i've reached my breaking point | Aja Dang

[@zulyterrazas6791]

My favorite thing about your channel isn’t the “struggles” it’s you overcoming them. I always appreciate how raw and genuine you are. Paying off 200k worth of debt, Starting your own business, getting married, AND buying a home Watching you do this is so inspiring! And you don’t sugar coat it when it gets hard. I’m glad your safe more than anything! If homeownership didn’t work out this time around there’s plenty of houses and a lot more life for you to live to give it another go.

[@zairaviviana]

Thisssss . This why I admire her ❤️

[@valela17]

Amen to that!

[@generalstore7515]

we love aja and bryan!! all the wealth, health and blessings to you guys

[@ShockwaveFPSStudios]

I’m really a fan of these financial influencer videos. The Aja Dang videos i grew up with, were vlogs sketches and workout videos.

[@ShockwaveFPSStudios]

@@zairavivianaSame here.😳

[@shellym79]

Sharing your struggles from an honest and vulnerable place is not being negative. The person commenting that is the one being negative. 💚

[@Haileyrodriguez288]

How is it negative if we were all born with feelings and emotions

[@Midami422]

This is exactly what happened to me when I moved to Htown from LA 9 years ago. I tried soooo hard to stay in Htown until my friends and family said "You are so much happier in LA." Follow your heart Aja. At least you gave it all (financially, mentally and physically). You can do this all again. This time with experience.

[@malcolmxpanther]

H Town better. Anybody who decides to move back to Cali must make 150K a year or more

[@benny88cups]

That sounds horrifying some guy tried to break into your Houston home. However, I’m happy you’re choosing to put yourself first by moving back to LA

[@chelseacohen3465]

I’ve related to your home ownership videos so strongly this year, Aja. I’m literally writing this as electricians are rewiring our 80 year old home so that ours too will NOT catch on fire 😅 During our own home repairs I’ve thought about how much easier emotionally it would be to fix up a home if we didn’t have to live in it during the fixing phase. Living through the countless repairs makes getting to that place of safety and comfort more difficult. Since it sounds like yall are keeping the property for now, perhaps with some distance and time it will get to a place where the houston house starts feeling like a true home. In the meantime, how fortunate that you CAN move back to LA?! I know it may feel disappointing/not ideal financially but I see it as a win. You have the financial means to get out of a situation that is not serving you. The Aja I started following years ago would be proud of how far you’ve come ❤

[@ohheyyola5416]

Aja just as you rose above your dibilitating debt you will rise above the disappointment you're facing with your property. Thanks for keeping it real Aja you are not negative. You would not have shifted your life success if you were negative. We are with you and Beyonce is with you! Xoxo

[@BrianPuspos]

You’re the strongest woman for real. Thank you. I love you

[@brittneymorgan1441]

I’m a Houston resident myself and I’m so sorry for the experience you’ve had with your Houston home. I’m happy though that you guys will have so much peace and happiness back in LA. Also happy for all the work Brian is getting. You’ve done so much work toward the house and def something to be proud of. Praying that the house in Houston will no longer be a huge burden for you guys but a blessing, whether you decide to rent or possibly one day sell ❤️🙏🏽

[@malcolmxpanther]

She’s such a SoCal girl who can’t handle how real it gets it Houston

[@princessjellyfish]

I appreciate your openness and honesty through sharing your hardships with us, Aja! It’s been heartbreaking to see you guys experience so many issues, but it’s really been eye-opening for so many people (me included), who are looking into homeownership. Things have been tough, but you are riding each wave like a champ 🌊 Sending you and Brian all the good juju as you both move back to LA 💜

[@v.ju._.ju.v]

So, I moved to Houston about a year ago. I didn't like Houston specifically but have you looked at other surroundings of Houston? Like, Katy, Sugarland, and the Woodlands are recommended places!! It's just beautiful, safer, and lots of Asian stores.

