AITA FOR NOT LETTING MY TEENAGE SON LIVE WITH ME?

[@pixiegirl131415]

Acne story: I am willing to bet that 1) dad didn’t deal with stubborn acne as a teen and 2) he doesn’t want to pay for the dermatologist.

[@janewaysmom]

Yes, 100%

[@L3onking]

I'm also gonna put my money on how he sees his ex is his daughter and is being extra resentful because that degree of incompetence and lack of respect to even listen to her is 100% intentional

[@Astarothiart]

I really hate friends like that. I chose not to have an epidural because I'm terribly afraid of needles and the thought of going without honestly sounded less scary to me. Friends who feel the need to shame others because of their own insecurities can kick rocks.

[@msspriss94]

I feel like if he’s really intending on keeping the ranch in the family then it names sense to give it to the kids who will continue to work the ranch and who probably have their own funds to keep it going too. If the others have no interest and would just start selling off the equipment for money then I can see why he wouldn’t leave it to them.

[@jessicaadami3499]

i’m studying the law of succession at the moment so i’ve been thinking about it a lot this year and personally i believe that you can leave whatever you want to whoever you want guilt free, no one has the right to inherit from your estate nor should they feel entitled no matter how complex your family dynamics may be. he could just as well leave everything to a public benefit organisation and should not feel bad about it. it’s his last will and testament it’s quite literally whatever he wants to do, who cares if he’s around to appreciate the ranch anymore or not, it’s his ranch regardless and he can do what he wants with it

[@KarlMalowned32]

I agree with you completely! I appreciate the legal insight. He made sure all of his kids and grandkids received something while leaving the possession he cares most about to the people who will most appreciate it. As you said, he is allowed to do this.

[@boogiebear3095]

My niece didn’t use an epidural and all I could think was how strong she was to give birth. Whether or not you use pain management or not, you gave birth. OP and the friend group are such asshats. She wasn’t shaming everyone.

[@zoellaadilkhan4929]

Imo for story #5 (the one with the woman who moved and didn't have a room for her son), I think that maybe you should consider the fact that the Primary custody is with the father and the son stopped visiting and when he would have to due to obligation (visitation days) he wouldn't be in the house except to sleep. So I think the woman is NTA bc since the son made it clear so many times he wasn't interested in being around her there was no need for her to consider him when she was moving.

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

I get that. I’m just saying me personally I would have considered it always on the slight chance they changed their mind! But that’s just me!

[@nannynatalie]

They’re also willing to cash in their savings and sell the house that they’re in to get a bigger house for the sun in six months. That’s a huge change that they’re willing to do.

[@clairesanightmare]

No she’s an asshole

[@brookecroff7166]

nah the kids in the last one are greedy. go spend time with your dying father instead of bothering him about how much money he's going to give you 🙄

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

He didn’t choose to spend time with them while they were growing up so honestly he gets what he deserves. He’s worth millions easily with what he listed off. They deserve a lot for missing a dad who didn’t care enough about them

[@brookecroff7166]

@@LifewithIsabellaLanter lmao i'm no contact with my father and i WISH he would've effed off and just paid me in the will 😭😭

[@vanessagentner]

I probably wouldn’t have said I used the difference on a purse for myself, and just bought the purse and not cared about her opinion. I think the mother should kick her daughter and 21 year old boyfriend out. It’s too much drama. If she wants to go over custody of the baby for safety reasons, I don’t see anything wrong with that. At 25 she needs to grow up and get a job and take care of herself and her babies.

[@janewaysmom]

Idk for the mother and daughter, it sounds sort of like the daughter has been making worse and worse choices, and it might not be a bad idea to get the kids out of her care, considering she was arrested for driving with a suspended license with drugs and guns in the car. That's a very worrying thing to hear.

[@kate5334]

Not letting my son live with me story: Honestly i dont get it AT ALL. I feel like she (the mother) is a bit petty and cant forget her son for choosing his father. She forgets that he is ONLY a child, and children are known for not being the most responsible creatures in this world. What i mean is that whatever his decision was - it was a childes decision, not an grown ass adult, and so she should be more understaning. On top of that i cant understand people getting rid of childe room simply because they dont live with them anymore. Im 20 years old, i live in my own flat far away from my parents for about a year now, yet i still have my room at thier house and it is mine and only mine, and on top of that in thier new house (in which they will move in, in like a year or more) they planed to have a room for me and my siblings and i get to again decorate it the way i want it to be, because i will always have my place at thier place.

