Alcoholic interview-Kenny

[@Eysc]

11 days free of alcohol, my best was 6 months, need to make it, need to get that out of my life.

[@jenifermayben9144]

U can beat it ! Take it one day at a time, one hour , one second , one moment at a time. Best wishes to you !

[@JoyCharity1016]

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[@Midtown95060]

Do it. Going on 17 years. I wouldn’t trade my worst day now for my best day then. You got this, amazing things await you. but you have to do it. The smartest most successful,driven creative real people I’ve ever met are alcoholics in long term recovery. It sucks I get it. But little things will start to happen. And those things start to outweigh other things. I’d shoot my self in the dick before I take a sip at this point, I don’t even think about it anymore. I was at a Christmas party the other night everyone was popped didn’t bother me one bit, I was a 247 homeless drinker for years. You got this👊

[@linajams]

We do and we can recover 😌

[@zactranten3235]

One day at a time brother. You can do it. From a fellow addict, wishing you the best…. It’s all worth it.

[@mmamallama1827]

Learn to love yourself. You have a great memory of the hurt from your past. In your mind eye go back to the earliest days you can see yourself. Hug that little child and say all the things you needed to hear. Practice it. Eventually you’ll start loving yourself and buddy that all you need. You’ll start taking care of yourself. You’ll make better decisions. You do not need the love of the dad that let you down. Good luck.

[@Sarah-zi1ri]

His story sounds similar to my brothers. He has been homeless for 15+ years and copes with alcohol. The pain a human feels from being rejected by a parent is profound. My heart goes out to this man. You are loved by people you don’t even know ❤ I am sorry you had to be so strong.

[@ccashmier]

Some people think putting you down, will make you want to do better but it makes you worse. 😢

[@PeanutButter-19]

@@ccashmier I understand what his dad was talking about.

[@shaynevaughn3164]

Everyone is an individual. Speaking for everyone will make the statement wrong

[@lauraj1989]

@@ccashmier Depends, some people have had the worst childhoods, being abused or put down by parents or others, and used their experiences as fuel to make something of themselves.

[@irishguyjg_2ndchancerecovery]

Salute Capt 🫡

[@helenwoods1467]

The black sheep of the family, are always the most empathetic, caring child. I was the black sheep. And it ruined almost 30 years of my life. My narcissistic mother hated me. She died giving birth to me. They brought her back. I wish they didn't, sounds cold, but the stuff she did to me was way worse. I found the Lord, or rather ,he found me, at age 45, and I've been born again. I'm also 8 years clean of pills, 2 years clean from methadone, 10 yrs sober. But my family still hate me. Not my dad, he's my hero. First 6 years of my life, I had him to protect me, coz I'm autistic. He taught me how to be me, had love for me, respect, too. I miss him. I miss my kids, and my granddaughter. I'm alone this Xmas & bday, I turn 48, on the 27th December. Well, good luck and love sent from Queensland Australia, and I hope y'all have a merry Christmas 🇦🇺🎄 🎁 🎄 🎁 🎄 🎁 🎄

[@familylifescienceeducation5227]

So glad God gave you a hero. All it takes is one. And thank God for memories and a love that never dies.

[@rafehollisterband]

So sorry that you had to go thru that abuse, but also so happy for you that you got saved! God bless you always.

[@marienash1033]

What a story. Wishing you the best.

[@martinmummert5614]

Becoming a new creature in Christ is the wisest thing you've ever done, and will do!

[@nancykaufman1632]

You are NEVER alone. May you feel the warmth of the Lord. ❤

[@umpire3446]

Alcoholism is a terrible disease. My sister who is 50 years old has alcohol induced dementia. Very sad to watch her life go down the drain. Everybody has tried to help her for the last 25 years. She has been to rehab numerous times but always went back to drinking within a month. Now she is in the hospital with Dementia. Sad

[@firstlast8258]

I'll drink to that

[@muselibar513]

I had an elastography after 33 years years of chronic binge drinking last week. I scored 5.71 kPa. I quit 2 days ago. I'm done. I don't want to die of liver failure. And this is the path I was on. I choose life. I don't know how I'm going to stop. All I know is I have to...

