Husband says Affair Partner is Dead, but She's Still Active on Social Media

[@alessagiersberg1935]

I’m convinced that affair is still going on. The woman clearly isn’t dead. Also there would be absolutely no reason to tell his wife about a supposed suicide months after it happened unless he wants to make sure his wife won’t discover the affair this time. If the affair partner is dead, there’s no need for your spouse to snoop around. At least in his twisted mind. And 5 million dollars he denied? Wth that’s absolutely ridiculous. The wife should get out of that marriage asap

[@Raraking4796]

Right?! Like maybe they stopped and he started seeing her again or something and they came up with this scheme to not get caught this time. I would turn into a private detective. Are we sure husband even gave her the correct name? I know it was mentioned in one of the comments but I don’t remember if OP ever said she knew who the person was for sure.

[@taylorslade961]

Oh gods, I hope this woman gets the help she clearly needs. It breaks my heart that this poor woman didn't even consider for a second that her husband is a lying sack of shit.

[@alyssariceYT]

It's not the most important part of this story but if my husband was having an affair and then the affair partner died and left him 5 million, I'd be so pissed if he didnt take any of it. That's a life changing amount of money, and if he put me through an affair, I'd at least like our debt to be gone

[@lostcontrol1981]

I’m skeptical of his whole story. If this woman apparently killed herself - and wrote in her suicide note that part of the reason was a toxic work environment - who stays at a toxic job if you have $5 million to give away? It seems like lie after lie. This woman needs to find out more

[@katiep3027]

Lol it's that's the case you're supposed to divorce and take half of what's left.

[@Raraking4796]

I was thinking the same thing. I mean my husband wouldn’t have affair because he knows if he did then he wouldn’t be my husband anymore . I would feel guilty someone died BUT you can bet your sweet ass I’m taking the money. The whole story is whacky though. She killed herself mostly because of you and doesn’t want you at the funeral but she wants to leave you literally MILLIONS OF DOLLARS.

[@koul3709]

All high level executives exist in a toxic work environment.it’s the same for corporate lawyers. The trade off is money and prestige.

[@brittanythomas8073]

Right?? Glad I’m not the only one who thought that?

[@kylastaples9789]

also if the woman who he had the affair with was a high level tech executive, i feel like there would be a huge article about it online

[@temikamurray5436]

Tech execs aren't exactly public figures, definitely can't see there being articles about a corporate suicide

[@candygirl20048]

Exactly

[@lostcontrol1981]

Call her office, check the obits, make sure she’s really dead. If she’s still alive, he’s likely still dating her. Get information, then confront him with it.

[@obvioustroll3736]

My thoughts are the husband lying, he’s probably talking to her again and doesn’t want the wife to suspect ANYTHING this time which is why he told her she’s gone so he can easily manipulate her with no consequences. It sounds crazy but cheaters will do and say whatever it takes to cheat in peace and clearly it’s not his first time. If she hasn’t seen any proof of a letter, the call records from the ex boyfriend, or even a report about it, the husband is lying and she just needs to leave him after that.

[@ashleyc.6189]

The husband is for sure lying. So many parts of his story should be easy to verify. I'm no probate expert, but I don't think a person can just turn down $5m over the phone. There'd be paperwork involved. This would probably have to be reported on his taxes. What was the name of the lawyer who handled this? Where's the documentation?

[@DannyD-lr5yg]

The man told a grandiose lie that got more and more bizarre, to get sympathy or cover his tracks. I’m 100% sure this woman did not die. Now, whether they’re still in contact, or she broke it off with him, remains to be seen. Maybe she broke up with him and he told the lie to nurse his bruised ego back to grandiosity 🙄

[@estherbjerga523]

My guess is he started the affair back up and made up the death to preemptively remove suspicion.

[@b3thh0n]

one of the main reasons in her note was “toxic work environment” but she’s casually sitting on 5mil?? like she couldn’t switch a job??

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Wow this man is telling one of the most insanely elaborate lies I have ever come across on these videos. Like if he put as much effort into his actual marriage as he did into his tall tales and his blatant lies, he would have the best marriage on the planet. Also, she's talking to multiple people online, so either not one single person has called out the fact that she's supposed to be dead or you're the only one who knows she's "dead". Like COME ON. GIRL!!