[@princessofbegonia]

Aja, just wanted to say I’ve been here since your student loan days. I also paid mine off in a similar fashion. Last year, January 2022, I was looking into buying a house as well. I was being pressured by my realtor to move fast because that’s when the interest rates started to go up. I put an offer in on a house by myself. After the inspection, I met with the inspector. The house had TONS of mold in the attic, along with a million other tiny issues. It was a hack job. A part of me really wanted to buy it anyways, just to have a home, but I backed out. The seller tried to stop me backing out, but luckily my realtor knew what she was doing. After that scare, I’ve stuck to renting and stopped looking at buying. I’m sorry you’ve gone through this experience, but at least now you’ve tried it and know that renting might just be better for you personally! That’s what I took away from my experience at least.

[@kaylah7765]

It’s ok to start over even though it hasn’t been very long. Trust your gut. Even on a big thing like this, it’s your living situation. Your home should be your peace

[@thysisreid2050]

I definitely feel your pain! Homeownership is definitely a struggle! I feel like I’m working just to fix my current home. It’s hard to enjoy anything outside of the house because majority of our income goes to the house. Safe travels back to LA!

[@Frmjoandcharlie]

Learning what doesn’t work for you is just as important as learning what does. This is just a part of that learning process and I know you’re going to grow from this and that next step, whatever it is, will be even better. It’s not failure to accept that something doesn’t work for you. The biggest mistake would be to stay in a situation where you know you’re unhappy, unhealthy and unsafe. Wishing you and Brian a happier time back in LA ❤

[@MalinaCC]

Dang that’s so scary. Nothing worse than fearing for your safety in a place that’s supposed to be your safe space. So sorry this is happening to you. You tried your best and learned a lot from it. Hope some good energy and peace comes your way ❤

[@traceyw7786]

Aja, you are strong and capable no matter which city you are in. It doesn’t make you any less that you are going back to LA. Do what’s best for yourself ! ❤

[@bettinak.4]

I say it with the best intention. Home ownership is not for everyone. It comes with a prize. And it's not money, it's sometimes loosing your sanity. If your foundation is not solid rock, it is this stressful. And the foundation is your mental health and your relationship.

[@nazzy101]

i am really shocked and surprised as i live in europe and yes you might face some challenges but usually it is not as hard as this :/

[@bettinak.4]

@@nazzy101 I also live in Europe, but it can be that hard especially when she's dealing with the problems alone. If my partner would never be home during the renovation, we wouldn't do it.

[@jilliandonaldson9868]

Hey Aja, I just wanted to say I really appreciate your realness. I never think you're being negative. I'm so sorry you have been going through so much crap, but something positive to take from this is that, by documenting it, you are helping people feel less alone. I get depressed watching other people's perfect vlogs about their "perfect" lives. It's hard to remember that, for the most part, they are being fake. You're real. I never get depressed watching your vlogs, because they are authentic. And lastly, I experienced a break in a couple of months ago, and I'm still not over it. Thankfully my bf was awake, heard them trying to open the back door, woke me, we turned on all the lights and they ran off, but they did manage to open the door. Any time my bf is not here and I am alone at night in the house, I cannot sleep. Every noise triggers me, even though I know it's my pets or pipes etc. The fear of an intruder when you are a woman alone is terrifying. Thank you for sharing your story bc I completely get it. I've spoken to people who haven't experienced break ins, and they just don't get it. Hopefully soon we can relax in our own homes! Love you!

[@cate9963]

Don't give up yet. Honestly, those troubles seem to be typical of what house ownership brings. An old house brings extra challenges than newer houses for sure. Eventually, things will improve and you will love what you have overcome and learned along the way. On the other hand, ever since you bought the house, Brian began to get more work opportunities. So, you can also think that the house brings good luck for his work, if you think in the other direction. Also, the Heights area is a decent neighborhood and as others have told you, it should be generally safe. Also, it will have potential to rise in value in the future. So you should try to fix it and then see what that will bring. Anyway, best wishes for you and don't get so discouraged by this initial mishap. If you go through things for the first time, there is bound to be a larger learning curve. As time goes by, you will find that those are very typical problems of old houses anyway.

