LATE BLOOMERS: Why it's never too late to re-write your story

[@bexbricker7520]

By my 30s, I stopped caring what other people think and got the tattoos and piercings. Now in my 40s, I’m learning who I am as a neurodivergent (AuDHD), a mom with a teen and trying to make my dreams happen. Finding you guys gives me encouragement and feeling seen.

[@AlyssaBrightmoon]

ditto😊

[@ADHD_love]

So happy you are finding yourself. Thank you! 🩵 🌸

[@LinnyThePersistent]

@bexbricker7520, we have lots in common! Differences include: I did tattoos and most of my piercings in my 20s (1 piercing a couple years ago), and I do still care what some others think, but I'm so much closer to not caring now that I'm almost on the easy-breezy side of divorce (20 year relationship, 1x teenage daughter). I was diagnosed AuDHD late in my early 40s {only a year ago!}, and I'm still adjusting and getting supports in place, but all up, though it's been horrificly difficult at times and will likely continue to be so sometimes, I'm finally starting to understand that no matter what's happening, I will probably be ok, I can trust myself to eventually handle whatever arises, I can be present with myself when I'm feeling stuck and yucky, and through A LOT of adversity and WTF-ERY, I am even starting to love myself! (Truly didn't expect to see that on my bingo card! 🤭🤭🤭). All the best to you and your family! How good are these videos⬆️⬆️⬆️??? I almost always feel better about myself and my life after watching @ADHD_love videos or shorts! 💜💙🖤💜💙🖤 A related quote that I cherish and am trying to follow: "I have met myself, and I am going to care for her fiercely." ~Glennon Doyle~

[@WanderingVocalist]

I feel the same way! Like WOW ok, I can do this! Look it can be done! Thank you for sharing!

[@bexbricker7520]

@@WanderingVocalist Yes! So helpful not feeling alone!

[@pixie-nova]

This podcast makes me cry. The second Rox said "so many people that have got books inside them, tv shows, etsy businesses" I just broke. I've dreamed of writing a book since I was very small but fear always stopped me and the societal pressure of a "normal 9-5". I've recently started writing it again and words like this are what made me do so - reminding me that our gifts and dreams are special and meant to be shared. I love you two, the vulnerability and ownership of all your struggles and achievements. Thank you for inspiring me again and reminding me it's not too late. :)

[@ADHD_love]

Good on you for writing again. I'm really happy for you! 🌸 🩵

[@gloriousmdmatherapy]

Keep goooooooooooing 🎉🎉🎉❤

[@nickorange4881]

that sounds like a good book. you should write it. not even sure what it is about. but the vibe im getting is you should work on it. so we can read it.

[@steph5630]

I really recommend the Artist's Way (book) it breaks down so many false narratives that stop creativity. You've got this! Lots of famous authors don't publish until their 30s, 40s, 50s and get rejected a bunch. Writing is just about showing up. You can do this!

[@pixie-nova]

@@steph5630 I've looked at that before when I was drawing a lot more, I didn't think about it translating to writing! I just got this on kindle and while I was looking turns out she also wrote one called write for life so that's second on my list. Thanks for the recommendation :)

[@laurenhk19]

As much as I find your shorts entertaining and enjoyable, I’m SO glad you are doing this sort of podcast where you are just sitting talking and being honest, it’s so refreshing x

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you, happy you are enjoying it! 🌸 🩵

[@candaceturcotte2863]

Agree!

[@macchiatonee]

I'm autistic, turning 30 soon, finally found the courage to pursue a uni degree. Also! Started a promising new business with a fellow late bloomer that is MY MUM (reaching her 50, recently diagnosed with ADHD) 💛💪 You and all people in the comments are giving us both so much confidence and optimism.

[@Seevawonderloaf]

Amazing!! I’m cheering you on!!

[@clairehiggins7120]

well done to you both, I hope all goes well with your new business xx

[@kajsa6358]

Amazing!

[@ginaguacamole9676]

You guys are awesome and I wish you the best of luck… I’m 45 and just finding out how ADHD I really am… It’s so good to hear these positive stories!

[@janedoex1398]

