#AITA

[@MercedesMermaid]

Mom here! I definitely agree that children are not entitled to share especially special toys. When my nieces and nephews would come over to visit I'd put away toys that were specific to the kids and didn't want broken. And this doesn't stop my daughter from getting excited to share her toys and even give some away to friends. Some things are off limits and that's ok. It's just a way of learning boundaries.

[@juliaship13]

love this!!

[@PenelopeAstony]

Completelyt this!!! Growing up I had (and still have!) a favorite plushie, and it was well understood in my family that this stuffy was my personal property. I was expected to share legos, barbies (expect my favorites), action figures/GI joes (again, except my favorites) my model trucks and tonka trucks, things that were easy to share, especially since you can't use all of them at once. But if someone came ANYWHERE near my favorite stuffy, I would defend it with my all, and even my really emotionally immature parents understood that I was entitled to some boundaries around this sentimental item. My nephews and nieces and niblings growing up all have their own special items. And I would NEVER dare to touch their own personal items and property without explicit permission, as it would likely make them feel like shit since I would be hypothetically be violating their personal space. And likewise, my niblings all have different age appropriate and character appropriate understandings of personal space, boundaries, and what is and is not off limits. It's also not on them to just know, it's up to all of the adults and much older kids in their lives to help set examples to their best ability, and the kids in my life have really become lovely people as they get older by being allowed to make mistakes, and also having the adults around them (Like OP's in-law, Nat and Op's mother in law) actually address when those boundaries are cross, and use circumstantially appropriate support to teach the kid Julie how to make amends for her harm. What a sadly missed opportunity for both Amy AND Julie, I feel so bad for both those kids and OP and partner.

[@pieflavor741]

I’m not a parent but I was a kid forced to share my favorite toys with my cousin who didn’t respect me, my sister, or our things. My sister and I shared everything because we knew how to take turns & care for things, our cousin didn’t do either. It was one of the factors that made it harder for me to set healthy boundaries growing up because if I’m not even allowed to say ‘this silly toy is important to me please leave it be’, I felt like I was being unreasonable if I set a boundary for emotional reasons with anyone. It’s absolutely my perspective kids should have toys that are just theirs and there’s a big difference between teaching kids sharing is nice and forcing them to share everything.

[@brendaivy5843]

My husband passed away 4 years ago. I would NEVER remove his pictures or even anything that reminds my kids of their dad. He had this ugly as hell rice paddy hat lamp that I’ve always hated. It was always a joke between us. But as much as I hate it. I will never get rid of it.

[@otakelblanchemanor0659]

I smiled at....ugly as hell rice paddy lamp... (lol, leg lamp from Christmas Story came to mind) but tears came to my eyes at.. I hate it. But will never get rid of it! Memories! The most important things in life! Shine on ugly as hell pappy hat lamp!! ...and the loving memories!

[@skinsciencebymira]

When my son was younger, we did have a rule that he would put away any items he didn’t want to share. It’s hard to explain to younger kids why they can’t use something and I do think being a good host means having activities you can do together. But I would never ever force him to share something special and as a result of our rule and him knowing he could put away special items, he’s always really enjoyed sharing since he was little. Kids need to feel like their body and their things are theirs, just like adults.

[@boogiebear3095]

The first one?! I’d be throwing hands

[@nathaliewilborts9869]

Being autistic, I HATE when people use my things! I don't care what it is, even 'my' glass...NO! Don't touch my things, especially not without asking.

[@upsidedownandbacktofront_]

Same and I feel like I assign mugs etc to other people too 😅

[@Mursi009]

D&D is a tabletop roleplaying game (ttrpg), I play every week and I make DND dice (the dice used for playing) for a living. That behavior is one I have run into outside of my normal dnd groups, sadly. As a woman, it's unfortunately something most of us run into, not just in ttrpgs but in the "gaming" space in general. Dnd/ ttrpgs are corporative games, and we play characters in said games and those player characters work together to "play" the game. Many creeps see a female who has interests similar to them and just assumes that if they are single that they should get together and get angry when their feelings are not returned. Often they will be weird and have their player character harass the woman's player character, as they try to merge "fantasy" and real life. These creeps are usually the ones who see any interaction with a woman as a potential romance partner and are unable to grasp the concept of being friends with someone who's the opposite sex. As per my experiences there have been only 2 outcomes in this type of situation: 1. they get angry and try to argue with me about why I am not interested in them. usually ends with them calling me a expletive. or 2. they say "sorry, no problem" and then do it again a few months later hoping that my feelings towards them have changed since then. It's part of the reason I don't really just meet up with random people and play anymore. I only meet up and play with people who are a friend of a friend type deal.

