AITA For Telling My Husband To Wipe Better?

[@pansprayers]

If you can't handle the blood that comes both before and after the child you had fun creating, or properly wipe your own ass, you need to stay single.

[@niecydeleon759]

I'd be so turned off by the stained underwear.

[@tegantalks9612]

First story- how dare a woman *checks notes* bleed after birth and dispose of the bloody pads in the bathroom?! NTA. Hubby needs to grow up, it’s normal to bleed postpartum and periods are also normal. One thing I’ve found that helps the period situation is have a small covered trash can in the bathroom because my dog will try to get at my bloody period products and you can’t flush them.

[@ladyfaeryj5108]

Naw she needs to leave, he can't even wipe his on ass. She needs to just get out before she has another kid. Let alone he can't even deal with period products

[@pansprayers]

Like OP said, the dog ate through the lid on the trash can. The trash can is needed to keep the dog out, the husband can't wipe his own ass, and is whining about the very fluid that comes with being married and MAKING CHILDREN.

[@tegantalks9612]

@@pansprayers yeah, it’s why I invested in metal bins. Husband still sick though.

[@raymondcarter1137]

Actually that woman is trash and he needs a partner that respects her marriage. He should divorce this horrible woman. And if you think that this is about a bloody tampon then you have utterly failed to understand the story correctly. They will divorce and it’s her fault.

[@supersinger234]

@@raymondcarter1137 you hate women, say it with your chest. we know it cause theres no way anyone would think the husband is right in this story. she just birthed a baby, shes bleeding, and hes triggered by her blood on a pad? SHE JUST HAD THEIR BABY

[@staylor3483]

My son absolutely refused to take to the breast no matter what I tried. He lost 2.7 pounds in just 3 days & the doctor told me to use formula. 29 years later he's a strapping man. Breast feeding is NOT for ever baby...

[@emilyw.1186]

I was premature and was literally too small to breast feed. I turned out fine too

[@alyzu4755]

Yup. My son was having trouble nursing, lost weight in the first few days, and the pediatrician told me to supplement with formula. He very kindly took time to sit me down and tell me that, despite what others might have told me, there was no shame in using formula. He's now nearly 21, healthy as can be, and the tallest member of our extended family. OP's wife is a brat. Why does she keep undermining his efforts at getting a job? I agree with the first comment, DO NOT have more kids with her. I hope he gets out and gets custody.

[@emilywahlgren4171]

Amen! Breast milk is awesome. But, fed is always best!

[@sleepwalking3345]

I was a premie ceserian so my mum could genuinely not preduce milk. Im alive. Thats what maters more.

[@yentledyas]

When I had my twins, I didn't produce enough milk for one, let alone two. I mean, what are you supposed to do? Let these babies starve? Those people are a-holes.

[@shaylynnejones1725]

Breastmilk story: I literally would have died if my mom had stuck to breastfeeding. I have an underbite, and couldn't latch well enough to eat (and made my mom bleed BAD). I was underweight and starving. This guy couldn't be more of a hero for that poor mom

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story one: OP's husband is the type of man that should have stayed single for life.

[@everymoviehero9248]

Agreed, I'm disgusted by blood as well, but it's in the trash, what other steps are necessary, hazmat suit and toxic waste barrel? Ops husband needs to man up

[@shonnie81]

As a female, I would be pissed to see period blood in the trash or on the toilet. I don't want to see mine and definitely wouldn't want to see someone else's. 🤮

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

@@shonnie81 I hope you never have children, I’m sorry to say that but it’s really not acceptable to teach a child their normal bodily functions are disgusting or shameful. If you have such a strong revulsion that’s really your issue and no one else’s.

[@Asp47999]

He doesn’t even own a vehicle and has shit stains in his pants. Wouldn’t be me birthing out an entire child for this dude lol.

[@flext-rex8284]

@@shonnie81 don’t have kids

[@Lumeriadeborel]

Fed is best, p-e-r-i-o-d! I suffered from PPD and PTSD, and couldn’t for the life of me breastfeed. After 3 days I switched to formula and that saved our sanity and we had a fully fed, happy baby. He’s now 7, very athletic (wish I had his non-stop energy) and is doing great.

[@bethanygee6939]

Way to go, mama. I was lucky enough to produce enough milk to feed my babies but it's not that way for everyone and I would never judge a mom for making an obvious choice. Nobody else should either.

[@pansprayers]

Exactly this. As long as mom is comfortable, and baby is hitting milestones, and the pediatrician is happy, just feed the baby.

[@Rigpixie]

Exactly! Happy healthy baby and mama is goals!!!

[@sbh2888]

As a newborn care specialist, I can safely say that you basically saved both mother and baby. The formula today is very, very good. There is no need to make everyone crazy over breastfeeding.

[@pansprayers]

As a nutritionist, I fully agree. I cried for that poor mother and baby. Breastfeeding is fantastic - if it's working for mother and baby. It's literally a nightmare that can end fatally if it's not working. Feed your kids, you, the pediatrician, and the baby are the only ones who get an opinion on the matter.

[@nicopaoletti3501]

Depends on the country though, I have a friend who basically makes a couple thousand every month by sending German baby formula to her family in China. Chinese formula is apparently really dangerous.