[@Enchanteralle]

I really appreciate you sharing this and show the reality that home ownership isn't always as smooth as some people make it sound. I'm sorry how much stress you have been having from this house as well as that guy trying to break into your house. That's just terrifying. I know a lot of people who dream of home ownership, but ended up not happy with their decision or turns out there were a lot of unexpected issues affecting their quality of life in the new home. People are resistant to talk about it, but this is why I love your channel. You talk about your struggles and how you address it and overcome it. I follow your channel because you showed that paying off student loans is possible. My student loan amount isn't as massive as what you had, but you really inspired me to pay off mine last year. You also inspire me to be a home owner someday, but I'm learning so much about the hard work and effort you put in trying to fix a home. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and when one door closes, another one opens. This is not the end of it and you're resilient, so I know you'll overcome this hurdle.

[@jrpgaddict7726]

"Bad Juju" ok enough internet for today.....😅

[@akira1205]

When you said that they guy breaking your door down while you weren't there and other things were signs from the universe, it reminds me of something Oprah said. I heard it from her in the early 2000's too. Whispers are always messages, and if you don't hear the message, the message turns into a problem. And if you don't handle the problem, the problem turns into a crisis. And if you don't handle the crisis, disaster. Your life is speaking to you. "I say the universe speaks to us, always, first in whispers. And a whisper in your life usually feels like 'hmm, that's odd.' Or, 'hmm, that doesn't make any sense.' Or, 'hmm, is that right?' It's that subtle. And if you don't pay attention to the whisper, it gets louder and louder and louder. I say it's like getting thumped upside the head. If you don't pay attention to that, it's like getting a brick upside your head. You don't pay attention to that-the brick wall falls down. That is the pattern that I see in my life and so many other people's lives. And so, I ask people, 'What are the whispers? What's whispering to you now?'" - Oprah Anyway, glad you are safe and wish you guys well!

[@meetvirginia84]

Fellow Houstonian here. I'm sorry to hear about the break-in & damage to your house. 😢 Good thing you weren't home & thank God for good people like John. For peace of mind, you guys are doing what is right. It's a blessing to be able to do that. Houston will still be here if yall change your mind years from now. Much love ❤🤘

[@hollyannm2945]

Doesn't feel safe in the home.. hey if you wanna rent our home.. lol

[@JaniVMD]

I don’t comment on your videos a lot but I watch every single one. We also bought a house in March of this year and I truly LOVE and appreciate you sharing all of the ups and downs because it makes me see and internalize that we are not alone! We are all struggling and nothing is perfect, even if most influencers try to make us feel like it is. So THANK YOU from the bottom of my hear for sharing and for being so vulnerable and strong. ❤

[@PinkCandySkies13]

Thank you for sharing such an intimate, vulnerable part of your life. It must be so hard but I hope in some ways it’s healing for you to say things out loud and hopefully you get to read comforting, encouraging comments. You got this! ❤

[@playmeagain]

im no fengshui master but i wouldnt place the bed against a window- must be placed against a solid wall

[@wichegirl]

Great to hear that you are making rhe decision to move back to where you are happier. I agree with Michelle. Sometimes thing happen that tells you "This isnt the time." And it doesn't mean that you won't be able to own a home in the future.

[@nathaliasaavedrasoler9493]

Aja, our experience as first time homebuyers was almost the same, it happens way more often than you imagine, it’s just that very few people are willing to admit mistakes publicly. Regretting decisions is a normal part of life, screwing up is underestimated and cliché as it sounds; it really brings personal development and wisdom.

[@jtcpov]

I’m curious on why you are renting it out when you yourself won’t live there in it’s current conditions. Will you be renting it below market rate? No hate genuinely curious!

[@jesseeec]

Sell that house and move on….I would not live in a house by myself. If Brian is not there every night, buy a house in a gated community or stay in a condo apartment building

[@PianoTrills]

Hey Aja, so proud of you for listening to the signs from the universe, making such a hard decision, prioritizing your well-being, and sharing it all the while! Also I’m so touched by the love you and Brian share. Wishing you all future success with Houston and LA. Honestly, it might seem like a step back but sometimes that’s exactly the road we need to take to catapult ahead to blessings unseen. One time I had the most random car a**ident, zero injuries, and it was a financial setback but I took it as a sign from the universe to safeguard me from being somewhere else that might have led to a worse outcome. Every decision we make… is like the butterfly effect. I’m fully confident this choice will lead you further in the direction of your dreams!