[@forgottenxrose]

A narcissist will gaslight you to the point where you can't tell what is up from down so you end up believing the stupid ass lies they tell you and make you feel guilty for questioning whether you can trust them. The suicide lie was not only to try and keep her from getting suspicious about him still cheating but also to bring her back into his corner and give him the doting he wants because now she feels bad that he "went through all of this". She didn't even tell her friends or family about the affair in the first place, and I guarantee you that's because of past situations involving him where they tried to tell her something wasn't right and he got in her head and convinced her that he was the safe one while they were not. --- speaking from experience

[@ShelleyJane]

I recognised it straight away too. Your comment is full of clarity that only comes from being with a narcissist. I only wish we didn’t have the experience to know.

[@jessjess23brooks89]

Ding! Ding! I hope people in the comments are being kind. What can be obvious to outsiders can be impossible to see on the inside swamped daily with foggy bullshit as a victim. Manipulators will make you question your most basic reality. Remember ladies and gents, if you've been fooled by a narcissist it isn't your fault. It doesn't make you weak or less than. They only target amazing people who have all the good things they lack in abundance. It took me a long time to realize that.

[@audreyyy1030]

updates say that there is no obituary anywhere and she checked her husbands phone records and the ‘dead’ woman’s ex husband had been calling him for a few months!

[@brittanythomas8073]

So in his phone she’s the ex husband? Lmao

[@addysonct7207]

My ex literally lied about having a child with a woman just so he could cheat without me getting suspicious. People do make up shit like this.

[@emilietrepanier1673]

This poor woman… her first instinct is still that this woman is lying when it’s blatant that her husband is making every single part of it up. He not only has triangulated his wife making the ex look crazy, he’s attempted to get his wife to have some guilt over the woman committing suicide. I picture “I chose our marriage over her; I chose our marriage over her LIFE; she reached out nonstop when you couldn’t get over it and I still chose you; I chose our marriage over 5 million dollars; I chose enduring this alone for the sake of our marriage.” For all she knows, this woman might not have even known the guy had a wife. It’s so clear he lies so much and is effective at manipulating her that she only questions the woman’s part in this tall tale. This is so extremely sad.

[@victoriascanlon7883]

😿😿 She really tried to work it out with him even after the GASLIGHTING. It would be one thing to have just cheated-you could claim it was just a mistake. But this was so deliberate, and he REALLY didn't care about her at all. Truly though, this man is absolutely terrifying. She needs to run for her life.

[@jmac1221981]

I fear for this woman’s safety. Maybe it too many true crimes but the hubby’s actions are parallel to those who end up killing their family to be w/ the AP. Girl, RUN, get cameras, personal protection, & practice w/it daily.

[@kassiematson9921]

and there hasn’t been an update from her in ab a year…. scary

[@VeginMatt]

I doubt the money was real. I'm betting the husband said he turned down money to sell that he loved his wife and wanted to move on. Chronic f###ing liers.

[@AutumnOddity]

I AM DYING FOR AN UPDATE ON THIS ONE AAAA

[@Tilleyforever44]

The fact that OP was made to feel crazy by her husband during the affair means he never regret it, just getting caught. I’ve dated men who make up preposterous lies and sell them well. The $5M thing tipped me off. He sold that as “see what I’m turning down for you”. OP seems so sweet, I feel bad. But he’s definitely lying, probably still sleeping with her, figured his wife would just never question it.

[@christiner5579]

Why didn't she look up her death certificate when she found her linked in? The husband is feeding her very tall tales and he has done a good job as she believes its the woman who is scheming. The husband and girlfriend are still together- the "husband's" phone is her new number. No way, would a widower call his wifes lover. Divorce him!

[@lauraroeleveld4053]

If you know who she is and where she works, you can check it out for yourself. This feels like a person trying to gaslight their partner into pitying him and forgiving him cuz he’s going through a loss, blaming himself for her death, and he did the ‘noble thing’ by rejecting this fictional money. I don’t think that if she left him so much money, her family wouldn’t try to contest it, not necessarily out of greed, but because most people won’t want their loved one’s married ex-lover, who was one of the reasons your loved one ended things, to benefit from their death.