[@LadyMot]

I am big in breastfeeding, and the benefits are very real, but would the stress hormones and potential DEATH for both mother and baby WAY out weight any benefits. An alive and healthy mother and baby are always best.

[@christineharris2302]

I'm in the process of interviewing online with various companies for a new job. My husband is home all day. He seems to be able to manage to be absolutely quiet for the entire duration of all my interviews. Not sure why she can't. Sounds like she's purposely sabotaging him

[@pansprayers]

LOL, my husband has had to work from home for SEVEN years (first due to the nature of his job being a consultant, then when he switched jobs and the cluster f*ck hit). I've managed to keep complete silence (at one point with three kids, six dogs, and him in the freaking kitchen because that's what was available) for eight HOURS at a time, even if it wasn't needed. I don't understand some people.

[@theducklinghomesteadandgar6639]

Oh, she knows how to be quiet when it matters to her and her wants or needs and probably even sometimes his needs as well. I seriously think and would actually place a bet (I don't bet) that the reason she is doing this is she DOES NOT WANT TO BE A SAHM!!!! She likely said she wanted to do so, to try to look the part of wanting to be the best mom ever so she said that she wanted to stay home thinking he would say, "I know babe, but you can't because I don't make enough on my own. You will have to continue to work after the baby is 6 weeks old." And she likely didn't think he would actively start looking and interviewing and actually have a chance of making enough that she would have to stay at home just to save face!!!

[@katrinschirmer8018]

she sounds like the teenagers who hang out at my house who bug my husband while he's working from home, seemingly not understanding that just because he is at home means he's available to do stuff for them. I've lost track of the times we've both had to remind people that he is working and can't just go do whatever all the time.

[@katrinschirmer8018]

@@pansprayers plus there's a difference between perfect silence and intentionally interrupting someone. I'm sure he would have been fine with background noise, as long as no one is harassing him during the test. all she had to do was not knock on the door for however long the test took.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Wait... Soo SIL's sister and OP's sister were NOT minding their own business when they forced OP's SIL to breastfeed 24/7, but when OP stepped in and helped SIL by getting baby formula, getting her to shower and sleep and cleaning the house it was BAD??? OP's brother and SIL need to go NC with both toxic families and just allow OP over for support.

[@TheIndigoLion]

I'm single as hell, but I find Op's husband sending her coffee and flowers and breakfast everyday is super cute and romantic. I would be happy for her. The people calling it weird just have never been in a loving relationship/marriage and are bitter and you can't tell me otherwise. Instead of being jealous I would be be wondering how can I get a man like that, lmao. Thiugh maybe I'm biased because I love romance anything, and I enjoy seeing others be happy. Also why does she have to be less snide when her coworker is being rude herself... threatening to go to HR and all that over photos of her kids on her desk.

[@Miroslava_Ivanova]

Same here, honestly some people really can't mind their own business, and since when is having photos of family unprofessional?

[@annabordelon6663]

Ditto

[@mrs.h2725]

My husband is Norwegian and they’re a very stoic ppl, especially compared to us loud mouth Americans lol. So if he gets me flowers for my bday or anniversary, it makes my heart swoon cuz I know being romantic really doesn’t come naturally to him. Getting flowers or a lunch at work like that is honestly adorable, and likely makes the hubby feel just as good giving gifts as it does for OP receiving them. I’m a gift giver as well, and seeing someone light up when you give or make something for them is awesome.

[@ryankerr2110]

Seriously I can't see why that would be an issue.. unless the co-worker is jealous

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Wait.,. There are Stay At Home Wives that make their husband's lunch every single day and leave a lovely note inside the lunch box. Yet Reddit seems to be creeped out when the husband provides his PREGNANT working wife a breakfast and coffee everyday at work? There are places where the housewife actually comes to the office for lunch to give her husband his lunch in person and that's considered a normal thingy (albeit a bit Stepford Wifey) but OP's hubby having a breakfast and drink sent to her office (which she picks up OUTSIDE the office space) is somehow "pissing on his property to mark his territory". If we want equal rights, that means gender roles will be reversed and sometimes the man will dote of his wife when she's at work. I see nothing wrong with OP. The problem is that OP should never have made that personal comment about her coworker. Now she can't act innocent in front of HR. Plus, HR is there to benefit the company and control the employees. So OP is pregnant and is about to go on maternal leave and may not return. The other coworker is single and thus isn't likely to take extra time off work. HR will side with the coworker now that OP has lowered herself to the coworker's level. OP might lose her job if she doesn't start documenting EVERYTHING and getting witnesses showing how the coworker is causing the hostile workplace.

[@damien678]

I seriously just don't get it. Are those commenters just jealous? I'd both love to have a husband that'd do that and be that kinda hubby. Like... are those commenters also against house husbands in general? A lot of women can't even find a dude that'll do even half the chores but now it's creepy to get your wife food?? Being considerate is bad???

[@magnarcreed3801]

I mean I always supported both. Good to caring partners. Fuck the haters.