[@natalieadeleye7782]

One day at a time. 🙏🏾

[@eastsideeddie659]

Mushrooms 🍄

[@HuskyJoe22]

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[@HuskyJoe22]

@ yup!

[@JonDeth]

Kratom is a miracle treatment for alcoholism. It also works great for opiate addicts. It is of course trading one thing for something else but when the urge to get hammered overcomes you, a stiff dose of Kratom will wipe it out 100%. It's risk for addiction is monumentally low and if it does occur, it's a maybe 1 to 3 day kick in majority of examples.

[@chrisrobinson8937]

While I have empathy for this man, in some ways I don't. I have known several alcoholics. My sister and niece. Former father in law. They have all told a similar story. The common thread that I have always heard was "This happened because somebody else did this or that". Your dad didn't steal that bike. He didn't rob people. The underlying issues persist and influence your thoughts, but you actions can make it all worse. Hopefully this man can find a way to be happy with himself and his life.

[@Unfluencer]

yep, this guy will never be a good person unless he accepts the challenge.

[@califcamper]

The worst human being that I've seen are the ones who aren't alcoholics but as f'd up as them..😢

[@Nicky986]

I have a family member who has never taken any responsibility for decisions he made. It was his dad's fault, the schools fault, the officers fault, the judges fault, every job that he was fired from it was their fault. He never did anything wrong. Kenny openly admits his wrongs and while he blames his lack of his father's acceptance he still acknowledged these were choices he made. Childhood pain is real but you can't let it destroy your life. I wish i could just give this man a big hug and tell him he is enough.

[@El-Liz40502]

I don’t think he’d believe you. :(

[@USBP464]

Anyone who thinks a father's role in a child's life is minimal needs to watch this video.

[@healthyfreesoul]

Give your family member a big hug, and tell him he is enough. Someone in your own family is in pain, repeating patterns. 🙏🏽♥️ PS am not shaming you, it's very common for people to feel more empathy from afar than up close and personal. Your relation is trying very hard, he's staying out of jail and rehab hopefully, he's on his journey. Not suggesting you become his guide or mentor. Just please give this man a hug, tell him you see some of his good qualities or aptitudes, maybe give a self help book or two, and just acknowledge that he's trying and that you're not against him.

[@vickiperry5690]

I was thinking the same thing. I don't know how many grew up in a healthy home, but I do know many more grew up in dysfunction. With that being said, at some point, if you won't accept responsibility for the choices you made, you'll never move forward. He's stunted.

[@Nicky986]

@@healthyfreesoul Thank you for your insight. We have tried for 29 years. Sadly his behavior affects his three children not to mention his wife. We've reached out so many times offering help and reminding him how much he is loved. Unfortunately his reaction is always he's not the problem everyone else is. All we can do is keep trying and continue to pray.😞

[@kennywaynebearhead]

The emotional pain that came with constantly asking the unanswerable questions about my childhood put me in the bottle. I wrestled with it for seven years - so many can chuckle at that length of time - but those years of alcoholism were the absolute worst of my life. The recovery from it was every bit as intense and I’m still haunted by what I became. Why did _____ happen? How could they do _____ to me? Once I stopped asking those questions and once I understood that there will be no answers, I was able to begin again. Your story is harsh. It’s an injustice that people hurt people, yes. And when we’re innocent and it’s ripped apart, those wounds are in our very core. Scars aren’t the issue. Those wounds that seep and ooze decades later… the wounds that the tourniquet can’t seem to staunch… those are the wounds we must deal with. Godspeed, Kenny.

[@andrews2140]

I’m so thankful I had my father as a role model for 37 years. The knowledge he instilled in me and support he provided made me the man I am today.

