AITA For Asking My Husband's Best Man To Wear A Tuxedo ? ...- Best Reddit

AITA For Asking My Husband's Best Man To Wear A Tuxedo ? ...- Best Reddit
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We Annulled Our Engagement Because My Fiancé Valued Friendship More Than Love When I Asked His Best Man To Wear A Tuxedo.
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A 26-year-old woman was set to marry Mark, a handsome, responsible, and intelligent 28-year-old man with a kind heart and a great sense of humor. Jennifer, her 23-year-old sister, was chosen to be his "best man" due to her long-standing friendship with Mark. Jennifer and Mark had known each other for over a decade, sharing a deep bond formed through working together, playing games, and attending the same college. They were now coworkers again at Mark’s friend John's company.
Jennifer and Mark shared many interests, including gaming, attending conventions, and doing photography together. Jennifer, despite having a full-time job, aspired to be a model/influencer and loved fashion and cosplay. When the couple got engaged, they discussed their wedding party. The bride chose her best friend Helen as her maid of honor, while Mark chose Jennifer as his best man, a role Jennifer enthusiastically accepted.
Trouble began when discussing wedding attire. The bride had chosen her dream wedding dress and coordinated the bridesmaid dresses. Mark's groomsmen were to wear tuxedos, but Jennifer wanted to wear a custom dress that, while formal and matching the color scheme, highlighted her figure. The bride suggested Jennifer wear a tuxedo instead, to match the groomsmen and avoid drawing too much attention. Jennifer was upset by this, reluctantly agreed, and started making passive-aggressive comments about her chest and figure. Mark also seemed distant and less interested in wedding planning.
The bride felt increasingly isolated as Jennifer and Mark continued to mock her concerns. Jennifer accused her of body-shaming and being a bridezilla. The bride’s parents sided with Jennifer, saying she should be allowed to wear the dress. Mark was indifferent, saying it was her wedding and to do whatever she wanted. Living at home with her parents made the situation even more awkward. Despite both having good jobs, Jennifer and the bride still lived with their parents due to high housing costs. The bride had been staying at Mark’s place more, but he was passive about her moving in officially.
Feeling regretful, the bride wished she had made Jennifer a bridesmaid from the start or questioned the idea of a female best man. She felt everyone was acting like she was the problem, even though Jennifer and Mark were being unreasonable. The situation escalated when John, Mark's boss and friend, noticed the bride's online post and reached out to her. John revealed that Mark was unhappy with their relationship and the wedding planning. Mark’s ideas for the wedding, like custom swords and basement-made mead, had been rejected by the bride, causing tension.
When confronted, Mark admitted feeling pressured to propose because of the bride’s timeline for marriage. He felt anxious about her moving in and was frustrated with the wedding planning. He believed the bride was body-shaming Jennifer and thought she had been a bridezilla since the proposal. Mark confessed he proposed because he felt he had to either marry her or break up. He wasn’t sure about their future and wanted to pause the wedding plans.
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[@nickroetker4304]

Wait, wait, wait so she turned down every single request her fiance had, insulted the best woman cause of her insecurities no wonder this wedding didn't happen.

[@tinybrownbird]

ESH. Seems like everyone is emotionally immature and naive. There's no communication happening here. Don't get married if you can't have an honest conversation. OP and fiance are clearly not well suited. Fiance needs to find a fellow nerd to marry (OP's sister clearly), & OP needs to find a normie to have a vanilla life together. Hope they learn and grow from this experience.

[@RedditFamilyTales]

Thank you for sharing.

[@shadopard7527]

I never wanted a formal wedding. Told my lady that if I needed to wear something costumish as a penguin suit, I'd rather do it halloween costume style, let everyone dress up as whatever they want. Similarly, I never got how it made sent to spend 10s of thousands on weddings. Wait, I just got to the best man is female part... that makes it even worse. Why would she have to wear a tux? Oof? The op is a bridezilla in so many ways. She seems to have nothing in common with her fiance. When she talks about how he is a "catch" it is the phd, job, etc. It isn't actually HIM. It really does sound like the sister should be with him. The op DOES just want a generic stand in she can control. She also took him to spite her sister. He's a pushover who never should have stayed with op "just because she responded to his flirting".

[@user-bi8ko7kc6h]

I have a feeling that the sister and the finance will get married.

[@GirlSunshine2008]

Wow, just wow😮

[@cedricre3621]

Lol. Clearly the husband did not really love the bride, but just the sister. He should break up with the sister or marry her, don't drag the bribe in such a toxic relationship

[@Goblue373]

Everyone sucks here 💯

[@Absent-being_]

Why isint the groom with his “friend”?

[@oreoslush]

I think OP is incredibly insecure and a bridezilla. Not allowing Jennifer to wear a dress because she has big breasts even when the dress matches the theme? And then micromanaging the tuxedo because it was also too tight for her figure, weird asf. And I wonder if OP is also making Jennifer pay for the tuxedo OP wants her to wear, because in the story she mentions how she wouldn’t let someone’s friend make the dresses for the bridesmaid because she wants a well known official brand which is fine but then also mentions she’s making the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses when (I’m assuming) the dresses must be more costly from a well known brand. Sure Mark has some ideas that seem ridiculous to you, but OP just want a traditional wedding, a traditional husband, and someone to bow down to every command she makes. And it’s ok to have your life planned out and your own wants but then why did you and Mark even start dating because you two are INCREDIBLY different people with different wants and life goals. Mark should’ve just broken up with you or waited until Jennifer was not underage. Absolutely zero communication, ESH

[@user-bi8ko7kc6h]

Not a single bride would love a beautiful attractive woman standing next to her fiancé in her WEDDING.