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

@@damien678 I definitely feel some bitterness in some of those comments

[@pansprayers]

I'm going to just say, that as a SAHW (albeit reluctant, but my tag name kids explains it) who was a chef (and did tech to pay for her second degree when she landed in a wheelchair), it does feel like pissing on your property the way it's being executed. Do I send my husband with homefood when he's in the office? Yes. But it gets sent in with his body in a manner that doesn't require him to get up and receive it everyday outside of normal lunch hours, interrupt his classes or meetings, or cause a scene. Are there notes if my fingers are capable of gripping a pen that day (or even a text if my fingers are sublaxed) and I know he's having a hard time? Yes. But not done EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. And nobody knows that he got a note, because it's literally not something that's relevant to the working environment - the only way the coworker would even know this was a daily thing is if she were told. I never decorated my cubicle or office with pictures of my kids, husband, or family members, because there's a certain amount of professionalism and privacy you need to maintain in a working environment. Romance, your marriage, and children aren't appropriate in the workplace. Frankly, I've seen enough fried keyboards and motherboards in my time from things like coffee spills, that that wouldn't be allowed on the floor I was managing (even 'in a covered container' leaves too much leeway with some people). In a spill-proof sports bottle, sure, until that gets violated. Food stays in the break room, and is consumed during lunch and breaks, unless a doctor states you need to eat more often. I have AOT1 Diabetes, and I STILL wouldn't do this. Flowers just belong at home. I would have been a bit more sympathetic if OP had of just rolled her eyes and got on with it, and let the coworker do what she was going to do or spoken to HR herself, but the second she turned the coworkers' marital status into a jab, that hit a few legal issues (and the half assed, 'oh, being single isn't a BAD THING' as a backpedal is like a bitchy cheerleader saying 'just kidding' when everyone knows they're not). THAT'S what HR is going to can her for.

[@damien678]

@@browhattheactualfu-2659 FR, and honestly they deserve men that'll be considerate like this and caring!! everyone should aspire to be a beckon of love in their partner's lives :(

[@lorifiedler13]

Skid Marks. Depending on how nasty they are, poor OP is washing shit INTO the laundry. She should set them aside for him to wash separately. That's why you shouldn't wash cloth diapers with other clothes.

[@pansprayers]

Probably washing them separately, without saying it, or as mentioned, scrubbing them (generally implies by hand). Husband is a child

[@psyolytesaille]

@@pansprayers Yeah if I accidentally leak past the pad because I dared sleep on my back or side in a significant way, I'm hand washing that blood out with cold water immediately.

[@irenatheginger2491]

Breastfeeding is not as easy as the general public makes it out to be. The fact that she felt so bad and kept trying when it wasn't working as well for either of them, giving that can of formula was a gift they all needed. I pumped with my first and he got formula too and my second I had a bit of an easier time with it. But with that being said, it still was not as easy overall, easier yes, but still an uphill journey. At the end of the day, as long as baby is fed and thriving that is all that matters in the end.

[@michellegill-scott1437]

Breakfast isn't a gift it is a nice thing, and a little note every so often is sweet... Don't people have lunch delivered everyday or most days, how is breakfast with a not upsetting

[@Mr.andMrs.Smith_0420]

Exactly, I remember when I first heard this story and I said the same thing, he's sending her breakfast ffs! There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, even if he was sending her gifts, it's no ones business and hurts nobody, that woman is a miserable, jealous, ahole, who needs to mind her own business, I would've told her the same thing, she absolutely deserves it 👍

[@LexTime89]

Yes! The people saying him sending food everyday is excessive and distracting? Nobody would say a word if she was ordering the food herself. It’s obviously jealously.

[@StaciLearns]

My daughter had a nasty rash on her butt for the first few weeks of her life. I would put diaper rash cream on and make sure to wipe her super well. One day after feeding her I noticed her lips were red and her breathing was shallow. I called my doctor and she suggested a special formula ASAP and all of it cleared up within the day. I went to the WIC office to ask for help and caught hell because I took her off of breast milk. I asked them if they would rather have a healthy baby or a dead baby because that's what they were trying to make me choose between. They tried telling me to talk to her doctor and was shocked when I told them she was the one who told me to do it. People just don't get it that it's not always breast is best. The first husband would be in hell because since August I've been suffering from polycystic ovary syndrome and have started a 3 week on, 3 week off period cycle. Nothing so far has helped to correct it. We are still trying to work our way through the insurance checklist up to getting rid of the problem permanently.

[@mrs.h2725]

I hope you were able to find a doctor that would agree to help with hysterectomy (assuming that’s the permanent solution you were referring to). It’s absolutely insane how difficult it is for women to find docs who will agree to do a hysterectomy. They mostly think it’s more important to keep the baby factory in tact rather than help the woman in need of medical intervention.

[@sharolynwells]

My daughter came out as pansexual eight years ago. My husband and I told her, We don't care. You are our daughter and nothing will destroy our love for you. my father insisted that I kick her out. I told him no. he insisted again. I told him, when you pay my rent, you can dictate who lives in my house. until then, Meg's staying right where she is.

[@lillytheskeleton]

You are a good mother! 👏👏👏

[@sharolynwells]

@Lilly the Skeleton She's my pride and joy. My father was a narcissistic a$$hole who thought he could still run my life even though I was 52 years old.

[@Miroslava_Ivanova]

Wish more parents saw it this way, it hasn't affected me personally, but as a bisexual it makes my heart break when I hear stories of children rejected by their parents for their sexuality.