Good for you. My body will give out before I reach that level, since I can't be sick forever, everything is always *in my head*, once they are aware of half of my diagnoses - *as if the other physical half doesn't exist.* WELL GUESS WHAT: PEOPLE WITH ANY MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES CAN GET PHYSICALLY SICK , EVEN MORE THAN " NORMAL" PEOPLE, BECAUSE WE HAVE NO VOICE AND NO ONE WILL BELIEVE YOU, OR EVEN LOOK AT YOU CLOSELY AND WE KNOW IT AND AFTER YEARS OF TRYING JUST GIVE UP TO PROOVE THAT WE ARE PHYSICALLY SICK TOO ! ALSO - VERYTHING THAT THEY DO WITH YOU IN PSYCH WARDS,. Open doors - let me guess: The doors are locked because of the dangers on the outside." One could go to smoke without having to look for someine for hakf an hour if patients who are no risk for themselves or others by their wristbands with a chip that opens the door so I can get to the cafee and buy a tea without having to fill out 3 forms or being sedated before or them taking my shoes and jscket in 3 degrees Celsius so I don't run away . ! EVEN WITH PRIVATE INSURANCE ! It doesn't count at psych wards and I can't sleep without a,TV and other than maybe one person in the room. I CANT. I was told the double dangerous bacterial infection can only be *deteced/ diagnosed by a biopsy, a look woth a microscope, scraping off some skin and a blood test.* HALF of the 13 hospitals sent me straight to the psych ward and the dermatologists only looked at me with the naked eye though rhey,said you can not see it without said tests. *Two took 15 seconds* and looked at my hands and said it's either " nothing" , " a scratch " or my favourite: ⚠️ *TRIGGER WARNING* - I am about to use *two two- letters abbreviations*, but that might still trigger someone. No details, just two times two letters. *Self inflicted for attention.* HOW IF I CANT EVEN REACH TO SCRATCH MYSELF DUE TO SCOLIOSIS ETC. ? ALSO I HAVEN'T SH - ed FOR 12 YEARS ! My ED is still chronic, 30 + years. _____ END OF TOPIC ! _____ So I guess happyness and even a sanitary appartement is not for me. Rats in the cellar , mold , but try to fight the city.....I'D NEED A VERY GOID, LAWYER , LIKELY SO EXPENSIVE BECAUDE HE,WOULD HAVE TO BE SPECIALISED IN RENT AND RENTERS' RIGHTS, OR / AND NEGLIGENCE, HEALTH HAZARDS FOR THE PUBLIC OR SOMETHING. UNLESS I HIT THE LOTTERY NEXT WEEK I'LL GAVE TO STAY IN THIS HELLHOLE. SO IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. THEY CITY,ABD,POLITICIANS AND REGULATIONS, BREAK YOU, FINALLY AND FOR GOOD. NO ONE GIVES A S#!T.

[@claudialandgraf4450]

Am 43 with a 2 year old child - single mom. Its wonderful. I may not have a house and no man in my life anymore and no chance to give my child a sibling but I have a future that matters now. I may be late, but I wouldn't want to miss a day I had with my child. Now I even think about to start a new education.

[@yazbee8736]

You got this! 🎉 that’s amazing!!! ❤ it’s never too late. good luck with your further education goals!

[@bvallerina]

23:08 and this is why I will continue to say “It Takes A Village” does not end when we become adults. Having a support system is necessary all throughout our entire lives. They help you and you help them. The OTHER circle of life.

[@LilyMunstar0223]

I'm 39 and never needed a village more

[@MP-uz9xi]

yes and without that there is truly no hope.

[@lillianbarker4292]

You are so right! I’m surprised to learn that I’m still learning and growing at age 75. We need each other. It’s not easy becoming old just as it wasn’t easy being in my 20s and a late bloomer. I can help others and they help me

[@ADHD_love]

Love this, well put! 🌸 🩵

[@everyonesalama4447]

Wow that is so true, not just to raise a baby, I will remember that for sure

[@sidhedances8582]

Often I find that late bloomers are more well rounded in life and are happier in life.

[@ADHD_love]

100% agree! They've got experience and know who they are! 🌸 🩵

[@LindsayElizabeth16]

Ive always called myself a late bloomer. Can’t wait to tune in!

[@everyonesalama4447]

These comments 🥰 what gorgeous community have I stumbled on here! aw we all got this together late bloomies xx

[@BravosReviews]

I’m so blown away that you guys are able to have this conversation. I want a relationship like yours. Ty guys for being great.

[@srd692]

My son is 8. He is autisitc, with ADHD and mild cerebral palsy. I love seeing videos like this of adults that are similar to him that are happy, love their lives and are comfortable in their own skin. You also just both seem so kind and accepting. ❤️

[@LazloArcadia]

I absolutely love these guys. Thank you so much for helping our culture understand that ADHD and Autism do not have to immediately mean that person can't accomplish amazing things.

[@SentientBodywork]

"Vulnerability was crying when I was drunk or high". Spot on, I relate to that deeply.

[@lowsee]

I'm 45, a month away from 46, and I'm close to finishing a novel. It's the first one I'll finish, after abandoning 3 others. Thanks for the inspiration.

[@ADHD_love]

Go you! Proud of you! 🥰 🌸

[@saraquill]

Congratulations! I’ve lost count of all the novels I started. I finished my first one recently. You can do it!

[@everyonesalama4447]

best of luck with it! xx

[@ginaguacamole9676]

That’s amazing! You could do it! I am 45 and close to 46 two and it’s so hard to pick those things back up and finish them so thank you for sharing and you’re an inspiration!