[@batdad34]

She's not dead, he just can't stay away from her and still wants to keep his wife. Wife needs to run as fast as possible in the opposite direction. Let her have him.

[@mommabear887]

I think he was resentful towards the wife for getting caught and having to give up his AP. So he decided to make her feel guilty for it. But how do you get your wife to feel bad that she broke the two of you up. Everything he says seems like a projection of what he wants. Tell her she committed suicide over me so my wife has this fake death hanging over her head. It solves two problems. She can't be mad if she's dead, got to forgive him because he's so heartbroken, and let me put some guilt on her so she'll never question me again. He might even still be cheating, but doesn't want her sniffing around.

[@Sam82631]

If the wife thinks the mistress is dead…she might not suspect that the affair has picked back up…OPs husband thinks he can get away with it again and it’s toxic AF

[@LovenEverythingNails]

This is so easy to figure out - call or go to her work, check the obituaries etc. And if this man went out of his way to create this elaborate lie after having an affair she needs to gtfo. This is insane and I personally wouldn't be able to sleep until I knew the truth 1000% I hope she gets the answers she needs and deserves.

[@bigbagflipper]

how oblivious is this woman dear god

[@iHeartAmySue]

My ex- husband lied to me and told me he was having an “emotional affair” lol with someone when in fact he was cheating AND drug trafficking. He might have a little “side business” that he’s covering for.

[@IAMMEEP]

She comforted her husband for his Mistresses death???

[@emilietrepanier1673]

You just KNOW he got such a sick high off of that :(

[@abbie_joan]

he lied to his wife about the death and everything surrounding it to make himself look "holier than thou" and to make sure she takes him back and keeps the affair a secret...he knows that his AP's position would ensure they're both screwed and if she's actually married? that's so much worse because what if they're both in on this elaborate lie and told the same lie to their spouse?

[@Cy-nx3yh]

😅

[@sarahdanis2440]

I think husband is lying and still sleeping with her haha.

[@MaKillah]

I used to be so obsessed with this podcast 😭 I wish I could still listen

[@brittanythomas8073]

Why can’t you?

[@br4ttyb4b3]

she sounds so completely confused and manipulated. she defends him and insults herself. jfc i feel so bad for her. this is so sad.

[@DazIsMe]

So...I have to wonder, I do think it's possible he's still lying, but it makes me wonder if he's been catfished. Was their affair in person? Or just digital? Flirting, pictures, phone calls. It's unclear what he did, it just says he had an affair. So I wonder if it could be possible that she catfished him and is trying to reel him back in. I hope OP gets answers, and can move away from this craziness and get on with a happy life.

[@abbie_joan]

bro that doesn't even matter because that's HIS problem he's Boo Boo The Fool either way he's completely screwed up this woman's mental illness

[@kassiematson9921]

such a good theory seriously

[@sallyrastogi9853]

Just apply Ocam's Razor... Obviously this man is a devious disgusting manipulative person. I feel so bad for this poor woman though... He's clearly done massive damage to her.

[@tonygroves5526]

I wonder whether she could ask her marriage counsellor for help? Maybe they would be able to point her in the right direction. And the counsellor can question the husband.

[@robync1366]

Honestly it sounds like he is mad he got caught and is trying to make her feel guilty and make her not want to bring it up

[@TheANDazCutie]

Sounds like a lie. He is trying to make her feel guilty but also trying to shove it in her face that he is so committed that he wouldn't accept the 5mil.

[@briannadavis889]

Leave him!

[@lindseyscott7133]

Gosh this one triggered me. I’d just dm her myself. Why not? Her denial is scary. Yes, she’s obviously alive.