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

Your a great loving parent as everyone should be! You love your child Unconditionally ! As long as they are healthy happy and safe that is all that matters!!

[@joaolima7131]

As a gay man, thank you for being there for your kid, wish my family was like you, I hope OP son doesn't turn out gay, he clearly won't have his father support, and I doubt therapy would work, prejudiced people usually "don't believe" in therapy

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. OP you are a saint for the formula. Rachel needs to be thrown out of the house and not let back in. They were doing nothing, but causing a new mother distress. OP do not ever feel bad about this.

[@monsecookies-u7x]

First story; my husband goes to the store to buy my pads. He’s always making sure I have enough. I once accidentally soiled the bed because my period came a week early, he told me not to worry and he washed the sheets so I wouldn’t feel embarrassed. He takes out the bathroom trash and doesn’t care if there are used pads in it (i wrap them up in the wrapper) you unfortunately married a boy not a man.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

The OP who is 18 needs to LEAVE and take all her legal documents. She can couch surf until she has enough money to rent. She needs to find a credit security company to make sure her family doesn't try to use her identity to ruin her credit or just steal from her. I have noticed that the more devout a religious person is, the more they actually are "sinners". Like they are hiding their true nature by spouting about their god and forcing others to live by some arbitrarily impossible standards.

[@gottathinkupanewone]

I suggest the man whose wife refuses to be quiet while he does online interviews/testing, take his laptop and go to the nearest library. Reserve a quiet room for the interview or test. Don't tell your wife where you are going. But tell her the next time she pulls this crap, she's going home to mother whether she wants to or not.

[@Azza240]

I grew up with my sister and 2 female cousins I was the master of dressing Barby dolls and didn't turn me gay, if I was gay I don't think little ponny or Barby have to do something with that!

[@joaolima7131]

Unfortunately, prejudiced people don't use logic

[@treco2583]

What’s the difference between OP ordering food and having it delivered and her husband having it delivered to her?!???? It’s not like he goes to her job to chat every morning. And it’s ONE flower.

[@wendyhadley2764]

First story I'm sure they didn't think so but they were abusing her and the husband must have seen how she felt and let them continue. Good for you for butting in she needed that. I'm a strong supporter of breastfeeding but expecting a woman who is having so much trouble with it is just so wrong! You did right!

[@redresearchanalyst]

Parents stressing over gender roles baffle me. Do the believe only men can be Doctors and only woman can be nurses? Only men can serve in the military? Only women be elementary/high school teachers and only men principals or professors? Only men can be sports coaches/NFL referees and only woman can be cheer leaders? How about strippers? Road workers? Construction? CEO’s? Hairdressers? Drum players or bass players? Chefs? Race car/funny car drivers? Truck drivers? What about men who wear pink/yellow/purple ties? Woman who wear pants? How insecure are these people that they can’t be comfortable in their own skin then try to force such narrow-minded ideals on their own children/others? Bet they would go nuts over the historical fact during Shakespeare’s time only men were allowed to be actors & dressed/played all the female roles, lol.

[@labyrinthgirl17]

I'd love to talk to that homophobe and tell him that pink used to be a boy's color and blue was considered a feminine color before WWII, high heels were originally worn by men, and about a century ago, little boys wore dresses before being deemed old enough for pants. Would probably cause his little mind to implode.

[@redresearchanalyst]

@@labyrinthgirl17 I knew about blue (a sign of purity in wedding gowns before white became a thing, thanks Philippe of England) did not know about pink. Interesting.

[@jenc9532]

The op with the formula is one smart responsible 18 year old and since nobody else in her life told her I’m proud of her

[@pansprayers]

So am I. I cried for the SIL. I wish someone would have been able to stand up for me like that.

[@jenc9532]

@@pansprayers I’m sorry you went through something like that I can’t imagine how hard it must have been and I hope things are easier now

[@healing_and_humor4530]

So...somebody's hubby needs to start wearing pads to keep his underwear clean. Just a thought.

[@CJMactaggartknits]

Lake front - My sister had a lake front lot - and the only way she got the trespassing to stop was to "re-slope" her property to make it impossible for trespassing. This included large rocks. There was also theft of boat/skido gas going on when she was not there, so the tanks were emptied and filled with water. The Real gas was kept in the shed instead. Then she sold the cabin when the neighbors were away - suck it. The new owners are 24/7 owners - with Dogs and lots of children. She goes for visits every now and then, has a good chuckle at the condition of the lot.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

The wife who refuses to keep quiet while OP is trying to interview for a better job so she can be a SAHM is extremely insane. OP needs to insist on couples counseling. If she refuses, OP needs to find a way to get fired at his job about 6 months after his wife has the baby, then she'll get a job and he can stay home to watch the baby while SHE works. Once he's got a few months in, he can file for divorce and get alimony and child support AND more custody because he has established himself as the primary caregiver and has a lower income than her. But if he can get her into counseling then maybe he can convince her of her self destructive attitude and he doesn't have to leave her toxic ass..

