Alayna's Next Chapter | Chosen Family Podcast

[@ciara.amituanai]

It’s crazy bc whenever Ashley says “why do we suck this episode?”, they seem to be my favorite episodes. Lol y’all rocked this one!! I loved the chaotic convos, it’s the reason why we come here 🫶🏽 family tings.

[@TheKartShow]

The way Alayna throws her hand over her mouth anytime Ashley says something shocking always has me in stitches 🤣

[@JuMixBoox]

Mak was so great this episode! That MVP trophy really seemed to help her confidence.

[@sami-yc3xj]

Ashley not elaborating on her grandmas (theoretical) murder for why… talk about cliff hanger

[@tillsatron]

missed the pod a lot over the break… it’s one of the only queer things in my life, and means so much! I hope you guys’s holidays were enjoyed.. thank you so much for all you do x

[@raisacarmen3569]

I'm 4ft10 (147cm) and less than 100 pounds (45kilos) and I had my first baby in August. I was also very afraid and almost certain it would be a c-section. Somehow, though, I gave birth to an average size baby with a large head naturally and without tearing! Also had no complications at all during pregnancy. So it's certainly possible, even for tiny women! 🙂

[@chrisfrench5304]

Hoping Mak is safe from these new wild fires x

[@Raddiebaddie]

Alayna trying to reel it in and Ashley doubling down on the bit hahaa just a chef kiss dynamic 😚👌

[@parmisvazifeh140]

I'm not disappointed but I thought this is going to be a post Luigi episode. Good to see you all back though😂❤

[@matildemarrebrunenghi2992]

omg I missed you guys so much! Hope you enjoyed the holidays and happy new year! 🥳

[@beasome]

omgggg I missed this podcast so much, so happy to listen to it as I start my day ♡

[@Idkmanjustgowithit]

Idk where Mak lives but I hope she’s staying safe during these crazy California fires ❤

[@DarkRulerHaDes666]

Speaking as a younger brother, my sister and I did not get along until we were in our 20's and she'd moved a couple of hours away. Having said that, there were a few times where I had some strong verbal confrontations with people who were trash talking her, and some threats of violence for other reasons. Brothers know the job description, older or younger.

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

24:35 lmao Ashley. I was literally swallowing a tablet when you said this and sprayed my tablet out on the ground into a puddle of water and now i'm watching it disintegrate further as I collect my souls. Lmao. The accuracy in those insults.

[@quevivalavida4467]

I had with 12 to 15 years old an hiperfocus on parenting (I usually have weird hiperfocus -like instead of memorizing Pokemons I would memorize the scientific names of every single animal that I saw or think about, and even searching for more just for fun-) and I read that breastfeeding the baby with milk from other moms it’s actually good for the baby. Because basically through the saliva, they will let the mother know what type of nutrients or antibodies they need. So if you do an “exchange” of babies with a friend, amd you breastfeed your friends child, both babies will recive an extra of antibodies or whatever that their bodies didn’t ask for. So your baby will be stronger because have that complement plus the milk that daily recives from their mothers. And that’s also why it’s recommended to breastfeed your child instead if using a feeding bottle. Thanks for the episode, a cozy hug from spain. 😊❤ 20:53

[@tabitas.2719]

I'd like to add on to that - first make sure/check with said friends that they do not have AIDS/any disease transferred via breast milk. (according to my guide I read in pregnancy) :)

[@tabitas.2719]

Also, I have had the same/a similar hyperfocus (children and their development) on and off over the years. :) 🥳

[@gil8548]

Welcome back! Missed this so much! 💜

[@tiredandcaffeinated]

Mak, my mom is 5'1" and she had three kids! And as far as how tiny she is otherwise, her hips would widen and adjust. However, totally valid as the non-birthing parent to be worried about your partner, though! Pregnancy is very scary and can have risks.

[@Doxybot36]

My question was the roommate one. It’s been a nightmare. You guys had me laughing at the end 😂

[@fambi1271]

17:43 the way ashley reeled back like no wait you weren't supposed to agree so sincerely

[@spiralbody]

I have absolutely nothing in common with my sister. We were never mean and fighting, our relationship was neutrally existing adjacent to each other. we just rarely played together when young, didn't share clothing or anything as teens, and we never speak as adults. Girl-girl is not a guarantee of closeness at all. Each child will have their own personality and that's ok!