[@cherylashworth1124]

Yay! 👏🏻

[@anikajain571]

Thankyou so much for saying it's not too late to start or to get ahead in life, that part nearly made me cry.. I'm 44, undiagnosed adhd, my life is a train wreck and I often feel everything is pointless. It means so much to hear you both being so open & honest about this. ❤❤❤

[@ADHD_love]

It's never too late. Do life on your terms. Sending love. 🌸 🩵

[@applepie9937]

It is honestly so great to hear that there are parents out there who really struggeled to be good parents and then realised that and worked to change it. Thank you for sharing that

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you. 🙏🩵

[@CreatingwithSemaj]

The authenticity and vulnerability of the both of you just brings me so much JOY! I'm 60 and blooming. Finding who I am after masking all these years is the most releasing and relieving and weird thing. It's a journey certainly. Thanks for doing this podcast, it's brilliant and so happy that you took the RISK for all of us. We're going to grow together in this blooming garden!!🧡✨🧡

[@ADHD_love]

🥰 🥰

[@jesssmith2064]

46 & 2nd year at Architecture school and loving it, not easy, but no regrets. We get one shot at life

[@ADHD_love]

Nice, go you! 🙌 🩵

[@akshayde]

Now i finally understand 46 & 2

[@Seevawonderloaf]

I’ve never heard of adhd creativity genuinely being spoken about positively. I thought everyone had a million ideas coming out at a time

[@karljiks]

the first episode of this podcast is what was my first step towards getting out of the house and walking for my mental health in more than a decade. it was amazing to listen to especially because I recently got diagnosed with ADHD and autism and, even though I knew that already, it somehow hit hard. nothing changed, i just finally had the official label, but I felt the first episode of this podcast was the exact pep talk I needed at the time. thank you so much guys. love you.

[@everyonesalama4447]

Good for you, as a late diagnosed ADHD'er myself, I will affirm that exercise does seem to be our life juice energy haha

[@Billyboicos]

ROXIE, YOU'RE SUCH AN INSPIRATION!!! I'm 31 and still trying to get my crap together now with severe ADHD and a bit of substance addiction. Trying to rent my very first place by myself without a credit score, good finances, or the ability to drive (which is a big deal in Michigan, U.S.). I haaaate working a 9to5, but I haven't been putting myself out there much with my paintings

[@Billyboicos]

I will say, though, for the first time in over a decade, I'm saving money better than ever before. Which is hugely important given the fact I'm single and don't have someone else I can rely on financially

[@jamiezuzu7326]

I feel you! I have a car fortunately but only because of my parents

[@Billyboicos]

@jamiezuzu7326 Congrats though, seriously 💓💓

[@teejaydiscombobulated2724]

That hot pink is SO eye catching and brilliant! My wee maximalist heart is singing in joy looking at those pink mics and the pink checkered mug - I just love your set up. I do wish my ADHD gave me loads of ideas...I think it's too tempered by my autism. Every day is an interesting fight between the autism and ADHD vibes lol. I'll be adding hot pink into my life - thanks. You two are a delight.

[@t.f.6297]

Needed to hear this right now, 44, and restarting my life. It's so scary and rewarding ❤

[@JazfromAustralia]

Thank you, this is just what I needed and I’m not even finished watching yet! At age 34 and feeling at least ten years behind literally most of the people I know that are my age, I only started my small self-employed business last year. I’m working in the neurodivergent field doing disability support work. I’ve also been going to homes to provide practical support and also supporting newly diagnosed children (and those with suspected ADHD and or autism) in early childhood education settings to learn how to understand their brains and self regulate. It’s also been a huge process of educating other educators and staff around Neurodivergent needs whilst explaining my own and self advocating for myself in the workplace. It’s hard sometimes because people my age seem to have their lives together, I’m so so far behind. though I know my late adhd and late autism diagnoses impacted my ability to start doing what I’m doing sooner. In fact, if I didn’t get my late diagnosis then I wouldn’t be working in the industry that I’m working in or making videos on KZbin sharing my experiences and advocating for others. So yes, the concept of being a late bloomer rings true for me and I feel like there must be so many other people out there who are probably even much older than I am who are resonating with this concept too. There is a fair amount of regret thinking I could’ve had a home by now and a car, that I would have a lot more retirement fund savings than I do, but I need to remind myself that if I stay trapped in the past, I’m not going to move forward. And the knowledge that I have now is going to help me to continue to succeed. I think it’s super important to remember that we’re capable of doing incredible things as long as we take care of ourselves and make sure to prioritise self-care, sensory regulation and checking in with our body and mind because these things act as a vehicle to get us to our next destination and it’s worth remembering that we’re in charge of where we go! It’s actually really exciting when you think about it. Autistically scary, yes. to think about an unforeseen future but ADHD loves the thrill of the unknown and the potential for endless possibilities! I’m so grateful for your videos, the information is invaluable and I always learn so much from them. I can’t wait to watch to the rest of this video, thank you! ❤ - Jaz

[@jamiezuzu7326]

So inspiring for me to get my diagnosis and apply for disability etc

[@bowandkeys]

Thanks for your new pod cast. I'm the latest of bloomers... Today two of your comments relate directly to lines in songs I've written. "It's never to late, to alter your fate , in time to reach for the stars." and " Time goes slow certain times of the day . Feelings run deep certain places I’ve stayed. What’s close for friendship, to love’s a long way and the best kind of work, feels like play." Made me smile. Cheers!

[@dukesilver9704]

I came across you guys randomly. I'm only five minutes in so far, but it's crazy how much I relate to the both of you. I'm autistic and recently just turned 27. I still do feel lost a lot of the time. It's hard. Even looking at things logically and seeing how far I've come compared to before, I still do get the occasional urge to give up or just isolate myself from the world completely again. It's very frustrating. It's nice to see that you two are doing so well and found each other though. That does give me some hope, as hard as things may be.