[@LIVEINPEACE2023]

Aja, dang, that’s a lot!! You’re more resilient than you know and it’s a gift. Thanks for sharing your gift.

[@PohaiNuuhiwa]

Sometimes things don’t work out the way you thought they were, going to. But they turn out even better!! You got this. ♥️

[@klevergirl667]

The Sunk Cost Fallacy describes our tendency to follow through on an endeavor if we have already invested time, effort, or money into it, whether or not the current costs outweigh the benefits. You are doing the RIGHT thing. This will be nothing but a tumultuous chapter in your book. Things are looking up! :)

[@rachelfrombefore]

Homeownership is no joke. Glad you’re ultimately able to do what’s best for your peace of mind. ❤

[@WiiKitty]

Does your mortgage allow you to rent out the place this early? A lot don’t and can be considered mortgage fraud

[@dervlam4698]

Thank you so much for sharing. I really respect your vulnerability sharing the numerous struggles you’ve had this year. I’m so glad you have the emotional maturity to see this situation is not working for you and giving yourself permission to end the house saga. I’m so, so sorry to hear about the violent incident at your house. I’m so glad you and the dogs were not there and were safe. But I can only imagine how violating it felt. I’m glad you are holding that person accountable for his actions.

[@Natalie_11188]

I’m sorry you’ve been struggling Aja. You tried something, it didn’t work, and you CAN go back to LA. Of course you feel disappointed! It’s a lot to go through emotionally.

[@Cab895]

Everyone who left during and after the pandemic has come back to LA. Yeah its expensive, but there is a reason why people who are from LA (not transplants) love living here

[@huggybunnyable]

Health over wealth. The money WILL come back to you! Especially if you're in a happier, healthier mindset. Sending you all of the best! I've been watching for years and I think you're making a smart, brave, empowering, AND financially prudent decision for yourself. 💛

[@S.J1997]

I know you’re not Muslim but please play Surah Baqarah in your home. Any reciter will do. It is the direct word of God and *WILL WARD OF EVIL*!! You don’t have to be Muslim for it to be effective! Trust me, give it a go! Evil exist but there is nothing more powerful and healing than the word of the Almighty.

[@Zmom1111]

I’ve always believed that things happen for a reason. If you don’t feel that is the place for you, there’s no sense of forcing it. I’ve been watching your videos from the beginning of your home purchasing and you’ve been informative, honest, raw & vulnerable. Don’t ever apologize for that! ❤

[@racheltorrelino]

I truly believe in the feng shui of a home and how it can support you or hold you back 🪴 ☁️ Best wishes for your next chapter ✨

[@Missgail0623m]

I can relate to the struggles you're sharing with home renovation issues. Thank you for sharing your unfiltered version it made me feel I was not alone with the stress and failures where everyone thought it should always be a smooth process. Because sometimes, it just ain't.

[@melissa-wz6uj]

Praying you feel the presence of Jesus Christ and knowing your creator loves you Aja! 🙏

[@dayumxjeanah]

You’ve always been vulnerable and open with us. It’s a huge part of why people are drawn to influencers like you. There’s so many smoke and mirrors on social media, we often only see the best. But you show us real life in real time. I’m glad you’re able to make the move back to LA. And a more perfect living situation/ house will present itself to you in time. Thank you for allowing us into your life.

[@libbysvariety9334]

The thing about the Heights is that these bungalows are older homes. They require a lot of updates and/or an owner with renovation skills. Had she moved to the surrounding burbs, the experience might have been different. Unless you’re someone who can tackle such work, buying a new build or less older home would’ve made more sense. I say this with much respect as having things not going how you hope is hard. This is a lesson learned. Nothing is lost. Best wish for LA.

[@taylor3342]

Proud of you!!!! Money comes and goes. It is so important that you feel safe and comfortable at your home base. ❤

[@SaharaKnows]

I would never live in this shit hole, bad juju, dangerous house but if you are interested in renting let me know. Link below. Lol. Maybe should have did the hard sell in another video.