[@kaiya33123]

I hope everyone had a wonderful holigay season🥰🥰🥰

[@spriddlez]

Fellow Canadian. While yes as a country we have no population comparatively to the US, our biggest cities are still quite comparable to the US. For example, the Vancouver metropolitan area is the 29th largest city in North America by population (this includes Mexico city which has 21 million on its own!). Vancouver has more people than Orlando, Portland, Pittsburgh, Cincinnati and Austin. It's not New York but not many cities are. So we small but concentrated lol

[@spiralbody]

The metro area isn't Vancouver though, it's a regional number. Vancouver proper is only 700,000 thousand people! Smaller than Edmonton, Calgary, Brampton, Mississauga, and Ottawa! (speaking as an urban planner who lives in Vancouver and has worked across Canada). We small up here even when concentrated :D EDIT: the way the population is counted matters a lot and it's very hard to compare regions as the calculations are often very different

[@Salouuh]

I missed you sm guys :') don't leave for so long I have abandonment issues

[@GingerPhoenix223]

Ditto lmao

[@BayAreaBerk]

Pure Chaos, the whole way through...

[@notmyrealname550]

So happy to watch the new pod!

[@HeyAmandaR]

Two things: 1. Canada is basically the same size as California in population size and our largest city, Toronto, is about the same as Dallas. Vancouver is about the same size as Denver. 2. YES - everyone should be lifting, it's so important, you need to build strength that can carry you into older age...I'm watching my mother become incredibly frail as Dementia eats away at her (sorry for the downer moment here). Strength training is critical and who doesn't wanna look like Vi or have a Vi? ;) #ifyouknowyouknow

[@GraceNcube]

I’ve never been able to deal with bad roomies. I’ve always just made it easy for myself to move if needed. If everyone can communicate well and are caring then it’ll work out fine. Some people just aren’t that way. Some people just don’t care if they’re bothering everyone.

[@shelleyjones4146]

when are you coming to Australia? 👀

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

Alayna, Canada is the same as Australia. The majority of the population live within a few hours of the coast because everywhere else is relatively hostile to life.

[@Im-lx3qt]

Speaking to sister and sister relationships. From personal experience, I think the age gap is a big factor in the closeness of the relationship. My sister and I are 3 years apart and have a wonderful relationship. I have a friend who has a 5 year gap between her sister and they don't get along well and have a rocky relationship.

[@dylanmaxey2531]

Maturity as it evolves in a young adult learning what they want in life is a beautiful thing, be open to the shifting tides. Sometimes a break is needed from what made you happy at early 20's may not be the same when you hit your later 20's but you re-discover the love later. Plus in social media the self exploitation gets old fast as you wise up to the person you want the public to consume, if at all for public consumption.

[@chaz072]

as someone who has 3 big brothers who are 13,15 and 17 years older than me, im SO close with my brothers but i think its because I wasnt actually raised with them in the house because they left for uni and other circumstances, so theyre more protective and fun

[@catiem1029]

24:08 sorry, Mak I definitely disagree on the younger brother point. My younger brother HATED me as a teenager because I was too mom-like

[@myreason2be]

The whole convo about gender and kids growing up was so hard to listen to lol. I had four sisters and three brothers and our relationships are all different. I also have both a boy and a girl and they are super close. They’re only 1.5 years apart though so they’re always been very very close. My son is also the more emotionally intelligent, empathetic, keeps everyone connected sort of person and my daughter is more of the could care less sort of person so really gender has much less to do with things than personality.

[@tracythorpe2662]

I'M about to finish Yeah from Ashley 😂😂😂😂 OMG 😊 That Was Crazy hehehe

[@tracythorpe2662]

Awe cutie Mak getting a Trophy 🏆, welldone Baby 😉👏👌🥇 MAK 👶 I was 5ft 2inch and I had 1 Son 8lb 11oz 6 foot - Now 1 Son 8lb 7oz 6 feet 3inch.. Now. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@canadianicedragon2412]

Invite Ashley to "shovel" the non slanty roof a few times. I mean I know Vancouver never really gets snow but you need slant to get rain/snow off the roof. Also alayna you're living in the past. Canada now has over 40 million people. Still about 9x less than the US but come on we've grown from 36...

