AITA for saying my wife will have to quit her job if we get booted from another daycare?

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[@TheVeggiekat]

OP needs to look out for his kid. His wife is too unstable to be a good mom and she’s going to make her child anxious and entitled.

[@thobiem]

NTA, look into more intensive therapy options for your wife, ask if she can be given anti anxiety medication. Do not let this woman take care of your child full time. It’ll be a nightmare

[@rickraber1249]

It's the old "But I'm entitled to my feelings!" thing. If she honestly can't control her own emotions, she needs to get on meds. Seriously. She making herself and everyone around her miserable.

[@Mark73]

Yeah, you're entitled to your emotions. It's also your responsibility to manage your emotions, and it's no one else's responsibility to be a dumping ground or punching bag for your emotions.

[@benu_bird]

It would be a disaster if this mother took over full time care of the child. She'll just transfer all her anxiety to the poor child. The mother needs serious therapy. And how can she even be working if she is always focused on the child?

[@jerryferreira8960]

NTA. It is the wife's fault she is the way she is. Although she's getting therapy, she needs to change her ways NOW. However, if she doesn't, I really feel bad for the child, you, and future teachers your daughter will have.

[@doglvr1]

Time for divorce and full custody. Your wife is crazy.

[@russs7574]

I'm not sure what the solution is to your predicament, however, I can tell you that under no circumstances should your wife stay at home and become your daughter's primary caregiver. All she would do is pass on her anxiety and attitudes to your daughter, and turn her into an emotional dumpster fire. Your wife seriously needs more intensive therapy, if not some antianxiety meds, or antidepressants. (Do they still do lobotomies? Just kidding.) Question: How does OP's wife manage to hang onto her job, if she spends so much time at work micromanaging her daughter's daycare? If OP thought for one moment that he could get sole custody of Alexis, divorce would be a viable option. I hate to be so crass, but OP's wife is a Looney Tune, and I doubt very much whether she actually WANTS to change. I dealt with my own Marriage From Hell (The ex was "one of those mothers." She was literally physically banned from our kid's elementary school because of her behavior toward, and treatment of the teachers.)" for over 20 years before I came to the conclusion that my ex, Lady Voldemort, was borderline insane, so I know what OP is dealing with.

[@doglvr1]

Your wife should stay at home and take care of her own child. No one should have to tolerate her inappropriate behavior. She is a menace and should be banned from day care facilities until she gets some serious help.

[@mariacalini7572]

the daughter shouldn't have to tolerate it too, but if she stays at home with her mother she is the first to tolerate

[@zhmw]

It's a wonder your wife hasn't been fired from her job, because she spends all day texting her daughter's daycare. And it would be a disaster for your daughter if your wife stayed at home. When your daughter is old enough for public school, she won't be able to directly text your daughter's teacher. What will she do then? Time for serious therapy for your wife, and time to do everything you can to protect your daughter.

[@rmenninghaus1646]

as a retired HS teacher I remember when emailing teachers was started. I had one Dad who would email several times a day than get nasty when his texts were not answered with in an hour or too. I had 6 classes a 14 minute lunch, and a study hall with 30 kids. I let all parent know that I would check mail at 2:30 pm after my other obligations were done.

[@jeffreyanderson1851]

NTA. your wife will drive herself and your daughter crazy.

[@depp5601]

I feel sorry for your child having the mother she has-someone who seems to have no control over themselves and must make everyone else miserable.