[@ArwenNMyrtlesMom]

That's ridiculous! I would never have forced my children to share their things, especially special ones. I did put the hot items away out of sight, though.

[@LoveMonster]

As a kindergarten teacher, I do not force sharing. We talk about taking turns, waiting for someone to finish, etc. The only time I suggest it is if it is a huge bin of communal toys (ie. Blocks) they don't need the whole bin at one time.

[@caroline42022]

I grew up an incredibly spoiled only child, I hated letting people play with my prized possession dolls. If that ever happened to one of my American girl dolls….. I think I would have tugged hair 😂

[@ArdentSmiles]

"Stop being stupid for fun" 😂

[@madeline_anne]

Love this, Isabella! 💜 this subreddit never fails to remind me how batshit humans can be lol. It’s kinda a nice reminder that I’m pretty “normal”

[@Swamp_Queen]

So when you said 4-5 videos on this one, my brain heard you say, "45 on this one" and I sat here STUNNED for 5 minutes before it clicked.

[@crystaljvaughn]

Save the bassinet and give it to her as a baby gift

[@kayjacoby290]

Last story: if OP's parents think Daphne & Jim deserve a vacation so badly, they should host them. OP is Daphne's stepsister, not parent; Daphne's mental health is not her responsibility. Considering how OP & husband have been treated by Daph & Jim, I'm amazed they're still in contact.

[@lolo_was_here]

DnD is super fun, I think you'd like it. You make a character that you play with certain traits and abilities. It's like interactive storytelling/choose your own adventure.

[@Quirky_Harts]

Th8s is my first time seeing this lady, I think she would be an amazing player!

[@crawlingthroughyourwalls]

honestly, the last story [to me] felt like a different flavor of wanting to leave a relationship and the other person blaming you for making their mental health worse by leaving or threatening stuff. It sounds like the mom definitely needs some intense mental health treatment and a proper support system specifically for parents with kids with disabilities (imo any parent needs a good support system, but especially in a case like this). I feel like her case is just a prime example of how effed the healthcare system in the US is, but no, the posters were definitely not the aholes :/

[@boogiebear3095]

I’m sentimental and the story about OP’s dad and husband breaks my heart. I’d told her to back off and lose my ish. You don’t force that on someone.

[@pineapplepapercrafts]

The child sharing thing bothers me so much. If my daughter is playing with her toy and doesnt want to share that is fine. She is allowed to say no. Shared toys are different. But toys that are strictly hers i do not expect her to share. I hate when others are like share.

[@petiemartinez3522]

im sure by now youve looked into DND but I have played once! Its cool, you create your own character in a fantasy setting where there are all diff types of creatures you can play as, and then you roll a dice to get their statistics. So for example, say for awareness you roll a 4 on a 20-sided dice, then that character is not super aware of their surroundings so youll have to stay in character that way, etc. Then once the players are created and the stats are set, you create like a backstory for them and you can even design their appearance, choose the tools they carry and the powers they have. Then the Dungeon Master (ie the host of the game) narrates the story for the players so they dont know whats coming next. The players can fully be their character and react to new info naturally, while the DM curates their experience by their storytelling. Players are sometimes affected by their environment, get spells cast on them, etc so the DM is also making sure you have all the correct statistics for whats going on. Maybe you drink an awareness potion and can temporarily bump that stat up. Players for the most part can do literally anything, even like wander away and do irrelevant things (but thats not great etiquette lol). There are usually maps and stuff involved to get you more immersed in the game but if you like fantasy and youre creative, you could get into DND with the right group of people c:

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

As a mother of 2 I do not believe that EVERY TOY NEEDS TO BE SHARED! If a child is riding their little bicycle and my child wants to go over UNINVITED and play with it and the child tells my daughter NO, NO IS NO! When we would invite friends over to play with my children I made them put up the toys they do not want anybody to play with, and I allowed my child to have their very favorite toy with them and they did not have to share that toy with anybody. There are toys that they can shared. Just like I would tell my friend "hey does your child want to bring over a favorite unshareable toy?" These are very good life lessons for the real world. People cannot just walk up and take what they want just because they're at their friends houses.. and it has caused arguments because people have gotten mad at me because my daughter wouldn't share her favorite toy.. THAT TOY WILL NEVER BE SHARED WITH ANYBODY.. my son is my youngest and he's also autistic and he doesn't want anybody looking at his things breathing on his things and touching MOST his things.. but I taught him that we needed to have a basket of toys that we can share. His old toys he would throw them in there but the rest of his things he did not want anybody to touch them..

[@massomouse1556]

The third story, my step-father raised me from 10 months but didn't actually become my step-father until I was almost 10. By alll means my step-father was an upgrade, in ways, but my mother definitely didn't replace my father and even started dating my step-father reluctantly as he had a reputation in their workplace, and was being sort of pressured by shared colleagues as he was in actuality the interested party.

[@jessicamulsoff8865]

My husband has been playing D&D since grade school he now gets paid to run it at gaming conventions

[@vickypalacios2519]

Turn taking and sharing personal toys are different ! I have a toddler and when we are the situation where she doesnt wanna share ; i simply tell the other kiddo ; sorry that’s baby’s toy and she wants to make sure it’s safe in her hands right now!

[@zoellaadilkhan4929]

so glad you did another one of these. I've been checking almost everyday to see when you'd upload the next one

[@jamiebrzozowski5360]

In the last story hits close to home a little bit. My 7 yr old son named Liam was born with 2 different heart conditions. He had his first open heart surgery at 2 days old. In total he's had 9 open heart surgeries plus a heart transplant. It is hard to take care of a child with a heart condition but that doesn't give her the right to be nasty to everyone else. And it's not the kids fault that he was born with it. I feel like she needs to go to therapy to help her.

[@ShelbyRiemer]

So excited for this!!🖤

[@palesamagonare]

I love the new background!

[@katiekatie4554]

Love this series!! ❤

[@michellelanter]

Awesome video!

[@upsidedownandbacktofront_]

I should not have been eating while listening to this 😅

[@orionspero560]

I moved on from DND in the 90s. But i'm still a tabletop role playing game I haven't played an almost decade. A lot of the nineties and arts fantasy adventure games come from computer based d n d simulators , most notably balder's gate. The boulders gate original video game was putting out the classic second edition d n d free prebuilt campaign as part of setting up third edition launch.

[@Ixc795]

Wtf the sister in law

[@letmedream111]

Evil! 😂😂😂😂

[@ravenbohannon6481]

D&D fun

[@carlastone3937]

You look so pretty on this video ❤

[@meliss7582]

Dnd is the best.

[@michellelanter]

❤

[@kheperacosplay5901]

I’ll play DND with you!

[@edmundjimenez9136]

Okay I haven't finished the video but the mom pushing the name Rodger. Ma'am your husband said no so you going to first your son and his wife to say yes. Ma'am way pasted your time to say anything. Naming your kids you have no rights to say anything about anyone else kids. You should have found your husband if it means so much. Like girl your time is done.

[@missinformed9550]

Poor narration and do not want to see the narrator.

[@princessofhell4639]

She's not a narrator lmao this is a different format then that

[@octopus8978]

4:13 THE WAY SHE DIDNT EVEN SAY WHAT SHE DID AT FIRST AND SHE SHOULD OF LEFT..

[@Nickman1233]

❤ thanks for the different content

[@Kstanimal]

OMG I love your style and sass that is hilarious 😆 sub for sure!! I do wish you had story dividers though on the vid! That would make it easy to navigate 🔥