[@kiyarolynn]

I’m watching this at 25 years old, as someone who did the exact opposite- I did everything years before society wanted me to. Kicked out at 15, graduated college at 19, married by 20, first home and first child by 21. I felt I did all the things despite all odds presented against me, as a once homeless teenager battling addiction, struggling massively with rather severe ADHD, without any parents to fall back on. I felt so much pride in my progress , but it was always an uphill battle. Now at 25 I feel it all already crumbling. The weight of it all being unbearable on a daily basis. I feel like I’m in too deep to start over and incapable of doing any better. But then I stumbled upon you two and realized perhaps it is possible. Thank you.

[@clungebucket23]

I'm an AUDHDer now in my 60s, and have had a feeling that I'm finally grown up and mature, that previously feeling late to the party , that all my peers had been getting careers, early on the housing ladder, started families way before me, doing joined up thinking . The last 25 years has been nothing but lots of hard work catching and now I'm here, I've never been happier, I'm always optimistic and content, yet my peers look old, worn out , stressed, depressed, cynical despite having paid off their mortgages, kids left home... and I'm living my best life and not berating myself for such a late blooming and everyone thinks I'm 45 on average... ADHD is a bitch sometimes but on the whole it makes life very interesting and loads of fun and finding joy everywhere all the time

[@sarahwoods475]

At almost 57, look younger, others tell me, this comment is really helpful and inspiring, thank you

[@clungebucket23]

@sarahwoods475 it helps when you can embrace being different as a positive thing, something to be proud of when surrounded by unthinking, uncreative, conforming and obedient normies.

[@WanderingVocalist]

I think the resilience and wisdom and experience we have from being in the trenches as they said .... Makes the other side feel so much better now that we can be ourselves fully. Being late diagnosed helped to unlock so much ah ha moments. Like, oh I'm not a terrible human I'm just DIFFERENT and trying to fit where I don't belong and do things that don't help me. And now I can shed all the shame that we carry for years. To be our unapologetically authentic selves. I'm so excited to have this community to learn from and feel seen❤

[@marcelo500]

Thank you both so much!! This brought tears to my eyes!!

[@CarrieMtn]

I’m enjoying the podcast (late to the party of course) Thanks for putting this out.

[@tstarr8314]

I'm in my mid-40's and can relate so much. I've spent my adulthood not knowing what the heck I was doing. I've struggled with relationships (friends, family, and romantic), finances,. I watched everyone else get married, buy homes, travel and have great lives even with the problems they had. I'm starting to figure it out though. I've done a degree, started a business. It's a struggling business but I've started and am learning. It's hard with family dynamics and trauma, and apparently undiagnosed ADD. But I'm blessed because I'm here and I have the opportunity to try to achieve my goals. It's never too late.

[@ADHD_love]

You're doing great! a degree and a business is no small thing! Well done! 🌸 🩵

[@zingisamhlekwa4652]

Love from South Africa. I am 82 days sober and I am working on my craft again and I most definitely building a healthy relationship with my finances this year. And I know and believe that it is my last year in my hometown living in a single room.

[@soulfourger]

21:03 “I wasn’t failing-I was actually learning on the job.” Uhhh! 🙌🏼 Totally needed to hear that. That is such a healing and transformative way of looking at our process as human beings just trying to do anything in life. Thank you so much Rox for saying that!

[@jayelbee444]

Turned 40 in October. I’ve made a lot of “mistakes” that society looks down on. I’m glad I found this.. makes me feel a little better

[@equitime77]

Really enjoyed this. I've been through some really bad stuff. Now I'm building a new business, building much better relationships with my grown children and achieving so much better in my life. I'm nearly at the big 50. Don't think love is on my life, I certainly don't have the time or health for it. But that's fine, I'm too busy enjoying where I am. When the downs come again I will be able to get through them and through into the other side. Just like you both have.

[@andrewtaylor739]

10 minutes in....this is amazing guys! I identify so much with Rich as I am also a recovering gambling and alcohol addict. A very, very powerful discussion.

[@ADHD_love]

Thanks for saying that. Well done for being in recovery, that's amazing. 🩵

[@HelloThereIAmAlice]

Love this episode especially. Brings me hope. You two are great for my soul. I would really love to hear some details on like where/how did you guys start? Did Rich pay for therapy and Rox just came along for some of his sessions, or how did that go down? Was it 90£ therapy or did you manage to find something that wasn't nerve-wreckingly expensive? Did Rox tell Rich everything on the first date(s) like I can't pay my electricity for example? Did Rich pay for everything for quite some time and if yes, how did you get through that without it becoming an odd power dynamic? Where were you both in your sobriety when you met? Can you remember how your dating bios went? Or did only Rox do online dating? Oh and how did you meet ofc!

