AITA for Going No-Contact With my Parents After They Lied to me About my Allergies All my Life?

[@josefinep.malmborg6333]

Not only did the mom lie to the daughter, she lied to the whole family because the aunt did not know. Also, how incredibly selfish of mom to make her daughter eat a certain way but not herself. Furthermore, I can't think of all the ways this is going to affect and has affected the daughter. Friends will think she has been lying to them, people around her will think she did it for attention and she probably lost out on great moments with friends because of the "risks". Horrible mom!

[@parentingadabsurdum]

With my kids - they can text me an “x”, and we will call them and tell them there’s a family emergency and we need to pick them up immediately, no arguing. That way they don’t have to say anything, and they can blame us for leaving a party or any situation they are not comfortable in.

[@Emily-ck9ji]

I love this so much! That's an amazing tool you've given your children to use.

[@cayliebates829]

I saw this on pinterest and think this is brilliant!

[@erinaslanian2474]

I love this! Our code word was insert aunts name was in the hospital or hurt. X is perfect 👍 props

[@yoyohayli]

Omg, if I ever have kids, I'm gonna use that with them.

[@AgainstTheTide1980]

What if she had tried to use the epipen to try and save someone else's life without realizing its fake?

[@haskasimo]

The one thing that most doctors can agree on is every body is different and some people can do certain diets and some people can't. I get the mother wanted her daughter to be healthy but lying about an allergy is awful. talking with friends with food allergies their life is constant anxiety about food to the point where they will decline dinner party invites or celebrations because they can't guarantee they won't come into contact with something they are allergic to.

[@crashvds777]

Literally my life. I have severe food allergies and either can’t eat food I haven’t prepared or I’m terrified to try because I can’t be sure there was no allergens or cross-contamination Lying about allergies is a -4/10 from me

[@madmarrr]

Sadly, the fact that she was restricted from eating these foods could lead to her now binging on everything she missed out on, which could easily lead to her developing an ED.

[@daniks4217]

My son is allergic to celery and celery seed... like his throat will close! To use the threat of a serious allergy to scare your kid into not eat certain foods... is wild to me.

[@justinejulia6873]

My parents always said if we needed to be picked up from a dangerous situation, we would not be in trouble that night, and consequences would be determined the following day

[@lauraleekoerner8337]

Hey Morgan! Just so you know, Munschausen’s/by proxy is now recognized as an actual disorder, and it’s called Factitious Disorder on oneself/on another 💛

[@lfb256]

This is what I immediately thought of with this story because it reminded me of Deedee and Gypsy Rose Blanchard.

[@sydneynelson8182]

I’m 20. My parents started some kind of like “beach-bod” program when I was in middle school. They banned ice cream and snacks. If we said we were hungry between meals, we were told to drink water. Every time my friends planned to go somewhere, my first question had to be about the restaurant they were eating at. My decision to join became contingent on that alone. She’s apologized for that time in our lives, but it did some damage. The one in this video is pretty extreme but I relate somewhat the feelings of OP.

[@Oceanmaid91]

This whole thing is lifetime gaslighting. This was the diet she wanted for her kid and she never wanted her to back out when she was old enough to make her own decisions. Hence the “You should be grateful” set up. Not about the daughter, all about mom being right.

[@michellesnip6901]

Food is a MASSIVE part of life. My parents raised me so open and respectfully when it comes to food. Despite all of the trauma they’ve caused, this alone has provided me comfort and safety. Like I am not forced to do anything to my body that doesn’t feel really right, or desired.