[@Porcelynnn]

Life is short. Follow your happiness ❤

[@LorenaHill]

sell the house, buy one in LA even if the house isn't as big or new. location is Prime.

[@KSLuz]

Aja! It’s one thing to go thru first time homeowner issues, and it’s another to not feel safe at home. When somebody attempted to break into my uncle’s house, he got really paranoid afterwards. I completely empathize that you got spooked. Brian is also not going to be with you physically most of the time, so I understand that that makes you more vulnerable. Glad you are choosing peace of mind over sunk cost. You taught us a lot about money and I think this is one of the major ones for your audience - having enough money gives you more wiggle room to choose. You can choose to not be stuck in a bad situation. Wish you well Aja! And I wish you peace of mind and happiness ♥️

[@alwaysxl0ve]

Hi. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with sharing your journey and challenges. I’m glad that you guys accepted that the reality you’re faced with isn’t aligned with the vision that you guys had for this house. Sometimes, we try to justify the decisions we make because we dreamt of something for so long. But it takes a lot of courage to face your reality and choose happiness. Also, I just want to acknowledge the hardship you’ve gone through dealing with all these home ownership stuff pretty much all alone. The burden is heavy. May this also be another way that you and Brian can strengthen your relationship even more moving forward.

[@mooncake488]

It gave you the realization of the life change you needed. It was a big move that taught you things. You realize your heart was not in Houston and not in that home. I am glad that you guys are safe. You are a strong woman!! Strong power couple. Love your vlogs and journeys you guys both share.

[@yesseniagallo8347]

I’m so sorry to hear about your whole experience especially with buying your first home! It should have been a completely different happy experience. If you guys decide that selling your home is the best choice or renting it out please Reach out to me directly. Id love to be a part of getting your hopes back into home buying eventually and the beautiful moments that come with it. But I’ll make sure you guys get back what you put in and some!

[@chocolatecuban]

You are very brave to admit "defeat". Many people would have tried to push through, making themselves more miserable and throwing more money into it. Not everything is worth the investment. Kudos on you for trying though, I know it was a goal for a long time. You don't know what you don't know, so don't feel defeated. It was very evident that you were stressed and life is too short to be miserable. I'm happy you will be happy in LA. Here is to new adventures and unexpected paths!

[@Jackiedevice]

I will say this over and over again.. you are my favorite KZbinr! it’s not that I love seeing your hardships and that I can relate to things you’re going through but bc I feel like you’re very self aware and very inquisitive in regards with your sustainability, financal, homeowner journey and almost everything you do and that’s what I relate to!

[@nolliestar9254]

I’ve been subscribed to you since your early debt days. I’m assuming maybe 4 or 5 years? I was in my early to mid 20s. Super long story but my “adult life”, starting at 18 has never been easy. Granted I was a part of that path but main culprit having zero mature support system, aka supportive parents. 12 years later I’m almost repeating my 3rd cycle of life with crippling debt, confused which “financial path” to take with the most outrageous gut feeling to take the make the most illogical choice. But this longwinded choice, with the hardest terrain, leads to my actual passion. & I finally want to pursue it. I’ve naturally a springy, excitable personality but life has hit me SO HARD, SO MANY TIMES, it’s also jaded me. I go thru these periods where I lose myself in the struggles when I oddly have a dreamer personality. I have always loved your channel because yours is genuine. It’s authentic. It’s transparent. Being able to see that an independent, smart woman is strong enough to show vulnerabilities, & yet you’re ALWAYS classy. It validates me & how I’ve had to go thru life. It makes me feel less lonely. I feel so hopeful when I get to be here & cheer you on & tell you how grateful I am for you to inspire me to stay with my vulnerableness. You’ve been a role model, not just for your successes, but foe your authenticity which is RARE these days. I am proud of you for fixing this house AND for being able to decide that this is not the home for you. I’m so happy to see someone capable of making the hard choice in thinking, “This chapter that I looked forward to for so long isn’t for me. I’m upset but I’m going to restart again back where I was & that’s okay.” I don’t even like saying restarting. You’re building ANOTHER chapter. I’m actually hoping one day I can bump into you in LA as I’m a resident there. Thank you for all your videos & outreaches on all different platforms