[@vthib]

Regarding the gender sibling talk, I would have given ANYTHING for a sister growing up. Like it's hard for me to even watch Bluey because it makes me so sad that I didn't have a sister. Instead I had two younger brothers who frankly wanted nothing to do with me. I was extremely isolated and lonely. One of my earliest memories at 4 years old is the devastation I felt when my youngest sibling was born a boy. It's obviously possible I'd have been just as lonely with a sister, but I wish I'd have been able to roll the dice with a sister rather than having to roll it with my brothers. I feel like my odds would have been better. But who knows.

[@wahlshannon]

Please, we need that made into a song 🎵 and Ashley has to sing it! 🎉

[@notreallymyname8751]

Kin keeping point has a weird crossover to some marriage discourse, wherein dudes point out that bc they haven’t had these expectations put on them, they also haven’t been raised to value these things - so you get this weird situation where women are doing work they resent for men who don’t want the work done lol. Ofc this isn’t to get men off the hook - because men DO prefer having a community and family! They just aren’t taught growing up that sending thank you notes is part of what makes that happen. We just gotta make lil adjustments to how we raise boys and girls, is my thinking. Share the good and toss out the bad.

[@tabitas.2719]

So, Mak, to try and assuage your fears: In my prenatal class we were assured that we have studies that compared the skeletons of women/birthing people around the world and there's only a negligable variance in the size of the opening between your hip bones. Ultimately, we developed to be able to birth babies. Unless the baby is particularly large (in terms of circumference) it should be fine. :)

[@mercuryeclipse3259]

No comments yet… ominous Never been this early

[@sarahm7086]

Also, contrary to Ashley’s comedic point, climate change has actually been affecting the northern regions of Canada much much worse. Short winters and not nearly as much ice as folks are used to, to name a few. So there may not actually be much “backup” space if we continue destroying our earth

[@JansmaIvy]

*AND I LOVE SONIC-ASHLEY!* ❤😂

[@hyleore]

i dont like the roommate question because i feel like I'm the bad roommate

[@kapowjam3462]

Does Mak think Padme died bc she was too small for the babies?

[@stanleysidds8792]

Is the Australian stuff a job thing or holiday? 14:10

[@mplateroalasxo]

probably some comedy shows but will use any down time to explore and enjoy Australia

[@miagosha7756]

32:54 Mak's influence

[@heatherc6211]

Ok so I’m a woman and I grew up with a brother and we got on SO WELL. I think I always liked that there was less comparison because we were a boy and a girl… But I don’t know if that was necessarily that true bc I always envied the toys he got etc (but I think that’s maybe enviable no matter genders.) He has always been unbelievably compassionate and NEVER gave any toxic masculine energy. He was really protective of me as a kid but also he just really cared for me a lot and I him. He was (and still is) my favourite person. Also we have a six year age gap so we again had a lot less competitiveness or comparison between us. Now were both adults were still super close and he means so much to me. Im so glad to have a brother and I couldn’t imagine it differently.

[@graceelmu]

the vast majority of the Canadian population lives below the most northern point of the continental US

[@melissaeastridge7402]

I have a little brother and he definitely is not the type to show he cares very much.. in fact he will say flat out that he doesn’t care.. (he’s also autistic/has Aspergers syndrome) but.. he definitely would punch someone for me haha. He gets in fights a lot as is😭😭

[@melissaeastridge7402]

As for sisters.. I had 2 growing up. One, was very sweet and always tried to keep the peace (she passed away at 16 though) and another sister who was the type to make you feel really bad about yourself.. for me personally. I think those two fought badly though😂 but having sisters is the best thing in my life. Having siblings in general is the best thing in my life.