[@Fearlessly-Kristen]

You’re such an inspiration Rox! I relate to a lot of what you’re saying. So grateful to have found this podcast video. I’m 37. Last year I quit my tech job, got piercings, started dreadlocks…. Began prioritizing my yt channel, playing drums (my dream is to be a rock drummer full time) and I do concert photography and videography for my local music scene. I’ve been the happiest EVER! friends are saying I’ve grown into myself. And they’re right bc for the first time in my entire life, I look in the mirror and actually FEEL like I’m in the correct body. I wish I was brave enough to do this sooner! But this podcast episode makes me feel better about being a late bloomer 😅

[@Fearlessly-Kristen]

Side note: if you need a drummer, hit me up 😂

[@ANNIESCIRCUSOFLIFE]

Second 00:24 and I am already crying like a baby because I feel so heard and so seen as I am 43 years old and still figuring out how to get all parts of my life in order. Especially my job-part. (Am a preschool teacher who is now a stay at home single mum, because it`s too much to work in this field and who has started at least 20 books, that are ready in my head but not on paper yet.). Thank you two SOOOOOOOOOOOO much. You rock! Big hug from Annie from Berlin ❤❤❤

[@christinacurran5918]

Get it on paper a little at a time. You got this! ❤

[@ANNIESCIRCUSOFLIFE]

​@@christinacurran5918 thank you so much for your reply. It really motivates me. Wish you all the best. ❤

[@paper2167]

I'm turning 30 this year, and I desperately needed to hear all of this. Thank you for being so candid about such difficult and personal topics.

[@ADHD_love]

That's kind of you to say, thank you! 🌸 🩵

[@IAmJewelMarie]

Man, y’all are so inspiring. I see you hustling and making waves. Here I am in my late 20s thinking that my life is basically over. I don’t know if I could ever reach the type of success you have, but your stories are giving me some hope.

[@Alison-ku4yz]

Hi I love this and relate to totally! I have previously had drink and drug problem , had terrible relationships, lived a true transient life . I then had a child when I was forty and this changed my life completely. Moving on 21 years later - I’m still with my partner ( my daughters dad) own my own home and put our daughter through uni. This child now is settled in London with a lovely boyfriend and great job!, living her best life! I have a steady job in management but believe there still more I can accomplish creatively and continue looking forward to the future. I am excited as to what could come next and feel I have a lot of life ahead! I am very proud to call myself a late bloomer. 😊

[@emilybelzer5773]

40s is so much better. I started getting the tattoos at 41 and dyeing fun hair colors in my 30s and it was really because I was letting go of chasing stability at the cost of everything else. Spoiler alert, it wasn't even very successful. Understanding myself better in my 30s and now in my 40s, trusting my own experiences, going in search of the diagnoses and treatment that have made all the difference. The thing I wonder the most about is a real partnership in life and feeling like I can be safe with anybody after my recent divorce, so it really helps to hear how you, Rich, were feeling and how you still found a real love and partnership that made you want to want it again.

[@fiona-jayne1749]

Love this so much! I am a late bloomer definitely. I've had a lot of very difficult years and now aged 38, things are suddenly falling into place and going so well!

[@lissa.mane27]

Thank you so much for sharing all this! Im 29 and can really resonate with feeling behind and feeling like Ive wasted all my adult life so far and messed up big time. This gives me hope I can be a late bloomer too🌸

[@Seevawonderloaf]

Your love story is so beautiful, it makes me tear up. I’d love to hear how you guys met

[@michellemurphy9326]

Roxy really glad you did try again especially as a late bloomer because your lyrics have such raw courageous honesty and wisdom behind them... dream team both of you. I was equally excited to see Rich prepping the stage because you truly are a dream team of hilarious honesty... changing the world guys ⚡️normalising real life shit

[@ADHD_love]

That's very kind of you, thank you! 🌸 🩵

[@laurazalabany3802]

I'm really glad I listened to this. It's made me think about my own journey alot. I am a better late than never bloomer. I'm 44 and I've got the rainbow baby I didn't think that I'd have with the man that I always hoped was out there. In our house we have the pick n mix of neurodiversity. I too have had some questionable encounters and experiences and I always wished I'd met my person sooner, but it would never have worked because we were different people. I sometimes think we go through these cycles and each one brings a different building block, a different additional step to the path. The greatest superpower is your innerself even if it takes a while to be found. Thankyou

[@ravenfae420]

My partner and I are also Late Bloomers! A bit older (50F and 41M), and we've been together for (going on) 22 years now :) We both also (in the last few years) have discovered that we are both on the spectrum, as well as ADHD. Instead of giving up on each other, we spent time getting to know ourselves for that time. Your story sounds very similar to mine, although I have not had the successful part happen yet. I love that I found you guys on tiktok, and now here we are!! This is great :) Keep up the great work!!

[@Mindywright27]

Love the podcast and set! You two are adorable and very relatable! Best wishes for your continued success! ❤🎉 The “good enough” parent discussion had me tearing up. 🥹 I needed to hear that. Thank you 🙏

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you, you're welcome. Happy we can help! 🩵 🌸

[@Eaglesandwillows]

"You past, however messy it was, It does not define your future So wherever you are, however low you are, you are capable of the happiest life, love, relationship, job, wildest dreams coming through if you are willing to do the brutal hard work of changing your actions, which might look like going to therapy, might look like getting sober but also the fact that success isn’t linear.” Love you guys, thank you. I got this video on my feed and it broght me the motivation and inspiration that i needed. turning 33 this year, two years sober, recovered from anorexia since almost five. Still figuring out many things but i am so glad i am i didn’t give up and kept on trying. So much love your way

[@chapachuu]

Just got my AuDHD diagnosis last year at 36 and needed this video to remind me it’s not too late. I haven’t gotten anywhere with my life so far and am suffering severe autistic burnout and unemployed. I am ready for a new, authentic life. Hopefully I can pull it off.