[@victoriaraynaud7718]

I've lived 5 years in a house that I loved, but didn't felt safe at night (for no particular reasons). 5 years of anxiety and bad sleep, plus the tensions in between my husband and I because i couldn't be left alone in the house. We worked so hard renovating this house, put so much money, and I truly loved it. But it wasn't worth 5 years of bad sleep. You can overcome lots of things, but feeling unsafe within your home is not one of them. Hope you're able to rent your house, and eventually what's you see as a bad financial mistake becomes an investment :)

[@azilizc]

What an unfortunate situation :( I don't think you are being negative, you are just being realistic. Things didn't pan out this time, but you learned a ton about what you want for yourself/your family and about homeownership. 2023 has been a hellish year for a ton of us, but we are human and bond to bounce back if we keep trying (at least I try telling myself that 😅).

[@Xtine728]

Do what’s best for you! Are you able to take the inspection company to court? Edit: Nevermind watched your last video

[@kent4786]

Sorry to hear that Houston didn’t work out and had brought so many issues and challenges and cost along with it. But welcome back to LA ❤ it’s a new day and let the positive vibes flow. Another day alive is another day you can make your own. Money you can always make, so keep looking forward and leave the past behind. Good Luck 🍀

[@cardten]

Hang in there! I had a very bad year in 2018 but all is much better now 😀

[@alexisreve1]

But like others have said, you've been keeping it real and overcoming your problems for years. Hopefully this is just a bump in the road. Would it be worth it to turn the house into an AirBnb and find a property manager to take care of it for you? Or would you rather find a long-term renter?

[@evileyez504]

I was always surprised you moved to Houston, I remember your apartment viewing/search vlog, and you didn’t really seem into it then. But glad you’re getting out of there

[@availandco]

I’ve been seeing a lot more of Brian lately because of Jungkook content (and it’s seemingly a success!) but now knowing what you guys have been going through behind the scenes 😞 I feel for you Aja! Sending good vibes that you’re able to get back into a stable groove of things and feel better in mind, body and spirit! ❤

[@melindavasquez6404]

We all make financial mistakes and it’s OK. Sometimes we hold on to things just to not feel like a failure instead recognizing our error and moving on…

[@yiiiavang]

It's okay, Aja! Sometimes, you can do everything right, and things can still go all wrong. It's life, and you adapt, learn, and move on. Best of luck to you!

[@lq7729]

You were called to heal the house for someone else. In the process, you may have healed that part of you that was still stuck on dreams or success metrics that you may have outgrown or were never really yours. As you said, you live a 'different' lifestyle, and "home" might look different - maybe it's a condo with excellent security and a dog park as an amenity? Who knows. Maybe Houston isn't your soul city, but Austin is? Explore and continue to be open and reflective. BTW, great interview in the Times about your solo bachelorette party.

[@mariafaustino5202]

As a first time homebuyer myself, I would probably let all the renovations and fixing pass. But the attempted break in is a big no no. You should live wherever you feel safest so I’m on the same page with you in not staying there anymore no matter how much money and effort you spent.

[@Marl-hj8hh]

Glad to hear. I live in San Antonio for 3 years and moved back to San Diego. It was worth it, even if cost of living is higher.

[@danicalo]

Watching your journey with homeownership in Houston has been so amazing - and I've learned SO much about real estate and all the potential pitfalls of owning a house. Totally agree with your decision to move back to LA. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@violetcrimes]

Pro tip from a mixed Native American smudging with sage (especially white sage) removes and clears ALL the energy both bad AND good. We always follow it up with sweetgrass because it fills up and restores the space with positive energy while warding off negativity.

