

at 31 almost 32, I've started feeling anxious about my very fine forehead wrinkles. I can hyper fixate on things. And I often wonder if I should be getting Botox like so many.. It's a huge waste of energy (and money). Aging is inevitable, money and foreign substances won't fully stop it and could even make you look odd in the long run. We only have one life and it's best to live it to the fullest and be thankful for our bodies ❤. We don't know what we have until it's gone (our health). I'm so sorry about your friend, she seemed like an amazing person in your corner. The envelopes/letters she made that you mentioned is so sweet. I was born incredibly premature, and I have a few scars from IVs and feeding tubes. There's one on my neck that has always bothered me, and I used to wear scarves to hide it (even in warm weather) as a teenager because I was that petrified of someone focusing on it. I dealt with a few situations as a kid and pre teen where people questioned what it was. If it was a hickey. One boy I grew up with called me Harry Necker (after Harry Potter) at 14. I still relive those moments but I no longer hold myself back or fear questions. I try to wear my hair up sometimes and live in the moment more. It's incredible how the mind can obsess, distort and hold you back in ways. And it was evidence of a beautiful story of survival & overcoming odds but yet I was so focused on my appearance for most of my life. That's just an example that came to mind.

[@peachxtaehyung]

My cousin was just diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and shes only in my 40s and likely wont see 50. Shes my favorite cousin and im so upset.

[@hayles023]

My aunt passed away yesterday morning 😓

[@ChelsieGainey]

I always thank god for another day on this earth and know I have a purpose in life to help people learn about new things. I know some people aren't religious but that's my belief. I also go through my days thinking I don't care what people think of me I am being me and if u don't like it than u don't have to.

[@hayles023]

I was just talking to a friend about something similar earlier. 😮 I will be 32 in a few weeks.

[@doodlebug1820]

Sorry for your loss.

[@personincognito3989]

Second comment. I've been going through so much lately that I forgot there are five friends and family members in the last month who have died. This is a true story. Appreciate life don't be mean to people and for God's sakes, take care of your elderly. Live a clean healthy lifestyle and you live longer.

[@billyc8872]

My mother's funeral was yesterday. Very sudden. Stage 4 cancer that went from her kidneys to her liver and to her stomach. The way the doctors said, we'd at least have Thanksgiving, maybe even Christmas. Then she went septic and passed away so fast we didn't even have time to respond. I've never felt more alone than I do right now. My mother was a Holiness Pentecostal Church of God woman...who told me that if I'm gay, it's what God wanted, and she'd love me no matter what. Now she's gone. I've lost my rock. I'm so numb. I can't feel anything. People tell me I'll go through the grieving process. How do you do that when you can't even start that process!? How do you move on from the only person that ever loved you for you while everyone else said you were possessed by the devil? When everyone else said those people that raped you did it because you're evil and allowed the devil to sway them? I'm so utterly lost. I don't want to be here anymore. Peter talking about his sobriety and reflecting on my own...and the only thing I want to do is drown myself in this bottle of whiskey.

[@Florsdaughter]

I would love to watch your review of The Substance

[@fakename658]

You may have opened a door for her to come back into your life when you learned about your past life and (whether intentionally or not) honored Aiden by feeling compelled to go back to Paris. That discounted ticket was not a coincidence. Everything happens for a reason. I'm so glad you are able to connect with her in this time, I think you meed it more than you realize

[@Mamamary1]

Your nails look great Diva ❤

[@donnapecoraro3126]

Understanding mortality puts things into perspective. Try not to look at it as unfairly getting cut short. We each come here for a reason. We each have a path, a lifespan, and free will to use that time in the most effective way to advance the soul to a higher level.

[@pinkflamingos69]

With everyone pretending that covid doesn't exist anymore, even fewer people will make it to an older age, or at least without a ton of meds and suffering. Plus with bird flu on the way, anyone not masking is going to be lucky to make it to 50 in 5-10 years.

[@moi22x]

love this & you Adam

[@paigerodriguez2939]

“It’s about half eleven at night” I’ve never heard that in my life and I love it I’m too American it’s not cute