[@crissyjayfae]

I definitely feel like he started the affair up again and told this lie to cover his tracks “He couldn’t be sleeping with her, she’s dead”

[@Tyler171819]

My first guess was the husband lied. Next guess, and I PRAY it’s this one, the AP lied to the husband and got others in on it as revenge for dropping her. Gaslighter becomes the Gaslightee😂 Megamind said it best, biggest difference between a villain and a super villain? PRESENTATION!😈

[@99coconuts]

This is absolutely made up. I wouldn’t be surprised if the account on LinkedIn is actually him and he’s messing with his wife’s mind.

[@br4ttyb4b3]

This dude is scary. What an disgusting thing to lie about.

[@WholeHeartily]

He’s a liar.

[@celeste8157]

This husband is a cheater and a pathological liar

[@ig3815]

Can you please start putting time stamps where you show where the updates/ comments start

[@lolablue4518]

He's trying to drive her crazy

[@WouldntULikeToKnow.]

Well, it worked

[@tully6648]

I'm so late to this, but he's obviously lying on so many fronts. That number isn't her ex-husband's-it's hers. She never died, there was never money. He's making up this big, stupid lie to keep the affair going AND make OP feel sorry for him AND make OP think he's such a good guy because "he's grieving AND he gave away $5mil to charity!" She should've divorced him from the start, but damn if it's not disappointing that she's not even considering it now.

[@janellewalters4222]

Your husband knows darling. You better start watching him. Something is going on.

[@JustBeingAwesome]

Narcisist 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@prihaps]

I wouldve left after him not taking the $5mil bc the least you could do was give me 4 of that 😂

[@alyssa2796]

What a horrible man

[@evelynneleven]

The co host can never remember titles of shows or movies. She’ll say ahhh what’s the name of that that one movie with the guy in it.. you know! & the lead host just keeps guessing 😂😂 I’m new here but this is the third video I’ve watched so far & it happened in all three videos. She is me & i just realized how annoying it is 😂 lol! Great episode ladies!

[@itslex5524]

That man is LYING so far fetched

[@GOTkristin]

Is it possible that the mistress was catfishing the husband?

[@kotaaface]

Is this a repost tho? Because I've definitely heard it before, and you said it was posted 1 day ago. But as soon as he "denied the 5 mil" I KNEW for sure I had heard it

[@Tues48]

This the clips channel. They have the big episode then they break it up for smaller vids.

[@aislinna3611]

yes, I think she had it in her long videos. I have been noticing her posting clips of the stories individually after them being in her themed/longer vids

[@lindseyscott7133]

Most likely she needs to leave him asap. He’s most likely lying. Possibly she faked this, but badly. He lied to her, how likely is it that someone pretended to be with a law firm. It’s more logical that he’s gaslighting her. This is a terrible sign, there’s no redeeming a man who would do this.

[@izzisart]

Yes, it makes no sense that she would construct this elaborate lie to get back at the husband. Know what does make sense? The husband is lying!

[@delicateBruise]

He's lying again!!

[@LunaDelTuna]

Life insurance doesn't pay out if the person 'unalive' themselves. So unless the side chick properly executed a will leaving 5 mil somewhere for him in an offshore account, he ain't have no money sent to charity.

[@marlenegonzalez503]

Life insurance does pay out when someone “unalive” themselves, they do not pay out if it happens before the two years exclusion period from the date of the insurance application.

[@thornyrose1235]

Can't she get a copy of the death certificate from the local county? I mean, it's pretty easy to confirm. Anyway, she thinks her husband is the victim of some elaborate ruse, meanwhile he's the one lying to her. Girl, get a PI on it and you'll get answers quick quick

[@idontreadrepliesdontbother]

No offense but the man knew she was gullible enough to believe all that tomfoolery and some how it worked

[@LadyIllusion11]

I'm sorry, but I'm not comforting my husband for his AP's death. Go cry to the divorce attorney and your therapist. The whole story sounds so freaking weird and twisted. It's honestly heartbreaking that the wife accepted this as truth. Everyone in this scenario needs therapy.

[@alanamacneill88]

Turned down 5MIL?😮

[@jessicahanson6105]

Yeah I think he’s still sneaking around.

[@shroomshroom5945]

Husband definitely still was having the affair but pretended she was dead so his wife wouldn't know.

[@annale9924]

Has there been an update on this story??