[@doortovalue]

Omg wowwwww I was shook to hear you’re moving back to LA! But I’m happy for you both that you’ve made this decision. Im sure you both will still be able to open a dope cafe there so please still have that hope in whatever business dreams! Thanks for being real on social media ❤️

[@jveshg60]

sorry that it didn't work out. Like we always say, you can always go back to LA. Cut that house loose. Wash your hands of it and start over later. Just llike when you got out of debt you don't want something tagging along that has bad memories. If you don't make any money on the transaction that 'payment' will be worth it down the line. Trust me. Being a long distance landlord is not fun.

[@mhaddow3660]

I'm also a resident of the Houston Heights. I'm so sorry this didn't work out for you. When you posted early on about the issues you were having with the house, I was mad at whoever owned the house before you. I suspect they did a quick flip to make a buck and did a shitty job in certain areas. You unfortunately inherited issues from the previous owner doing things half-ass. With all the repairs you've done and because the Heights is such an in-demand neighborhood, I do think you could sell for a profit, if renting becomes a hassle for you.If you go that route, use a realtor that is based in the Heights, they can get you more bang for your buck rather than someone based in the suburbs.(*Disclaimer, I'm NOT a realtor, I'm a television producer). Glad you're feeling better and starting to smile again, now that you're headed back to LA. I've always appreciated your candor and 'realness' on this channel. With so much phoniness in social media, I find you to be a breath of fresh air. It's obvious you've got a good soul, a caring heart, AND you've got gumption. Props to you Aja for going after your peace and happiness. Congrats to Brian, wishing him continued success. I saw the Global Citizen show, Brian was great! Awesome global visibility. Cheers to you both! 👏✌💪🙏💜

[@nerdbeats1]

Thanks for sharing the struggles of home ownership.... its something not talked publicly about often but all my friends who own homes always complain about it. From repairs, to issues, to not having the financial flexibility to travel/go out. We don't own a home but live in one of my parents in law old property. We remodeled the entire house inside/out, and after 5 years of constant home repairs, i realized i didnt want to own a home as much as i wanted to. So we're taking our time and enjoying the financial freedom we have.

[@myramyra1]

Your life nor your vibe is not negative, what you show is relatable to many of us. My bff went thru very similar situations, 1st time homeowner and renovating a house, it’s more stressful than childbirth (according to her). Aside from that, if a home doesn’t feel like “home”, listen to the signs that come to you. The lessons are always there and the Universe will always protect you. Sorry to sound woo woo but we all know it’s true. Stay strong and thanks for sharing your feelings.

[@reetae]

I could sense you were about to give up on this house and move back to LA, and I'm paused on the moment you said it, and I let out a huge sigh of relief for you.

[@DavidFeig]

I bought a condo around the same time you starting posting your experiences and it totally freaked me out--as painful as the experience has been, its always tremendous learning experience and you are letting so many people know the good AND the bad of buying a house or any property. I will be extra careful on how I treat my condo and fix things so I won't screw over the next person ! And I think its great you are trying to do the RIGHT thing with repairs and work so the next person that lives in the house hopefully will have a better experience. Play it forward!

[@8YYYxx8]

Moving to a new state, buying a new home, dealing with first time homeowner problems is all hard but doing it alone I think is what made it even harder and the break in being alone (you would have been alone) is what broke the camels back so to speak. Of all the things I listed I've done same locations too LA to Houston its been suuuuper hard, I cant imagine doing it without my partner. There were times I wanted to quit and move back but we stuck it out (we cant afford buying in LA), it isn't easy but we had each other to lean on. If I was doing it alone you're dam sure I would have left Houston a long time ago.

[@TheAvidGardenerNM]

I am sorry to hear how difficult your home owner experience has been. I would look into draining your hot water heater. It sounds like it may be percolating from build up in the water. It is recommended that the unit be drained once a year. If it is still making noise have it checked by an hvac professional. When hot water heaters go out they do it with a mess. It is better to replace before that happens if possible. Our hot water heater busted and flooded our garage and kitchen. I recommend this especially if it could break without you being there and cause excessive water damage. On another note I am a realtor in another state and financially it would be best to hold onto the house for 2 years so you don’t pay capital gains on the sell and recoup some of the costs of purchasing and selling.

[@amathisporter]

I am happy you are able to make the decision & move back to LA. It’s a blessing to be able to own a home and it’s a blessing to be able to sell.