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

1000% agree. She made it clear that she didn’t think about her son. He’s behaving badly but that’s the consequence of having a child with an asshat of a man… you should always be there for them even if they “prefer” the parent who doesn’t actually parent. Petty petty petty

[@mrspokitstheriot477]

The last story you didn't answer the question. They asked AITA for not disclosing the contents of the will, not AITA for how I have my will set up

[@BrigitteDiessl]

I love this content. How about reading out some comments from the thread, too. Some of them are hilarious. Btw, I totally agree with you about the last guy. As someone who has a Dad who owned a farm for 37/54 years of my life, I know how weird farming community can be about handing it down to a son (in most cases.) I live in New Zealand. A lot of farmers here. Dad actually sold the farm last year which was kind of a relief as my BIL was the only one kind of interested in it. I believe that everything should be left to all of the kids. If the farm is still owned by the father, anyone who is interested in it needs to buy the others out at a fair market rate. Any kid under 21, the money should be put into a trust that they can access at 21 or if they want to use it for uni, can gain access to it sooner. I lost count of the number of kids but he really needed to tie a knot in it or have a vasectomy.

[@caridadmercedes3088]

She should have just kept her mouth shut about the purse. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kittynoir2106]

The second story is basically my life story. My grandmother took me and my sister away from my mother who wasn’t the best. She lived with a drug dealer who left needles laying around. One night she took us and never returned us.

[@boogiebear3095]

Poor girl, the 16 yo deserves better

[@katiekotok505]

The will one, bro how can you call something a “family tradition” when you have children with multiple women and barely even know some of them. That being said, giving the ranch to the two who seem the most fit to make smart decisions with it seems reasonable. Still a shitty “dad” though

[@AndyyWithAY]

Bday story NTA she didn't seem to really want to see OP 16 YO story NTA..16 is not too young for a FAFO. Ex is the one mainly wrong but son did everything to sever this relationship. He could sleep on the couch and they would buy a house they don't want or need just for him

[@ShelbyRiemer]

I live for AITA content! 🔥🔥

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

These are some of my favorite videos from you! ❤ also I just realized you have different backgrounds for both channels! I love that. Ok I’ll pay attention to the video instead of writing you a book 😂

[@nataliepyn1]

As for the will: Those are your assets, do with them what you want. You don't owe anyone an explanation. 🤷

[@boogiebear3095]

I was adopted by my great aunt because my bio parents weren’t great parents. I was over there a lot. So my mom asks for them to give up their parental rights and adopt me. Maybe OP can try that. The child needs stability. Yes it’s more permanent but I don’t know. She needs a good legal route to save her own butt.

[@layneebyers6218]

i completely disagree about the purse story, she said it out of spite, she could’ve just got the bag but she made a point to say, yeah i had this money set aside for you, but you suck haha. just buy the fucking bag bc you had a little extra money not bc i didn’t get you the gift i was going to

[@iwishiknewyourmom69]

maybe she meant aside from the gift, but what she sat aside for dinner, accommodations, etc. like”yea i sat this aside for this but didn’t end up spending as much as i thought i would” which to me, i’d be like oh shit DEALL we love it

[@mmmmmmmmaria]

love these so muchhhh

[@katiemulhearn9363]

Please let us know what redit dubs the person ah or not!

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

My dad has a will and I know that he has had to take one of my brothers that passed away off of it and one brother that is a complete drug addict loser refuses to get his life together the only two people that are on it are me and my brother. My children might be on it I don't know because I don't care what is on the will.. literally I do not give a s***.. I do know there is a will

[@dylanjohnson3346]

New subscriber

[@janewaysmom]

Mr. Not Disclosing Will guy sounds like a piece of garbage. It's bad enough to wander around the place getting women pregnant, and then to not take care of the families he started, but then to do that when he's so loaded is just awful. If he wants his massive ranch and staff and stuff to stay in the family, he should help the kids arrange a sale to one person, and then the other kids can each get a fair share at least. Maybe he could be fair in death though he wasn't in life. Otherwise, they sell the ranch to a stranger and then each get a share of the money that way. The option he's offered is nowhere near fair. Let whatever kid thinks they can run it and thinks they're rich enough to buy it from the siblings do so.

[@amanda27miller]

Birthday Story: YTA! In my opinion this is the same principle as a parent that sets aside a child’s college fund. That money has been set aside. It has a designated purpose. You don’t get to change your mind later and use it for yourself. I think that’s tacky. She wasn’t struggling. The money was set aside. So, it wasn’t used immediately for its intended purpose. She could have given the remaining balance to the friend directly. She could have taken her out for a separate dinner. There are so many other options other than, “whoops. You didn’t play by my rules, now you don’t get the full present that I intended to give.” 😮 What?

[@pixiegirl131415]

Why is the friend entitled to OP’s money at all? She has no obligation to pay for a friends birthday party. That alone was presumptuous. So if I set aside $100 to buy someone a Christmas gift, and I get it on sale for $60, I have to give them the other 40? You make no sense.

[@amanda27miller]

@@pixiegirl131415 The friend was kind enough to set aside the money for the friend. I believe that at that point it’s the friends money. She didn’t ask for the money. It was always intended as a gift.

[@iwishiknewyourmom69]

@@amanda27millershe was never told about the money, there were no promises made, no expectations. it is ABSOLUTELY NOT the friends money in any capacity! the gift and whatever she paid for at dinner is the friends/restaurants.