[@lauraj1989]

At some point adults have got to take responsibility for their own happiness instead of continuously blaming another person. Plenty of people out there who were raised without a parental figure and without hearing a parent say they're proud of them, but they don't use that as a crutch or excuse. I miss personal accountability and Kenny's dad's side to this story. It's easy to attack the dad in the comments without knowing his truth. Regardless, I have compassion for Kenny's suffering, and I hope that he can find the strength to do inner work and find love for himself. His inner child deserves his own compassion, acceptance and forgiveness for his reality of not getting what he wished he'd had from his dad ❤️

[@FluffyMoonRabbit]

I feel the same way

[@rchi3906]

Was about to write the same thing after 50 that bad childhood excuse doesn’t work anymore , Might not Be Your Fault by Your Responsibility to Fix It , or your accepting the Victim Role

[@ConcreteRiver]

I am grateful that I am not you. A cold hearted, judgmental cynic. shame on you, woman. where is your grace and compassion

[@lauraj1989]

@@rchi3906 a victim who ends up in real prison ánd a fictional prison of his own. We all have the keys within us to set ourselves free the moment we decide we're no longer willing to feel powerless. In a sense it's a choice to make to choose light and love for yourself over ego and darkness, which takes a lot of bravery.

[@SocketSilver]

Yup!

[@RussoChiropracticMetairie]

Gotta take responsibility at some point. We aren't what happened to us in the past, we are how we react to what happened to us.

[@lornemalvo3298]

That's not helping. People also need to feel heard.

[@drewmillz1]

Dudes hammered..

[@owengrant9066]

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[@rabidrabbitshuggers]

Yeah when you’re an alcoholic that tends to happen

[@rcheezy7501]

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[@autopsychograph]

Dear Kenny, you have formed your identity and every action on your father's love. You had the loving support of your mother but chose to hold on to your lack of validation form your father. It has become your crutch and excuse. You won't be fulfilled by anyone's love until you learn to love your childself like you wish your father had. You will live imprisoned by this and keep creating pain around you. It's the hardest thing to let go of your identity. "Hold on to what you love" if you really believe that, LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FOR YOU ❤

[@PeanutButter-19]

What's there to love? He's a felon drunkard mental case that never grew up and fails to take responsibility for his own actions.🤷‍♂️

[@Midtown95060]

His worst enemy is himself

[@DonMyersOfficial]

Hello mark I would love to come on your channel and share my experience with a disease so rare you have a better chance of being struck by lightning 3 times than having this disease, Autoimmune Encephalitis of the NMDA receptor. At age 19, 7 months ago I had a sudden onset of symptoms including Grand Mal seizures, Extreme psychosis, Catatonia, and slipped into a coma causing me to be intubated in the ICU. This disease almost took my life, and has been and will remain to be the most definitive and strange experience of my life. In just a few days my life was flipped upside down, and just a month later I was treated and sent on my way. I have a lot of interesting stories from this experience, and have great insight and knowledge that many don’t achieve until later in life, if they ever even do. I believe my story holds a lot of value for your Chanel because of its rarity, the extremes I experienced, topics related to mental and physical health care, and my human experience of overcoming such immense trauma. I’m passionate about sharing my story and won’t give up on trying as I believe I can inspire others they they can get through any hardship no matter how difficult :)

[@Jaycups]

On my way to aa in about 30 mins

[@gulmeenay]

Good luck ❤

[@petejablowski2123]

Alcohol is hard drugs and people are in denial about that . If you drink don’t ever say you don’t do drugs .

[@brandicierpial2102]

Alcoholics are so overly emotional, that's why I feel its a far worse addiction than hard Drugs, which makes people numb zombies, but Alcohol makes people wallow in their own self pity , over & over, focusing on what's wrong instead of what's right. It's like being in prison.. mentally. It's negative and that's what they manifest. So sad! He's 55 & hasn't realized the one love he truly needs, is his own self love. You can't make people love you.

[@Ripper41]

I never had praise from my Dad or ever spent time with him but I think it made me a tough person and benefited me as an adult. Just shows how different people deal with things that happen in their life. I hope this man can somehow get past it.

[@DING1o1]

Does your dad love you? That’s the key. Is there some indication that he cares about you? Maybe that’s why you didn’t turn out like this guy. Did your dad put you down?