[@peytonr2468]

reminds me of that movie Run where the mom convinces her daughter she is wheelchair bound her whole life by giving her muscle relaxers to control her

[@srtatropicalia]

One of the worst experiences of my life was when I went with some friends to a huge party when I was like 16, but in the middle of the night, I got lost from my friends (the place was huge and had a stage, it was loosely connected to my school, so most there were underage students, thus why my mom let me go so easily). I started to get an insane headache and get really nauseated, like I was going to throw up. I was just feeling very bad in general, it was like 1 a.m and my friend's mom was supposed to pick us up at 4 a.m. so of course, I call my mom asking please for her to pick me up (this was before uber, but even if it existed, would a sick 16yo take one at 1am?) She didn't. I implored her to come, but she said she was sleeping and I had just woken her up and my friend's mom would come at 4. So I just spent the next 3 hours curled up, in pain, at the entrance hall of the event. My friends only found me at like 3 and stayed with me. I still cry when I think about it, because I'm so overcome with the feeling of dread I felt when my mom told me she wouldn't come. Even worse, she made it seem like such a chore, such an enormous thing to ask, that I didn't even think to call my dad or my grandma. On a happy note, when I told this story to my grandma years later she became outraged and said: if you ever find yourself in a situation like that again, *call me*. And ever since that day she made the offer various times and I know for certain she will always be there for me.

[@PastelJulia]

If she had taken medication for those allergies, when she didn’t need them. That counts as münchhausen by proxy

[@mustachiolps1623]

Nothing is more unethical than forcing something on someone who either doesn't know better or doesn't have the competency to make the decision for themselves. Religion, diet, ideals, all of it. Children, disabled people, even just uninformed individuals get taken advantage of just because people are too selfish to think past themselves

[@pattydorkface]

My brother has celiac disease and can't eat gluten. His birthday cake growing up was rice crispy treats with frosting on it. All his friends loved it and thought it was so fun!

[@abby6th]

The mother literally put her disordered eating habits on her kid. Something is wrong with the mom and going no contact (at least until she agrees to get help/therapy) seems like a totally fair reaction.

[@nicoleaitken2758]

This is sad... OP has not only had to live in fear, she's also been heavily manipulated and controlled. Their mum, sure had good intentions etc BUT totally went the wrong way about this. If she wanted her daughter to live a healthy and happy life she should have educated her and made sure her daughter always had a choice with how she lived her life; then in turn, the mum would have received satisfaction in knowing she raised her daughter right and be so proud of her just from seeing her daughter make healthy decisions in regards to her lifestyle... Now she wont experience that because her daughter's never had a chance to choose for herself cause she's been so sheltered and controlled, no doubt resulting in resentment, disrespect towards her mum and anger/saddness towards herself and wondering what all the "what ifs" would have been and what shes missed out on. This is honestly such a shame, its like her mum had no faith in her ability to parent properly and therefore didn't trust her daughter was capable of looking after herself.

[@laurenkathleen2221]

Supersize me is such a gross movie, but the man in it was also eating an EXCESSIVE number of calories. Literally you could eat that much of practically anything and gain weight/feel disgusting like he did. He has been under a lot of fire about the accuracy of his demonstration and refused to release specific logs of everything he ate. Apparently he was also drinking a ton during the documentary (which news flash destroys your liver) AND this experiment was redone and there wasn’t the same effects. I agree, McDonalds is not the most nutritious food but don’t trust every documentary you watch. Plus check out the Twinkie diet - a professor was able to lose weight with Twinkies as the main staple of his diet. It is 100% how much you eat for weight loss purposes and not what you eat. Yes a balanced and nutritious diet will be better for your long term health outcomes, but McDonalds every now and again is not going to kill you like the Supersize Me guy basically claims.

[@Lillith.]

I also have traumas from supersize me and haven't eaten McDonald's for almost 14 year. It's getting to a point where it has become more of a goal never to go to McDonald's ever again than getting sick thinking about the food, but the smell still triggers my gag reflex.

[@laurenbonner2393]

I watched that in school, but for some reason, it did not deter me from McDonald's. I guess I thought that I was in the clear since I don't eat fast food every day, and I understood moderation helps prevent the crap that went in in that video.

[@mommaA505]

I grew up in the 80s and 90s. I had true allergies. In the 80s my classmates did not have allergies I was the weirdo girl that couldn’t eat cake or ice cream. I also brought weird food for lunch and was made fun of. I hated having allergies. But my mom tried to have alternative that I could have that were sweet. Luckily I did grow out most of my allergies I just can’t eat nuts but not a big deal.