[@yogapants_teacher]

If she has access to the Linked In, she has the woman’s name. Search for an obituary.

[@oceanwater2wave]

Husband is Lyiiiing!!! Get help ! Move out!

[@k-popprincess416]

If I was OP, I would go to that woman's place of employment and I would ask the receptionist if so-and-so works here. if she says yes, then and only then would I realize that my husband is a lying sack of crap.

[@secretluvchild6089]

This woman needs to leave her husband... period. This is a little too sussy bakka.

[@Cassie_88]

All I have to say is check the description people .

[@selenaocarina]

The way she’s talking about herself omg!!! He’s brainwashed her. He is a compulsive liar and serial cheater. I hope OP gets far away from this con artist

[@AlyssaArundell]

I am at the point that I don’t even believe that there was an affair. I don’t even believe that he knows this woman! It just sounds all like a massive lie to upset his partner. Red flag 🚩 I think he sounds more of a psychopath

[@ah7908]

Anyone know where to find the post on reddit?

[@ashwanirvk]

Gas Lighting and manipulation big time! She needs individual therapy at this point. He is cheeting still. Lady is alive. He wanted her to never look in to him or her again. Now he can't be accused and if she accused him he will cry for empathy about this lady taking her life because of him. He is gross. She needs to run an never look back. She should tell her fam an friends. Stop hiding. Don't be ashamed she didn't do anything wrong. Take your power back. Go to therapy and set yourself free.best wishes!

[@azuriandragon3329]

He could be having an affair with the "ex husband"

[@WouldntULikeToKnow.]

Lol OP should call the "ex husband". He's definitely going to sound like a woman!

[@katrinaoliver4167]

First of all, he’s a liar and she’s alive. Second of all, how dare you cheat on me and then GIVE UP $5 million that would have dramatically benefited OUR lives.

[@ChipperCherry]

The affair partner is still alive and for some reason had given him 5 million. He's trying to set up a good reason for him to have that much money. "Oh I tried to say no but someone asked me to contact the will...." No. if he refused the money he can't contest the will. That doesn't make sense. I wonder if he told the affair partner that his wife died so she gave him money for funeral expenses and money to pay off his house or whatever. The whole thing is red flag city.

[@bethanynadine2147]

she should look up the number on white pages and see who’s name it is under.

[@beth-bi9yv]

Husband defn lying. I think the affair is still happening....

[@palacio774]

What if the husband is lying and the woman is still alive and having the affair

[@rebeccaruiz842]

I think the woman is alive and she's manipulative, doing everything and anything she can to get him back in her claws. I don't think the money is real it was just a manipulative tactic she might even be trying to find a way to kill him or get him back. A Fatal Attraction type situation she's insulted and wants to hurt him somehow.

[@aimemaggie]

I’d take the money no shape, especially if I was the wife

[@lindseyscott7133]

Claiming to turn down the 5 million makes him look noble. The story sounds ridiculous because it is. Her denial is powerful. Sad, because this can’t end well. I still coparent with my addict ex who gaslit me. I’ve been where she is, I bought outrageous lies. My son & I are paying for it now. I hope she can open her eyes. Someone who’d do this is a psychopath. They can’t be treated, they seldom respond even to therapy. Run & run fast.

[@Livingshadow2009]

I've got to ask why did OP automatically assume the affair partner was a woman. What if the husband was actually having an affair with another man, aka the man who keeps ringing him, the other husband.

[@7614Kids]

There's fb groups that can get obituaries etc

[@momedusa]

I would make my husband take the money and then divorce him and get half. But that would only work if the husbands story was true, which it’s not.

[@mandysarmcandy7748]

I wonder if it’s possible that the husband may be having an affair with another man and that’s why he’s come up with such an extreme story? Idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ just a thought.

[@kirsti1822]

Girl check the obits. I feel bad, wife is delusional over this man

[@emilyjane7513]

Obviously this needs to be a catfish episode.

[@Briellaxmichelle]

I havent finished the video yet but I Believe and if I’m wrong I’m feel awful cuz Jesus someone died but I believe the husband “Killed” the affair partner off to make it seem impossible that the affair is still going on