[@stephencardenas4098]

Good morning everyone

[@chicagorilla4983]

2-3 hours of sleep a night has been beyond exhausted but it's a beautiful Wednesday 😊

[@shadowmime-zeroatrop]

Morning

[@shadowmime-zeroatrop]

​​@@chicagorilla4983same here man think my body is fighting off being used to smoking pot and drinking and going to sleep so its a adjusted form of withdrawal

[@shizerydelery]

Morning buddy

[@heatherh.197]

Sup

[@JennHawk]

At some point everyone realizes the love isn't going to come, we eventually deal with the pain, and move on. This one is stuck blaming his Dad and alcohol is the reason.

[@TrainsAndSirens]

I wanna find his dad and have a good long talk with him! Kenny is ruminating on what his father did instead of finding his own identity because of his father’s nastiness. Let it go Kenny,please?! Get some help. You deserve it. He was wrong

[@familylifescienceeducation5227]

Kenny, please accept this advice. You do have to let go. The fellowship says: let go or get dragged.

[@TrainsAndSirens]

@familylifescienceeducation I love that ❤

[@MarijaGrubisin-z8m]

I don't know if you will read this. But the most powerful section of these interviews are at the end when you ask 'what's the most important lesson you have learnt in your life' or other questions that capture regrets etc. I've just ordered the soft white underbelly book, and I'm going to go through each of these amazing ppl and write down in the pages what they feel is their greatest lessons, regrets

[@MarijaGrubisin-z8m]

I believe what you do is brilliant. Thank you, you give a voice to ppl that others walk by and think are the dregs of society. They are not. They are amazing. Like that song the sound of silence. Prophetic words are written on the subway walls. God bless you and everyone that you talk to x

[@davidharvey8812]

It hurts. I never got that from my father either. We just have to get get on with it bro 🙏🏼

[@googlyeyes9428]

I am a 30y woman. I was never accepted by my dad because he had his own problems. He was an alcoholic and so were his parents. My mother is a saint and worked so hard to give me everything and never said something against him (not that she said anything good, but I was able to see what kind of person he was). I was so happy when they divorced after I finished high school. I did everything to please him and took hobbies and interests that he had affinity for. He said it would be easier if I were a boy even though I always tried not to be a typical girl, a girly girl. To this day, I believe he only knows my name and my DOB and the college I went to. He was never interested in me or my mother, he was never home. Very verbally abusive, very difficult. But I was one of the lucky ones that knew what I don't want of out the relationships and I have deep and strong bonds with my friends and my boyfriend. I adore my mom. I wish I had a dad, I wish I had that part of my childhood and part of me, I always wonder what kind of person would I be. I wished for my poor mother to have a partner but she always thought that was inappropriate. I kindy always kept to myself and surrounded myself with animals (I'm a vet now) and that was enough company for me. I felt awkward with him so I didn't want his attention. I don't long for him, I can't imagine myself wanting to know him. He was a 40y man when he got me, he should've known better. I cut ties with him over 10years ago. I sometime ask myself whether this was the right thing to do. But then again, we are strangers. I tried to love him but he didn't love me. My mother also had a shitty family but that did not stop her for being a great mom. Stern but loving and fair. I never imagined how badly this can affect other people, like Kenny. I am so sorry. I have never seen my father affectionate but I guess it was hard for Kenny cause he saw his treating his brothers very differently. I wanna say you can turn your life around because we all know it's never too late.

[@vmkast123]

Raw and captivating interview. Thank you for being honest❤. Do not suffer in silence. Many others struggling with same emotions.

[@sc00b3rt]

This guy reminds me of my neighbor from childhood. His alcoholism and mistreatment of others is always someone elses fault. The only time he is clean is when he is in controlled environment aka prison or halfway homes. He can't manage life without very controlled parameters.

[@zareh805]

I'm grateful I started watching this channel long before I became a parent.

[@marienash1033]

I hate to say this but at 55 if your Dad has not given you his approval he most likely wont. Look for the positives in life. Keep positive people around you. Alcohol is a depressent and does not help your mood. I hope that you are able to fight your demons. I do not hang around people that bring me down and are toxic. I am better than that and so are you. It doesnt matter what people think of you or if they accept you. You need to love yourself.