[@kimbedoya8489]

The both of you are so inspirational. I am currently in therapy for post traumatic stress due to repeated exposure to trauma I also believe I have ADHD haven't been diagnosed yet my life is in the toilet and so is my family's but I am really looking to change my life and you guys really give me the hope that I need to carry on

[@ADHD_love]

I'm sorry to hear of all your struggles. Your life is YOURS, you do it your way. Sending you all the support! 🌸🩵

[@agneag]

🙏

[@everyonesalama4447]

All the best to you, figuring out the root of my struggles and an ADHD diagnosis was the real start of the turning point for me, everything got better after that, no longer in the dark xx

[@sandradee6029]

I feel like a rubbish human. Can't get it together in life and now 51. Going to speak to my gp about the possibility of Audhd. Have always been labelled with chronic anxiety & depression..since 20. I stumbled through an undergraduate degree but gradually failed at building a life while it was the launching point for most of my peers. Im so ready to be a late bloomer!! ❤🌱

[@amylouwilliams83]

Late in life diagnosed with adhd and loving this podcast!!!

[@tiffanydale5824]

Let me start by saying how lucky I feel to have stumbled on to your reels. I am now a Huge fan. It's such a relief to find someone who has had addiction, trauma, mental health issues and to know I'm not alone while being comical about all. I have adhd as well as the above issues mentioned. The two of you have given the greatest gift and that's to share your videos with my boyfriend who is completely the opposite of me, insight into how my brain works and why I function the way I do. I'm always running late constantly losing things forgetful constantly feeling i did something wrong or I'm defective. So thank you for sharing your stories because now I have hope and he can now understand what life for me is like daily. Looking forward to more podcasts and videos and will be finding where I can purchase your books. Thank you in letting me know I'm not alone ❤

[@REBEKAHJOHNSON-lh6xh]

Thank you for this!! As likely AuDHD, growing up the first 32 years of my life (currently 34) with narc abuse, I am definitely a late bloomer. Barely had one relationship (lasted three weeks), and I wanted to be married nearly a decade ago, have kids, etc. but I am still figuring out myself, which needs to come first. Trying to really regulate and learn things, I am definitely trying to accept that reality and be okay with where I am in life.

[@KellyC77]

Needed this today, as a late 40 something just diagnosed adhd, I have felt like a failure all my life. This has given me hope that theres still time for me to achieve something. I just dont know what

[@julianp5574]

Lesson learnt "it's never to late and hope for the Future" ADHD is difficult to cope with and finding someone to understand nearly impossible. Thanks to you both for been so honest it really does help. 😉

[@_Chessa_]

I’m 31 and still figuring out what I want to do and getting my life together. ❤ You guys are awesome and have helped me a lot with myself. I’ve learned so much about my many mannerisms and time blindness thanks to your short videos. And to find that you guys also make these types of videos makes me very happy. I’m very motivated to start trying to figure my life out even if I still really feel pessimistic and nihilistic. I’m not sure who I am. It feels different all the time. What’s calming for me is my imaginary partner. He’s a huge comfort in my life. ❤

[@laurawhitlock4694]

Love your podcasts! I’m 38 and hitting another hurdle and this was really inspiring to listen to thank you ❤

[@juliana_f_c]

This is inspiring. I am 37 and haven't bloomed...so...yeah...

[@user-vz9wq4ki8n]

I’m 23 and have struggled with adhd and now chronic illness (POTS) and watching friends move on without me, thank you guys for being the people you needed when you were younger 💜

[@Laura-u8t4u]

Wow! I never leave comments but absolutely have to here; what an inspiring conversation! The message of it never being too late is such an important one to get out there! Thank you ❤

[@leilaa2776]

Made this my current obsessive listen only to realise there were only 2 episodes! Looking forward to more and thanks for all your vulnerability. I turned 30 this year and all I could do was focus on what I hadn't achieved, how I was behind, and I should just accept that. Y'all stories are literally making me feel hope again. Thank you

[@deedee7733]

Love the positive concept Late Bloomers. Our culture is so youth orientated but that part of our lives is over in a flash then what do we do? I'm in my 60s but still learning and evolving, still exploring my creativity, still curious about life.

[@oliviac6539]

Absolutely loving the podcast. I would be interested in hearing about your sober journeys and what was helpful for you both. Thanks so much for sharing and the hope you bring me

[@anikaphillips1372]

This was really emotional for me, I have struggled so much with my mental health and so many uncompleted study attempts which just weighed me down with shame.

[@ADHD_love]

There is no shame here. Keep trying until you find your groove. You're doing great. 🩵 🌸

[@pamelashearson2809]

Late bloomer that hasn’t bloomed yet 39 but hay still got a year 😂 love this ❤ thanks again for sharing your journeys and spreading hope and healing

[@ADHD_love]

You still have time!! Loads of time!! 🩵 🌸

[@nickorange4881]

thank you for posting this. thank you this post. because i do feel behind in life. so behind. behind in alot of areas.

[@StephaniaBonnet]

Idk if it's my ADHD or if it's the fact I can relate so much to this. I'm so excited!!!