[@saratronus]

Even if OP passed the test it wouldn't have been good as an employee a workplace is never perfectly quiet if little noises distract him from doing his job then he shouldn't be working outhen he shouldn't be working a job that needs perfect silence And hes not suitable for a job. What happens if he has to work from home and he has a baby is he not gonna be able to work because the baby is crying. And spoiler alert not every woman wants to divorce their husband to get alimony I don't know what's wrong with people nowadays 🤦‍♀️

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@saratronus - Take a test while your family is banging on your door and expecting you to listen to them.

[@saratronus]

@@cjandauntieyaya1446 If you cannot focus on a test no matter the situation you're not gonna be able to focus when shit goes down at work. I've done test with my family's being It's loud and I've passed because I was able to focus even with the noise

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@saratronus LOL. You are a PERFECT person, hmmm? Never been distracted. There's no such thing as ADHD, Dyslexia, or any other kind of issue with concentration. You are perfect and so if anybody isn't as perfect as you, it is THEIR fault.

[@saratronus]

@@cjandauntieyaya1446 When did I ever say that I just know how to focus on my work I have ADHD I just managed it it's not being a perfect person it's just being person is just being an adult and managing managing and focusing. Because no one's gonna put up with your excuses in the real world Even if you have ADHD or not They're still expected to focus and work. If you honestly believe that someone could focus It's being Is abolist then you need a lot of help. I also have dyslexia hence why you Text since otherwise I would suck at writing not typing And you should never assume anything about someone else online when it comes to health It's frankly dangerous because giving the wrong advice could lead to unforeseen Consequences

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Even Australian hospitals are prejudiced towards formula, so if she got a maternity class like I did, then she's not the only person struggling from misinformation and that's heartbreaking. My son is 7 years old now, but in my hospital's maternity class the lady REFUSED to discuss bottle feeding with me and when a father asked about his partner pumping so he could bond with baby, this lady told him he could BATH THE BABY to bond with it! She continually emphasised that they promote breastfeeding in this hospital. I was not the only person in the room who clarified that we were medically unable to breast feed, but we were still given a knitted boob and baby doll and encouraged to practice with it. As a former group leader in multiple daycares I saw more formula than breast milk provided for babies so I knew whoever thought up that maternity class was an idiot as obviously knowing how to sterilise bottles and prepare formula properly would have been an important skill to teach expectant parents as well as their partner.

[@cass973]

Breastfeeding story- NTA- How can the rest of them say mind your own business? They aren't minding their own business. THEY NEED TO MIND THEIR OWN BUSINESS.

[@pansprayers]

Exactly. No nipples? No opinion.

[@melodygrim471]

Ridiculous that she can't exercise a bit of RESPECT when her husband has explained that he's trying to interview for a job to provide for the roof over her head. She acts like she believes he might be having an online relationship, and just using the request for quiet and privacy as an excuse to do things that in no way connect with a job interview. Maybe she's read too many reddit posts about that happening, or one of her friends has put a bug in her ear that "maybe he's not really,...". Could OP take her to the computer and show her his history so she can see that he's actually trying to be a good provider. In this online world, crazy things abound. And the stories you see on reddit can make a saint look like a sinner! Oh, and story one - OP COULD try FOLDING the used pad before wrapping it, and then there's nothing to see! Worked for me all my life. Works for my daughters snd granddaughters now. No need to just wrap an opened flat used pad - the paper just absorbs what's in the pad and then you've just wasted paper. Fold it in thirds and wrap it up nice and neat and nobody will have anything to see. Then her SO will have to find something else to be so offended about!

[@XxXShevampXxX]

Breastfeeding story: My god....they were treating that poor woman like a damn milk cow. Their behavior sounded so dehumanizing, bless her heart. I had a NICU nurse reduce me to tears at one point after I had my now 20 month old son because I had only produced like 20 ml of breast milk. It was terrible.

[@meadowsong8560]

I literally clapped for the OP that stood her ground against her old terrible roommate wanting to live in her penthouse after getting kicked out of their old apartment. I loved that it took barely anytime for their friends who took him in to realize how awful he was. They are stuck with him now.

[@ED-fo1pe]

"Breast is best unless mom is depressed." FED is BEST.

[@damien678]

why did story 1 OP have a baby with a dude that never got proper potty training

[@swedishmake-upgeek5650]

”No child of his will be gay”. Errrrr, what??? That poor child if he in any way does anything different than what his father expects…

[@joaolima7131]

I really hope he doesn't turn out gay, or that OP divorces this guy one day

[@annabordelon6663]

Breakfast: OP RUN to HR and file a compaint.

[@bubblesawesome3284]

The husband giving her wife food is so sweet. Reddit is wrong on this one. He’s giving her food. She didn’t eat so she’s making sure she’s eating.

[@kellyk6652]

For the person where neighbors keep trespassing: If he has NO TRESPASSING signs posted, they can't sue for a damn thing! He's protected. However, he can start exercising a few of those constitutional rights

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I guess there’s an important lesson to be learned when you marry people that are homophobic. It will impact how your kids are raised regardless of if they’re queer or not.

[@cpparkinson5109]

Yeah can't say that about everyone. I know a guy, was homophobic, had kids, son is gay. Father accepted that, still loves him accepts him, happy ending. Sometimes your unconditional love will override previous beliefs.... Sometimes it doesn't, and then do you really love you children..... I don't believe so.