[@liber7773]

I could not imagine being his age and still lamenting about emotionally devoid parents, to the degree that I’m an alcoholic over Dad not caring that I skinned my knee. He’s lived more years on his own than with his parents at this age in life. He’s the reason for his character flaws and lack of progression in maturity. Shit happens. That’s life. Everyone’s always living in yesteryear, in decades long gone. The only place to go back to terrible bad moments and memories after the fact, is in the mind. Control the mindset, work through your childhood trauma, move on from it. If not, you’ll end up like this guy, with an alcohol addiction and waxing poetic on YT about his first emotional hurt, getting a skinned knee and Dad not caring.

[@student22044]

Watching this interview with Kenny made me reflect on my own situation. My mother and I don't speak because my stepfather was sexually inappropriate when I was a kid; my father was estranged until his death a few years ago; I don't feel loved or accepted by either of them. However, where I differ from Kenny is that my life is fine and dandy now, eight years in recovery, with forgiveness (I'm not religious) in my heart. If you just had that one person who loved you, you say it was your mother, Kenny, focus on that love. My grandparents' unconditional love has enabled me to show that love to my son; I've stopped dwelling on the past and moved on. Forgiveness is the key to happiness; you deserve it. Good luck

[@chrissimmons9969]

Good morning SWU!

[@adamsadventurehour]

as a high (and) functioning alcoholic (sometimes) this one hits.

[@Mr.Buttermaker]

No such thing. That’s just what you are telling yourself

[@adamsadventurehour]

@@Mr.Buttermaker thanks for the information, richard!

[@aindreahughes3771]

This interview hits hard. Lost my dad to alcoholism a few months ago. A lot of the times heavy drinkers seem like they are enjoying themselves and they are the life of the party. But trust they are not happy. I hope he can turn things around and quit before it’s too late.

[@TheGreatAmericanAssembly]

I'd love to hear a follow up with the father. What goes through a parents head to tell their child they're no good. Is it envy?

[@tinam761]

It would be interesting to get an honest look at why parents do this … do they recognize it’s an innocent child?

[@docdoc4129]

If the father is still even alive, doubtful. Will the father be in his right mind to accept that responsibility or even should he accept it. Guilt and shame is no place to be for either of them. The gentleman needs the go within and do mirror work. It still always leads back to that reflection (us) not the external. The father is external. It was him and his decisions, no one forced him to do any of it, not even allow an older man to touch him. He has the external possessions down, they didn't validate him but the child he is now can only be protected and validated by the man he is now and will hopefully improve upon. It (family counseling) may need to be in a controlled environment, it seems because both may become violent, if it happens. It's very possible the father went and still going through abandonment and no real family dynamics and substance abuse himself, yet neither of them can blame the external. It still appears to me, in my journey, all love is conditional, all of it, if it exists at all. I think it's often mistaken by the external, possessions et al. A deep caring with genuine guidance should be used more, not love. Love appears to be a Disney fantasy. Merely semantics. #allloveisconditional

[@notrealy180217]

I think the key is to quit while you are still technically young. A lot of people don't really have a reason to quit if they are 40-50 plus and homeless.

[@Lilreaper22]

After watching this story and this gentleman telling his life story, I've honestly felt the same way my whole entire life not knowing who my father was. I always asked myself that number. One question of why was my dad never around? Why was I never good enough to have my father in my life? Everybody sits on up here and says you need to get over that and it was never your fault. But I will always and forever feel like it was my fault that my dad never stayed in my life

[@GreyWave33]

Im sorry man😢❤ i feel you. I love this channel, but God damn it makes me cry.

[@user-hn1sw4cf7x]

This is very raw. At least he had his mother on his side.

[@mylifecap]

Thank you both ❤💪

[@hkhuhn1]

Very true statement: "nobody knows anybody, we only know ourselves."

[@chiangmai127]

This is the second video I've seen in as many days where I heard someone say jail is my home and both of the men were in pain from childhood. We need to take it seriously as a human race to be better to our kids, our neighbors kids and really care for one another. I am specifically referring to Kenny's comment about being molested as a child. That is the key takeaway for me of why he is so broken. I am praying for Kenny and everyone. Thank you for this channel for this awareness and exposure.

[@ritamccomas9271]

😊good morning y'all!