[@WanderingVocalist]

Thank you so much for this you two! I've followed you for years and am so happy to see your success and blooming. 🌷🌸🌹 I'm 39, late diagnosed Audhd and have a very similar story to Roxx. I'm in the beginning of my late bloomer season right now that I have been doing the work to heal and unpack and surround myself with the tools that will help me. This episode was truly helpful and I've already shared it with so many I know. I cannot wait to watch, like everyone else, the next stages of your journey! Love from USA 🌷❤️

[@sydneyrobinson5046]

Thank you so much for the vulnerability, I feel so seen 💚 You’ve got another subscriber with me :)

[@MaatSekhem]

Love Love Love you 2 so much. Thank you so much for your Authenticity. 💙💎🦋💎💙

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you! 🩵

[@MaatSekhem]

@ADHD_love you're an absolute blessing to so many of us. And ur helping me gain some self-confidence to Be Me & drop the masking. Love & Gratitude! 🤗🥰

[@sarahzio2]

So grateful to you two for doing exactly what you’re doing! Looking forward to more longer videos!!! 🤗

[@rettesvanlife]

I agree with your comment about how being a late bloomer can be a positive thing, experience and authenticity is more common. In our early years I think we are mainly too influenced by others, our attention to what we think others expect from us, where once we are older we tend to be more focussed on our authentic selves and less influenced. My focus has to be on helping my AuDHD son find his path and be okay with being out of step with others expectations of him (including mine which is a journey I have to travel).

[@aaronmills4290]

I just have to say thank you so much for this video. I'm gonna have to watch all the others now and I'm not even half way through this one, yet I have shared it to all my closest fellow strugglers. With my deepest gratitude, thank you so much for being so vulnerable on here. This will help people hope again. It's like the video equivelant to Emily Dickenson's "Hope is a thing with Feathers". I'm really glad that the youtube algo popped you two up in my feed on this stormy Irish night. 🙏

[@hugglesnz]

You are so inspiring, truly. I feel like most of us could benefit from therapy to enhance our relationships, making ourselves less defensive and so on. I love the message you bring, you are the highlight of my social media experience, both of you

[@ADHD_love]

Therapy is so so so important for everyone to flourish! Thank you for you r kind words, happy that you are enjoying the content! 🌸 🩵

[@vedakohli8011]

Really love this!

[@Bottemlessdrunk]

In 44 and just got a grasp on why i am the way i am thanks to you two❤ you guys are relationships and life goals!! You help so many people and im grateful for your channel❤ your son is a carbon copy of you!! Infact in your recent video people thought you used a de-aging filter he even sounds like you!!

[@lissymoz]

I am crying watching this…41 still in the ground ❤❤❤

[@mazeegracesmiles]

I started watching y'all because I deal with PTSD, severe anxiety, depression and ADHD. Your videos always made me relate. I was like, those 2 understand me. Believing no one else could ever feel what it's like being in MY shoes. A hard hard time having a baby at 19 and being a single mom. Bio dad never came around until she turned 18. Working 2 to 3 jobs to feed my kid and pay rent. Nothing ever left in the $ to pay all the bills. Having a child and only enough food for her, sitting in the dark with her and candles making it like Camping, she called it. Fun for her but terrified how I was going to get power back on, waking up to go to work finding your vehicle gone from repossession, having absolutely no friends or family checking on us or helping us. Couldn't hold a job longer than a year because I got bored. So, I had to find something new. Relationships romantically and family wise were all horrible. Finally, at 30, I found my husband, who was very financially stable. What he wanted to do with me and my daughter had no clue. Married now 16 years. My anxiety and Ptsd have left me not able to work for the last 7 years. The hardest thing is that I have so many dreams but can't execute them because I need help from someone doing what your husband does. I have great ideas but no one that will even listen to. So I'm 46 now. I'm completely financially stable and have more than I need. But my husband never grew up in a traumatized childhood, having no one to help raise a child, ever being in debt, ever have mental issues, never been to therapy, no struggles and tons of family support and loves our business he runs. But I'm unfortunately in a loveless marriage. He doesn't get me. I'm lazy. How can I have so much anxiety not to leave the house at times, why does ADHD affect me so much, it sounds like an excuse etc etc. So I now want for nothing financially to having great credit. But I've got myself in a spot where there is no communication he pays all the bills, and he runs the business. I sit at home struggling all by myself physically and mentally. My therapist and psychiatrist both have advised me to get out of the marriage he is emotionally harming me. And giving me greater anxiety and depression because i walk on ice with him. Because he can't relate to why I'm hurting. And doesn't listen, just forms his opinion and tells me I'm lazy and on to many meds. I need to shower, go somewhere, and get over it. I can't share with him when I do it's all twisted back on me. But I haven't worked in 7 years for any money to be saved. I'm not on any of the business accounts. Our business did 3.5 million US dollars last year. He pays for everything. I have my credit cards he pays off monthly. But cash to leave. Nothing. Being 46 and having everything financially and can breathe in that area and not worry about anything. But being shut out and made fun of. Because he can't relate. I'd rather be back in my life from 19 to 30. Where I had nothing, and it was so scary and sad. But I still had dignity and worked hard and laughed a lot with my daughter. I made great memories out of nothing, and my money was mine. I made it work in the end. Now I can't get him to give me a $20 dollar bill. Just to have some cash on hand. He says no use your credit cards. I pay them off monthly for you! It's embarrassing for everyone to look at my life and be in envy. They have no clue how much I suffer. I'm so proud of you two for working together based on each other's strengths and weaknesses. To truly loving each other coming from different pasts. It's a beautiful thing, and you two are so blessed to have each other! Now, where can I find your music? lol. I'm so intrigued about it. I'm not on tiktoc. Sorry to lay that all out there, but I appreciate you both for bringing many smiles to my face! I'm truly grateful I found your channel. I want you guys to truly realize how blessed you are to have each other. You all are a beautiful couple. Inside and out. Love coming your way from the US, specifically Indiana 💞