[@kapowjam3462]

🎵 musical episode 🎵

[@sarahm7086]

Yes, Canadas population is about the same as California

[@docxen]

what if Ashley donates an egg and alayna carries it for Mac and their partner

[@ceciliavolpe2119]

If Alayna have a baby Mak will be the teenage brother officially

[@SandraLugn-nc1rk]

I dont think the baby will be one the pod.

[@ceciliavolpe2119]

@SandraLugn-nc1rk Me neither, but will be part of the family too.

[@JansmaIvy]

And yes…’just girls’ are a menace!! Sisters are NOT all close…at least not at first! 😂 in adulthood..maybe…but it is a long way

[@theszmek]

Did Ashley say Australia 👀

[@RondyWooten]

The trope of older brothers tormenting their sisters has always disappointed me. My little sister and I have been best friends since early childhood. Those brothers need to do better.

[@Purplerainpinkclouds]

guys wtf why did i just randomly watch another episode from a while ago where Mak was saying the same thing about older brothers. the narrative was so true for me and i was only tortured a little L OL . hahah :( rip .

[@pedropartida4785]

why did my mind think 51st state when mak said "what is canada" xD. Atleast mak wont need a passport to travel to see alayna.

[@Raddiebaddie]

😭 😭

[@AlexxWoodwick]

This is a repost? I know I’ve seen most of this before !?

[@bilong92]

comment for the algorithm

[@Keirlost]

my family

[@p0etrygh0st]

Hell. No. Sisters aren't necessarily close. If my brother was not on another continent I would be way closer to him emotionally than my sister. We are not close.

[@kaleb7931]

My parents thought they had a boy and a girl they actually had two boys my cousins are 2 girls they hate each other

[@gangstagrandma]

White Rock?

[@JuMixBoox]

I've also seen the L-Word, but the new one, so I know at that point it looks like blue alien liquid.

[@yeahokay...actuallynah]

14:10 WHAT??!!!?

[@austinwayne8137]

My wife and I have begun talking about kids as well, she wants a girl, I want a boy ( I’m a trans man). My theory on having a boy is I want to add better men to this world, the world needs that desperately. I’d love to raise an intelligent, open, kind, warm son. I’d do the same with a daughter but that’s my theory on it.

[@druth8x]

Please Please Get out of the Better Help contract. There is so much bad about them and your audience really trusts you both as a therapist and a queer one at that.

[@kerizella]

Do you mind expanding a bit more on that? I've seen people say without explaining and I'm intrigued

[@Raddiebaddie]

I agree and I have commented this before all well, but we have to be real. If there’s not enough patreons, and they turn down main income sources, this pod will just cease to exist

[@lynnmartin8294]

You may possibly be talking about word that spread in 2018? About not vetting their therapists.... this has been debunked and better help changed their disclaimer wording to not continue confusing people. If its something else please let us know. Link below is a lawyer explaining. kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3mupZ9mbJl1bM0si=CM8Tp8WJrNOrCDYj

[@JJ-zr6fu]

This podcast is to big now to record two episodes biweekly. It needs to be fresher. It’s fine every once in awhile but this one was record over a month ago. If you wanted to bank some you should’ve had a Christmas one then a new years one. But we’re past Christmas now and you’re still in the in between time of thanksgiving and Christmas.

[@hi-yo1kq]

Chill they know what they’re doing. No need for a backseat driver

[@nahadoth2087]

So, how much are you contributing to the Patreon?

[@Raddiebaddie]

@@hi-yo1kqI mean I am obsessed with this pod and watch every single episode but numerically the episodes have had a steady consistent decline in viewership. Look back and you’ll see the early episodes average in the 100k views then 80ks then 50ks now 20ks :/ So if people have feedback and they aren’t being mean or nasty… then that’s kinda what a comment section is for. It’s not an attack

[@JJ-zr6fu]

@nahadoth2087 They don’t do a good job upselling the patreon. They hardly do a patreon question. And to go back to the OP this show was stale we’re past Christmas and this show wasn’t even in Christmas season. Is this how they should’ve kicked off the new year? Like basic reflection on the year or a New Year’s resolution show would’ve been simple.

[@nahadoth2087]

@JJ-zr6fu You're getting 40 - 50 minutes of entertainment a week for free. And you don't even care enough to pay for it. Stop being entitled.