[@SenorGooch]

“I’m 55, but I’m still a child.” This shit hurts to hear. Not being able to grow past childhood trauma. These thoughts poison and plague his thought processes 24/7. I pray for this dude to one day get better and not even in a religious way; just straight up hoping.

[@Mudhen2020]

Every alcoholic sings a sad song.

[@carolineconnor2156]

Alcoholism is a painful disease. I could never , nor would I ever judge another person’s life.

[@rabidrabbitshuggers]

Even the rich ones.

[@debrawhite250]

Some things just don't have answers. Why your dad is like that, you may never know, it's a reflection of him, not you. Don't put yourself in a mental/emotional jail because of one person. You are creating your pain. Let it go. Be free at last and enjoy what life you have left.

[@tredd9019]

We needed subtitles for this one. I got about half of this before I gave up.

[@southphillylilly]

The rest of us are OK so either you don't have the attention span or you didn't really want to listen

[@PeanutButter-19]

You didn't miss anything, just a whiney drunkard feeling sorry for himself.

[@Alex10daysago]

He just complains endlessly about his dad and how he’s a tough guy.

[@PeanutButter-19]

@@tredd9019 You didn't miss much, just a whiney drunkard murderous felony who never grew up, feeling sorry for himself.

[@PeanutButter-19]

@@tredd9019 You didn't miss much, just a whiney drunkard murderous felony who never grew up, feeling sorry for himself

[@MosaiccOfficial]

just kissed my son on the forehead and told him I love him just the way he is… and he smiled differently than he does when I simply say “I love you”

[@ccashmier]

I'm sorry sir, but you're going to have to love yourself first.

[@tonijohnson5696]

That sounds similar to my story. Im very lucky I've never been to prison. I was born alone. I understand.

[@aidanoconnor4172]

Help for this dude... it's right near the front of the phonebook

[@ralphromeo7066]

Kenny is a slave to the most destructive drug of all...alcohol. we're drowning in that swill.

[@Bluesmusicno1]

I was the exact same until I went to rehab twice then fellowship and counselling that's the key 🔑 👌 it was for me but you gotta want it

[@NN-ht1lp]

Thanks Mark.

[@janeeland4531]

This right here breaks my heart as my son is 36 and i wonder as a single parent if not being told positive things by his dad has led him to alcoholism… but in the same token, i fail to understand why when he knows he will never get approval but slowly kill himself drinking🇬🇧But now i understand the need to belong but what about the unconditional love i have shown him, i feel its just discarded🤷‍♀️

[@Dillonmac96]

He’s blaming his own behavior on shit that might be true but it’s not how it works… he doesn’t try to get better and stop drinking and he just blames it on his dad… plenty of people who get it way worse than him become the best people ever. It sucks because it’s a spiral and he’s been this way for so many years he doesn’t even consider trying to change.. he has made this entire story to be a victim and he’s not.. just because it’s harder for ur son to quick drinking than it is for you doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.. people get enabled and they need tk be told they are in complete control. This guys talking about how bad he’s been treated then turned around and treated everybody else even worse… that’s not how it works it’s not justifiedz his dad could come to him and cry for a week straight and say how much he loves him and it wouldn’t change a damn thing about this man

[@karlwahlfield6462]

i dont think you are the one that is the problem. sound like the old man is mad at himself about something and uses you to get off. he was probably treated poorly and felt you needed to feel what he felt or something.

[@Jeffrey-u3g]

A lot of us guys that gone through difficulties with self-understanding in life, often stems from lack of father's approval, or even lack of a father entirely. I know I searched for a male approval learning how to be a man, and what it meant to be a man in my mind: honor, loyalty, courage, respect, brotherhood.... I could EASILY have gone down the wrong path getting these things from the street life. LUCKILY, I found it through better ways...but if the right guys from the wrong neighborhood came along, I could have VERY EASILY been led down the wrong path....

[@beverlyrea5713]

Good morning coffee crew. Early mornings with Mark.....🌄🤪

[@Ziggimomspal68]

Some people shouldn’t be allowed to reproduce…my heart goes out to this man. The profound impact that parenting or lack thereof can’t be measured…he’s a survivor, I pray he has made some peace with his horrific childhood.

