AITA For Not Splitting The Surprise Thanksgiving Bill? - Family Reddit Story

[@yamairad1]

Make all the casseroles you want in YOUR house then bring them.

[@DeniseStaniec]

Can I thumbs X 100

[@68hilaire]

Who brings food to others house without having it already prepared and ready to go.

[@OGJaquarPrincess]

I get why some don’t. They want things to be ready when everything else is ready and want it to be hot without warming it up.

[@califdad4]

8 casseroles along with the traditional thanksgiving meal,? Is he crazy?

[@Emjay_blackdogranch]

I pared our dinner way down this year. We normally have 20-30 people, but it was just the 4 of us. We discussed what we all really wanted and that’s what we made

[@yamairad1]

I already think Thanksgiving dinner is excessive. I have a rule of 1 meat, 2 side dishes, and 1 dessert. I'm not making anything else. I want to enjoy my family, I don't want to eat the same thing for weeks, and I hate wasting food. Anything more than that is excessive.

[@califdad4]

@@yamairad1 I actually enjoy sliced ham with thanksgiving meal , which is my favorite leftover

[@yamairad1]

@califdad4 Yes, but that's not 7 things. And do you still love it the Monday after?. I know, we won't eat it in my house so I just don't overcook.

[@califdad4]

@yamairad1 I agree I just love ham along with turkey

[@LordMondegrene]

Smoked paprika? Pineapple peeler? EIGHT CASSEROLES?! He forgot his crack pipe.

[@Emjay_blackdogranch]

Nah, he bought one while he was out. It’s on the itemized receipt

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

When I cook, I cook BIG. It's nothing to me, we eat buffet style, have all kinds of dishes, have tons of leftovers.

[@otakelblanchemanor0659]

Good one!

[@Stephanie-q9o]

Your FIL is insane!! Pineapple peelers?!? Caramel apples?!? EIGHT casseroles?!?!? What in the world?!?!? Who brings unprepared food to someone else’s house and expects to monopolize the kitchen?? Just plain rude.

[@met999000]

So they wanna split the bill evenly across the brothers. One brother is single, one brother has a child, the other brother, I believe, has at least 2 children. And you want to evenly split the bill in thirdss. How is that even. And then if i'm reading this right, FIL Who is not included in this division, is taking all the food home. Dont pay Charge them for renting the house. Using the kitchen and the electricity to cook everything, water bill et cetera. Oh yeah bathroom charges. I almost forgot, charge FIL for the take out food (leftovers).

[@dharma6481]

My hosting rule: “yes you may bring something, but it needs to be ready to serve in your dish (cannot need to be reheat or refrigerated) because I don’t have space.”

[@dereklucero5785]

My hosting rule- if I invite you to dinner, my house, play date, t-giving, x-mas dinner, et-al, it’s on my dime unless otherwise stated. Damn, whatever happened to general politeness?

[@velmahawkins6347]

No is a complete sentence.

[@user-ii3vn8tn3q]

If I was surprised with a bill, I want an equal proportion of ALL the leftovers, including the paid for utensils.

[@Msfeathers7]

Just say "not gonna happen."

[@loliejane1164]

Send back an itemized bill of everything YOU purchased, ingredients used from your kitchen and any disposables (napkins, dish soap, dish washer detergent, toilet paper, hand soap, and anything else FIL may have used). Make sure to include the wine. He can't take beverages off if you paid for them. FIL will likely owe you more than you'd owe him, which you "can be nice enough to call even, and we'll be returning the pineapple peeler and caramel apple kit since they were never used." BIL was probably under the assumption that you paid for all the groceries.

[@MH_Prof]

“No, not necessary. Good night! See you next year!”

[@lindak8664]

I’d be sending him the bill for the enormous amount of leftovers he took home with him! Itemised, of course. Have you ever noticed how much stress and how many arguments are caused by hosting giant family meals for ‘occasions’? And all these ‘occasions’ are supposed to promote harmony and good will? You end up broke, stressed and swearing you will never get involved with another one as long as you live.

[@justmepercy720]

Plus the use of your house, electricity, use of kitchen, water, labour (esp. cleanup) etc etc.. And ban the eegit until he learns some sense.

[@mogulmade]

😂 They'll be hosting AGAIN next year.

[@nzbidzel]

send a counter bill

[@jcb8858]

Potluck Thanksgiving is everyone covers what they are bring. Host oven should only be used to reheat.

[@Emjay_blackdogranch]

My kitchen is mine. If I’m hosting, I’m cooking. Period. Don’t like that? Then you can host. I barely let the people that live here use the kitchen, and that’s only because they know the rules(don’t put my expensive knives or cast iron in the dishwasher)

[@seraglioborneo2803]

OP's child is 17. SO she has known FIL, MIL for at least 18 years. OP says her husband is capable of handling things. So why did they agree to all the crazy antics of OP's in laws? Both appear incapable of saying NO! to husband's parents. (both Qaren)

[@robertalernet2199]

Phil can eat in his own home alone.

[@winniethepoohandeeyore2]

And they fell for it 🤣🤣🤣

[@fanfare78]

Straight to the point

[@nzbidzel]

Host "Split the bill ok by the way there is a venue cost for the use and cleanup that you are not doing at all that needs factoring"

[@rayxav]

"...my husband and I just stood there in silence..." C'mon! Really?!? The proper response with the unnecessary food that is a "tradition" and then the PLANNED Tupperware that was filled and taken home by FIL and MIL, is "F YOU ALL!" Followed by: "Never come back to my home!"

[@darlawilley7468]

No gravy? ☹️😳

[@RPSimms]

I don't understand--did FIL also pay for the ingredients for the turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, etc., as well as the unwanted casseroles? Or did the hosts pay for that? Was part of the agreement that they would host and FIL would pay for the feast? Sure, FIL padded the bill with unnecessary and unwanted things, and it was rude of him to expect repayment for a meal not previously agreed upon, where only a few would split the bill for 12 people--but maybe they could have chipped in for some of the expense--just not all of it. Yeah, FIL was rude but the guys could have at least chipped in $20 a piece to offset the expense--then never host another meal with greedy FIL.

[@raranjan4383]

God, where do all these spineless people come from? OP, grow a spine. If it were me, I would have told him to get lost. Just wish you would pick yourself off the floor and get a spine.

[@BrettHarvey-u6c]

Fil is crazy. Now, I like the AI enunciation, however, the pattern is a bit annoying

[@bir0725]

These stories have to be AI generated. Not worth your time.

[@nicolegilbert7011]

Not going to happen

[@kathleenchandler8124]

This sounds like fiction generated by AI

[@MrRedditTales]

Why?

[@crazycatlady6396]

I don’t because families can have crazy stuff like this happen at big meals. I’ve got stories sand lots of others do too!