[@esterinasovilla106]

finally a podcast of the 2 coolest bestest people

[@ADHD_love]

😎 Thanks! 🩵

[@everyonesalama4447]

God dam my story resonates with so much of this!! Especially Rox, as a female in late 30's getting a degree in music, I'm currently in hostels, only wifi no 4g lol, always wondering how I can best spend this last £10, this gives me so much hope. I just know I'm on the right path for me and thats enough to not give in to something not in my nature like a 9-5 steady job. Rich I love your insight on being wrong as a parent, I'm not a parent but that was just so beautiful to hear and your kids will have so much value in that they won't even fully understand yet. Thanks guys this was ace for my Saturday morning, wish you both alll the absolute best xx

[@Decencyisfree]

Thank you, it’s so healing to listen to ya’ll. Today was tough being Nuero spicy, so I really appreciate your chat. Thanks a lot

[@isemcru]

I relate to the late blooming in adulting, career, and identity. Keep sharing your experiences and feelings. I am able to just BE when I see your content! ❤❤❤

[@ADHD_love]

Aww, so happy we can help. Happy we bring you some calm. 🩵 🌸

[@valeskacanas9187]

1:19 this! Have even been told point blank you're not getting and younger. I'm happier now than i ever was in my youth.

[@JoDancey]

I'm loving this series guys! Such natural conversation and so open and honest xxx

[@pixitheelf8776]

I'm halfway through stages for a new career change, and I've been on pause for a few days wondering if it's a good idea or even the right one because I'm 33. Listening to you both talk has inspired me to go for it, I have 24 hours left to complete stage 3, and you've given me the confidence to try and smash it. You guys are amazing together, and it brings me joy knowing you found each other in this hard to navigate world. ❤

[@zer03d14]

Yup, the stupid pressure that gets put on us from an early age, is any wonder how common the "gifted child turns burned out 20-30 year old" or the "ahh life's over your over 25 and haven't got xyz" stories are. Cause of moving countries when I was younger my education progress got thrown about a bit (had to technically repeat half a year just purely cause of how the education systems were different in the UK and Aus), did college, got nowhere after passing, kinda just wondered for a while cause just didn't seem to find the opportunities for me. Moved back to the UK, took a while to really find myself again, restarted college and went all the way through to uni with a bachelors in another field, felt like I had wasted my life at like 28. But nowdays am 31, I've been a self employed animator & editor for 4-5 years now, and it can be tough but I've never felt happier with where I am and where I can aim in life.

[@jamieswales2414]

Rox you are a rock star! I have tickets to the Manchester show in March I can't wait to scream at the top of my lungs for you!!

[@cat_cull]

Loving this podcast so much! Seeing hope for life and a bright future ✨ always feel behind with ADHD. But it’s not linear. It’s never too late

[@rebeccadunn2566]

You guys are so amazing ❤ Thankyou for putting this podcast out there to inspire and help ❤❤❤

[@ADHD_love]

Thank you, you're welcome! 🩵 🌸

[@WhizzyWheelz]

God, I never knew I needed this podcast until I found it. Thank you guys. I am already looking forward to the next episode.

[@Pxy212]

Such a good topic guys thank you for sharing. I've spent my whole 20s "living life and learning from mistakes " I've always been around music and always thought I wasn't food enough so never pushed past the point of taking it "seriously" I'm now 31 and within the space of a year I've been collabing and writing music, there's always that your too old etc mind set and it's great to hear from others this isn't the case! Keep on doing what you love regardless of age! ❤

[@jevonmahoney]

Your words give me so much hope, thank you two for doing this and doing all you do

[@gigimonrose157]

You’re both doing such a great job of this podcast. You’re really helping people. Thankyou. ❤

[@nitzahs-m9800]

You make me cry, in relief that I'm not alone or that it's too late

[@bellaswanvampire1]

Thank you SO so much for this podcast. It means so much to hear you talk about how the timeline of society can feel like such a pressure, but that you dont have to follow that timeline or the common messures of success. I too believe that money isn’t all, that its so much more about being happy with your job and your life, but I’ve often felt alone in that statement, because all around me people talk about money… You are truly inspirering and I feel I have someone to look up to. I dont really feel like I’ve bloomed yet and i am almost 32. You give me hope that maybe ill just bloom later, so Thank you so much for that ❤

[@paigesmith7548]

You will never know my gratitude for you starting music again 💛 you are a rockstar regardless of the sold out stadiums !