[@ZombieSazza]

I’m a photographer, the Karen complaining and demanding the photographer bend to her will, demand she be allowed to have her child there when there was a no minor policy, didn’t bother reading the studios packet which obviously had the terms and conditions, felt entitled to the 2 hour studio time despite only paying for 1, somehow feels that it’s the photographers fault childcare fell through and she only got 25 minutes of shooting time, never spoke to the photographer and instead made a charge back, and STILL somehow expects all the photos… yeah, she is what we call a “nightmare”. Customers like this end up black listed locally for very good reason, they threaten to sue because of their own behaviour, expect your full day despite only paying for a couple of hours, think they can demand all their money back and believe they’ll still get their photos for free, the photos which they gushed about being great on the day are now somehow “below expected quality”, and will expect every single image taken that day instead of the 20-50 best images which is what they’re actually paying for. They don’t care how much work goes into photography, they think “well anyone can do it”, they think having a small camera or phone is just as good, they think a talented photographer just has “a good camera” and not the photographer having talent, they don’t see photography as the demanding job it can easily become because of nightmare clients. I’m mass published, have a good reputation, have worked with large companies and charities, and have photographed a fair amount of celebrities, so I can afford to be very picky with my client list, the quality of my work and references speak for themselves and I don’t have to chase the work, I work with the people I want to. I’m lucky in this regard because I can avoid these nightmare situations and can actually enjoy the photography I produce instead of having to chase clients to make a bit of money to survive, and I would not change that one bit. It’s a massive reason why I won’t do weddings or family portraits, because that’s where the most entitled customers are. I’ll stick to high end clients and doing hobby photography where I’ve a half decent following online who enjoy my hobby photography. I feel so much for the photographer dealing with OP, because she used that extra hour at the studio to make up for unexpected costs so she wasn’t paying out more than she’d earn, and she got an absolute Karen.

[@datkitten]

1st story husband deserved her statement. She's nta she just had a baby i needed a bed pad and extra large pads. not once did my partner complain because i just gave him a child. 2nd story: nta. She knew in advice. 5th time hun after 3rd time would be i'm booking a room to due this or just telling her stay at home is a no go if i can't get better job. 3rd story nta. he needs to protect himself. 4th story as someone who could not breastfeed Op saved them from not only having the baby fail to thrive but a cps visit. the mother was probably on the brink from developing ppd. my kids where super bad and also most had to be on soy formula. nta.

[@cheallaigh]

man, soy reaks... had no choice but to use it too with my older son when i had to stop breastfeeding.

[@gizrat]

My son didn't come out at all. He just came home with a boyfriend. Introduced him and the both of them went to his room. Nobody in my or my wife's family gave a shit he had a boyfriend.

[@michellecaudle9413]

As far as breastfeeding, for multiple reasons I had trouble with my supply after having to go back to work when my boys where born, and switched to a formula that they could handle ( history of allergies for a particular brand/ special dietary requirements). We all had more rest and happier babies after.

[@littlegreycat]

I completely understand how someone could think they have “antisocial tendencies” after dealing with nasty controlling parents.

[@echomoon3381]

Little gifts at work. I'm guessing y'all didnt see where OP said she picks up the gifts herself they are NOT delivered to her desk. I think co-worker is majorly jealous. I think it's fantastic that he does this. If OP is smart she would be better off to go to HR herself first.

[@lillithherondale1972]

Hubby in story 1 is such a big baby.

[@autumn557]

I’m imagining this story in chaotic gremlin era Markee now.

[@veraleucomelas]

About breastfeeding. In very early days when there was no formula you had women who fed babies for other women who could not breastfeed or had not enough milk. So now a days we have formula. So no problem any more. Breastfeeding is a good thing if there is enough rest and help. The first weeks are not the easiest weeks of new parents. That's why in Holland we have a first week help paid by covernement.

[@sidoniejordan-olsen7673]

Breast milk is best, yes, but feeding the kid, PERIOD is even better!!!!! My twins were breast fed at first because it helped get them out of the hospital faster, they were premies but after a short time I didn't make enough for two babies so we supplemented and eventually moved exclusively to formula. You do what is best for the kid, not what's popular.

[@ruddiko]

poop wont go on the wash on one circle tho, these people have never cleaned poop of underwear which great but having a kid you know you pre scrub, yanno, to do less laundry, save the planet and save money

[@pansprayers]

And saves your hoses from getting clogged, your washing machine drum from being a bacterial swamp, and in general from wiping human waste on your face when you throw your towels in that same washer.

[@trishdiggins]

I like Grace. She seems like a very cool, smart, wise person. I hope she’s doing ok. We need people more like this in the world.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Good fences make good neighbors.

[@alsinakiria]

I do use a private trail. The owner has not given us explicit permission (his great grandfather did 30 years ago but not him). If he asked us to stop we would. He is out of the country and has been for years. Us using it actually benefits him. Wood poachers will steal wood from properties that are clearly not being used by their owners. By us maintaining the old access trail it shows them that this area is a bad choice to poach from. So they don't. Plus, having the trail maintained increases his property value. It gives direct access to the trans Canada trail for our area and if someone ever bought the old farmstead from him having access to something like that is a big selling point. But, the thing is, if we were asked to stop we would. We maintain his property for free as an unspoken exchange, but if he did not want the service anymore I'm sure we would find and way to get to the trail. It would be a pain, but I'd probably cut another trail on my property. My trail connects to his so it's cheaper for me to maintain his property than to cut a whole new trail. But at the end of the day if he asked me to stop I would respect that because it's still his property.