[@bobbymccooey454]

I can relate. I finally realized I had a narcissistic father! You will never win. Let gooooo

[@anthonyluongo1994]

Goodnight everyone

[@OurLadyOfThe603]

They don't call it "spirits" for nothing.

[@marisoldiaz2832]

Buenos Días Mark Let's Learn

[@albert333pool]

24:43 - What he said at the end, that's deep... Material things don't matter...

[@Alex10daysago]

Not even a Honda Civic?

[@GracieNadine]

When you’re a child, you don’t “let” someone touch you. They steal it from you. That’s why it’s known as stealing innocence. Sir, you are worthy of good things. Therapy might help you learn the tools to reclaim you, and succeed for you. Not for anyone else. Sending you good thoughts.

[@bakednotfried1184]

Nothing good happened while drunk

[@GRIZZLYGirl_JB]

Kenny I just want to say I LOVE YOU! Someone out here with the same problem as you just loves you right back. My name is Julie. I was told at 6 yrs old as I was popped in the head I was a dummy. Daddy’s favorite words were You’re a bum, you’re stupid and you’ll never amount to anything! Although I ended up bi polar and diagnosed at 33 my dad studied it like a college course and when I heard that he said Now she makes sense that “kinda” helped but I’m 57 now and Daddy died 8 years ago at 83 but I still never was hugged or told I love you Julie. Daddy was beaten as a child I learned from my Granny, his mother. He was my Grandfathers favorite to pick on. I guess later in life it made sense but to this day I raised two girls I never name called or belittled. I never got the love from my father. I sought it ALL my life. The void is still there. God fills it! And that’s the absolute truth! So I will remember you AND SHED A TEAR FOR YOU because I walk in your shoes and I KNOW YOUR PAIN. And now I’m crying. I love you dude! All the way to your core and I don’t even know you

[@JahBreed]

I've tried them all. Me and my friends started the Meth epidemic. Alcohol? Is absolutely the most terrifying.

[@billyjohnson9166]

Wow that was heavy. Kenny I wish you the best. Go find your girl that you told to leave. She’s out there waiting for you.

[@ccashmier]

Good morning world.

[@Darkbluedevil]

How about some personal responsibility and accountability for the decisions he made in life! Cant blame your father for everything. His dad taught him exactly how not to act!

[@MisguidedKreations]

This is how every adult that has "issues" blames their childhood. Or if they had a great childhood, then it's mental illness. SMH, when I was growing up and others my age, we heard "take responsibility for your own actions" these days all ppl hear is, what was your childhood like, or they're going to therapy and they have some kind of "mental illness"! There is no real " take responsibility " these days. 😢😢😢😢

[@Darkbluedevil]

@MisguidedKreations I'm with ya, Irish Catholic here. We all had drunks in the family,but you learn from it!

[@sikothelies2306]

I am married to an alcoholic and it’s a lonely road. He’s a good man. I can’t seem to find his pain, but I know it’s in there. 💔

[@JoyCharity1016]

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[@ashleyfaulkner3538]

Growing up in the same generation as you. We knew more about tough love, then self-love. And what I learned from that always trying for acceptance. Is that no matter what even when you do? Great things, it's never good enough and it probably never will but it starts with you. You need to love and accept yourself first before anyone else will. Your self worth Starts with you. It's not defined by what others

[@mikedoyle5901]

At some point it's time to take personal responsibility. The time was 40 years ago.

[@jak6744]

There is no time limit 😢 on being hurt by one’s trauma! 40 years may seem like yesterday when your mind is in Constant pain about certain events!

[@KellyPalmer-pm5sy]

There's something more to the story with the dad. Something happened that changed how he looked at his youngest son forever

[@smay1281]

So sorry that you never felt that from your dad. And It’s hard to fight through sexual assault or sexual abuse. You are not alone. Been there and still fight through it. ❤🙏

[@Whatnow458]

Good morning

[@brookiejai]

It’s like I’m listening to my father who would never admit this 😔

[@michaelmccarthy3191]

Kenny - if you are reading this…give yourself a Christmas gift. Be silent, commit to not drinking for a day - one day - go to several AA meetings and JUST LISTEN. You are not alone. You can remain alcohol free for a day - then wake up and see if you want to do it again. Sure, I have 33+ years sober…but all that is - is just a lot of ONE DAY AT A TIMES. The only approval and love I fight for is that bestowed upon me by myself. I am you. If my life gets no better than it is today - I am fine with that - I am free. I’m praying for you, I have hope for you - for one second, get selfish and believe in yourself.