[@NinaM86]

Our code word is pretty please. When my kids say can I blank pretty please. I know to say no

[@cypressk3838]

if op wouldve eaten something accidentally without the mom there they couldve gotten a hospital bill for no reason

[@Eleanore.Rigbyy]

The fact that her mom is assuming all of her accomplishments/good health is done to her diet is king of dismissive to her accomplishments like the D1 team in particular. Super lame. Also you can raise your kid with certain diets without lying to them about their medical history No it’s not a mom doing her best. This is enough to ruin her relationship with her daughter

[@Stefi.Kitsune]

So I listened to a doctor who does research on food and the human genome inrelation to food and it is actually quite rare for people to be genuinely gluten intolerant or allergic.

[@srtatropicalia]

But with gluten it's the celiac disease, no? Your stomach just cant handle gluten, so it's not necessarily an allergy

[@SpoonG]

​​@@srtatropicalia celiac disease (which I have, I was diagnosed 3 years ago after 34 years of a gluten heavy diet and massive anemia all my life) is a genetic autoimmune disease, not an allergy. Our immune system recognizes the gluten molecule as a pathogen/poison and it starts destroying the intestines from the inside in order for gluten not to be absorbed, which causes inflammation and malnutrition all around, because your intestines stop absorbing anything, therefore anemia and various deficiencies. Allergies are different immune system reactions, since people allergic to gluten cannot even touch it, celiac people just need not to ingest it.

[@samanthav41]

Btw about that supersize me documentary it was really base on a bigger lie obviously one shouldn’t eat McDonald’s everyday but the reality of it was the guy doing the documentary was a longtime vegan so a lot of his sickness was also do to the fact he really wasn’t use to eating meat

[@mixelle_0]

I heard his liver problems that occurred during the doc were because he was also an alcoholic? Not sure how true it was but it would explain a lot.

[@Urlocalpope]

It differs for some, but the science is pretty clear about nutrition for most: complex carbohydrates (quinoa, rice, vegetables etc…), healthy fats (avocados, nuts, beans…), and lean meats (buffalo, chicken…). As long as you eat these food types most of the time (having dessert here and there isn’t that bad of a thing) and in moderation, you’ll be healthy and that’s all that matters. The fact that the mom did that for size control instead of just teaching her how to eat healthy is so gross to me. Like why the fuck do you even care about controlling someone else’s body. If this mom didn’t pull this nonsense at her, she would absolutely body shame her and saddle her with an eating disorder.

[@julieorozco4549]

My parents never had that safety talk with me they never let me go out either which made me a sneaky kid, I had to learn all the dangers on my own and wondering why my parents never warned me about the world especially when I was very young

[@bellaboo319]

i have a perspective on the open parenting bc i’m a child who has open parents. i share wayyyy too much with my mom and share too much with my dad but ik if i ever need them like in a party w substances i can call them and they can come get me no questions asked til i’m safe

[@Freshieroleplays]

'Am I the asshole for being lied to all my life?' NO

[@Megan23753]

The mom has an eating disorder and is passing her beliefs habits to the daughter and controlling her.

[@captainfluffypaws7068]

The mother is the asshole. She literally ripped a piece of OP's childhood, and if I was OP I wouldn't talk to the mother either. I also wouldn't be surprised if OP would start to question what else the mother lied about. So the trust with the mother and her words is absolutely gone.

[@kaleidoscopingme]

Answer: no.

[@jessicahanson6105]

At first I was thinking maybe she had these allergies but outgrew them but hope the mom is nuts. I mean it’s good to eat healthy but why lie about things?

[@tryingmyhardest8276]

Clearly haven’t heard of the book How Not to Die as far as ideal human diets go

[@JohnSmith77777fs]

nta but man I wished these parents had done something that for me. I wouldn't be a fatty.

[@bananabread888]

No you’re not, that’s serious.

[@JohannyVeigaviolin]

Well she probably thin😅

[@hayamirin6795]

Doesn't matter