[@RobandSijay]

don't marry too early people lol

[@pansprayers]

Don't marry before your brain finishes developing at 25. The divorce rate goes from 60% to about 16% if you marry after 25.

[@annewilliams5527]

Re breastfeeding story :- Recently, 12/13 years after my eldest grandson was born, I found out his mum had had a hellish time breastfeeding. He also developed terrible reflux, seconds after being b/fed , so she then had to start b/feeding again only for him to barf it all up again, and so on. If I had known then, I’d have made sure that in between each bout of breast feeding, he would be topped up with formula. Yes “breast is best” but for crying out loud, if it can help mum and baby, formula, formula,formula!!!! Well done, OP. NTA

[@silverwurm]

I somehow read the thumbnail as “my husband asked me to dispose of the body more discretely”

[@Tree-House69]

The story about the parents insisting that a 23 year old still have their location on 24/7 is ABSURD

[@kskidspastor]

The office story with the daily personal deliveries: I’d apologize for the comment, but id also go to HR and complain to them about her making the work atmosphere strained with her petty jealousy.

[@seabreezeblank1513]

Guess who they're going to sue if they get hurt on your property

[@mbrennan459]

My wife is a former lactation specialist. Her advice is, fed is best. One of the miracles of the modern world is baby formula. Barely a century ago many babies died because either the mother couldn’t produce, or child needed more than was produced. NTA

[@Tree-House69]

Parent's treating a child like they're causing "damage" for just ... Not being straight and for being independent enough to move out means they truthfully are just upset that they can't be controlling, sure they might tell themselves it's just about worrying to help themselves sleep at night, but that's just not how it functions in application.

[@elizabethcox5911]

Okay, I used to wrap mine in toilet paper and I never had blood show through. Just use more paper.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

NTA! Why does your wife want you to fail. After 5 messed up interviews. This is definitely deliberate

[@labyrinthgirl17]

When my mom was diagnosed with stage IV ovarian cancer when I was 13, she unfortunately lost her hair and suffered horrific chemical burns to her nose and mouth from the chemotherapy/radiation. I once offered to shave my head, saying we could be bald together. She laughed and told me no, that seeing my hair made her happy and that I didn't need to do that for her. So, I didn't shave my head and instead we got ice cream to lift our moods. I miss her every day and though she didn't win her battle, I do hope Grace has a speedy recovery and never has to deal with cancer again. : )

[@danishaussie63]

Baby story: Absolutely the right thing to do and get some formula for the baby. Breast milk is only good for the baby if the baby is able to drink the damn stuff and if its healthy!!!! If you are feeding every hour or 2, its not good, and it's so OK to give your baby a substitute. My sister in law was hell bent on breast feeding her son she nearly starved him. She refused to listen to mum who had had 6 kids, my sister who had had 6 kids. She finally agreed to go to the doctors and what do you know, she said give him formula and he stopped crying, so did she, he slept and so did she. Dont EVER let anyone tell you otherwise. In fact, it's the perfect extra gift with a cute bottle for new mums as a 'just in case you need it' pressy. Not everybody can breast feed, and not every body wants to, but one thing you can guarantee, if youre stressed, the baby will be, and then you will be because the baby is, and your milk will be shit!!! It's a vicious circle. Oh, and the best part of bottle feeding, is dad and other people get to feed the baby and love on them as well...and please dont beat yourself up if you cant.

[@synsvids]

Unicorn story: PLEASE DIVORCE THAT MAN OP!

[@RJLiams]

Anyone who pushes for breast feeding only should be arrested, charged, and tried for attempted murder of an infant.

[@evaswirlz]

1st op is crazy for even having a baby with a dookie streaker. WTF. Nasty. THE AUDACITY. 😭

[@megzarie]

My best friend's dad has a unicorn tat on his arm and he's a retired caltrans worker. Definately not a girly man. Unicorns might be considered 'girly', but liking unicorns doesn't turn men in girls. Let the son dress as a unicorn lol.

[@lisemartino1995]

The mother of the 5 year old who wanted to be a unicorn - you go little guy, be a unicorn! You cannot TURN someone gay (nor can you turn them straight)! When my son was that age he LOVED dressing up, and, as he shared a dressing-up box with his sister, his favourite was dressing up as a princess with the pink, sparkly feather boa! But now he’s an adult, very “manly” man, about as straight as he could be (frankly, I would love him, irregardless), climbs, rows, martial arts etc. …. And his favourite colour is purple, which is just a colour!

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Interview Story: Document! Document! Document! And then grab the kid and run for dear life!

[@pansprayers]

Document what? Premeditated parental abduction? This literally isn't anything a judge will give a shit about. She's an AH, but this isn't the bargain chip you think it is.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

@@pansprayers It's a form of financial abuse if nothing else, even if it's not in the conventional sense. Now, go ahead and tell me how parental alienation and emotional abuse are not in that kid's future. Those *are* things that judges give a shit about, or are supposed to at least. And if you think otherwise then you're as warped as OP's wife. Hell you may even be OP's wife for all any of us here knows.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Office chic is jealous and bitter.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Title Story: Well, at least the right person schlepped off to the guest room. And the sentence was self-imposed too so that makes it even better. But it tells me that he knows OP wouldn't acquiesce to his metaphorical shit any more than to the literal shit on his boxers. Otherwise he would've tried to exile her instead.