[@benchippy8039]

Like most alcoholics he’s sad and regretful. Been close to alcoholism and it was all bitterness and sadness presented with a smile and always trying to be life of the party

[@Avilamatt86]

I always tried to be better than everyone so I can be accepted by anyone.. 🤝

[@JonDeth]

*I'm predictable in that I will always reference Kratom when addiction is an issue for someone.* Kratom can work miracles for alcoholics. *As far as blame, responsibility, accountability et cetera it's all just a load of bullshit idiots use to feel powerful and in control, two things nobody ever truly is in this world.* The only real point to be made is consequences. You will bear the consequences even if something isn't your fault and you couldn't prevent it, you have no choice but to live with them. In the end, *it means you need a strategy to cope and recover.* I can blame a lot of people for my problems and I in fact do, but I have to bear the burden of consequences and do something about it.

[@alexieorr7954]

Almost 8 years without a drink. Best thing I ever did for myself. ALSO..These interviews are proof that as long as we fail to protect the children of the world, we will be surrounded by broken adults. I work with substance using youth, and all they want is their parents. It's fucking sad

[@endtimeawakening5557]

Bless this man's Soul! He still hasn't met the Father Who gave him eternal life, only the one responsible for his temporal, physical form. Our earthly dads are meant to be living examples of the heavenly Father, but most haven't even met Him themselves. LOVE and FORGIVENESS are the immeasurable components that bring LIGHT into every dark space. He's the LIGHT that LIGHTS the LIFE of men!!! ❤

[@aphotic_grae]

Kenny, you are good enough. Fuck your dad's approval. You need to love yourself, accept yourself, and know you are worthy -- as you say, love is an action, do it for yourself. Stop defining yourself as looking for approval from others. You are so self-aware of where your pain comes from. Take the next steps to break the cycle.

[@jeremywarner2540]

Good morning everybody

[@xxxxxx-tq4mw]

I guess it’s easier for Kenny to blame his father for his failed life, rather than himself.

[@VeraVeronica39]

I completely understand wanting your parents approval. I’ve had a difficult relationship, especially with my mom since I was a child. I felt like nothing was ever good enough for her. However, you have to force yourself to let that need for approval go. Not all parents are going to be the Cleavers. I struggle with alcohol also, so I get that part, but the first thing you have to do is let go… let go of your dad. He’s just one (imperfect) man. Maybe you are expecting too much of *him* 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@csealand]

Big baby. Grow up

[@anasatzie]

changing your "correct" behavior because your parents don't accept you, thinking you do something wrong. that's the story of my father too. he took his life 20 years ago. hope, you doing well, kenny. accept yourself.

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[@carolseven3802]

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[@crm1327]

Do you think a parent withholding approval is a way to exert significant control over their child? If the parent knows that by never giving their approval, the child will continuously strive harder to earn it and keep trying to please them?

[@wra7h]

This guy will unfortunately never find peace

[@justmadeit2]

I don’t have the stamina to be a big drinker, being as depressed as I am in life, escape seems appealing for a time yet booze doesn’t agree with me.i have small amounts like a couple beers etc.

[@Chrispolopotus]

Stories not lining up at all if you listen closely. Was in jail his entire adult life minus a month here or there besides last year but robbed his own bar. Ya the bar he owned for a month. lol. Also his nephew bought him a Land Rover and a Mercedes when he got out last year. But then he says he had money saved and bought himself a car and had a girlfriend. Idk. If you listen half close there’s a lot of slightly off details and exaggerations. Wish you the best brother you’ve been thru a lot and it sux

[@micahlawton]

Morning

[@PeanutButter-19]

I understand what his dad was on about.

[@michellebouchard4427]

Doesn't matter how old you are you want your parents to say I'm proud of you and I love you. Very sad!