[@alejandrav5790]

Wow, I'm just now watching this and i am so sorry you went through all of this! However, i really appreciate your honesty and transparency. Texas is the land of shoddy work, poor craftsmanship, etc because of the lack of regulation around anything important. I wish more people realized this before making the move to TX. Yes, cost of living is probably cheaper (although not by much these days), but it's a big trade off. And this is coming from a born and raised Texan, if we could move, we would so that should tell you something. Hope you are doing better back in L.A. I need to catch up on your videos

[@sarahgreen7359]

This too shall pass. In time this will make more sense, I believe everything happens for a reason. Sending you peace Aja ! Glad you're following your intuition 🤍🪬

[@LovelyCrane.]

Sorry about all that, Aja. Sometimes we have to go through things to know things. It's a lesson I've had to learn many times. I like the saying, "It all works out in the end. If it's not working out, then it's not the end!" 😊

[@alexisreve1]

Not the main point of the video, but I love how you and Brian managed to repurpose your wedding outfits.

[@conniie]

One of the best things about your videos is that you are genuine and realistic, and I am here for that! ❤

[@katrinapineda6873]

Owning a home is a forever commitment that I’m thinking of just renting forever (currently I live in out family home and sometimes shoulder repairs). As a renter I can have a brand new/newly renovated home all the time. Sure I need to prepare rent money forever but I truly don’t think it’ll be that mre expensive than doing major repairs in the long run. If you have a single detached and not a condo PLUMBING and ROOFING will never not need repairs 🙃

[@Moonblossom62]

I think had you not had to dump a ton of money on a house that had so many problems I don’t think you’d feel that way. I hope you sue the inspector who did your home inspection. You were clearly misled on the problems with that house. Although old houses do have issues those issues should have been seen by your inspector.

[@ImotayExysa]

I agree from being your follower for a very long time that you were happier back in Cali.❤ Buying a house and having to do so many unexpected changes are so depressing. I feel the burden as well and it’s financially depressing.

[@kimwieczorek1879]

We been married 41 yrs. now. We only buy brand new homes- small 1,400 sq. ft. We have had 3. Buy 50 min. from a city/way cheaper🎉❤

[@jerusalema4eva434]

thank you for sharing. i've been dealing with my own housing issues and, interestingly enough, this has been cathartic. many blessings with your decision. 💛🙏🏽🌻

[@_khumphet]

Aja, I appreciate you being real so so much! My husband and I always feel this pressure to buy a home soon (even though we arent financially ready to) and I appreciate you sharing that you were open to trying and ultimately going back makes me feel not so alone as I am scared that may be an option one day and being open to be okay to "fail" - though I dont think you failed at all :) Good luck with the rest of your moving!!

[@Ms.MD7]

You're not being negative, ignore the stupid trolls. We gon through crap all the time and you're not alone. I'm the same age as you and I completely understand first homeownership; it's a lot of responsibilities let alone moving to another state. While I'm never considering LA as a place to live; our lifestyles are different; hence, LA just might be your place. Who knows though, that can change but this is all part of the process of adulting. I wish you and your husband the best Aja.

[@mallorygraf8574]

Good for you for going back home. So hard to make that decision but thank the heavens you are able to go back to L.A. I really your appreciate your honesty during this whole house drama. Bottom line: It just was not your destiny to live in Houston. *Hugs*

[@brittmi]

It’s crazy how the universe works. You wouldn’t have known unless you tried, and this is just a redirection! Hoping you feel safe and surrounded by peace soon ❤

[@laceyshi6812]

Sorry about what you have to go through. I live in Houston and I learned how to use a gun to protect myself couple years ago. That’s being said, the break-in is not normal for a good neighborhood area. Not being superstitious, but this house might not be a good omen. It doesn’t rhyme with your energy. 😢

[@bngr_bngr]

People get to emotionally attached to houses, cars, and other possessions. I’m glad you could see that this house wasn’t making you happy. I don’t know if you are going to finish it or sell it. What ever you do, I’m glad you took control of your life again and moved on. There will always be another house or condo or townhouse.