[@NewYorkJennifer]

The lakefront property, one word, LIABILITY. Kick them out.

[@vetaroberts3333]

You don’t have to, support her in your own way

[@oldwelshlady6584]

So glad people are seeing through this brave the shave nonsense! Its still big in the UK, why do people not see its for what it is?

[@lynsthoughts3576]

OP leave location ON and then leave your phone at home when you go out. I was running, oh forgot when went to market. or studying

[@kathyhill6409]

I had 3 babies. I wanted to breastfeed all of them. I managed 2 weeks with formula suppliments 1st baby. 1 week with baby 2. 1 1/2 days with baby three and a weeping breakdown in my hospital room w/a feeding consultant who put me on a pump and never came back. My milk never came in and I never made enough for a full feeding. They are all fine! People tried to make me feel awful for "quitting". Including the people at WIC.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

1st story. Wife is insane. He didn't expect complete silence all the time. He just asked for respectful noise limit during an important meeting. Hopefully op gets custody when the split.

[@kenyattamolden449]

The jealousy is real why should her husband stop spoiling her because y'all got a problem with it if they are happy mind y'all business it beyond obvious the coworker jealous because she's the only person with a problem why should she cater to the coworker smh people have a problem with everything that doesn't include them or tickle their fancy

[@Briellaxmichelle]

Story 1: Id start calling him skid mark and tell him to grow up😂

[@alexafuqua8727]

The comment about poop being water soluble and shouldn't have to scrub the skid marks has never washed skid marks before. They don't go away in the wash. And the shit sit in your washing machine too. It doesn't just go away. It just gets taken off the clothing. Seriously don't wash your shit or piss in the wash unless you hand wash them first. Or at least ring out a piss filled pair of pants in the bath before putting it in the washing machine.

[@kellyalves756]

3:14 This guy here? This guy knows how to live. 😁❤️🙌🏽

[@alexw.7097]

Me like a minute and a half into listening to the story about the 18 year old moving out against her parents' wishes: 👏Get Out👏Get Out👏Get Out👏Get Out👏Get Out👏Get Out👏Get Out👏

[@blackice7023]

Hey guys, I was married to a man who could not clean his bottom and left tract marks on the sheets that did not come out just by washing them. U need to scrub those marks.

[@embluvya]

I don't understand how people can even get skidmarks in the first place. Not only do you have to not wipe, you'd have to have wet clumps of shit left in your cheeks and then get a wedgie to rub it into the fabric. Who just leaves shit in their ass. What the hell.

[@WobblesandBean]

OP 2: Same advice as OP 1. LEAVE.

[@pansprayers]

I so hope Mary gets her lawsuit found in her favour.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Boys playing with dolls creates GOOD dads oh no the horrors

[@McDinkledorfM.D]

"My son likes my little pony" Oh no. This leads to things best not mentioned

[@wolve2k]

AH! I always love when people say "don't contact me till X" yeah sure, don't treat me with a good time! You'll have to wait till im in heaven to contact me again.. but ops you most likely are in for some infernal slow roasting.

[@emilyw.1186]

Breastfeeding is great for saving money and good nutrition for the baby. If the baby can’t latch just pump and put it in a bottle. If milk doesn’t come in then just use formula. There are options to buy breast milk if it’s that important but I was a formula baby because I was only 4 pounds when I was born and my mouth was too small to fit around a nipple. I turned out just fine Also, I used to paint my little cousins nails, now he’s a teen and is straight and is a “manly-man”. Kids don’t pay attention to gender rules unless it’s pushed on them

[@pansprayers]

Or, just do what works best for you. People shouldn't have an opinion on just how long another woman has to feel like a failure (if at all). There's no, do this, do that, then formula - it's more complicated than that, and unless you're the mother and the pediatrician, you literally don't have an opinion.

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

Co worker needs to back off . She needs to go to hr about the coworker being hateful & telling her to tell her husband w

[@vetaroberts3333]

Nta, he will not want to leave. Bad roommate

[@Densmith43]

WOW never ,ever clean anyone's undies EVER .

[@TheCreativeCommoner]

Story about bully (jealous) wife: It reminds me of the saying "hurt people hurt people". Not trying to justify it, just what came to mind as I listened. Honestly, been there myself (not like that tho); but it takes a conscious effort and discipline to work past some of that stuff. Plus learning to love thyself and constantly asking yourself before you speak "where is this coming from?"

[@pansprayers]

Indeed. And people only know what they're taught. Unfortunately, it's much harder to unlearn/reteach a bad behaviour than it is to just teach kindness and proper behaviour from the start.

[@tammieclonts4752]

Trash can with lid. Problem solved.

[@kellyalves756]

4:51 oh, holy shit, my mom and sister did the same thing to me during an online exam.

[@elizabethcox5911]

Unless you already have kids, you sure as heck can have perfect silence.